JULIA FOX "SURRENDERS" TO KANYE WEST: How To Not Lose Yourself In A Relationship | Shallon Lester
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Julia Fox says she's all in with Kanye West but is this a recipe for disaster-or even abuse? I'll break it down and give you 3 tips on maintaining your own identity in a relationship!
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Kanye is out here buying a house next to Kim, crashing a party she hosted and rapping about beating up Pete Davidson while Julia is giving interviews implying “Ye” is her soulmate…get a grip woman
@hangoutwithme346
2 жыл бұрын
That seems like abusive stalkerish behavior. 😐
@Vanillaaxo
2 жыл бұрын
Shes so desperate
@chelsealaine2550
2 жыл бұрын
Hahaha cringe yes!
As the great Maya Angelou said - "when people show you who they are - believe them!"
@MISSMADISONMEDIA
2 жыл бұрын
She has the most useful quotes frfr
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
*the first time!!
Your story about the rape in college strongly resonated with me. For a brief time I dated a guy that tried to break me down, so he could mold me to be submissive and weak. He coerced me into sex when I wasn’t ready. When he found out I watch your videos, he told me to stop watching them. He knew that your advice was a threat to him. I ended things and thankfully got out of the situation, and I will never forget the lesson that it taught me. NEVER tolerate a controlling man, and always retain your independence.
@scarlettbellasong
2 жыл бұрын
Vic
Shallon I’ve been watching you since I was 17 and I’m about to turn 19. It’s unbelievable how much you’ve impacted my life and self esteem
@shallonlester
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you my lamb!! You’re onward and upward!
@me-iv4pq
2 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@b0ss643
2 жыл бұрын
Same. So glad I found Shallon in my early 20s.
@bethanywhite9815
2 жыл бұрын
me too!!! love her so much
@islakay
2 жыл бұрын
you're lucky. you don't have to learn the hard way
Imagine surrendering to a man when you’re clearly just a rebound ☹️
@miriamchalmovianska863
2 жыл бұрын
Not even that in this case. He just needs a project=woman to work on. He cant be alone/bored/still.
@lovinglatonya3499
2 жыл бұрын
@@sabias3932 well she must not no in Hollywood once you go black you never come back 😂 and I’m black just saying
Amber Rose, Kim Kardashian, and Irina Shayk don't want Ye in her lives anymore... 3 empowered and successful women that eventually came to the conclusion of NOT ANYMORE... That speaks volumes about the nightmare that she is welcoming with open arms.
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
🎯🎯🎯
When I had my son, the rest of the world pulled into much stronger focus. I realized that I had to get some people out of my life and be closer to others. I made my own life better so his life could be better. I can't imagine looking at Kanye and thinking "Yes, this will be good and healthy."
Your flow amazes me. You barely have any cuts in your videos and you still manage to have a whole coherent plotline without stumbling in your words. You have a talent for speaking. It’s a pleasure to listen
Julia Fox thinks she’s a Lana Del Rey song
@VarietyPirate
2 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha yes!!!
btw these 'boyfriends' that can't leave you alone for one day- it's a form of control and manipulation to get you hooked on, until you are addicted to them. later, they will toss you when they lose interest in you and you will be like an addict begging for their time with completely lost sense of self and your own life. it happened to me and I wish I listened to myself and my gut and never ever gave in him forcing to see me everyday when I had bunch to study (university). and you know what happened- calamity happened
@lavenderhoney3835
2 жыл бұрын
SO MUCH THIS… mine was only a few months like two years ago and the shit made my head spin …. FOR MONTHS AFTER… I’ve never done coke or any hard drugs for that matter but the whole experience felt like this blurry binge 😅and the withdrawals were absolutely awful….thank God it’s over and behind me but I still occasionally get angry about letting it happen to me like I thought this was this cosmic fated twin flame shit and I really just ran into a fucking love bombing narcissist 🤣
@Aloha698
2 жыл бұрын
Happened to me
@jennp4228
2 жыл бұрын
@@lavenderhoney3835 same
@LMCEK
2 жыл бұрын
This is the truest thing I've ever heard.
@JaZmine147
2 жыл бұрын
The exact same thing happened to me too. It took me 5 years to get over him. 10 years later, I'm like Shallon.
After I had a bipolar psychotic break I learned that no one was going to save me; almost all my relationships suffered because it’s so crazy to, well, go crazy. You really learn how to dig into your life with so much out of your control, it becomes crucial to know what little control you still have and to make a life from scratch.
@LouisaWatt
2 жыл бұрын
Starting from scratch is hard work so I admire your resilience 🙌🏻💚
@artrequired
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! It’s hard, but we all have our crosses to bear…
She's all in because he's a billionaire. She is following the money and clout.
@robertat.8817
2 жыл бұрын
Idk, I would date Kanye as well...
@DanielMartinez-xz8nj
2 жыл бұрын
@@robertat.8817 great
@NatalyF17
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly!! She has never had it like that and she’s over the moon. There’s no substance though
This hit hard, I really feel for you Shallon 💔 The hardest part about my divorce was telling my friends I had been x-a-salt by him for years and watching them shrug it off. Even worse when I found the Facebook post of his second wedding photos posted on my birthday and all the so-called friends who hearted it. That made me realise that nobody had ever been in my corner and I could rely on nobody except myself and God.
@rubthatglitter
2 жыл бұрын
What happened to you was truly terrible. I am so sorry. I hope that you’re in a better place now ❤️
@LouisaWatt
2 жыл бұрын
@@rubthatglitter thank you 💚 I definitely am now
I feel like every girl should watch this video and keep rewatching it at least once a year to be reminded of their worth and potential. Thank you so much
Kanye West is a walking red flag 🚩
@bella3775
2 жыл бұрын
Kanye is so beyond being a walking red flag.. once you know someone has been officially diagnosed with severe incurable mental illness and had publicly admitted to not taking his meds - that’s exactly what he is - a walking mentally ill person. Untreated.
@bella3775
2 жыл бұрын
@Ted Dibiase 😂😂😂 what makes me a hater? Saying that Kanye is mentally ill? That’s a fact and public info, and nothing to be ashamed of. It’s you who is a hater, Ted. Or maybe you share a diagnosis with Kanye? You sure sound like you do. Your comment is literally PURE HATE. Have a nice weekend and get help 😀😉
@DanielMartinez-xz8nj
2 жыл бұрын
@@bella3775 geez you make a lot of excuses for that men
@bella3775
2 жыл бұрын
@Ted Dibiase what makes you think I don’t like Kanye? I think he’s a genius. I’m a fan.
@bella3775
2 жыл бұрын
@@DanielMartinez-xz8nj right? Lol!
I think she’s saying what Kanye wants to hear, stroking his ego and making him seem like a savior.
@BrittneyNicoleflicks
2 жыл бұрын
She’s playing him like a fiddle
Every time I see Kanye in articles I wonder how that man coped with life before he had an audience....
@bella3775
2 жыл бұрын
His mom was his audience, and I don’t mean it in any bad way, she loved him to pieces... But here we are, witnessing the boy she babied throwing tantrums just like when he was .. well.. a baby.
Love? This is lust, clout chasing, and gold digging at best.
@lalamonroe3721
2 жыл бұрын
Clout chasing? And This is just hating at its best.
@rockyrae3455
2 жыл бұрын
@@lalamonroe3721 I said what I said. If you do not agree with my opinion then say that. I am not a hater for holding my opinion. And yes Ms. Fox is chasing clout.
@D1Snr
2 жыл бұрын
I agree. Wouldn't surprise me if Kanye is paying her
@lalamonroe3721
2 жыл бұрын
@@rockyrae3455 and I said what i said. I don't have to say that I disagree with your opinion.who does that?and if your not a hater for "holding your opinion" then julia is not a gold digger for dating kanye.
@lalamonroe3721
2 жыл бұрын
@@rockyrae3455 I said that cause your saying julia fox is clout chasing and a gold digger but are you her next door neighbor to know this?NO
I think I can speak for everyone when I say we miss seeing cowboy in your videos! Your interactions with him are so adorable and funny.
@Lauren_22613
2 жыл бұрын
I agree! It’s so genuine and adorable
@Grace-ig7vm
2 жыл бұрын
YESSSS
@taylordillingham4669
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, please let us see cowboy, I adore you both!
@evieloves
2 жыл бұрын
Yes love seeing cowboy on your vids he is super gorgeous
Hey Shallon, I just wanted to say how much you've been helping me out since I've discovered your videos. Shout out from Brazil!Love your videos! Keep doing what you do!
@Grace-ig7vm
2 жыл бұрын
Same, Shallon has helped me a RIDICULOUS AMOUNT🙌
@akshayasairam7723
2 жыл бұрын
Sameee! Relationship advice saved my ass!
@evereve1
2 жыл бұрын
Same! She has helped me so much. With love from freezing Finland 🤍
Honestly I get her. I would love for a successful man to take me in as his doll muse and just follow his eclectic lead. It was hard for me to admit how much I need to develop my core being, and rescue myself. Awesome tips as always.
How is she giving interviews about her “relationship”‘already?
@Aquarius_Judge
2 жыл бұрын
PR stunt
@abbynormal206
2 жыл бұрын
scripted by kenye
@TheTeresamori
2 жыл бұрын
@@abbynormal206 I think he told her what to say
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheTeresamori Yep. She’s probably his new handler
@abbynormal206
2 жыл бұрын
@@TheTeresamori I think he actually wrote a whole script for her to memorize and regurgitate to the press. AND SHE DID IT!
Shallon my dear...I adore your snark and smart. Thank you for speaking from a place of education, dignity, insight and best advice ever. I worry so much about girls and women growing up today. I am older and so proud of the progress women have made in the last 50 years. But there miles and miles left to go. Its not just laws and externals. Its how women are secretly regarded and treated every day by every one. When this chickie julia started trumpeting her ye activities, I can hear him in the background encouraging her and feeding her lines. I KNEW you would have every single receipt.
@shallonlester
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you darling! My goal is to be obsolete by the next generation, I want everyone to know it all and not even need me! But yeah you have women like Julio who make it seem cute to be controlled. And look, I’d like a strong man, for sure, but true alpha males don’t reshape their women. They give them space to be who they are. They walk the side them, not ahead.
@saltymermaid697
2 жыл бұрын
Men don't seem to know how to do this yet. @shallonlester I'd like an alliance marriage where we band together against a common enemy for land and country!
@abbynormal206
2 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester true that
Trash and sharks. YESSSS!!! Also, I'm sorry that you were assaulted and felt so alone for awhile. I'm glad you got through it and thrived.
Parenting is amazing if that’s what you really want to do. With every struggle there is a win right after and it’s absolutely mind blowing how strong and empowered it makes you. This chick is cray.
Shallon you've gotta let Cowboy on camera when he interrupts hahah we love him!!
Everyone just needs a Cowboy in their life. What a beautiful dog. 😍
This is sooo true Shallon!!! I've experienced so many foreigners coming to my city, there is one website for showing around your city and people can pay you for it, I signed up for that and so many older men actually use this opportunity to meet girls who are trying to earn some money and these men are completely aware of that- they are just faking being interested in the city, all the conversations turn into personal questions, later on asking to send them pics (even though they are full blown married with two kids). It is so unbeliavable. Those who have money set the rules and it's so weird seeing this power dynamics being misused. Even in the workplace; they hire you because they can set the rules and then boom you can lose your job in so many sneaky ways if you don't sleep with your boss
@Zizzy616
2 жыл бұрын
Ana, I’m sorry to hear this, but I think foreigners have nothing to do with the issue, as sadly there are predators everywhere - I’ve noticed the same issue happening on LinkedIn via mentors, some people just act like this! Please protect yourself by setting boundaries. I just wanted to flag that there are good people in all cultures :)
Last two videos have been your best for life lessons. You are very transformational lately. Thank you. I so resonate with you.
@shallonlester
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! That means so much to me
@sasha5294
2 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester I agree!!! These videos are incredible!
I've been following Julia for about 2 years now, listening to interviews (even the ones before she starred in Uncut Gems opposite Adam Sandler) and more recently her podcast (even the episode where she physically hurt a NYC cop during the interview because he liked pain and humiliation; it was on a Patreon). You have GOT to look into her more if you have the time. She is a TRIP. Former dominatrix, drug addict, released two art books featuring her film photography which included images of her shooting up, nudity, etcetera.
@fucheree
2 жыл бұрын
Like I got so fascinated with how crazy she is that when I heard she and Kanye were dating I was thinking "oh, so that's who Julia Fox is dating now, omg" not the other way around
@noworriesxox
2 жыл бұрын
@@fucheree this new lease is fascinating lol
@Im1BossyChick
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, that's interesting. When they break up, Kanye will be talking about how he saved her, lol.
Kanye is breathtakingly immature and chaotic! His behavior is absolutely infantile.. to put it lightly 🤦♀️
When I adopted my cat her name was Galatea! Never knew where that name came from, here’s Shallon always educating us and I’m here for it!
HOW DOES IT FEEL to be saving our lives and dignity Shallon? This helped so much.
I’m sure Kanye, who literally pined after Kim for years, who watched her get full ass married to a whole other man and was still hopelessly in love with her(and let’s be honest he still is), really respects a woman who “surrenders” 3.8 hours after meeting him… yup this will definitely last Also, who even is this woman? I’m not even being mean but I’ve never heard of her.
@IdkIdk-hm6vf
2 жыл бұрын
Yes yes
@Azr721
2 жыл бұрын
she had like 10 minutes sex scenes in a 3 hours movie and thought she's the next Julianne Moore.
@laurenc4138
2 жыл бұрын
@@Azr721 lmaooo that’s hysterical
@bratzsnoopy
2 жыл бұрын
Kanye West doesn't respect women in general.
@Lovepinkdress
2 жыл бұрын
Very well put. And I also didn’t know and still don’t who she is. But kind of looks trashy, no offense. Or maybe it’s this styling 🤷♀️ after Kim this, no.
I am a single mom. I do not date. I have been divorced for 9 years now. My kid will be grown in a few years and at that time I will think about dating. My kid has actually come first. If she needs me I am always there. No one has my attention other than her. I am not distracted. Her dad is also that committed. She does not have the drama of fighting parents or parents treating her like a weapon, a burden or not important. She is well rounded and has told me that she is thankful after seeing her friends get torn apart.
@dh428
2 жыл бұрын
That's very beautiful!!
@julie-mt2xr
2 жыл бұрын
That's fine if that's what you choose, but there is nothing wrong with dating as a single mom. If you are taking care of your child every day, having a night off every week or so does not mean you're putting your child second.
@browneyedgirl4637
2 жыл бұрын
@@AuroraRoseMonroe I was raised the same as you which is why I chose this lifestyle. My dad was not a good father and he knew it. My mom had to work 3 jobs to support us because he abandoned us. I know many do not agree with it but I only have one chance to raise my daughter. I just did not want to lose time with her for men that mean a whole lot less than she does. I also did not want her dad to feel unwelcome to come over and visit her anytime. We vacation, holiday, birthday and spend most weekends together we just can’t stand living in the same house. She is making good choices and she does not take any crap from the few boys she has dates thus far. Thank you for your kind words and I hope you find healing. Our parents did not know or did not care how badly they hurt us. We have to now care enough about ourselves to make up for their wrong doings.
@mara3572
2 жыл бұрын
@@browneyedgirl4637 sorry for you, would be a nightmare to be like you. You're the reason why housework and raising children is seen as women's job, pathatic.
shallon, could you look into zendaya and tom hollands relationship? tom seems to want to move pretty quickly from his interviews, i know that would freak me out if i were zendaya but i would be too scared of hurting feelings to say anything
@cocodollydear9
2 жыл бұрын
This!!!
@sasha5294
2 жыл бұрын
YES! I saw a post that he wants to take time off films soon to have children and my first thought was "he'll have kids, it just won't be with Zendaya"
I’m a single mom of a 3 year old and the immense guilt I feel because I have to take my child to day care while I attend university eats me alive. I seriously cannot understand how this woman has a one year old and is out practically night with Kanye without a care in the world. Yes the child’s father might be looking after him or family members but she’s so clearly choosing to spend her time with Kanye over her baby son, and to me that is insane. She’s just as much as a narcissist as Kanye, if not actually worse to me.
@shallonlester
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah explain to me how being single and taking care of her baby was too much trouble, and she was overwhelmed, but somehow she has time for a relationship? Like these two things don’t add up. If you can’t handle a baby single, how can you handle a baby AND a boyfriend? 🤔
@Maya-lh7wu
2 жыл бұрын
@@shallonlester exactly! and arguably the first year of a babies life is the easiest, the older the child gets the harder everything else does. I feel so, so sorry for that child, missing out on precious, important time with his mother while she goes play barbie dress up with Kanye :(
@magda386
2 жыл бұрын
@@Maya-lh7wu I still believe a father is as important as a mother and they should not get a green card but I know I won't change your mind honey. I don't expect to. You do you.. BUT let me, Julia, or any other woman in the world do our own, since we may disagree. No one asked for your opinion and in return, no one is judging you.
@pieceofcake3291
2 жыл бұрын
@@magda386 I truly hope you never have kids, they don't deserve that
@magda386
2 жыл бұрын
@@pieceofcake3291 and I truly hope you know I don't give a fuck about your opinion
Who agrees Cowboy should make a cameo in every video? 🙋🏻♀️🐶 He is just soooooo cute, I can't believe how quickly he has grown!!! 🐕🐾
You are amazing!! I learned that lesson after I got a chronic illness and no one had time or answers for me. They all had their own struggles. No doctor or anyone was going to save me. It had to be me fixing this. Love your videos.
Can you please do a video on Pamela Anderson 🙏🏼 after her 5th divorce ! That’s brutal !! I think she’s the perfect example of this !
I just wanna say that I found you actually by looking up Julia fox interviews lol but I have just went overboard w your channel now 😍😍 this episode especially is so therapeutic for me. I’m 26 now and when I was 19 I was in a relationship w a guy who was 25 (first and only older man relationship) and it just completely tore me down and I was just at the bottom of the barrel in all ways imaginable. It started for the wrong reasons but ended for the right reason: I was able to find my self worth again; I missed my mother, my best fiend, my sister. I truly wished I would’ve watched this when I was 19. You preach so much honesty and I commend you for it!!!!! I can’t really afford therapy so this is the next best thing. I am able to reflect and be like “damn I did do that and I did fall for that line” but girl, ain’t that how we learn. Now I’m like “hell nahhh screw that bs!!!” Keep it going!!!! You are awesome!!!! 💕💕💕💕💕💕 thanks for the free therapy :)
Imagine saying that out loud when you have a baby that depends on the healthy and strong mindset of the mother.
@amdonut8091
2 жыл бұрын
I feel bad for that child. She sounds incredibly selfish and immature. She's already 31 and acts like she's 18 years old.
Have you heard Kanye’s song “New Body”? It’s older, but the lyrics are along the lines of “no mileage on your new body, I’m the only person who’s fucked your new body”... VERY Pygmalion/colonizer vibes
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
New body? Could be Kim’s “new body” as in surgery? I don’t know--I’m reaching 😂
@DanielMartinez-xz8nj
2 жыл бұрын
@@klickingkayasmr7585 stop making excuses for him ,he’s misogynistic af
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
@@DanielMartinez-xz8nj ….bye Daniel….
@DanielMartinez-xz8nj
2 жыл бұрын
@@klickingkayasmr7585 I mean he is misogynistic
@jjm8224
2 жыл бұрын
Disgusting lyrics. And there are people who call him a genius!
I'm very sorry to hear from your story from college. It's so many women who experienced the same. I watched promissing young woman, , a movie finally tells that experience.
She is using him for her carrer.
@canesugar911
2 жыл бұрын
He is using her to piss kim off.
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
@@canesugar911 Yep, and Kim doesn’t care Mwahahaha 😎😈 It’s hilarious
@D1Snr
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. She'll be exposing how weird he is once she's got all she can out if him
@JaZmine147
2 жыл бұрын
Kim did the same. 😂
@D1Snr
2 жыл бұрын
@@JaZmine147 I like Kim but I have to agree. I don't think Kim ever really loved him. She married him as a career move. She no longer needs him for anything, so he had to go.
15:50 - feeling safe with ye? that’s the craziest sentence I’ve ever heard 🤣🤣 what a menace! she’s on that Harley Quinn level
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
🎯🎯
Shallon you are a really talented commentator. Very intelligent perspectives. I love how you analyze stuff in a modern down to earth, funny as hell way. Its like you say everything I'm thinking but funnier!
I’m sorry but rich men dressing up their wives and girlfriends like little doll-beards just does not scream *straight man* to me
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, these women do seem like “beards” Cover-ups from seeming gay
For some reason I can see Pete and Julia getting together next!!! 🤦♀️ and just going crazy on Kim and Kanye 😂
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly, I agree
18:61 "Control 101 break people down, unify them, and remolding them that is beneficial to you" sounds like the great reset and what's going on in our world
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
🎯🎯🎯✔️
Why are you so accurate... all the time. Especially that part about being a parent 👏👏
I love how there have been so many videos out lately! Thanks Shallon.
Your skin is glowing, love it!
I don’t think she’s getting lost in it or even that emotionally invested. I think she just knows he’s boosting her career and she went from a deadbeat baby daddy to a world famous musician. It’s probably really fun and exciting now but once Kanye starts kanyeing with her it’s going to be a different story lol.
@minnae.1747
2 жыл бұрын
I'm thinking along those lines too. This world famous guy gives you a front row seat to his life and it boosts your fame, which as an actress you sorta need. I wouldn't blame her if she dates him just out of curiosity. But sure, she is playing with fire.
@lizmoreno1524
2 жыл бұрын
Yea it’s just for the art lol. I kinda agree, but she could get lost into that lifestyle, i guess we’ll see and time will tell.
So loving the make-up Shallon wears on her cheekbones. And our Queen is glowing overall 😍
Petition to have Cowboy in every video if only for a minute!!!! Oh and his toy 🤗
Ohh Shallon, I’m so sorry for what you went through and thank you for using it to make it become a positive to some other people ❤️
I’m a mom and my kids drive me insane but a lot of that is me- I get overwhelmed and frustrated easily, I’m not always consistent and so they act out. Also, they’re kids. I cry a lot. But what is it all for? What does it give me? It makes me humble, it gives me purpose. I am responsible for them, and while it’s so hard at times and sometimes I want to run, I know I couldn’t live without them and I know that I need to take a deep breath and suck it up and make tomorrow better. Be better tomorrow. They make me want to be better because 100% they did not ask to be here and they are precious and innocent and it’s an honor to be their mom and an honor to do what I can to make sure they become healthy happy humans.
@autumnjimenez6482
2 жыл бұрын
Human adults* they’re already humans lol. And healthy children. Etc. that gives me purpose.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you Shallon. I'm glad you are thriving now
Omg! Loved this vid! Ok, so I was raped in 2011. It was someone I knew and trusted. I did report the assault and the detective, didn't believe me. Of course. It nearly destroyed me until I did exactly what you did. I realized I was responsible for saving myself But I definitely needed therapy. It does change you.
Isn't this what essentially happened to Kim when she first started dating ye 🤔
Happy Birthday, dear Shally! I know, in advance, but now you might read it! Keep it ruthless, our rebellious Goddess!
I’m so psyched for the podcast coming back!!!!
I feel like she thinks these “experiences” are milestones but they really are materialistic things. Like girl you are just seeing a rich guy… chill
@shallonlester
2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 nothing new here, nothing deep or fascinating just a desperate chick and a rich dude
Can you imagine Ye marrying this discount Fox before Kourtney/Travis Meghan/MGK for no reason other than to steal their thunder.
This video I come back to often. Having put all of myself into one person and when they walk out the door they take all of you with them. This is the absolute truth and I'm living through it. Please listen to this video closely, there is so much truth and wisdom in this video.
“You know what floats by you in the ocean? Sharks and trash” 💀💀💀💀💀💀 ICONIC. Framing this quote and hanging it above my bed it’s that good lmao.
It's weird that she was able to come out of an Adam Sandler movie still feeling this insecure. It seems like he takes really good care of his friends.
I love how even when I think I won't relate to the topic of your video, you never fail to talk straight to my heart. I too was raped in college and got pregnant because of it.
@anonymousnation5235
Жыл бұрын
Oh my God am so sorry. I hope you're doing better now.
@queenizzydeigh9085
Жыл бұрын
@@anonymousnation5235 That's so sweet! I am doing so much better and am so thankful that I have access to counseling now which has continually helped me. I have even told my son of the circumstances of his conception and he truly appreciated it.
@anonymousnation5235
Жыл бұрын
@@queenizzydeigh9085 that's good to know ❤
You have a soft side after all lol. Love how you interact with cowboy. Adorable :)
Honestly Kanye leveled Kim’s fashion style up. Like let’s not pretend that before Kanye Kim was a very respected person in the fashion industry. She wasn’t welcomed at the Met Gala and she was literally named the worst dressed celebrity before Kanye changed her fashion style while Kanye was named the best dressed male celebrity. Her style after she met Kanye was truly much better. Most celebrities have a personal stylist hers happened to be Ye Like he explained what that assault was actually about it was paparazzi harassing him
@belladonna5904
2 жыл бұрын
Kim looked so much better before ye, she dressed more classic and things that suited her. Ye had her wearing the ugliest clothes I've ever seen. She looked like a colorblind person that worked at a garbage landfill and wore the discarded pieces she found there
@Moana_moo
2 жыл бұрын
@@belladonna5904 no she didn’t
You are a tremendous presence. My god, you witty BETCH! Pure genius. I love the way you interact with your pooch. A GOOD HUMAN
You have a good heart and you’ve evolved into a more beautiful woman. I love you and I’m sorry that happened to and I’m happy you’re your hero.
They are both rebounding. As soon as I looked her up and saw she had a baby last year I immediately knew this was going to be a disaster. It’s wayyyyy too soon
Shallon freaking Lester you are so spot on, yet again. Thank you so much for speaking on this! Here comes a really long comment: I used to be that girl who thought she existed to find a man, and that the man would be her means to getting what she wanted. A dream man did swoop in and save me, but it turned out he was a narcissist who met me at a time when I was without boundaries. After one whole year of love bombing, he left me, taking almost all of me with him. Why did he leave? Long story short, I told him I was capable of leaving him. I stood up for myself and refused to let him gaslight me. And that was that. For a good couple of months after he disappeared from my life, I didn’t know how to exist in society and previously this hadn’t been an issue. I felt like a baby deer learning how to walk while surrounded by potential hunters. I had become completely conscious of myself for the first time in my life. It felt like the skin had been stripped from my body. I was more than naked. I was raw. More than six months later, I’m still healing from the insidious abuse, but I the good part is that I’ve finally realized how unhealthy it is to be “saved.” How the saver has their own set of issues. How they’re taking advantage of your instability and likely naïveté. How the power dynamic is at the crux of the relationship and if it shifts - if you heal and grow apart from their intentions for you - they’re not happy for you. They leave you. Onward they march to rescue someone who is still lost, someone who can make them feel like the hero they crave to be. I’ve learned how to be a whole person on my own. For the first time in years, I was able to enjoy the holidays without a man by my side and felt zero regret or FOMO. I’m now able to see engagement announcements and baby posts and not contort them into personal attacks against me and all that I lack. I’ve even detached myself from my assumption that I desire to have children. My whole life has been influenced by narcissists, so now, I’m completely dedicated to getting to know myself and making my life all about me. That’s all I want right now. Not a man or anyone to rescue me. I want me. ❤️
'It's parenting dude, I don't know what is the reward?" 😆
I have fallen into this trap before and it was 100% running from a bad situation. Setting boundaries is so important. Me and my fiancé were going through some stuff and just couldn’t come to a middle ground. He looked at me and was like do just need to have some time to yourself like a bath or get your nails done. At first my thought was what a misogynistic thing to say but I was like actually yes those both sound amazing. We were like let’s just take a break from this and we can come back with a clearer head. To be honest at the time I was overworked and not taking time for me.
Home girl surrendered her dignity. How sad
"The whos who of nobody cares" HAHAHAHAHAHA LOL the effortless way you spoke it was pure gold
Shallon, I'm a long time viewer of 2+ years. Can I just say lately I am so struck by your maturity, strength, and composure lately. You are radiating inner peace and acceptance in this video. Whatever self work you are doing SHOWS, and bless you for giving your wisdom to us.
I'm so sorry that no one seemed to care about what happened to you. I've been shocked to find out that even the people closest to me don't care that someone is trying to scam me out of my inheritance. It sucks. But like you said, it's made me much stronger. Since no one cares about me, I don't need to please ANYONE or take care of ANYONE but myself and my kids. That's freeing both emotionally, relationship-wise, and in the real world.
Cowboy heard you talking about college so he came over to comfort you.
Single Mom here…Umm the reward for being the parent that does everything is finding out how selfless you can actually be in supporting true love.
@klickingkayasmr7585
2 жыл бұрын
Does this selflessness apply only for the child or does it extend to others? Because a lot of single fathers, for example, remain douchey….. What’s that about?
@shallonlester
2 жыл бұрын
Personally I’ve never been rewarded for my selflessness. I have only ever been punished.
@laurar.2053
2 жыл бұрын
@@klickingkayasmr7585 eh, I feel like a lot of people w kids like to say that to somehow claim their assumed superiority over those w/o kids, while failing to see exactly what you've just said, that this selflessnes rarely reaches further than their offspring 🤷♀️
I'm going through some shit with one of my son's he is 22 and has 2 kids to 2 different girls and my first grandson is my world but my sons gf now hates my grandson's mom for no reason actually and I get a long with his mom great. She loves my relationship with my grandson but the gf now had a bad almost four months ago and keeps her from me to totally break my spirit. So she has put a wedge between me and my son and it's frickin hard. I NEVER thought this would happen with me and my son. You have helped me look at things in a different way so thank you for that. I just adore you
omg I didn't realize how big cowboy got, soo adorable
Love that u say “baby girl” with your hard advice cuz it sounds like how my mom talks to me 🥲 💙
Hey Shallon I've been in a controlling "dictatorship for past 12yrs, I was sexually assaulted tho 1yr ago by a neighbour of mine, this left me spiritually broken and mire vulnerable than Eva, my boyfriend firstly hit me when he found out then said that he'd get me through it by thinking for me making all my desictions and blamed me for what happened saying I put myself in certain situations, excuse I was so low I actually believed him ( that it was my fault) he's actually in prison now and trying to run my life still and rings me upto 5 times a day to make sure to keep me in line. I think I would need hell of a lot of counselling to shed the skin of my relationship ( dictatorship) plus the assault. I always thought tho "ah well he loves me, he cares for me but I know I'm just his possession he's told me that outright I am living HIS life I should use this time now that he's in prison to sort myself out Nd get my life together
Nobody knew who she was before Kanye. Seems like she is winning at sth...
Girl that speech at the end was everything ⚡👩🏻🎓👩🏻💻🎯👑
I can't think of anything I'd want to do less than surrender to the "Ye" energy
Shallon is a better parent than what most people with kids are ❤
My husband walked into the room while I was watching this and goes, “Is that Scarlett Johanson?” And now that’s all I see! 💗
Living for doggo content🥰
"Look at julia fox..." Wow this really touched me. Im sorry you went through that Shallon. *hugs* you are amazing. ❤️
Umm that contour 👏🔥 Edit: I got further into the video and I am so so sorry💕 thank you for opening up - here for you!!
Controlling men have like a playbook. Just like Shallon's professor said the clothes it's a dead on giveaway. My controlling ex would give me clothes as "gifts" and it was exactly that. Tuttle neck sweaters and not my style at all. I would cry because it would become a fight because I took it at the time as "you don't know me" when it was him trying to cover me up. I'm insecure about my body but still! I have the least controlling and most supportive man as a husband now. (Don't take as he's perfect. Me neither. We argue sometimes) and one time for fun, I told him I wanted to wear something he would like to see me in, we would have a date night and I'd wear a dress he'd buy for me. He got me 2. One is super tight and the other one has a deep cleavage lol.
@Pinkles666
2 жыл бұрын
I wear used to wear a lot of silver jewelry, like excessively stacked, chunky silver jewelry. Lots of it. My boyfriend at the time, only bought me dainty, yellow gold jewelry. Earrings, necklaces, bracelets etc…ALL yellow gold. He was always paranoid that I would cheat and he even had me followed once. He was working out of town and had a friend of his follow me out on a girls night. I was seen hugging a male friend I ran into and instantly got a screaming phone call from my boyfriend. Another fun evening he calmly walked over to me in the kitchen, grabs my arm and aggressively leads me into the bathroom. He points in the shower (my long dark hairs stuck in the drain) and demands I “fix it”. Made me feel like Julia Roberts in “sleeping with the enemy”. Needless to say I left.
@pqm2012
2 жыл бұрын
@@Pinkles666 I'm sorry you went through that stress!!! We can peobably share stories for hours lol. Same guy I mentioned once believed I lied to him because he dreamt it!! I sometimes feel embarrassed I was there for so long. But we left and they are someone else's problem now!!
@soilgrasswaterair
2 жыл бұрын
It’s a big tell! If it’s a gift it’s something tied to the person’s own style that you know they would like. The point with a gift is for the other one to feel seen and valued and not for the gift giver to change the other one (if they try to change you then it’s not a gift but control).
I kinda got the message that she was using him a little too. He legitimized Kim in a way she wants him to do with her. I wouldn’t mind a style upgrade by Kanye for free. She could be just playing her cards
I’m here for the Cowboy content. 🥰
Wow, I f*cking love you!! I’m obsessed with how well you deliver on breaking down the life lessons. Combo your vulnerability with your communication skills, you are a gift to our generation ❤️
Shallon I absolutely agree with you, my alone time is crucial nothing personal that is how I regain my energy. x