IMPORTANT CLARIFICATION/CORRECTIONS: I want to preface this by saying that I don’t think the entirety of the self-help industry is bad - and as some of you have rightly pointed out, not all the fault should be given to the industry itself, consumers of the industry need to take accountability for their actions as well. Self-help has benefited me greatly, but only when I approached it from a place of not using self-help as a “quick fix” for motivation and happiness -this video was intended to look at various traps that people can fall into if they use this industry in the wrong way, which I had been doing previously. I realise now that there must be a BALANCE - both your consumption and action must have a symbiotic relationship, and a combination of both can make self-help something that could prove to be genuinely useful. So with that in mind, see this video as a look into the aspects of self-help that have been taken and misused by both the producers and the consumers of the industry, but not a hit piece on the self-help industry as a whole. Hope this clarifies things! 🙏 Edit #1: Also, when I say “my first year in college” in this video I am referring to sixth form (US equivalent of grades 11/12) - we sometimes call this “college” in the UK. Edit #2: I was harsh when including clips of Gary Vaynerchuk in this video! - Although I didn't mention him by name specifically, I did imply that he was somehow a negative influence of the "self-help" community. Gary V is actually very outspoken against certain aspects of the self-help industry that I've referenced to in this video, and he is a legitimate entrepreneur who profits mostly from his media company, not from self-help. By no stretch of the imagination should he be pegged in the same category as "guru's" like Grant Cardone - this was definitely a mistake on my part. Edit #3: I recommended Echarte Tolle's "The Power of Now" book at the end of this video. I want to emphasise that whilst I enjoy this book for its philosophy on mindfulness, and bringing awareness to your thoughts, I do belive that are many elements of the book that are "woo-woo" and pseudoscience. Bare that in mind if you ever purchase his book.

@JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez

4 жыл бұрын

Gotta say that is kind of... A self consumption problem. Of course there s people selling self help. There's always someone who is going to benefit from everything (fitness, education, love, travel, art, food, etc). Is more about how you deal with that. Think that for example about Garyvee. The guy says literally that if you're happy, don't hustle, and that if you hustle is the wrong thing, you're not going to be successful, etc. The problem is that nobody teaches us how to consume that kind of content or how to deal with that. Of course there are bad ones, but IMO is about one self.

@JohanDanielAlvarezSanchez

4 жыл бұрын

But, gotta say it's a great video. I know a lot of people who would find it helpful. Keep going, great work! (The internet guru video was also fine AF)

@ERICACAMPBELLVIDEO

4 жыл бұрын

"both your consumption and action must have a symbiotic relationship, and a combination of both can make self-help something that could prove to be genuinely useful." - this I agree with 100%

@ashsqx3246

4 жыл бұрын

Can you plz do one on 'law of attraction' ? That would be crazzyy lol

@JamesJani

4 жыл бұрын

It’s in the ideas book 😉

“A patient healed is a customer lost.” This is the mindset of the self care industry.

@yasminas.3562

3 жыл бұрын

can u explain the mindset?

@inkdragon3455

3 жыл бұрын

@@yasminas.3562 Yeah! Self help companies don’t actually want you to get better and improve. Because if you do, you wont need their products (books, kits, seminars, podcasts, classes, etc). And If you don’t need these products, then you wont spend time/money on them. Therefore you are no longer a source of profit for the industry. So the saying goes “A Patient healed is a customer lost.” Because if you(the “patient”) is improving(“healed”) in your behaviors and life, then you no longer need to spend money on self help products (“a customer lost”) I hope I explained it ok!

@fernandorodriguez2124

3 жыл бұрын

Just stab them then they'll be in the hospital longer

@yasminas.3562

3 жыл бұрын

@@inkdragon3455 I understand, thanks!

@triggerhappy7722

3 жыл бұрын

​@@inkdragon3455 hmmm seems similar to harmful beauty products that make your symptoms worse or do literally nothing, causing you to buy even more products and try many different ones. also, placebo effect. especially when the people advertising and praising them, do not have a single mark in their face, no scars and look like a perfect doll. in reality though, its make up, photo manipulation afterwards and a mass of camera equipment (and surgery on top of it.. lol)

"Sleeping eight hours a day? that's a third of your life!" Yes, but it's the best third dude!

@lunadacire7375

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂👌

@cortezfilms8511

3 жыл бұрын

fuck yeah it is.

@sherryviera5696

3 жыл бұрын

I like the cuddling with the puppers and falling asleep part best. Dreams are wierd, just sayin.

@notwerkinginthishouse8634

3 жыл бұрын

@Dududu also you can easily gain weight if you have a sleeping problem which i am battling

@MickeyAgyei

3 жыл бұрын

@Dududu Jame Jani was up from 3am editing for the last 5 days (according to his Instagram story) in order to produce his next masterpiece. And looking at his work I can see that boy grinds. Now he's 20 years old with no wife and kids but still working through the night. Throw in a woman and 2 kids and you will have to cut down some sleep time to grind to success. Now do you think you can sleep your way to success?

the self-help industry has led me to the point where i thought relaxing and having time for yourself is procrastination. i always felt so guilty for not doing something "productive" even tho i have been sudying most of the time. i have also started to have symptoms of neurosis. thank you self-help industry :)

@MasterOS

Жыл бұрын

How are you relaxing and having time for yourself?

@AlienAteIt.MyNoraTees

Жыл бұрын

You have to know the difference of relaxing and wasting time. I used to spent whole days watching mindless tv, while knowing i need to move towards my goals.

@cloudonyt8886

Жыл бұрын

You sound like you watch 15 hours of TV and complain about not making progress in life.

@sarvnn

Жыл бұрын

I've been there fuck every content and don't get to much influence of anything and everything is about balance and they all say go all in and it doesn't work that way i learned it hard way

@dariomladenovski7047

10 ай бұрын

​​​@@sarvnn yeah I tried to go all in a couple of times and it never worked for me, after a couple of days I start crumbling

The problem we have is because Most people always taught that " you only need a good job to become rich " . These billionaires are operating on a whole other playbook that many don't even know exists.

@AliceJudy062

Ай бұрын

Money invested is far better than money saved , when you invest it gives you the opportunity to increase your financial worth.

@JeffreyAlice

Ай бұрын

" It is remarkable how much long term advantage people like us have gotten by trying to be consistently not stupid , instead of trying to be very intelligent."

@AylaAzalea8

Ай бұрын

The wisest thing that should be on everyone mind currently should be to invest in different streams of income that doesn't depend on government paycheck, especially with the current economic crisis around the world. This is still a time to invest in Stocks, Forex and Digital currencies.

@GraceAmber369

Ай бұрын

I also keep seeing lot's of people testifying about how they make money investing in Stock, Forex and Crypto Trade(Bitcoin) and I wonder why I keep loosing. Can anyone help me out or at least advice me on what to do.

@RobertDavid212

Ай бұрын

Even with the right technique and assets some investors would still make more than others. As an investor, you should've known that by now that nothing beats experience and that's final. Personally I had to reach out to a stock expert for guidance which is how I was able to grow my account close to $35k, withdraw my profit right before the correction and now I'm buying again.

Advice from my father: "How you get good at something isn't what you do when you're motivated, it's how you persevere when you aren't."

@f.boogaloospook2318

3 жыл бұрын

Give our regards to your father hats off for respect

@cervixcrusader85

3 жыл бұрын

This. Grit is what gets you through the hardships and allows you to succeed.

@firdausm1695

3 жыл бұрын

damn, are you winning tho?

@owellhoot

3 жыл бұрын

A bow of respect for him

@samboyaus

3 жыл бұрын

That's actually a really good piece of self help advice.

After reading about a dozen self-help books you'll start to realize that they all pretty much consist of the same content.

@cryora

4 жыл бұрын

I'm reading "The Body Keeps the Score" and "Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience" simultaneously right now, i.e. interleaving chapters from the different books, (also previewed "Healing The Shame That Binds You" as well as "The H-Factor of Personality") and they are each all quite different and very good in their own way. Maybe what a person need to do is be given a good reading list covering a breadth of subjects (and the suggested books being well-acclaimed, and best in their subjects), rather than relying on the Amazon recommendation algorithm (cause that is just going to recommend more of the same content, and those books may be sub-par). The Amazon ratings system can also be subjected to being gamed (or represent some sort of bias), so people relying on sheer number of reviews and number of stars should consider that those metrics alone may be misleading.

@allanbellemare1949

4 жыл бұрын

And you’ll also realize you already had the answers in your head

@a10goesbrrrrrrrrrrt52

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah. You don't need magic to see what's wrong in your life and how to improve... Most of these books cover things very shallow instead of adopting psychology etc..

@fernandocamarillo3710

4 жыл бұрын

I'd say read David Goggins book

@manictiger

4 жыл бұрын

I call it wantrepreneurship. People who want to read about things instead of doing them. I only needed 1 book: Rich Dad Poor Dad. Everything from that point was just trial and error and getting my hands dirty. You get rich by doing things. Spend as little as you can and generate as much as you can. And when you have a nice little USD hoard, convert it into real estate, precious metals and ammo-- things that keep their value. Then keep it going: more income than expenditure. Just plus and minus. It takes years, goals, a vision, strategic prowess, dedication, adaptability and grit. And, tbh, many people will never be able to do what I did. I've had to accept that not everyone is smart, imaginative, driven or strong-willed. If anyone was ever gullible enough to become a wantrepreneur, they very likely don't have what it takes to run a profitable business.

Life is so much better when your parents teach you early on how to detect BS before you’re standing in it. Mom, Dad-for the millionth time-thank you.

@dakalodk

3 ай бұрын

I was lucky in that aspect

@oceanelf2512

3 ай бұрын

Exactly. :)

@je.h758

3 ай бұрын

Yep!

@mephisto--

Ай бұрын

True !!

@number4493

27 күн бұрын

I wish I was

"Say no to Motion and say yes to Action." Indeed, I've heard this from other mentors as well. We can do things that feels like a progress but it wasn't. Like reading books, listening to podcast, watching educational videos is also a form of procrastination, because instead of putting your knowledge into action you get stuck doing these stuff. Very DANGEROUS and not everyone is aware of this.

@mepikapika

4 ай бұрын

Well said!!

@maricarurmeneta6216

4 ай бұрын

Thank you!@@mepikapika

@thedanespeaks

4 ай бұрын

Nothing wrong with procrastinating it is fucking human. STFU and stop thinking you know fuck all about other humans

*Reading self-help books can be in itself a form of procrastination.*

@kyleerasmus5785

2 жыл бұрын

My exact thoughts after a few years of reading book after book - not taking action.

@ant-mt9wk

2 жыл бұрын

Definitelly.

@alaalfa8839

2 жыл бұрын

Like watching a promenade of celebrities walking the red carpet....in dresses made by someone else., and never knowing the names of the designers.....Self-help books are the same, they put together info created by someone else, but spelled in a different way.

@massimodambrogio

2 жыл бұрын

Yeeep

@Childoftheking680

2 жыл бұрын

So true bro so many people think they are getting ahead with this “success culture” but in fact they cannot take any action whatsoever. People are great at hiding behind this culture on the media smh

My father always says “If working hard was to make anyone rich, construction workers would be the richest men in the world” Edit: You really think the world consists of the 1st world country where you lay your comfortable asses at? People working at construction are suffering all around the world, stop saying “they make good money” etc. They work under minimum wage and even worse, there is still slavery in the world, did you know that?

@Lilbope

3 жыл бұрын

Holy shit I love that

@MrVee24

3 жыл бұрын

Bahar Dan "Hard work alone doesn't protect your downside" Work smart, not hard. Being able to out hustle your rivals and life comes with being able to navigate yourself into certain positions.

@DariusKu

3 жыл бұрын

Amazing I always tell my friends same

@nikhilhumane5540

3 жыл бұрын

Wow

@Tex200950

3 жыл бұрын

WOW THAT IS A POWERFUL STATEMENT !!!!!!

this comment section is more valuable than any self help book.

@camilohiche4475

19 күн бұрын

Yes, so pay me $80 for the service. It's a bargain honestly.

It took me being hospitalized, diagnosed Lyme disease, and shutting down the doors to my business to realize that I had been ignoring the "negative thoughts" and just needed to think more positively. In reality I was deeply trying to communicate with myself that I was unbearably unhappy doing what I was doing. I worked myself right into the ground at 29 and nearly lost everything. I think one of the main reasons that my body became susceptible to sickness is that I had drained the life out of it and was physically and emotionally exhausted. 18 months later and I'm still learning this difficult lesson. Self help obfuscates the work that needs to be done internally and makes it feel like you are doing inner work. That you are changing. You are not changing you are just becoming someone that you will recognize less and less.

@jennylynn82173

8 ай бұрын

This really resonates with me! Thank you for sharing!

@Kixaru

6 ай бұрын

Good luck man

@GeoffreyMorrison-xh2eo

5 ай бұрын

If you can't function--then it can't work. What about the other facets of your life? I guess that you must manage those together.

@marvin2678

3 ай бұрын

lyme disease ?

Toxic positivity is a huge one that in culture globally, people have now ended up shaming others for being *real* rather than _“positive”_ .

@Usammityduzntafraidofanythin

3 жыл бұрын

I think progressive politics has a lot to do with that too. Positivity is becoming like the new religion.

@stevebean1234

3 жыл бұрын

My career just derailed because I took a job in one of these environments. If you want to read psychologists take on it, the term they use is blind optimism

@Usammityduzntafraidofanythin

3 жыл бұрын

@poor man's rose Toxic positivity is much more specific to me. The term really only can concievably apply to the context of this video in my mind (motivation and life decisions), as well as maybe a little to do with political decision making. "How are you" is just small talk to me

@laadeeda

3 жыл бұрын

Now I know why I didn't like it when someone compliment me because I know the truth is I'm not really good at 'this'. She always said this is 'good'. Sometimes I need a criticism not a compliment. The old me traps in this toxic positivity and made me no progress.

@haniaboufadel309

3 жыл бұрын

I always see these people who keep posting positivity on their social medias are toxic people

"If you want self help why would you read a book written by somebody else? That's not self help, that's help." Thanks George.

@michaelrantanen4312

3 жыл бұрын

@maliziza1 r u questioning the great, late, George Carlin?!

@user-ws3sl9xi7y

3 жыл бұрын

@maliziza1 Unfortunately, you're response is invalid. Please try again.

@michaelrantanen4312

3 жыл бұрын

@maliziza1 I am**

@gingertravel2357

3 жыл бұрын

You can learn something from this books, as the all have same core - you just have to filter out the bullshit usally the takeaways are: * Sleep long enough * Eat healthy * Lift weights * Define your goals and work on them and that's it. If you do this things you will be way better off than before, but you have to act on it.

@user-ws3sl9xi7y

3 жыл бұрын

@maliziza1 Self help is when YOU change your lifestyle to help yourself. Taking advice from someone else is just plain old help.

After consuming 3 years of self improvement I got understanding of this: i don't need 100 gurus, i need 1 guru, i don't need 100 books, i need 1 book, i have to take 100 actions, from that 1 book.

@AnitaAndradeBuki

2 ай бұрын

Yes. Same here! BUT to get to this very easy and seems to be simple understanding buddy, you needed to read those books and you needed to hear out the 100 gurus... that is why people do not get

@rockmanala

Ай бұрын

The Bible😁

@fraxizztv6433

Ай бұрын

​@@rockmanalathe bible seems more about guilt tripping and worshipping, rather than personal development.

"If truth Kills them ,let them die" Thank you Sir for this enlightenting video

The biggest issue with self-help is it tend to make people believe they have issues that they really don't have.

@annaz2349

3 жыл бұрын

Well said

@havoc8851

3 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍👌👌

@Nyax4Real

3 жыл бұрын

On point.

@richhull7324

3 жыл бұрын

Couldn’t agree more. Such a great point. After several years dominated by self help im just starting to realise this

@MUSICMUSIC-sb4ld

3 жыл бұрын

That is also my conclusion.

The “working hard” message has become one of the most toxic for me. Because if you do something and it doesn’t work, it’s clearly not because it just doesn’t work for you, it means you just don’t work hard enough. Eventually you start to question your worth and it can go to a very unhealthy spiral. Realizing that I just need to figure out how things work for me has become one of the most important things in my life so far.

@starrystarrynight52

3 жыл бұрын

Not only is it bad for what you have mentioned. But working 80-hour weeks takes you away from the most important people in your life, your family and friends. It's a really horrible message that is being spread.

@MrBadintentionss

3 жыл бұрын

work hard on your mind and body (good nutrition and regular exercise), and I guarantee you won't "question your worth and...go into a very unhealthy spiral". the idea that material things can bring us happiness ahead of our own physical and mental health shows how messed up people's worlds can become.

@purplekitti5784

3 жыл бұрын

Somehow I never bought into this idea from self-help books or motivational speakers or even school or general culture... but when it came up directly from family, friends, and church, that's where it got into me, and to this day I still struggle with overworking myself. I think the worst part is that I don't approach it with the belief that only hard work will earn money, but the guilt that I would feel for working less than other people do - if other people work 50 hours a week to get their money, what right do I have to work less than that for myself? I prefer the "work smarter, not harder" approach, but then at some point I start blurring the lines between that and laziness and end up pushing myself into burnout. -.-

@purplekitti5784

3 жыл бұрын

I also have multiple chronic illnesses and chronic fatigue, so fill in the blanks there. :P

@OnEEmONErD

3 жыл бұрын

@@starrystarrynight52 I do agree that you need to work hard all the time if you want to achieve things. I don't agree with the gurus' regard what kind of work you're doing. You have to actively work to be the best family and friend. Working 80 hours a week for money does not equate to being a better person is what pisses me off about the gurus.

It’s also occurred to me that the self help industry preys on people who don’t love or believe in themselves. They are trying to provide results and answers which an individual can only find in themselves. In other words, no one else can live your life for you. No one else outside you knows your needs or can fulfill them. Each persons truth comes from their own heart which cant be replaced by advice or instructions from anyone else. Intuition is free of charge✨💛💯💯

@placeholderdoe

Жыл бұрын

On the path of self discovery one can be lead by others, but ultimately you need to travel a great distance by yourself.

@wkt2506

6 ай бұрын

But there are lots of self help books about self love. It's just a question of getting the right book or content! Maybe more of the wrong items are addressed at men and the good stuff is addressed at women.

@GeoffreyMorrison-xh2eo

5 ай бұрын

Some people need a "catalyst": That did work for me. People differ.

OH MY GOD, THE TRAPS YOU MENTIONED WERE EXACTLY THE ONE I WAS GOING THROUGH IN MY LIFE. This Video has CHANGED ME. Thank you for saving me and many years of my future! 😊

My grandpa told me one thing that sticks with me to this day: "Always chase that next horizon, but don't stare directly into the sun." This means that, while you should strive for self improvement, do not lose yourself doing so. Stay true to who you are, even if everyone doesn't like you for it.

@edwardteach1992

2 жыл бұрын

Is that a quote from a book your granpa read or something? Because it's really good

@AngelliaX

2 жыл бұрын

your grandpa coined it so you can tag his name after the quote lul

@Nintendofan781

2 жыл бұрын

your grandpa is a smart man

@qine6559

2 жыл бұрын

I would have guessed it meant «do step by step and not getting caught up in only looking at the end goal» Great saying!

@Gigachad-mc5qz

2 жыл бұрын

But being a modern day diogenes will get you arrested for some reason and then institutionalized

"Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner." - Lao Tzu.

@comradekenobi6908

3 жыл бұрын

@AP.17 from a certain point of view

@luscious_sky

3 жыл бұрын

@AP.17 I'd say it's a spectrum. Most things in life are on a spectrum, and it applies to this as well.

@deepblue188

3 жыл бұрын

As a matter of fact, I learned not to care a fuck about what other people thought after finishing college.

@Mich-jk2ze

3 жыл бұрын

Okay what about never care about what people say. Now your on a road to homelessness, inceldom, and being unhealthy.

@dutube99

3 жыл бұрын

Ya psychopaths and serial killers don't care what other people think either. Or do they?

Strange how many books we are ready to read about self improving, but very few (if any) how science work or (and) how to do real staff around the house (changing sockets, fixing plumbing etc). The worst thing these self improving gurus steal from a person is time; time wasted which cannot be purchased back.

Thank you for exposing the world that we live in today. From your video, I've found words to express myself and thank you for bringing in the the new term ''toxic positivity'' we need to speak on that more.

It's so comforting to see finally people have started talking about this toxic hustle culture, fake motivation, worthless motivational gurus, false self help & all.

@campkira

3 жыл бұрын

those people are there to sell book and made you to had gym membership and end up with student loan and made your head ful with shit.while sometime it is better just doing nothing and be happy since we all died at the end... look at 1 million death people form cov19... those people dont expect to died but they did...

@vukhiempham7213

3 жыл бұрын

yeah it is super rare to have someone pointed out this fake motivational scheme (except David Goggins) and fake hustle culture b.s I know deep down there was not something quite right about it before.

@kaanapan1183

3 жыл бұрын

Now, all those called “gurus” will start saying this and this will again hook us.. I dont see anything wrong if someone tells you the truth whether he is self-help guru or not. As this video stated this is becoming addiction. Like everything else in life too much of it is not good

@ramsy4205

3 жыл бұрын

Make no mistake about it. This is all fueled by stupidity

@Bdb83

3 жыл бұрын

Not sure what fake motivation means ...if you have a guy telling you to get up off your ass and it motivates you to do so then it's serves it's purpose ...sometimes that's all people need is a little nudge...i love those motivational videos here o. KZread telling me I'm a beast . Telling me the world is mine for the taking...It really does motivate you to have a go at it and we all know you can't succeed until you try but you can fail by not trying at all

“If you’re looking for self-help, why would you read a book written by someone else?” -George Carlin

@emberhermin52

2 жыл бұрын

It's a bit of an oxymoron 🤔

@ilovenycsomuch

2 жыл бұрын

Wow that’s kinda genius lol, never thought of that

@mrpersonality3497

2 жыл бұрын

"That's not self-help...that's *help*."

@EdgeOfLight

2 жыл бұрын

else-help

@iPyThoNx

2 жыл бұрын

damn sheesh

Great video…I can relate a lot and when I gave up “self improvement” after ten years of “hustle” attempting to get rich and winding up with burnout and nearly coming close to a heart attack, I’ve never felt better about my life.

This year is when I realized that nothing has changed. Also, you are my favorite KZreadr. This video was me. my gosh. Waking up at 2am. Running on 4 hours of sleep. Because I am creating a better version of myself. I isolated myself from 'losers', read a shit ton of books, personal development videos, working out, eating right, living on a schedule. Man it makes no sense me saying it all because you laid it all out in this video. Just like your LOA videos, its me. You are quality over quantity. I even quit my job back in 2019, to "be my own boss" following many of this self help bullshit. The second worst decision ever. I am so happy I finally caught sense. It may take me awhile to build up a momentum. But now I have the sense to leave these things behind and start my life a new, from scratch. My LOA/spiritual/metaphysical/pseudoscience journey lasted from 2009 - June 2023, 14 painful disappointing, heartbreaking, failure years. My self help journey lasted from 2017-2022, 5 years of burn out, being busy but achieving nothing. I also use to think what hard work(80+ hours) is Elon Musk talking about when he has a team/staff/employees working for him. Grant Cardone, Dan Lok, Dan Pena, Gary Vee, Tony Robbins. It was always something about these guys that seemed off to me. I saw them more as marketers than people who actually wanted to help. I was watching a Dan Pena seminar on YT a few years ago when he dropped the bomb that Napoleon Hill was a con man and failed businessman. Fact check and it was true. The only person I turn on from time to time and listen to is David Goggins... but I dont get caught up in following him or anyone else anymore. To conclude, thank you for another amazing video. There is nothing like personal experience.

@070erwin

6 ай бұрын

I hope that you've been doing a lot better ever since you came to that realization man, I'm sure that life ahead of you will be filled with good fortunes and happier moments :) Good luck in everything that you do and/or will be doing in life !

@horsepower33

6 ай бұрын

@070erwin Thank you. It has gotten a lot better since writing this post. All the best to you 🙂

@thevisitor1012

2 ай бұрын

I feel like what sets Goggins from the rest is that you can be 100% certain that he practices what he preaches lol. He's a useful ideal to keep in mind, whenever I feel like giving up.

You know what's better than reading self help books? Reading things you actually genuinely like. Edit: I see this has become a controversial take

@itsiwhatitsi

3 жыл бұрын

Simple but so right

@crismonmoon332

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!

@f.boogaloospook2318

3 жыл бұрын

Words to the wise

@XAE_A_Xii

3 жыл бұрын

best self-development books are classics. they teach you morale, history, language.

@RC-ld3cn

3 жыл бұрын

People have been so programmed by society, most people don't really know what they truly like to read.

Getting enough sleep is way more important than "hustling".

@jacobconcannon4677

3 жыл бұрын

Not really, i would rather get less sleep and be wealthy then sleep a ton and be a bum

@Sky_xjks

3 жыл бұрын

Sleep is actually so important for overall health and mental function..if you would rather trade your health & time for money, go for it..I choose my internal peace and wellbeing..this allows me to function better, therefore, I'm more productive when it counts and am able to make money easily. 🦋🌼

@leotheleader_

3 жыл бұрын

It's a balance lol. It dosnt have to be one or the other. Make time to hustle and time to sleep. Pretty rigid circumstance you makin there

@Sky_xjks

3 жыл бұрын

I never said don't work..I said sleep is more important than the constant "hustle"..you can't work efficiently without sleep!! 🙄 disagree with me if you want doesn't concern me.

@Sky_xjks

3 жыл бұрын

"rigid circumstance"? All I'm saying is get at least 8 hours of sleep. Science proves this to be healing and necessary for the body.

Absolutely agree, both new age industry and self improvement industry are pretty much scam based. You cannot proove right or wrong on energy healing or self improvement. In both cases it's power of suggestion that you buy not the result you hope for.

@CiceWYZ

9 ай бұрын

Self improvement is real, cope harder with your miserable life. You can literally see it as the more the times goes, but I don't expect some loser to go through it fully.

For being a young person you seem to be "awake!" Not necessarily pessimistic but more a realist. Lots of wisdom. I'm proud of you.

The "Toxic Positivity" and "Hustle Culture" segments describe about 98% of social media posts nowadays.

@Serratosteven

3 жыл бұрын

😂 everybody’s winning ig 🚶🏽 nawww they the 🐇 im the 🐢 i will prevail

@Aryanof99

3 жыл бұрын

Especially on instagram. Work hard, work hard, work hard, on what??? Man, this video is a blast

@lovepreet0951

3 жыл бұрын

I have come here ,after a financial page wrote about this industry and in the comments , someone write about this video on you tube

@notwerkinginthishouse8634

3 жыл бұрын

@@soundcerebellum saying everything but not telling anything at all

@thelivesofmany7013

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr i hate seeing ladies saying woman empowerment woo woo then you will see them judging other lady on what her skin is and body. Im sick of that kind of posts even the celeb in my country doing this thats why its so hard to not get heard of it

“ I went to a bookstore and asked the saleswoman, 'Where's the self-help section?' She said if she told me, it would defeat the purpose.” - George Carlin

@miriamllamas224

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@violetgirl1996

3 жыл бұрын

@@miriamllamas224 At first, I thought, why is she laughing emoji?? However, now I laff as I find it funny. As much as their comment is meaningful, it also sounds like a joke. Hehe

@RendezvouDoo

3 жыл бұрын

Haha crazy.

@pointa2b388

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@vozamaraktv-art5595

3 жыл бұрын

I see what you did there, lol

Power of Now is an amazing book! One of my favorites. Most people tend to suggest things like "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" which I feel like is just a piece of sales material. It has a lot of good concepts, but the overall intention is not to help, but to addict the reader to the consumption of self help.

Thank you, that's all I can say. Thank you so much. I've been there, and you put it in words that I struggled to find. I encourage you to keep doing what you're doing!

"If you are motivated to go to the store to buy a motivational book, aren't you motivated enough?" - George Carlin

@ninevehbarriga1780

3 жыл бұрын

Even if I am motivated enough, I don't have good enough skills, I don't love myself and I'm not confident I can achieve what I desire within a time limit. That's why I'm gonna take a break from school to work on myself without the pressure of grades and deadlines. As soon as I've leveled up, then I'm sure that I will be ready to go back to school.

@sadikasultana7198

3 жыл бұрын

@@ninevehbarriga1780 good choice

@sessionswithseon3653

3 жыл бұрын

Miss Him So Much

@wannabeskinnylegend5645

3 жыл бұрын

damn i really needed to hear that

@batman6540

3 жыл бұрын

I miss his rants!! :D

i wish more people said “hard work is important for success” rather than “hard work is KEY to success”

@l_m_a_o_

3 жыл бұрын

Through many experiences I can say hard work is not at all important for success. If that were true I would have completely failed everything in school. xl

@darthmath1071

3 жыл бұрын

@@l_m_a_o_ how far did you make it in school ? also if you like school topics and like to learn in general you may not realise you're "working" in some way because it's fun

@LessSuspect

3 жыл бұрын

There's a saying here that roughly translates to "work makes a man shine" (as opposed to laziness). I dislike that statement. Results make a man shine. Anyone is capable of working, that does not mean that you're doing anything worthwhile. Work is the unfortunate side effect of getting results and should me minimised.

@imretoth9925

3 жыл бұрын

@@LessSuspect Couldn't aggree more, but these "gurus" suggest that if you not work 100+ hours/week you are norhing and will achieve nothing.

@l_m_a_o_

3 жыл бұрын

I am a minor in the IB diploma program at my school and let me tell you that HL English and the IAs are not fun I don't like learning unless it's music theory (´-﹏-`；) School basically just teaches you how to suck up to people and make crap look good as if it deserves an award I'm still surprised I was chosen to get the scholarship I wanted I mean sure you have to work but not hard you have to work fast and efficient at the highest quality humanly possible cramming everything into a 24hr day including work I'm that student who hates work (but you have to do it) and knows how toxic some of the "good kids" in the leadership and student council actually are for some people life can be pretty hard there are times when people retake courses in summer because they ONLY got a %96.2 I still haven't fixed my habit of procrastinating . . .

I am from a developing country so very new to many of the ideas of self help. I was wondering about the new hype taking over me as I got exposed to the world of self help. I felt the sense of losing control unaware of the other side of the subject. Thank you for the enlightenment!

Thank you James! I was also trapped in this loop of being a mindless consumer of the self help industry. I am now taking the time to do the work from all the collective information I gained.

The worst thing about self help guidance is that there is no tangible product at the end. If you say to a 'guru' 'that didn't work for me', they will just tell you that you didn't work hard enough

@harshagobinath9384

2 жыл бұрын

So is the Law of Attraction

@zacharyscott2328

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. This is one of the shaming and blaming tactics overly utilized that keeps one thinking they are the problem and therefore unable to see that the system that delivers that kind of narrative is meant to keep you ensnared in its endless looping of self-denial and self deprecation. That's the real shame right there!

@saph100

2 жыл бұрын

I was once told to quit my lazy negative thinking and work harder and I finally told them, THEY were the problem there

@joeanthony7759

2 жыл бұрын

Like religion. Not terribly different.

@zaklaj

2 жыл бұрын

@@joeanthony7759 just pray to god harder

My hotdog once told me: "The moment you decide to eat me, is the moment you lose me forever." It hasn't left my table since.

@whutcat682

2 жыл бұрын

Very deep dude

@simarkaur2004

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯

@______7514

2 жыл бұрын

Hotdog was talking to you?! Are you ok dude?

@notthatcreativewithnames

2 жыл бұрын

I hope your hotdog is still doing well and not rotten nor mouldy.

@DMRoper1

2 жыл бұрын

Get another one.

I see I’m a little late to the party given that this was made two years ago, but, thank you for making this video exposing the truth about the self-help industry. 🙏 I’ve gotten caught up in it too, and had pretty much the same experience, and I’m glad to find out that I’m not the only one,that I’m not crazy, just a normal person trying to navigate this thing we call life.

Painfully relatable. Going through a self help detox and really appreciate this video. ❤

This video of self help being anti self help is actually self help too

@AkhileshKumar-xr6cj

3 жыл бұрын

Lmaoo

@itsvmmc

3 жыл бұрын

HMMM

@seanteng4313

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly 😊 Blame no one. Be accountable for all our actions.

@roxys6562

3 жыл бұрын

Ironic

@varunbhati1083

3 жыл бұрын

I beg to differ that this is self help video in disguise because this is the truth and someone has got to tell this. He has simply attempted to show the real nature of the self help 'sector'.

The product that this industry produces is what I like to call "Inspiration Porn."

@ravinchandra

3 жыл бұрын

I have read an article months back in Medium titled "No more struggle porn" by Nat Eliason, it is a good read

@pipilchocolate8654

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, I think the stuff you see posted in social media can fall under that name too

@robin_birdie_

3 жыл бұрын

Oh, now that's a fun :)

@sanghelian

3 жыл бұрын

Scarily accurate.

@LisaRoseASMR

3 жыл бұрын

@@pipilchocolate8654 Yup.

I would like to say thank you for this video. It has brought awareness to how much I consume and not enough action. All the while thinking I'm being productive with my time. But not actually achieving anything. Also I felt really happy for you at the end of the video because although you didn't pursue acting your now doing this and I think your really good at it. Good for you well done 👏🙂

This is the first video of yours I watched, and damn, it got me hooked to your channel. The storytelling, production value; it’s really inspiring.

"Create more, consume less."

@stargemsoracle5320

3 жыл бұрын

This.

@yentox

3 жыл бұрын

I love it!

@CloseThatBackdoor

3 жыл бұрын

hmmm...

@Merido

3 жыл бұрын

When growing up I tried to figure out what the next step is, what are we supposed to do. I figured it's "become a producer more than a consumer", and "get into real estate" :'P

People who actually work hard don’t have time to tell everyone how hard they’re working.

@thoughtgains6959

3 жыл бұрын

Atfu

@colin689

3 жыл бұрын

@@thoughtgains6959 spell it right poopie

@armandocastro6914

3 жыл бұрын

But Elon Musk said it in-the-video

@arthurgeier2545

3 жыл бұрын

@@armandocastro6914You probably worship Elon Musk for no reason. Open your eyes. He is just a business man and nothing else. The real work is being done by other people.

@iliveinsideyourhouse3943

3 жыл бұрын

I had nothing to talk about because I'm still a failure lol.

I appreciate this video because it shows the other side of the self help world and deep down we know that this theory's are true. Balance and not getting blind by one type of thinking is important.

What he said at 8:47 made me realize that unhappy people like myself are like a dying cancer patient desperately trying to find the best doctor in town, only to then waste more money on different types of treatments and pills, but never resolving the root cause. Sure, they may take away the pain temporarily and give us a sense of progress, but eventually, our wallets run empty and we're left with nothing except complete hopelessness. What a dark world we live in...

"Someone is profiting, someone is winning. The question is; who?" Ad: Hey guys, it's Tony Robbins!

@qfitness3417

3 жыл бұрын

I got that same ad 🤣🤣

@9shrdk727

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@mahanta_3559

3 жыл бұрын

Same lmao

@Vantorea

3 жыл бұрын

Yup! Golden :D

@AlejandroGarcia-fk7vg

3 жыл бұрын

Talk about irony lol!!

Whenever I felt unmotivated I used to watch these motivational videos on KZread where they say “you gotta be the hardest working person in the room and if you aren’t, someone else will be” and I felt really motivated…for like 15 minutes and in those 15 minutes all I did was make a schedule. The rest of the day I daydreamed about how great my life would be if I become the hardest working person in the room. That’s it. Nothing really happened. I was back at procrastinating the next day, now with a crippling sense of incompetence.

@aka74459

2 жыл бұрын

I hope this vid helped you now

@armsaroundyou2352

2 жыл бұрын

@Sudeshna Discipline.Taking Action is the solution.But here you're consuming things again.

@user-gb9px4bu8f

2 жыл бұрын

There's no point on doing self development if you didn't take actions, even if its a bit. The reason we read a book is to get a good points from it and use it for our life. Its useless if we didnt take actions for what we have learned! You can start doing something by using the 20 second rule. For example, you want to exercise in the morning but you are very lazy, even though the weather is great. What you need to do now is tell your body to do the thing only for 20 second, and then you can relax if you want. Start by wearing shoes, open the door, get out and close the door. You can open the door back if you dont want to. "but it is worth it? I already put on my shoes and the weather is great! I should just go and walk a bit..." Once you did something that push you towards the action you wanted to do although you totally dont want to do them, you will eventually do the action and somehow motivated to do them. Hope this helps :)

@katobrucelee08

2 жыл бұрын

@@user-gb9px4bu8f thank you!

@karamad2847

2 жыл бұрын

Your comment has no point. They are not wrong telling you what to do if you're unable to do it it's your fault

And the self tests, offered for free to check to see if you suffer from whatever it is, they claim to fix It took me quite a few years in my life to realize that nearly 100% of people check the “yes” box, on almost all those questions! It turns out that being a victim is one of the greatest addictions of them all😮

Thank you for making this, I hope it reaches as many people that need to hear it as possible ❤️

As Ram Dass said: "when you get the message, just hang up the phone". Endlessly consuming advice is the most vicious form of procrastination.

@patrickzingler4372

2 жыл бұрын

That was Alan Watts, not Ram Dass, and he was talking about psychedelics

@ponternal

2 жыл бұрын

I think that quote refers to drugs but it does apply the same to useful info online too

@rosemarysayers5303

2 жыл бұрын

@@patrickzingler4372 who? I thought it was from Timothy Leary lmao

@michaelnice93

2 жыл бұрын

Yes it was Timothy Leary

@billybobthekidiswack

2 жыл бұрын

Affirmations can actually lead to promising results

I am 32 years old. I've been trying to reach my "perfect" self by reaching mental, physical and spiritual "perfection" for the last ten years. It has consumed almost every aspect of my life and has left me feeling worthless most of the time. Last night, I had a mental breakdown because the stress of trying to eat perfectly, work out every day for two hours, read a book, "grind" for money at work, and try to be a perfect christian finally broke me. I've decided to take a step back and let go of this poisonous mindset that is killing me. I want to enjoy my life without feeling guilty anymore. I want to sit down and play Fallout New Vegas for a week and not beat myself up because I'm not "grinding." I'm done with this. I'll never reach perfection or that balance I want in life. And from what I've seen, no one else does either. We're all human and we all have flaws.

@ZeRo-yc7zf

2 жыл бұрын

Trying to be better and HEALING is better than trying to be perfect

@ZiggyZagsSensory

2 жыл бұрын

Progress > Perfection 😌

@meggreen442

2 жыл бұрын

We will never be nor could ever achieve perfection in any part of our lives. Sounds like you discovered that in doing so more stress and disappointment in ourselves is created than what we are seeking. Interestingly God set it up that we find most joy and satisfaction focusing on and helping others than ourselves. Even in doing this our focus can shift back on the wrong thing to being perfect in helping others. Only Jesus is perfect. When you get a lot older like me you’ll learn to embrace the imperfections in ourselves and others (or maybe you’re learning this early!). This is why He told us in our weakness He is strong - we don’t have to be the ones who are strong all the time (what a relief!). And He has never expected you to be perfect in life or as a Christian. Otherwise we wouldn’t need Him and the gospel is useless. That’s one thing the world gets so wrong - Christians are not called to be perfect and God doesn’t expect it, which is why we’re in a constant state of needing Him, even in the good times and not just the bad. Boy I wish I had learned all of this at your age!!! Bless you in your journey - because this is a journey not a destination.

@FallouFitness_NattyEdition

2 жыл бұрын

@@meggreen442 God bless you and thank you for your kind words, they are like a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and health to the bones.

@meggreen442

2 жыл бұрын

@@FallouFitness_NattyEdition God bless you too!

Brother James - you are the man. Thank you for making this one. My wife of 20yrs had recently left us (&3 daughters) for this same fakery - and it's heartbreaking. There are true dangers and life destroying consequences from these people and their BS. We are fine now and seem to move with what has happened. However please people watching take note and knowledge up. Our lesson is yours to learn.

Everything he said in the video is also mentioned in the book „the subtle art of not giving a f*ck“. The whole toxic positivity thing and questioning ur believes. You just have to read the right books. The self help world can be very dangerous and addictive, but when consumed in a healthy dosis it can be life changing.

That is why minimalism and stoicism saved my life.

@brianrandall3795

3 жыл бұрын

Peep taoism, stoicism might prove to be a roadblock later. Minimalism is the tits, though.

@skojoy7074

3 жыл бұрын

Brian Randall why Taoism, all I’ve learned is the belief that people can become dieties through ritual

@brianrandall3795

3 жыл бұрын

@@skojoy7074 i dont know anything about that deities stuff, but Taoism is a great path to acceptance of the world around you. Which in turn helps you to feel better about anything and everything. But hey, the Tao that can be spoken is not the true Tao (ch.1, tao te ching), so go figure it out yourself. :)

@ethanol8312

3 жыл бұрын

@@brianrandall3795 Wait, im confused. How can stoicism be a roadblock when it's literally about accepting roadblocks

@brianrandall3795

3 жыл бұрын

@@ethanol8312 There's a lot more to it than that. A perfect stoic doesn't feel like a normal person. Because they have accepted everything in sich a light, they tend to become apathetic and lose relations with those close to them. They won't feel sad about the ordeal, but just sort of exist within it. Stoicism gets dangerous, so use it in moderation.

My father once said something to me that I think was the single most valuable piece of advice I have ever been given. We where moving, my dad had a MBA and he had a ton of books he would read back during his MBA degree (Rich Dad Poor Dad, A random walk down wallstreet, Only the paranoid survive, etc, and a bunch of case studys) I remember him not allowing those books to be brought to my new house after I requested them. As for why, he said to me, and I will always remember this moment "Joey, you are young. Looking back all these years, these books have done nothing but killed my creativity, it gives you a mindset, it gives you a frame of doing something, it makes you think there is no other way to achieve something, it keeps you thinking inside the box. The more you read these self help books, the more you feel the need for knowledge, the constant thought that you dont know something, and that by the grace of god, knowing it will change your life. Thats wrong, you already know everything you need, you learn by doing, not using that same time and hunching over some book. Sure some of these books are good for you (Rich Dad Poor Dad) they help change your mindset, but too much of anything is not good, and in the case of self help books, its exactly the case.

@-KAIYULEE-

Жыл бұрын

This is some very solid advice here. I appreciate you sharing

@TexboyGamer

Жыл бұрын

So your dad wants you to spend years making the mistakes that people spent 10k years learning how not to make and writing them down. Bumbling through life without a mindset is not honorable, it’s naïveté

@vexial97

Жыл бұрын

@@TexboyGamer flew right over your head "I'm sure glad I'm a dense idiot or else I would have understood the point"

@TexboyGamer

Жыл бұрын

@@vexial97 explain the point then

@vexial97

Жыл бұрын

@@TexboyGamer I'm just as much as a dense idiot as you. Let's figure it out together

This is THE - PERFECT - VIDEO. Pure Art. Congratulations!🙏

Thank you for making these videos and allowing people to watch them, to the end, for free.

When you need help because you can’t stop helping yourself.

@blade837371

3 жыл бұрын

💀

@affanakhter8300

3 жыл бұрын

It's a paradox 😂

@breh9243

3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@Danqz97

3 жыл бұрын

Jesus Christ is alive and wants a relationship with you. God sent his only Begotten Son, that whosoever believed in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. Life as a Christian is hard but you will receive Blessings from God that will change your life completely, you will feel at peace in the Lord Presence. The devil will do everything he can to disrupt your peace but he will fail but Jesus is mightier then He is. Please if you haven’t accepted him as your personal Lord and Saviour, I hope you make the right decision for yourself. He died for us on the Cross for our sins so we wouldn’t have to face God’s wrath. He took it all in that Cross. He died for people knowing they might never love him back. He’s real. I and many people have felt his Spirit of love and peace and many have seen dreams of heaven and hell and many people are in hell suffering. People who reject Jesus Christ automatically live for satan and hell for eternity is not a joke. God doesn’t want this on us at all. Don’t be scared, make the right decision and accept Jesus Christ. He doesn’t condemn anyone of their sins, he wants us to repent, meaning confessing our sins to Jesus and to try with everything to turn away from them. Blessings 🙏🏾❤️✝️

@TREVASLARK

3 жыл бұрын

LMAO - seriously !!!

The irony is that by watching this video I also felt like I've accomplished something.

@supa7853

3 жыл бұрын

I mean it depends on how you take it, you could either learn from it, or pretend that not trusting guru's is a viable option.

@StarBrlight

3 жыл бұрын

it technically is because we have learnt something new

@joffre55

3 жыл бұрын

@@supa7853 How is trusting guru's ever a viable option?

@lovingatlanta

3 жыл бұрын

👍He’s offering “self help”. 💝

@kaoutar6921

3 жыл бұрын

same

Even though I have recently been obsessed and hooked with your videos I still think your work is a version of self help per se.

The issue with self-help is people not realising the help they need in the first place and not being able to read between the lines to discern what is "their stuff" and what isn't. Pathworks to Self-transformation by Eva Pierrokos got me out of an unhealthy relationship after 10 years. I did the healing and self-discovery and then left the relationship knowing I wouldn't make the same mistakes and bring my issues into them the way I did in that one. But I must admit that it is addictive being in constant search for answers and coping with major life changing things. It also creates procrastination (inertia) but it takes for us to realise that there is a time for reflection and pro-action.

Spot on. When I saw authors quoting themselves, or starting off with 'I was a loser like you', that when the illusion was broken. The narcissism was sickening.

This video called me out way too much😂 when you said “making a studying schedule and calling it a day without actually studying” I felt that

@neshayrobinson

2 жыл бұрын

Yessss!

@Padronous

2 жыл бұрын

I’m sure a lot of people can relate, I know I did.

@chillpillvibes671

2 жыл бұрын

Yeaah i do that too haha

@michaelnguyen4681

2 жыл бұрын

cleaning a room and think that’s progress...yup

@evanincalza7161

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah what about "it took me a whole year of procrastinating before finally deciding to do it". Hit hard man.

The way u make ur videos really gives me goosebumps. Keep going man, i feel like since watching ur videos for the last week. I’ve learned more than the last year. Love from The Netherlands!🇳🇱

I dont even need to finish the video to hit Like!! this topic was dancing on my head for the last 10 years, thank you so much for putting all that thoughts in a way i couldnt even explain it to my self

Everyone's fighting for succes by producing something of value, meanwhile the biggest value in life is freedom and peace it self.

@swoosh3684

3 жыл бұрын

Faaaaaaaax

@snacklepussPSN

3 жыл бұрын

Who wants to know a real secret to live by FOREVER and FOR FREE? Satisfied people do not scam and cannot be scammed: Truth:

@jjrhwy3376

3 жыл бұрын

THIS!! It's just so disgusting how we are constantly being told to "work hard for your dreams" to "never give up" on them, to "find a job that you like" so you can be "happy". "Work every waking hour" they say. Because if we aren't working all the time, we are being "unproductive" and "lazy". Every hour spent not working is an hour wasted. Time that you could've spent bettering yourself or "getting closer to that dream of yours". Because we've been convinced that the only way to be successful is to make a lot of money, be famous, etc. When in reality, the success that we've always been looking for has been right inside of us all along. The dreams that we've been chasing and the work we've been constantly doing, have been the distraction all along.

@StraightUniversalism

3 жыл бұрын

@@jjrhwy3376 haha, yeah I know, the western society is designed as such, everything is build on it, but no one needs to work for more than 4-5 hours a day, you could go anywhere, any community, work that much, and be done with it. people are capable of anything tho, if you need to work 80 hours a work one could, but fuck that, not for me, ye we have a self-proof society, not a self-love society you could say

@swoosh3684

3 жыл бұрын

@@jjrhwy3376 so true. Well put. Success is subjective

"Moderation in everything, even moderation" is my go to statement these days

@MrBadintentionss

3 жыл бұрын

if you're going to over-indulge in something, make it a healthy, active lifestyle ;)

@Papada00

3 жыл бұрын

Balance... as all things should be.

Nice video. I can totally relate. It is a very dark rabbit hole.

Vulnerability and authenticity will do it every time. Well done.

13:30 "Rich people don't sleep 8 hours a day!" He's right. They sleep 10 hours.

@greatbullet7372

3 жыл бұрын

or more xD

@PranayCoding

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@MasMaszu2

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr, what the fuck does sleeping less make someone rich?! Last time I did this, I just felt worse than before.

@jamesclements3463

3 жыл бұрын

Most of them get a lot but only when they are rich, and it really depends on what their job is. With that being said to get to the place that they are in the process takes so many hours and consumes you to the point where you barely get sleep. But after then they are golden. Usually.

@humanyoda

3 жыл бұрын

Becoming successful AND enjoying life requires being in a resourceful state. Not getting enough sleep impedes that.

Self Help: Work 90 hour weeks, work from 7pm - 2am on a side gig Also Self Help: 8-9 hours sleep is key to productivity

@NotAn_NPC

2 жыл бұрын

Actually it's more like this: "Value your time, don't waste it. Be Productive, don't just get to know the advice and think you accomplished something, you need to actually get up and get moving"

@julianlim8692

Жыл бұрын

I pick choice 2

@richardesponja693

Жыл бұрын

Actually yes, for example, I learnt prgramming and investing but you have to be fresh to make both, so I always take care to sleep enough. You just have to make realistic goals, that it takes time to reach them. I advanced my carrer a little bit, but since I know my long term goal, I worry less and take also more time for family, friends and sports. Unfortunately the harder you try, the less it will work, so yeah, enjoy more your time

Your videos are truly amazing mate. Only wish they were more frequent. Well done to you! Keep it up

Solid video and great advice, especially about the books to read based on what one is facing and when. Also, strategy and plan of action is key!

I think one statement that can relate to this strongly is "too much of anything can be bad for you"

@MrR0FL0LMA0MG

3 жыл бұрын

So true. People will often give impossible goals to themselves. Please journal before you do. Write down why you want it. You want to earn more? You are struggling to pay rent? Then this is good goal for you. But if you have 20k USD at your bank account, which is growing with every pay check, and you don't know what to buy, more money won't make you more happy. When I got a raise, I was happy for 20 min. Then I decided to buy my friends drinks to celebrate. And that was the best thing about my raise. So yeah, going out with my friends made me more happy than 15% raise. I didn't want to brag about money, I'm not rich by most standards. I wanted to show how you can have goals which aren't important to you. Think about them. Want to read more? Well try to read single book. Don't start some 30 books challenge. Don't buy $200 eink reader. Want to become fit? Try few activities which could help and pick the most fun one. Don't start following fitness blogger, and his (probably fake) routine. Your diet is bad? Try to find one healthy meal, you like (trust me, heathy food can be tasty), and try to eat it once a week. You can add more fruits. You can stop buying soft drinks. Don't become raw food vegan.

@ugl7529

3 жыл бұрын

@@MrR0FL0LMA0MG So so true and tbh I'm very guilty of this as well. I always used to aim and focus on the end result which made the journey FEEL impossible and extremely overwhelming to the point where i'd constantly procrastinate because I'd expect myself to do a million things in one day and then i'd beat myself up in the end for not getting anything done which is a dangerous game to play... Whilst I believe that the 'Grind' mentality is partially to blame for that way of thinking. I also think people can see in themselves how much potential they truly have and so they get this misguided idea on how this 'potential' should translate into their performance and so they feel like they can take on the world when realistically you have to take on one country at a time before the world is yours.

@abhaypratapsingh8933

3 жыл бұрын

one of the valuable comment,very well

@LairaSxOaRnRaY

3 жыл бұрын

Can't agree more

@LairaSxOaRnRaY

3 жыл бұрын

@@pain5835 That's pretty common expression used in English. Nitty pitty troll.

“The illusion of progress” hit different.

@burry218

3 жыл бұрын

That's progress is only an illusion of you lack self-awareness.

@rodytalks3989

3 жыл бұрын

Too much haste is not enough speed

This is a really great video! Extremely relatable and a message that needs to be heard. Good job

Really well made video, hearing u hit some of those points really made me feel less alone with some stuff that’s been on my mind today. Godspeed to u and what ever is next for u brother❤

The point is: Life is confusing, there is a lot of suffering, and there will never be anything perfect

@faerveran6040

3 жыл бұрын

You didnt complete it: "... but heck, enjoy it anyway."

@Maya79800

3 жыл бұрын

Yes ... that’s Buddha’s teaching : life is a suffering journey all along .....

@alr.3137

3 жыл бұрын

@@faerveran6040 Exactely, trying to understand it will only get you headfucked and ruin the experience :D

@alr.3137

3 жыл бұрын

@@Maya79800 I noticed, the best thing to do is to practice non-attachement. To the negative and the positive things. I remember a friend telling me on the best feeling he ever had - He popped an E before a going to a football game, and he just wept because he knew he will never experience such a feeling again. On the other hand one could be grateful instead for having been allowed to experience it in the first place.

@xnosmokenoknivesx

3 жыл бұрын

Al R. - so, stoicism?

"Someone is profiting... Someone is winning.. The question is...: Who?" *Ad of guru starts*

@dfoster2513

3 жыл бұрын

I had a Nintendo advert!

@darknightstalker

3 жыл бұрын

Lol! Its always right on cue! Talk about your symbolism!

@firdausm1695

3 жыл бұрын

"me!"

@LuciferVontell

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao

@FAROOQ95123

3 жыл бұрын

Yup the guy from mind valley

as a self-help addictor in the past, it took me 5 years to realize that I was struggling about some toxic positive thought I had from self help books. Self-help is good for u to have short motivation but then I have to actually doing something. Be realistic guys! Don't believe 100% in something people told u, believe in your experience. This guy is talking damn right about my thought at self-help books, and content. Thank u!

Six years ago, I started losing my creativity because this thing. Now I've realized that motivation is a lie and I've actually achieved nothing. But my mind is so overdosed that I cannot think on my own. Like I no longer know what I want and what am I passionate about.

"work smart, not hard" is still the best self-help advice I've ever gotten

@chillycoldchomper9389

2 жыл бұрын

It's a classic that seems to yet pushed down now

@SP-bb2ni

2 жыл бұрын

Fuck it, work efficiently and effectively

"the business of selling hope" is going to grow exponentially during this global crisis, great video! Thank you!

@woosh_police4018

3 жыл бұрын

The irony, the fact this video has ads on it from the business

@ROAGECOM

3 жыл бұрын

Roage's material is free and it works.

@mikailum2423

3 жыл бұрын

💯

@woosh_police4018

3 жыл бұрын

@Ethan Tran and as we've seen in history it doesn't work. What's stop someone stronger than you to steal you? Cops? They don't get paid. So do they get more food for protection? Sort of taxes with food? You think in this era in a western country everyone would become good farmers? Money isn't valuable it's a piece of paper, but we give it value. Humans would find something to give value too other than money.. gold maybe?

@user-dj6lj1dl1c

3 жыл бұрын

Gibran Sanchez hope sells and everyones buying

… WOW… You are.. absolutely brilliant.. a genius creator really. I’ve been binge watching lots of your videos and I’m just speechless. Keep up the amazing work. Looking forward to notifications of new posts of yours 😊

James, I love your videos. I always look forward to them and i'm going to be honest, I've also been procrastinating to watch this video, and I'm glad I watched it. You are so right about being vulnerable and susceptible to those traps, it's almost like "what you think, you attract, or what you manifest you attract". I was trying to get myself out of the shitty situation and because of desperation, I ended going through the worst phase of my life. I knew that if my head was thinking right, I definitely would've picked out that it was a trap.

Can we talk about how well-made this video is? The music, the audio quality, the video quality... Everything!

@michaelkelmonroe7547

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, this is pretty top notch all around. I cannot imagine how many hours were spent on the back end with the editing, audio - like, I hope to fuck this person is enjoying themselves. I'd rather chew broken glass than work on vlogs and videos all day.

@tihkal

3 жыл бұрын

Michael [Kel] Monroe editing is fun, maybe not for you. He’ll be enjoying himself when he’s pulling in $300k / year and only putting out one vid per month which will be in the very near future. Go chew your glass

@michaelkelmonroe7547

3 жыл бұрын

@@tihkal Nah, I'm just gonna do what I like doing instead. I'm happy you like editing, and I don't care who is making what amount of money. Be well.

@manuelmillan5970

3 жыл бұрын

@@michaelkelmonroe7547 That response made me automatically like you! great attitude

@michaelkelmonroe7547

3 жыл бұрын

@@manuelmillan5970 Thank you, Maneul! :)

“When the student is ready the teacher will appear. When the student is truly ready…the teacher will disappear.” ~Tao Te Ching~

@DEARPEDAGOGY

2 жыл бұрын

@@bliss_555 I hate to make such a ridiculously childish reference but it kinda sounds like Nanny McPhee, lol. "When you need me, but do not want me, then I must stay. But when you want me, but no longer need me, then I must go."

@nishantkumar6924

2 жыл бұрын

@Deb Downing Could you please elaborate the second part?

@lycorisradiata7012

2 жыл бұрын

@@nishantkumar6924 In case you're still curious, it probably alludes to the scenario of one's determination to learn something. When a student is made to learn something that they're not very interested in, the teacher 'appears', as in, they rely a lot more on the teacher to _teach it to them._ However, the latter part conveys the scenario of a student who truly wants to learn something- perhaps something that they're interested in. In this case, the teacher 'disappears', as in, the student's reliance on the teacher (to learn) becomes so infinitesimally small, that it is almost as if the student will not face much trouble even if the teacher were to 'disappear'. The student no longer requires a teacher to _teach it to them,_ because the student has now taken on the role of being their own teacher. The effort the student is putting in to learn their subject of interest barely necessities the need of any external agency / teacher but themself. More broadly, you could also apply this example to any person who wishes to learn anything.

@SuperCpalacios

2 жыл бұрын

Tao Te Ching is

@ckyung1312

2 жыл бұрын

Isn't this just The Secret with different 🤔 words?

3 years and I guess this is so far the one video that I had watched with full concentration and without skipping a moment. You earned a sub here!

Thank you for your courage to telling the truth.

I never understood the “don’t sleep 8 hours a day it’s too much” hustle mentality. You need at LEAST 8 hours of sleep to stay healthy and keep your mind sharp. Especially when you are a teen going into your 20s

@lemsip207

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sick of the attitude that you have to get up at 5am to get things done. If you did that you would have to be in bed by 9pm. It's about working smarter not harder and for longer.

@Cam_Dedoll

3 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY!! What's the point especially keeping in mind the fact that not getting enough sleep can affect you in so many ways including your productivity.

@Kayla-kd8ov

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I never got it either. Not sleeping enough fucks up your health, and it definitely creeps upon you later on in life

@vukhiempham7213

3 жыл бұрын

And they told u this CEO Routine and that CEO Routine and how they got wildly successful by waking up at 4.30 AM to get bunch of things done LOL

@MiguelRPD

3 жыл бұрын

Not everyone needs 8 hours. Some are fine with 6 or 9. Everyone should sleep what they feel is appropriate to their needs.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who is seeing the cracks within this community

@penielchery2765

3 жыл бұрын

@Winston NipsMan that sounds so backward but it's true. I'm already looking forward for more videos like this from HIM

@Kaledrone

3 жыл бұрын

@Winston Nips That's sad, but it's true, once you are trapped in the cycle, it's a little hard to break free.

😭😭😭😭 ALL I CAN SAY IS THANK U GENUINELY AND GOD BLESS U I LOVE U FOR THIS VIDEO BRO