THIS is a KEY SIGN That Your EX is ACTUALLY HURTING During NO CONTACT, and what to DO ABOUT IT

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THIS is a KEY SIGN That Your EX is HURTING During NO CONTACT
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  • @Lea-iv4gn
    @Lea-iv4gnАй бұрын

    NO CONTACT is honestly a phase where "ACTIONS SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORD'S" is tested. And truth be told, if you've been the one who took the hurt than hurt someone, trust me....This No contact will be a fun ride. You'll realise WHAT you lost. They'll realise WHO THEY LOST. This NO CONTACT is a Glow Up Season People ✨🍸

  • @JTDyer21
    @JTDyer216 ай бұрын

    As much as it breaks the heart you cannot make someone love you. It's one of the most difficult realities of life to accept.

  • @Wbe1000

    @Wbe1000

    3 ай бұрын

    A-fuckin-men. The whole conundrum of my break up was that I knew it was gonna end at some point, but when it did, it still kind of hurt 😂😂😂 and then I ended being treated like the doormat in the end

  • @smileyglitter852

    @smileyglitter852

    3 ай бұрын

    A thousand 💯....My soul is killing me, but I can't be his option when it's convenient...

  • @Martarini

    @Martarini

    Ай бұрын

    Now imagine if you both actually love each other, but he thought it wouldnt work out because my family was pressuring him too soon for marriage

  • @thelordhasbeengoodtomethan5154

    @thelordhasbeengoodtomethan5154

    24 күн бұрын

    That's why it's so important that you love yourself and let God be the head of your life because that is where you overcome these things by the blood of the Lamb

  • @Wildanimal864.

    @Wildanimal864.

    8 күн бұрын

    Trick is don’t fall in love to begin with keep your emotional distance till they prove themselves to the fullest….

  • @xavierpoppie8968
    @xavierpoppie89686 ай бұрын

    All of our exes gonna come back trust 💯

  • @EveryBodyCare

    @EveryBodyCare

    6 ай бұрын

    I thought so too, not mine…but do I want him back? if whoever he’s wit can make him betray our marriage they can have him.

  • @ScissorN

    @ScissorN

    6 ай бұрын

    Not all some move on and marry

  • @niongg8042

    @niongg8042

    6 ай бұрын

    Nahh man i m toxic asf they run and are happier after me 😂

  • @fortheladies771

    @fortheladies771

    6 ай бұрын

    @@EveryBodyCare If you were good to them, they absolutely try to return, even if it’s years later

  • @EveryBodyCare

    @EveryBodyCare

    6 ай бұрын

    @@fortheladies771 we’ll see. Iletcha know, if and when he returns. Doesn’t mean I’ll be available though.

  • @chesberger4474
    @chesberger44744 ай бұрын

    Go no contact for you. Do not be a child and complain, let her (or him) have their space. Take the time to reflect and grow, set boundaries and give them PATIENCE when they come back. Do not chase, and do not fret if they leave. Be at peace and stay calm, listen to good music and enjoy life.

  • @PrashantSingh-rp6mf

    @PrashantSingh-rp6mf

    3 ай бұрын

    Easier said than done

  • @ntando_live

    @ntando_live

    3 ай бұрын

    Realistic advice ever

  • @georgehernandez4410

    @georgehernandez4410

    2 ай бұрын

    Best advice I’ve ever been told thank you!

  • @georgehernandez4410

    @georgehernandez4410

    2 ай бұрын

    @@PrashantSingh-rp6mfit’s always easier said then done just take it slow there’s no rush be patient everything will be ok

  • @andrejackson1923

    @andrejackson1923

    2 ай бұрын

    That’s exactly what I’m doing 😂😂

  • @chadrickrockhill
    @chadrickrockhill2 ай бұрын

    It's just crazy to me that someone you were about to marry & almost shared a child with acts like you never happened! Painful, but you gotta keep living.

  • @TheDevineFempress

    @TheDevineFempress

    2 ай бұрын

    Drop them like they dropped you… and they realize …. Wait a minute I wasn’t as big a deal as I thought I was.

  • @lordowusu5828

    @lordowusu5828

    Ай бұрын

    Damm thats me,we got engaged September 2023 ,we've got a beautiful 4year old girl ,planned to get married at the end 2024 ,all of a sudden in January 2024 she dumped me ,I was like wao .

  • @godsson2681

    @godsson2681

    Ай бұрын

    I’m going thru this RIGHT NOW!!!!

  • @selomekebour3439

    @selomekebour3439

    Ай бұрын

    It is crazy but necessary sometimes. I was looking at rings/ talking about marriage with my partner but found out he was running around with other women (multiple!)… I HAD to end it and completely disconnect cause the betrayal was huge. Sometimes there’s a good reason and it’s not being cold or heartless.

  • @michellemybelle007

    @michellemybelle007

    Ай бұрын

    @@godsson2681You can make it through this. And, you will be happier without their constant negativity ringing in your mind. It can help to put all the happy and hopeful memories of your ex into an album in your mind. And, file that album under “The Past.” Then, every time you want to revisit some of those memories, go ahead. But, you will remind yourself that these are only happy memories of the past. They do not represent the relationship as a whole. These memories do not represent your future because your future belongs to you, now.

  • @NinaExford
    @NinaExford3 ай бұрын

    😢Who cares if there hurting or not ! They didn't care all the times they hurt you & continued to do so!

  • @taniathomas7353

    @taniathomas7353

    2 ай бұрын

    Right

  • @jujubaby614

    @jujubaby614

    Ай бұрын

    That's right!

  • @Itiswhoitisayyy
    @Itiswhoitisayyy6 ай бұрын

    In a week someone showed me what was not being given in 4 years. No contact is a time for healing

  • @M00seknucks69

    @M00seknucks69

    3 ай бұрын

    That’s called limerance.

  • @galaxyrockstudio4813

    @galaxyrockstudio4813

    Ай бұрын

    It didn't go well? Hope and prayers out, nobody deserves not to get a second chance

  • @theresawilson3484
    @theresawilson34843 ай бұрын

    No contact means move on with your life... You pick up where you left off, first one is always free until those old behaviors show back up simply because they never left 💯. Starting a no contact just to get your ex back will not ever work in your favor. You are no longer on that level and this will only stack your pain. Feel what you need to feel, cry your tears cleanses your soul. No contact whatsoever is not something to be played with, cross that bridge of pain and get to the other side, move on with your life please 🙏. Love and Light

  • @kaitlinmontgomery2750

    @kaitlinmontgomery2750

    2 ай бұрын

    Lol no

  • @theresawilson3484

    @theresawilson3484

    2 ай бұрын

    @@kaitlinmontgomery2750 That's fine, choices we all have them.

  • @caseythompson8624
    @caseythompson86246 ай бұрын

    I’m six weeks into no contact and listen to your videos every day to help give me the guidance that I desperately need. I am hoping and praying that she comes back, but my focus is purely on me. To better myself in every way, and work on the things that I need to work on for me. If she decides to come back that’s awesome if she doesn’t then I’m still going to be the best me that I can be. Thank you Coach for all the wisdom you share with us.

  • @tubesurf17

    @tubesurf17

    6 ай бұрын

    Thanks bro. Im right there with casey. I bet we r good guys and bad boys . Hearts of gold.. and great father potential. We all make mistakes but we all dont get up, repent , ,make ammends, Grow in love , strengthen and move in our masculine.

  • @tubesurf17

    @tubesurf17

    6 ай бұрын

    The chase ended yesterday. That believe is over. I am a jedi master. Not a dirty penny. A lover and a fighter,

  • @user-ho5sh6fw2b

    @user-ho5sh6fw2b

    6 ай бұрын

    i hear you man believe me

  • @user-vf9we6ed2q

    @user-vf9we6ed2q

    6 ай бұрын

    bless us

  • @jamesrandolph5548

    @jamesrandolph5548

    6 ай бұрын

    Remember you are starting over when it happens like a new relationship in her mind she doesn't know you anymore

  • @munasheariwamwari948
    @munasheariwamwari9485 ай бұрын

    Instead of waiting around for your ex to comeback, just move on and meet new people, the same feelings you had for him/her, you can have for another person. In the moment it seems like he/she is your end all be all, but remember, you probably felt that way about several other people you’ve been with. 🤷🏾

  • @ximenachavez-dq8gj

    @ximenachavez-dq8gj

    4 ай бұрын

    Or you can just not tell people what to do. You have absolutely no right to tell people what relationships they've had that are worth keeping. Don't do it again.

  • @ShanitaBartlett

    @ShanitaBartlett

    4 ай бұрын

    Not so easy

  • @pisces89

    @pisces89

    3 ай бұрын

    Hmm nah not if its true love

  • @munasheariwamwari948

    @munasheariwamwari948

    3 ай бұрын

    @@pisces89if it was true love they wouldn’t be your ex then. They are usually your ex for a reason.

  • @munasheariwamwari948

    @munasheariwamwari948

    3 ай бұрын

    @@ximenachavez-dq8gjI didn’t tell anyone what to do, I simply commented an opinion in response to a video. No wonder your ex doesn’t want to come back, a KZread opinion triggers you emotionally like that ?! 😂

  • @scottparker1055
    @scottparker10556 ай бұрын

    The situations leave you feeling worthless and devalued!!

  • @ViktorAZIM
    @ViktorAZIM6 ай бұрын

    I dont know if it is just me or this guy has some kind of vibe that makes him really pleasent to listen to

  • @adelante3938

    @adelante3938

    6 ай бұрын

    Thats why we're all here

  • @babydii3487

    @babydii3487

    6 ай бұрын

    Hello 😁😁😁

  • @HolyRollerTV

    @HolyRollerTV

    2 ай бұрын

    thats a bit zesty dude

  • @joner122

    @joner122

    15 күн бұрын

    He talks slowly like someone old and wise giving advice they know to be true. Only a few other coaches: Lee, Winters, Lovechat, and Ken got that smooth delivery that make you feel like they're the parents you wish you had. The others would make me an avoidant.

  • @basicinfo2022

    @basicinfo2022

    5 күн бұрын

    Calming energy.

  • @Vincent_N89
    @Vincent_N896 ай бұрын

    My ex came back after 6 months, 4 months NC. I broke NC once at the start, then went full NC. She reached out saying she's seeing someone else and if we could be friends. I said no. She went out the country for a month, and when she returned, she got in contact with me after 6 months of not seeing her. She wanted to meet up, whereby she said she made a big mistake and still loves me. I was weak and we were intimate with each other, but deep down, I resent her. I resent her for leaving me in the first place, for saying she was with someone else only to backtrack, and for not changing or working on her attachment style (whereas I've been putting in the work every day). She's going through a lot at the moment, but I plan to call her out on everything and see how she reacts. Stay NC people, it works if your connection to your ex is strong.

  • @JM-bv2mo

    @JM-bv2mo

    6 ай бұрын

    Very similar to my situ except we didn’t get intimate. He came back after the 4 months & said he was thinking of me and only wished me good things. I responded very politely and even joked a bit. I told him if friendship is want you want I have no hard feelings towards you. He said I gave him lots of confidence and thanked me. We’ve been sort of texting now, but it’s really slow and weeks go by. We’re “friends” but that’s not something I want and I don’t act like one. When we began to date, we were friends as well. So idk it’s weird.

  • @sirg-had8821

    @sirg-had8821

    6 ай бұрын

    Now you know what not to do.

  • @nova12332

    @nova12332

    6 ай бұрын

    dont criticize or lash out on her. i get it but dont do that itll only push her away. talk it out in a healthy way of letting her know how she hurt u

  • @No-hopes-given

    @No-hopes-given

    6 ай бұрын

    What if your ex has never stopped contacting you, even if you try to ignore her or not respond she still tries. And when you do respond or even meet she disappears but then comes back. It’s been 8 months post break up. It’s like she’s just holding on to my shadow and that’s enough

  • @ellamedic8963

    @ellamedic8963

    6 ай бұрын

    I would not even bother. She has to come to you and make an effort. Dont let her use you to get over you.

  • @belindaking1362
    @belindaking13623 ай бұрын

    My ex was mad at me. He left for about 6 weeks, he had told me he didn't love me anymore and didn't want to be with me. So i moved on. No contact for 6 weeks, then he showed up and came home, he sat in silence and he had moved his belongings into the other room. He had been seeing someone else. It was just a mess. I moved on. Its been 6 years and im still single and very happy. 😊😊

  • @arturoperez2722
    @arturoperez27226 ай бұрын

    1 year of NC. I dunno why I am writing this, I moved on already. Xd But, she never reached out, she left me. I’m good, I am a virgin again, life is good. I feel amazing. Ready to fly

  • @suziandchopstix
    @suziandchopstix2 ай бұрын

    I needed to hear that last part. GOLD. “it is bait, they are baiting you, do not fall for it do not chase” Seriously needed to hear it because we’re in a weak position where when they come back all we want to do is accept them but we need to have the strength to respect ourselves better. Please make more videos on moving on after still being in love. It’s so hard. The grief stage. The confusing thoughts etc Thank you for this

  • @trinadagriff1140
    @trinadagriff11406 ай бұрын

    I'm not sure what just happened, but I just started no contact and feeling a sense of relief, safety, freedom, sleep. There's a sense of being grateful that I don't have to hear this person speak anymore. Am I in denial or in some short term delusional phase of happy? I always felt uneasy, and anger, and confusion with this guy.

  • @greatiam5916

    @greatiam5916

    Ай бұрын

    Same here ❤

  • @Lyaz.altaib

    @Lyaz.altaib

    5 күн бұрын

    How are you feeling now ?

  • @trinadagriff1140

    @trinadagriff1140

    5 күн бұрын

    @Lyaz.altaib better but still a feeling like when's the drama in my life gonna happen, even tho there no threat or worry in my life.

  • @georgehernandez4410
    @georgehernandez44102 ай бұрын

    Keep loving in general even if your heart has been ripped out. love is more powerful than anything don’t worry everything will be ok and if you feel it isn’t hug yourself because it is my friend. you’re not alone keep pushing i promise life is truly grand and beautiful especially with you in it!

  • @lorriewinder3947
    @lorriewinder39476 ай бұрын

    I really hope he's hurting like he hurts me...thank you coach!!!

  • @theysayisagorilla
    @theysayisagorilla6 ай бұрын

    Its beautiful that we can all learn from each other.

  • @kyngvalentines4590
    @kyngvalentines45906 ай бұрын

    All my brothas in this struggle keep shining in the dark I know it’s hard but we gon make it through I know we want them back but show them how we move and what you’re capable of shine on them get that money up, workout, and strive for you passionate about im six weeks in NC and am grinding y’all so the same best of luck fellas 💯

  • @Joyblessing4

    @Joyblessing4

    6 ай бұрын

    My ex came back to me few days❤️ ago got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Romeo who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg. For a second chance. He can bring your ex back, and he also do a lot of work also like financial problem, and court case, etc

  • @Joyblessing4

    @Joyblessing4

    6 ай бұрын

    On WhatsApp

  • @Joyblessing4

    @Joyblessing4

    6 ай бұрын

    +2347034218893👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾🔥🔥🪴🪴❄❄🔮適港, 港决很高興

  • @mrf4308
    @mrf43086 ай бұрын

    My ex GF was scenario 3. After 4 weeks of NC, she emailed me, telling me how I was everything she ever wanted in a man, kind, caring, thoughtful, loving. She told me how I'm a wonderful dad, not only to my chikdren, but to hers. She saidnshe missed me, missed us, emotionally and physically. I ran right back, said I'd try again, but that she had to try, she had to change things, or there is no point. We lasted 3 weeks, in which we only went out once as a couple and once as a family, both of which were amazing, but she held back, made no effort, then said things didnt feel the same. I was heartbroken once again. I gave her back all the pics, the beautiful things she'd made me, given me, it was too painful to see and hold onto, and I drove away. Im missing her so much, and caved yesterday and messged her, begging. Pathetic really, and shes not bothered to respond. Wish id seen these vids and had more strength, more self respect than letting her win, feeding her ego. 😢

  • @WateredDownTea561

    @WateredDownTea561

    5 ай бұрын

    it’s not pathetic at all! forgive yourself and just don’t be fooled to get roped in again. it’s human to want to be loved and it’s also a form of addiction

  • @harundaniel7705
    @harundaniel77053 ай бұрын

    Am I the only one that doesn’t want my ex back? I legit watch these videos because I’m curious about this topic

  • @msshay421

    @msshay421

    2 ай бұрын

    Nope. Love don’t live here anymore.

  • @Ejs_Chicken_Sandwiches_
    @Ejs_Chicken_Sandwiches_6 ай бұрын

    I’m going through this currently & this is helping me with clarity & respect for myself. Thank you for the free game brotha! Great knowledge

  • @saramontanez2811
    @saramontanez28114 ай бұрын

    It was dope that I seen this! I think the no contact brings up so many things! I love the way you described the rejection and abandonment feelings. It’s so empowering to chose myself. Gratitude for this reminder! Powerful

  • @user-oo8ch7vl1l
    @user-oo8ch7vl1l5 ай бұрын

    It’s been 12 months since the break up. We had an engagement. We had some contacts mostly logistics, her things and so on. The contact was 3 months ago. She messaged me for my bday. I had waited for so long for a messaged and hoping to hear from her but when I got my bday message. I simple said thanks hope you are well. That’s it. Work on you, move on. I really thought she was my person too.

  • @Inspiration_with_oyiza
    @Inspiration_with_oyiza6 ай бұрын

    Thank you coach. Your videos are soul lifting and helpful. Much love❤️

  • @rosemarielawrence-ed5jz
    @rosemarielawrence-ed5jz5 ай бұрын

    I must say I really enjoy listening and learning from you absolutely refreshing🙏🏾. Keep up the good work there’s so many silent listeners u are helping including me. God Bless u 🙏🏾

  • @itiswell
    @itiswell3 ай бұрын

    Very good video. No contact is such a blessing especially after trauma bonding or toxic relationships.

  • @akasickform
    @akasickform5 ай бұрын

    Your insight is fantastic and you have a very calming way of explaining these things Respect

  • @satisfiedvideosberry7748
    @satisfiedvideosberry77486 ай бұрын

    Feel this bro. Photo Booth. Bowling. People changing. I messed up bad with attachment styles and other things that affected how I was. I broke both of our hearts.

  • @ashleywilliams3343
    @ashleywilliams33436 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for sharing this story; it's so helpful!

  • @babydii3487
    @babydii34875 ай бұрын

    It's not genuine if they're only seeking relief and validation for their ego

  • @Shae_3
    @Shae_36 ай бұрын

    I just wanna say kudos to you for journaling!!!! Not a lot of men do that

  • @yaab8250
    @yaab82503 ай бұрын

    Not all dumpers are bad, many also do it because they found their strenght to leave after giving their all in the relationship yet was mistreated and did not feel valued by their avoidant dismissive partner. At some point you have to accept they will never love you an leave.

  • @EmilySandersLMT
    @EmilySandersLMT4 ай бұрын

    You’re amazing love it all! You got me through my day! As hard as it is, I’m going silent! ❤

  • @shandy41709
    @shandy417093 ай бұрын

    Yup 2 years later . I'm getting there. He's now feeling the loss. And I'm the one who has the power

  • @Alpito123
    @Alpito1236 ай бұрын

    First of all. You are a great person. Not even my friends and family made me so calm during my GFs breakup with me. Thank you!

  • @blacademic

    @blacademic

    6 ай бұрын

    I’m glad you find the videos helpful. Stay strong 🙏

  • @adelante3938

    @adelante3938

    4 ай бұрын

    for real though

  • @lungilezama6448
    @lungilezama64485 ай бұрын

    i am amazed at how mang people are going though break up I am not alone in you I have found a support group I was feeling so broken but getting better each day

  • @AccordingToTaniya89
    @AccordingToTaniya896 ай бұрын

    Going through this right now. Felt like i lost the love of my life. Feel like i just want to block him, but will feel guilty doing so...but i know I need to get over him

  • @user-vb9bq7uj7l

    @user-vb9bq7uj7l

    6 ай бұрын

    I feel ur pain, going thru same thing

  • @Nico-vn8uq

    @Nico-vn8uq

    4 ай бұрын

    Block him! If he wants you he will find a way to call… probably fake app but he will call

  • @JustDemi127
    @JustDemi1273 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this message!!! Thank you for doing the work to deliver this message!! God bless you! I’ve been praying and confused why my ex was texting me messages of anger. I accidentally clicked on this video while driving! I understand now

  • @traphouzestudios2739
    @traphouzestudios27393 ай бұрын

    This helped me so much. So accurate. Thank you for helping me in my situation

  • @canis556
    @canis5566 ай бұрын

    I lost my job and had to figure out my life. She started to become distant, I was leaning in relationship too much and getting anxious I can loose also her. She broke up with me 3 months later. I begged, cried, chased. Get angry and frustrated. Felt into pieces and depression. She blocked me everywhere and said she dobt want nothing to do with me. Few months later I made first milion out of nothing. Its amazing, like universe gave me this to experience full spectrum of life. I perceive this also as a test for her and me, if she deserve what's coming. I would never believe things like this are real. Feel lonely now. Thinking how to find good woman now and open myself and not get hurt again

  • @alaindossous1225

    @alaindossous1225

    6 ай бұрын

    How did you make your first million?

  • @MeganSummer
    @MeganSummer6 ай бұрын

    Loved and appreciated your vulnerability in this one. 💖

  • @gabriellegreen2647
    @gabriellegreen26473 ай бұрын

    Thank you for sharing your experience. It helps me to gain perspective and wisdom in my own situation

  • @Cookt21
    @Cookt215 ай бұрын

    I just found this channel, I want to say thank you so much I’m going through a difficult relationship and I was so sad you have helped me sooooo much

  • @user-hc3jd6ck2o
    @user-hc3jd6ck2o5 ай бұрын

    Bro this is spot on. I initiated ghost protocol 9 days ago. Since then she has completed every step you outlined except showing up at my spot because I literally moved. I watched this video today and this afternoon recieved the blame text and the I am sorry text.

  • @zubieM

    @zubieM

    Ай бұрын

    I need to move- I really need to move. Day 2 of NC 😢

  • @user-tc3zq7uy9m
    @user-tc3zq7uy9m5 ай бұрын

    How does one deal with all the pain. "Crickets" - pain when all one hears nothing.

  • @803cbear
    @803cbear6 ай бұрын

    You are a beautiful person for this. I didnt get anything but i see u doing good and im proud of you. If u need me without any hidden agenda im here.

  • @bootcat7084
    @bootcat70843 ай бұрын

    Wonderful wisdom- thank you for sharing that story. This video helped me so much. Bittersweet and beautiful. I do deserve love. I will move on from this. Thank you for the encouragement.

  • @mitchgatewood2855
    @mitchgatewood28553 ай бұрын

    This dude is 🥶! I needed this video yeas ago. Sincerely thank you 🙏🏽. This content is solid.

  • @leasalem3037
    @leasalem30374 ай бұрын

    Thank you I needed to hear this. only three days no contact but it feels like an eternity.

  • @paige8361
    @paige83616 ай бұрын

    This healed a huge piece of my heart. You have no idea how many people you're helping. Thank you and I love you 🤍

  • @blacademic

    @blacademic

    6 ай бұрын

    Love you too. Thanks for watching!

  • @crystalclimenhage9980

    @crystalclimenhage9980

    6 ай бұрын

    ​@@blacademicI'm in no contact a second time. (after I did it the first time he came to my house angry I went silent.. and he was cold after).I went back into no contact....on day 41 of no contact .he made a post on fb about " don't force a relationship and don't chase after ppl that arbt chasing you". Then he made a post about how " woman fall out of love as fast as they fall in love". Do you think this is a sign he is hurting?

  • @crystalclimenhage9980

    @crystalclimenhage9980

    6 ай бұрын

    @@blacademic I am in no contact a 2nd time. The first time I did it he got angry and came to my door. It's obvious he showed up for validation. I started no contact all over again. He made an angry post on Facebook about " you can't force a relationship and don't chase after people that arbt chasing after you." (I haven't chased him at all). Then he made a post about how " woman only love conditionally and fall out of love as fast as they fall in love". He made these particular posts after I made it look like I was out having a good time. Do you think in my case the no contact Is getting to him again?

  • @preshusworld4211
    @preshusworld42116 ай бұрын

    I needed this message! Thanks coach!

  • @judahhardimon
    @judahhardimon4 ай бұрын

    Man! This video was so helpful I have to write something’s down I really appreciate you king !

  • @dawncherry3977
    @dawncherry39776 күн бұрын

    So glad to hear this. Going thru stuff now but the self respect is soooo key.

  • @anaphilpott2219
    @anaphilpott22196 ай бұрын

    I so appreciate your honesty. It’s been just 5 weeks of nc. I’m trusting the process. Thank you.

  • @jessejamess.

    @jessejamess.

    6 ай бұрын

    I’m going on 2 months, my ex still watches my stories but just know those little signs could be nothing, stay in control, don’t reach out! only reply if necessary. Over time the pain will go away. You will always miss her but the tears will go away. I Pray for the best for you 💪

  • @swolebodydaddy3816

    @swolebodydaddy3816

    6 ай бұрын

    any news

  • @taj6048

    @taj6048

    5 ай бұрын

    I just started 🥲

  • @taj6048

    @taj6048

    5 ай бұрын

    @@FurryLewds Thank you so much! I cant tell you how much your comment means to me

  • @LoveAndMindMatters
    @LoveAndMindMatters6 ай бұрын

    Been in NC for 1 month each week she sends me quotes and pictures of our dog, reacting to old messages and messaging hope im doing well etc. all insignificant!

  • @bipbop7231
    @bipbop72316 ай бұрын

    Serendipity….Coach, you’re a wordsmith. ☺️

  • @kgalaletsompofu9072
    @kgalaletsompofu90726 ай бұрын

    Thank you very much Coach for sharing your story. Thank you very much for your videos. They are a huge source of support and comfort. God bless!🙏🙏

  • @Joyblessing4

    @Joyblessing4

    6 ай бұрын

    My ex came back to me few days❤️ ago got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Romeo who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg. For a second chance. He can bring your ex back, and he also do a lot of work also like financial problem, and court case, etc..

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    @Joyblessing4

    6 ай бұрын

    On WhatsApp..

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  • @keithhoppe9676
    @keithhoppe96766 ай бұрын

    Love the video. Man o man we had some miscommunication. She is mad because of my anxious attachment style vs. her late dismissive style. I really liked the 3rd and tricky bate that you talked about. Can you elaborate more on that?

  • @shannondavis3338
    @shannondavis33382 ай бұрын

    This video was really good, your story was very similar to what I'm going through. Although I'm really unsure what the future will hold. Thanks Coach.

  • @jaedynnmorgan4920
    @jaedynnmorgan49206 ай бұрын

    I needed this video last Thursday. My ex baited me and I fell for it. Only for her to respond that it’s still too much that happened. Lol she even stopped watching my instagram story.

  • @grantmcpherson6172
    @grantmcpherson6172Ай бұрын

    Coach Black, your videos are always educational, inspiring, and reassuring. Hearing a real life expierence from youself made this video hit different. Im going through the same situation currently and it was goid to hear your situation at the time and your experience from it. Thank you!

  • @linag.8837
    @linag.88374 ай бұрын

    This is a really great video! Thank you ❤

  • @seanwixom6420
    @seanwixom64206 ай бұрын

    I just wanna say thank you man for these videos you have helped me as a man so much God bless.

  • @MH-el8yf
    @MH-el8yf4 ай бұрын

    Hey this was right on time for me. Been back and forth for years with someone and I am at the end. Thanks for the perspective

  • @cindyphilippe8687
    @cindyphilippe86875 ай бұрын

    Thank you so for these videos. im in no contact for the second time and realize i went by it the wrong way the first time. But this is keeping me going... Im a great women and i refuse to settle for less!

  • @mwabanana07
    @mwabanana076 ай бұрын

    Your videos are so helpful ♥️

  • @sherondadavis8907
    @sherondadavis89076 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this message i really needed this.

  • @rossiedotson7657
    @rossiedotson76575 ай бұрын

    Really needed to hear this thank you

  • @tubesurf17
    @tubesurf176 ай бұрын

    Wow . I just did that by accident. (Looked at a few pics of us that popped out! Everyone thought we were married. We had a connection. Now im aware of ALOT of this info u share. Enough to lead. Enough to give us a goal and a path. I have a God to help. But i cant reach her. 5 years. I love her . I needed support to . She emotionally wasnt able to. Skill she could learn same as the changes i have to make. I could and would learn. Gosh im where u were... love that u became who u are coach . Cas u help. Thank u

  • @damilohun92
    @damilohun926 ай бұрын

    Wow I actually watched this whole video and everything is 💯

  • @belevhersboutique4727
    @belevhersboutique4727Ай бұрын

    I’m glad I came across your channel 💯💯💯

  • @adriennelatimer2491
    @adriennelatimer24914 ай бұрын

    I totally relate. I’m more anxious and my husband of 27 years who recently left me as a fearful avoidant

  • @sharonlandrau

    @sharonlandrau

    2 ай бұрын

    I’m praying for you

  • @xbckjrny
    @xbckjrny6 ай бұрын

    Hello all, I found this channel and its gold. Thanks coach. It gives me so much strength. A few months ago she told me she had doubts about our relationship. She had not a specific reason. Just a feeling .. I was in panic and did everything to solve it. But she kept that feeling. She rather wants to be more with her friends and colleagues than with me. So frustrating. 2 weeks ago we broke up. But she also kept telling me she loves me and does not want without me in her life. I don't understand why this al happend. Last two months I wanted to do everything for her and I told her she could come back every time she wanted... So dumb. Now I know that what I did was wrong. I need to back up and go in NC. I will share my journey here from now on. Im in NC now for 48 hours. Thats already really hard. But I'll Keep grinding and try to be a better person. I will keep yall updated. Mannn the pain is so deep. I feel there is a future for us, hopefully its not to late. Keep up everybody ❤

  • @xbckjrny

    @xbckjrny

    6 ай бұрын

    3 days NC. It helps me to notice it over here sometimes I think.

  • @ritanjoki8264

    @ritanjoki8264

    6 ай бұрын

    How is it going?? I'm 3days today

  • @xbckjrny

    @xbckjrny

    6 ай бұрын

    2 weeks... Still grinding. Keep yourself strong 👊💪🫶🫶🫶

  • @JM-bv2mo
    @JM-bv2mo6 ай бұрын

    Thanks for your story! Lol, I got a really sweet msg saying how he was thinking of me after reading a postcard I sent him & how he only wants good things for me. Super confusing lol bc I can’t even be mad! 😅

  • @scottparker1055
    @scottparker10556 ай бұрын

    Love the video, what about mixed messages and signals? Also what if a person says it’s only temporary but all along in their mind it’s permanent. The hot and cold behavior?

  • @rosehooker8464
    @rosehooker84643 ай бұрын

    Thanks for sharing, this is so important for me at this point of my life. 😢thank you, thank you

  • @alexforand67
    @alexforand676 ай бұрын

    Great vid as always !!

  • @DockClock-rp2ro
    @DockClock-rp2ro6 ай бұрын

    Thank-you for this. My situation is almost identical.

  • @user-tb8re4yz1n
    @user-tb8re4yz1n2 ай бұрын

    I have been dumped after being with him for 3 yr . His way of teaching me a lesson was by Getting back on the dating app and liking one of my best friend’s friend. I keep on going through ups and downs and trying to make sense of what happened and how I can move on and learn from it. You sharing your wisdom has absolutely saved me from loosing the little dignity I have left. Thank you so so much. Please keep on posting… I will be watching 😊

  • @octaviousmathurin1761
    @octaviousmathurin17615 ай бұрын

    Thanks for this msg brother

  • @ILM047
    @ILM047Ай бұрын

    You are truly a life saver ! Thanks for your content ❤

  • @saleenastone
    @saleenastone2 ай бұрын

    I'm not sure why this popped up in my algorithm, but the things I have learned are this....Reject yourself of injury, and the injury disappears. If you chase, it will flee from you. If you attract, it will have no other choice but to magnitize. When you truly and deeply love someone, it is not that they have loved you in return, but that they have learned to love themselves more. It is not respectful to hold anyone hostage to our expectation of filling our love tank, no one person is even capable. If it comes from within first and we know who we are and where we are going, then love comes to us freely. For we do not get what we want, rather what we are. If I want love, I must first become it. Our minds can either be our greatest enemy or our most powerful weapon. Know who you are and stand with both feet fitted firmly on the ground, occupying it with power and dominion. Oh, what freedom.

  • @RIPSlawd
    @RIPSlawd6 ай бұрын

    I hope you get everything you ever wanted, and I hope I never hear anything about it Megan. Maybe in the next life

  • @Tiosha820
    @Tiosha8206 ай бұрын

    When is your next live? How often do you go live?

  • @cloverwalker3203
    @cloverwalker32034 ай бұрын

    You are God sent Thank You 🙏🏽

  • @domuchiha6028
    @domuchiha60283 ай бұрын

    Brother! I was wondering if maybe there’s a chance to rap about a situation? Your videos have insome through new times man and would be greatful

  • @trissymac
    @trissymacКүн бұрын

    I really appreciate this channel as a new sub! It is really helping me through this break up and it has been hard because I was good to him. Some how he managed to become the victim to all of our friends and his family, when he actually just wanted to be single because him being with me made other females want to date him. He can't see it but I can 🤷🏽‍♀️. Now I am just trying to get over him. But we still have the same friends 😞

  • @katt7370
    @katt73704 ай бұрын

    Thank you for all your words of wisdom. I can tell you have been there, you didn't even need to say it. My question is, why would someone not come back when you go no contact and things were left fairly unresolved (especially if they know they did you wrong)?

  • @user-eo7zf8se8d
    @user-eo7zf8se8d6 ай бұрын

    i can totally relate to that. thanks for all the wisdom you share with us

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    @Joyblessing4

    6 ай бұрын

    My ex came back to me few days❤️ ago got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Romeo who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg. For a second chance. He can bring your ex back, and he also do a lot of work also like financial problem, and court case, etc

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    @Joyblessing4

    6 ай бұрын

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  • @wingchundragon
    @wingchundragon6 ай бұрын

    My ex reconnected with me. Said out of the 2yrs we stopped speaking, she always looked at her emails to see if I wrote her. I was the best this and that....then she ghosts me again. .......i aint got time for the childish games. A big part of me wants to text and give her a piece of my mind. But then i say, why bother with someone who doesnt value you

  • @debratownsend5495
    @debratownsend54955 ай бұрын

    Thank you Coach for Sharing 😮😢❤❤❤😅

  • @georgeyguard2007
    @georgeyguard20076 ай бұрын

    I don’t know why everyone so desperate to get their exes back 😂 bro they left you! They made a choice to leave you, instead of working towards fixing things… they chose to leave! Close the fucking door and move on. Have some self respect.

  • @gogohappygirl
    @gogohappygirl6 ай бұрын

    If you ever do a sequel to this video, here’s scenario 4: Your ex blames you for a lot of things but also takes some ownership for their part yet is unable/not willing to work on things & concludes you shouldn’t be together yet wants to be friends. Acknowledge there were challenges on both sides & you both could’ve done things differently, but healthy conflict resolution takes two, and if that’s not possible, you respect their decision & wish them all the best, ending with something like if they want to work on things in the future, to reach out. Address their offer of friendship by saying something like you’ll consider it but then go back into NC to work on yourself & evaluate if friendship is really something that you could be happy with. Continue NC either until they reach out or until you’ve healed enough to give them one text as an olive branch (because many dismissive avoidants won’t be the first to reach out during NC).

  • @Joyblessing4

    @Joyblessing4

    6 ай бұрын

    My ex came back to me few days❤️ ago got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Romeo who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg. For a second chance. He can bring your ex back, and he also do a lot of work also like financial problem, and court case, etc

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    @Joyblessing4

    6 ай бұрын

    On WhatsApp

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  • @flavioks5438
    @flavioks54382 ай бұрын

    This guy is the goat

  • @a.d.b535
    @a.d.b535Ай бұрын

    Wow, thanks for sharing your story.

  • @user-tc3zq7uy9m
    @user-tc3zq7uy9m5 ай бұрын

    Yes. Yes. Go through the storm. Man, the pain.

  • @earnestcoleman5938
    @earnestcoleman59386 ай бұрын

    I'm just super excited that mine decided to ditch me and go to New York. It's so perfect because now New York has a no contact order if they think you're sick and can quarantine you indefinitely. I'm going to show her how it feels to be not contacted at all and have no say so in the matter. Because to me, she is sick.

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