GWEN & BLAKE ENGAGED: How Long Should You Wait For A Guy To Commit Or Propose? | Shallon Lester
GWEN & BLAKE ENGAGED: How Long Should You Wait For A Guy To Commit & Propose? | Shallon Lester
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Got a love, dating or friendship question? You've come to the right place! I'm Shallon Lester, a two-time published author, NYC magazine editor and star of Howcast's viral kissing videos. I spill the tea on celebs like Kylie Jenner, the Kardashians, Beyonce, Shawn Mendes, Justin Bieber, Hailey Baldwin, Rihanna and more, breaking down their relationships, scandals and psychology to see what lessons WE can learn, and give you no-nonsense advice and real-world tips on everything from dating apps and players, to family and friends!
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I asked my boyfriend how come one of our friends hadn’t asked my friend out since they were basically dating already, sex, food, attention all of that and he said to me, why would he? He gets everything already. All while my friend was pulling out her hair why he wouldn’t ask her out
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Ugh yes. It's sad that the "why buy the cow when you get the milk for free" thing is so sadly true.
@miacontouli2493
3 жыл бұрын
SO COMMON. ugh
@mimipeterson4157
3 жыл бұрын
I’d go out with other guys and make sure he knows and see what happens if he cares he’ll talk about it and commit if he doesn’t move on sis you’re not the one
@redss111
3 жыл бұрын
Why would you still be friends with him?
@astriddececco3005
3 жыл бұрын
@@redss111 Friends with benefits.
I can’t believe Gwen Stefani is 51.
@allyhvis6046
3 жыл бұрын
She looks bomb! Shallon should do pt 2 on how to stay young. :D
@nicolemarieb.7044
3 жыл бұрын
I think she just has a really good surgeon who manages not to make her look over done. Except maybe the lips a little bit. I think it helps that she always kind of had a baby face
@lstarsabb
3 жыл бұрын
And she's older than Blake!
@kp4911
3 жыл бұрын
She's had LOTS of plastic surgery. Check out Lorry Hill's channel.
@babyfish1083
3 жыл бұрын
What?! 51?! What?!
The concept of “living together” in the modern life is a blessing for men and only for men
My sister waited 5 years for her boyfriend to propose. At the end of year 5 she just packed up and left. He freaked out and begged her to come back then he proposed. They are married now 7 years with two kids but his attention always wanders. He was put off the road this year for drunk driving. I dont think he ever really wanted to marry her 😕.
I would love to see a video on how to stay "just out of reach" while also not seeming totally disinterested!
@jcam9423
3 жыл бұрын
YES!!!! ☝
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
So, I can never PLAY hard to get (almost none of us can) I have to actually BE hard to get, so I have to craft a life and schedule that is legitimately jam packed. I can't accept last minute dates, I'm booked. I dont respond to "U up" texts at 2am, I'm asleep because I'm up early to pursue MY goals and dreams. It's a lot easier to stay out of reach if you have things you're passionate about pulling you away from a fuckboy!
@mollyhudelson9860
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester ohhh love that.... so important!!
@LiteratiMuffin
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester That's such good advice! Girls often focus on how to "play" a player, but like you've said before, there's no way to win a game of who-cares-less against a fuckboy who doesn't care at all. As much as we pretend not to, we will always be the ones who care more unless we break that cycle and genuinely focus on our own growth, instead of performing growth for someone else.
@juanitadaleslusher5218
3 жыл бұрын
Me, too! And I am in my 50s!
Shallon you are looking so fresh these days! Montana suits you
*he is not just into you- the only movie which shows the reality*
@jen-dz8bq
3 жыл бұрын
it still sorta has a romcom ending for the main couple but- true
@emmaj3
3 жыл бұрын
@@jen-dz8bq I agree. If Gigi had had more self-respect, she would have rejected Alex(?) and been like "That's a shame that you're just now realizing this, bye!"
@babyfish1083
3 жыл бұрын
The book is much better than the movie. Go get the book sisters. And other books by Greg are life savers too: _it's called a breakup because it's broken_ AND _it's just a date_
I wear my dads ex wife’s engagement ring so men leave me alone
@babyfish1083
3 жыл бұрын
It's always nice to have a daddy who spoils u. 😘 I envy u. Other guys become bonus.
If you’re dedicating so much of your time, energy, and love to a man who doesn’t want to marry you, you’re playing yourself. As I get older, I realize that many times, going the traditional route protects you from so many problems. A man isn’t getting ANYTHING from me that husband normally gets from his wife unless I am ACTUALLY his wife! I’m not here to play games or waste my time. I would rather be alone than be miserable with a man who doesn’t care about me.
@audreysvishev1690
2 жыл бұрын
Yes 🙌
@575leena
Жыл бұрын
💯
Ive been married for 11 years (today!) and i made it VERY clear that i wasn't moving in unless the intention was marriage. He said 'absolutely'. We had planned a lot of stuff before he officially engaged. We are quite different as people but our outlook is the same, what we want out of life and family etc is the same. We respect that we are different.
I broke a two years relationship yesterday and oh lord, realizing how much we are incompatible is 😩.
@henryotto9422
3 жыл бұрын
I recently got out of a three year on and off. I know how it feels. You’re great 💜💜 don’t doubt it
I've seen so many girls on Facebook lately complaining that even though they have kids and a house with their partners, they still don't have a ring. I think the lesson learned is don't let guys upgrade to the premium package package without the ring. (I'm not a traditionalist who thinks you should be married before kids, just don't let guys play dress up at family life when they can dip out whenever they like)
@Svengali764
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Never have kids until you both are very sure about your relationship. Don't have kids in a maybe relationship. Wedded or not.
@JuxJacy
3 жыл бұрын
Ummm not sure what it is like where ever you live but in Canada once you live with someone for more than 6 months you are considered common law. So if the guy bolts he still has to split half of everything with the woman and vice versa. Also the guy cannot just bolt on his kids. Married or not they have to pay child support.
@Svengali764
3 жыл бұрын
@@JuxJacy that's a very good system.
@gmstowers1002
2 жыл бұрын
Blake is happily married man to Gwen Shelton forever
Omg, These colors make you glow
never give back a ring, do sell it and go on a trip, buy something, get rid of that energy
Had some friends from high school that had gorgeous weddings within a year of meeting. They had the extravagant engagements, and beach front wedding and now they’re all divorced. One was divorced a year after having a gorgeous wedding. Don’t rush into it! Get to know them first! You honestly don’t know someone until you have lived with them, and you will find out things you absolutely hate about them! Take your time! Don’t rush because that’s what people think you should do! There is no timeline! Just do what feels right!
I wouldn’t get engaged to to someone until I was in a romantic relationship for at least 2-3 years. You don’t meet someone’s real personality right off the bat, you meet their “representative” first. So give it time. Don’t rush down the aisle. Divorce gets expensive.
@emmaj3
3 жыл бұрын
2 years and/or some personal crisis, to see how you both handle stress
@SunnySummer777
3 жыл бұрын
Yesssss!! Preach!! Marriage is a very serious commitment. We all should know that theirs couples who got married within 6 months and are now divorced, and then couples who Waited for 2-4 years and are Still together!!! Heck, so many couples who have their 1st baby when they're still only engaged... Every relationship is different 💁♀️
@gothichippielovechild3198
3 жыл бұрын
@@emmaj3 omg yes! See someone go through a death in the family, a job loss, something with a big impact. How do they handle it??? Great comment!
@gothichippielovechild3198
3 жыл бұрын
@@SunnySummer777 so true! There’s no exact rule or number that’s perfect for everyone, but it never hurts to wait!
@emmaj3
3 жыл бұрын
@@gothichippielovechild3198 Yeah, that’ll really reveal your communication style. Honestly, I wouldn’t move in with someone until something like that happens. That type of event really reveals how a person is
« because the rest of my life was flacid » this hit me like a ton bricks
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad and I hope I spared you a divorce!
Darling this video made me think twice of what i want in life ! Thank you ! And thanks for the tip 🌷
@mimi-bp1yx
3 жыл бұрын
Hiiiiii Hannah 😍
Girl, you nailed it! Not playing "wifey"- anymore
Oh I love these longer vids! Shallon, do you think you’d feel comfortable sharing your divorce story with your loyal Shalligators? Perhaps as a more private storytime over on Infstream? Maybe we could learn something from your experience. Just a thought, no pressure, only if you’re comfortable sharing. xo
@babyfish1083
3 жыл бұрын
I would pay to hear Shallon's honest account. 👍💖💐
@rollerpig9619
3 жыл бұрын
Yes please! Ive been wanting to know more about this forever - also, is a comeback possible?
Me and my boyfriend just broke up, we lived together exactly a year. I definitely thought we would get married. Getting my stuff out was the hardest thing ive ever had to do!
@sayss4611
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear it, girl
@MsHeyall
3 жыл бұрын
I think living together for a year is the right amount of time to decide whether you want to continue in the relationship or not. I'm living with my bf right now and if he doesn't ask me to marry in the next 6 months (when our lease is up) I'm leaving, period.
@christianone6611
3 жыл бұрын
Dudes don't propose while you live with someone.
@amyleigh7624
3 жыл бұрын
Never live with a man. There is no new info to learn.
@yousaid4026
2 ай бұрын
@@christianone6611They don’t? Had two friends get proposals and married with living with their bf
You have to start being friends with people before dating them. Only by doing this you can see if you’re compatible enough to date. After dating then you’ll get into a serious relationship >engagement> marriage all of which takes time. During these stages you can see how they deal with different issues which can give you a better idea of who they are. With that being said all of us change with time - so the person you commit to today is going to be a different person 10 years from now. There are no guarantees. Love and sex does not sustain a relationship and that’s what most people rush for in the beginning of a relationship.
@IAmAwesomeSoAreYou
3 жыл бұрын
Smart
@anndelacruz1986
3 жыл бұрын
Great advice!
Jist started watching but i wanted to say i been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and he talks about proposing but hasn't done anything about it. And the longer he waits the more I resent him . Feel like it's a waste of time and I'm going to start seeing others until he gets it together. Us women waste so much time and put our eggs in one basket then come out losing and mad at ourselves. So if he wants commitment he has to make it official. I don't want marriage right now but i want to know its going somewhere. 🤷🏻♀️
@b.6826
3 жыл бұрын
Hey, I was going through something similar with my boyfriend of 2 years and I just want to say that even if it feels bad or scary you really can’t beat just laying out how you feel to your boyfriend. I told my boyfriend that I wanted to get engaged by the end February 2021, now he has decided on a ring and things are in motion. It’s not overly demanding to lay out a timeline of how you want your life to go, men aren’t good with hints so just say it straight. I didn’t tell my boyfriend that I would leave if I didn’t get a proposal by the date specified but it was obvious in the way that I was stating it. Good luck! I hope if it works out and you get engaged that you can reply and let me know what’s happened! 😊
@666numberofthebeast
3 жыл бұрын
@@b.6826 we have talked about it way too many times and he said he knows I'm the one he wants to marry. But when i saw no ring i became extremely bitter and resentful and picking fights, always negative, like i wanted to ruin his life for wasting my time. Then i realized i was wasting my own time by being loyal and waiting around. So we are still together but I'm talking to others and will start dating. I'm detaching and pulling my emotions back, no more arguing or talking about it since it clearly does no good .
@_inceediable5473
3 жыл бұрын
@@666numberofthebeast that is really smart , because when a man knows he knows. Went through the same thing left him after 2 years. Met a new guy he proposed after 8 month
@b.6826
3 жыл бұрын
@@666numberofthebeast I understand, I hope that you get the commitment that you deserve!
@666numberofthebeast
3 жыл бұрын
@@_inceediable5473 exactly! He's never proposed to anyone before and he talks about it with me but i feel like hes dangling a ring just to have power and I stay. And it has made me resent tf out of him and i have become such an ugly person and see him as my enemy. I really hate who i have become. 😒 Like i was such a good girlfriend before now im miserable and hate him. I don't wanna go through a breakup right now so now im gonna be selfish and keep him around. I stopped sleeping with him and always being available. Now I'm like do w.e you want!
I spent almost a year dating after my marriage ended before I met my boyfriend. If there’s one thing I learned it’s that if a man wants to be with you he’ll tell you and he’ll put in the effort because he knows your value and that if he doesn’t lock you down someone else will! I came across so many guys who don’t know what they want or want to keep women on the hook so they have an abundance of options and I’ll be damned if I let anyone make me feel second best. Like Shallon says “If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no!”
My experience waiting for a guy? Doesn’t happen 💅🏼
I have been married but i got married cuz i didn't want to lose him. He wanted to get married but i didn't. I saw myself between a rock and a hard place. Never marry under pressure.
I was dating this dude for 3 years and all I ever wanted to marry him, he had no job, no future plans, nothing. I was a student back then, just when I started my business (I am a fashion designer), he popped the question, and it was in that moment when I realized I only wanted to marry him because I had no job and nothing to focus on and I sorta didnt even loved him, just like what shallon said. so I said no and we had this ugly breakup. and now after almost 2 years that my business has grew I realized I dont even wanna get married at all. and deep down I dont even want a serious relationship anymore.
To me the thing with Blake and Gwen is the same thing that happened with Camila and Shawn. When it was just romours and gossiping and them flirting with each other but saying "uhh we're still friends" I was like reeeeeaaaally into it, but when it became a thing it was just... ugh, NO, go back to being friends please! This is WEIRD!! There's something about them that just doesn't fit, and I think that happens when you try really hard to become "a thing" or try too hard to be THE couple. I mean, Brad and Angelina where THE couple but they didn't ask for it, they were just doing their thing and we all just fall for them organically. But if you try to push you're relationship into me with corny songs that are just BAD and big fake speeches... It's just not gonna happen, friends.
@maddy1143
3 жыл бұрын
yes exactly this and reminds me a little of nick jonas and priynaka chopra ugh, any couples that is so in your face about how much in love they are and constantly posting about it makes me gag like it's obvious your doing it for attnetion and relevance and most couples that are iconic or love were loved because it was subtle and not in our faces all the time
@audrablue515
3 жыл бұрын
Blake and Gwen don't make any sense to me. They look obviously manufactured like Tom Hiddleston and Taylor Swift. Seriously, WTF was THAT coupling all about anyway? Blake seems like a good ole boy who wants a wife and kids and Gwen seems like a manic energy pop diva who's fascinated by him in a way an anthropologist would be by a new species of human. I feel like she'll lose interest eventually and the relationship will fade quietly away until the headlines scream about Shelton finding his true love.
@misscatalina711
3 жыл бұрын
Gwen has a history of forcing a relationship. Poor Gavin.
“because the rest of my life was flaccid” uff.. girl yes. I’m thinking about what I REALLY want in life now... this made me think twice. Thank you xo 🌟🌟
Man, the year and a half definitely sounds accurate 👌 Don't invest into someone who investing in you. Some guys just don't care enough or don't want to commit. The writing is on the wall, we just refuse to see it. I've been in that situation before, where an ex was being shady and enjoying the benefits while offering little in return. Not making that mistake again. Either the guy is fully in or fully out, there isn't a third option. I'm not wasting my time on fuckbois anymore.
@HannieCharlie
3 жыл бұрын
thats why i play mind games
@gmstowers1002
2 жыл бұрын
Blake is happily married man to Gwen Shelton
@gmstowers1002
2 жыл бұрын
Blake and gwen are perfect match soulmates and commitment forever
My now husband and I moved in together within a year and a half of being together when we were both 24 and we got engaged on my 26th birthday, which i kind of meets this timeline, but honestly i never once pushed him toward marriage, we had talked about it, and we both knew that was the end goal. We just both thought we were young, had no rush, and were perfectly happy. I honestly thought it happened a lot sooner than I thought it was going to happen. We were engaged for 2 years and we have been married for 2.5 years now. Still going great!
I do not wait anymore. We value our time more than anything. Some dude even had the audacity to think once they move in to your place or stay at your place occasionally, he think your parents house is your future house and do not see the intention to even get a new one if taking to the next level. Huge 🚩 flag!
I think it depends on every couple and situation. Haven't both Gwen and Blake been married before? So what's the rush especially when it's children involved.
@YasminMahnaz
3 жыл бұрын
There is a rush ... its called aging!!!! Especially kids that older
@angelkotilainen
3 жыл бұрын
And especially when it's just a business contract anyway.
I waited a really long time for my ex-husband to "grow up and propose." It actually took me breaking up with him for a few months before he actually produced a ring. you see now how that turned out
Sidenote I have always felt Gwen Stefani was overrated, even back in the 90s, but especially during her solo-spin after 2000. She's not THAT talented or revolutionary, and now all ANYONE says on videos of her anymore is "she hasn't aged". That's her only accomplishment people feel inclined to comment on, let's be honest.
@juanitadaleslusher5218
3 жыл бұрын
I agree. Only liked one song, Holler Back Girl. I was a major Bush/Gavin fan, and only started paying attention because she was married to him. She hasn't "aged" because she has had a lot of work done.
@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend
3 жыл бұрын
@@juanitadaleslusher5218 Yeah exactly. And people act like it's an accomplishment... as if good genes and expensive doctors are an accomplishment. She definitely had some songs I enjoyed - Hollaback Girl, I enjoyed Don't Speak from No Doubt, Wind It Up was MAYBE kind of fun. That's about it. And I don't feel artists NEED to all be excellent - I love Pink and I don't love most of her songs... but Gwen Stefani just never had a personality in my opinion. She was always just a picture or pose.
This video makes me think of Carrie Bradshaw in S&TC when Mr. Big wouldn’t commit & strung her along. She finally broke up with him & he got engaged to someone else not too long after. Tragic! Man I miss that show & still watch reruns when they are on.Enjoyed this video- you are spot on as always!
@ronnielodge7032
3 жыл бұрын
John Cena and. Nikki Bella 😒
@babyfish1083
3 жыл бұрын
Yes Carrie was engaged to the nice guy Aidan, but in the end it's Big whom she was married to.
A woman should not wait for someone else to give her her first engagement ring. The first commitment is your own. For this reason, years ago I gave myself my engagement ring. Thus, the second engagement ring is optional. Because the most important is always your own commitment. Congruence and authenticity.
@mimipeterson4157
3 жыл бұрын
You’ve seen the Sandra bullock movie where she married her self 🤣🤣🤣 I think marriage is overrated we have to be obsessed about business and career and building alone before he can distract you and set you back lol I mean men are cool but my bank account is priceless it gives more options than a ring 💍
I wish I had this video 2 years ago when my ex broke up with me. Shallon, you got me not getting shit from nobody so much that I'm lonely as hell lol
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
No, you're not lonely you're at PEACE. Don't confuse the two. Lonely is "I have no one and I'm bored." PEACE is luxury. You can do what you want, when you want, with whomever. You belong to you. You're your own best friend and there's nothing lonely about that!
@sabrinacamargo25
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester I needed that reminder. Thank you so much!!! xx
My limit is 5 years... but that was when I was 25 😂 once I turned 30, I was like: is this happening or not?
@suzane3751
3 жыл бұрын
SAME! 2 years no proposal? Ok, bye.
I thought they were already married 🤣🤣🤣
Never clicked so fast. You look good Shallon ! Thank you so much for your videos !
@deechan623
3 жыл бұрын
Girl, same haha
@kathernandez1108
3 жыл бұрын
Same!!! Lol
I liked that you added the advice at the end of what to do when your relationship is good but you’re also wondering if marriage is somewhere in the horizon
Shallon I needed this....lol.... love you Shallon.... My retinal detachment has been corrected... I am seeing again... I do have caterac now thanks to the laser machine....but happiness today is so real....and then you drop this video and I am super happy as af....
this shit seems so obvious when you're single and not crushin on anyone..... but as soon as a dude waltz in with like the bare minimum MAAAN. and if my heart gets broken from now on it's my fault. cause im sitting around waiting 4 someone to change who i usually am not compatible with in the first place! praying 4 the strength in the next terms. hoping this emotional awareness sticks!
How I love spending my Friday nights: pizza + Shallon.
I think my advice is bring him to ur momma and see if she’s cool with him or not. If she does then keep on seeing him but if ur mum sense something fishy. Break up with him right away. MUM KNOWS. at least for me
@ms.sondra
3 жыл бұрын
That is very true! My mom always blunt every single time when she met my boyfriend's. If she doesn't like them she's brutally honest, if she does like them then she'll let me know.
@KimChiAu36
3 жыл бұрын
True! My mom wanted me to date my now amazing boyfriend way before I even saw anything romantic with him! And I'm glad I listened to her ❤️
@Changingszns
3 жыл бұрын
@@KimChiAu36 I’m glad for you guys❤️
😑 this hits so close to home for me. Last guy I was with for almost 7 years, I bugged him to get engaged-which we did, but then he just stalled and we broke up less than a year later. He ended up getting married to a girl he proposed to in 3 months and married her a year after our break up. Now, I’m in another relationship where the guy seems to really love me, but not enough to marry me. Over two years in, and a year and 8 months of living together. :( I do want a title, because to me, that is the ultimate gift of love yo give someone a title with more permanece and also giving someone your last name, and I am a feminist-but I really want that though.
Can we talk about how Miranda just released a “I’m-so-happy-with-my-new-younger-fit-cop-husband-Oklahoma-horse-dreamscape” music video and NOW Blake has to throw this engagement in the media? Is this puppet master Gwen returning fire or is it Blake? The back and forth with these two is gross. STILL, after sooo long 🤣🤣
@missstrawberrybrown9303
3 жыл бұрын
Omg I was thinking the same thing. 🤔
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Oh I know. Everything she posts about that stolen unemployed husband is him shirtless or doing manual labor. I'm not sure she's ever even spoken to him 😂
Love you Shallon. Love from a Chinese Shalloner🤣
@Emilnananaxo
3 жыл бұрын
we luv the diversity hehe. ni hao!
@wangxinyi2248
3 жыл бұрын
nihao你好🥰
@babyfish1083
3 жыл бұрын
I am a Chinese Shalligator too, from Hong Kong, yay!
@wangxinyi2248
3 жыл бұрын
@@babyfish1083 I'm in Shenzhen😅
Their dynamic just makes me..... uncertain....
@maddy1143
3 жыл бұрын
it's more her to me than him, he seems like a nice laid back dude, he still has a big career in fact she is hindering it because she keeps worming her way into his stuff and his audience dont really care for it, she seems like the fame hungry one desperate to get back to relevance which she is getting now because of him
Emotional getaway car. Holy shit. This describes perfectly why I got married, too. Ugh.
I’ve had some very good advice that some I didn’t follow to my detriment. A single lady need a good doctor a good attorney and at least 1 good dog at all times lol. If a man is not interested in being with you when cooking and or eating don’t even slow down. Eating happens 3 times a day and then snacks and it’s most mens favorite part of the day so why wouldn’t he share his favorite moments with you. Buying food preparing food eating food and not a single thought of you lol There’s no reason for Blake and Gwen to marry lol all their needs are met without marriage.
my sister was with her ex for 7 years, like i was 12 when i met him and was an adult out of high school when they broke up. it was SO long. he really held her back in almost every situation. she always asked about getting married and i’m pretty sure he only agreed to marry her because she was enlisting into the military. not that it matters so much but the ring had to have been 75$. (it’s not like he was broke either so it was actually pathetic and i felt horrible for her considering the amount of time they spent together.) anyways, he called her while she was in boot camp and told her he cheated on her with some random skank in new york. then she got into trouble for crying in the bathroom at basic. THEN a few years later he messaged me and started to hit on me?! i was like what the fuck? men these days.
"They enjoyed the constant reliving of their trauma and their victim narrative." 🔥🔥🔥
Betttcchhhh, you have captured my heart. lol when you said you were skankin...I almost died I love you, you Cali girl you. Hell yea! I love Ska!
Blake's ex cheated with several men Gwen's ex cheated with several men
@kp4911
3 жыл бұрын
Gavin never cheated on Gwen with men. He had a relationship with a man years before he was famous and had ever met Gwen. Consenting adults. No judgment. He's a douchebag asshole, but stop spreading lies.
Do y’all think that Blake and Gwen are going to come out with a reality show? I’m betting on some type of reality show
Wether you want to get married or not, you still have to 'choose' to live your life with your partner everyday and mean it, truly want it. Marriage won't guarantee anything, and the problem starts with people thinking that it will. I think marriage is a beautiful thing, but I see it more like a 'celebration' of the love that two people have, not like a thing you have to do to be complete or to fix things.
11:44 - This 😂. On the topic, I recently reached out to my hurt locker as it was his birthday. He genuinely revels in the longing I have for him, and it's arguably our sado / masochistic routine now. It's a pain that I actually enjoy, like emotional self harm, know it's bad for me but can't stop. However after following him on Instagram, he's started posting stories again - which he confessed once that he only did to get my attention 😏 - Likewise I said the same to him, which only gave him more ammo to shoot my emotions to Swiss cheese when he gets on his BS (eg leaving me on read). As such, I retaliate by not viewing his stories and get satisfaction knowing he's stewing from not receiving the attention. Well, that's what he thinks- however my saving grace has been the preview window on the homepage, where I can see the picture of his s***ty sunset without actually clicking on the ring of death 😊
@uschilou
3 жыл бұрын
😂❤❤ sooo honest! I love it. The emotional self harm, I completely understand.
@ThisisDaniel
3 жыл бұрын
@@uschilou I'm currently replying to IG stories and occasionally being left on read... I knew what I was getting into, however it feels cathartic, like I'm able to let things go by recognising how little value he's actually bringing (aside from being hot).
That eye look is popping 💕✨✨✨✨👌
I was honestly so devestated about gavin rosdale i was in love with him in high school and i still love a lot if Bush's music 😓
Correct me if I’m wrong but didn’t Blake cheat on wife #1 with Miranda and then Miranda said I’m going to leave you if you don’t marry me like 7 years later so they got married and wasn’t there something going around that Blake didn’t want kids with Miranda? Also I’m pretty sure both Blake and Miranda cheated on each other. But I could be super wrong. 🤷🏽♀️
Come on Shal, you cant jib us out of evil week on KZread!!!
Girl, this makeup look is amazing on you!
Lmaoooo “ a gui-tar”🤣
I don’t wait for a guy because always was dating at the same time 3-4. I’m single till I’m married
Hi Shallon, first I really love you. Second, I think its so true what you said about things that does not work in our life we try to focus on something else. Like Oh I am going to have a baby because I can’t find a job that I like.
I waited so.damn.long.for this. Thank you. Do more vids about them, if there's material. Maybe the whole Miranda/Blake thing.
Never been in a relationship...so I don’t even know what feels right 😅 I just wait to see what the guy says and continue to talk to other guys in the meantime and if he’s too late...that’s it!
Shallon REALLY hates wet towels on the floor
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
Plot twist: they're always MY towels.
She just kept showing up here and sitting in the break room so we started paying her🤣🤣😭
Bummed to hear that about Gwen, while I’m not a huge fan of her music I always enjoyed her style and what seemed to be a sweet and quirky personality. That being said, I do hope that their relationship works because I do feel really awful about what happened with her and Gavin. That must’ve been terrible and humiliating so I suspect that’s why she’s especially clingy this go around
Just preordered my revenge necklace in gold! Yay!!!
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
You're gonna love it! It shines so brightly, like all holy and evil objects 😈
@CuteNP
3 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester I cant wait to show it off!! Especially in front of this dipshit I hate!!
Lol the part about a person sitting in the break room who got an offer😂😂😂
“It was like Chevrolet or something” HAHA 😂💀
Using your personal examples are really effective.
I just think... there is a “pattern” with Blake.
It’s so hard to tell a friend the ugly truth...he’s just not that into you 😭
I love your simile with the working! I have always wondered why I want to be married and be a wife! I thought if I really love my bf, why do I want this legal document saying marriage? And now I understand! Thank you so much!
I have a diamond ring and I wear it sometimes like it's normal so if I get a new ring, it has to top that 😉
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
LOL yes! Let em see the competition
Yes---this gives me so much hope. Thanks Shallon!! You look so happy and beautiful---the small time life suits you.
Love this lip color...what is the combo you used? Lipliner, lippie, etc
@shallonlester
3 жыл бұрын
It's MAC liner in Soar and a Nivea blackberry balm over it (I get it in Germany i'm not sure what it's called here but I know they sell it!)
You look so gorgeous in this video Shallon!
Shallon! you are the best !!! gosh, I wish I knew you IRL :) love from UK
I like how often she brings up the example of wet towels on the floor lol.
I wish i had this video 20 yrs ago!!!! I would have saved lotsa money, and heartache!! Awesome video!
Whenever people say I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.. I’m like oh but I kind of would lol I thought I was the only one that ever thought that 🙃
I also had a break up where my ex moved out, it really did feel like a divorce. Or he had to do it in stages, so when I'd come home from work and see his stuff, it was just crushing every time. Imagine how stupid I felt: here I am, thinking, okay we're living together, that must mean it's going to be forever, maybe get married later, no pressure. And then it turned how he was cheating for the last year of the relationship.
Somehow I just realized that Ive never moved in with anyone...men have always moved into a home that fully belongs to me....dang. Maybe next time he needs to build himself a man cave somewhere in my house..yikes. This made me think.
Just got my revenge necklace and I’m in love 😍.
I am always the brake pusher in relationships and they fall in love so fast. I eventually catch up. But, sometimes too late... I guess? Should I just go full steam ahead like them, be on the same page and hope for the best? I also feel like that could be a reason why they push so hard. Then I give in and it's over. However, they always come back. But, by then I'm over it.
Just a thought. Maybe happiness should be the measuring stick for a relationship, not marriage and kids.
One of your best video!
Hey shallon thought de check .I UK the we don't really do while marriige thjng ain't bug deal people I know engaged for like 17yrs
11:44 I almost choked on my tea 😂😂😂 Shallon is so iconic
@Quntah888
3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣
“His name was like, Chevrolet or something” 🤣🤣
Great video!!! Bravo 👏
Saving all these vids so when my niece grows up.. she'll know what's what..
love your makeup. You should put affiliate links to your makeup!
Me watching this video while my boyfriend and I have lived together for 3 years..... 👁👄👁