“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius

@sarahdee374

Жыл бұрын

I always contend that the man who incessantly talks about being an alpha male, IS NOT ONE! The man who quietly and humbly protects and provides for those he loves- now that's a true alpha. Getting the job done.

@ayanbhattacharjee1076

Жыл бұрын

@@sarahdee374 Only if there was something like alpha male in the first place.

@Wingedmagician

Жыл бұрын

Ok how

@ramonakender5870

Жыл бұрын

bet we all are amazed by this quote but only a few of us or none will actually put it into practice

@sarahdee374

Жыл бұрын

@@ayanbhattacharjee1076 I've encountered a few, and enjoyed it very much.

I forget who said this but I remember hearing a piece of advice once about self help books: don't read another self help book until you've integrated the advice of the last one you read into your own life. This way it forces you to actually start doing and not just reading. I wager if more people treated self help books like this then they would seldom need more than their first one.

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍

@Iron-Bridge

Жыл бұрын

But ..the last one advised me to read another self help book 👀

@jackedkerouac4414

Жыл бұрын

Yes I did this with quitting alcohol books. After 2 best sellers I didn't need to read anymore. One focused on cognitive behavioral therapy and the other had exercises to strengthen my resolve. I got into some sobriety memoirs but after a while realized they're kind of a waste of time.

@emptybottle1200

10 ай бұрын

1 percent better everday

@JeeYaoKuneDo

8 ай бұрын

The only way to truly implement the stuff is to attend the author's course - aka $5000 you'll never get back. If your life still sucks and you're still not happy, buy the author's second book and attend Level 2 & 3 of the course. *Insert meme*

6:57 "Learning can feel like progress, even when it's not progress" This whole video summarized.

This is exactly why when my new therapist asked me what I was looking for from our sessions, I told her "homework". After trying 3 therapists before her, I knew that simply discussing and rehashing my concerns was just me spinning my wheels. I wanted direction and action. And she has done such a wonderful job of providing that. Every week after our sessions she texts me videos to watch or articles to read and I've made the effort to act on that information. I mentioned how I love to write but never do it anymore, so she recommended a blog which I then created and have been writing in every day. I've signed up for classes I never would have found on my own, and my mood has completely changed. Because I'm acting on the things we discuss, not just letting them drift away after my session ends. I'm also less afraid to quit doing something if I don't feel it's working for me so I can move on to another activity that I may enjoy more. The point is, I'm doing more and talking less. Except for maybe this post. ;)

@mikafizz1022

Жыл бұрын

Ooh I wonder if there is a terminology to this? The letting the things you learn fade thing

@laquzoeshiyasha

11 ай бұрын

​@@mikafizz1022 This phenomenon was first discovered by Plato, its called 𝑓𝑜𝑟𝑔𝑒𝑡𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔.

@MaddaTheApache

11 ай бұрын

@@mikafizz1022 The technical/spiritual term used frequently in this space is catharsis. Basically when something is examined fully and honestly by the individual to the point where it no longer has any stone to be unturned and understood, and thus you are able to incorporate it into your being and move forward. Very much the benefit of 'work through problems rather than the common phrase of 'get over it' that you may hear so much in society today :)

@mikafizz1022

11 ай бұрын

@@MaddaTheApache Oh, I didn't realize catharsis was a process of understanding and living something learnt fully! I thought catharsis was just a validating sense of healing and emotional honesty/vulnerability! I'd love yo hear more of your thoughts if you have any!

@mikafizz1022

11 ай бұрын

@@laquzoeshiyasha hmmm, well I meant more specifically a type of forgetting especially when it comes to therapy. I forget alot of things my therapist says that clicks with me

I'm 32 and spent the last 8 years trying to improve myself by learning, and I couldn't agree more with this video. I got to a point a few years ago when I realized I had plenty of knowledge but I wasn't practicing, I stopped reading immediately and focused on putting it to practice, that definitely was an inflection point. Just embrace the difficulty guys, embrace the boredom, accept all the thoughts and emotions as they are, don't try to be perfect, just fuckin do it little by little. I'm glad to see on youtube this fresh, non-shitty, personal development content, great work Mark🙌.

@env0x

Жыл бұрын

what it really comes down to is just breaking out of your comfort-zone. self-help books like mark's are a good first step and further learning by reading more challenging books is a good second step. you should be constantly increasing the difficulty as you go, with both your learning and your practice. that way it is actually making progress whatever you choose to do. and you can get better at doing by learning but only if you are already doing to begin with, and by learning along with your doing you increase your progress exponentially and your brain forms many more new connections.

@NoSoyNormalCerveceria

Жыл бұрын

@@env0x 100%

@youngkid518

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this reply because this is exactly I was thinking once I watched this video. 💯

@christinamaynard5817

Жыл бұрын

You said it perfectly: fresh and not shitty That’s Mark!

@truthteller8504

Жыл бұрын

I think this is a misunderstanding of learning. Reading those books caused you to actually put them into practice. There’s a digestion period in your brain in terms of learning so that moment you suddenly decided to put them into practice is basically those books actually being digested and sorted out in your brain. Causing that spontaneous feeling

"Learning as a replacement for doing." Uh-oh, I think I'm guilty of that! Thank you for a thought-provoking video, and I look forward to seeing what you have in store for us this year.

@shubhamvyas3192

Жыл бұрын

@Bhut Jolokia same here lmao

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍

@hustelonly-personlichkeite7247

Жыл бұрын

dont wait what he has in store, start right now

@arunitsingh3518

11 ай бұрын

u r not alone... myself along with many gonna join u soon

@YamiAi

7 ай бұрын

Learning is doing, doing is learning. Not doing is not learning, not learning is not doing.

When your book came out, all the people from my school were buying it and posing for photos with it. I was too poor to buy it back then but I wanted to read it anyway. I think that was the first time when I heard about self help, and I wanted to help myself. A few months later, I found out that not many people in my school actually read the book but were still posing with it. So I gathered all my courage and asked someone to lend it to me, so that I could read it. They were nice people and lent it and the book was something that helped me a lot. I am glad that the author now says, That I only need to read 1 book. I'd like to make things happen now, thank you very much.

the concept that learning is not always progress is powerful

Learning can feel like progress,even when it's not progress. This hit me in the balls mark ‼️

@tasawar22

Жыл бұрын

Does it hurt

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍👍

@laaaliiiluuu

Жыл бұрын

But it also can be progress without feeling like progress.

@lonewolf-yu9ic

Жыл бұрын

​@@tasawar22 probably

@Aryan-xn4cb

Жыл бұрын

@@laaaliiiluuu Absolutely

Honestly, sometimes, self help books just give me anxiety, pressuring me to change instead of validating my feelings. Sometimes people just need time to apply this change in their lives.

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍👍

@imsorrybut

Жыл бұрын

The question is, why are you looking for validation from a book.

@koboman2444

Жыл бұрын

The book isn’t to validate you. It’s “self help”. Not “self coddling” if your car is broken you hire a mechanic not a therapist.

@floofdoodle4349

11 ай бұрын

I mean improvement comes from validation first If u are uncomfortable with yourself changing becomes harder as u feel pressure that u are a peice of shit and u need to make something great of yourself for the time u have lost But accepting urself and ur current state and doing and improving for the sake of improvement not only makes it easier but effective because u do it not to prove ur worth or ur existence but to be a better self each passing hour or day Keep going things will get better if u try ❤

@Thregh

11 ай бұрын

Yeah, I've seen that quite a lot. The pressure of never being allowed to be where you are at the moment, with the flaws and strenghts you have. Always needing to move and get better. Many people want stability to begin with.

Thank you for this great video Mark In my experience, self-help content was helpful in rewiring some of my beliefs. Things like my frustration with not reaching my goals as I'd hoped was rewired into "good things take effort and time". My anxiety of comparing myself to others was rewired into "I don't see the full picture and I'm grateful for the simple things I got" After a while I started searching for more content and sharing the same messages to people around me, which was helpful to some, but annoying to others because I didn't realize how none of this was news to most people. I was just resistant to other sources of advice in the past like my parents and religion. Things started getting better only after I decided to live by these things instead of just reading and talking about them.

5:53 I'm so glad this is a statement. Very much true that dealing with discomfort while trying new things holds so many people back, including myself. The negative feeling held me back before I could recognize any progress made, so I avoided everything. I get the reading urge. To see accomplished people while you're mentally and emotionally inept...it helped that the simple skill of reading was a way forward. It got me to see their perspectives and realize those greats had massive fuckups not commonly mentioned. It did get to a point where everyone was saying the same stuff, meaning I had to actually do stuff or get stuck in comfort reading.

this guy always stands for what he says. "be honest." you're a gem mark.

@specialknees6798

Жыл бұрын

Yo what’s up Kojima

@MrSandManGiveMeADream

Жыл бұрын

@@specialknees6798 yooo wasap my fellow chainsawman fan

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍👍

@Shadow650Nintendero

Жыл бұрын

Silent Hills when?

@MrSandManGiveMeADream

Жыл бұрын

@@Shadow650Nintendero whenever konami come here and kiss my ass and give me the ip i would be more than glad to make it

I agree so much with this. Anyone can sit down and talk about what you should do, but less people actually do it

@Entrejai

Жыл бұрын

You can't really determine that

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍👍

@andrewshill4172

Жыл бұрын

Okay? right, but what about the fact that what do you do if you don't know in the first place. Thats where the books purpose comes in, to educate.

Learning is meaningful only when what you've learned is applied (you call it "doing"). Otherwise, it's just a substitution for "applying". Not the self-help books suck, but the readers who do nothing after the last page. This opinion is based on my own experience - I am who suck, not the book ! Thanks, Mark !

I was into self help since high school. Liked reading and learning all the advice, tips and ideas given. But even after reading tons of them very small progress was made, of course no doubt it was very helpful towards the beginning showing the potential of what we can be, motivating us to action with tips and strategies but most of the time it was only limited to knowledge and no action. Naturally my interest in the books dwindled, i don't read so much more like last time. Now I limit myself to few ideas and try to do those things more. This video has been very insightful in informing the root problem of the self help genre's . I could relate myself to many points as he was explaining and i am sure every one who was in self help could relate to it too. Thank you for providing much better understanding through this video 🤝

I think it's also important to note the role of community here. The books help us feel as if we are not alone. It's hard to keep going to the gym if you are by yourself and only living for yourself. But when you are connected to people at the gym, it's easier. Or more generally, when you are connected to people on a search for what it means to love one another and give goodness in the world, then suddenly the books are not the lifeline anymore -- the experience shared within community is the lifeline, and it is a far stronger, far more motivating lifeline.

@hal-hb2of

Жыл бұрын

Im crying be my friend plz lmao (not being sarcastic) you wrote something that i was thinking of for a long time but can't put into words

@samruddhiaware8274

Жыл бұрын

This is so true! I recently moved to a new city and switched my career. It's very lonely! I feel like doing so many things and wish I had a friend or a group to do it with

@evasage14

Жыл бұрын

YES!! community is the foundation of society and capitalism is the antheiss of communtiy. we all have to unlearn hyper individualism as we’ve been surrounded by it our entire lives. thank you sm for this comment!!

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍👍

@AlanPilcoEnglish-vt6ex

Жыл бұрын

Gran comentario

The thing that you do so well Mark is make ideas digestible. You also just tell it how it is and don’t beat around the bush. The use of the idea of honesty throughout your book has been something I strive for

I had absolutely zero respect for whoever wrote this book and i didn’t even know your name because I hated how self help books got so much hype but they had nothing new. But after seeing this video and watching you admit everything you’re doing and still justify it, I got all the respect. 👏🏼

@MrCScottie

Жыл бұрын

You had absolutely zero respect for him? Wtf?

@sleekyissleepy

Жыл бұрын

Why zero respect if you never even read it...?

@Tdawgg.

Жыл бұрын

@@sleekyissleepy maybe because respect is earned* and not a right?

@sleekyissleepy

Жыл бұрын

@@Tdawgg. maybe you shouldn't disrespect someone that wrote a book just because you dont like the type of book?

@miah647

11 ай бұрын

​@@sleekyissleepy having no respect for someone is not necessarily the same as actively disrespecting them though

I think "subtle art" was my first and last self-help book. I read it for a book club a few years ago and when I realized I was the only one who really resonated with the packaging, I officially decided to go to therapy lol anyway I'm at a point now where I'm putting more things into practice and actively challenging my thoughts, so I'm excited to see what more vids you'll make !

@udaypanchal7703

10 ай бұрын

I'm reading the subtle art and thought why to read 100 books when you can practice from 1 book 100 books are saying the same thing but in different way !!

@mohskr909

7 ай бұрын

So it's a good book?

Very well said. Very true. All of it. I think all self help books can be summed up like this: You have problems. Identify them. Take action to fix them.

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍👍👍

Your book planted seed in my head and after few months to years passed i was beginning to see differences in my life.

My dad read your book and gave it to me , as a 14 year old I was getting all the information from your book for the first time and I think that’s the reason your book changed my mindset in life, thanks for making a good book by the way.

Great video Mark! I love the way you always cut through the bullshit and tell us the real truth . When you talked about using learning as a substitute for actually doing something, you were describing me perfectly. I look forward to seeing more of your videos this year.

I said something similar to this on the cover of my new self-help book, ‘How To Win At Life’. George Orwell said “The best books are those that tell you what you already know” 😉

I agree 100% with the message I did a video couple of months ago with a bit of criticism towards your book, but it was not mentioned to express hate. The message in this video is needed, and this is most definitely the way it should be taken forward with people who express interest and help in self-help material. I most definitely am gearing my content and teaching in that same direction given my irrelevance currently. -Thank you for sheding the light that needed to be drawn in hidden dark places 👍

That author that sold you a book for self help, then tells you this wasn't new, it just got packed up nicely, thus it feels new, now tells you that his courses will help you to improve because they are not like the others. Dude packed it up nicely again. Gotta love that man :D

Absolutely great video. I have hassled with the self-help literature for a couple of years. Your recent videos express my exact experience.

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍👍👍

Great...and right on points made in this video. As an old guy with years of experience in the "self-help" arena, I will say the number one...first step forward is for people to determine what it is that they really, really, want to accomplish.

Hit the nail on the head, this is something I realized myself. Constantly reading these books is nothing but a form of procrastination

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍👍👍

This is so spot on. I got rid of most of my self-books" when I realized that not only was I not reading the books I recently bought, but realized I need to put into practice what I have read in the past. Reading and doing nothing doesn't work.

Mark. i enjoyed listening to this. you remind me of myself. simple and honest. let me tell you this. i hate to read, so i never read much from self help books. but from watching this, i realized something, that i don't need help. i have a good family and friends. plenty of $$. feel good in my own skin. so thanks for helping me to realize this.

I totally agree with the points being made here. That said, I admit I haven't read a ton of self help books, but I find that the ones that seem to be most useful (or at least the most interesting) actually just serve to crystalize vague, nebulous, ill-defined thoughts or ideas that have been rattling around in the dark corners of my mind. Sometimes gaining that clarity of thought is a helpful step by itself. But he's absolutely right - the hard part, the REALLY hard part, is then putting that clarity of thought into action. Keep it up, Mark - good stuff here!

I felt attacked throughout most of that. Lol. My favorite philosophies were packaged by Earl Nightingale, and like you said, it helped for a while, but didn't last. "Atomic Habits" by James Clear introduced a lot of systems that made more lasting results.

@fanblock_07

Жыл бұрын

My first self help book was Atomic habits which I read a few months ago and it seemed like life's gonna change and now after being aware about the ideas in atomic habits, I don't actually implement them I was having that motivation at the time of reading Now I was gonna search for a new self help book and this video appeared From your advice, should I read atomic habits again or do something else?

@matthewperry8057

Жыл бұрын

@fanblock to me, that depends on whether you read the physical book, or listened to it. If you listened to it, try reading it. I think we all struggle to maintain motivation at times. For me, the systems in Atomic Habits helped me to end two bad habits that I'd had for most of my life. But starting GOOD habits has been touch and go. If you decide to read something else instead, I might recommend "Stolen Focus" by Johann Hari, or "No Excuses" by Brain Tracy. And it would be rude of me if I didnt recommend "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck", but I'm guessing you may have already read it, considering whose channel we're talking on.

@fanblock_07

Жыл бұрын

@@matthewperry8057 yup I read the book physically and while I was reading it, my bad habit of using phone at night and sleeping late was gone and even I started journalist everyday but now those habits are gone after few days of completing the book and I have read only that book So what do you suggest in implementing those habits as I find it hard because there's a lot of information which I can't implement together I am looking forward to read it again but now in a different which you may help in making with some tips

@kaleoscreations8069

Жыл бұрын

@@fanblock_07 when it comes down to it, you just have to do the things you know make you feel better. We have a lot of natural resistance to picking something back up, but once you start doing it it’s easier to continue. So rather than searching for a way to feel good/productive without actually doing the work, like a self-help book, try just forcing yourself to do those things again. It’ll start some momentum and eventually an upward spiral. Just keep hopping on that horse. Doesn’t really matter how long it’s been since you fell off.

@fanblock_07

Жыл бұрын

@@kaleoscreations8069 Thanks for replying! I will definitely try to restart those habits and I am currently reading the power of your subconscious mind and the interest I had developed before when I was reading atomic habits is no more in this book because I find the ideas contrary. I am 14 y/o student btw.

This is why i need a companion more than a reading session 😂 im too dependent on someone's presence-knowing i have an intimate role model i can mirror while also understanding these concepts for self-help. Changing a mindset is one thing, physical presence is another.

Subtle Art changed my life and meeting you in Atl was a pleasure and an honor. I also appreciate your humility on this topic. Also, the pic of you burning your own book lol. GOAT 👊🏻

Still early in the year - I needed this honestly. Knowledge with no action is wild but I know I do it. Definitely about to start thinking like this when it comes to self help books and what I’m actually doing in my life. Just reading still hoping for something magical to happen but it doesn’t work like that. Loved your book though!

After sitting on my ass for two years being depressed I decided to get up and go back to the gym. Since January 2nd I’ve missed 5 days of working out. Your book has helped me a lot, but I’m the one doing the work. Thanks for the motivation.

@mandelaaa

Жыл бұрын

@@tt-tk9076 hey i just bought a pullup bar and was thinking of taking calisthenics seriously. Do you know where to start?

@Wolfeyx7

Жыл бұрын

@mandelaaa Hello, try searching for THENX & Chris Heria. I believe he has good beginner step by step videos as well as more advanced.

@mandelaaa

Жыл бұрын

@@Wolfeyx7 thank you!

@cameronmiller6240

Жыл бұрын

Consistency beats perfection any day of the week.

@Uoiah

Жыл бұрын

try reading inner engineering from sadhguru, it will change your life(for real)

I love how honest you are. I think that’s the biggest thing from your book that people don’t realize is fucking them up. We are afraid to be honest with ourselves because no one wants to be wrong. No one wants to think of themselves as flawed. That’s the biggest problem for me is that I know we are all messed up but when I am open and honest in my relationships about my shortcomings, I get held accountable and end up taking blame for everyone else’s bullshit because they don’t want to be wrong. I’m not special like you state in your book but I am a realist in a fake world so I’m always out of place and the fucked up world makes me feel crazy because everyone else pretends to be perfect.

Woahhh....your words always tend to open my eyes to new perspectives... Love the way you put it it! 💜

Stumbled upon your channel about a week ago, amidst a MAJOR emotional and mental breakthrough where I'd decided at 31, it's finally time to take responsibility and get my fucking shit together. I'm only in the early stages but I can't tell you how much I appreciate finding your channel. I watched a bunch of your videos, immediately purchased and watched The Subtle Art movie, plan to read the book, and sign up for your courses. Your whole point about how learning doesn't necessarily mean progress really hit home tonight. I've spent the last couple years dabbling in self-help literature and videos, and for a while now I've had a pretty good idea of a few things I need to do in order to get myself straightened out(cut back on drinking/smoking, spend more REAL time with my wife and kids, sit down and get my finances squared away instead of just getting by) but I just never actually did them. At the time I felt like the knowledge of knowing was going to get me through. We both know that's not the case, and I'm finally understanding that. To my point, again, thank you so much. Please keep the content coming. I can't imagine the plethora of people just like me that you're helping get through the biggest hurdles of their life that could potentially bring them a lifetime of happiness.

Thank you man, for being such a great influence in my life. Altho I agree with what you say: action is better than theory, you helped me get some courage, that was needed for the action. I think thats why so many of us get stucked at just learning, we lack confidence sometimes... and we strive to scrape some by reading and learning.

The thing i took from that book. Is that the secret of not giving a f is not about not caring is more about caring so much about few things that everything else is irrelevant. That really made me care a lot less about useless stuff that dont help me in any way so i just let go and only focus on what is important to me and ignore the rest. Which makes life more focused.

Wow, turns out I actually call out this sentiment when it comes to the "some people just want to hear it from a manager" situation. Frustrating, but very apt. You are right about all of this, nothing is new, but sometimes it just takes a certain way to click in our brains.

i agree that self help books say the same thing often, but the repackaging does have some actual value. a different perspective, a different perception, and different nuanced insights. i don't just read self help anymore, i read science/psychology/history/fitness/nutrition. but i read another self help book every once in a while because i usually find some new insights and thoughts from the different wording or story

@alisas6777

Жыл бұрын

Dead right

@JeremyBarbell

Жыл бұрын

Definitely agree! Sometimes hearing or reading something in different words or from a different person really nails the point into your head.

@donaldgossett1736

Жыл бұрын

That is how I see it. There are commonalities to most of these books but there are some ideas and principles that stand out among the better ones. When you hear the same concept expressed in different ways, from different perspectives, it begins to become more like a core truth. But as in psychotherapy and counseling, one must follow insight with action.

@alfredgomez3128

Жыл бұрын

His point rings well after you reached your point. You read enough perspectives, you basically got what this advice does for the average person.

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

👍👍

You have perfectly explained something that I have been reflecting on for a long time without finding a solution. I admire you so much. i’m so excited with your future content. 💗

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

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I can't agree more on this, thanks for making it reach to the masses 🙏

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

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110% on point. Very refreshing to actually hear the truth!

Making self help more practical - great idea and more power to you Mark! Wish you an amazing 2023 :)

@highwaytyson2913

Жыл бұрын

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This new perspective on emotionally difficult things and self-help books is a breakthrough, I already feel like I'm making progress.

Very well said. Even I have read many self help and spritual books. Used to wonder why all that does not translate to action. Have felt what you have said. But still continued as it's entertaining not really for change. Well said. Loved your video

It’s the first self-help book I’ve read (just finished a few minutes ago, actually). And already in the first chapters I knew that’s gonna be the only one for now - ‘cause all the mental shifts I needed right now - it gave me - the rest? Is in actually doing, exercising, actively changing your life. Not something reading words on paper can help with much ❤️ so thank you for solidifying it for me, looking forward to “challenges”

In the end "Only You Can Help Youself". No self-help book can save you. It can guide you, but ultimately you have to use your own judgement in any given situation. 👍🏻

I read lot of books and I take notes on important points or suggestions given by the author. And when any adversity strikes I read all those points I have written from the book. So that I am motivated to do the necessary actions required I take notes and categorise it into different themes like courage , self compassion , confidence etc... So if I am facing any difficulty in these areas I will refer to my notes

@ilona3630

Жыл бұрын

That's a great idea, I'm gonna start doing that

@llawlir5576

6 ай бұрын

Same here

I agree a lot with this. Most self help books suck, but there are a few that are so fantastic. My two cents on this subject is that everybody's different. Everybody is slightly different in terms of what they believe, what personality they have, what their strengths and weaknesses are, what they're interested in; and so on. I think ultimately everybody should read self help books in order to gain new perspectives, but at the same time realize that we all have our different journeys to go on.

@nqobileshoulder6615

Жыл бұрын

Most definitely 💯👏

I just found this channel! God bless you Mark! Lots of love to you. You are doing Gods work..

This is a very powerful video! I agree with the points and I really liked the comparison of self help with cooking and wanting to lose weight; it’s not rocket science but it is difficult to actually commit to it. Very well said! I can’t wait to watch more videos.

I’m your huge fan 🤩 To continue your analysis what I’m thinking 1. people who buy self-help books don’t seek a new information they need a doze of a new motivation. Sometimes it’s really hard to keep your focus and energy and don’t give up and the most quick way to fulfill that to read a motivational book 2. When you come across with your “difficult” situation you need to find the other human being who pass through the same shit. And you buy book But the big problem for those books that every life every life’s context every person’s biology are different and you can’t repeat the author’s life. But you can take a few advice and maybe it can help

@highwaytyson2913

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Thanks buddy! I really enjoying your videos with humor 😂💪🏻! Keep it up

I only got aware of this because of my friend, she wouldnt follow my advice but when her bf told her the exact same thing, my advice got wiped out and she made me feel that her bf is the best person ever. At the end of the day, im just glad that she’s doing great for herself, what i love finding your own way to help yourself is that we have lots of passages to try. Im just glad that i dont need to go to some higher being to help myself. Id rather spend for myself rather than giving offering to some religion, i was definitely happy during that religious part of my life but im also happy now knowing that i dont need to.

I love this new direction you’re going in! I can’t wait to see what you’ll release next 👍

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I saw Neil Degrasse Tyson state that if you go to a library there are only a few books on gravity because we know all about it. But if you look at other topics like self help/mental health there are copious amounts. To paraphrase, he said that's how you know we don't know much about a subject because there is no definitive answers it's all conjecture. For example look back to the ancient world to read about stoicism but there are still modern authors discovering the subject and adapting it into self help books.

I'll probably never read your book but I'm glad you're being honest about this, I wouldn't depend on anyone to get control over my life.

I was always questioning why all the people can't be succesful when there is alot of self improvement books and everyone can read it And there is alot of content creators talk about it too That video just answered me. it's just about ... Taking action

@silenz_178

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What if this video was just as fake as the books themselves

I used to feel like I watched all these Self Help videos and never got much from them. Until I met someone new and inadvertently started comparing where I was and the things I've implemented into my life. I adapted bit by bit from watching/reading self-help and psychology books. That's when I realized I've been absorbing picking and choosing things over time. Even from this video I think a few things have stuck to the wall if you will. I think that's why I watch and read. Not to solve all my issues or fully optimize my productivity. But maybe add something new that could be helpful.

Turning thinking into doing content is something I would absolutely love 😊🌼😊! I’m aware that the more answers on a topic you get, the more questions that arise, but I share that there have been so many fun and interesting topics I’ve learnt over the years, only to be disappointed that I had absolutely no idea how to make use of any of the information 😓

Wow! Thanks, Mark. I really appreciate this video. This is the point, really, if self-help book worked you didn't need seven books one would do the job. I got like 10+ self-help books and I'm still looking for buying new ones, LOL. I just need to start working now. Thanks again🖤

Thanks for the book recommendation, Mark! I'm gonna read it today and finally change my life!

I am ready for the new change that's going to happen in the channel, Mark what took you so long bringing the reality based stuff to the channel,too excited for it

Your book DID change my life!

@ana_mdsantos

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It did! Mine too

@mahmoodali3334

Жыл бұрын

Yes! Because I didn’t need another seven fucking book

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Something that changed my life from your book was that a suspicious person will never be proven wrong they'll only think they haven't been proven right yet.

Every word hits the mark. Mark every word, hits every target. Thank you Mark

I feel like being called out so directly!😂 & the memes were so spot on! This is just what I needed to hear. I've been struggling with this self-improvement thingy. I'm kind of addicted to it. Thinking I'm doing good, I'm getting better, which I am, but I'm not solving the immediate problems since I'm not attending them. Anyway. Moving on.... to the next educational youtube video.🤣 Sorry, I just have to feel good about something. Something! I feel overwhelmed with problems right now.

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I never really saw Mark (or his books) in the “self-help” realm. I explained to my friends that reading his books is like sitting in a psychology/philosophy class and learning from a really awesome professor. I think that’s why I enjoy his books/videos so much. I can’t really improve: I am who I am. I enjoy reading his viewpoints and thoughts though. And I’m curious to see where this new direction of his goes.

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@Ella-te7fe

Жыл бұрын

Yes, you can improve. Unless you don't want to.

@Mani-xo8er

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You aren't who you are. And by that I mean you shouldn't say "I can't change" and then refuse to do anything even if you see it as an improvement. Saying that you will always be who you are is like looking at yourself through some rusty and dusty goggles. People change constantly and it's illogical to say you can't change. At least that is my opinion.

@tycoleman6041

Жыл бұрын

@@Mani-xo8er agree here the only consistent thing is change. The fun happens when we get curious and just watch the changes take place rather than trying to force them. if that makes sense

@ianyo889

Жыл бұрын

I mean if you are extremely honest to yourself that you are absolutely happy at where you are, then you will stay. If not, and you can't stand your current self anymore after taking a honest look in the mirror, you will change.

I love your book. I put into effect for a few years really made me feel better. Thank you.

This was so honest. Thank you Mark.

I love that book. A colleague of my husband from Europol recommended that to him back then in 2017 that I should read it. That was after I had been dehumanised, group bullied and slandered by a group of Filipino women who asked for donations, food, airfare donations, groceries, meals and urgent favours. I got a soft cover copy of it but I bought the audiobook version in 2017 from Audible books. I listened to your narration of The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck for maybe around 4x already. I also lent that book to a journalist and will send a copy of that book to my inner family circle. Thank you so much for the valuable wisdom and coping mechanisms you wrote! They helped me a lot especially when and whom and where and what not to trust! Your book made me more assertive and critical and to stand firm, strong and resilient against those toxic abuses from many aspects of life. ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ ⭐ multiplied to many exponential forms . . . meaning I'd give more than five stars for your books! Grazie mille! Bravissimo!

Completely agree. I’ve purchased alot of self-improvement/help books over the years… they all say the same damn thing… reading the books has become a distraction from actually taking action. So now I read autobiographies instead. At the end of the day, nothing trumps action towards a goal.

Totally agree with the fact that action cannot be replaced with learning. But at the same time, there are people who love to read books....as a hobby, to take a break from a monotonous schedule, to delve deep into someone's thoughts or for that matter to learn something... Reading books is never bad unless it hinders our duties.

thank you mark for telling us the actual truth that is go deal with your problems rather than just reading and trying to avoid it

I have never seen so many movements of Mark's hands in my life as in this video. Real lifechanging.

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Such a spot on and hilarious way of speaking truth!! It's all about the packaging for what the perceiver will allow themselves to accept. 😂

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This is awesome! I’m looking forward to seeing this develop! I’m in!

awesome channel/video Mark. Much respect. You spoke the truth that nobody will say. every self-help guru will say my idea is new and groundbreaking, etc b.s.

"Learning can feel like progress, even when it's not progress" I already finished writing my book but keep reading other books to see if I didn't miss anything and get my references right. Sure feels like this by now

The most simple but difficult thing to do is to accept yourself completely, as you are now. But I think in order to do so you first have to go down the rabbit hole of self-help and self-improvement.

This really helped me thank you

This book saved me after a bad break up that came just one year after another bad break up. I'll be always thankful for it and that's enough for me.

I've read a lot of self help books, and with each one I felt this deep sense of "wow, this is mind blowing, what a breakthrough" only to realize that the only real breakthroughs in life are when you get to do something, anything I think books need to be used as a fuel source, but if you don't start the engine and go somewhere, you'll just feel pumped for a while, and then inevitably almost back to square one

@AmanRajput-qd4yk

Жыл бұрын

Couldn't agree more.

That fact that this comes from a self-help books writer himself makes me respect you a lot more . Thank you king

I fucking love your books, I fell inlove with your the subtle art because it literally slaps me in the face and not sugarcoating every sentence I read

My good sir. I’ve read probably 100+ books in the realm of self-help or productivity. I certainly have not made 100+ books worth of progress. Your quote really hits it home. Consumption without application feels like progress, but it ain’t.

The best self help advice is the oldest: 1 - Breathe more deeply and consciously. 2 - Drink more water. 3 - What you focus on expands, whether intellectually or emotionally, positive or negative. That goes for every physical sense and it's how you program the universal algorithm. The the thought/idea/inspiration is the encoding of the magnetic field, the emotion is the magnetic force and direction.

@ 0:32, Mark says, "Nothing new said in these books." Bob Dylan and Sam Shepard co-wrote Brownsville Girl and said, "If there's an original thought out there, I could use it right now." Someone else said, "Don't mistake activity for achievement."

So thankful for you!!

whoah this video honestly is excellent. and the fact that it was written by an author of one of the most popular self help books makes it even more outstanding.

Mark. You’re one of my mentors in this current period of my life. You have so much of my respect. Thank you.

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This is why I stopped reading self help books. It was always “maybe this book will be the game changer” but the same pattern repeated over and over again. You must take action. There is no other way.

the thing i love about your books is that it feels more one to one than any other book ever. while im reading your books its as if im talking to an intelligent friend rather than a stuck up writer. even though English isn't my first language i barely find words that i dont know the meaning to in your books, as i said it feels more one to one

I will say from personal experience that different authors have different styles of diction, syntax, voice...and some speak to me clearer than others, even when trying to sell the same idea. Good stuff, Mr. Mark. I dig your writing style so keep these sucky books coming my way. LOL