No video
Me After You - Who am I?
Our identity is made up of many components and this is affected significantly after loss, illness and death of a loved one. It can leave us feeling confused, vulnerable and untethered asking ourselves "Who am I now?"
In this video, I discuss the major challenges to our identity in bereavement plus ways to navigate and rebuild a new identity after loss.
#identitychangesafterloss
#whoamIafterloss
#loosingmyotherhalf
#bereavementsupport
#griefeducator
#christiangriefsupport
#copingwithdeathofaspouse
Пікірлер: 26
Thank you for sharing. I lost my husband of 42 years just 7 days ago. He loved the Lord and loved me. He was my husband, my best friend and a wonderful man. Your videos are very helpful and speak to the way I’m feeling.
You have just describid me. It has been 6 years since my husband of 50 years died. The grief is aways here. I loved being married; we were so close...I hate being a widow. It is somehow a degraded position. Less invitations, less adtivity, and a focus on death. At the same time my parents died after long illnesses. I retired, I moved , and only my dogs give me a feeling of purpose and continutiy.
@lifelosshope
4 ай бұрын
You’ve been through a lot of losses and the grief is ongoing as you say.. I understand the way you express the feeling of widowhood being a downgraded status.. it’s heartbreaking. Sending love and comfort xx
Thank you for this video....I felt it rrally helpful I love your last quote at the end on Who I am After you, I think I will print this', frame it and hang it on my wall. It gives me Hope ❤️ Its 16months since my husband died
I have been thinking a lot about this lately, I am still figuring it out…slowly…but it kind of scares me…thank you for another video that hits all the points🙏🏼
@lifelosshope
3 ай бұрын
It takes a lot of patience and reflection to work out a new path and a way forward.. it’s good that you’re even beginning to think of your new identity so be gentle with yourself. Sending love ❤️ and I’m glad the videos are helpful as it makes it worthwhile x
My loss will 1 year April 1st. All that is I. This video has really struck a nerve 🫣. So very true about the couple relationships not being there any longer. So very sad, because I really do some of them deeply. But life must go on and I’m trying to find the ‘’me’’ that went away with ‘him’ so that I can find the purpose to carry on with my life. 🙋♀️💕🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
@lifelosshope
5 ай бұрын
Your loss is very raw and so tough to navigate all the emotions and challenges it brings. Sorry, Joy that couple friends have drifted away.. it’s so sad. Be gentle with yourself as you approach the year anniversary and sending love to you 🥰 x
Thank you Sarah, you are such a comfort to me. I lost my soulmate, almost a year ago, feels like just yesterday. We were married just under 50 yrs. I have no idea who I am now, except that I believe I am still married, my Hubby is in Heaven waiting for me. Life is so difficult to figure out, where do I go from here?
@lifelosshope
3 ай бұрын
Hi lovely 🥰 50years is a lifetime.. understandable that you are struggling to find your way on your own. A year is still very raw early grief.. please be gentle with yourself and find good support to talk things through… as you say your husband is in heaven and that hope of reunion helps in grief as we grieve with sure hope. Your new identity will evolve with time and patience. Sending love and prayers x
I just discovered your videos. It will be two years this May since my husband of 57 years left this world for this forever home, Heaven. Your videos are so true! Thank you for sharing.
@lifelosshope
4 ай бұрын
Thanks Betty for sharing this sad news about your husband’s death.. 2 years is considered early grief so be gentle with yourself. There’s always the pain of loss yet joy of Heaven and the reunion with our loved ones. Sending love and prayers x
❤
@lifelosshope
4 ай бұрын
Sending love and comfort x ❤️
Having recently lost my husband (married 42 years) I have no idea how to rebuild my life. I have no idea who I am?
@lifelosshope
3 ай бұрын
Your loss is so very recent and raw that you are still in early grief so don’t let yourself feel pressured or rushed into building a new identity or anything.. you need time to feel your emotions, express them and recuperate physically, mentally and spiritually.. sending love 🥰 x
Hello just listen to your video, it will be a year in April, and what you talk about is so true I was all of these for my husband thank you for the video
@lifelosshope
5 ай бұрын
It’s heartbreaking Sheila to loose your husband and all the secondary losses that we don’t anticipate.. sending love and comfort as you navigate this tough time x 🥰
@susankleinbart340
5 ай бұрын
Hello, your videos are so validating and true. I could never articulate how I feel but when I listen to you it’s just soothing. Please keep the coming. It’s been four months but reeling in pain. Thank you! 18:45
@lifelosshope
5 ай бұрын
Thank you Susan for your support and encouragement on the videos.. goodness 4 months is very raw for you indeed. Be gentle on yourself and sending love and comfort x 🥰 so sorry you’re going through this dark valley of grief x
@Meyaal
4 ай бұрын
Thanks for that! My dear husband left our world in october 2023 at age 44 years. We have two kids 12 and 7. The grief is so intense and I am still not belive what happend. It was sudden death due to traffic accident😓
@lifelosshope
3 ай бұрын
Sudden and unexpected death is such a tragic shock that you’re still in early grief so don’t rush anything. It maybe that with your children you’ve been tending to their grief and yours has been on the back burner so to speak. Be gentle with yourself and seek good support if you can.. sending love 🥰 x
so true, after almost 50 yrs married to my soulmate, who am I? where do I go from here?
Pleas help I have morning sickness every morning I have to vomit, i just can't accept that my husband is gone
@lifelosshope
3 ай бұрын
So sorry to hear that your loss is making you sick .. it’s the shock of the tragic death that is perhaps numbing you to feel it’s unreal.. sometimes we can’t accept such a terrible loss until we are stronger or ready to feel the impact.. seek support to help you navigate this difficult time x sending love 🥰
@starstuff5958
3 ай бұрын
I understand. I felt that way after my husband of 59 years passed unexpectedly. Your body is taking the 'hit' that your emotions are holding back. Please just let go and let the tears flow. Scream, be angry, pound on a pillow, sob, let your nose run and open your mouth as wide as you can and let out the sorrow. I PROMISE it does get better..it does. Don't take your grief out on your body, allow the emotions to come out as they need to. Then hug yourself tight. Be well. He is still alive and around you, just not in his body. Be still and know..talk and listen..in your heart you will hear his response to you.