I don't belive that Oliver and Jared Leto are the same age.

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

WHAT OH MY GOD

@tiltedhalo9888

4 жыл бұрын

Leto is slightly younger but not by much .

@Sorciere27

4 жыл бұрын

@@tiltedhalo9888 He is 3 years younger!

@tiltedhalo9888

4 жыл бұрын

Sorciere27 dosent he look way older ? I really thought he was about 10-ish years older than her . They seem an odd couple to begin with.

@tiltedhalo9888

4 жыл бұрын

Sorciere27 and I randomly had Leto at 36-ish in my mind .

On Ellen’s show, one of the twins (sadly can’t remember which) made a comment about what Dave Coullier was doing to them in the bathtub while filming Full House and Ellen joked “We don’t need to talk about that” alluding to sexual abuse and the audience laughed. My heart goes out to these girls. Who knows what they truly deal with day to day.

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Surprise surprise Ellen was low on empathy...

@radrose4864

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely Unthinkable how child stars are treated. Even the supposed power from their popularity and money didn’t prevent the abuse

@olitasdelmar

4 жыл бұрын

Corey Feldman documentary "The rape of 2 Corey's" tells all about sexual child abuse made inside the industry, poor girls...

@DELLRS2012

4 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester I think enough people have come out about Ellen's malicious behavior that it is no longer controversial to agree.

@lesliewalker6430

4 жыл бұрын

DELLRS2012 it’s not about being controversial..it’s about it resonating with ppl that have experienced malicious ppl. Shallon covers recent celebrity news as an entry to discuss life topics in general

Ha. My ex-husband put in his vows that he loved how smart and driven I was. The cause of our divorce - I got a better job.

@kyliewilson2911

4 жыл бұрын

I can relate to that. An ex of mine had expressed his love for a strong minded woman who was older etc...then he got bored and used all those as an excuse to lie and cheat. Lucky escape really x

@eagletmars

4 жыл бұрын

Weak men are always threatened by a strong and independent woman. They may not say it, but most men resent the power dynamic shift when women are the ones paying the bills, and leading the household financially.

@Designalily

4 жыл бұрын

@@eagletmars Facts. Unfortunately men say one thing but studies continuously show men prefer not to be with a woman who's smarter.

@vegancherry5503

4 жыл бұрын

Sometimes when us women grow rapidly, unintentionally we can become too masculine. Men are simple to break.

@kachitax

4 жыл бұрын

eagletmars happened to me. and then he said “you’re always right! I hate that! You’re too smart”. And then he cheated with a girl who barely has an IQ.

Don't date old men and step children are not for child-free women in their prime years 💕

@sparklyunicorn5431

4 жыл бұрын

For real! Lmao, it's so obvious.

@chrisk6945

4 жыл бұрын

Say it again for the people in the back. I'll add that EVEN if they're in your age range, DON'T date men with children and an ex wife if you're child free, in your 20s, and don't want stress to ruin your mental peace and body. Been there, done it..trust me, you don't want it.

@live.life.secure.coaching

4 жыл бұрын

Amen, girl!

@melindam.5106

4 жыл бұрын

Chris even in your late 30’s like I was, he was divorced 3 kids baby mama drama no thank you been there done that and I had no drama no kids no previous marriage it was too much to take care of kids who are not mine.

@l0us3rr

4 жыл бұрын

1000% agreed. She married down. He had to sign a prenup. She made him.put their apt in his name and pay the bills tho, so in a way she wasn't going full on hypogamy (altho on paper -- that prenup tho -- she did). She really lowered her and Ashley's collective value (bc they're unfortunately for Ash associated with one another inextricably) and now she prob won't rebound unless with some old, less rich dude again. Screwed her sister Ashley over too. Ashley probably doesn't even get hit on by age appropriate dudes in her tax bracket anymore. Bad choices all around. Moral of the story: I couldn't have said it better -- "Don't date old men and step children are not for child-free women in their prime years"!

That guy has always given me weirdo vibes like he’s just so old

@BullshitDetector

4 жыл бұрын

He also has a really big head. I don't trust that man

@AledaBoyd

4 жыл бұрын

Agree!!!

@GB-ic1im

4 жыл бұрын

@@BullshitDetector "really big head" 😂👌

„Men want a bird they can put in a cage“ that‘s how Trevor Noah‘s mum described the phenomena that men see a women who is free, ambitious, independent and want that feeling of putting that woman in a cage. They could have tons of „birds“ who already are „in a cage“ meaning girls who want to be a housewife, who were raised to become one, but that doesn‘t give them pleasure. The caging in is what‘s so interesting to them

@Fireflies1202

4 жыл бұрын

Abel wanted a traditional marriage with a traditional wife. For a long time I wondered why he ever married a woman like my mom in the first place, as she was the opposite of that in every way. If he wanted a woman to bow to him, there were plenty of girls back in Tzaneen being raised solely for that purpose. The way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. He’s attracted to independent women. “He’s like an exotic bird collector,” she said. “He only wants a woman who is free because his dream is to put her in a cage. Trevor Noah, Born a Crime: Stories From a South African Childhood.

@coolcat6341

4 жыл бұрын

Explain my life,, wanted to get married and stay at home with my kids but I was always got ditched for the wild one,, or they wanted to pluck my feather.. Men are strange.

@natalieh.2671

4 жыл бұрын

Omg this is literally so true. Men get something out of it. Thanks for Sharing this. Really makes me think.

@cosmospray

3 жыл бұрын

wow, didn't ever see it that way. It's so frightening now.

Personally, what scares me about aging and being single isn't that I have a biological clock and that there's societal expectations for women. It's that I love my friends and would be completely fulfilled emotionally if we could all stay single best friends forever, but I know that most of them will get married and have kids and I will incrementally become less important to them because spouses and families are real indisputable priorities over friends. So if my friends all get married then I need to also find a life partner to have companionship to replace to relationships that will deteriorate as everyone's lives go on without me.

@jemimajohnson5867

4 жыл бұрын

Omg!! Yes

@babyfish1083

4 жыл бұрын

Yesssssss

everything you said in this video is a fact. I'm so sick of men getting upset and whiny when they see a woman being successful and happy. I will never downgrade for a man... I've done it in mild ways but I've witnessed so many women quit their jobs and gain a ton a weight to please a man who wanted them to stay home. It's a form of control. I'm glad mary kate did not back down. That's what happens when you are 30+, you start to know better. glad she married after her twenties...even if it ended in divorce.

@makeitcount2985

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed its control for sure

Hahaha I'm from from France, let me tell you something and you're accent is lit girl !

@izzy350

4 жыл бұрын

💀

@CauseNaturelleM

4 жыл бұрын

I wasnt ready. She is so gifted 🤣

@jessicarc1992

4 жыл бұрын

She is amazing ! She makes me laugh so much with her accents !

@amyl2442

4 жыл бұрын

😘😘😘

“The first fight that you have is the last one that you have” DAMN 🤯

My ex (who is 22, I'm 28) was very jealous because I always wear fancier clothes at work, skirts, blazers, heels ( no cleavage, no short skirts, i dont like those), he was like who do you wanna impress? There's surely a guy there you want to flaunt in front of. Context: i'm an accountant and i only work with old ladies. While we were toghter i mostly wore more sporty clothes and he never took me out so i could get the chance do dress for him. Te fact that I never gave iN and would still wear whatever i wanted, generated so much frustration that he left me after an year of relationship.

So personal story, I met a guy out in the music scene I so loved and was part of before I started medical school. He wanted us to be together right off the bat, did everything for me, and said I love you two months in. I remember at the time I had a MONSTER of a semester with the devil course of neuroanatomy final (basically 9 courses in one) and I was busting my balls studying for this. I remember I told him that if I were to come spend time with him at his place, I could only spend 3 hours of my day with him-9 pm-12 am because the rest of the day I had to make notes and study. I thought this was INCREDIBLY generous as I barely had time to workout, have time for myself, fucking I don’t know, relax? So This guy takes it upon himself to get tickets to the body exhibition which meant that I would stop studying at 3 pm-9 pm. I remember coming home at 9 pm, being tired as fuck, yet sitting down and starting to study. Girl, does this little bitch not sit on the couch, scolding my for not “coming to cuddle” with him? Does he not give me SO much attitude then get his grumpy little ass off the couch and literally go into the bed room without acknowledging my existence and sleeps. Girl. I nearly left in the middle of the night to go back to my town. Things were never the same after that. I could see through his shit. Even after waking up middle of the night to apologize and try to basically lie to me and convince me he didn’t mean how he behaved, I was so done. Bitch I was studying neuro, studying pathways of the mind and trying to pass my exams and all you cared about was to cuddle with you after spending 6 hours doing some useless shit I have no fucks about? Get the fuck outta here

@priyac1944

4 жыл бұрын

He should have been getting you your favourite food and leaving promptly ....not asking you to accompany him to some dumbass exhibition!! A woman would be expected to stay away while a man doing the same as you....as "he is under a lot of pressure " ,"he is very busy " 👏👏👏👏for leaving!!

@kaleyjoplinRAWRR

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah My ex was like that too ..That’s why he’s my ex now lol 😂 I was getting my Masters and I was working full time. It was so incredibly stressful for me but all he did was make things more stressful. He became super whiny and would get mad when I had to study... 😒I feel you!

@elana7249

4 жыл бұрын

3 hours of your time when you have a neuroanatomy exam is SO GENEROUS! the fact that he wasted your time like that for this fool makes my blood boil. as a nursing student i don’t play around when it comes to studying and for someone to get mad at you for that is preposterous. it’s a good thing you left that type of dynamic!

@kellypantss

4 жыл бұрын

OMG girl, I feel you. In my early 20s I was studying in university. I was at my ex boyfriends (he wanted me at his house ALL the time). I was writing an essay on my laptop and he stormed in after work and freaked out that the house was messy and started slamming the cupboard doors. Hes like "you can't clean because you're doing your essay, really?" Like it was ridiculous I was doing that. Its like excuse me? I pay thousands of dollars for these classes idgaf about your place not being clean. Makes my blood boil thinking about it lol

@kaleyjoplinRAWRR

4 жыл бұрын

Christina Bee lol my own mom did that to me. That’s when I knew I needed to move out haha.. she couldn’t understand that either

Ugh men stop going after independent women when in reality you want a Carol Brady!!

@marat.8866

4 жыл бұрын

OMG. Delusional women. Are you ever aware of your own faults?

@vliciouss

4 жыл бұрын

Lol yes !

@reilly6688

4 жыл бұрын

@@wednesdaysdoll I really think it's similar to when short men go after tall women, losers and insecure men are drawn to successful confident women. The women have something the guy wants but when they get her they realize it doesn't change their own situation and that just makes them resentful towards her, so they try to tear her down. In some country in central asia men abduct the most promising aspiring young women such as medical students just so they can turn them into stay at home wives in their village. It's like the fact they're successful and smart makes them a more valuable possession even though it's all wasted. The men of course aren't worth shit.

@maebandy

4 жыл бұрын

He didn't want a Carol Brady he knew she plagued with body issues and addiction problems that would cripple her into remaining his waifish rich side piece forever. Things crumbled because she either got worse or worse for him got better.

@Margatatials

4 жыл бұрын

like seriously be honest guys, I am sure there are girls out there that would actually want that stop wasting the independent girls' time

I love how your haters would never post a review to this type of content that is genuinely helpful and many need to hear but they will pick the one potentially controversial video. This is KZread. Everyone click baits, everyone embellishes. This is quality content right here. Many of your videos have allowed me to look at the things I deal with in a different light. Thank you!

@salutediana

4 жыл бұрын

literally 💯

@ajbcreationsmt

4 жыл бұрын

Perfectly said.

@elana7249

4 жыл бұрын

well said! this is one of her most helpful videos to date!

@babyfish1083

4 жыл бұрын

True, and not to mention Shallon is a great orator. The way she presents her ideas never bores.

A family friend thought he had covid and wanted his mistress there with him by his bedside. He has a wife. But it turns out he didn’t even have covid and now he’s just moved the mistress in with them, and the wife can’t leave because of lockdown. Reminds me a bit of this. I know tho, it’s messed up.

@just1desi

4 жыл бұрын

Blue Swan 🤣 lord. Mistresses are as old as time and most well off wives don’t mind as long as they can keep their status and have legacy for their children. But theres meant to be separation. This behavior is just disrespectful. Wives deserve the right to pretend mistresses don’t exist. They aren’t meant to know for sure.

@blueswan7655

4 жыл бұрын

just1desi and especially not to live together

@just1desi

4 жыл бұрын

Blue Swan right. I shouldn’t meet your mistress until she shows up uninvited at the funeral lol. If I see a young thing there I’ll know not to ask who she’s there with and keep it moving. Frankly a man who’d bring his mistress around is not respectful enough to use protection while cheating. Best leave him for the sanctity of your own body

@blueswan7655

4 жыл бұрын

just1desi I know. I feel bad for her tho because she has to stay until lockdown ends

@kristina160497

4 жыл бұрын

WTF?! WTF IS HIS WIFE THINKING HAVING HERS HUSBAND LOVER IN HER HOME AT FIRST PLACE REGARDLESS OF THE FACT IF HER HUSBAND HAS CORONA VIRUS OR IS ON HIS DIEING BED! WTF IS HE THINKING HAVING HIS MISTRESS LIVING WITH HIM ON LOCK DOWN?! WTF IS HIS MISTRESS DOING AT THE HOME HE HAS WITH HIS WIFE?! WTF 🤪🤯🥴

At 17 I had a boyfriend who would constantly tell me I was going to fail my grades, told me I was studying wrong, told me I wouldn't get into the university I wanted. It has been 4 years and I still hear his voice whenever I get a bad grade. His words has followed me everywhere.

@oreas1372

4 жыл бұрын

That idiot, time to reprogram by your own affirmations, don't let yourself be brought down by a guy like this.

@Blue.velvet.0124

4 жыл бұрын

@@oreas1372 Yes

@amyl2442

4 жыл бұрын

💔💔💔

@redss111

4 жыл бұрын

Uhh, so true. It haunts.

@kp4911

4 жыл бұрын

You're boyfriend lied to you because he was a weak, pathetic, mentally abusive, insecure POS. Unfortunately, our brains lies to us, as well. The brain is an amazing organ, but it does have negative bias in thoughts thanks to that pesky limbic system and, specifically, the amygdala. In order to dispute these lies, we must use our prefrontal cortex, which is executive functioning, logic, reasoning, to dispute the lies. Your ex needed to keep you small, so he nurtured a great deal of shame within you and that's hard to overcome, but it is possible. When you struggle to dispute that voice, become objective and non-judgmental. Look at the facts, which are what you have accomplished in your life, how inherently good a person you are, how you would never do to another person what your ex has done to you. Recognize the lies because they have zero merit. You know your truth.

He moved his ex wife and their kids into one of their homes without Mary Kates consent is what I read. Since they split he has been spotted with that said Ex wife.

@CR-ce5lf

4 жыл бұрын

And that’s why sis left. There’s nothing wrong with the kids being there but the ex wife can stay down the block at a home he rented for her tf

@njc1304

4 жыл бұрын

And he's a billionaire, I don't know maybe Hundred millionaire, point is he could have bought them a house. It's not like she was going to be out on the streets. He meant this to be a power move.

@soulsearchtarot

4 жыл бұрын

@@CR-ce5lf And away from her kids during a pandemic? What mother would allow that? See, this is why divorce sucks, esp. for the kids

@TimoteoDeBaum

4 жыл бұрын

Honestly that makes me clap for mary Kate... that can’t be a easy decision. Good thing they didn’t have children

“READ...THE ROOM, LIL” I couldn’t stop laughing😂

This video feels different. Feels like your pouring your heart out in here... luv ya!!

Grew up watching Mary Kate and Ashley teen movies. Could never imagine in a million years that she would end up marrying that uglass dbag. Remember all those cute guys they were "dating" in movies 😭😭😭

@maheenm.k1015

4 жыл бұрын

And they were into them too! I remember an interview where they talked about how they would argue about which cute boy they want to play their love interest and the director would let them pick out of a bunch of cute guys.

Many men, especially those with tons of money just want a housewife to raise kids , they rarely pick a woman with a big career , cause tbh , a huge career requires a lot of effort and time. I've spent years trying to educate myself and fight for a better future and all the men with education and money that I've met they only want a normal , pretty , funny girl . Just my opinion......

@pri.sci.lla.

4 жыл бұрын

Yep they want trophy wives not a career women. It stems from insecurity. An alpha will want a potential love interest to be successful in her own right.

@ygujt

4 жыл бұрын

@@pri.sci.lla. you'll rarely find one

@pri.sci.lla.

4 жыл бұрын

Bumblebee not if you know where to look, I found one in high school and I’ve been with him since.

@live.life.secure.coaching

4 жыл бұрын

So true!

@janviprakash3383

4 жыл бұрын

@@Lemoncake7027 yeah and they want a wife who is dumber than them, who doesn't outshine them, but is like a pretty object who they can showoff to their friends n relatives

Lol wth is a cigarette themed party? To me it's pretty trashy.

@euricequeen842

4 жыл бұрын

And ashy.

@radrose4864

4 жыл бұрын

EuRice Queen 👏👏 excellent comment. trashy and ashy lol

@euricequeen842

4 жыл бұрын

@@radrose4864 hehehe but it would be pretty ashy right? Not that i would ever be invited to any celebrity party but a cig themed one? Oooh boy, my asthma would be wheezing!

@grazielaalmeida8438

4 жыл бұрын

For me is exotic.

@judithryle2113

4 жыл бұрын

Those girls will wind up dying from lung cancer. Both heavy smokers

i was today years old when i found out the Olsen twins are only 33 years old... 33!!!! what the heck?

@Sara-9865

4 жыл бұрын

I think they have eating disorders and it aged them

I used to watch them when I was little and they’re unrecognizable now

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Its like Leo DiCaprio...he's doesn't look like an adult just an...older child?

@izzy350

4 жыл бұрын

Shallon Lester YES

@hollyblair5778

4 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester LOLLLL. I cannot unsee this now!!

edit: I didn't consider it's pride month. That seems the more plausible reason. Plus, I'm hesitant to step on the toes of other marginalized groups. I'm glad young bi people have someone who they look up to identifying with them. Original: One of the cast members of Riverdale, Vanessa Morgan, called out the shows lack of diversity and spoke about being paid less. The show is trying to distract from the bad publicity by seeming more inclusive. Just a theory. Maybe Lili also just felt comfortable coming out because the media would be less scrutinizing with history being made right now.

@carmindi5061

4 жыл бұрын

She probably came out because it is Pride Month

@minuishaq631

4 жыл бұрын

Vile. She’s paid less. How is this shit legal? Misogyny and racism are a hell of a drug

@lovelala6861

4 жыл бұрын

​@@carmindi5061 I didn't consider that aspect.

@khia1252

4 жыл бұрын

We have to remember that they get paid by the character popularity/on screen time, if she's comparing herself to the main characters is obvious she is paid less... She doesn't have as much screen time/popularity. (just talking, that was the first time i heard about this so maybe that's not her issue, maybe she thinks she's being paid less for the same screen time, who knows ) about the representation i agree, a large representation would be nice

Their younger sister Elizabeth has always seemed much more grounded and "whole", maybe you could do a video about the difference of them being twins and never truly being alone, less sense of oneself but "two-self" and growing in the spotlight vs elizabeth not having a twin and leading a somewhat more normal life, and plus her career as an actress is going amazing

My life lesson - if he tells you who he is in the first date - believe it. I guarantee it’s 10 times worse than you imagine it

Look at the women in his family and the roles they choose. IMO it is very indicative of a man’s expectations for his wife.

@euenfheiejrj

4 жыл бұрын

Eh I agree to an extent but there’s not many woman in a family just his mom and aunts? I would add friends too

@NeeNee-mi7jy

4 жыл бұрын

Emily Browning Heyyyyyyy! So where my mind was going was my ex’s sisters, mom, aunts,etc. I was married for 24 years and he expected that I would never want to take classes or get a p/t job or have any other outlet for growth or creativity other than being a wife or mom (even though I feel like that was my BEST job ever.) I just find that Shallon raised some great questions and was answering from my experience☺️

@euenfheiejrj

4 жыл бұрын

Renee R that’s fine I’m just going based on my experience. My fiancé has one brother so the only women in his family are his mom, an aunt, and a sister in law. He doesn’t want me to be any of those so that doesn’t necessarily dictate what he looks for or wants in a relationship. HIs mother was a stay at home mom and she’s extremely clingy and doesn’t have an identity outside of that so he would prefer me to have things outside of being a mom because his mom didn’t. I think friends are better indicators in my experience because they’re individuals he choose to be around and around our age not women who are 30+ years older than we are.

@NeeNee-mi7jy

4 жыл бұрын

Emily Browning Gotcha! SSSOOOOO happy that your fiancé is a much more grounded man than my ex was! Clearly you are more fortunate than I was🤗 All the best to you ☺️

Ali Wentworth said on her first date with George she just came out and told him about her antidepressants and her desire to get married....he was completely cool with it and that's how she knew he was the one.

@emiliabolsas

4 жыл бұрын

I know a woman who met the man who is now her husband (a coach in professional sports) when she showed up to a party with her two cats. She was grieving the loss of a family member and wouldn’t leave her home unless her friend would let her bring her two cats. 🤷‍♀️

@redss111

4 жыл бұрын

@@emiliabolsas Amazing.

I haven’t dated anyone that undercuts my goals and career, but my mom has been doing that a lot to me lately. And as I get older, I see that happening more and more.

@leahjuenger4320

4 жыл бұрын

Me too. I work this corporate job I don't enjoy and work a side business that is my passion. I want to make the side business my career but my mom always undercuts it and makes me feel like it can only ever be a side business.

@just1desi

4 жыл бұрын

Many mothers are jealous of the youth and Opportunities of their daughters. Don’t let them drag you down sometimes toxic people need to be cut out of your life. Or at least minimize contact. Also hold your goals close to your chest. Stop telling them your plans and dreams entirely. They will only undermine you. Sometimes the parent is a narcissist too. Anyway. Know they love you as much as they are capable of and that will likely never be the way you wish they could love you. It may never be enough. Just accept it and move on and stop seeking their validation. It only puts you in their power so they can tear you down.

@anamhasan24

4 жыл бұрын

just1desi - thank you so much for your thoughtful response. Your advice is really helpful. Peace and love

Being single is deliciously addictive ...💗

there are going to be all kinds of pregnancies and divorces during this pandemic

@luvmelove5742

4 жыл бұрын

🙋🏽‍♀️ Pregnant 🙄😂😂

@ratherbenapping10

4 жыл бұрын

Luv me Love congrats

@luvmelove5742

4 жыл бұрын

Stef with an F thanks 😊

@princessprsh7761

4 жыл бұрын

@@luvmelove5742 congratulations ❤️

@luvmelove5742

4 жыл бұрын

Princess Prsh thank you 😊

When you said “stay home and make me a hot pocket” I loved that so much. Your dumb guy imitation is everything

My ex always used to say that he saw me as an extension of him and at the time I always saw it as a compliment but now I see that it was his way of controlling my behavior , he was narcissistic and controlling.

My ex told me he always supported my writing but would never read or share the bi-monthly articles I would publish online. I was also published in my school's literary journal and he didn't come to my reading despite being free during that time.

An ex boyfriend of mine, amongst his other charming qualities, was excessively insecure and paranoid. This was due, he claimed, to all of his previous girlfriends cheating on him. I applied to study nursing at University, but he wasn't happy because, I quote: "you might meet someone else and fancy them instead" FYI I was 33 at the time, and most of the males I was likely to meet would be 18 years old... Smh Safe to say when I didn't get onto the course he was thrilled beyond all measure because there was no chance of me running off with a student 15 years younger than me. So I dumped him. Being supportive is very important!

"I think about this every week" same tbh, I'm French and I can't imagine bowls of cigarettes at my wedding. Even for us it's a little much 😂🤣

“I think about this once a week” 😂😂😂

My gf just broke up with her bc of 4 years who leveled her constantly. He was always insecure and tore her down. Needless to say I’m so proud of her and she’s better off without him. She’s in her 40s and her mentality was that she’s wasn’t going to find another man. Ok, let me tell you she’s not only a tall gorgeous blonde, she’s a key makeup artist in the film industry and works with celebs like Keanu Reeves, she was his mua in Suburbia. He have her a bottle of wine at wrap and she said he was the sweetest man she ever worked with, which I believe. Shallow needs to do a vid on Keanu. Ok guys?? This woman actually though she couldn’t do better. WE HAVE TO START LOVING OURSELVES! Ditch him!!!

I always thought it was weird when she married him. I always forget they’re still so young because they’re an odd juxtaposition of youth and old. It must have been hard to find anyone they felt they could talk to as they are so “mature”. For for the guy to marry her and expect her to stay at home???? Of all the people in the world?

@helenarichard

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah... horrendous... having to stay home... I would love that. I would be grateful. Shop til I drop with his credit cards, make some babies, grow a garden, no stress... I think she was ungrateful to turn this down.

@maeahem

4 жыл бұрын

Long Evenings nothing wrong with staying home if that’s what you want. But it’s clearly not hers, and he knew that from the start. They didn’t seem to want kids because he has children, and she can always shop indefinitely with her money (as well as his) and grow a garden wherever. Don’t see how that equals “ungrateful”? He honestly doesn’t add a lot of anything to her life.

@maddie9655

4 жыл бұрын

Long Evenings you do realize not all women like to be tied down and not have any identity besides a man.

The first fight you have with someone is the last fight you'll have with them - BRB reflecting on that for the next 24 hours....

“If it’s fragile, let it break” has been my mantra since the first time you said it.

“Have you seen my Netflix ‏queue, I have things to watch “ 😂😂😂

I barely watch youtube anymore unless its an educational podcast in the background or about manifestation, but i still look forward to, and check for your vids at least every other day! Just figured id say something for once because im usually a silent watcher. NZ sauv blanc babes for lifeeee

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Give us Marlborough region or give us DEATH!

@dcoci

4 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester i swear you said that the ONE other time i commented something about sauv blanc hahahaha. It was some video where you were like CHARDONNAY WHITE WHINE WOMEN. If we dont share a bottle of sauv horseback at some point in life, i will not have lived 100%

One way men will control women is using chivalry and having your "best interests in mind" as a mask for controling behaviour. My besties boyfriend is controling her use of her phone and disguising it as her learning to "be more present' with people. When really he doesn't want her attention away from him, she even thanks him for it.

Damn lily read the room fr 😂

Your dad is french? Ohmygod I had no idea. Je suis anglaise mais j’habite en France et ton accent est on point haha

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Merci!!!

@violet.c

4 жыл бұрын

I never learned French in my life, but understood the whole sentence

@vondonstrut218

4 жыл бұрын

​@@violet.c lol a lot of the romance languages (spanish, french, portugeuse, italian) have roots in latin just like english so tons of the same words

Your french prononciation is 💯💯🔥🔥🔥

I got married at age 40 for the 1st and hopefully last time. Thank you Shallon for being specific about your sources of information. I am my husband's 3rd wife. When he asked me to marry him in a NYC restaurant, my 1st response was "how do you see a marriage with me playing out?" He was shocked. "Like what would you like my role and your role to be?" I asked because he has 3 children from the previous marriages, and 1 of them was 6 years old. He had full custody of a 6 year old girl even though her mother is an emergency room doctor and he is a trial lawyer. I am sooo glad I asked because his answer was "whatever you want." I then told him what I hoped for my/our life, and we agreed. I then said yes to his marriage proposal. He's a lawyer, we made an emotional, mental,, and verbal contract right then about our expectations of each other, and thankfully after 5 awesome great years of marriage, we have both kept up our ends of the family and marriage contract. Very important, we also had a good talk about money, and how/who would handle finances before even moving in together. I lived in Brooklyn, New York and he lived in Columbus, Ohio when we met in The city while he was on a case, so marrying g meant I had to move to Ohio and instantlybecome a step-mother. I cannot tell you how right you are from my own experiences. Having those discussions before marriage is why we are so happy now. Thank you.

It is so funny you mention the data collection in relationships... I asked my now husband after dating for a month or so, what his wishes were in terms of relationships and for his personal life to see if we seemed to be on the same page. We were and now, 11 years later, we still communicate like this - open and honest. I see so many friends who are so afraid of asking their boyfriend/husband questions like this. But I also think it comes down to anxiety for being left - lack of self esteem. Nevertheless, it is very sad to witness... especially when you give them advise on what to work with to improve their e.g. anxiety for getting dumped. And they simply do not want to do the work. Being fully honest about who you are and what you wish from life - towards your partner - is one of the best things I have ever done. You feel powerful, alone but also as a couple

It is very true that if you want a partner you have to know that they support the activities you do (recreational or work), I immediately got rid of two guys who mocked me for studying an art degree, and I also immediately stopped talking to a guy who mocked that I practice figure skating and ballet, because it was very disrespectful to me, I dedicate hours of my time, hope in my heart, spend a lot of money, literally sweat and cry, for a dumbass guy to tell me it's worthless No hun, what I do isn't worthless, you're worthless to me if you can't respect what I do My current boyfriend for sure is on board with whatever I do, he never complains about my career or my sport, he's very proud of me, and he says it but he also shows it through his actions: He waits to see me or text me until I'm done with my classes or my training, he has asked me what I will do for a living in the future in a very respectful way and out of curiosity rather than concern, he has accompanied me to events concerning my career so I feel more comfortable (and because I asked him to) and he has never got mad about any sensitive question I have asked to him because he wants to be honest with me So really, really, watch the actions of your partners, to know whether they are supportive or you or not, it will really save you a lot of time

@elana7249

4 жыл бұрын

how did you break it off with the guy who was disrespectful? i am curious from dealing with a similar experience but not knowing how to articulate myself

@sweetprincess787

4 жыл бұрын

@@elana7249 Honestly, I'm very harsh, I just standed up from where I was sitting near to him and told him: "I'm bored, I'm leaving" and left and didn't look back, I followed my instinct that said: Leave now You just can't negotiate with someone to respect you, they either do or not, mostly because there were mysognistic undertones, so I didn't even want to keep talking to a potential mysognist, I listened to my intuition and when it said leave, I left, and after what I told him, I didn't care about how he may feel about it and I didn't care about explaining to him that he was being disrespectful because I'm not his mom, and if a man can't respect women when they first meet them (SPECIALLY IF THEY PERSUING THEM ROMANTICALLY), then that's the fault in his upbringing and in his tiny head, and I don't want to do anything with a person like that, all I know is he never wanted to speak to me again and that's what I wanted If you're a more polite person or because of the circumstances you can't cut him off so harshly like I did, play dumb and gaslight him, because disrespectful people should be dealt with the same level of disrespect they treat others

I feel like I was that person. I always said that I supported my ex’s career and ambition - on paper, yet I was always angry that he didn’t spend time with me.. yeah that’s an unpleasant realization. This gotta change

They had bowls of cigs at their wedding for guests who smoke because (being a very private ceremony) guests were likely unable to bring personal belongings in. How that gets turned into.... the wedding was cigarette themed.... is beyond me.

I have been watching you for a while and you have always been captivating to watch. I know there was a lot of drama a month ago about your content and I feel you handled yourself well. You listened to those who mattered, your subscribers, and I personally can see a change in your videos. You are mote positive, while continuing to keep your sassy personality and commentary that I absolutely love. ❤

Shallon, we want a video about your decision to move to Montana and what's going on with Max!! Xo

@laurenschultz9781

4 жыл бұрын

marija petrovic yassssss we can’t wait👏👏

@camilagonzalez8523

4 жыл бұрын

Max? Didnt they break Up?

@marijapetrovic1659

4 жыл бұрын

@@camilagonzalez8523 they did, but she mentioned long time ago they may get back together

@camilagonzalez8523

4 жыл бұрын

@@marijapetrovic1659 ehhh I just dont see it happening after what he did. Hopefully she's fine alone!

She's a badass! She will be just fine.

With everything Shallon is put through I automatically like and comment on alll her things before watching just for support. Her intentions are always to analyze in order to become more self aware and grow. Don't act like y'all don't gossip with your friends at home with the intent to hate not with the intent to be better humans.

CIGARETTES? OMG. That's total insanity. That's disgusting. I love how you say, "I think about this once a week!" YOU ARE HILARIOUS! I'm dying. I also love your French accent and vocal fry. You're a great actress.

Lily and Cole did break up though!!! Also would you consider doing 90s model relationships? Kate Moss, Naomi Campbell, anyone you like. Please!!!

@JH-wh3jc

4 жыл бұрын

In that light I would be curious to know what the appeal of flavio briatore is.

@selinguler2202

4 жыл бұрын

Kate upton is a 90s model? 🧐

@sabrinac8453

4 жыл бұрын

@@selinguler2202 I meant to say Kate Moss

@selinguler2202

4 жыл бұрын

Sabrina C oh ok

1:45 mins into the video and had to stop pause to say YOU LOOK STUNNING!!!!!!!!!!!! My god girl 🥰😍😍😍😍

Their wedding theme was basically cancer, why are we surprised.

@emmaj3

4 жыл бұрын

Isn't there a saying about smoke? Like the smoke hides the real picture type saying.

@boobooismine1

4 жыл бұрын

Emma J fuckin BARS my dude

Things that we are afraid to ask about is the problem.

Ur hair look so freaken awesome girl

I wish I had seen this years ago. Married to someone who was attracted to me because I had great relationships with my family and friends. Career wise, I was driven and ambitious. And I was smart and funny. In the end, his biggest complaints were that I was too close to my family and friends and spent too much time on my career. His demands were for me to stop all of those relationships so I could focus on him 100%. The end of that relationship was the best thing that happened to me. I'm now closer to my family, I have more friends, and my career has sky-rocketed. I make bank, I travel the world, my circle of loved ones is amazing and I have never been happier.

Shallon, I think you are amazing. Your advice on men and relationships is dead on. Anyone who writes negative comments about you simply does not “get it.” Keep going girl! Ps. You look amazing as always:)

Shallon, no matter what others say about you, you are great. You are one of the best love coaches out there. You rock and you deserve a medal.

This new lighting is SO flattering. You look like a barbie doll (in the most positive sense)

This is random but I didn’t know they were related to the Scarlett Witch.

@BlendedBarbieDoll

4 жыл бұрын

She’s their younger sister lol

@audreysgrandchild8218

4 жыл бұрын

Who is the scarlet witch??

Lack of respect is a big thing in relationships... We need to stop putting our head in the sand with jealous, non-supportive men who can be cutting literally with their words Single is great but it took twenty years of exhaustion for me get there..very peaceful.

Part of the problem is that women and society in general have not quite realized that women do not need men. We have our own $$ and can provide for ourselves. I find that most men are really looking for someone to take care of them. Not all but most men are just not self sufficient enough. I got divorced because I was tired of the treadmill. I was running all the errands and he...was at home...not helping out. Thats been my experience.

@makeitcount2985

4 жыл бұрын

This is very true and men always look for someone to take care of them. I want a partner, a decent intelligent man. These men are unicorns. I've met so many men who really don't have their stuff together, they are just boys looking for a substitute for their mommy. I doubt that I will marry, I don't see the benefit to women.

I'm loving these softer brows and brown eyelashes on you darling! Gives you this angelic glow and it blends so pleasantly with your blonde hair and rosy complexion.

Lilli may want to be considered for the open Batgirl role. Apparently the network wants to replace Ruby Rose with another LGBTQ+ person.

I cannot express enough how grateful I am to you Thank you God for this gift that is you

Ah! This video definitely made me bettter understand why my ex and I didn't work out. I didn't understand him and he didn't understand me, which led to us both trying to control each other and manipulate each other into becoming each other's "ideal". He would try to attack my career (I'm a teacher) by comparing me to his sister (who is in the same field as I am but who was still a student in Teacher's College and trying to get into the field, whereas I was already working and had been for about half a year by that time) which pissed me off. When I felt the need to vent about how I had issues with kids and how rude some of them were, he'd say how his sister didn't experience the same hardships and how she's better suited for the role cause she had been a dance instructor and knew how to work with kids better and all this shit. It always made me feel so hurt because I had worked so hard to become a teacher and I had the bad luck of ending up at a difficult school in my first year and felt really unprepared for it...I, on the other hand, would complain about his lack of religious beliefs and try to get him to be more religious because that's something that I value and that's a deal breaker for me (he came from a Catholic background but because he was forced to go to Catholic school, he stopped believing in organized religion so he wasn't open to practicing his religion). By the end of our relationship, we were both at each other's throats and fought over the same issues because neither of us would back down on what we valued and expected the other to give in. Like you said, the first fight is the most telling for sure. IF the issue is not resolvable, the two people need to break up and go their own way. No amount of time will fix things. Even if one person does change, that person can later become resentful if they changed to please the other person because he/she won't feel like he/she is being their authentic self. Anyhow, the point is, ever since I've started watching your videos, I feel like I've grown so much and learned to be true to who I am and what I want, to stand my ground on what I value, to put up healthy boundaries, and yet I also think I'm more empathetic now because I've started to understand other people's perspectives on important issues. Thank you, Shallon! You truly are the best! 💕

Ohh gawd it's so true! Every guy even my ex husband loved certain characteristics about me then hated those at the end. They totally flip. It's confusing.

“Will Oliver (sp?) love again? Even with that face, yes.” HA I’m dead from laughing. 💀

Shallon looks so pretty in this 💜 that hair!

Well said!! Thank you from a single 36yr old ;)

I recently learned to ask everyone who might be in my life in any close way so many more questions - so much earlier - than I usually do (not necessarily all at once, but some of them throughout a conversation - not an interrogation - & I can respond to appropriate questions asked to me, too, but I'd rather listen more, at least at first, and always keep listening - people like to talk a lot so it's easy). I'm asking things right away like: What do you think of BLM? (I learned I know a few racists...it wasn't great.) What is your biggest goal & why? What change would you like in the world? What was your greatest obstacle? Did you/ how did you overcome it? How do you feel? What is your greatest achievement? How did you accomplish it? How did/do you feel? How would you spend your time for a year if you could do anything you want and it's all paid for? What are your favourite books? Why? With which fictional character from any book, movie, song, play, picture do you most identify? Why? Who do you think you'd like to swap lives with for a bit? Why? Thoughts on drugs? Do you believe COVID-19 exists? If so, do you know or have thoughts from where it originated? Do you think its origins are malicious or unfortunate? Did you quarantine? If so, at what point? Do you wear a mask every time you go out? Where do you go out? Where would you like to go out? What's your family like & who are you within the family dynamics? Who in your family and friends do you love most; are most similar to; are most protective of; have the most difficult time getting along with; have an easy relationship with? Why? What have you recently learned, how did you learn it, how did it change you? (I'm not at the marriage/children phase in any way whatsoever so I don't have to ask much more important questions, but I know if that's where I'd be I would ask the important questions very early on, for safety, knowledge, and to not waste anyone's time.)

@warmcozy

4 жыл бұрын

Emuna Bee My questions are: 1) Are you married? 2) Are you living with anyone? (At my age, that should be a definite no, regardless of the situation.) 3) What’s your career?

i know this might seem like a weird request, but in your next videos could you zoom in a bit or rearrange the camera so there‘s not that part of wall showing on your left? i keep staring at it and having to rewind the video. absolutely love the color palette tho

@LiLa-yb4om

4 жыл бұрын

I Love the Background. Sounds a Lot Like a Problem of yours with concentrating

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

lol yes i'm a symmetry freak too!

..... It’s pride month. This is literally the perfect time to come out.

"If it's fragile let it break!" amen to that

Hey shallon, that’s not what splitting is. I know you bring up BPD a lot and as someone with BPD who is continuously educating myself on the disorder I totally understand where you’re coming from and the points you’re making a lot of the time but sometimes what you say isn’t entirely accurate about BPD. I’ve commented before that you should check out “I Hate You Don’t Leave Me” as it goes over different cases and how that impacts the behavior that is displayed in adulthood. Anywho, splitting isn’t done as a malicious way to get power (I’m not saying manipulation isn’t a big part of BPD but this particular symptom isn’t that) splitting happens when idealization becomes devaluation because the person you idealized or just had a specific view of does something that does not align with that view so you devalue them to make the cognitive dissonance of what you believe vs the actions in front of you make sense. Obviously it’s not the persons actions that are bad but how the borderline views it. It comes back to black and white thinking and the inability or great difficulty in seeing shades of grey even in people. Hope this was informative :)

I had one of those.... He told me he didn't like my shoes on the first date I broke up with him via text I was DONE

Can you make a video about Nicolas Sarkozy and Carla Bruno, please ?

@DZNnss

4 жыл бұрын

Bruni*

I stumbled upon your channel a few days ago and love your content and POV!! :) New subscriber

I know this isnt exactly on topic per say, but I think this might help some people. My dear friend/husband/father of my child and I broke up in 2017. We are still technically married and living under the same roof, but there was some logistical reasons for that that which involve (but are not limited to) raising our son who has special needs and granting the two of them the kind of time together that so many children and divorced fathers could only dream of. The road to our break up was a long one, but to cut it short and keep it relatable, we kept trying to make things work (something Shallon mentions now and then as the equivalent of flogging a dead horse, but I didnt have Shallon back then) and I eventually came to the conclusion that while I loved him, I was no longer IN love with him. And I had a series of epiphanies that were messages from the goddess of love herself that said "if you feel like this, then its possible that he does too and hasn't realised it yet", "with medical science constantly improving, you could easily live to 100, do you want to spend the next 40/50/60yrs with someone you arent passionately in love with? Could you, would you do that to him?" And finally the one that really hit me as a message from god herself, "would you be honouring your vows to god to love and cherish someone by staying, or would you be honouring them by setting them free? Would you be breaking them if you continued to love and cherish after the paperwork is finalized?" So yeah. Maybe this might help some people who are themselves wondering if they are doing the right thing by remaining married or not wanting to ruin what might be an otherwise wonderful marriage but for the "in love" aspect, maybe it will give another lense to veiw love and marriage and the spiritual aspect to it for those who value it, maybe it will help unmarried people veiw love and marriage with more clarity. 🤷🏼‍♀️ who knows. But I wanted to share just in case theres just one person out there who needed to hear it for whatever reason. For anyone interested in how its worked out: The breakup was awkward and awful (as they all are) Id never broken up with anyone before so it was a weird first. We had a tough couple of months while he processed, since Id already processed, and Id say it was about 4mths of passive agression before he came to me and said "you were right." We didnt tell our then 5yo for a while, he was about to start school and had enough on his plate, and his dad was already basically living on the couch so when he set up in the spare room, it wasnt strange. Telling him was easier than we thought, but then we do still love each other as family so it maybe wasnt as big a thing to process that "we are still family, but we are better to be just best friends" while still under the same roof. It was important to us moving forward to have mutually agreed upon boundaries and THOROUGH communication regarding expectations for the future and how we will raise our child and dating and everything else. Even so far as discussing concerns about the others dates perceptions of our situation and what our priorities are regarding our weird little family unit. We've worked damn hard to be emotionally and mentally mature to create and maintain this to be as healthy and loving and positive as possible for all. (we are still thoroughly communicating about everything, otherwise it wouldnt work) we pretty quickly found that it was a LOT easier to live peacefully and happily together without the pressure of trying to "make it work" and encouraging each other to find happiness in whatever way we need. Hes been dating, Ive been focusing on myself and my goals. We raise our son together, take him to drs appts together, are always able to stay on the same page about what he needs and wants and likes, etc. We're pretty proud of our little family, and we look forward to adding to it if/when the time comes. And unlike my childhood, our son doesnt have a clue that most divorces end bitterly and viciously. That the children are used as weapons against the other for their petty vengeance, or that the children are shuttled from one home to another based on what the courts say. Not a clue that divorce is usually a painful experience that wittles your entire relationship span, parenthood beginnings and shared happiness down to the dividing of property and money and how much money needs to be paid for the children. He just knows that we have separate rooms and sometimes dad goes out on dates and doesnt come back til the next day. That he can climb into either of our beds when he has a nightmare. Bit long, sorry. But its important to me that I might be able to add value here somehow.

Has anyone ever pointed out that your videos have I think... virtually no jump cuts. That is extremely impressive

@cocodollydear9

4 жыл бұрын

I believe she’s mentioned that she does them in one take! Shallon is amazing :)

I guess I’m different. I was a hard working lawyer who was looking for a man who wanted me to be a stay at home mom. Thank God I got a hard working Lawyer who loves my decision and I’m happy 😊

@lamingtongirl123

3 жыл бұрын

You are living my dream. Ain’t nobody trying to work until they die 😭

Girl, Montana looks great on you! You're glowing! Your eyes are so so bright, green is your colour! Also, whoever did your lip injection is an absolute artist! For real.

I'm married and I have a kid they're both amazing and wonderful, would not trade either one for the world. But sometimes I wish I had a career I'm creeping up in my late 20s and don't have much to show for it on an individual level. I feel blessed to be a stay at home mom, but then I look at people like Rachel bloom and wonder wtf I'm doing with my life thats just for me. 🤷‍♀️

@shallonlester

4 жыл бұрын

Late 20s is NOTHING! You have all the time in the world to go after your dreams; just start small. Start with some classes, maybe a small side hustle, a project, a craft, and practice incorporating that more and more into your daily life rather than BOOM here I go to an OFFICE 40 hours a week. If you make it a mental priority, it'll be easier to make it a logisitical priority!

@just1desi

4 жыл бұрын

Babe don’t throw away what you have. You’re perfectly situated to pursue a passion. Figure out what you enjoy doing. Learn a skill from home. Take a class in coding at a community college a couple nights a week. Take one course for credits every few months online in a subject you find interesting. Relax and take in slow. You can earn a degree at your own pace. You can train in something new. You can learn to sew. Learn to draw. Start an online business in something that doesn’t feel like work. And have a side bank account that your husband doesn’t know about for special savings that your own secret stash. Women through the ages do this. It’s not being dishonest. But you need this nest egg built up through the years so if your marriage ever falls apart you have the the luxury of taking your time to get on your feet. And if you never need it you can take your husband on a surprise retirement trip when y’all are both 65.

@kp4911

4 жыл бұрын

It's not too late. If you are worried about education, it will always be there. There is no age restriction. I have two master's degrees, one I got in my late 20s/early 30s and one I got in my late 40s to start a brand new career. When the recession hit in 2009, I lost everything and had to start all over again. I had to take out loans to survive as a student for the second time (I am not married, no husband to support me during the dark times) and I supplemented my income with my hobby. I sold my art on etsy. I shuttered my etsy shop when I started to pursue my licensure. It's been at least 5 years and I still get people emailing me, begging me to start making my sculptures again. There is opportunity, even when it feels like loss, setbacks and isolation. Trust in yourself to find a path.

"have you seen my Netflix...? I have things to watch" LOL

This is so true. My ex-husband wanted me to stay at home or travel with him and when I didn't want to he would go anyway. He wasn't a horrible person but 21 years older and it wasn't a good match. I'm now with a man 7 years younger and so happy!

I volunteer as tribute to be a stay at home wife for a wealthy Frenchman

@maebandy

4 жыл бұрын

I volunteer to be the quiet and classy kept girlfriend at the pied a terre. I have a feeling this one wasn't as flush as he looked though and he loved MK's financial fluidity as much as her fragility.

my Ex used to talk about how we would "still hook up" when we broke up this was year 3 of 5 when he started saying this lol the red-est of flags hahahah

@avawilliams5827

4 жыл бұрын

That flag is glowing and doing somersaults

Thank you for making this video Shallon. It's really good.

“Make me a hot pocket” Lololol 🤣🤣🤣 I laughed for like 10 minutes

I don’t feel like I can talk to my boyfriend (ex boyfriend as of one hour ago) about my feelings. He’s Russian and “cold” and is literally the most sensitive guy/person etc I have ever met! Like how are you cold and sensitive?? I never felt like he put my feelings ahead of his even though I felt the need to put his in front of my own -red flag- I just couldn’t do it anymore. Alexa play “I deserve better” by Meghan Trainor

Omg I've been waiting for this!! 👀👀📝📝

This was very hepful.