Life, Loss and Hope is a series of authentic talks sharing support, encouragement and hope.
My experiences of personal loss, faith and working as a Hospice Chaplain with terminally ill, end of life and bereaved families.
My hope is to inspire and deepen your understanding of how to grieve in a healthy way and to heal the pain of loss.
Sharing your story is a vital part of the journey so I would love you to join with me in the weeks and months ahead as we open up to share on Life, Loss & Hope.
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Day 83. My man was my balance. My best. My gift. My everything. We were ALL IN. I cry any time of day or night. Yet, I hear him telling me to stay the course, stick with the plan. I see him looking in my eyes and saying I love you.
I so want to just talk to him again....3 weeks only I lost him to cancer. I miss him so much. He will always be my husband. Worse part is you feel like you will never have a happy moment again..
I lost my husband 22 years ago he was only 49 and i miss him every day. Its so lonesome but i try to keep busy. I try and help others and find joy in doing that.
Although you are speaking of loosing a spouse it is all about Grief and that puzzle piece fits all losses. My Mom died suddenly when I was 13 & what you are saying fits exactly. Going back to school & every thing around you is going along as normal life - like nothing had happened - meanwhile my life had shattered in a million pieces “Thank you for coming alongside those who are grieving now & in the past. For everyone knows grief at some point in their lives and you have given us the gift of compassion, understanding and lifting others up with full understanding. What you say feels so good - like - “wow, THAT IS how I felt all those years ago - and still today when I see women with their Moms. “Thank You”!!!! ***. In reading the Comments on this String - my heart goes out to all of those who have lost their beloved Spouse- “Hugs” ❤
My husband died 3 yrs ago after 53 yr marriage. I could relate to every word you shared. Thank you so much, I needed to hear this.
Absolutely true. 💔
Wow…very powerful and so perfectly expressed in words that made me sob the entire time that you were describing my wife and I. Cancer stole her from me three months ago at 52 years old. Her birthday and anniversary is this month…gonna be rough. Yeah I stay up late almost every night and dread some mornings because I know the reality of loneliness Ill be facing once I wake up again. Im coping by staying as busy as possible but it’s short lived once I enter that lonely house again. Social gatherings are very hard to deal with especially my wife’s coworkers and friend’s Daughter’s wedding. She was so looking foreword for me to come but I just couldn’t do it as all my Wife’s coworkers would be there and they were all so devastated when she passed. I just couldn’t handle going there alone and feeling so empty and vulnerable. I didnt want to ruin everyone’s mood when they saw my face. All it would take is one of those ladies to tear up and I would be toast. The hardest thing for me are all of my friends who no longer call Me to go see our favorite band playing or other things my wife and I used to do with them but now it seems like I’m a pariah and they won’t even return my text or calls. I don’t understand it. But I do have one good friend with similar interest and we work on a lot of projects together. My biggest struggle right now is trying to figure out what my purpose is in this life as I try to rediscover myself and my greatest fear is losing the connection I have with her and I don’t think I’ll ever lose that because I know I’ll see her again .
That was said so perfectly i lost my husband three years ago and you are the first person who discibed so accurately the way you feel
Thank you for sharing. I lost my husband of 42 years just 7 days ago. He loved the Lord and loved me. He was my husband, my best friend and a wonderful man. Your videos are very helpful and speak to the way I’m feeling.
My beautiful , loving wife Becca of 23 yrs. Passed away 4 yrs ago 2021. Everyone don't understand why I've secluded myself but when I go out I see married couples and everyone's happy and I feel like I'm the only one without a partner. Never be the same again
Hello. What wise words. When my husband of 50 years passed 12 years ago I thought my life was over too. But, not so. It took time, good friends and a busy life to get me back on track to realizing and agreeing that life does go on . Memories keep the relationship going in a different way. I still miss him terribly and think of him everyday but am grateful I am still here to literally..smell the flowers. Keep going ..it does get better in a different way❤️
😢😢Feels like someone took time to hear our pain and console in a soothing voice Lost my beloved hubby 6 months back People dont even tolerate to see us sad Advice us to cope up with life
It's not easy. The lonely days even though you are busy. The special day that comes and goes.i lost my husband 10 years ago and it still hurts. I'm busy, I work I have friends but no one knows till they are in the same circumstance the pain you feel. God bless and believe, have faith.
Thank you for this.
My wife passed two years ago. It seems like it was just yesterday. I feel everything you have described in this video and maybe a little more. No one really seems to understand. For them it’s over, but for me it persists every day. Maybe one day I’ll understand. Until then, I’m trusting my Lord for peace, comfort, and healing.
Sometime life feels like torture. My wife who was young and very healthy, vegan, exercised most of all life and yet died of breast cancer. I struggled with thoughts how could she get it and feel guilty about all the fights we had. Miss her dearly. Your podcast has helped me a bit
The biggest shock has been family who no longer connects with me and a few friends who have also ghosted. I know people don’t know what to say but why not say just that?! I guess they were superficial relationships after all.
She has spoken exactly how I feel after losing my wife recently I just don’t know what to do without her
I speak with my granny... She passed away 2 months ago... I'm devasted, I was her caretaker, I miss her every minute of my life... I'm alone in the universe...
Lost my hubby of 34 years a month ago. The evenings and nights are the hardest for me. Trying to find my new identity is so hard. I feel so incomplete.
I'm 35 and 492 days ago I met my person. The one who completed my thoughts and held me like no one ever did before, in whose arms I felt the world disappearing around me as I melted into the purest of love I ever experienced my whole life. Suddenly everything I ever questioned before, made sense as I finally came to know LOVE. On 26th January of this year, he told he he was confused about his feelings, that he wasn't sure he would be able to give me what I needed and that he 'can't get the feeling back that he once had'. I tried blocking him I tried to distract myself I tried dating I tried to immerse myself into learning new things, started a new career as an intuitive healer and helping others going through challenging situations in their lives, with love and understanding... but yet I wake up every single day with thinking of him and still love him with all my heart perhaps more as ever. We never stopped talking. Last night after a long hour conversation and him telling me once again that we are 'just friends' I came to realize there is nowhere to go from here but to cut contact and let him go from my life. This is my biggest loss ever - even deaths of loved ones did not impact me as much so far. He really was/is the person I hoped to spend the rest of my life with. Thank you for the space for sharing this here.
I lost my husband on 3/5/24 unexpectedly. We were together for 37 years. I hate when people say you are being strong or when they tell my adult children that they must be strong for me. So, if they cry does that mean they are not strong. Why are people so uncomfortable with showing their emotions. I am blessed to have a neighbor/friend that allows me to cry and just hold me and says let it out. There are no words that will help ease my pain, but having someone that will just let you cry is very helpful.
My experience is very similar. My husband of 45 years died suddenly and unexpectedly, after a full and busy week, on May 11th 2024, the day that he was looking forward to his first sail of the season, having just launched his boat. He was so active with so much more to give. I have not only lost him, I have lost half of myself, and our future together. Our young grandchildren have lost their funny, generous, knowledgeable Grampops. The heartache feels unbearable at times.
4/20/24 , my husband was 58. Healthy! Married for 36 yrs.....
I lost my husband of 37 years on 3/5/24 unexpectedly. This is exactly how I feel. I feel numb most of the time. I still can't believe he is gone. We were planning our retirement future together as he would have been 60 this year. It seems so unfair. I see everyone moving on with their lives like nothing happened. So many happy couples going on vacations together and living life as I sit here and can't think of living without him. Sometimes the grief is so hard I feel like I can't breathe.
Thank you for sharing this video. I lost my husband March 26, 2024 unexpectedly. I cried morning noon and evening and confused. Sometimes I was mad punching his pillow at night like a crazy person. I tried my best not to cry but I can’t help it. 🥲🥲🥲🇺🇸
Feel the same way.
I tell my wife I miss her everyday. I ask the Lord that he would allow her to hear my voice as l tell her l love her forevermore.
This is so right on! Everything I felt!
Thank you Sarah, I do struggle with the phrase, You are Stronger, I do not take that as a compliment, I feel, I am far from strong. Its been 13 months now since my sweetheart passed, I understand people mean well. It is just sooooo hard sometimes.
Sarah, everything you say is so familiar to me. I'm glad I found your video, it gives me comfort. Thanks.K.
I lost my partner almost 4 months ago and a coworker said “…I’m strong. And I’m going to be ok.” I understood that she meant well. My worker went through a similar experience where she lost her husband about 3-4 years ago. I feel that most people don’t really know what to say in this type of situation and just wanted to encourage me to carry on.
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You have truly captured exactly how I am feeling. I lost my husband 3 months ago tomorrow. We were together for over 51 years and married almost 47 years. We grew up together. The last 22 years we were together 24/7 as he had retired early due to a work injury. We went everywhere together. No one really gets it. Listening to you I realize that you know exactly how I feel. Thank you for this lovely video. I feel better just hearing your words. God bless.❤
I’m so grateful Jesus understands our pain and knows how to encourage and comfort us. Thank you for your beautiful words❤
Thank you.
I Loved what you’re saying…..and feel connected to You , I’m there with You !
Everything you said is so true. When you truly love your spouse and they are just gone, gone forever the pain, and profound sadness you feel is unbearable. I hope I can get through this. 😢
I've seen a lot of you tube videos on grief, but you describe it the best. It's been since November 2022 that I lost my husband of 40 years. He was only 62 when cancer took him from me. Life goes on yes, we have no choice, but it's a never ending battle.
You mirrored exactly the feelings. I’m already over 5 years out from the sudden loss of my husband at 64 when we were 36 years married. I went to a long time girlfriends daughters wedding this past weekend and all those moments of grief and loneliness came back with everybody dancing and having a great time. I had to leave as I didn’t want to bring anybody else down. My girlfriend asked me why I’ve changed and she has known me for all my life even before my husband. You know I thought I was completely over this and able to just go on as the half person I am without my husband. I’m saddened by the depth and time this is taking to process. When my husband died that hemorrhage you feel being cut off at the knees with no anesthesia came rushing back when I saw that I will never have that happy life I had again. Anyway I just wanted to share as I lie in my bed now with my doggy beside me. You my friend have described everything I’ve felt for now over 5 years. You’re an amazing writer able to capture with the written word the emotions behind the mask we all wear every day.
this describes me perfectly. I lost the love of my life april 2024.
All am asking God for every day is strength because am losing my strength.😢😢 The pain is much on me
Im so sad, its overwhelming
10 weeks ago my mom lost her soul mate at the age of 82, she is devastated, they were married 15 years. The only stable unconditional loving relationship she's ever known. It's heartbreaking and panic inducing!
Jean, do you have any advice for me to help my mom get through this horrible scary time for her?
Im nearly 4 years a widow and i feel everything you said is how i feel even now. Im so angry with the universe. This horrible rare disease that took my husband of 39 years so randomly and quickly was cruel. I feel I failed to protect him even though no one survives Sporadic CJD I still feel I let him down because I couldnt stop him from dying and when i took him into hospital neither of us knew he was never coming home again.
Thank you. I lost my husband of 61 years 8 weeks ago. I haven't been able to express my grief to others as well as you have. I've ask my daughters to watch this so they could get a better view 0f exactly how I feel. Thank you.
Everything you've said .... I've felt during the past 2 years after losing my husband of 38 years. Thank you. ..........
I lost my husband 3 weeks ago and my heart is hurting idk how to move on from this 😢😢😢
My 38 year old fiance has been violently murdered during combat in the Ukrainian war, 2 days after my birthsay and 4 days after saying goodbye to me nefore heading off. This loss was hard but the shock of loneloness and anger that followed right after was an absolute shock
I look forward to your future videos...subscribed and got all notifications on. You are helping me so much on the loss of my dear husband
I just found your channel today and have already watched many of your videos. They are helping me so much and you have a peaceful and calming way of explaining and talking to your viewers. I have subscribed and will be looking forward to future videos. In the next few days I hope to have all of your videos watched....Thank you so much for taking the time to help all of us who have lost our soulmate/husband/loved one