I implore you to listen to this man me and my ex reunited after a month, thank you coach lee for your advice I’ve managed to grow, gain perspective and work on myself aswell !

@She.33

5 ай бұрын

Finding Coach Lee has been the best thing in helping me find myself. I have been lost in grief but he's shown me a new way to think. Thank you!

@alexanderthegreat3106

5 ай бұрын

😅not if the person has cheated there isnothing to save

@Saboramii

4 ай бұрын

Happy for you. Who broke up with who and why? Curious, feeling discouraged :(

@tdw711

4 ай бұрын

My ex of 31 years has been a way for 3 weeks I broke the nocontac several different times I'm going to try his advice wish I would have watched this video right after the breakup

@abbyc4720

Ай бұрын

I loved reading your relationship success story. I’m elated that you’re happy ❤

No contact works best when you accept that what you once had is now over. Something new CAN come about with the same person but there needs to be a true reset. Stay strong to those hurting, this will soon be a distant memory.

@shelleyfox4092

6 ай бұрын

Lovely Words said x

@alamxr

6 ай бұрын

Wise words 🙏🏻

@coreysipe939

6 ай бұрын

Very true

@Jeffersonmarcy

6 ай бұрын

❤

@amm50

6 ай бұрын

Pls advise how to reset the person

After 4 months of no contact and consistently watching and trusting Coach Lee in all of his videos, my ex and I got back together last week. Even though we are currently back together, I continue to watch Coach Lee's videos because without him, I wouldn't know what to do. I am very thankful for Coach Lee. If you're hurting right now, remember that this will pass. Whether you get back together or move on, trust the process and listen to Coach Lee, it's a win-win for you.

@Nrsouth12

6 ай бұрын

Who reached out first?

@sloanmagnum5009

6 ай бұрын

What initially caused your break-up?

@MissBluebirddays

6 ай бұрын

Wow that's awesome, happy for you 😊

@TrentAlexanderArnold66LFC

5 ай бұрын

Wow happy for you mate well done for doing no contact it’s very hard

@laolooo

4 ай бұрын

I wondered did you reach out to your ex or your ex reached out first?

Don’t worry about your ex. Build your self respect up again. And date yourself. Do what you want. If it’s meant to be to be between the both of you. They will come back.

To anyone who is anxious about getting them back, I did what he said and it worked. Just trust the process 💯

@user-ot2qj6tw2h

6 ай бұрын

How long did it take?

@mahdman3

6 ай бұрын

Yeah please share with us how long it took.

@timphillips9954

6 ай бұрын

and me

@TheDon6

6 ай бұрын

Time?

@lsh292

5 ай бұрын

@@mahdman3I personally believe if you go apart on good terms after creating loads of good memories and go NC and go completely silent they will chase you faster than you think.

My ex definitely felt the loss and tried to reconnect with me. Unfortunately for him, I used all this no contact for 9 months to grow and heal, and don't want him anymore. 😅

@keliakilpatrick5038

2 ай бұрын

I'm struggling on this RN but I actually do want freedom though I'm in a confused state on do I actually want him this was a 5 yr thing.that actually wasn't supposed to happen

@DTechnologyservices

Ай бұрын

This is my entire point. No contact can only work if you no longer want the person anymore. It’s spiritual. Now they come back when you are not interested.

@Swiss_Girl

Ай бұрын

after how long did he reach out?❤ I am on day 18 of NC

@kanji590

Ай бұрын

She said 9 months ​@@Swiss_Girl

No contact can only have an impact on your ex, if he or she has enough time for self reflection. If your ex is extremely busy with his/her life especially in a new environment, no contact can hardly impact them, and in fact it may even help them to move on faster. So keep only minimal hope about getting your ex back. Focus on yourself; let time take care of the rest.

@rwentfordable

6 ай бұрын

I agree with the new environment.

@k1202009

6 ай бұрын

moving on isn't the hard part....it's so easy to meet other people and move on...but if the connection was real, strong and unlike anything either of you have experienced it's not easy to come by- in fact, it may never happen again.

@davidchang5265

5 ай бұрын

Ex broke up with me while studying abroad, aka new environment. She's coming back home in a week, I'm wondering if being shot back into the "old" environment would help my case still?

@jonstallo9738

5 ай бұрын

​My ex moved to a new apartment 3 months before she ended our relationship. I moved her in. Most of the furniture in her place I gave her to use from my house. She has chairs on her patio that I built for her. Even the car she drives that I sold her, belonged to my dad. She still uses my Netflix account and shares my Costco membership. How does she not think about and miss me everyday when everything around her reminds her of me?

@davidchang5265

5 ай бұрын

@@jonstallo9738 I FEEEEEEL THAT MAN, I even helped paint her room on top of all the moving

I think I'm using these videos to get used to the loss and using no contact just to get through to the next moment and self-improve as much as I can. It's been three months, and I vacillate between feeling great, then the next moment, my heart aches, and I'm in tears.

@abiyubeshah

2 ай бұрын

I can feel you. It hurts a lot.

@fernandacabrini5740

Ай бұрын

I feel you too!

@chaplin006

17 күн бұрын

It's going to be okay no matter what. I am going through the same things right now it is difficulty but It will be okay.

No matter what you tell her, she is not going to change her mind until and unless she chooses it herself. So why waste your time and energy worrying about something that's out of your control? Take a break, be kind to yourself, live life and be happy.

19 months no contact after a 22 year relationship, I think it's safe to say they're not coming back.

@wm1231

5 ай бұрын

My heart goes to you...😢

@justjoking2275

4 ай бұрын

They will only contact you when the notice you have moved on and become a better version of yourself, but they will contact to check on you not to get back at first. If you act needy if they contact they will run away again !

@abiyubeshah

2 ай бұрын

You shouldn't have pursued no contact for a relationship that lasted and was enjoyed for 22 yrs.

@MDDR-io7nh

2 ай бұрын

@abiyubeshah yes, I should have and I did. Once someone decides to walk away, I'm not chasing them. Additionally, once a person is unfaithful, I'm done!

@user-uu2fb8li4i

2 ай бұрын

If they cheated then why are you waiting to hear from them

Most of you should just let the relationship go and work on improving your self and moving forward. Sure, you read comments about people getting an ex back but when you read the comment, they stated that they just got their ex back recently. Trust me, if you revisist the comment and ask for an update, the relationship usually failed again, or they just dont reply because it failed. It's really only a small group of couples who getback together permanently, they usually break up for superficial reasons. Your true companion is out there waiting for you to let go of what wasnt meant to be. Your feelings are literally just a chemical reaction in your brain. Once you learn to control them and see things in an unbiased view, youll start to feel so much better and realize you deserve better if you were a good partner. If you got broken up with because you were a bad partner, then you get to reflect create change in your life that can produce a more positive outcome.

@-matya5543

Ай бұрын

You never know if you never try, there is such thing as right person wrong time , reletionships are supposed to be worked on and just giving up is easier than trying to make it work , you have a point there and i agree with some of ghe stuff. You people have to understand that yes it is possible that your actual parthner is out there yet if you dont try with this person youll never know.

@sloanmagnum5009

Ай бұрын

@@-matya5543 if you're not compatible on core beliefs and personality then the relationship is almost certainly doomed. Nobody should have to suffer or work hard for a relationship. Some people are just scared to let go and accept that the person they were with isn't "the one".

@Aryan-nv9kd

Күн бұрын

@@-matya5543 Exactly. I wish there was some kind of a marker on people's forehead which told us if they would give up on you when circumstances turn bad for a while. Let the givers stay together, that way. And let the takers be with whatever newest thing that has caught their fancy. Would save a lot of our time, investment, emotions and energy.

I lived and breathed coach lee when I was going through a break up at the beginning of 2022. Now almost 2 years later, I am completely over my ex which tbh at the time I didn't would be possible... it does get better, break ups are fucking hard but there is life on the other side. Haven't seen or spoken to him since the day it ended & I happily plan on keeping it that way forever. What's great too is that once that person has been out of your life for a while you stop looking at them through rose-tinted glasses and see them more and more for what they really were - a measly human being with flaws, who holds no control over your happiness or self-worth. Hang in there everyone!

10 months into no contact and I got a “ Happy Thanksgiving”. I was civil and said ‘thank you, blessings’. Back to no contact. Not pursuing breadcrumbs at this stage.

@Golfing422

4 ай бұрын

Smart guy

She came back after four months. Shocked me!

@justintrades7851

Ай бұрын

did u take her back

@user-gc8dh2tm7p

Ай бұрын

I hope this is true because I'm in close to 5 months and nothing from her

My partner and I split up. I broke her trust. I went into no contact for 2/3 weeks and I was in a bad place, I listened to your videos which really helped especially through the really sad times. I actually broke No Contact. We started talking and I reasoned that our relationship was worth fighting for, it took a long time (8 months) but we are back together and very happy. ❤ Every relationship is different and there are no hard and fast rules. If you both still love each other and can see a glimmer then why not give it your best shot? I did not I do not regret it.

Yeah it's best just to go to no contact helps you move on if they really want to be with you they will reach out just remember no contact isn't about getting them back it's about getting yourself back

She comes back when she finds out the grass ain’t greener 😂 Then the choice is up to you my guy

@jannlewandowski5540

6 ай бұрын

benhartart9487. If you keep taking her back each time she goes to another guy, she will keep doing it. If my boyfriend/husband did that to me, I would definitely not trust him again. Just knowing they were with someone else, would break my heart, and I would lose TRUST..GOOD LUCK TO YOU ❤❤

To people who say „why would you want your ex back”, „ex is an ex for a reason” and „they left you once they will do it again” - what are you doing watching and commenting on these videos when you’re clearly not a target audience? Just curious.

@baggergurl16

6 ай бұрын

Oh my god, I get annoyed reading these comments too and I can’t help but think if these people feel so strongly like this then why even watch these videos cause it’s clearly not for you.

@idiamonddoggx

4 ай бұрын

My ex has left me twice but I still want round 3 😂

My ex broke up with me over a year ago because she liked being alone. Within two months (I have since learned) she had a new relationship... and continued to reach out. I kept thinking she was going to come back. I won't bore you with the details. I wish I could be friends her but I can't. I just can't see her in any other way as someone I wanted to grow old with. I miss her so much even with it being over 15 months. I want this pain to stop.

@sloanmagnum5009

6 ай бұрын

When she told you she liked being alone, that was just her polite way of breaking it off with you. When they say things like that, they have no intention of reconciling. Also, you're choosing to hang on to the past. 15 months is a long time to still be holding on to what doesn't exist anymore. It's your responsibility to learn to live without that person. Time alone won't make a difference, you have to actually make the difference.

@Linzo24

6 ай бұрын

@@sloanmagnum5009 Forgive me for this is a winded reply. I absolutely agree with you. But she also looked me directly in the eyes and said she still found me attractive and saw a future with me the day we broke up. I truly think if we had actually just talked about how we were likely spending too much time together, we could have salvaged something - changed the way we were dating. I would have been MORE than fine with that. She drove me home that day; we hugged and cried for a LONG time. She insisted she didn't want anyone else. I told her specifically I didn't want to be friends that day because I couldn't fathom it - and she kept coming back, reaching out - after I did NC (30 days; then another 25; etc., she asked me to dinner after my first 30 days of NC - never happened because our schedules couldn't match; 2nd dinner she arranged - she 'forgot'. For each NC by me - she kept coming back (and still does - as recently as Thanksgiving). I admit, since day 1 of this - I could be better at standing up for my needs and wants but I wanted that discussed in person. Even me eventually telling her exactly how I felt (full details) - and asking we not talk, that I needed silence between us because I love her and cannot picture us as friends - she came back AGAIN (this was April this year). Please note - I did NC without even seeing a video like this until two months into my break-up. I'm struggling more with the fact we had so many serious conversations about our values, lives (we're both much older), we knew we wanted a long life together - saw the future (marriage)... you get the picture. From the words hello, seeing her (our first two 'dates' were on the phone) - she immediately felt like family - and she expressed the exact same. It's just a bit harder to swallow / comprehend - even with knowing I have to do the work. It's not that I don't want to - it's just hard at times. Sorry for the long winded response. And thank you for your response.

@OnderHassan

4 ай бұрын

She cheated on you. A girl doesn’t just jump into a new relationship after 2 months. She was likely in contact with this person and meeting up while with you and was waiting for the best opportunity to monkey branch when it was safe to do so. I wouldn’t worry about it. You deserve better than that.

@julienguyen1930

2 ай бұрын

Once you see her just as an acquaintance, who has nothing to do with your life, the pain will stop.

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.

@Ken_Johnson

4 ай бұрын

I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.

@EricScofield22

4 ай бұрын

Really? How do i find one please?

@Ken_Johnson

4 ай бұрын

Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

@user-vh1fu2vt1y

4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

@EricScofield22

4 ай бұрын

Thanks Ken, i really appreciate.

Im at the point where i dont even think i want my ex back lol

@Ghjjft68u

3 ай бұрын

How

If you're reading this feeling wounded right now, trust Coach Lee. It feels wrong to follow his advice. But it works.

Hello Coach and everyone here. I did no contact for 17 months. We reunited, my ex said everything Coach Lee says, about them wanting to reach out etc. We rekindled, and broke up 2 months later. Neither of us had done the proper work on ourselves OR we just arent meant to be together. Im in no contact again for 6 months. You WILL get better. I promise. Coach Lee's videos have helped me..thank you Coach 🙏

@patricialiardi3782

6 ай бұрын

@Messyhead9teen Did you both date others in that 17 mos?

@rymphanglyngdoh5297

6 ай бұрын

17 months,,, haaa😮

@johnwick2338

6 ай бұрын

That's a very long time

@flat4wankel

6 ай бұрын

You didn't worked on yourself for 17 months? You had all that time

@Messyhead9teen

6 ай бұрын

@patricialiardi3782 I dated other people but compared them to him. I couldn't move on properly. He said he didn't date anyone within that 17 months 🤷‍♀️

the no contact principles also work during a relationship where you want more commitment. in short, meaning: you must show that you are constantly growing. so they will be fearing that you might get better (more attractive) than them, you must show that you also have other interests than this person, show that you aren t depending on them emotionally, you must show in a subtle way and with calm that they can lose you. not with words but with actions. just a small example: he cancels your plans together last minute. no worries, you let him know that you truly understand and you go out with friends instead. and let him know how much fun you had. just like for you it was maybe better that he had canceled. but don t say it exactly. let him feel that your life is awesome even without him. also, always mirror his attitude towards you. don t overgive. another thing, remember that fear of losing someone can transform an avoidant altogether. you must convert their fear of closeness with the fear of losing. as the final word.. don t be obvious in your strategy but subtile and constant.

Im 2 weeks in no contact. Its so hard but Ill be strong and hopefully he will come back.

@HateDietPepsi

3 ай бұрын

No contract works better for men who got dumped than for women who got dumped. The best way for a woman to win back a guy is to get in good physical shape and go to finishing school on how to be a great wife.

This worked but as soon as we started seeing each other again, she was also seeing someone else behind my back. I walked away and after 3 months, she reached out again. This time, I left her on "read". Now the bread crumbing has stopped... so far.

My ex broke up with me 23 days ago and I am so heartbroken. Your videos are helping so much Lee thank you

@skinner1790

5 ай бұрын

trust no contact

If I go a few weeks without someone speaking to me, I'm done. The worst feeling I'm the world is waiting around thinking. After 4 months long gone.

Welp, it’s been a year. So I guess there’s not coming back… honestly I’m okay with it. Onward and upward.

I just had to come back here and thank you very much for how you changed my life...a year ago after my then girlfriend left me, your videos kept me going and made me realize myself worth...Thank you very much Sir

Great Therapy, thanks Coach Lee.

Blocked everywhere by them... Think that's them making a decision and sticking to it. I wish it wasn't so. Breakups are good because you realise how much you loved them. For them it's probably how little you loved them.

By far one of the best videos I’ve watched regarding this.

Mr. Lee thanks so much for these vids, you have given me so much power and energy, 6 days no contact and getting stronger daily

This was soo very very good coaching! It really hit the spot.

I’ve been following coach lee for three years now. I promise it’s almost fail Proof.

I love you coach * LEE *...you have made my romancing life less hard...GRACIAS, MERCY, THANK-YOU!

This advice works so well that he came back too soon before I even got to the next video and I'm not ready !!! I am doing my best to stay calm and friendly but He was my world and now I'm aware that walking out on me was so easy for him I'm scared to try again.

We were together 8 years and broke up. Apart for 3 years and ended up getting back together! For a year it was wonderful. I thought she had really changed. I know I had. Therapy, lifestyle changes etc did me a lot of good. But her old habits started coming back and after another 6 moths, dumped me thru a FB message again. Always hides behind email, Facebook etc. Can never face anything in person. I have to be done this time. I need to heal and move on for good. People CAN come back, but it is not always going to give you what you want or need ☹

@skinner1790

5 ай бұрын

specially when there fake about there true intentions i still watch the videos. but therapy is next step for me so i can get over her and find someone that truly cares

No Contact works , Coach Lee has EXCELLENT advice. Take care of yourself & then ……. Thanks Coach Lee 😘❤️😘

NC may not always work but it is an effective way to get your ex back. My ex came back after 2 and half months of breakup and 2 months of NC. And it felt different. The relationship felt stronger. But he went on to do the same thing. After going into NC for 21 days, I reached out. It was a bad move. I aggressively (not physically or by verbal disrespect) tried to make him understand why breaking up was not the solution. I was humiliated. I vowed never to reach out first. That was 3 weeks ago. There are days when I feel so low and miss him but I'm not sure if I want him back. My mind says no, while my heart wants him back. I just hope I can take the right decision. Staying in NC helps a lot.

@chrisredmansr7908

6 ай бұрын

Stay strong sis

Excellent content

And...I have being following for years your platform..but first time commenting

We all think you're great..you've helped me enormously ❤❤🇮🇪🇮🇪🇮🇪

@RealCoachLee

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for such kind words.

listen to this guy he talks a lot of sense. It's important to show strengh, but remember these are only guidlines and every situation is different.

This is excellent advice. The pursuer vs prize is something I really needed to hear today. Thank you, I've been pursuing all my life, I see that it's not working now. I haven't felt like I deserved love. Time to fix that.

@jannlewandowski5540

5 ай бұрын

bolicious7606 We ALL deserve love, and when your time comes, my friend, you will know it. 💕

So artichulate to help us understand. Thank you so much

coach you have to change your video thumbs. it took me so long to click on one of your videos bcs the thumbs look very weird. but here i am and you are the best yt coach online!

So much stuff required to make it work, sometimes it is easier to move on.

The right mindset is you need to be happy with any outcome Kewp building yourself

Just wanted to leave this comment because all I ever saw during my time watching these videos was the hard luck stories, and thought to myself if anyone ever gets their ex back, they don’t have a need for these videos anymore. I did after 3-4 weeks of being broken up with. She came back, I want to let people know what Lee says couldn’t have been more accurate in MY situation, thank you 🙏🏾

@kagamitaiga9167

4 ай бұрын

Did she reach out first?

@johnweir6981

4 ай бұрын

@@kagamitaiga9167 We never went more than 3/4 days at a time without a nice, casual interaction. It was only when we started to give eachother actual space and listening to the advice in these videos that things started to become productive. Yes she did

Honestly watching these videos especially Lee’s videos it helps me get through the days I got broken up with three days ago and it’s been hell for me,before we broke up my ex told me she needed time,space and wanted to heal, at the time she said she was unsure if she wanted to get back together with me in the future which honestly has crushed me coz well obviously I still love her dearly , I can only hope that after time has passed she will come back I’m not going to break the no contact I can’t anyway I’ve been blocked on everything however she has done this before and after sometime she has unblocked me so hopefully after she’s had her time she will but for right now ima just listen to the advice I’ve heard through these videos,keep doing the no contact,work on myself and focus on myself,it’s only been 3 days and it definitely feels like everyday so far gets harder then the last but eventually it’ll be okay,I’ll try to keep this updated especially after if she does or doesn’t come back,Good luck everyone!

@mst8521

6 ай бұрын

I was just typing 💬 same for me it’s been a week for me ! I absolutely hate it !!!! Especially as the holidays come etc … and I’m use to doing everything with my man

@apshappysobriety5414

6 ай бұрын

Brother!🙏🏼 …sounds ilike my story 😕

@sloanmagnum5009

6 ай бұрын

You're just torturing your self. Your ex is playing immature childish games with you. They're unsettled internally and will use you emotionally with no intent to take you serious

@laolooo

5 ай бұрын

hey brother, any updates?

@SushiiiiTrashh

5 ай бұрын

@@laolooo oh yea,well she started dated some dude 4 days after the break up,which means she has been cheating on me behind my back ofc and I’m done with her no fucking way in hell I’m taking her back,been working on myself made some new friends that honestly enrich my life more then I could imagine and honestly haven’t felt better,so yea that’s my update,if any of you guys are struggling best advice I can give is just focus on urself,mentally,psychically,emotionally and financially you’ll come out a much better and stronger person and you’ll find someone way better then ur ex,everything happens for a reason and sometimes things just aren’t meant to be no matter how hard you try if the other person doesn’t want to try then that should say all u need to know, just some of the many things I’ve learnt from this experience, take care all

Amen, yes good truth here! I believe!

I feel like I’ve fumbled it in every way hahahaha but it was a great learning experience

Them dumping is a win. Its not a loss.

Coach lee, I watch these videos and they silence the negative voice in my head. I believe in NC. I know she’s not 100% going to come back, but I know if I keep the faith and use your strategies, I’ll be ok even if she doesn’t.

@RealCoachLee

2 ай бұрын

You only have to take it one day at a time MVP.

My ex left me after years and your videos helped me more then you know. Thank you from my heart. Unfortunately I’m back here 😢 It’s terrible how broken heart hurts

@jannlewandowski5540

5 ай бұрын

MojRa, Let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. There is a discount today. myexbackcoach.com/ebk Discount code: 2A53FC This Kit has strategies for every situation including yours. Good luck to you.

@KelzVisuals

4 ай бұрын

Same here, I watched coach Lee after my break up in 2019, up till 2022 when I found love again and I stopped watching, now I'm back one year after. Our breakup was terrible, but I'm healing now, and am opening to get to know someone new

Amazing😍😍

It's been three months for me. I've stopped obsessing about wanting him back in my life. I wanted him back early on, but that was because of the pain that being rejected by him caused. It hurt and I thought if he returned, it would assuage my bad feelings. That's not the case anymore. Now, I'm focusing on myself instead of getting him back. Now, I'm focused on my diet, I exercise daily, and I'm in therapy twice a week. If he contacts me, great, and if he doesn't, that's great too.

Coach lee, i want to celebrate you for your work, youve indeed be so helpful to me with the information you put out in your videos. Sir i want to ask, my ex was really mean and kind of disrespectful before she broke things between us. It was like I didn’t know her any longer, she even said i should move on. My question lee is ? Is there still hope, because it looks like she’s made up her mind for good, it was a LDR.

@VinayaNayak-tq8ut

6 ай бұрын

No it doesn't work brother I'm in no contact for 9 months now and it was LDR of 3 years, so you better move on and find someone new and no contact is best way to go.... 💪

When she broke up with me i panicked and started begging. I couldnt accept it and was texting her for a few days and we got into a couple fights. She then started ignoring me and thats when i went no contact. 9 days later i reached out to her and her attitude had changed. She was receptive and nice. So i took a chance and invited her for a coffee when she felt like the time would be right. She accepted. So i'm now back in no contact hoping she will reach out for that coffee date. I will stick to what coach Lee says. Wish me luck.

@glorytoamerica6332

13 күн бұрын

Did it work?

@13thbornpr

13 күн бұрын

@@glorytoamerica6332 it didnt at the time. She wanted to meet because she thaught i deserved closure. So i refused to see her. A lot of things happened but i basically went no contact for 6 weeks then i texted her. I took things slow and we're now back together.

@13thbornpr

6 күн бұрын

@@glorytoamerica6332 not at first. We had to go no contact a full 6 weeks. Then i reached out and slowly worked things and we're now back together.

@13thbornpr

6 күн бұрын

@@glorytoamerica6332 Not at first. We had to go a full 6 weeks no contact. I then reached out and took it slow. We're now back together.

It worked! Thank you so much coach Lee

@CaptainNagaland

6 ай бұрын

Happy for you. May it last forever.

@seancollins6927

6 ай бұрын

@@CaptainNagaland thank you

@carolinekelly636

5 ай бұрын

Congratulations how long did it take?

@kagamitaiga9167

5 ай бұрын

how long?

I like and appreciate your videos. I understand the “ no contact “ and how it works but at the same time i feel like gives me false hopes ..😓

@AD-hh6dd

6 ай бұрын

I have the same feeling. I just try to remember it’s still a low chance but that it’s just the best one

Ur videos are sent by God. Excellent video.

I can do no contact and i must. He has accused me of manipulations and narcissism. I thought we were so happy, had no reason to manipulate.

I think I just nearly had a heart attack guys….ive been watching a lot of these no contact videos to help me cope and I’ve just realised I’m still signed in on her tv 😩…so if she’s gone on KZread on tv all my watched no contact vids will be there!!!!…sign out on your devices fellas please 🙏

I cannot express enough that people learn from this. I was that person who spoiled my ex and chased her and made her feel like the prettiest girl in the world. She abused it. All my friends hated her..Scale was tipped. Like he said I just grew tired and out of love with her. Stayed cos I didn’t want to hurt her but she thought she had a hold on me. Instead of being appreciative and work on issues she said let’s break up randomly. The moment she mentioned the word break up I was gone before she could blink and relieved…. I like her but not in love anymore. And was so glad to save thousands of dollars afterwards. No more booking yachts, Dubai trips, it was over lol. She’s still trying to come back but now I look at her and it’s like I hmmm no thanks I’m good.

@lateashaevans4579

6 ай бұрын

So she only like for money 💵

@chellochello9023

5 ай бұрын

@@lateashaevans4579 🤷 idk. I think there was a lot more but she’s irrelevant now so it doesn’t really matter. Even though she wants us back together, I’m so uninterested she lost her charm I don’t see her the same. I’d rather be friends.

@lateashaevans4579

5 ай бұрын

@@chellochello9023 that good you see her bs and I'm glad you learned from this

Any advice for the holiday season during a breakup after a longterm relationship? The breakup was a months ago, and your videos were amazing at the start of the breakup, but i find myself watching your videos again with the holidays approaching. Thank you, Coach Lee!

@mst8521

6 ай бұрын

I’m going through the same thing with my situation… it’s been one week for me … I’m over his listening to stuff like this !!! I hate feeling this way

@rcepic6754

6 ай бұрын

@@mst8521Same here it been a couple of weeks for me. It’s okay though if it’s not them then there is somebody better

@RealCoachLee

6 ай бұрын

William, I have a video on it at kzread.info/dash/bejne/mYCJrMSnk7e0Yc4.htmlsi=9kA2mRcH6T3FGc1W but it depends on how long you’ve been in no contact. Between 3-5 months and beyond, it’s kind of a matter of risk/reward. And that’s up to you. You have lower odds after 100 or so days. So do you want to move on or wait longer with a goal to start the process of moving on in a time frame of 6 months or less. I wish you the best.

@r.maelstrom4810

6 ай бұрын

​@@RealCoachLeeWait. Are you saying that is better to give up, considering the chances, after 100 days of NC? Being realistic, this implies some kind of gray area of inner conflict, between those 100 days and the day you really move on (usually it takes longer than 100 days or 3 months). You don't mention this any often in your videos... And this sounds quite scary to be honest.

@Xile179

6 ай бұрын

@@r.maelstrom4810not all hope is lost, plenty of exes come back even after 5 months, just focus on yourself and stay positive

Eagerly waiting😢❤

@clawry0

6 ай бұрын

It will get better. I promise :)

@Wildanimal864.

2 ай бұрын

They ever contact?

funny how a wife can state, “people change” as a means to end the relationship. people do change but the secret to a successful relationship is adapting to each other’s changes. if they became the “walkway wife”, hold the door open for them!

I went no contact with a guy I’d been dating. He reached out from time to time and I think I did reach out once but I was never trying to get him back. I was interested in someone else. Anyway, 6 mos after the “split” he asked to see me again and asked for another chance. Keep in mind though that we were never officially together and he had never wanted space from me so I don’t want anyone getting false hopes when looking at other examples. Every situation is different. My point is that it can happen.

I went over two years with no contact, she reached out a few times and I said if she wasn't open to something simple like playing a boardgame that I wouldn't be available to give life advice. She got married to some guy and their dynamic looks identical to our old dynamic except he's kind of fat and average. I think I have too much fire and ambition to hold a long term relationship where my partner feels secure and valued, and I learned through all this that changing that about myself for someone causes them to lose attraction to me anyway so I'm just going back to more casual relationships. Some of us just aren't cut out for marriages.

@sluggo562

6 ай бұрын

Wow. That's a very thorough response, I appreciate it. @@alaalfa8839 When I say casual relationships, I don't mean casual sex. I mean ongoing relationships which aren't exclusive and where we don't move in together. It's time consuming, but I did that throughout my twenties with minimal heartbreak. And the women who I was involved with never shut me out entirely as they tend to after a more normal monogamous dynamic. I suppose the term floating around for that currently is "situationships." What they lack is the opportunity to build eachother up and have children in a functional setting where their development can be prioritized. It's my responsibility to foster a dynamic where such a thing would be possible, but where my spouse's attraction is dependent on my guidance and vision and excellence I can't cut corners on my work, my hobbies or my physical fitness. We call that narcissistic, but it's the major driver of her attraction toward you. And attraction and respect are the cornerstones to maintaining her investment. The whole no contact approach to managing breakups is based on this approach, is it not? A person who is indifferent toward you must be of higher quality than the person who is eager to chase you. And not just after the breakup, it also ruins a lot of marriages when men are too eager to please, plus the covert contracts so called 'nice guys' attach to things along the way, often unwittingly. I don't know Sam Vaknin, but reading Robert Glover's 'No More Mr Nice Guy' was a huge leap forward for my understanding of what I was doing wrong when I tried to be a husband instead of a lover.

I love this advice! I listen only to this guy and Kels Coaching on here, as they are so knowledgeable - They have literally got me through my heartbreak :)

She breadcrumbed me twice in the last 3 months. She did not mention anything about wanting to get back together. I didn't either. Last time I heard from her was over a month ago. I stayed in my lane and acted indifferent and she has not reached out since. I think she wanted me to chase but I refuse to do so. I'm trying not to think about her but she is on my mind often throughout the day. At this point, I do not believe she wants to reconcile and I will not be making any effort to try and change her mind either.

Coach Lee, can we email questions to you directly? Many thanks!

My ex (who left) was calling me every few days and I was available for him- he called twice Wednesday and I didn't answer either and sent a thoughtful thanksgiving text on Thursday- no response. I was feeling like he could just have access to me whenever and it didn't feel good to me so I stopped responding. If he always has access to me he won't feel my absence so I think I made the right decision. He needs clarity that I'm the "one" well....get that clarity without me in your life at all.

He called me 10 days later. He wanted to check on me. I told him that if he wanted to talk he could call me when he is available.

I got mine back using your advises. Coach Lee is a hero 💪

@diegoothman5223

6 ай бұрын

How long did it take?

@blessingskamanga572

6 ай бұрын

Mine was stabbon enough... 5 months

And You are very handsome..and I am a man!....and there you are !..flowers for you!

"If you haven't zigged when you should have zagged..."😂😂 Thank you for explaining the relationship imbalance part. That helps me understand clearly what I did wrong.

@RealCoachLee

6 ай бұрын

You’re welcome (;

@Sevoflurane2014

4 ай бұрын

​​​@@RealCoachLee hey coach quick question.... Ex broke up with me after 4 yr relationship. And she jumped into a rebound the same week with a low hanging fruit guy. Family friend she grew up with. Guy is 31, bald and skinny and still lives at home with his parents. In contrast I'm educated, better looking, 6 figure job, in shape, eetc.She also is educated and has good job. Anyway, I went no contact after some begging and pleading... 3 week later she reached out. I thought maybe she wanted to discuss getting back. She set up a time for us to talk and first started crying saying people are treating you so mean and I'm like what are you talking about.? No one is. Her aunt used to cut my son's hair so I reached out to get him a cut. Nothing more but apparently she ignored me which I didn't know..... NEXT she says to me "I heard from someone that you are still waiting on me". I told her I wasn't and there I've been focused on myself and my improvements. So then she felt stupid. Unfortunately I got sucked into conversation about our relationship and I ended up sort of trying to reason with her. We were on the phone for 2 hours. I should also say that I had an engagement ring for 6 months and she always thought I wasn't committed. So she found out from her friend there I had this ring all along. But it never brought her back. My question is, was she actually reaching out? And why do it in a way that she wants to make sure I'm not waiting on her?? That threw me for a loop and I didn't know how to handle it. So by the end of the call she felt stupid and said she shouldn't have contacted me and it was her fault. Because she got upset with me and I'm like you are the one who reached out to me. So now it's been technically 4 weeks no contact. Did I mess up? It's only been 1.5 months since we broke up. No contact 4 weeks. Is there still a possibility she will contact me back even though the first reach out didn't go so well? But I will say she was engaged some as we reminisced some and she laughed some and we discussed her ring a bit. But in the end I felt like it was negative. The next day she said she shouldn't have reached out and was sorry and would never regret our 4 years. Did I mess up permanently? That was discouraging. I just didn't know how to respond to what she said. It threw me off. I started good and then ended poorly. She is still with the loser who makes poverty level income and lives with his parents now for 5 weeks. One interesting note was she randomly offered up that she still hasn't had sex with him. Not sure why she did that. And also said in 3 months if she isn't with that guy that she would call me. Didn't know how to respond to that either.

Been in no contact for over 3 years Lee. Haven't heard from her 😢😢😢😢 How could i really mean so little. It's the silence that kills me.

@RealCoachLee

4 ай бұрын

At this point you really need to move on with your life. I’m sorry but you will do yourself a favor to try to let it go.

@MissBluebirddays

4 ай бұрын

It's not that you meant so little, it was probably just not meant to be, but they did care about you. You're worthy of love and it's out there waiting for you but you have to find it in yourself first. Work on your self concept, set goals for yourself, get mentally/physically/spiritually healthy and get excited about moving your amazing life forward x

@lamann2437

4 ай бұрын

Friend, you must find someone new and forget her. Your life is passing while you mourn her. There are other good people out there worth meeting. Please stop wasting time on someone who doesn’t deserve you. 🙏🏻

@topgunner1962

4 ай бұрын

@@lamann2437 aww thank you for saying this. I really wish I was able to but I just think about her a lot each and every single day. I just feel like I need that text to at least know she thinks of me because I cant seem to overcome that silence. Obviously that text is never going to come and it just breaks me

It will only work if your ex didn't leave for new "adventure". Or at least until new adventure will be gone from honeymoon and first crisis.

I think it‘s bad advice to respond „casually“ once your ex reaches out casually with a simple „how are you doing blabla“ and acts like nothing happened… the ex reaches out because he starts to feel the loss in no contact and he wants to check if he still has access to you. if you respond like nothing happened you snap him right out of the feeling of loss back to the relieve stage and acually help him move on and keep you on the side as a back up plan. also it shows a lack of self respect, after they dumped you because they did not see your value, and now you let them come and go as they please…like a doormat. no way the ex would feel respect or attraction to this lack of boundaries

@r.maelstrom4810

6 ай бұрын

I think his advice would work when enough time has passed. Probably more than a year. If your ex reaches out more than a year later and you do not respond it's likely that she thinks that you are still angry and that's is not a healthy sign...

@mathews1451

6 ай бұрын

if your aim is to get them back, then yes you absolutely should respond. Match how they talk to you or even go one stage lower of showing interest. but be polite. if you don't respond then they will feel rejected in a sense and may never try to reach out again. That's very counter productive don't you think if you're trying to get back with them? However if you feel like you yourself have moved on, then yes don't bother responding as you've now realised you don't care for them any longer

@Z-jx9cl

6 ай бұрын

I did respond, since he sent a long text, but nothing really significant… so I respnded polite and shorter than his message and I asked what his intentions are of texting me. his answer was „I am just i terested in how you are doing“ so for me it was clear, he is not ready to get back together, he is just wondering how i could stay away and his ego was hurt. So I responded to that that I understand but that this type of contact would not work for me. and that‘s it. back to no contact. I am not willing to catch up with him whenever he feels like to ease his anxiety of losing me. now he knows that I value myself more and that he can‘t just keep me on the side without wanting to get back together. truly this kind if contact would only hurt me, why would I do this to myself

@lamann2437

4 ай бұрын

I think that’s a very good point. If they reach out, do respond but not like everything is forgiven. Just a polite, reserved answer. Nothing that makes him/her feel better about it.

I appreciate your videos, at the very least they provide some comfort to me. But I do have problem with my ex that I've not found you speak on. I'm doing no contact, but my ex has broke up with me due to feelings for someone else and I'm guessing is not focused on my absence. What would be the best move on this scenario? She clearly has lost feelings for me and seems hopeless. To clarify....this other guy was a previous boyfriend, but wasn't the best boyfriend.

Hi Coach Lee what about an ex that has already lost feelings? Is there still a possibility he would come back?

During the process I’ve found out that I really don’t even like my wife anymore. Still living in the same house but much more bearable.

I feel like most of your videos on based on secure people breaking up. My ex is insecure and has commitment issues. She continues running to new relationship without healing from the prior. We had 5 years together and her new partner is a lot less stable and much lower income with a few felony convictions. Referred to him as "love of her life" after only 5 months when he left for a few nights then came back.

We spent 4yrs living together and the last 6months of that we're on LDR. She moved to a new city last June 2023 then she broke up with me July last year then after less than a month, she's already in a new relationship. She blocked me on everything and deleted me in her life like I never existed. I tried to go around the block last november then she blocked me again. I dont think she's ever coming back. It doesn't sting that much anymore but I can't stop thinking about her everyday and everynight. I love her so much and though I understand that she's happy with someone else now, I still can't get myself to give up on her, on us. This is just so hard.

I honestly didn't think nor expect that these things actually work, until last night. This no contact rule is not a joke. It works in a mysterious way. 😅

I think that the biggest question is that when an ex comes back after a period of no contact nine times out of 10 it’s because they’ve tried to replace you and have realised it’s not that easy out there anymore … we are now living in a world where nobody wants to commit So a lot of the time when they come back, it’s not necessarily because they miss you and love you so much. It’s because they feel uncomfortable being alone, and they need to feel wanted again and not necessarily because I love you so much, that they can’t live without you. In this scenario, it is also very likely that as soon as someone else comes along that takes their fancy they will dump you all over again leaving you feeling even worse I think that when somebody breaks up with you is to realise that you are the prize and move on to somebody who would never leave you in a heap on the floor ❤

My wife offered us to be friends. I didnt give a yes or a no. (What do i look like a t.v. show) and i havent reached out unless it was necessary about the kids. She has tried to get me to reach out by asking me to text or call her when i made it to my living space. I didnt, im doing my best to apply everything coach lee is saying.

I haven't heard from or had any contact with my wife/ex wife now for 2yrs,not at all after a 28yr marriage.. I'm just now starting to be able to accept I'll never see or hear from her again

@lamann2437

4 ай бұрын

Don’t let her steal any more of your time. Life is passing. Get back to living it.

No contact worked but also have to work on yourself to better yourself and they will come back

Me and my ex had a phase back in aug/Sept (bout 3 weeks where we were talking) I then went no contact for a month but we saw each other on weekends because we have mutual friends and went to the same dance battles. And I ended up calling him one night and the conversation was flowing and we were flirting but I went back into no contact. He reached out a few days ago asking to pick up his ps4. I let him stay over mine, I really think i wasn’t reserved enough, so I’m abit annoyed at myself, even though it was fully mutual and I felt this Attraction from him and we sort of acted like how we used to when we were in a relationship (holding hands, our deep intimate convos, cuddling, inside jokes, lookin into each others eyes and random smooches etc). I’m gonna obvs go back into no contact and show I can take baby steps and be more casual.

@thegearman

6 ай бұрын

That's is good. Don't go too much.

If things are so bad, one of you goes no contact, it's over. It's over. Move on.

the emergency break up kit - lol -- great idea for real tho but funny

I keep getting these ads these pop-ups that are telling me that no contact is a bunch of BS. I’m so confused on what to do.

Even if you get back together odds are it won't last. Why waste the time? If you want a relationship, find a new one.

Coach Lee, i feel a little discouraged. I def was the prize and feel guilty for that. He did ended it all in angry call 2 days after the fight. Breakups are already so painful and In anger just layers up the wounds. As well as saying it’s all my fault because of my criticisms. Successfully made me feel guilty that it was all because of me that he was ending it.. just to finally come clean at the end of the call with what he’s been lying about the last 2 months. My body knew but he would deny it. I don’t think he would have admitted to any of it, but only finally fessed up to keep me away.

@RealCoachLee

4 ай бұрын

It’s a tough situation because if he felt like you were the prize and he was second, motivation for him to come back to that relationship is low or nothing. No contact is the best chance and perhaps you can prove you have changed. If it works it will be a marathon not a sprint.

@Saboramii

4 ай бұрын

@@RealCoachLee thanks for your reply coach Lee. Have you seen an successful stories similar to this?

This isn't going to work. She's with someone else she moved on so fast. she's not thinking about me. And she's not coming back I know this in my heart and soul.

@jannlewandowski5540

6 ай бұрын

TELEM, If she moved on so fast, she REBOUNDED. When you rebound that fast, there is no way she will stop thinking of you. She found a band aid, and it will not work! Why did you two break up? Please give a little more information. Are you married, single? Thanks.