"It's gonna hurt me to hate you , but loving you is worst" Cardi B

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

"Hunger hurts but starving works" ~Fiona Apple

@Mkay999

3 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester I’m not deep enough to understand that quote beyond anorexia lol. What do you mean by it in this context?

@EMunaBee

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mkay999 it's NOT about anorexia. It's an analogy about hunger hurting when you're used to food but once you're not eating anything there's no pain anymore, as is when you're in a relationship that's causing pain and though relationships are needed and wanted, if it's painful, then having none at all is easier, less harmful, almost numbing, you lose the desire. The line of the song directly after "Hunger hurts but starving works" is "When it costs too much to love."

@realitycheck2051

3 жыл бұрын

Her ghost writer

@lrl5978

3 жыл бұрын

Mblaze Kay this is what i took from it , it sucks to have that want for someone but in order to make yourself happy and maintain a healthy relationship you can’t want them more than you want yourself.

None of us is safe from gaslighting. Not even Cardi B.

@civilizedgangster8024

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah what kind of person do you have to be to....oh wait, this degenerate made videos on how to lie “better” and is just plain stupid (she even has a dedicated series for it)

When my puppy nips at my fingers I’ll make a high pitched squealing noise to let her know she hurt me. It’s similar to the yelp that a puppy would make if she was hurt or someone stepped on her paw. She always stops and looks at me and then licks my hand like she feels bad. She doesn’t do it as often anymore. Give it a try!

@alexisyates28

3 жыл бұрын

M Schib that is so clever!

@yoca78

3 жыл бұрын

Thats adorable

@ratherbenapping10

3 жыл бұрын

good idea

@scubagirl2857

3 жыл бұрын

I do this to my cats and it works too! My cats are so sweet, and they even lick me to comfort me. 😊

@jaydineinvenice4718

3 жыл бұрын

I have used something very similar to this with my dog and it does really work!

MORAL OF THE STORY: *If he has multiple Baby mom's he might be the streets but a cheater is the HIGHWAY.*

@MODISHYE

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂💀

@eagletmars

3 жыл бұрын

Yep, and the highway causes much more problems than the streets. Accidents, and even deaths. Not worth it

I don't think offset even loved her tbh. How do you mess up a marriage that's practically open? Cardi knew it wouldn't last. Their song clout is beginning to seem pretty ironic.

@aubreyjames8795

3 жыл бұрын

I think he loved her. But men operate in a pack. They will likely always wonder what’s going on outside, and what other men have, that they don’t.

@lavonnealexander6936

3 жыл бұрын

Aubrey E. James smh 🤦‍♀️, yes. Their is nothing wrong with that but don’t sleep with women.

I think its a very very rare case that anyone can truly get past cheating and be happy. Once that trust is broken, once that resentment sets in, there's really no coming back from it.

Ooh “you’re crossing an ocean for someone who wouldn’t cross a puddle.”

@shannonrichards6980

3 жыл бұрын

I had to write that one down!

@sabrinac8453

3 жыл бұрын

Wow

@judy4345

3 жыл бұрын

You married him

I saw the news today and my mind immediately went like "Oh, I hope Shallon does a video about that soon" and the video is already up. We love a hard working queen. Thank you for all of the content, as a young woman I find so much amazing advice on boys, love, sex, relationships, friendships, self love. Much love, girl

@iamchinelo

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah me too. I was really waiting for a video about this from her. Love you

"every time I've walked away, he was long gone" - wow, holy. I am going through a breakup at the moment and this really hit home. While I physically walked away and broke up with him, he had already emotionally left the relationship months ago.

@leahkahn5303

3 жыл бұрын

same here...I m currently going through a breakup and he was the one who left me first....he broke up so casually over call...it was so heartbreaking after all I had done, and now I realise he had left this relationship months back and told it to me now...damn it hurts...after all the memories.....I wish and I really wish he gets a taste of his own medicine one day...

Giving up on something a cheater isn’t giving up. It’s not quitting on your marriage. Him stepping out on the marriage killed it. She deserves way better.

@Quntah888

3 жыл бұрын

Yes 👏🏼👏🏼

I think the dog version of offset is just offset

@mxxx9561

3 жыл бұрын

This is sending me 😭😭😭😭😭

@krncidro8325

3 жыл бұрын

How dare you? Dogs are loyal

@flygirlgraphics

3 жыл бұрын

I thought the same 😂😂😂😂

@lafleurbleue8936

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I thought when she said it

@mxxx9561

3 жыл бұрын

Hannah Rossi everyone knows that it’s just a saying for some reason.

It's pretty simple he cheats on her because he doesn't truly love and value her. That's the sad reality people who get cheated on can't accept, because it's not easy to. So they try to make it work in hopes that the other person will change.

Just wanted to say I absolutely appreciate that you have little/no jump cuts. (Editing) It means that what you’re saying is honest and unscripted. Very rare for KZreadrs these days to be able to talk straight for 30 minutes and not have 1 million edits. Also I love your use of metaphors LOL all the ones with the cars on your last video was funny/very accurate!!!

@JClover2

3 жыл бұрын

I love how smart Shallon is! I suck at metaphors lol

@bigoldbenny1235

3 жыл бұрын

Umm about honesty.....I swear she got called out not to long ago for pretty much making everything up for example she said she filed police reports on someone while falsely saying they committed a crime to the public when she knew they didnt. Also about 99% of what she says isnt proven, its just assumptions she has made sooooooo your favourite “honest” youtuber isnt actually that honest and is a kind of shitty person

@malloryg4251

3 жыл бұрын

@@bigoldbenny1235 Not kind of.....she definitely IS a shitty person and everyone needs to know it. She is incredibly sexist and hypocritical. She calls out men for doing things that she herself does. For example, she is almost 40, yet she exclusively dates men in their early 20's?? And she refuses to date men her age because younger men can be trained? Can you imagine if a man said that??? She would be going off. She is just so gross. Do your research, ladies. And don't give her any $$$.

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@malloryg4251 Mal, Shallon French kisses better and more passionately than any woman on the planet, she's incredibly hot and sexy, and will never be single for long!!

If a guy cheats on me I unfailingly dump him. A man cheats cos he has low self - esteem; he needs that external stamp of approval from another outsider to confirm his teeth are white and straight, he smells wonderful, he's smart and funny, he's successful in his career, whatever it is he needs to feel good about himself. Maybe the wife no longer makes him feel successful, sexy, handsome, desirable ABOUT HIMSELF but he has found another available woman who does.

Living for your shirt and background combo. So pretty

I am honestly happy for her! She doesn’t deserve to be cheated on.

@MostHighDwelling

3 жыл бұрын

Yes she does. She used to drug people and then steal their money. She's awful

@pri.sci.lla.

3 жыл бұрын

EverlastingPeace karma will get her then, nobody deserves to be cheated on. You sound like a shitty person who cheats since you think that way.

@holytans3553

3 жыл бұрын

@@MostHighDwelling I think she regrets it and repented?

@zawadeighiaesthetic3915

3 жыл бұрын

She is a victim narcissistic she has more coming out and that she has paid money to keep buried but it’s being exposed things worst than her divorce

@maverickbull1909

3 жыл бұрын

She married a rapper so... maybe she does?

11:51 "Don't Cross the Ocean for Someone Who Wouldn't Cross A Puddle for You” ✅✅✅✅

@hieshabrivitte9666

3 жыл бұрын

Girl! I learn that the hard way

@yvonne2965

3 жыл бұрын

Golden advice

I CAAAAAN'T THIS PUPPY IS ADORABLE I COULDN'T STOP SMILING WHEN HE STARTED CHEWING ON YOU.

It's so freeing to see a "normal" person with their puppy. I remember watching so many YT dog trainers with their perfectly behaved little pups that would politely teeth on their bones. Meanwhile, my little devil was destroying my arms and legs.

@abbyb2752

3 жыл бұрын

Same we adopted a dog in feb and haven’t been able to socialize her properly cause of corona... she’s a terrorist sometimes.

@hidansektas

3 жыл бұрын

my german shepherd as well😭i almost regretted him, im traumatised from when he was a puppy. he is 2 now and he is the best behaved dog ever. we just worked on it together every day. he is my bestie

@nazarisreyes6037

3 жыл бұрын

@@hidansektas I want I german Shepard 🥺🥰

@chelshavekost

3 жыл бұрын

Charlotte Đ this gave me so much hope, bless you. I’m 5 days into puppy parenting and it’s so hard and I’m so tired 😭

@maverickbull1909

3 жыл бұрын

That’s freeing to you? Lol shut uppp

Cheaters and Beaters never change. Even a strong woman can be brought down by a Narcissist cheating Hubby. Im sad for their daughter (Kulture?) most of all.

@nazarisreyes6037

3 жыл бұрын

I'm actually happy for Kulture, she needs to grow up with a better example of what a relationship is

@gawdessgawdess2470

3 жыл бұрын

Perfectly said! This was my shitty ex.

@lilygreen4000

3 жыл бұрын

Same, she’s forever stuck with that name 😪

@lidia4474

3 жыл бұрын

@Luna del Rey be careful ..there are more of these losers to come your way. Don't fall for it and follow your instinct. Also just bc they are attracted to you doesn't mean they love or care for you in a romantic way. They could just want attention. I wish I learned this when I was your age.

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@gawdessgawdess2470 Kiara, you a college grad?

Why this doesn’t surprise me at all?! 🙄 Once a cheater (almost) always a cheater! I feel for Cardi, love her and think she deserves someone soooo much better!!

This is great timing. She has her balenciaga add, she’s about to drop an album. She’s a millionaire in her in 20s. I’m happy for Cardi and want her to move forward. Cardi’s add is hanging on the Louvre. She’ll be aight. 💛

@kerenobara3434

3 жыл бұрын

She's got more going for her than he does

@aubreyjames8795

3 жыл бұрын

@@kerenobara3434 Right. Objectively shes doing really well. She needs to chill with some pets, or travel with her daughter. Shes trying to grow up too fast.

@danamuller5016

3 жыл бұрын

I thought She was in her thirties

You are on point....pretty much same story except we were together nearly 20 yrs and married 8 of them.. About 5 yrs ago I dicovered a entire different person than who i married. Online dating ....building. Businesses with side bitches...supporting family members I never knew about....secret bank and credit accounts. You name it....No matter what...he kept repeating actions...I left without a forwarding address on June 17th...divorce papers signed by me asking for only my maiden name back...yet he still dragging his feet.....glad she let go before she becomes a shadow of herself.

@NadjaVlog

3 жыл бұрын

You're such a strong woman! You can do anything you want and it's really brave to speak about this:)

@aubreyjames8795

3 жыл бұрын

I’m sorry you went through that. It wasn’t you. You didn’t know the game. Men play by a totally different set of rules than women. They get more thrills from one upping other men, and dating multiple women than they do being honorable. It’s taught in male culture. Women aren’t taught to figure guys out, and recognize that what you see is what you get. If women would categorize them a little faster, it’d be easier to decide what you want from them-based on what they’re willing to actually give. People take the route of least resistance.

@grazielaalmeida8438

3 жыл бұрын

@A Round Orifice in Nothingness in my case I don't marry becouse I am afraid of lose my identity and privacy. 90% of the couples don't remember how they were before got married.

@casualshit

3 жыл бұрын

This sounds devastating , I’m so proud you saved yourself as well 🥺🙏

@aylenn1574

3 жыл бұрын

Side bitch 4 lyfe, git gud

I knew they were doomed from the first time I heard ‘Be careful’

@camiller958

3 жыл бұрын

Same

Your dog is a complete rascal 😂😂

"Too old to be trafficked" 🤣🤣🤣 ded

@ZeldaZonk-zt8fr

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, our girl is both pretty AND smart. 💃🇨🇵🥂 🌱 ❤️

the video got literally 5000 times better with cowboy :D also pro tip - try to redirect with a toy and a bone when he gets like that so he learns how to entertain himself. dog trainer from sweden with 2 years training and 3 years of courses

@winterwaffle16

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn't that also be seen as rewarding the biting behavior with toys? I'm an ABA therapist (principles are similar to dog training actually lol)

@emmapettersson2520

3 жыл бұрын

@@winterwaffle16 yes and no. if you allow it to become a Good boy situation where you are giving it at the time with positive reinforcement in the choice of words - Of course. but if we are talking about redirects and ending the payout from getting attention from mommy when he bites or nibbles then you should be boring when he does that towards you to not create a fun new game. Alot of trainors recommend that you "squick in a ouch way " because the dog will understand that you are in pain. here I do disagree alot when it comes to puppies. Puppies are like any man ever they loose focus quick and if they get any attention they stick to it until they find something else.. and squicks are fun so it gives a positive payout for the dog regardless(hunting insticts kick in mommy=mouse now) . with puppies i recommend everyone to be as boring as possible when they do something like that, not moving, not engaging and go and pick up a chewing bone and allow the dog to chew that and reward with positive reinforcement when they start even look at the bone and more for actually grabbing it. for quicker training if your dog knows no already (not from a scary way of learning it but just from knowing to not continue with the said behaviour when mommy says no) then you can right away reward the loosening of the mouths and give what ever treats you want. I love operant learning by clickertraining and shapeing but it puts more pressure and forces more knowledge on the dog owner than the convenntional methods of just telling your dog no unntil he stops or push and engage with the dog and then get pissed of and yell at the dog when thee dog assumed by now that you were playing a fun game

She stayed with him because of the baby. Cardi has said numerous times that she didn’t grow up in a stable home with 2 parents and she wanted to give her baby that... and even if he hasn’t been the best partner he is still a great dad. Hell she even let him NAME THE BABY! She has also said she didn’t want to shuffle her baby around from house to house on the weekends and whatnot. So I can’t blame her there. She wanted her FAMILY to work... not just a 3 month relationship. But the tea is, he got a side chick pregnant. Fucking Cole slaw.

So hard to leave the comfort zone but very healthy

The “land shark” puppy phase ends at around 4 months! Hang in there Shallon!

Never love a man more than he loves you. If he’s cheating make sure he’s investing into you and you’re saving money while making your escape plan 🏆 also cheat too if you want to stay together

@EMunaBee

3 жыл бұрын

BlessedinLife I was told a woman must respect her man & a man must love his woman - more than the other way around - or it won't be great.

@bodnarova05

3 жыл бұрын

Emuna Bee yes that’s right. Keep your money and your sanity. Always stay leveled up.

@bodnarova05

3 жыл бұрын

Henry Mv some women have no financial or family support or simply they have a good life and kids with the man, so why would they leave and make it worse for themselves. Think logically not emotionally.

@PinkpiscesASMR

3 жыл бұрын

BlessedInLife I hear what you’re saying because I’ve been there, but your wrong. Nothing, NOTHING is worth your dignity. Just leave

@rethgual8227

3 жыл бұрын

Ladies, you should NEVER EVER stay with a cheater period. Don’t play games, once a man disrespects you, the best thing you can do is leave his ass 💁🏼‍♀️ please don’t waste your time any longer for a man who willingly betrayed you. You are worth so much more than that.

When she said their daughter was named (K?)ulture, ALL I could think of was culture like probiotics 😂

When to give up?! The first red flag!! Lose them feelings and expectations so you dont go crazy.

I hope Cardi's fine. I'm sure it took a lot of courage to file those papers.

Im very territorial in my relationships . I either get 100% of my partner all the time, or we have NOTHING!!

I was literally just searching Spotify for your podcast when this notification came through! I always listen to you while I’m doing dishes 💜💕

@bettinaorevil5056

3 жыл бұрын

I am going to now the grass

@JeNJeN-mk4dv

3 жыл бұрын

I also listen when I'm washing dishes

@quarentinedlove2903

3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@Mary-it4om

3 жыл бұрын

MEEEE TOOO LOL!😂

“I’m crossing an ocean for them but they wouldn’t cross a puddle for me” this hit hard

Finally she understood her worth, and it not staying with that cheater

No, you should’ve kept the Bronx accent going but lol that was so funny 😭 I’m seriously happy I subscribed to your channel, you never fail me

Hey Shallon! I want to give you a tip that worked really well for me and our dog. When he tries to bite you should put him down on the floor and give him no attention for a few minutes (no looking at him or petting him) if he keeps on biting your leg or something, put him outside the room. Works like a charm and they learn fast that if they bite they get no attention ♥️

Wow this one hit hard Shallon. I also went above and beyond for a guy friend of 8 years thinking he would do the same. I’ve stopped talking to him and I’m now realizing how he kept reeling me in by being vague and basking in the attention. As soon as I needed him guess who wasn’t there. I feel like such an idiot for constantly building him up, when I knew he was putting me down to other friends of mine that I introduced to him. To him, I must have looked “crazy” and “obsessive” when I stood up to his “friends” that would put him down. I wanted to protect him and make him feel welcomed and accepted because I knew he was lost and a good guy as was I. I only wanted him to feel safe and loved around me, I never wanted more than a platonic relationship, but because I cared so much, I made myself look like I did. “Don’t cross oceans for people that wouldn’t cross a puddle for you”, wow. Truer words were never spoken.

the COORDINATION of your shirt and that painting 😮

"I had to kill the relationship but it was already dead." Crazy Ex Girlfriend

@catharsis224

3 жыл бұрын

Crazy ex girlfriend 💙

🤣🤣🤣🤣 watching Shallon trying to give us the break down on Cardi n Offset whilst her new doggie "Jaws" oops I mean Cow boy is biting the hell outta her

@zoeaitken4603

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂 jaws!

@5yogurt

3 жыл бұрын

I'm not great at drawing but I've wanted to draw Shallon in a school girl outfit and Polpi trying to get her. I think she has another stuffed animal but I forget what kind it is. Now that she has this puppy, I want to draw him constantly biting her while she's trying to keep her composure. 👌

“Do you just show up at Cinnabon, in an outfit you bought off of eBay? NO” 😂🤣👏🏼

@taiburnett9725

3 жыл бұрын

Not if you don't wanna get arrested! Lol!

Be the hero and heroine of your own story; biggest, most valuable take away! Thanks for another spot on video @Shallonxo XXOO

I’ve been with my partner going on 9 yrs. I think what keeps us strong is a deep understanding of the fact that we’re our own people. For example, I remember my mom nagging my dad to do all these things growing up, and he never did them because he didn’t want to. So, now as an adult, I don’t tell my SO to do things for me even though we live together. Either he helps out and pitches in, or A) nothing gets done, bc I’m a working woman and don’t have time to do every little chore or B) I leave him, bc he’s not worth it. And here’s the important part: he knows this. He knows that if he doesn’t do the laundry, he’s not going to have clean clothes to wear the following wk, bc I’m not going to do it for him. Idk. It’s hard to explain. But I can tell you that we’re deeply in love, and it works for us.

I feel this because even tho he’s an asshole and narcissist , no one makes you feel as special or as wanted as someone like that. Oh he cheated? Well he CHOSE to stay with me. That was my mindset. It’s really hard, especially when he is everything you wanted in a man.. or thought you wanted

“Here’s the phrase needs to not enter your vocabulary, Owwww!!!” 😂😂😂😂😂

(Bronx accent) That’s not happening 😂😂😂😂😂

GOD Loves you all. GOD bless you all. Have a blessed day everyone.

I feel like you’d match good with a professor, journalist, scientist.... a kind of man that enjoys learning because you do! I think that simple common interest would be a healthy and effective foundation in ur next relationship.

Try some chew toys on the couch while your filming. Not sure if he already has some up there and just prefers your flesh.

Your puppy is literally me bothering my boyfriend for attention 😂

@schnioula

3 жыл бұрын

Aww ❤️

Thanks for all the videos lately Shallon! They’ve really been helping me get through some tough stuff. Seeing Cowboy was the cherry on top! 🐶❤️

This video helped me a lot because I am going through a breakup. Like you said, I have to became the hero of my own story.

@MegJuniper

3 жыл бұрын

Rooting for you ❤️❤️❤️

Shallon really said “FEEL THE RAIN ON YOUR SKIN”

"A happy ending cannot come in the middle of the story." Peter S. Beagle

How is she in support of women after the way she tore down Nicki and countless other black women ?

Your hair colour looks better than ever

Cardi is just a strong creative and talented woman! She was all these things before Offset and she will continue to be after Offset. You're right though and saying that cardi B really loved offset and she want to make her relationship work. We never thought about that. We always just were very judgmental. But when you think about it from the other perspective not wanting to break up her family really loving him and wanting to be committed to make the marriage work. It's unfortunate and for her to finally want to the end the marriage, she was done. I know it must be really hard. Any break up or end of a relationship is really hard. I wish her nothing but the best.

“ Why am I crossing oceans, for someone who couldn’t cross puddles”. - Shallon Lester

I knew to tap out of a situation with a guy I’d met when he uttered some harrowing words about his last fling- “she had issues about he dad dying and she just wasn’t hot enough to make those kind of exceptions for.” I instantly got the ick and thought- you dumped a grieving girl and expect me to pat you in the back? Bye bye! I was gone and wasn’t willing to wait around and have that shitty attitude turned on me for my perceived short comings.

You have zero control over that dog, which is an interesting allegory for this video...he's acting the way you allow him to act. People treat you the way you let them treat you. Also, cheating isn't about options, it's about character. We don't like to acknowledge it, because then we have to acknowledge what bad character so many people have.

@lynguyenvu3010

3 жыл бұрын

It's a puppy and training takes time.

@aa.4639

3 жыл бұрын

It's a dog baby! He's acting normal for his age. Dog training would not change anything at this point

“Quick to cut a ***** off so don’t get comfortable” - cut to “it’s gonna hurt me to hate you but loving you’s worse”... her ghost writers need to get her story straight. But I think this is a solid, strong move, despite how I feel about Cardi. I have started to dislike her since she’s been with him because he makes her look weak and like a hypocrite and a liar about how she lives her life. Almost like she’s better than the rest of her peers because she’s married to a Migo, even that line “I don’t cook, I don’t clean but lemme tell you how I got this ring” - I’m married too, I didn’t find that good or funny or ANYTHING to brag about. The memes were OUT THERE talking about “Cardi bragging about a WAP her husband doesn’t even come home to” which is just foolish - men don’t cheat for better, they cheat for different, and her punani can be SILKY but it doesn’t matter. There’s so much more to marriage. She has literally gone to COURT over this man and almost caught charges... but I hope she goes back to person we all loved before, the L&HH chick who was still super real and wasn’t constantly attacking random people online, or acting like her ONLY attribute is her pu$$y. I think he’s been making her insecure, sad and feeling lesser than - I’m married going just past year 3, and I just turned 30 so I’m close to her age and holy shit I get it... shit can be TOUGH, it’s hard enough growing into your 30s, add a marriage and real life that you’re legally bound to share with another person to that and you’ve got an entire telenovela. But that attitude of “I’m the one he comes home to, so if he hooks up with someone else ima just whoop her” - THAT is a HORRIBLE message to spread. I just would love so much to see her be the woman that rose to this level on her OWN and inspired so many women in a positive way, not constantly using her already super famous husband as a publicity stunt and exposing their issues live... I hope she recovers and remembers who she is. He made HER feel too comfortable I think, but probably also insecure, if that makes sense. She would probably benefit from being with an actual boss who has control of his life and is a source of stability, not a man that she’s gotta try to change, who only really got famous over a trend in music that’s kind of passed. This is surprising, but not. The surprising part is her actually agreeing to the divorce. She seemed like she had some kind of pride in sticking it out no matter how much he embarrassed her... it was hard to watch. Like when she got the 1 of 5 baby mama Shayla’s rap taken down from The Shade Room, she looked so bad. Receipts were everywhere, he’s just been an embarrassment. I’ve been through a LOT with my husband but there are lines you do NOT cross... Offset is so beneath her, I never understood her belief in MARRIAGE with him. She lifted him up. again despite my feelings about her now, I agree, she can do better. He made her the worst version we’ve seen of her. I’m glad for her that she’s so young and successful and doesn’t have to need or want for anything, unlike so many normal people who want to move on but can’t afford to. Cardi, come back to us as the humble ho3 from the Bronx, we miss you. Hating other women over your shitty soon to be ex was a bad look. You’re better than him.

@bluecollarlit

3 жыл бұрын

I don't usually read a Comment this long, but every word of this is wise and insightful. Thanks.

Cardi B a feminist. Best joke of the year.Thinks being vulgar and explicit is empowering.

I can relate so much to this video it makes me want to cry. Thank you so much Shallon for putting words to something I recently realised but could not describe. My empathy, my ability to forgive easily, my loyalty, kindness, "cool girl" who accepts everything and never says anything to refrain from hurting others... They have all been weaponized against me! It hurts so fucking much but I know I'm learning and growing from this situation. When you talked about all the things you thought of to help this guy when he wouldn't even cross a puddle for you, I felt that so hard. I've been through this with so many people, done so much for others without absolutely no reciprocation. I'm so proud of you to be conscious of your behavior and walking away. Let our bad moments teach us and we choose people who choose us.

@omowhanre

3 жыл бұрын

You know what's so amazing, there are people who will be there for you like you are for them. There are men who would die to have those qualities. Please don't change. We need more of you in the world. Maybe just be more protective.

@MsSmileyBabe

3 жыл бұрын

@@omowhanre Thank you so much for your kindness. I badly needed to hear this. I've screenshot your comment and will go back to it each time I'm disappointed and feel hopeless. Very grateful for your words, thank you again. 🙏🏼

@omowhanre

3 жыл бұрын

Btw, I say all this after being happily married to 5 years to man I'm so proud to call mine who treats me like a Queen. I chose myself and "found the one."

@MsSmileyBabe

3 жыл бұрын

@@omowhanre So much happened with my family and best friend that make me believe I don't deserve love. I'm 26 and have never been with any man, it is my dream to find a love like yours. I'm slowly starting to choose myself instead of always prioritising others and hopefully I'll find the right one.

@omowhanre

3 жыл бұрын

@@MsSmileyBabe girl, I was called a "prude" and "stuck up," all because I didn't date casually. Please focus on healing yourself, knowing who you are and LOVING yourself. Once you do that, you'll be able to serve, volunteer and be a good friend. You'll also see men fall over for you, because they realize that you value you. Everyone wants someone valuable on their team. You got this. Day by day, you can heal and find joy outside of "a man." You can do it.

I've recently seen an awesome trick for when the dog bites you - take for example a plastic bottle, put coins inside, and when he bites you shake the bottle and sound will scare him. He will remember that biting = awful sound and he'll stop. I wish I knew this a few years ago, my dog finds biting my fingers relaxing :/

I’m living for Shallon’s tie dye moments!!

You are Hilary Duff’s TWIN! (How did no one say it before, I am shocked at the resemblance) So smart, funny, gorgeous and real! Love your content, Shallon, both here and on Infstream, keep up the good work and great energy! ❤️ P.S. : Cowboy is such a fluff nugget, I am in love.

@JC-unome

3 жыл бұрын

Shallon low-key also looks like Beyonce. You have to squint your eyes and tilt your head to see it.

@sophiec5578

3 жыл бұрын

Janelle Cudjoe sis what

@JC-unome

3 жыл бұрын

@@sophiec5578 😂😂😂 Someone else said that. I thought it was funny as well but I honestly see it now thinking about it. Shallon low-key looks like Beyonce. If you look hard enough you'd see it.

@aidahuza2107

3 жыл бұрын

Janelle Cudjoe You don’t need to squint your eyes to see that she looks like Hilary, it’s kinda obvious. But yeah to each their own

Can we just notice that everything is in the same color palette scheme: green, white, and yellow???????????? (Including her hair) 🤣❤️ aesthetically pleased here 😌🙏 Love you Shallon XO

@LOLforLIFE123

3 жыл бұрын

It's GORG

@lizzyw7861

3 жыл бұрын

Even her eyes look green

Not a “take me back” float on stage 🥴

It’s 2 AM I am going through a breakup, I am having anxiety about it, and my only comfort is listening to Shallon. Thank you.

@HannahBirzes

3 жыл бұрын

Literally same lol

In my experience “Make it Work” is already all you need to let you know it will never work, just end it already. To do otherwise is dragging out the inevitable.

Cardi is a cold blooded animal. That’s why she lets Offset to manipulate her and puts other women down (blames them). she is so loud, because of all her complexes. confidence is quiet. Rihanna♥️

Love you Shallon. Honestly feel like you’re my friend ❤️🇿🇦

I'm only watching for the dog 😁 What a riot. This made my day. Thank you for sharing Cowboy with us. I haven't 'genuinely' laughed like this in a while 🐶💕

Your dog is so cutee.

Fiiirrrssst❤️ allready liked! love you! Gonna waych now hhaha ❤️❤️greetings from Finland xxx

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

Finland!! So jealous!

@larissamarjaanaxo9638

3 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester yaay you answered my warm blooded Queen!!! ❤️🙏 Hahaha great place to live but its cold🥶🇫🇮

@hms1609

3 жыл бұрын

Nice to see another Finn in here!

@hms1609

3 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester They say you have won the lottery if you have been born in Finland. And yes, we got a lot of great things going on here but like the lady above said, it's so damn cold at the winter time. Plus I'm jealous of the American social culture and hot boys. Here these dudes can't approach a woman unless they are drunk (a bit exaggerating perhaps, but close to the truth). We have lots of alcoholism problems here and bullying in workplaces and violence in relationships...

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@hms1609 You a college grad, Phoenix??

You are honestly heaven sent! As a woman who was a Cardi and forgave a cheater too many times to “make it work,” you are speaking what younger women/girls need to hear and learn. Also, you look great and so do your bangs! You are making me consider dealing with them again after finally growing them out. And I hope you end up with the no-drama Texas tycoon!

Off topic, but don't let a puppy keep nipping you! Say "ow!" firmly and stop petting it. Teething can lead to behavioral issues once the dog grows older, so it's best to teach the pup when it's young.

Rappers, athletes and politicians can’t be trusted in a relationship. For real. They just can’t seem to settle for one woman

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

Except for Slick Willie Clinton. He settled for Lewinsky.

The crate is a great safe space for cowboy during filming!

You keep moving your hand so cowboy thinks you are playing with him lol so adorable 😍

Cardi was with him to maintain her family, she doesn’t love him. A lot of women stay expecting a change from a cheater, she waited too long. They have been up and down for a long time and this was her breaking point.

@beyonce3

3 жыл бұрын

I can't fault her for wanting to keep her family together. He must have promised the moon.

cardi is a feminist??? i watched a video of her almost beating up another woman. 🤦🏼‍♀️

@tribecalledmaya

3 жыл бұрын

Sa ssy that toxic pick feminism that’s rooted in/is the result of misogynoir.

Never been this early. I’ve been watching your videos for a while one. Love all the way from ( Somali, Africa ) 🇸🇴🇸🇴 ❤️

@shaggy_lemons

3 жыл бұрын

Somali diaspora here♡ in Canada :)

@stuffilearnedfromyoutube8437

3 жыл бұрын

saham abdi salaam sister, hope Canada is treating you well. 😊

okay but are we getting this Revenge Playbook for Evil Week...?

Thats right when I walked away he was already gone

some men are just utterly undateable. that's it. it's got nothing to do with the women they get involved with at all.ooh Shallon, maybe you should cover Ray J and Princess too. maybe you don't need to, it's the same exact story. Shallon, you shouldn't waste your best qualities on the wrong man. you are not having your gifts turned against you, you are just giving them to the wrong man.

@notyourbusiness_8

3 жыл бұрын

How to identify the undateable man ? Plz tell

@cayad2591

3 жыл бұрын

@@notyourbusiness_8 well i know it's harder now with lots of people dating on apps. i tried it years ago. tried for 3 years with zero success, gave up, swore off men for good, then went out one night and met my fiance. he's not perfect no one is, myself included. but he was direct. he walked up and talked to me, he asked for my number. there was no game. he clearly pursued me. he wanted me to go home with him that night, i said hell no. he actually called me, set up a date, asked to see me again. no breadcrumbing, no ghosting, he was an adult. i knew he was for me, when he picked me up in the bar that night. he actually picked me up in the air, cracked me up! so the undateable is the opposite. you're always unsure where you stand, he doesn't call you for days, he doesn't make plans, or makes plans and cancels often. don't waste time with guys who do this shit. either they're just not that into you (i know, but it's true), or they are truly undateable and are doing you a favor. move on to the next, and there will be a next because you deserve a wonderful man who treats you like the wonderful and amazing woman you are.

Allegedly she’ll go running back to him when the anger wares off and she misses the d. Let’s be real she’s obsessed with him. Allegedly

@quarentinedlove2903

3 жыл бұрын

She is Cardi b she can find any d she wants

@MysticalEmpress-fy2nc

3 жыл бұрын

Quarentined Love anyone can find any d they want but he does it for her. There are many reasons why someone is attracted to another person. He probably checks all the boxes to fit her programming. Daddy issues etc allegedly lol

"make it work with yourself and be your own white knight". That's deep. Thanks for a very good video

This happened a few days after she criticized Candace Owen for marrying a white man...👀 no hate

I’m here for the puppy :D

This mint color suits you so well! Stunning to look at. 😍

Shallon! Where did you get that painting behind you! I know you mentioned it in a video sometime ago, but I can’t seem to find it. It’s so gorgeous!

@schnioula

3 жыл бұрын

If you can’t find it anymore, make a crafty project out of it and try to paint it yourself! Good luck! 🍀

I was literally going to tag you Shallon on insta after I heard about the divorce but you we’re on top of it thank you !!

One thing that I realized about cardi that she was feeling insecure with offset was she was always trying lippo. Like every time I heard her speak she’d mention she got lippo yet again

but cardi hasn't even said anything yet...

@mxxx9561

3 жыл бұрын

M M exactly people love to act like common sense doesn’t exist

Honestly, the reason women give 'permission' or say "as long as I am the main one" or "wifey" is an attempt to control what they will never be able to. The hope is by giving 'permission' the pain will be less. However, no matter what a woman does she cannot stop a man from cheating; even if she did cook, clean, and have a WAP.