The Noble Marriage | Marriage Help for Betrayal
The Noble Marriage | Marriage Help for Betrayal
Betrayal feels like an unrelenting storm-filled with secrets, worry, fear, and loneliness. We've been there; we understand & we want to support you!
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But holding my spouse responsible for my feelings is never a good path to follow.
Please pray for Richard and Molly Kenney that the Lord brings them back together ❤
Absolutely when there is to much wound, we need healing. A healing to find forgiveness so that we can one day serve eachother with love and love selfishly. Fighting to keep the marriage without giving up. It's going to take time and trusting God.
Praying for this healing in my marriage. ❤😢
I pray for that also. Amen
Thank you thank you for these podcasts! I have been following yall for awhile and I have learned so much especially with having to forgive my husband for his infidelity. But also learning to take a look at myself and leaening to focus on my relationship with God and to realize my ungodly character throughout the years! Travis and Adelle....yall are doing the Lord's Work! ❤
Wow praise the Lord and thank you for sharing this! It filled our hearts with so much joy to see healing on the other side of what we do. Thank you for sharing so vulnerably with us. I pray your marriage continues to heal and be strengthened through watching our episodes!
Again, just want to thank y’all for doing what you do. Y’all have been integral to helping me and my wife heal from my failures with sex addiction and infidelity. Never be able to show my appreciation for that.
@@Unpassive I really appreciate this acknowledgment! Praise God for this praise report of healing for you both! I pray for even more! God bless you both!
I'm here, too 🙂
Thank you for being here for our live video. We appreciate you and your support .
Happy to be here!
YAY!!! Hey Friend! Thanks for being here!!
I’m from Michigan. Pray for my wife and I please
Absolutely! And here is our series on prayer during this season you are going through: kzread.info/head/PL_qjPvk2kzznkeClnZg6zXwHXqN7Zgdvx&si=gxurI2Z-Hq9eyo3r
Bloody hell arent you negative.i think that might say more about how you treat prople than the orher way round On the other hand within a group dynamics you just need one ducked up person who is determined destroy you and they'll all turm against you
Thank you for watching our short video and commenting on it. I can understand where you are coming from if taken out of context. Hopefully you are able to enjoy the full episode. God bless and thanks again for watching.
Good communication, can heal heal those wounds, giving up doesn't......
Amen
#truth!!
I'm curious what is this men's group you're in? My husband needs this in his life.
I’m not sure the name. You may be able to search for one or check out the resource section of Covenant Eyes.
Amen 🙏
Amen
What tools did you use, how did you overcome the porn addiction? Thanks!
I'm curious how the secret was found out. Did you confess or did your wife end up discovering evidence?
Thanks for this conversation! My favorite part was actually the beginning, seeing you both model genuine and specific gratitude and appreciation for the other. That was soooo cool to see :D I question I was interested in hearing you discuss (on the topic of friendships), is how you navigate friendships with the opposite sex. Do either of you have any deep/close friendships with the opposite sex? If so, what does that look/sound like. How do you navigate that with your spouse. But basically addressing the topic of opposite sex friendships when married. And if you have any healthy examples of that you could share about. But if you covered this topic on another video, sorry if I missed that one :D
Thank you for doing these. I look for these podcasts for any kind of hope and encouragement I can get. I've been trying to get my unfaithful husband to see that his defensiveness is hurting us for 25 years. He still doesn't see it and I've done this entire healing journey alone while dragging him along. I'm exhausted. I love him so much but I'm so tired. I think the analogy of giving the betrayed the weight didn't express the realization that the unfaithful had been busy building up to that weight for years and had time grow into holding up that weight. The betrayed gets it handed to her all at once. I don't think anyone who hasn't been the betrayed actually understand the difference. And the amount of trauma it does to a body. You can't just go lift 300 lbs. Thank you for helping all involved, both the betrayed and unfaithful.
I pray for your heart and for your husband’s heart to heal open. You are correct. You can’t drag him along. He will resist and feel controlled and it becomes a parent/ child co- dependent relationship. You work diligently on your heart and relationship with Jesus and be a great example. And let him know you are done trying to control or fix him and you pray he chooses the marriage and chooses you. I hope that is helpful. God bless you.
if someone had an affair on me I'm going to retaliate
Thank you for watching our videos and for your comment! It makes a lot of sense and seems like a reasonable response. However, you will not feel satisfied with yourself when you are done. There is not retaliation you can possibly come up with that will satisfy the pain. Thanks again for your comment and for watching the videos! God bless you.
Why do cheaters have excuses for their actions
Because cheaters are much like murderers, liars, thieves, gossipers, gluttony- when we miss the mark we have a choice of being personally responsible for our actions or not. And those of us who are cowards in our sin will be victims and shift blame. Blame and victimization all started in Genesis 3:10.
Great insights here. So good to learn how blaming others leads downhill, even so far as to addiction. The bad news is small steps down eventually lead to hell. The good news is small steps up lead eventually to heaven. Thank you for sharing so vulnerably.
Well said!
Trust has not yet been repaired in our relationship after porn, and my husband wants to replace his addiction with swimming. It’s a great choice, but I’m SO uncomfortable with him being around women in swimsuits since he was doing it behind my back while he continued to relapse. Now he says he’s gone without porn for nearly six months and feels that I just don’t want him to go swim, and swimming isn’t really the issue…it’s trust. ??? What to do…
Thanks for sharing this. He hears you as saying he can’t swim. He doesn’t hear your heart saying that you are hurt from his previous actions and that in this season of your life building trust is important. And his words and actions must align and be trustworthy. I pray he is able to hear your heart. There could be other options available if truly swimming was the ultimate way for him to have a hobby. All male pool, off hours, private pool, etc. it’s also important to know that replacing a bad habit with a good habit is NOT healing. It is making temporary better choices. However, it’s not healing. Healing comes from a surrender and personal relationship with Jesus Christ. And He heals us. Swimming is a hobby used as a distraction that can help.
Very true!
This is so good. People need to understand there are so many ways of being addicted that you wouldn’t even think is considered an addiction
Thank you so much for this!! I appreciate you!
What if they're dealing with penis addiction?
My wife just told me 3days ago she cheated last year it's crushing me I can't stop crying. I would love a word from anyone I can't stop this pain. 😢😢
My wife had an affair we mended our marriage and then I cheated. We are separated and it's the hardest thing I've ever been through. With God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. Give me a personal contact and we can talk.
@@dwightmullins7379 I don't have any social media sorry but thnx for the response. I'm crying as I type this.
I am so sorry for what you’re going through. Seek God and pray for comfort and peace and guidance. Continue to watch these marriage restoration videos. It is possible to get through it. Just pray to God to help you get through it.
@@Kailsahisami1434 thnx I'm definitely Watching videos they are helping. It's really nice to see people who don't think I'm crazy for loving my wife still and trying to move forward
I’m so sorry to hear this! I can’t imagine what you are feeling. I pray for Gods supernatural peace to be over you and guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus. I pray that you are surrounded by people who will encourage you and speak life and hope into you. There is hope and healing! Please reach out to us if we can support you. [email protected]
Being afraid of the people in your life! I get it! What is your answer to having no one to be afraid of? No one to answer to? How do you change course?
I want someone to answer to. Otherwise I’m being my own God. And I’ve done that for too long. I turn it all over to Jesus Christ. And when I have a right view of my identity is a child of God and my purpose is to love. Then I can be fine with what other people think. Thanks for commenting!
Have you ever tried to fix yourself? Did it work?
What healthy ways have you discovered?
Thanks for sharing! ❤Amen I understand where both of you were coming from. I also believe another reason why some women don't like to honor their husband "too much" is because of the lack of honor they feel from the husband, such as not affirming her enough privately or publicly. Some women begin to fall back. I know of situations where its only ONE person doing all the honoring and the relationship is one-sided in that way. Enjoyed the discussion! 💕
Absolutely! Thank you for watching!
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need help! your testimony has given me such hope. My family has been under serious spiritual warfare for 2 years + feeling weary, need support. can someone contact me? DebraT
Today's conversation is so needed in our society today! Please share with others to get this video out to more for healing around addictions of all kinds!
How about known expectations not being met?
Known expectations not being met? If they are agreed upon then there is broken trust. Then that will need to be cleaned up. The person can be in integrity by humbling themselves. Apologizing and then revisiting the expectation and either recommit to it or adjust it with both spouses agreeing on it. Hope that helps. God bless you
I'm going through about the same thing but different. After 20 years of marriage, my wife left me. The split was not of me or her cheating but lies and false allegations tore the marriage apart, 20 years down the tudes and frankly it does not look promising for reconciliation especially with outsdie interference from her kids, well 2 of the four and a daugter in law. The lord is great and i pray his will be done, not my will but his
Thank you for sharing. I pray for restoration of your hearts, of your marriage and of your entire family in the mighty name of Jesus! Amen. There is nothing that He can’t do!
Thank you both for sharing your testimony.
Thanks for listening
My wife won't ever change, she is married to me, but she is on her 3rd boyfriend this year already, I saw videos of her having sex with another man on her phone and it was so traumatizing, I don't think she will change anytime soon. What catalyzed all this was my addiction to pornography, which I am still struggling with.
I’m so sorry to hear this! Thank you for your vulnerability. I want to give you hope that there is nothing that our God can’t do. Your wife CAN change. I promise that. It requires a humble, open heart though. Pray for her heart to soften and open to God’s truth. Pray that her eyes will be opened in the name of Jesus. I pray peace and wisdom over you.
I feel sorry for you to have to deal with your spouse cheating. Weak mind character and spirit. Your gorgeous and if a man cheats on you what chance do any of us have? This world is sickening
Thank you for watching this video and for your comment. I can relate to your thoughts. There is no excuse for his actions! He was wrong. And in our experience in our marriage and coaching numerous other marriages we can see a larger picture of what’s going on deeper within. Not as an excuse but a way to help heal our hearts from junk from our past that we all experience in life.
@@TheNobleMarriage hi. I understand that and your blessed to have a forgiving and understanding spirit. My concern is a deeply regrettable mistake is one thing but how to trust again and not fear that it's a personality flaw or a new deeply rooted problem/ stronghold. Guess I'm working on forgiveness and trusting in the Lord to protect me even if that means I need protection from the one I love. This world is full of temptation and people with no morals trying to destroy 20+ yrs marraiges.
@@billybladezz9370yes!! Trust!!! That is a difficult and challenging road to travel. I’m sorry you are going through betrayal. We believe there are very healthy ways to establish trust again and ways to tear trust down. 1. Discovery vs disclosure. If a betrayed spouse is having to “investigate” (discovery) they are losing trust in their spouse. If the betrayer is being open and disclosing everything needed, it is building trust. Next is integrity: in order to build trust it requires a person to be in integrity. Their words and their actions will need to consistently line up with who they are commited to being. And when they are out of integrity they have to get back in integrity with communication. We do not recommend just trusting. We recommend observing and looking for trust building words and actions and acknowledging these words and actions that you want repeated. God bless you!!
@@TheNobleMarriage thank you kindly for your words and time in replying!! I wish you all the best and may the Lord have mercy on us all and guide us!! Also your doing great work by bringing these tough topics to light :) The Lord can take what is bad and turn it to good for those that love Him!
Insecure fat guy cheats on wife…classic
God can also change a heart in someone that is unwilling in the moment to fight for their marriage. It does not need two people. One spouse can stand for their marriage and pray for their covenant spouse’s heart to be turned back towards God who will then bring that spouse home. I’ve seen it many times People standing for their marriages for years sometimes 7, 9 or 13 years and that spouse returns home! It’s an absolute miracle. Too many people move on to other relationships and abandon their vow “in good times and in bad.” Israel was unfaithful to the Lord many many times. He may have “divorced” them due to their repeated adultery, but God did not find a new spouse. He accepted Israel back..His desire and Will is always for reconciliation 🙏
Amen 1000x!! Thank you for this truth!
Am praying for this kind of healing in my marriage. Where we shall both reach a level of growth and maturity in Christ....
Amen!
$33 per month can be a lot for some people. I wish these community could be free.
Thank you for sharing this! I agree. The investment may not be for everyone. Thankfully there are tons of free options as well. You can view hundreds of free marriage videos on KZread and numerous other platforms. Church routinely have free marriage events. If you go to our website click on the freebies page and download any of the material you would like. If you find something on our academy that you would like a scholarship for, let us know. God bless you! thenoblemarriage.com/
Amen and yes!!!
Knowing we are not what we're told we are is so liberating. Acknowledging this is freeing. Find your soul.
Amen!
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Anyone else feel this way?
What Dr. Benzio said is sooo true. Unfortunately, I’m hearing this now and my husband who had a lot of intrapersonal turmoil , we had interpersonal conflicts and faith got so foggy couldn’t get out of the pit he got himself into and ended his life . I wish now that I jumped into your coaching offer and maybe we have avoided these pitfalls and maybe he is still alive and not as ignorant and making better decisions .
Oh my heart breaks reading this comment. I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you must be feeling. Navigating inner turmoil is extremely challenging. I’m praying that God comforts and guides you during this time of grief and sadness and brings you a new perspective of life and His purpose for you! Thank you for watching.
Going through that at the moment and you have explained it unbelievably accurately. You could be talking about our exact situation. It feels like that now, have given my spouse over to God. I will continue to work on 'my side of the street' and trust God with the process. Because in the natural she is gone and not coming back
Thank you for sharing your story and being vulnerable on this platform. What you guys went through is very similar to what my husband and I went through and are trying to grow from it now. You have no idea how much you have helped us and given me hope for our marriage and future. God Bless you and your family!
Thank you for this! You blessed our hearts today! We are grateful these videos have helped. I pray for continued healing in your marriage in the name of Jesus. Amen.
Great stuff as always, y’all. Even through all the work I’ve been doing and with what the discussion was today, I just now realized that a big piece of my caring what people thought about me came from my mother. Even though I swore I didn’t care what people thought about me, I constantly sought acceptance and validation. Thanks for helping me find another piece of where that came from!!
Amen!! Thank you for this! God bless you
I think Im going to be listening to this again and again and again. Thank you for your faithfulness and for pointing back to God.
They are such a sweet couple! And we love their music. So glad this video has you reflecting and making a difference in your life.