PLS READ IF YOU ARE BROKEN HEARTED: I was in a 2 year relationship with this guy and when we broke up, it hit soo hard. I kept on fantasizing about our relationship for about two years. He recently came to where I live and we spent about 8 hours together. He is a completely different person now. I find him kind of annoying tbh. To each their own, but I just wished I hadn't wasted so much time imaging what could've been because push comes to shove he can't even live up to the idea of him I created in my head 💖💖💖 Thanks for your videos shallon

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

Shoot girl I needed to hear this too!

@thanahune9241

3 жыл бұрын

omg

@narakaren2571

3 жыл бұрын

I needed this!!!

@marinareis8375

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. This story shows a lot of growth in you though : )

@laurac86

3 жыл бұрын

@LanguageGirl- This!!! I had a similar situation but with a few differences. After a 6 year relationship that when it ended I was utterly destroyed I spent 3 years doing the same thing and I only kept thinking of all the good times and how great things would be if we got back together. We did start seeing each other again, after a few months I started to see what kind of person he had become, or had always been. He used to drink toomuch, would be abusive, allowed friends to treat me like shit , just toxic. The three years I spent fantasizing about him I had forgot how terrible he really was. Now 10 months later all I can think is I dodged a bullet, I am happy we did get back together for those few months because that was the closure I needed and now 9 years later I’m FINALLY over him!!

After break ups I always find myself saying, "Rachel no one is coming to save you." It's such a powerful reminder that no one can fill this void I feel inside that has always been there. It's my responsibility to address my psychological splinters & heal myself. No one can do that for me.

@i.am.you.beauty8428

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks I need to hear this

@lauraflowers8201

3 жыл бұрын

Praise. And if I have to add one thing, until you heal your deepest wounds, every relationship will eventually ALWAYS broke down, because everything that is not healed will be reflected even when we don't even notice it. This is a fact. So do the work for yourself first, then you can stay with whoever you want!

@MoMo-nk9jk

3 жыл бұрын

I felt THAT.

@raxchhhh

3 жыл бұрын

Laura Flowers you’re absolutely right. That’s honestly one of the most powerful lessons I’ve learned in my life thus far. And that realization happened recently for me after my last break up. I use guys to distract myself from looking at & dealing with my own shit. But as long as I do that, my relationships will always fail. Bc underneath everything is my own unhappiness which naturally will come thru in an intimate partnership. They really are beautiful reflections that show you where you’re hurt inside. So painful to do the actual work on urself. Much easier to be the cat batting around tinfoil as Shallon says 😅😅 but I now know I must heal myself before I will ever have a successful long term partnership. 💕 thank u for ur comment. Sending u love

@lauraflowers8201

3 жыл бұрын

@@raxchhhh your welcome darling! Everything you wrote is so, so true. We can not run from ourselves ❤️

everytime a guy ghosts me or gives me a icky feeling I stop and in my head I go: oh did I forget myself? thank you. and immediately do a new activity like horse back riding.

@bambimayhay

3 жыл бұрын

Good for you gurl 👏

@sophiec5578

3 жыл бұрын

yessss i love this

@salamander8301

3 жыл бұрын

This is brilliant, you should have your own youtube. Thank you x

I don’t know... I get weird vibes from cole too. I mean I LOVE him bc he’s my childhood, but he just seems like that really obnoxious theater kid that thinks they know everything about politics

@thatrandomcomment968

3 жыл бұрын

He's is weird... He is a weirdo, he don't fit in.

@sallysmith8408

3 жыл бұрын

Jhonzzz 12 ahahah I remember that

@diahgayatri3463

3 жыл бұрын

Theatre kids don’t know anything about politics

I've completely lost myself in previous friendships/relationships. I think it was because I didn't have strong set of boundaries. I just accepted everything, even if it felt wrong. And then when a relationship ended, I felt so lost because I threw away all of my values out the windows.

@MIMIX015

3 жыл бұрын

totally relatable! ✨

Two marriages down. I left both. Life DOES go on. 💗

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

Mary, you don't take any crap. What do you like to do most in the sack?

@kathyalex778

3 жыл бұрын

Congrats, moving on is so difficult. You must be very strong! ❤️

You should do a gossip girl series! Like a breakdown of the different characters (e.g. Serena, Jenny, Blair) What we can learn from them, why we like/dislike them as viewers, their good/bad traits, what they should have done differently, etc. Of course it’s just an idea, but I think a lot of people would like it, it’s something new and different and you know more about the show than most people. Also for me I love your videos/advice but I am so sick of celebrities by this point, so I would love this and I feel you would enjoy making it 💕

@kgonzalez8098

3 жыл бұрын

Probably the last show we can go deep on. New shows are so fucking shallow with very little character development. As a general rule.

@pandora9814

3 жыл бұрын

would LOVE this

@elana7249

3 жыл бұрын

or Sex and the City!! i’d love to hear her analysis of those characters too :)

@amyflores606

3 жыл бұрын

Yessssssss

@rodriguezsanchezsharon7093

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, please.

My worst breakup even after a year I was crying my eyes out every night and asking, not for him to be back but for the pain to stop "please I don't want this to hurt anymore" Worst feeling ever

@KrisyKreme

3 жыл бұрын

Paulatingo literally 😔 agonizing pain

@baconeggg7224

3 жыл бұрын

@@KrisyKreme Same... I remember saying that if the Lord wouldn't let me wake up the next morning, I would be absolutely happy with that

@KrisyKreme

3 жыл бұрын

Bacon Eggg right!! Thank God we made it through that tho ❤️ now we’re stronger than ever ✊🏽 God bless love

@aishwaryapatlolla5615

2 жыл бұрын

Hope you are doing fine now ❤️

A lot of people give Shallon a hard time but she does give insightful information and tips.

@user-pi5zx7nv7g

3 жыл бұрын

Right? She’s witty and hilarious too. Yes, she doesn’t shy away from speaking her mouth and has strong views on certain topics. I like that type of honesty. People are becoming more and more sensitive these days; but you can’t please everyone.

@LovedByYou

3 жыл бұрын

She just stops giving therapy when shes not licensed.

@LovedByYou

3 жыл бұрын

@@user-pi5zx7nv7g slot of people have called her out for preying on men significantly younger than her. Now other people's relationships arent my business, however if that's true, it needs to be called out. She shouldnt be able to do that just because shes a woman. I love all her videos, shes so witty, and sassy. I love just sitting listening to her, botany of her listeners are young and she needs to be careful with the advice she gives.

@tinadoyle237

3 жыл бұрын

I would have loved someone telling me to take care of myself before f boys and users. I think that she does help younger girls a lot. My only concern about Shallon is how she always makes statements implying how people who question her or challenge her online do so because they are weaker than her. This creates a situation where she is telling younger girls that anyone who has differing opinions is beneath them. But the truth is her advice isn’t always going to be spot on- no one is. I know she is referring to trolls but I worry that younger fans will tune out all differing points of views.

@soggybottommage6665

3 жыл бұрын

I think the problem is, she does say problematic things quite often and she usually states her opinion on those matters as fact. For the majority of people, it’s easy enough to sift through the videos and glean the good advice from the problematic things. However, it does get sticky when her whole thing is to help people who may be down or lost and are extra susceptible to every little thing. So when she says the harmful things, the women who take her word as gospel are more likely to accept that behavior. Usually I am in the camp of saying the consumer is responsible for themselves and must discern what is right and wrong from what is presented, but it does get nuanced when the audience is specifically vulnerable people.

The breakups from toxic people hurt the most because it takes awhile for the “toxicity” to leave your system. To me it’s like being slowly poisoned with something disguised as medication that comes in your favorite flavor. It didn’t kill you, but it wreaks havoc on your system for a long while.

You being back at your mums house is a quarantine throwback!!!! ❤️❤️❤️

@borninmassteaparty3132

3 жыл бұрын

@ericjxhnsxn Totally, I had to look at the date on video...........sans Kaftans LOL

@christinewarren8134

3 жыл бұрын

@@borninmassteaparty3132 me too 😆

@chant5205

3 жыл бұрын

She said she needed a break. She probably made that video for whenever she needed a day off

@christinewarren8134

3 жыл бұрын

@@chant5205 but was the couple she was talking about didnt they recently break up??

@lillianjones6628

3 жыл бұрын

i know! felt? oddly comfortable?

Omg.. 'You're not going to get married, you're already married to your mother,' I FELT THAT! I told someone yesterday 'Mamma is my soulmate'... I was joking but damn I felt that!

@alinan4320

3 жыл бұрын

SAME! It was like AHa moment when i heard it

@TheMereDEATH

3 жыл бұрын

I’ve noticed how much co dependency I have with my mom and I really need to sort it out

I feel like Cole instilled his vision of the media onto her instead of thinking this is all great she thinks it’s annoying like he does but he has been in the media since he’s been a child

Breakup withdrawals aren't just about dopamine, there's a lot more to it. The brain is fascinating. In the same way that the brain creates these painful feelings, it can also help you recover. Never underestimate the power & ability of the human brain. You can use your brain to recover from a breakup or negative feelings in general by regularly doing a few things 1) don't search their social media or look at pictures of them 2) start exercising or change up an existing routine. Not only will this release chemicals that make you feel good, but it'll give you a body image boost💃 3) distract yourself with an activity that interests you, especially when you're thinking about your ex. Keep a funny movie or stand-up comedy on hand, practice your makeup skills/ nail the winged eyeliner you've been struggling with, clean out your drawers, organize your pantry, pressure wash your driveway, do whatever it takes. 4) choose a few positive mantras to repeat throughout the day or any time you start to feel bad. It sounds cheesy & you may feel stupid, but I promise it works. Praise yourself, point out things you like about yourself or make a list of those things. 5) if all else fails and you keep thinking about your ex, think about the things you WON'T miss. We usually view things through Rose Colored Glasses in the beginning of a relationship, romanticizing possibilities, but we tend to use those same glasses when our heart gets broken. We're romanticizing what could have been just like we romanticize what could be, focus on what is now. If you've never heard of negativity bias you should look into it, our brains focus on negative events more than positive events, negative events are always more memorable. I think it's a survival thing. It takes conscious effort on a regular basis to make positivity your go-to, but it's possible. Focus on the moment and love yourself, put yourself first because no one else will. You're not selfish for ensuring your peace of mind mentally, physically, emotionally or spiritually. It's okay to say no, it's okay to refuse and it's okay to think you're amazing. YOU ARE AMAZING!!! Sending love and positive vibes to each one of you❤

@Kikirrikiki

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I need this

@user-mi6fj4sl8o

3 жыл бұрын

Hm, I heard a different theory about the negative focus. That our brain focuses on the positive things in the long run. After a break up or quitting a job for obvious reasons you look back and think awww, why did I do that, and start remembering the good times because your brain filters all the negativity away as a survival mechanism, that is why you can go back to a guy. But that is what I read, do you think it’s true ?

@melindam.5106

3 жыл бұрын

Daum! I needed this 🙂

@tmcullison

3 жыл бұрын

Crying right now. Thank you. ❤

@Jessicabee9100

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this. I think I often think about the good times only but if I’m honest with myself out of the 3 years together he pretty much treated me like shit 70% of the time. Maybe more. And so when I do start to miss him or give him another chance I think to myself “but how is my life going to continue being this stressful and toxic and mentally draining when it could be much much better without him in it?”

Breakups are very hard, but it is an opportunity to find yourself. After a break up never rush to date someone new. Use the time to reflect and work on finding the best you.

@sharonchepkorir3571

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@ArualCrisp

3 жыл бұрын

Depends. People always look down upon others who date soon after their last relationship but not until you know details, you should't judge peoples choices. I fell in love with my current partner when still being with my ex and that was because my ex did not show enough love and appreciation in the same way that I did. I felt like I was being held back by my emotions in life. It hurt me daily so I broke up with him after a year together. Got together officially with my current partner 2/3 months later and we have been together for over 4 years now. I have grown so much individually in this relationship mainly because at some point during this relationship, I stopped depending on my boyfriend to bring me constant happiness, attention and love. I realized that yeah, the problem was in me too depending too much on him. But what I'm trying to say is that you can very much grow and find yourself being in the relationship as well. People tend to 'lose' themselves in a relationship because they depend too much on their partners. You need to maintain the independent factor in you as much as possible for a healthy and a happy relationship imo.

@vliciouss

3 жыл бұрын

.

I went to college with him and he has always been very problematic. His brother is super nice though

@zellar8054

3 жыл бұрын

How? I want some tea please 😏🙃

@feline_star

3 жыл бұрын

Spill the tea 😲

@femarieclinkscales8556

3 жыл бұрын

I KNEW THERE WAS A REASON TO LIKE DYLAN BETTER( but come on you can't just drop tea like that and not spill it😩)

@didostempest2966

3 жыл бұрын

I’ll buy you a coffee if you tell us. 🥺

@user-jr7ne1dm6b

3 жыл бұрын

I think I remember one of his exes before said he was emotionally abusive?

I KNEW something was wrong w/ this couple and honestly the whole cast of Riverdale!!! They all seem so entitled and it's like excuse me....your show is literally horrible and should honestly get cancelled, stay in your lane

@feline_star

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@brihunnaad

3 жыл бұрын

😂

@nazarisreyes6037

3 жыл бұрын

They are C list celebs at most, when that show ends they better take good career decisions or else they'll be struggling

@melanie.vallejo

3 жыл бұрын

i like the show but it isn’t the best, i cant believe they all act that way. That’s rude of them lol

@minuishaq631

3 жыл бұрын

Nothing but facts

I like Lili Reinhart for the most part, but her constant talking about "nO oNe Is EnTiTlEd To My PrIvAtE LiFe" is really ANNOYING. It's like yes babygirl that's true, but that doesn't mean that you constantly have to WHINE about your fans being interested in your life. Just don't talk about it if you don't want to talk about it-- no need to constantly complain and act like an ungrateful brat... Don't do interviews if you don't want to do interviews, but then don't whine later when your agent can't get you projects.

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Reporters don’t automatically ask celebs about depression- she brings it up then become enraged when they rightly assume it’s fair game to ask about. ??? Pick a lane, Lil.

@yooolanda4992

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah it’s like Megan fox pulling the leave me alone card. Nobody forced anyone to put their business out there. I think Lili is just tired of people speculating on her relationship.

@yespls4184

3 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester Exactly. Seems like she's the one who brings up certain topics that she later always tries to backtrack from. Honestly I did like that she was so honest about her depression and heartbreak because SO many of us can relate to what she said-- so she really doesn't need to try so hard to seem like she's not vulnerable after a breakup. And when someone wants to be in show business and "makes it", they don't get to completely control the type of press they get or escape the bad parts of being famous. It's the name of the game, and especially when you're first starting out.

@abbyb2752

3 жыл бұрын

This ☝️people being interested in her life is what pays her bills. I’m sick of rich people complaining.

@Gina-no5hm

3 жыл бұрын

This is basically harry and meghan markle lmao like you can't say you want privacy but still call the paps

I remember breaking up with my ex in 2016. I lost so much weight and got myself into so much trouble trying to get with other boys just to deal with the pain and loneliness. In the end, I only added salt to the wound. like what Shallon says, You’re not done until youre done. So while youre going through the process- make good choices. Don’t sleep around, don’t binge drink, dont try drugs, surround yourself with neutral positive people. This is the time where self care is a must, not self destruction.

I’ve worked on Riverdale and everyone else was lovely. However, Lily definitely has a complex. Many other actors, crew members and fans voiced the same sentiment about her. She will find out real quick how this industry works, once Riverdale ends.

@Story2ScreenMovieReviewPodcast

2 жыл бұрын

Oh do share. What happened?

@Alibern7

2 жыл бұрын

What happened?

@rossanascott9817

2 жыл бұрын

@@Alibern7 she’s was very dismissive and rude overall to anyone who she deemed below her status. Anytime anyone tries to speak to her that isn’t in a position of power; she doesn’t acknowledge them or if she does she does it with a negative undertone or just lashes out at them because she knows that she won’t suffer the repercussions. Its unfortunate because a lot of the people that experienced her outbursts were her own fans. I don’t know her personally just professionally and I don’t have an issue with her but finding out about her conduct on and off set was shocking but important to know.

@antoniobarrera1983

Жыл бұрын

@@rossanascott9817 did you really worked on riverdale? I never heard of you before

@rossanascott9817

Жыл бұрын

@@antoniobarrera1983 I worked in production; it would be impossible for you to know every single person that worked on Riverdale especially if you’re not from Vancouver, BC. Anyways, I hope that you have a wonderful night 🌞✨

You’re just amazing. I hadn’t spoken to my best friend for several months, life just happened, and then we started talking again and she told me she loved you (as do I), so you’ve brought two lifetime best friends even closer! I used to get so caught up in guys (in high school) that I would miss out on things, etc. i would get physically sick if I went through a bad breakup. I don’t know why, I’m a confident lady. Love you! x Edit: I have an addictive personality, listening to you is answering my question (thought). Lol! ;)

Shallon is so confident and independent . It literally inspires me to do so much better .

I used to be obsessed with fairytales and books like Twilight and 50 Shades of Grey until I realized how toxic they are and set us up for failure. Reading books like Twilight actually caused me to enter a toxic relationship and go ignore red flags

read the book Women Who Love too much. its a psychology book explaining basically why women love too much

@Alex-rh8mr

3 жыл бұрын

Wonderful book. I read it in my women’s codependency group when I was in treatment a few years ago. Definitely gives insight and let’s you know you’re not crazy. At least that’s how I felt, like I was just too much for any person to love. Anyway yes great recommendation I hope ppl take it :)

@kikib.4519

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the recommendation.

@xzuajkgka3479

3 жыл бұрын

@@Alex-rh8mr so much loveee for this book

I'm 22, never been in inlove or in a relationship and so many times my friends would be going through heartache and they'd say their chest would hurt, and I'd jokingly say " gurl you need to go get an x ray and check that shit out" so hearing you say that made me giggle a bit. I just hope if I have to go through it in the future, it would be worth it, good character development lol😭

@user-jr7ne1dm6b

3 жыл бұрын

Heartbreak is a bitch, no matter what. But you'll get through it when it happens!

@savannasavenko

3 жыл бұрын

I think we’re the same person??? You literally just described me too lol

@isha9660

3 жыл бұрын

I really hope it doesn't happen to you. There are very few things worse than a heartbreak. And once you're down that road, it feels impossible to get back!

@CC-br9qg

3 жыл бұрын

20 and i've had my heart broken once. Girl trust me you are lucky. Keep the faith you will find someone. I never want to go through it again. It's like dying, turning to skin and bones when you're still alive, mourning the loss of someone still alive. You lose aspects of yourself that don't come back, forever changed. I'm waiting for the one but i had lots of healing to do.

@LMCEK

3 жыл бұрын

Trust me you are LUCKY !!! I've been on the floor feeling like I am physically dying more times than I care to remember 🤣

“What would we do with all that time and energy and brain power if the puzzle we were trying to solve was simply ourselves?” Shallon, I almost turned this video and my entire phone off. That was *too* real.

Hi Shallon, I’ve been in a healthy relationship for almost 10 years and I discovered your channel last year. Even though you give dating advice, I’ve applied the fundamentals of your messaging to other parts of my life (work, family, and especially friendships)...it’s helped a lot! There were questionable habits I noticed in others before but couldn’t quite articulate why it was bad. Now it’s so easy to predict when certain individuals will repeat the patterns again because “the best way to predict future behaviour is past behaviour”. Just wanted to thank you and let you know you’ve helped some of us in more than just dating. Also, so excited for evil week! Anyone who doesn’t understand the whole concept of it is just...yeah lol it’s not that hard to understand??

@pqm2012

3 жыл бұрын

Yes. Same! Wish I would have this channel when Inwas in my 20s!!! Some videos are soooo on point with things I went through that I think she has helped me heal of some stuff even if it's in retrospect lol. Now, I'm happily married but still find it interesting and there's always something to learn.

@khol_6973

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!! Same!

Don't it feel like Shallon is everybody's Therapist, lol...

can u do a vid on how to stay motivated, i have exams soon and have been struggling to stay on top of things. Love your vids!!

@babyfish1083

3 жыл бұрын

I remember Shallon's last video or two mentioned briefly about how important it is to study.

@97indianuk

3 жыл бұрын

And how to become ambitious and be driven. It’s so difficult to change that in yourself

@natalierossetti3126

3 жыл бұрын

Jo Jo what video was it?

@JanelleGodin

3 жыл бұрын

Just imagine your worst enemy getting in med school while you’re getting strictly C’s or your professors showing all your grades to your crush LOL

@sophiec5578

3 жыл бұрын

just unleash your inner elle woods lol you got this i believe in you!

You're like a big sister I never had. You always make me feel better and empowered after watching your videos

@lilstarzyangel

2 жыл бұрын

Me too

Madison Beer just opened up about her Borderline Personality Disorder and I feel like she accurately fulfills that "crazy ex girlfriend" trope... She's gone from gaslighting her very young audience (there's a tiktok of a young girl screaming about Madison Beer), wrecking her ex's reputation, to staging a "paparazzi" photoshoot at a BLM protest (and possibly lying about getting tear gassed, too). David Debris- I mean Dobrik made a joke about how she "likes guys who don't like her" in some video they made together on I forget what app. Would you be making anymore videos on our modern day definition of the beautiful mean girl?

@slowednreverbbg5175

3 жыл бұрын

why are people so obsessed with this girl 😂 just let her live who cares i dont even know what she does

@m.s.5966

3 жыл бұрын

Anne Smith I’m sure many young women are facing difficulties with a girl like her...? What’s wrong about commenting on a celebrity gossip/ self-hep channel asking for more celeb-self-help content...?

@m.s.5966

3 жыл бұрын

@Sophia MB I didn't even notice how fishy the timing was, but you absolutely have a point! I'm pretty neutral when it comes to celebs (I enjoy a few of Madison's songs and admire her beauty), and I can agree she has a very strong tendency to play the victim. She even mentioned in that interview that she didn't want her BPD to excuse her (unspecified) behavior, but also wants people to understand why she's the way she is?... To me, it just seems like she's struggling to keep up with her lies/manipulation...

@animitaroy1752

3 жыл бұрын

Girl she ain't mean. Go watch her lives. She is like the sweetest and mature person ever. Also yes she might have made some mistakes but humas are bound to do that.

My therapist made me realize how codependent I am on my father. I'm really close with my dad, I've always been since I was a little girl. My dad is the type of dad that if I call him at 3 am because I have car troubles or some other thing he's there in minutes to help me with everything I need. I think this is why I'm codependent in my relationship with my boyfriend. I always try to fix all his problems. I feel like...the way that my dad treats me is the same way I treat my boyfriend. I'm so glad I've realized that ! I need to let my boyfriend solve his own problems and try not to be the savior all the time. Since I've realized that our relationship "grew up" in a way and I'm really happy about it.

When you said “ you dnt wanna get married bc you’re already married to your mother” 🤯 I’m an only child and raised by a single parent and I never have an answer when ppl ask me why I dnt want to get married but that phrase just made me realize a whole lot of things!!! Mind blown 🤯

this is one of the best explanations of “co-dependency” I’ve ever heard! You are so deeply wise and possess an incredible gift of communication! I’m so glad I discovered you, Shallon! Thank you! SO much! ✨♥️

I like that Cole Sprouse left an encouraging comment about her in his instagram showing that he is supportive of her regardless of the breakup.

The notion that a partner should COMPLIMENT your life, not COMPLETE it is the advice I wish I had received when I started dating. Although we never want to admit we have been that reliant on a partner... we all have.

This is so true- since I stopped obsessing over commitment-phobic Peter Pan, I started reading more books and outlining my novel

Somehow you always post videos exactly when I need them! There’s been so many times since I started watching you that you have said something that was just like that aha moment and I am so appreciative of that! It’s not always a good moment but it’s what I need, to get over a toxic ex, recognize my own bad behavior and change it or needing to set health boundaries. You really have helped change my life in so many ways for the better! Love you girl! 🥰

God I needed this exact video today. Freshly broken up out of a year long relationship - last night. Ugh, incompatibility is a bitch.

@keeba9540

3 жыл бұрын

VenusFlowerbomb I’m sorry to hear that but I hope you don’t mind me asking, when you say incompatable do you mean you had completely different interests, ?you felt you couldn’t be your complete self around him ? Or sth else?

@KrisyKreme

3 жыл бұрын

It gets easier love ❤️

Thank you so much Shallon for always speaking the truth, staying true to yourself & for being such an inspiration! I know you’ve helped me(I watch your videos when I can’t see my therapist) & I know you’ve helped so many! You have actually helped me & my mom bond more by watching you together! Never change & don’t let the bastards get you down❤️

Your videos are getting me through a tough week. Thank you ❤️

I bet your Shallahaters can’t stand that you gave them their own nick name 😂

@pnwperson

3 жыл бұрын

why?

Hey shallon! It's crazy how you posted EXACTLY what I needed. EXACTLY AT THIS MOMENT. Love you I swear you're the best 😭

i can tell the mood my parent is in when a phone call to them is answered with "WHAT!" Its a great start to a very short conversation.

23:28 I feel soooo personally attacked right now! Anyways today I saw my getaway-car ex for the 1st time in about a year and didn’t feel anything- not hate, nor sadness, but just pure apathy. Shallon has helped me through a lot these days ❤️

You're in Cali again? Feels like a throwback honestly;)

I feel like people nowadays don’t know how to grief, people also expect to be healed in a matter of days, that’s extremely unhealthy, healing is something you need to create for yourself so you have peace, it’s not an easy task, it’s created by changing your mindset in a healthy amount of time, don’t expect someone that just had a break up to be dancing and laughing and with the most positive mindset, with that being said, I am so tired of her talking about it all the time with the media, it’s normal to only think about it because healing is not a straight path, but you should act privately if you don’t want people talking about it. She should create new activities for herself so the journey is easier and she can put her mind to something.

@courtneybarrett4694

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Such truth in your words

@omphilemoerane2569

3 жыл бұрын

Ugh please explain this to my boyfriend. I don't know how may times I have to tell him that allowing myself to be upset about whatever is bothering me is what makes me get over it quicker. Pretending to be positive and happy when I'm hurting only delays the process of healing😒

Oh wow! This us right on about what is going on in my life! When you were talking about co dependent relationships I was floored! I have a co dependent relationship with my mom and I have been putting up boundaries this year and it is so HARD!!! But I'm glad where the relationship is going she is becoming more a friend! Which is nice now that I'm getting older to realize that it isn't my problem or my fault if my mom is having a bad day or going through shit she got through it before she can get through it again but I'll be there as a daughter but with HEALTHY boundaries! It has changed our lives for the better!!! It's like what ppl say about dogs that a trained dog is a happy dog!!! When each person in the relationship knows the boundaries it makes everything easier!!! But damn it's hard to get there! Love you Shallon!!! You are the smartest woman on KZread no one even comes close to you!

I’m sorry you went through all of that in college Shallon, we support and love you and I hope you have been able to heal from it ♥️

SHALLON WE LOVE YOU 💕💕💕ur advice is AMAZINF we’re 15 n honestly this is so good to get ahead of some stuff THANKS and ur gorg💗💗

Ohh my god I feel grateful for being a part of this shalligator communtiy. NEVER felt so united before in my life

My last relationship was soooo codependent for so many reasons, and we tought we were the perfect couple...It's been 5 months since the breakup, I still miss him but I am learning a lot, working with my band, my job, meditation, working out, etc just putting all that attention into myself and growing from that. Right now I just want to be single for a while and keep doing what makes me happy. Thanks for the videos Shallon!

Needed this today shall on - bf left me out of the blue 🙄🥺

Thank you Shallon! I just broke up with my boyfriend and honestly, I needed this today.

@cyn725

3 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry girl :( his loss I’m SURE. Shallon’s video about Kelly Clarkson helped me after a split.

@analuizanoleto9705

3 жыл бұрын

cyn7 thank you!! I’ll re-watch it then!

@angelicamonjetorrez6392

3 жыл бұрын

This too will pass girl. Be strong

@JeNJeN-mk4dv

3 жыл бұрын

Stay strong!

@rockyrae3455

3 жыл бұрын

It will get better. I work with my ex but every day it gets better.

I wanted to root for Lili so bad but she's just not a good actress. That Hustlers performance was mediocre I'm sorry. She also struggled a lot mentally before Riverdale. I'm not knocking on her mental health but this profession is not for the faint of heart and she's clearly very sensitive and huffy at the slightest comment or "invasion" of privacy. I get that sometimes you're not in the mood or have a bad day, but all I ever seem to read from her are statements firing back at the media/fans.

@yespls4184

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah definitely

@mariajoana7438

3 жыл бұрын

I haven't seen Hustlers but I think she's really good playing her role in Riverdale

Sometimes you say some stuff that is so freaking real, that I have to pause ur video for a while to take a breath. Every time you talk about that codependency shit my mind explodes.

@JoannaSternbergYoutube

3 жыл бұрын

HAHAHAHA I JUST PAUSED THE VIDEO BECAUSE IT GOT TOO REAL! amazing~*

I have been waiting for this🙌🏼 thank you Shallon 😊

I love Shallon! She has such a unique way of helping us get through some very important topics and conversations. Great video!

Thank you for sharing your experience Shallon. 🙏🏼❤️I was raped by a guy my roommate and bff from high school brought to our house. It happened while I was asleep in my own bed. And when I told my friend he didn’t believe me. And the guy denied it too. Then his family started harassing me and threatening me and calling me a liar. I called the police and they said that because he didn’t finish inside me (because I woke up and started hitting him and screaming and he left) that there wasn’t any evidence and they couldn’t do anything. No one came to my rescue. Nothing ever happened to my rapist. If anything I got ridiculed and threatened because of it. That kind of realization was so painful and a really tough pill to swallow. I’ve battled with myself so much since then, trying to not become an angry, bitter, and distrustful person. But your viewpoint of taking it as a learning lesson to empower yourself is uplifting and so thank you for sharing it.

@shallon Lester Dang! I needed this! I lost myself with a guy for about 5 freaking years. I’m finally excited about a new guy, so this will be a reminder to not get stuck in a relationship once again but instead stay fluid.

To be honest if she continues her behavior on being "secretive "and doesn't answer interviews, I'm preeeeetty sure that she won't be relevant within the next 2 years. Celebrities will bring up something about their private life and the moment they're asked about it they get mad for that!!

@delightful999

3 жыл бұрын

I feel like, the more celebrities try to hide, the more the paparazzi try to dig for information. I have observed that celebrities who give a few details and still maintain their privacy, the paparazzi leaves them alone. At least a little if not entirely.

HEY FROM THE UK WE LOVE U

@rethgual8227

3 жыл бұрын

And from Germany too 🇩🇪💕

@katitkas_world104

3 жыл бұрын

And from Poland!

This was eye opening wow. I’ve been wondering why this terrible toxic user situation ending was hitting me so hard. It’s co-dependency Thank you

This is so timely to what I’ve been dealing with - Thank you from a fellow only-child Aquarius ❤️🙏

I can't wait to listen to this when I get off work! For now reading comments!

I LIVE FOR YOUR UPLOADS

This video is so amazing! And I feel every word. Thank you

Good topic btw, so important to not lose yourself. Relationships are only a bonus not the prize.

Omg I was waiting for this!!! Can you please talk about taylor Swift and joe alwyn and how having a more private relationship can be more successful. Love u all the way from Mexico!

@pri.sci.lla.

3 жыл бұрын

She finally learned! Good for her they seem happy and are cute together.

@darraghcollins1374

3 жыл бұрын

She already did

@pupinoriega7088

3 жыл бұрын

It’s so nice to see another Shalligator from Mexico!!!!!

@Ana-pj1gf

3 жыл бұрын

Pupi Noriega yassss

@Ana-pj1gf

3 жыл бұрын

Darragh Collins omg that’s true lol def going to watch it nowww

" Hello, hello Bruse. That's your name today" If that's not the cutest thing Shallonas has done. We STAN Bruse the lizard

PERFECT TIMING THANK YOU

This is truly insightful 💙

She looks like Brittany Murphy 🤔

@mjbelle23

3 жыл бұрын

Yoooo you are so right, I see it now

@amiwhite5514

3 жыл бұрын

Totally!

@kathleenjohnston3582

3 жыл бұрын

Aw I miss her 💔

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@mjbelle23 MJ, you're so sweet. What are your top interests besides working and sleeping?

@odalizvlogsss3426

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

YESSSSSSSSS! Wisdom from my Shallon!

Thank you for this video Shallon! You're the best! Love all the way from Jamaica!

I was wondering when you were going to post! Friend I have missed you💕

Omg yessss to the puppy vids! I’m about to be a puppy mama and need all the help I can get xo

no one in this world deserved to be sexually assaulted!! its too common in this world i am so sorry shallon i know it sounds cliche but i hope you find mental and emotional healing and full recovery!

I'm really enjoying your recent content. Keep up the good work Shallon.🌈💗

Please never change your intro music! I watch all other videos at 1.25 speed and always have to slow it back down to 1x when you post a new vid 😆

@mkwaterz

3 жыл бұрын

The intro music is so pleasant and comforting to me 😌 lol

can u do a vid on glow ups and reinvention as a teen esp for the new school year❤️

Love your content shallon, as always!

Awesome video!!! Love it Shallon

Exactly! Do do not date a co-worker! I had a half a year relationshio with one. What a ride! And after that I was for a week sick, I have returned back - and he didn´t talked to me anymore! He ghosted me at our working place! We just greeted after that....but, hey, what a looser! :D

I just love you girl and i love your authencity and honesty🤟🏻

I cant wait for your uploads

SHOOT I had to whip out my notes for this one!!

The Art of Seduction is such an Amazing book!

I've been using this video as a pep-talk lately. It works.

Back from a night out..(im from greece)Shallon video?!yes please!

This video hit, when she mentioned why as women, we put relationships on the pedestal. At the end of the day, we’re the great ones when we focus on ourselves. I mean, yes there are some great guys, but honestly we make them out to be Gods, and knights and we center ourselves around them, and when we do that it ends up being a waste of energy. Lesson learn, we never regret focusing on ourselves, and dealing with our shit!

Yessssssssssss I have been waiting for this video

I love you Shallon! Thank you for making me 😂 whilst giving great advice 🙏🏼

LOVE YOU SHALLON

Great video Shallon ❤️❤️

The olive of your top looks amazing with your eyes, it brings out the green in your eyes. And...you are making sense!!

This is awesome advice. I think this especially hard for people who didn’t really have families, relationships have been a way for me to pretend they were my family. Can you do a video related to this? Or is there already one

Siiiiiiiisssss! I know exactly every felling u described in this video, love u ❤️

Lili out here acting like she’s the first person to have depression made worse by a breakup. I don’t know girl, seems very defensive when obviously people understand she’s probably hurting from losing a significant other. Most people don’t amicably break up and skip off into the sunset together... especially coworkers when you’ve established your dynamic as a couple..... but ok, sounds good! You keep doing u boo

I pick up on people’s vibes very easily and for some reason right from the start ever since I saw Lili Reinhart in Riverdale and in various interviews, I just got bad vibes from her. I always disliked her and my friends had no idea why. Guess I was right about that.