If my ex goes out and dated someone else then comes back to me, I won't take her back.

@beaublanton7788

3 ай бұрын

Don't take them back regardless, have some self respect

@PlaywithDaisy

3 ай бұрын

Even if you broke up with them?

@beaublanton7788

3 ай бұрын

@@PlaywithDaisy yea why would you want to go backwards in life, it obviously didn't work out for a reason. And in reality people tend to not change all that much. That's like throwing water on a fire then trying to relight wet wood like nothing happened, it never works. It only causes more pain and suffering

@user-gs9mm1vw5v

3 ай бұрын

@@beaublanton7788forgiveness is love. Forgive but don’t forget. Anything can be rekindled, you can still take an ex back and maintain your self respect. They just have to earn you and recognize and respect your worth. It’s not impossible, but not guaranteed either. Power of faith bruv, faith the size of a mustard seed can move a mountain. But whether the mountain will move or not is gods will not yours. Faith without action is dead. Couple this with the law of attraction, law of assumption, and law of accumulation. And nothing is impossible.

@PlaywithDaisy

3 ай бұрын

@@beaublanton7788 true

That keith Lee affect analogy is 100% truth. I had an ex hit me up last week after 16 years. I actually forgot all about her. I always tell people, the one major decision is life changing. If you are a good person, I promise you. They will NEVER forget you. Update: I’ll do my best not to make it long. We met up at BJ’s restaurant, we mostly communicated through text messages. I ended up being there first, as she walked. I stood up and greeted her with a hug, she started to cry. As we waited to be seated we chatted a little bit. I didn’t want to get in a deep conversation with people all around us. Once we got the table situated, I told her you have the floor. She thanks me for meeting up with me after 16 years. She gave me a run down of all what transpired in her life over the years we didn’t speak. I won’t go to deep into that conversation. She told me, I remember the things you use to say to me. I use to tell her, why are you SORRY for what you did. You knew exactly what you’re where doing at the time you did it. You told me 16 years ago, where in the Bible does it say sorry? You taught me to ask for Forgiveness. I’m asking you tonight to Forgive me for what I put you threw. I didn’t realize how good I had it, the men after you didn’t compare. She has 2 kids, same dad. They never really got along. I asked her, you saw the red flags in the beginning with him going out drinking not being a man of his word. Why would you not only have one kid, you turn around and have a 2nd. I thought having a 2nd kid would change things. I just looked at her and just SMH. She, asked me if I had kids. I told her no! Your 55, great man with no kids. Now, before everyone starts putting me on blast, of why I don’t have kids. I did a tour in Desert storm (ARMY)! I have screws in my lower spine, lots of stitches over my body. I average 4 to 6 hr.’s of sleep a night for the last 30 years, with plenty of pain meds next to me bed. I didn’t want to be selfish, and try to raise a kid in so much pain and not be able to play with them. Or just do the simple things in life, how to tie a shoe, ride a bike, fly a kite! Just simple things for me. I remember, it was a night raid. On our way to the object, SGT Mitchell step on some sort land mine. Blew his left leg off, I remember looking over and everything seemed to be in slow motion. Between the return fire and yelling and movement. I made my way over to him and carried him behind a wall. No, he didn’t make it. For the one’s on here reading this. My heart goes out to the people who have had loves ones that didn’t make it back. Let me stay on track! She just wanted to meet up and ask for my forgiveness. As soon as I told her I forgave her. I could see whatever had a hold of her on the inside, gave her peace within. I didn’t this about 10 years ago or so. I got in contact with some of the women I hurt in the past, some cursed me, some never returned my email or calls. Some actually said, thank you for reaching out and asking for forgiveness. I tell people all the time, we are never promised tomorrow. So why do I watch Coach Blac or a few other ones. Trying to help the younger generation. My nieces and nephews mostly, or anybody that is willing to listen without rolling their eyes. What brother’s me the most, so I can end this. I saw a few months ago, young lady gets on social media and tell the young gentlemen. I look to good for the cheesecake factory! What’s wrong with going to Baskin and Robins for some Chocolate almond Ice cream. Of course, it’s my favorite, you can have anything you want. My dad said to me May 18 1988, Son don’t hang your hat high enough to where you can’t reach it. Meaning, if you start off at high end place you have set the standard. Bottom line, choose someone that chooses you, Its make life a lot more enjoyable with each other. Gentlemen, don’t lead with your wallet. I’ve done that in the past, it doesn’t end well. Last thing, I don’t not recommend going to back to the ex. They are a Ex for a reason. They hardest time for me during my journey of battling my ex’s in my mind was at night when my head hit that pillow. That’s when those Mind monsters will get you. Everyone stay the course, be safe, be blessed! My best advice to give to anyone, you will know when you had enough!

@tredd9019

3 ай бұрын

*sigh* I'm banking on it.

@Josejosh77

3 ай бұрын

facts

@plusone8015

3 ай бұрын

Thanks

@1111spiritualone

3 ай бұрын

thanks

@user-by4sd2jy2c

3 ай бұрын

Facts. We poured into every aspect of their life and they will search for us in everyone else they meet. Meanwhile we’ve learned what not to accept from a so called romantic partner. Our future is so bright we need sunglasses. 😎 Shalom.

If they are a narcissist or narcissistic, definitely don’t reach out to them. Ever.

@HolyRollerTV

Ай бұрын

never go back regardless of what social media category they slot into...

@saulescamilla3605

24 күн бұрын

People need to really be aware of these type of demons labeled as “people”. Those demons people called “narcissists” even if you never reach out they will reach out and try to “Hoover” you. Meaning try to pull you back into your life… don’t fall for it!

It always surprises me how negative people on this platform are. If you still love the person who broke up with you and are willing to forgive them, than go ahead and be with them. This is especially true if you've both done the work to improve yourselves. The grass is not always greener on the other side.

@xannecorinnex

2 ай бұрын

Exactly and sometimes people have to fall apart to be able to fall back together! But only if both people have worked on themselves so they don’t repeat the same patterns

@Backatit2000

2 ай бұрын

Agreed. But ONLY if they’re done the work during the time apart.

@ifrahabi4834

2 ай бұрын

There’s one thing people doesn’t understand. When someone beg you to stay with you, especially the one you took them for granted. Being patient with you all their life. And you left them when they still loved you. Those kind of people, once they closed their hearts. It’s over. By the time you came to your senses. They have gone to far.

@elenabernardo5024

2 ай бұрын

I agree. You can go back to an ex and it can be better. People make mistakes all the time and everyone deserves forgiveness and grace

@JustMalcolm914

2 ай бұрын

No that's way too much doubt. If you can't be in a door and work on the issues at that time.Why bother coming together later in life?Especially if you were regrets to the first time

It’s been 18 months since my wife left. She showed up around July last year and said she missed me and still loved me. We started dating again and out the blue she said she can’t do it. We were getting on so well as well. I knew there was someone else, the person she left me for. Yet, I wanted to salvage my marriage. I went full no contact in November and she went straight back to him. Ultimately, it’s been this man the whole time. I’ve no idea what she’s doing in life now. Fact is people, they don’t always come back. However, IF they do, it’s because whoever they left you for wasn’t as good as they thought. If they’ve been with someone else after your break up, you can NEVER take them back. It’s so hard to accept that but taking them back shows weakness. They left for “better”….let them have it. Stay strong to you. You’re worth so much more.

@poppaveli8553

2 ай бұрын

My ex of 11 years destroyed our family n tore it apart this past year so she could see if she was missing out, we been in no contact since December, this fucked my brain up but I will never take her back cus I know she’s sleeping around tryna fill the void, in due time I expect her to come back taking accountability and apologizing but like you said, they think they gone find better so ill make sure she stands on it, we have a child so she’ll always be in my life but never will she get my love again

@laquamartin4602

Ай бұрын

Happy Healing You Got This Forgive And Move Forward And Pour That Love You Have into You.

@bobbywallace4225

Ай бұрын

Facts..

@slaucInDaHouse

29 күн бұрын

My ex of 15 years destroyed our family last year and i know i would not take her back. She even know it as i told her to contact only for kids and dog as i dont want to hear from and see her. Now i have standards. It takes only 3 words to explain m6 stndards. "Soft guy era". Drizzle drizzle baby 😅

@positivevibe7684

26 күн бұрын

@slaven Your post does hold some truth. My husb and I separated for 3 years about 10 years ago. It wasn't due to an affair. Long story, less long, we reconciled. We both needed that break. We celebrated 40 years of marriage this year. However, depending on why you separated, I would not recommend reconciling, not unless you both do the work and bring your healed selves back to the relationship. I have no regrets. I've done a great deal of internal transformation. Pricesless!!❤ We both agreed that if we separate again, there's no coming back. I'm not sure if he meant it, but I did. And I'm sure he knows I meant it.

We have been married almost 21 years and been together 22 years and he tells me he can’t do this anymore out of the blue. Then after 4 kids and 22 years together he leaves me for his ex wife of 1 and half years. He moves out and leaves the state without even telling his kids just abandons while I’m in the hospital. I can’t believe he’s so selfish to break his kids hearts without even having a conversation. He could have talked about whatever was bothering him before he left. At this point I put him on child support and he’s mad about that. Why he got what he wanted he still has kids that need support pay your support and do you Noal Madden. I hope you are happy!!!

He gets☝🏿ONE chance with me. One. I ain't nobody's option.

@Joyblessing4

3 ай бұрын

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3 ай бұрын

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3 ай бұрын

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Ай бұрын

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@TylerRodriguez-ho4qc

19 күн бұрын

Lmao you are a lot of peoples backup

If they don't care now, they will not care about u later Only when they cant get who they really want, then they know they can come back.

@juangonzales4765

2 ай бұрын

This is very true.

@SliceofHeaven1984

2 ай бұрын

No they can't.

@angelareed4589

2 ай бұрын

Exes always come to see if can start something. Even start a friendship or see if there still something still there. This guy I stop talk like 2 years ago, keeps sending friend request I'm not interested In talking too him.

@bnepaul9268

2 ай бұрын

When no one want them, ,

@laquamartin4602

Ай бұрын

Absolutely Correct.

This man is spot on. It took my ex-wife 16 years to reach out with regret... by then, I was 13 years married to a good woman, with which I have 2 children. Rebuild your life. If (when) she tries to come back... remember, she abandoned you once, she'll do it again.

@r3d_ti3_guy

2 ай бұрын

Took my ex-wife 5yrs. Still single and still don’t need that drama. 😆

@godsown4683

2 ай бұрын

My ex is reaching out after 27years. I always tell people be the best you are to them, don't abuse them when they leave. It doesn't matter how they try they can't replace you and will always regret leaving you.

@Taylor-ov8hu

2 ай бұрын

80% nonsense 🙄

@laquamartin4602

Ай бұрын

Exactly Forgive And Move On.

@HolyRollerTV

Ай бұрын

@@godsown4683 why do you consider someone your ex after 27 years...? thats just an undead zombie

Once someone leaves your life don’t hold on to them. That’s the only way they will be able to come back. Let that ex energy go. Take on a new you. New love. New life. They left for a reason. And why would I take someone back that had to leave my life for me to elevate and find myself. That’s means they were holding me back.

@DeirdraH-yz8ts

2 ай бұрын

beautifully said 👏🏻 ❤️ 💙 🙏🏼🙏🏼

@kimsmith1250

Ай бұрын

Not necessarily true.. you could be holding yourself back depending on the situation. Most relationships end do to a person past trauma. If one is holding onto past trauma they will bring that into a relationship that has nothing to do with the new person and ruin everything. If it’s meant for you to be with that new person you work on yourself and God will bring you two back together.

@user-gu2pb7km8f

Ай бұрын

🎉Bingo! They hurt u intentionally & will do it again. guaranteed!!! Never take who threw u away back.

@sharoneh8929

Ай бұрын

Right on 🎯

@cleopatraofegypt3202

14 күн бұрын

Once a person shows you who they are... please believe them. They are not going to change. They are going to take advantage of you if you let them. Deuces.

My ex did exactly what you said. Took him less than 3 weeks to come back begging for my forgiveness. Week later I learned of a woman he had been screwing the whole 4 we were together. I learned where she lives. I went there and sure enough he was there. You can imagine his surprise when he saw me pull up in her driveway. She had no idea of me like I didn't her. I was dumb enough to even considered working it out.... yes my family was there for me but they did not want me with him cause of the lies. I'm so glad I learned the true person he is..

If a person is dating and being with someone in only a week or so after a break up they been talking to that new person while in a relationship with you

@jasminesuther7101

23 күн бұрын

True

Unfortunately, we cant unmeet people.🤷🏽‍♀️

@Proserpina-mr8yf

Ай бұрын

LOVE IT!!!

Lol pretty sure I’m not in no contact anymore. I’m in “I don’t even exist to them” mode at this point

@jonthomson9262

3 ай бұрын

They don't exsist to you either.

@CatwalkPurz

3 ай бұрын

@@jonthomson9262 I was about to type that EXACTLY!

@CatwalkPurz

3 ай бұрын

Gotta change that defeatist mindset

@jonthomson9262

3 ай бұрын

@@CatwalkPurz actually, he is mentally on the right path. The 1st step of recovery/healing is acceptance of what you cannot change.

@Dirshaun

3 ай бұрын

No contact works because she either comes back, or you move on. It's a win win.

It hurts the most when they get someone new fast. I know it's bound to happen but at least be respectful lol I'm talking replaced in 8 days.

@ajpianoshorts

2 ай бұрын

Mine was 4 days :(

@dimphosenong6635

2 ай бұрын

Try one day 😂😂

@ajpianoshorts

2 ай бұрын

@@dimphosenong6635 oh god..

@dirtyy2k

2 ай бұрын

Most likely they were already seeing these people

@JustMalcolm914

2 ай бұрын

Try a week😂

My ex-husband has been asking for us to be reunited for the past 10yrs. We were married for 8yrs and have been divorced for 22yrs. During our marriage, he was mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive, a notorious cheater, and had a mistress whom he had 2 children with during our marriage. I forgave him 22yrs ago so that I could live my life in peace with no hatred or grudge towards him, and all is forgiven. I look forward to God blessing me with my Boaz someday.

@belevhersboutique4727

Ай бұрын

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 I can relate may God give you the desires of your heart and everything in between

@shereewhite4828

Ай бұрын

@@belevhersboutique4727 Thank you. May God bless you with the desires of your heart as well.

I’ve been dumped like a piece of trash after almost 3 years of planning my life with my ex. Every day I go through turmoil of emotions. One moment I’m ok and the next I’m crying in the corner. I want to thank you for your videos and wisdom. I cannot tell you how many times I watched your video and was validated and chose not to reach out to my ex to preserve the little dignity and self respect I have left. Please Keep on guiding us. I’ll keep on watching. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏

@smileyglitter852

2 ай бұрын

@user-tb8re4yz1n, I had to let mine go for almost three years. He kept being inconsistent, everything can first and kept cancelling on me. He wasn't a person of his word. I went no contact and just gave up..His words never matched his actions. The lack of actions told me everything...

@laquamartin4602

2 ай бұрын

Love You Babes It Will Get Better Going Through The Same!!!

@jik7724

2 ай бұрын

Jesús loves you he can heal you ❤

@joshuarudolf3643

Ай бұрын

Hey..I am going through the exact same right now…its 4 months ago now but I feel like Im getting worse. The turmoil like you describe it, every damn day. And the suicidal thoughts did return harder. Im so devastated, I feel like I can‘t do it anymore.

@orlandopettieway419

Ай бұрын

Better days are coming!! Keep on trusting in God. God has someone way better for you.

She's not coming back

Hi Coach! I have decided, in my situation, that I no longer desire the relationship. It’s over and I have moved on. Life is too short. Better horizons on the way. Enjoy your stories. Loving the new look.🌟

@wendyledwaba5018

2 ай бұрын

exactly. these videos are so enlightening and so true but i will not do any of these things in the hope that the ex comes back but rather to take my power back, nurse back to health and never look back

I'm fairly sure my ex has moved on, she left me for someone else. It's been three months now and there has been zero reach out. I'm learning to see how I will be okay. Though there is always so much uncertainty felt every single day, I know I deserved better than how she left me and that I deserve better today than to think about someone so dearly that likely does not reciprocate that on her end. I don't know if I will ever be as hurt as I was and still am to some degree from this breakup, but I won't let her get the best of me. It might not be obvious to see today, or tomorrow, or even a year from now, but I will be the kind of person she will in fact miss and regret losing. To all the people who has had their heart broken from someone you loved dearly and thought would be your future, you are never alone and I wish you all the love that you deserve to have. Take the time that you need to heal from this and cherish your life for how valuable it truly is ❤

@Ducati007

2 ай бұрын

Trust me brother, u don't want her back. It will be worse than before.

@BJBlaskovichGaming

2 ай бұрын

Same here! It’s good that you have realized all this. My narc ex will learn that money doesn’t buy happiness OR real love.

@Inyourdreamzalways43

2 ай бұрын

Same ♥️

@Backatit2000

2 ай бұрын

I hope that you are able to heal from this and also become a better you for the person who is truly your person.

@Inyourdreamzalways43

2 ай бұрын

Dealing with the same ❤️

Every woman I’ve ever dated has always came back later on. It’s always heartfelt conversations, and getting true closure. We all remain friends from a distance.

Everything he’s saying in all his videos is 100% on point. I’ve watched all of coach’s videos. Today makes 6 months since I got T-boned. I did everything he advised. No contact works I promise you it does. Even though I was dying on the inside I never showed her that I was suffering. She calls me today and tells me she misses me and needs to see me. I played the hard to get role and told her I have plans. She then said she would come by tomorrow. I told her I will see if I’m not busy. We have been together for more than 20yrs. I’m super excited about this chance. I understand the hopelessness and gut wrenching emotions that we go through. I promise you watch coach’s videos. It helps trust me. Coach thank you sir

@leonh2044

3 ай бұрын

What does it mean that you got T-boned? Is that 6 months since your ex dumped you?

@1life2life

3 ай бұрын

@@leonh2044 I got the “I love you but not in love with you” speech. I felt like I was t-boned. It came out of no where.

@ShanitaBartlett

3 ай бұрын

Congratulations 🎈

@evacuevas5506

3 ай бұрын

I love his videos, they give us hope, so thankful for him. And good job staying in no contact even though it was really tough, I'm very happy for you. Thanks for the advice too.

@ADayInTheLifeOfJames

3 ай бұрын

@@leonh2044 obviously

Ever since i chose therapy and pouring into me, life became so much better. Next month makes it 1 year and since I finally chose me and just put it to the universe.....it's legit, "it is what is it." I know all my exs are suffering and paying for their consequences. I don't wish ill on them because in the end. I'm not going to block my blessings.

@Frugal637

3 ай бұрын

Wish them Well

Personally I quit caring long ago. I don't have friends family or acquaintances. I realized love is weakness. I don't trust no one but myself

@e18terrrones58

2 ай бұрын

Same. fuck everyone ngl

@hamptonx3729

2 ай бұрын

F me too?

@godsown4683

2 ай бұрын

That's sad

@natashaalicia8105

2 ай бұрын

​@@godsown4683 it's not sad. It's choosing to never be hurt again. I'm single and it's staying that way. Relationships are nothing but more crap you don't need.

@mp4455

2 ай бұрын

I’m at that point

Your calming voice during a time of trauma and pain is soothing to my soul.

The problem i have is, these prople walk out of your life with zero regard for the state they leave you in. Then when they are done with whatever they were doing. Clearly it did not work out for them, they want to run back. I think if they could leave you once they WILL do it again. I think it's best for once sanity to move on. We should only want people that respects us enough to work on problems, not away away when there is a problem IMHO.

@tymitch3207

3 ай бұрын

I agree sis! Couldn't of said it better myself.

@jonthomson9262

3 ай бұрын

Excellent way of looking at things.......but have you ever dumped a man before, and why did you dump him???? Perhaps your guilty of the same thing. Most women are like this.

@nicolapetersen1633

3 ай бұрын

@@jonthomson9262d I've dated and been married to the same person for nearly 20 yrs. Why do you say most women are that way? I think that statement is true for both sexes not just women. Yes of cause I've broken up with people in my youth. Everyone has.

@naimam3976

3 ай бұрын

​@@jonthomson9262 we dump men after giving them many chances to change and do better ,we first distant ourselves but the guy keep acting the same, then we are finally done with his bs and block him forever no matter much we used to love him and even when we miss him we will never let him now and one day we meet a new guy, and we fall in love again and old guy is all forgotten lol

@HolyRollerTV

Ай бұрын

women are more ruthless than men..they just dont give a fck...

Let go! You will love again. Work on yourself. Know what you want. Heal.

I don't think my ex will ever come back. It's been 6 months since the breakup. And 3 months into no contact. She had many problems regarding the relationship. And the last time we met she told me she doesn't love me anymore. She never sees us getting back. So, I told her I cannot be friends with her. That was it. I haven't contacted her since. Haven't heard from her since.

My wife divorced me when she gave birth to our child. 2 years tried stayinf corporative to grow the child but she wanted me gone. 3 years more depressed and figuring life and covid came and lock downs. I worked out at home, covid opnwd up i paid a gym. Today im 10 years younger, competing for Amateur bodybuilding competitions. She now calling me back telling me i shluld come visit our child be there. Shes unhealthy too, shes calling me twice a day. Asked me hows my love life. She tore my heart, i was abandoned yet i moved on. I felt peace, pity for her at same time respect and kindness for woman i shared body with. They come back when you move on. She likes this version of me. Im done now, she lost a man who was ready to five uo life for her. I wouldve been a greta fathdr a husband but she turned me to a guy near 40 living modern hookup life. . Sad end to both our lives.

I just broke up with my ex. I loved him more than anyone, but he was moody in a bad way and brought major chaos. It was hard to put my foot down with him. I took it back, but he didn’t bite. May just be a good thing. But it wasn’t the best relationship. We both need healing.

@anayajarrett1302

Ай бұрын

Currently going through that now I broke up with her and she move on quick.

Broke no contact multiple times.. first time we actually hooked up.. ended poorly. Now 3 months post break up. Back in NC for two weeks. Anxiety is wearing off. Been leveling up in life but still left with sadness. Realizing my worth but wondering if she’ll find greener grass. End of the day we have to remember we’re him!

@ADayInTheLifeOfJames

3 ай бұрын

Jolsten J 💪

@doubleJJ01

3 ай бұрын

I broke NC after 2 months , she was cold and told me to move on , I got rejected twice now🙂 , now I started again with NC day 2 but this time I'm doing it permanently, I'm done being treated like I'm nothing to her anymore, plus she's been texting some new guy friends she met during her internship she told me that soo idk...im doing NC permanently now

@jonthomson9262

3 ай бұрын

Let's hope that she does find greener grass and that she is happy,so that you dont carry grudges and negative energy......she doesn't belong your grass anymore dude. CHANGE YOUR NUMBER, BLOCK HER ON EVERYTHING, AND STAY IN NO CONTACT FOR LIFE.......TIME WILL HEAL THESE WOUNDS,BUT IT WILL BE A LONG,PAINFUL PROCESS THAT WILL PROBABLY TAKE YEARS. BE PATIENT.

@jonthomson9262

3 ай бұрын

@@doubleJJ01 yeah,she made it clear......by breaking no contact you only delayed your own healing process. It will probably take a few years, but you will make a full and complete recovery.

@doubleJJ01

3 ай бұрын

@@jonthomson9262 thank you bro , I'm feeling better each day , now I'm just at a point where my thoughts are like " how will I trust again" I'm having difficulties in trusting again I feel like girls only gona cheat and flirt behind their bfs back , idk man I'm having this issue now...I don't mind losing her now since I did my best , but how will I trust again is a bigger question bcuz now my mind feels like I got to check my future gf phone which I know is not a good idea..idk I'm going crazy

Imma drink til i cant feel feelings 😢

I notice that since i act like i dont care he gets out of his way to see me. Because of our child i cant go zero contact but i do the minimum and only about the child. Two days ago he forgot something for our child and i wrote him that it is fine, he can bring it next time he gets her but nono he was like " i can bring it over...we can meet in one hour" and then i just took what he had forgoten and said thank you, have a good day. His Mother told me that he startet to ask how im doing and if she knows what im doing....so i give it more time

@user-vk7zw4vw2o

2 ай бұрын

Same here

This time she’s the one blocked on everything during NC. Tired of seeing her fake on social media and try to piss me off just so she can get a reaction out of me! If she really loved me or cares she will find a way to reach out and apologize and communicate w me like I did for her the first time we broke up! Now I can finally have no setbacks bc I break no contact after a week or see her stories!

@J__007

Ай бұрын

How you holding up bro?

@jflexztv

Ай бұрын

@@J__007 I been better bro we both blocked but I could care less pretty sure I met a way better girl recently anyways.

This was a great video ,calm,cool and smooth !

Coach Blac Big Pimpin. Dropping truth bombs 💣

He had been gone about a month and although it was heart breaking he did me a favour. I was too good for him. He was broke and had only love to offer and he withdrew that aswell. So i am now gona find a real man who will be provider and protector as God intended . Losers will always be losers.

@kloppo94

2 ай бұрын

A provider lol. Girl go to work.

@TT-ey4on

2 ай бұрын

@@kloppo94’he was broke and only had love to offer’ 🤣🤧

@kloppo94

2 ай бұрын

@@TT-ey4on that's crazy

@tiselectric

2 ай бұрын

Same happened to me, I worked my ass off & he didn’t. I was paying his bills & my own. Feeding his kids & my own. He has Tourette’s and claims he can’t work. He left me out the blue for a childhood friend he said was like a sister & got a job & is trying to build a life with her now. Oh & she states out loud on her social media how much she doesn’t like kids & doesn’t want kids. He’s got 3 SMH.

@kloppo94

2 ай бұрын

@@tiselectric that's a different case though, he's shameless. Your situation is unfortunate

Looking sharp sir ❤

Thanks I needed exactly this dialogue today. I've been struggling with this issue for a week now, and I now feel better about everything that's happening.

That story you shared, though! You're brilliant and different, Blac!

Yes absolutely the change in Him

Your perspectives are an eye opener for me! I will definitely apply your perspectives on NC & detach by not being so emotional in proving my love for my long time friend who is not ready & very independent

Love the new look….very sharp coach!

This comment meant a lot to me I'm still hurt 4 months clean no contact well once but I hung up the phone and never called again. She really did hurt me good thank you for listening.

I love your videos, Coach Blac, always wise and informative thank you

Your videos are so helpful. Your videos are getting me through this tough time. Thank you so much.

Hey man thank you for your inspiring videos. I really have been working on my self after my devastating break up!!! And I have decided not to pursue the relationship, but your videos helped me learn deep down what I truly need to do for myself. And this inspired me to focus on my purpose driven life!!!! Thank you man you saved my life bro!!!! FACTZZZZ!!!!

You on point with this message! Please get your watch fitted though, respectfully.

@Coach Blac- 4 months NC but since day of breakup been working on me. Just gotta keep moving forward right. Thanks for this💪

My Ex came back after 14years apart though we are both married but I was happy to see him,he told me he was sick and needed to tell me about it,but I was shocked cos the way we parted was painful we didn't talk about it,it just happened that he got someone pregnant so I had to let him go now he is pleading for forgiveness

This is amazing brother. Your laid back approach made feel comfort and this knowledge is second to none. Thank you and God bless you. I still won't take her back after this one, but i understand better now.

lookin' sharp today coach. 😉

@coachblac thank you for the knowledge and pep talk. Very uplifting.

Wow! I need to share this with a friend who is going through this exact thing ❤❤❤

❤❤❤ Thank you so much for your insight and this message ❤ 💜 🙏

Great video. It's imperative that we work on our inner selves. It's the best gift we can give ourselves. ❤❤

What's up black, I just want you to know bro, you are helping me get through this and it's very much appreciated bro, and to be as real as you are, you are heaven sent for a lot of people. Thanks again brother

@Joyblessing4

3 ай бұрын

Do you need help to restore the relationship or cure the illness?.

@Joyblessing4

3 ай бұрын

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Looking suave coach👌

I needed every single word,thank u🙏🙏🙏

Listening to you makes me feeling so good ❤️

I've been single & and had no contact with my ex for almost 3 years. When we dated the 2nd time, he showed me the writing on the wall in all capital letters. I will tell anyone if you break up 1 time, keep it moving forward. A true relationship you don't break up. You work through things. Things will not ever be the same, plus when it comes to healing from the break up a 2nd time around for me, it felt tripple times worse to start the healing process all over again. I stay in prayer. i'm thankful that i actually saw the truth and some things i admit i overlooked. However, i know the next time, don't overlook anything. Actually, believe what they tell you don't try to change their mind keep it pushing. It will save you your time later on down the road. I can't change my past, but i sure do regret dateing him, that's for sure!!

@IvanaGirl

3 ай бұрын

I regret dating mine too. My fault for ignoring the red flags in the beginning. I’ve been single for a year and a half now. I’m still devastated but I’m starting to realize he never loved me, someone who puts you down and belittles you everyday for no reason doesn’t deserve you

@jonthomson9262

3 ай бұрын

So I assume he dumped you,correct?? How long were the 2 of you together? Did you cohabitate? What was his stated reason for the breakup??

@jonthomson9262

3 ай бұрын

@@IvanaGirl you know,I'm pretty sure you passed up ALOT of Good Men who would have loved you and treated you well.......if that's actually what you want????........why did you choose this particular man in the 1st place? Maybe you need to evaluate the criteria you use to select men????

@IvanaGirl

3 ай бұрын

@@jonthomson9262that I am just so stupid otherwise I would have a high paying job like him etc etc. he punched a hole in the wall because I took too long to come back home from the store and it made him angry. He is out of control. I think I tend to choose damaged men because I guess I am damaged myself because I grew up in a pretty abusive household

@IvanaGirl

3 ай бұрын

And he grew up in a abusive household as we, but I was submissive and he was the aggressor

No contact will not make her want you again. It's just the only option you have. She might feel lonely at some point at contact you again for validation when her new guy is treating her poorly but it's not even worth it talking to her again. Just move on. When a woman loses genuine desire for you it's because you were too available and lost your leverage at some point. Getting a woman to have genuine attraction for you again is very difficult and unlikely.

Very wise words from beginning to end

Yes!!!! The dealing with a completely different person. It’s so hard for me to wrap my head around sometimes.

@sharoneh8929

Ай бұрын

SAME HERE. BUT GOD is keeping me. Take great care of yourself. This too will pass...Peace be unto you ✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽.

Thank you! This info is really helpful 🙏

I have so much respect for you. This video has had me deal with my situation so much better, thank you!

@user-dj8tg9bt6v

3 ай бұрын

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3 ай бұрын

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Dang - Wish I would have watched your videos the beginning of this week. I truly settled into the decision to go No Contact yesterday. But it was after weeks of not knowing my worth and behaving desperately. So embarrassing.

AMEN 🙏🏾 I take up my ex in a slippers two pants three shirts and two shorts and he didn’t have anything to give me I take care of his child and his sick mother I was so happy to know I could help them, I help him to get a job and as soon as he starts working he dumps me yes he did the same man that cried to me day and night to be there for him and promise that he would never leave or disrespect me, now he’s boasting about how many females he has and how he can change clothes and shoes, I cried day and night am so depressed and don’t know what to do, am so hurt but am here trusting god!

I think blacademic might have one of the best Dating tips. Because he tells you the truth. And its great because TRUTH HELPS YOU HEAL AND GROW. This man needs a TV special. On GOD 🛐

@anthonyharmon9265

2 ай бұрын

Sounds racist af

That was great wisdom regarding the lady who was blessed with a huge tip. She wasn't prepared to handle what she asked for. My motto is, if you ask for it, pray for it, or manifest it, be prepared to receive it. That's why it's imperative to work on inner-self.❤❤

Thank you my ex is always sending emails and text messages but not responding. Am slowly detaching from him after a 2 year breakup. No contact really worked for me.

Thank you for explaining simply and kindly. It hurts so bad - the kind, wonderful man he was, the one who was my best friend and my true love, became cold, non-caring and disrespectful. Now he's with another woman. I think the man I loved is gone.

@zubieM

10 күн бұрын

He never existed!

Men always seem to take my general kindness towards others as if I must be super into them even when I'm just dating them for fun & don't have feelings for them. I'm not going to change myself. I'll wait to meet a man who understands that kindness is not weakness and is smart enough to realize it doesn't mean I'm more into them than they are into me.

Thank you so very much for your wise and informative information Coach Blac. It is appreciated!! I am impressed!!

@user-dj8tg9bt6v

3 ай бұрын

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@user-dj8tg9bt6v

3 ай бұрын

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They always realize when it's to late..been almost 9 months and now my feelings have changed ..Moved on and realized it was for the best 😢The version I was holding onto was just what I wanted her to be ..In a better place and have a relationship I always wanted and deserved.

Okay 👌, Coach Black 🖤🤎👀

I feel like this video is perfect if your the one who messed up in the relationship and your the reason your ex left. Or maybe they didn’t necessarily leave you but just withdrew. The space gives you a reset. And in the meantime you can rebuild your life.

All the things you said are so true, but for the people who go no contact for life and change our number. We’ll never know, and it doesn’t matter. Most times they don’t change!

@Joyblessing4

3 ай бұрын

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@Joyblessing4

3 ай бұрын

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@bnepaul9268

2 ай бұрын

Love yourself, and respect your self. Put God first trust him ,he will work it out for you, .invest in yourself, not in any body. Choose you.

Fantastic video❤

She already does blowing my phone up after divorcing me today. I gotta stay strong.

So motivated by this video coach! 6 months NC and will go more stronger after watching this. Focused on pursuing my dream as an airline pilot.Thanks a lot!

@mickeyn757

2 ай бұрын

Not coming back after 6 months

@rajtupe0245

2 ай бұрын

@@mickeyn757 she will one day and it's gonna be too late for her.

@ifrahabi4834

2 ай бұрын

Please follow your dreams. You are doing the best thing in your life. Stay in no contact for your personal growth. And one day you will find someone who will appreciate you. Let it go. ❤

@rajtupe0245

2 ай бұрын

@@ifrahabi4834 Thank you ☺

Looking sharp coach 👌 🔥

You’re good man! Keep it up

Another calm eloquent delivery. I am 8 months no contact ( one exception which I thought appropriate ) done a bucket load of self work and gym. Getting several reports of her not been happy , sad and hurt. So I text “ it is time we had a coffee and talked “ . The thing is, I am now cool whether I get a reply or not and have a date tomorrow as well. Time will tell.

@beryljulie7801

2 ай бұрын

How did it go?

@chrisdunbar2121

Ай бұрын

Yeah fr how did it go? Did u get the coffee and talk?

@mattkath2332

26 күн бұрын

Why the need to have coffee and talk. If you did no contact, it’s for yourself to move on. Nothing to do if your ex is sad or hurt. That’s their problem bro. Just move forward and continue self work

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The combination of that voice, the way to talk and that background music totally calms me down every single time. Could be talking about trashcans, it would still be my kind of therapy.

@user-dj8tg9bt6v

3 ай бұрын

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@user-dj8tg9bt6v

3 ай бұрын

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They say you don't know someone till you live with them True I was staying over the holidays and saw many things that led me to break the engagement I am glad I did better now than 5 yrs in. I thought I loved him was very wrong Thanks

@BJBlaskovichGaming

2 ай бұрын

Oh I know her and never lived with her. The few months after the breakup were the most telling as to who she really is.

Have waited close to 10 years for this 😪

Thank you, good advice❤❤❤❤❤

Is this the way men think? I’ve been dealing with a man, in and out, off and on, hot and cold. It’s absolutely destroying my self confidence yet I love the person he is when he’s hot. I love our relationship when he’s hot on me. He says he’s scared yet runs away every time I give him a chance. I’m tired of being left feeling like an option. He can go get his can of green spray paint and stay away. Maybe that’s how all these women feel when you break NC. If you break NC, make sure you’re ready to go in hot. Other than that, it feels like games. When a man goes no contact on me, I just assume he’s not interested and won’t reach out to “wonder why”. Even if I’m completely heartbroken. If men need that ego boost for me to call him crying, I don’t want it

@bvhia

2 ай бұрын

Women do the same. The solution is the same in both cases. If they keep going hot and cold it means theyre still talking to multiple people. Do you really wanna be in that situation? Go find someone who doesnt treat you like that

Once my ex leaves me and gets with another man. Congratulations cause now you got that second place prize. Better raise that trophy pretty high cause you ain’t coming back to me. I’m not on the back burner for nobody. I played that game once , and I learned my lessons of why you don’t do that to yourself. It’s called self respect.

I had that exact thought today. He pretended to be a completely different person in the relationship. I feel like i never even knew who he was or is.

I appreciate you bro

I just listen this to see how men just making fools of themselves I did once but my advice is focus on u and u along everything will fall into place

Is that a haircut!!!???? Nice you look lovely

love ur channel and advice

Thank you. I've detached and went no contact for 4 months now but I need to do some more work on myself. I feel like I'm stuck and isolating.

An ex will ALWAYS be an ex 😊

@norswil8763

Ай бұрын

Everyone is an ex though… you’re too black and white, relationships and interpersonal, romantic connections are complex and dynamic… your perspective is due to your experience, you’ve never separated from someone worth growing yourself for, to fight for.

🇿🇦im all ears thank you coach 🙏🏾 u just opened my 👀 &mimd.

@Joyblessing4

3 ай бұрын

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@Joyblessing4

3 ай бұрын

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Good advise given if you cannot understand or disagree with reasons as to why your partner has left the relationship and being truly honest that you tried to be the best person you could be in the relationship, then yes this applies. However if someone has left the relationship due to ill treatment, and love themselves enough to leave and work on repairing the damage it is unlikely they will return, regardless of their ex partners silence. If treated badly within a relationship, why return. Wish them well and keep it moving, i would say. There is no time for playing games and letting opportunities pass you by for someone who treated you badly, hence the reason you had to leave!