I would say dating while broke can keep you broke as well

@rogers5622

2 жыл бұрын

Try to tell my nephew this all the time . Can't move forward if spending alot on his girlfriend

@Anonymous-md2qp

Жыл бұрын

@@rogers5622 Spending is only one part of the equation. They steal your time too, which could have been used to earn more money.

@nicolasmoreno9442

Жыл бұрын

@@Anonymous-md2qpDouble attack, like a sandwich, bread toast on both sides... You spend money that you earned through your hard work, and also all the time spent with, and about her: Planning dates, reservations, etc... On the other hand if you were a workaholic at least you would be earning money and you wouldn't have time to spend it. Both are unhealthy extremes but the latter serves your purpose, not hers. Keep grinding brothers

@jackofalltemposdigitalchil7483

7 ай бұрын

It's simple. Eat rice and beans. Get a second job for the weekend for your girl. You'll be able to an Instagram model no problem for 2 years. But if you don't advance your salary to $60k and above your dead meat!

@rolandamadi9772

5 ай бұрын

Well said my bro

If you broke you should go to work….Not date

@KentWav

2 жыл бұрын

I'm 14 & this is deep

@zaneshark

2 жыл бұрын

Then get deppresion and go AWOL. Yes, really great advice.

@chaimlevin125

Жыл бұрын

@@zaneshark it’s the sh** I tell u, I dig it.😅

@meep_murp8758

Жыл бұрын

A psychiatrist will cure your depression, a girlfriend will make your situation even worse. Trust.

Having dated a broke man i can attest to this , you lose respect, you resent him it's frustrating

@leelee185

Жыл бұрын

Exactly we’ll said, never date a man who has less than you. Only date men who have what you have or better.

@sandracornelius6859

6 ай бұрын

Yes it is.... This so called relationship is draining.... He got mad when I told him that he has pull himself out of the gutter..... Yep I lost respect for him.

@dcalex2425

6 ай бұрын

@@leelee185Wow, so can’t he has less than you, his money doesn’t make him who he are!

@leelee185

6 ай бұрын

@@dcalex2425 I dated someone who had less than me and the issue with that is I would help him out and he began to take advantage of my kindness and became to comfortable with it and I felt used. So I no longer date women who have less than me.

As a broke dude who's been in a long term relationship, I take this as a sign to start working on myself.

@noulafrantz8589

Жыл бұрын

You can be broke still dating

@uckafreerealtalk118

Жыл бұрын

You right famo we have to put something on the table if I can't do that im not dating either

@nathalieduverna6963

Жыл бұрын

Good luck to you

@latoyahayes3381

Жыл бұрын

Us real women will definitely show appreciation.❤

@whotube7978

11 ай бұрын

Give that woman an award. You truly don’t understand how hard it can be to be with a broke dude. Especially when he stays broke the entire relationship 😂

Do you know what's worse than dating when you're financially broke?... Dating when you're spiritually and mentally broke. That's a whole other topic though...

@joycewatt800

2 жыл бұрын

But so true Sealz!! See many people miss or overlook what you speak of but it’s crucial. It’s more than money. Yes money matters too but people need to heal. Wholeness is important. We can work on getting the money but let’s get healthy and whole mind, body, and spirit.

@SealztheMan

2 жыл бұрын

@@joycewatt800 you said all truths there Joyce! 👑

@superduperjoi6800

2 жыл бұрын

I feel attacked

@SealztheMan

2 жыл бұрын

@@superduperjoi6800 lol no dont be like that, you got this, just gotta make a lil tweak here and there for your own peace of mind

@tinithewriter3697

2 жыл бұрын

Yep yep

As a chronic dater of broke men I can say all of this is very true… so glad I let go of my fix-a-dude mentality. Praise the Lord for deliverance!

@jenniferhaynes8625

2 жыл бұрын

It's codependency, that's my issue, most of these behaviors start in childhood. People pleasers mentality. Think about the relationships that you had with your caregivers and family.

@Essays4College

Жыл бұрын

What do you care? As a woman you don't have to pay for anything.

@andiandrei7353

Жыл бұрын

you dated broke dudes because a big wallet cant push your guts.

@jackjack4412

Жыл бұрын

​@@jenniferhaynes8625 therapy can be helpful.

@gurlycash7394

9 ай бұрын

I wish I can afford therapy. I need to budget better. My mom is an alcoholic and I am very codependent now. God help me

Yup, dating while broke is a complete drain mentally and emotionally. I don't understand why anyone would even want to date in that situation. Being single is the VERY least of your problems

I agree. Not only can dating expensive but if you're worried about your finances, it's distracting. There's no way a body can enjoy wining and dining if you don't have the cash for rent.

@Wealthybaby

Жыл бұрын

Facts!

@davidpope623

5 ай бұрын

Facts

Agree, let's work on ourselves mentally and financially before dating anyone.

@EvolvingBritt

2 жыл бұрын

🎯🎯

@kc270352

2 жыл бұрын

truth

@jericbulasa2188

Жыл бұрын

I should.

@davidpope623

5 ай бұрын

No doubt

You don’t want your brokenness to be dictating your decision. That’s line got me laughing. If you are broke, dating should be the last thing on your mind.

@MsSunrize81

2 жыл бұрын

Yes but some people still do, sadly enough

@vanda3393

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@mrsbdubc2174

11 ай бұрын

Making babies too

@sydneyh3010

4 ай бұрын

People try to fill voids instead of deal with their issues

If you're broke, your priority should be finding a job (or a better job).

@Karmalu

2 жыл бұрын

You can’t just snap your finger and get a good paying job lol. Here in Miami majority of jobs pay minimum wage…

@onpoint4227

2 жыл бұрын

It don’t matter what type of job you get if you don’t know how to manage your money you gonna stay broke that simple

@ygLang

2 жыл бұрын

Get a job and then invest correctly, then you’ll be good

@shadowsmith1386

2 жыл бұрын

@@onpoint4227 ikr straight facts you smart

@shadowsmith1386

2 жыл бұрын

@@Rashaadthegr8 true

I'm not broke but I'm not where I want to be, so I'll wait until the time is right before I start dating.

I dated a broke guy before and it was a disaster I was always paying for stuff and spending money to help him and he was not even worth all the headache and in addition to being broke he had nothing to offer and brought nothing to the table. As time when on I started to resent him and decided to end things. If your not financially stable and your life is not in order do not bring a woman in your life.

@timeallofgreatestthe

3 ай бұрын

In your city, what’s the salary number that makes a man no longer broke?

As a broke dude, I approve of this message

@Heyericahey

2 жыл бұрын

😂💀

@realestateallianceforladies

2 жыл бұрын

🤣

@queenvictory6916

2 жыл бұрын

@Alfsnowball I totally understand where you’re coming from, but don’t speak that to the Universe.

@nimbustk

2 жыл бұрын

as another broke dude, i also approve this message 😂

@everettetoxey8554

2 жыл бұрын

When I was broke, I didn't feel right tryna get at a female. My brother can't pay his phone bill n still chasin' pu$$y

"Men tend to pick women based on where they are (financially)". That's an interesting point. 🤔

@karmahleone1196

Жыл бұрын

Cause they dont like the ones who are financially well off, they want the broke ones or the ones that live in the projects so they can feel “needed” smh

@EnzoIsabella

3 ай бұрын

So men are choosing women with money? So feminine

He’s righttttt. Having dated with a broke man. I was happy to help him because I loved him a lot but at the same time I was a bit depressed because I was feeling worried,stressed and drained. Also I couldn’t imagine bright future because money can limit so many things and the only thing I could imagine for our future was surviving as we were doing. He ended up dumping me and I think it was for the best. I wouldn’t have been able to do because I was so obsessed over him. Now I’m much happier and have ambitions and hopes. I focus on my career because I learnt lesson from him and I don’t wanna be staying broke when I get to his age. I think I still like him as a person but I realized love can’t cover everything to have a good relationship and I just don’t think dating with someone who is broke is wise.

@eddielacrosse2

5 ай бұрын

What if you were broke? Should I date you ?

@timeallofgreatestthe

3 ай бұрын

What’s the number that makes you broke? How much money is enough?

Yes, your money is a reflection of your lifestyle/decision making.

Hear to this ladies! It's the truth, I unfortunately married to a broke man who used religion to pressure me into marriage, once married I was the one looking jobs for him while he wasted our money as if we were millionaires. I went from not having debt to owing to different people and Banks which I am still playing on my own, even after we got separated. Unfortunately I didn't have in hand this valuable information ♡ Don't see if there's potential in a person, see if there are results!

@maitai3539

2 жыл бұрын

How did he pressure you to married him when he is broke 🤔🤔🤔🤔. Both partners should also have a separate bank account

@mfit7110

2 жыл бұрын

If you could've done better, you would have. That man was your vibrational match

@sofiasoto2214

2 жыл бұрын

@@maitai3539 religious pressure, he ask my mother for her help as we were already living together. She is very religious so she helped him, telling me he had potential if I just supported him. She was the one to tell me to divorce him 6 months later

@sofiasoto2214

2 жыл бұрын

@@mfit7110 You obviously don't know what it is like to be manipulated mentally and emotionally by the person who should protect you the most, a mother. I was doing awesome before him, and I am doing amazing now single, thank you. And no he was not my vibrational match, I thought I was helping him reach higher, but eventually just became the mom of a lazy man. I didn't want to reject him just because he was going through a difficult time, but it was him who didn't care of getting out of that situation, unfortunately that's not something you can realize right away

@maitai3539

2 жыл бұрын

@@sofiasoto2214 I RESPECT YOUR CHOICE BECAUSE OF RELIGIOUS REASONS AND YOUR MOTHER. BY CHOICE A WOMAN SHOULDN'T HAVE TO BUILD A MAN,HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO GO OUT IN THE WORLD BUILD AND COMPETE AGAINST OTHER MEN.

I agree. Also when you date someone who is broke or who isn’t in the financial position to really have a good time outside of the house it becomes frustrating. For me it’s like oh wow this person is kind and really nice but oh we aren’t on the same page. So I literally end up going to all of the places I enjoy with my homegirls and family while they have to stay at home because they can’t afford to go. A relationship can’t last long term like that because it gets boring. Like if I want us to enjoy an activity then I would have to pay for the both of us. I don’t do that. So it’s a no for me.

@jean-lucnikoyagize5910

6 ай бұрын

What you said up there has nothing to do with subject period:::

@timeallofgreatestthe

3 ай бұрын

Where you live, what’s the minimum he has to earn to not be considered broke?

Dating is not a priority when you’re broke. It’s not cute.

I’m broke and I just graduated from university and I agree with you. I’m trying

@Thatbul

Жыл бұрын

That’s a big difference 😂

I think it’s important to have a line between someone who is broke and someone who is working on setting themselves up for the future. Many of the couples I know who have been married 30 + years started out as young people who were young in their careers and living with their family still. I don’t think living with family means you’re broke. I think it’s sad that people think that way. Just look at how they use their time /resources and the reasons for doing what they’re doing. Look at the other cultures who live with their family for a long time.

@christianhenry4173

2 жыл бұрын

Talks like these will make the dating harder.

@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds

Жыл бұрын

He literally defined what being broke is for the purposes of this conversation, though. He SAID, broke=not being able to survive on your own.

@briannam.9854

Жыл бұрын

That may work when your younger, college age maybe. Not so much when you're older. Only speaking from my experience.

Plus financial stability brings confidence to a man

Listening to this interview kinda hurt but hella real 😂

Yes! men do not need to date until they are stable and secure in their finances as well as mental. My man's father told me these modern men are vastly disappointing to him. This is a true Man speaking.

@eddielacrosse2

5 ай бұрын

For a lot of Men they aren’t financially stable until their 30s. Should they skip their 20s?

The guest is 💯 right! I dated an extremely attractive man who wasn’t as established as I was. I tried to overlook the dynamic, but it just didn’t work. There was a lack of respect subconsciously on my end; and resentment on his end. Never again!

It's Anthony's laugh for me😂😂 he knows it's true. I completely agree with this guy and I believe most times God keeps you broke when you have issues to deal with before bringing someone into your life. I think most people miss this phase because they are too caught up on their desire for companionship.

@smf427

6 ай бұрын

He also believe in a budget for each date… which is why he’s laughing and about to have a heart attack. 😅He’s in disagreement. We know Anthony got bread but he doesn’t believe in splurging it while dating. Can’t blame him though.

Dating as a broke woman is not great either XD I can’t look my best on a budget.

All fact except for 1 situation : when you AND her are broke. That 's how I met my girl and I swear it's been nothing but good vibes

@therealkoolaidandkale

Жыл бұрын

Good vibes don't pay bills, though. Personally, my vibes aren't good if I'm broke and stressed out. 😂

@vklkg5486

Жыл бұрын

It’s because compatibility goes beyond things you both like. Being in a similar circumstance helps because there is nothing to really judge eachother on you both are in the same boat. With the right teamwork and dedication. It can be a happy ending. Gotta make sure neither party is lazy tho because that’s where the problem arises

@zak14

Жыл бұрын

@@vklkg5486 sge ghosted me bro 💀 her ex came back in town outta nowhere and that mf is rich... It is what it is it was hard but i moved on I guess.. video is fqcts at last 😭

We need to put metal shop, wood shop, and auto shop back into schools. There is a dearth of labor in the trades. I can't meet a blue collar business owner that doesn't complain about not being able to find good help. A man that can use tools, has the tools to not be broke.

Being broke and dating don’t mix. It’s so terrible going out with a guy who needs me to bring my half. It never works and it’s always problematic. I avoid broke men like the plague. I told my female friends that I wouldn’t bother wasting my time building up up a broke unskilled man. He must already be well established. Call me delusional or materialistic, I won’t settle for less

@anthonybutler5015

10 ай бұрын

🎉

@drdanatompkins5327

5 ай бұрын

Karma ,,,

Speaking from a strong Alfa female, he is soooo right! I dated a guy who I cared for and taught him to make a business for himself with tips and good advice. In the end we taught eachother things and unfortunately it didnt work out. Now I rather have a man come fully equipped and not have to teach him. A man who is on the grind and trying to do better for himself is sexy!!!! Lazy men dating or not working is a turn off.

OMG! Very accurate! I felt everything you said! This is why a man/woman should be financially stable before trying to commit in a relationship especially a marriage! ❤️🙌🏽❤️

Exactly I respect a man who has his money right

I’m so glad he cleared that myth up at 7:57.... we do care about looks more than men think we do. Just in a different way.

@jaydenwinter4647

2 жыл бұрын

in which way?

@MyCrownstar

2 жыл бұрын

@@jaydenwinter4647 women care in the way a man carries himself, exudes confidence (not arrogance). He doesn’t need to be 6 feet tall, with a bufff body, but he needs to walk tall. Personal hygiene is a 100% turn off or on. Hair cut, nails clipped and clean, wears a belt to keep his pants up, shoes clean, visits a dentist regularly, uses lotion on his body. Looks like you could take him to meet your family, without first doing a makeover, and I’m not talking about the actual clothes, the essence, the energy of a man needs to be right. Speak English, be respectful and considerate. Hth

This video is so important. Every man and probably women actually need to hear this.

@TheHoriginal

Жыл бұрын

Yep 👍 so true

Sad that this has to be said. People don’t have pride or shame anymore. And lack plain logic. There’s this attitude of “take me as I am”. If you’re dating wir intent to marry why would you date if you have no home/apt for this woman to come back to with you? If you’re not in a position to feed her if she so happens to lose her job. It’s just not logical, or practical. Dating while broke tells me you have no foresight. You didn’t think about life post the excitement of dating.

@EnzoIsabella

3 ай бұрын

They are called sociopaths.....

I loved watching this video. Thanks guys. True words.

Outstanding advice 👍🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

It's so true this was a greats conversation

He is soooooo on point!!!!!

Y’all gotta to talk about being spiritually broke as well.

@ladyshenna967

Жыл бұрын

@Alumani David straight facts. When a partner is spiritually dying or dead, there can not be any substance in the relationship.

@tafadzwakadye543

Жыл бұрын

True

@TheHoriginal

Жыл бұрын

Alumani good point!!

Plan and vision! Amen!!!

Great conversation!

This is amazing 👏

Wow… he was spot on. That dude was preaching fire. I wish I had watched this 6 years ago.

THIS is what boiled up into my relationship break down. This just validated everything I just lived. Thank you❤

Yup. That's why I gave up on dating. Women need financial security to engage in a relationship.

@karmahleone1196

Жыл бұрын

Yuppppppppppppppp cause im not trying to depend on no man I rather stuggle on my own

Wow this man has great insight! He is very perceptive.

Real talk!

Thanku stephen u are on point, great courage, the truth stands, thanku, so true, money doesn't change a man, it merely reveals who they are

To his benefit ny man gice me every little oenny he got and goes out hus way to make me feel protected which is priceless for me having been through a violent background

He's right about us women having it easier finance wise. It's just a practical thing. Any couple having a kid biologically should be prepared for the woman needing more rest time than expected. You never know what could happen, so the guy needs to be able to carry the main bills.

If You're Broke,My Advice is to keep your behind off the dating scene until you get your mind and your money Right because dating is NOT FOR BROKE A**ES!

@godwillbongani5240

2 жыл бұрын

🤔Ru God to decide that

@bp22470

2 жыл бұрын

@@godwillbongani5240 no I'm not god but when was the last time that you used love to pay for any of your dates,Let along pay your bills?I'll wait!

@godwillbongani5240

2 жыл бұрын

@@bp22470 hence i said are you God to decide who should date me as a person i would advice broke people to focus on their finances but i will never tell them to date love does not pay bills but love is the foundation you can have money in the world it does not mean a good relationship plenty of rich and finacially stable people still divorce relationships have no formula seen broke people in happy relatinships the only challenge is finances i think as people let us mind our business and stop giving advice where its not needed most of these guys who talk about finances have rotten personalities to the core because the only value they bring to a woman is money so many men are worried about money and less on the character and wonder why they cant keep a relationship

@godwillbongani5240

2 жыл бұрын

Not to date

I am guilty of the “project” scenario and had no clue until watching this....ladies, it does not work...and it’s not helpful to him....omg so much of this is soooooo true.

I agree with all this. I also had a man try to bring me food late at night when I was younger when he saw me getting in shape. He was jealous. This was about 20 yrs ago and I never forgot it.

Wow. He dropped several gems !

You guys definitely make a lot sense 😮

🗣🗣🗣 the truth Stephan 🔥

This guys wisdom is pretty astounding

This dude speaking facts

If you broke, then you should not be even be thinking about dating. You need to be think about getting that money and save.

Facts, men will get what they can

As a woman with a lot going on you are right but he must want it more if I'm motivating u you must elevate or u will be left.

Wow! This so on point! Just Blocked & Delete a Old friend for this very reason! 😅

Truth spoken here.

This guy is speaking facts!

This is gold! so real and at the same time hilarious!! xD love it

@nanettewingard120

2 жыл бұрын

Broken Men Women Should Not Date! Amazon

Great Convo

Preach!

So many false narratives. In the majority of relationships there isn't infidelity. A woman who dates a man who doesn't earn at his peak yet doesn't not mean he will cheat on her when he does. Smh. This dude, smh.. but he did make some good points. Women will resent you and see you as a child. The toxic side in women will come out if you don't make enough for sure.

nothing but facts🎯

Just from the title, no need to watch the video. The last thing on your mind should be dating.

@karmahleone1196

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂 word

🔥🔥🔥 FIRE ASF. LOOKING FOR THAT KINGDOM MAN WHO IS BUILDING THE FOUNDATION 🔥

Thank you

Yap. I have had a date with a guy who didn't get a job and broke and here I am thinking sir you should focus on yourself first before going on a date because I wouldn't go on a date looking for a partner before being financially stable.

@handleyobusiness

2 жыл бұрын

Men shouldn't date until they're married.

Anthonys reactions 😂😂😂

As sad as this formula sounds, the spoken words here are truthful. If the man is insecure due to her accomplishments, he will drag her down. God help this society to elevate the men. Men need to find more possibilities where the boys are "raised" rather than babied to successful men in a balanced way. The True Christian men in this world need to step up and raise upgraded men.

I honestly feel this message was for me as man right now who is not financially stable there was not one lie told

Absolutely . That's the world as we know it .

This mans going offfff on this joint

SO TRUE... SO TRUE.... ✋️ ✋️ ✋️ ✋️ ✋️

Facts on facts on facts!

Whooooo lol I'm so glad I watched this. I agree with everything you said.

Sir...Sir!!! You better tell that truth!!!! I swear!!!

wowowowowow the truth has been spoken. thank u

This is REAL STRAIGHT TALK‼️

He isn't lying.. Word 4 word is true.. That hold me down until I come up BS is just BS..& when or if he get on his true colors come out.. & u can't respect a man that isn't a leader.. And true that sometimes women date below for a project or insecurities.. Don't date if broke or broken..!! It's not healthy!

This is soo good watching now twice.

Real talk!!!!!! wow!!!!

Brilliant!

So much facts

As an upcoming young man ….I definitely agree with all being said

The vast majority of millionaires are married. That’s a fact. Relationships don’t make you broke, there’s a variety of other things that do that.

@mfit7110

2 жыл бұрын

You don't need to be a millionaire if you're not married. Marriage is what eats up a mans bank.....

@mfit7110

2 жыл бұрын

@@Rashaadthegr8 more married Men are millionaires because they need more money to stay with and maintain the marriage. Women waste money..... do you understand now

@CeeSparks

Жыл бұрын

@@mfit7110 yeah, like men gamble it away and need the newest games and have side chics and spend more in them than their wives n kids...mmmk gotcha

Lol Stephan you are 100% right.

ah ah ah! the factss

Look at Anthony rubbing his belly when they are talking about Dad-bods 😆😆😆

@anele.nsithole5593

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! "Mmmmmmhhh!!!!" While rubbing. Like yeah, I'm marrying material 😂.

A WHOLE WORD!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Love this

I'm not broke or anything of that nature but I don't care for dating right now this is some really good wisdom ❤️🤠