I asked the lady at the library where I could find the self-help section. She refused to help, stating that doing so would "defeat the whole point."

@bhatkat

3 ай бұрын

Yeah, and if it's self help, why aren't you writing your own goddamn book? Read widely and SKEPTICALLY and then put your own program together. Yes, there is a universal approach. Figure out what works for YOU and work on it. The catch? It can be a bit more difficult to realize what does and doesn't work.

The thing about self-improvement, is that it has to be SELF improvement, no one else can tell you how to improve yourself. You must find what you need, and work hard to achieve it. Self improvement essentially changed my life for the better, and I would not be where I am today if I didn't look at myself and make the change. So no, self improvement is not bad, it's just the fake copy and paste "lifestyle influencers" that are bad. Self improvement is one of the greatest things I've ever done.

@nGUNNARp

11 ай бұрын

you actually don't have to work hard to achieve it, that's such a bullshit idea that's engrained in all of us cause we were taught that work hard = good and not working hard = bad, so we're constantly feeling guilty if we aren't working our asses off to achieve something...if you stop judging yourself for how hard you're working and stop caring if everyone else thinks your lazy or not, life becomes a lot easier...guilt holds us back

@JoeJohnson-mk4qd

11 ай бұрын

@@nGUNNARp I don't care what other people think, I do nothing to improve other's opinions. I personally value hard work and determination, and refuse to give in when things get hard. I used these to help me become a better person in my eyes to make my life more enjoyable for me, but to each their own.

@Azurethewolf168

11 ай бұрын

@@nGUNNARp so basically your being lazy and are sick of people calling you lazy

@Azurethewolf168

11 ай бұрын

Same thing for relationship advice that has become a whole business. If someone is actually selling life changing information, they never would have in the first place. The way you actually get what they say they’ll give you is by doing it yourself and not relying on someone else.

@nwb3

11 ай бұрын

I'll sum this up shortly. Take what works leave what doesn't. Listening to only one influencer will just make you like him. The quickest way to improve yourself is write down your weaknesses and SEARCH videos on how to fix them. After you fix your issues you don't need to watch any more videos. DON'T FIX WHAT IS BROKEN!!!!!! EDIT: Also ignore bad advice

The problem is not self improvement itself, but the self improvement INDUSTRY, the content creation that wants you to FEEL better for watching videos or reading books about how to get better instead of wanting you to actually BE better. That's why self improvement is something active, that you should do. It's not passive, not something you should consume. But I don't want to generalize. There are a lot of helpful and life changing books, videos and podcasts, but they mean nothing if you don't do the hard work by yourself. Beware of only studying the theory that tells you how to improve and not actually improving. Also, don't forget the balance between the happiness due to what you have already conquered and desire to conquer more. Always be greatfull for how great you have become until now, but never stop looking for being greater. "I'm much better than I was, but I'm much worse than who I can be. I have achieved a lot in comparison with my past self, but it's little in comparison with what I can achieve." Peace

@Rodrigo-jd2wg

9 ай бұрын

"Beware of only studying the theory that tells you how to improve and not actually improving." This hits close to home for me, thank you for writing this comment

@myrealnameisJ3FF

9 ай бұрын

Spectacular. Good note, sir

@disciplinedtrader17

8 ай бұрын

True, well spoken

@Ironheart73

6 ай бұрын

Yes correct. What it all boils down to is that are they giving you anything concrete in the first place? Or are they just throwing endless anecdotal bullshit to make you believe that their "System" is effective? Or are they just downright making you high out of your own dopamine, and just making you addicted to "Motivation"? Remember everyone is built differently. What worked for Bill Gates dont work on all college dropout. Also, self-improvement is about the journey and not the destination. Just because you do not have the dream body or dream car you have, it does not mean you have to see yourself as a loser and dont deserve happiness. This is what the self-help gurus do.

@__random.person__

2 ай бұрын

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True self Improvent isnt about making you or anyone one else rich, it is about creating the tools to understand your self, your motivations and how not to be manipulated to the benefit and betterment of others 😎☕💋

@Narasthenics

9 ай бұрын

Based.

05:03 There is no malicious intention in most self - help gurus’ teachings. The problem is that people read countless books on self improvement and expect their lives to magically change overnight without ever taking any action on implementing any of the lessons they may have learned while reading the books. The problem is not the gurus, the problem is people with unrealistic expectations.

@caseykirkland1559

10 ай бұрын

Excellent point

@MrAlepedroza

10 ай бұрын

Yo be fair, Its understandable people will have their reservations on which gurus may be lying quacks and which not. Advice can be confusing and contradict other pieces of advice.

@knight794

10 ай бұрын

No malicious intent but definitely wrong teachings/advices that they think is right

@Him_Dante

10 ай бұрын

@@knight794 I mean… it worked for them so who are you to say ? By the way, I’m talking about people who actually made their money before deciding to publish books and create self - help content. People like Alex Hormozi, lewis Howes, Tom Bilyeu, Steven Bartlet, Ray Dalio, Grant Cardone etc.

@aggiesart6

9 ай бұрын

exactly. I have a small house, dog, husband, son and cat. I work partime small time, the rest taking care of my family. My husband is a techniscus, who loves working with his hands. We both have hobby's what we love to do, not costing a lot of money. Our life is pretty simple. And that is the different with some people. They're thinking life must be doing everything huge, but forget that things are much simpler, just do you're thing.

Just look at life with more playful eyes. Don't be serious. Seriousness becomes like a blindness. Don't pretend to be a thinker or philosopher. Just simply be a human being.

@unbreakableroad9294

2 ай бұрын

actual wise words

The most important part of self improvement is self love, truly understanding and loving yourself as the human individual you are. The problem comes when you lose sight of that, and what matters, which is your own life. You can't improve without introspection, reflection, gratitude, self awareness, and purpose. We as humans tend to focus on one aspect and put it above everything else, when in reality that balance and feeling true to yourself is the key. I've lived most of my life focusing on myself, the self awareness was there and yelling at me what I needed to do to be happy, but I never had a purpose beyond existing. That complacency of existing with relative ease made me furious, I had extreme ambition but a lack of desire, motivation, to act on it. I looked inward and did things that I thought would make me happy, but never truly understood what I wanted or why. Once I found a purpose, which was a dedicated process of finally living for myself and not what I wanted to be, I improved myself dramatically and almost instantly.

@luck3yp0rk93

11 ай бұрын

If you haven’t read “the subtle art of not giving a fuck” by mark Manson you should. It’s not what the title makes it seem like. It goes over “self love” and I think it would give you a different perspective you may agree (or not) with.

@WoodysWisdom

11 ай бұрын

@@luck3yp0rk93 I've heard the title many times but haven't gotten around to it yet! I'll definitely give it a read, ty for the recommendation homie. Everyone has their own unique path to be be their best and my comment is just what got me there

@WoodysWisdom

11 ай бұрын

@@luck3yp0rk93 Also just wanted to throw in that my sense of purpose is helping others find theirs and to be true to themselves, almost a contradiction. For me to be better, I need others I care about to be better, or else I won't see the point myself. Hard pill for me to swallow for many years as people around me never seemed honest to themselves or willing to improve when I extended the tools to do so. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink it.

@hamarmaul5967

11 ай бұрын

@@WoodysWisdom horse's would be drink water if they see one of them drink it. if you want to change people perceive you need to be like one of horse who drink water. if you understand, you will be know what to do, but remember not all of horse thirsty maybe some of them have drink some water before

@arrow2593

11 ай бұрын

Valueable comment

VSauce: Or is it?

@user-cf6fo6bj1u

11 ай бұрын

Depends

@BlameThePiano

11 ай бұрын

😂Hey VSauce, Michael here

@andyc9902

11 ай бұрын

😅

@Cookieman245YO

11 ай бұрын

Or are you 💀

@lest3918

11 ай бұрын

VSauce the man

Self improvement is good if you do it by your own, and without following fashions. Find what you really like is the first step. People don’t know what they like usually because they are passive, and the marketing itself create this situation

Bloody hell, these are the types of videos people need to see more! Might switch up our style a bit!

Can't tell you how much I related to this topic for the very first time in my life. You really are different my friend.❤

It's mostly the outer pressure to change ourselves that makes us unhappy. Even if we live a healthy lifestyle, have no major financial problems or troubles in relationships, we still see people on the social media who achieve MORE than us and that DESIRE to achieve MORE never ends. It stems from the pure human vanity - to be admired, to be successful in the eyes of others, to be praised and therefore more liked, more loved. I personally believe that life is about gathering various experiences and trying to do something new each day, because life is too short and yet there are so many things to see, so many things to do, things to be discovered. Simply enjoying the process of living, without greater expectations of some unusual results. In the long run, it only matters for us what we do with our lifes - in the scale of the Universe, we are less than a grain of sand. The worst thing one can do is to lay down on bed and do nothing - the lost time is not coming back.

Most people who scroll through videos on self-help, constantly-are practically trapped into it. It's their addiction.

Personally, I've given up on lofty goals as I'm now 37 years old. I've completely let myself go mentally and physically. Now, I just focus on day to day survival and avoiding toxic people, of which there are many.

@alandala1599

11 ай бұрын

I agree

@mrredcrafter8587

11 ай бұрын

No, don't give up! Philippians 4:6(KJV) Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

@elviskato736

11 ай бұрын

@@mrredcrafter8587 true

@timothy9588

11 ай бұрын

Sounds like completely discarding any self-improvement / self-development has done wonders for you. :/

@auskgd

10 ай бұрын

Being bluntly honest, you say 37 as it was 70. It's not! You still have time, you still can improve yourself mentally. There's a lot of unuseful advice out there with these "self-improvement" stuff, but filter the good from the bad and I'm sure if you start doing Cognitive behavioural therapy alongside, that will surely help.

You make such exceptional informative content. This is one of the best channels on KZread. Thank you for your efforts.

Your videos are a treat to watch! Short and concised information. I love it. You have added so much to my life, you have no idea. I love gaining knowledge from this channel. Thankyouuu for these videos

This is one of the best self-improvement video, I have seen lately.

Keep up the incredible content my guy

Great video! Perfect channel 🙏 -Thank you for your gifts of wisdom sir👍

Success is dependent on the action or steps you take to achieve it. Show me a man who doesn't have an investment and I will tell you how soon he'll go broke. Investment is building a safe haven for the future: with the right choices of investment that has minimum risk and with an Expert guidance, profit and interest should be guaranteed.

@leojack9090

10 ай бұрын

Starting early is simply the best way of getting ahead to build wealth , investing remains a priority . I learnt from my last year's experience , I am able to build a suitable life because I invested early ahead this time .

@TomD226

10 ай бұрын

I have been investing in stocks for over 10 years now and I have made a lot of money. My portfolio has grown exponentially and I can't thank stocks and Laurel Dell Sroufe enough for such an amazing way to make money.

@lowcostfresh2266

10 ай бұрын

@@TomD226 Please how can i find the lady you mentioned?

@TomD226

10 ай бұрын

@@lowcostfresh2266 Laurel Dell Sroufe maintains an online presence. just make a simple search for her name online.

@fadhshf

10 ай бұрын

@@lowcostfresh2266Found her, I wrote her an email and scheduled a call, hopefully she responds, I plan to start the year on a woodnote financially..

This video was so necessary! Thank you!

You are absolutely right, self-help books often regurgitate the same script over and over again. All of them claim to have the potential to change your life entirely by taking your hand to the ultimate source of happiness. However, i'm highly convinced that if someone has the secret of transforming stone into gold he won't without a shadow of a doubt divulge this valuable piece of information because once he does it will be the end of his success/wealth.

Work on yourself physically and mentally. Take care of yourself, do the things that align to where you want to be in life. Start with small changes you can make and with time you will get there. You got this

honestly, you have helped me much more than any self care speaker.

@JamieLegacy_YT

11 ай бұрын

I swear wish I could meet this man & shake his hands

SUPER NICE, this video helped improve on how I view self-improvement

At 11:29, you mentioned that you want to save this planet but I disagree since I believe that all conscious life on this planet should end in order to prevent further suffering. On this planet, the conscious suffering which exists clearly outweighs the non-suffering hence why it should all end. For example, assuming that lions and gazelles are sentient beings which I believe they are who can suffer, a lion who experiences stomach pains because it has not eaten in days is suffering. A gazelle who runs in fear and then gets its neck snapped by a lion is suffering. That is just one example of suffering which exists every single day and the only way to stop it is to end their lives peacefully if possible. So with all things considered, it makes logical sense to end all life on this planet in order to prevent more suffering.

@geeyouknit0648

6 ай бұрын

Oh brother, THIS GUY STINKS

i think another thing that really helped me to truly increase the quality of life that i lead is knowing. knowing is the truth. what i mean by that is seeing stones as stones and not as gems. look at things as they truly are and not by the lens that you have developed due to what others say about it. for example, instead of glorifying hustle culture and taking pride in the hectic schedules that you have, look at it as it truly is. what it truly is nothing but not having enough time to enjoy the things that we are here to enjoy but instead focussing too much on monetary values, which after a point is nothing but an obsession. when you look at it as it truly is, there is nothing that will over excite you, nothing you will be obsessed with, and nothing that would make you feel miserable. knowing is renunciation, and ignorance is indulgence. i too was involved in this self help cycle i believe, but then once and for all i decided to think about things for myself, instead of the one size fits all, and the result was simply realizing that the things that we are so worried about and give so much weightage to are simply due to the lens through which we view them, and more often than not it really really helps to see things for what they truly are, without any sort of filter that the world looks at it through.

Glad you mentioned Atomic Habits, for me it is the best book that when take into action will really change your lives. Oh, and the best action is to start working out ! Trust me, the rest will follow.

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I have done self improvement, I am now the most organized, healthiest,And productive I have ever been.

I think it's the pressure to self improve to get a better self image in society's right eye that is the problem with failed improvement. People don't try self improve anymore, they try look cuter for people to accept them

Toxic positivity, false assurance Avoiding negative emotions

this was a roller coaster of philosophies. It started sounding Hobbesian, transformed into something like AJ Ayer, back to Hobbes, and then to Epicurus and Marcus Aurelius. It may be my own fault, but the video was not very clear. My main takeaway was to not buy into the snake oil fallacies offered by companies. Good luck you all! I hope you achieve what you are striving for.

made me truly realise that self success is different for everyone and no book or guru can tell you what to do to make it better

I have a KZread addiction and I was trying to improve my self and quit my addiction. but after watching your video I have realised that self improvement is a ruining My life. Now I am spending time on social media with no worries because I know I am going to reach success in no time.Thanks

You raise some good points. I feel a lot of people fall prey to self help guru's because they want the easy way out. Nowadays people want to pay some money or watch some short video, "take these easy 5 for true happiness"!. All such a farce. True self help is hard and not hidden behind a pay wall, no easy way out. Like you say, it's eating healthy, getting good sleep and staying fit, with a healthy dose of self reflection, self realization and being conscious of your own ego and emotions. Training the mind especially, is just as hard, maybe even harder as training the body.

Arthur Schopenhauer said that we should read a few books many times, instead of a new book everyday. That has stuck with me. I find that if I try to keep up with all the new self help books, I'll probably never learn anything from each book I've read. Instead, I go back and reread a book that had a profound impact on me and even better I take each step listed out on the book and try to reflect on it and practice it for sometime, as best as I can, before continuing with the book. Otherwise, these books just become a dopamine hit and fancy lines you regurgitate during gatherings to make you look cool.

Be Careful Videos can be another form of Self-improvement. Saving videoes into playlist so you watch it later or as a material collection is also one form. Toxic Self-improvement really comes when the Security of Keeping "it" weighs more than the information contained in it. That's why Throwing away books that are causing suffering brings a huge relief. Trust Yourself. From to time to time ive found myself relying more heavily on others ideas and advice which has its place but ive never wanted to trust my decision because it is scary (im wrong or not following what was said). If you Trust Yourself maybe you'll find something.

this was so very well explained.

Ur voice helps me sleep thanks

"The desire more positive experience is itself is a negative experience and paradoxically the acceptance of a negative experience is itself a positive experience" mark manson

Worthy of an Aperture video.⭐⭐⭐⭐

Self help is a noble enterprise if it's something you do for you. Though it is worth the reminder that Alan Watts says quite clearly that 'There is nothing you can actually do to transform your own nature into unattached selflessness, because you have a selfish reason for wanting to do it.'

@tkc403

9 ай бұрын

Exactly! When we help others, its actually for our own boost of self esteem and importance, whether we want to accept it or not

Realized this many years ago and stopped reading them. Self-help books, Diet books, and Business books are all the same...a waste of money and time. I'm so glad you said this: "Work hard, eat healthy, exercise and focus on building healthy relationships", best advice for a society that is over-obsessed with navel-gazing, 'feelings', being stuck inside their own heads so much. If you have a real problem, see a professional and "don't sweat the small stuff"...you're probably just fine as you are.

Thanks so much💜😻

The only time self-help books ever helped me was after my ex moved out, leaving 2 shelves of self-help books behind. I boxed them up and donated them to the local library. It felt quite liberating and empowering to get rid of them!

I think self Improvement can help if specific actions are taken when reading 1. like finding an author who is successful at what they do like financially successful find a businessman author 2. Take notes and reread the entire book or reread a specific part 3. Sit n think afterwards about what needs to happen to move forward in your life create goals

@Sterben_xvi

10 ай бұрын

no

@Big__Baller

10 ай бұрын

YES ur just too weak

@lovecraftianjester

10 ай бұрын

That's not it. People tend to use survivorship bias and find people are successful as their idols, when in reality most likely it was that they were lucky, and there are 100s in turn who worked 10 times as hard as them, yet were never able to achieve anything, the point is to be careful and truthful, get actual accredited proven methods of improvements rather than simple advice and one-time circumstantial inspiration and improvement stories, they won't give you any insight, accredited and accurate research will so choose the right source of information, not from random unqualified authors. These gurus make me sick, manipulating people who are genuinely trying to make themselves and the world a better place.

@jordanthomson8675

10 ай бұрын

I agree researching the author is key to getting good information better yet find a mentor in person that can help point you in the right direction That is an interesting phrase survivorship bias

@jordanthomson8675

10 ай бұрын

These “ gurus of financial and investment “ on KZread and in person can be sniffed out pretty easily by the emitting b’lls’it of lack of financial literacy and knowledge of investing research authors is key for success however in order to find one you need to educate yourself with financial skills to be able to easily sniff out the bull especially if you are paying someone to show you the ropes

This is the video we did not want, but we desperately needed. Thank you Aperture.

This video reminds me of another one I watched from James Jani entitled, “The Toxic World of Self Help.”

This is why you listen to someone like David goggins, he is aware the self help genre is full of crooks. He just gives you the cold hard facts and tells you that it's Ultimately your choice to do nothing or something.

I swear to god, whenever I have a question in my mind. Aperture uploads a video to answer that Exact question.

I agree with this video so much. Instead of spending so much on self-help, it's better to just use that money to focus on mental health professionals. So many of these self-improvement people are obsessed with meditation, breath work regimens that are super strict. I feel better listening to content from licensed mental health professionals. Going through burnout right now. Not turning to self-help. Riding this wave and taking some time away from productivity. Now working on researching what career changes I am wanting to make. Not an easy process, but life's not easy. It's important to feel and work through negative emotions instead of "breath them out" like these self improvement gurus like to push.

I realized after my third or fourth self help book that just the actions of feeling like I was helping myself was self love but the obsession was when it became destructive. Then I took a huge break from reading self help books to just reading books I find interesting and that was another moment of self love.

“How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself and in no instance bypass the discriminations of reason? You have been given the principles that you ought to endorse, and you have endorsed them. What kind of teacher, then, are you still waiting for in order to refer your self - improvement to him? You are no longer a boy, but a full - grown man. If you are careless and lazy now and keep putting things off and always deferring the day after which you will attend to yourself, you will not notice that you are making no progress, but you will live and die as someone quite ordinary. From now on, then, resolve to live as a grown - up who is making progress, and make whatever you think best a law that you never set aside. And whenever you encounter anything that is difficult or pleasurable, or highly or lowly regarded, remember that the contest is now: you are at the Olympic Games, you cannot wait any longer, and that your progress is wrecked or preserved by a single day and a single event. That is how Socrates fulfilled himself by attending to nothing except reason in everything he encountered. And you, although you are not yet a Socrates, should live as someone who at least wants to be a Socrates.” by Epictetus

Agree, but few do help. I read Running on Empty (which helps explain cptsd to people who gone through it) and it caused me a mental breakdown which was necessary to change my life. read books written by psychologists and evolutionists

05:30 That’s an interesting take, but long term it is actually more beneficial to provide a service that works. It’s like arguing that the local auto-mechanic wants your car to break down because they would go out of business if every car always worked perfectly, when the reality is that a bad service will ultimately lead to decreased customers over time.

The inability to disassociate with the fumbles and fails experienced from those Self-Help habits. That is where the problem lies for those who get caught in a cycle where theyre unable to improve, or "Help Themselves".

Without focus and determination nothing happens!

This video seems to tackle self-help gurus rather than the actual SELF-help/improvement journey that you may set for yourself. I've been on my self-improvement journey for a about year now, since hitting rock bottom and feeling really fucjing miserable all the time. I didn't watch any self-improvement youtubers, I didn't buy any self-help books n I didn't buy any programmes from a self-help guru. I simply looked at what I did wrong with my life, my unhealthy habits, what a healthy person does, etc and applied it to my life with discipline. I started tracking calories, macros n micros; going for frequent walks n exercising; monitoring screen time n making sure daily average doesn't exceed 3 hours, and more. I honestly feel really great and would encourage more to partake in the journey

For me, self help or self-improvement have changed my life. It has in some way made my life better. But I haven't really gotten rich, true relationships and/or success in my life. I have kind of succeded in school but not really beacuse I don't have the highest grades. Self help or selp improvement can actually make you're life in some way better if you take action, but as the youtuber Aperture said, toxic positivity is mostly involved in self help. To be more specific I've been watching red pill content where they are mostly focusing on masculinity and self help is also mostly involved in this topic. But what I really want to say to you everyone is that, you should love yourself despite what others in the social media or in internet in general say. Just do what fullfills you and take maybe also take care. Maybe you should stop watching social media or not, the funny thing is that iv'e heard that video games are better than social media. Maybe it is something for you to consider. But there are also many hobbies that you can do like, paint, read, playing instrument, workout or build something. You can also try to talk to people and get in to relationships. However one thing, if you can't really do these things, it is ok. I don't know what you are going through but there is a important thing that I want to note. Like in buddhism what they said, life is suffering and not just that. It is completely unfair due to the fact that some of us are more vunereabe than others due to diseases that can cause damage to our body. But don't worry it is outside of our control, that is what they are saying in stoicism which is a philosophy. Sometimes it is worth to be a bit pessimistic, you can try to accept the fact that there are many dark things about this world we live in. If you do that, you may be able to find things or hobbies that you enjoy, this can actually make you happy. Then don't be to pessimistic either beacuse you should alow yourself to be happy. I wish you all the best and god bless you.

Great job

I PREACH THIS STUFF! Before even watching the video, I can say that seeking self improvement and motivation implies you are not there yet. That you need to look or reach for it.

@luck3yp0rk93

11 ай бұрын

I mean you wouldn’t seek improvement if you didn’t think there was something that could be improved? Where’s the implication

@octaviuswendell5857

10 ай бұрын

You can always be better than your current self and learn: this is called humility. Our purpose in life is to grow to be better people, and if you don’t improve and let pride get in your way, then you will truly fail.

i learned more with the phrase "stop giving a fuck" than with self-improvement

The fact that we're watching this video in itself is a SELF HELP😂😂

I found someone who loves me, for everything that I have been, am, and could be. She challenges me and encourages me, and has given me guidance through things I never even thought I needed it in. It’s thanks to her that I was able to improve and grow, and together we are succeeding and working to thrive. We can help ourselves to an extent, but when we have someone at our side to take our hand and help us through, we can become unstoppable.

Most valuable video I've watched for a long time. Thank you so much, I needed to hear this.

Only advice I can give. Life is a journey. Bad days create experiences and good days create happiness.

Self-improvement such as gym,sports or just having a basic routine can be very helpfup. But other than that it all depends on you and most of the time if you don't like something but its 'right' you kinda feel bad for not doing it and you do it but then the mental thing hits you and as time goes on you might actually be going crazy just to follow up the journey. Just do the things you like and if they are bad in moderation this is (self-improvement) and gradually become better and better but don't force it on people. People don't really like the idea of improving etc etc.. they like their life as it is and thats it.

Never thought about self improvement like this

So much truth in this video

videos like this is why people will stay week so easily will the weak fall for the temptations of comfort

I think the only self help channel Ive really found worth watching was Struthless. He comes off less like a “guru that knows all” and more like a “hey, im a mess but i discovered this thing and found it helped me out, here’s what it is and how to apply it.”

Truth !

Self-help's inherent flaw is this: It is SELF focused. When we finally realize (and then practice the belief) that life is about glorifying our Creator and then loving our neighbor as our self - only then - will we find a true deep joy. Try alleviating other's burdens and you will notice you're not thinking about yourself.

@tkc403

9 ай бұрын

I agree with this, but sadly in this world, most people are stuck in a feedback loop of self-destruction. You could try to help someone better themselves and alleviate their burden...but if said person doesn't want to improve their own life, they'll end up right back at square one. Nonetheless you are still right, we must show love to others...but we have to learn to love our SELF first

I'm still pretty young(17y) but I still feel like I could do more in my life. I feel like I wasted a few years and I feel like this since the age of 15. Since then I never did anything but going to school and being home.

@octaviuswendell5857

10 ай бұрын

There’s lots of free self improvement here on KZread, where you can get great advice (my personal favorite is Hamza). I’d also recommend just starting a journal about your everyday thoughts; I just started a week ago and it helps me self reflect so I know what I can work on.

@mugojr4766

10 ай бұрын

No, my friend, if you could've, you would've done it already. Focus on what you have my friend

slavoj zizek helps a lot when I feel depressed lmao, he's a true selfhelp guru

ACCCEPT YOURSELF JUST THE WAY YOU ARE, YOU ARE PERFECT!!!!

*work hard* *eat healthy* *exercise* *positive relationships* weep

@mikehess4494

11 ай бұрын

Consistent effort over time equals hard work. A much more useful definition.

There are the stupid degenerate channels that are like "10 WAYS TO TELL IF A GIRL LIKES YOU" or "IF YOU SAY THIS TO A GIRL SHE WILL FALL IN LOVE" but there are also genuienly helpful channels that kind of just remind you of what is good and what is bad. I feel like nowadays everyone wants you to believe that no matter what you do, no matter how much you earn, no matter how unhealthy your lifestyle is its all FINE because thats just the way you are. And that is just stupid advice. Everyone has to belong somewhere, believe in something, have a goal or else you just get depressed. And good "self improvement" channels tell you these facts in the face and tell you to actually realize what theyve just preached to you.

sad reality but we must move forward and shape our own self-improvement path, like you said there is not one solution to everyone's problems. if they themselves didn't realize that and started thinking from themselves then with self-help our without they would be miserable. we have the brains for a reason, we are not animals, we are not robots to follow a rigid structure. and the thing is that deep down we ( our brains to be exact and it can be non conscious too) know that but still choose to find answers by following others because thinking for yourself is uncomfortable. me for an example identified my problem but still have the "problem" with it and it is discipline and changing my identity for the better, no more tricks, no more anything will change that, I have to face my problems with my own strength and somehow come up on top of all that resistance that I am feeling when I am doing something out of my damaged character. IN THE END IT COMES DOWN TO YOU- but in the actual end, because we differ, maybe you are better off listening to other people (as we said there is no universal truth or solution to 1 problem). if it works and you are happy, then continue but if you feel that you are making the same mistakes then you need to asses and analyze your own problems ( or contact someone personally, that would not be that bad)

Nailed it on the head !!

If you don’t actually put the things they tell you into practice of course it won’t make a difference. Self help books and guides give you the path to greater satisfaction and a better life but you have to actually put in the work by meditating, going to the gym, doing yoga, etc. If you keep watching video after video without doing anything that is your fault and you can’t blame the community for your failure. Also by meditating you will get that deep introspective view that is specific to you but YOU have to do it.

Bro that thumbnail is haunting

work hard only counts if you have some sort of love for your job or at least some fun, being "un-skilled" means you're mostly stuck with jobs that drain every bit of soul you have left

Just fix it the way you can mastered it that can fit you good

Great work. RMN MSc CBT.

First, you as a person need to identify the problem you have. When you find what problem that is, you have to do your research, and look at things that are contributing that are worsening the initial problem you are trying to solve. Personal habits are a big one. Hope this comment was helpful or gave you some insight, because this worked for me and I’m trying to improve my self.

If someone teaches you to hunt, don't expect them to bring you food everyday. Which is basically what you expect.

In this modern age, it's important to develop a 6th sense for internet gurus. The first step when seeing a motivational or inspirational video is asking yourself, who's benefiting from this

The fundamental mistake that the common man makes is obsessing over the pursuit of happiness. This obsession drives people to search for some secret formula that will guide them to obtaining their desires. Self help gurus exploit this psychological weakness to their advantage and enrich themselves by preying on the weak. Nietzsche spoke of the concept of amor fati (love thy fate), we’re all dealt a unique hand in life and it is up to us to play it as best we can by staying true to our virtues and values.

So self improvement is not the lie, but consumism, like everything in this world

This is spot on. I'm sick and tired of these sorts of messages everyday. It's becoming obnoxious.

Oftentimes I ponder how remarkably inefficient our world has become, mainly because everyone is so obsessed with making themselves better as individuals, far past the point of diminishing returns, instead of figuring out how to make us work better as a society. Also, it feels like self-help is one of the least effective ways to try to become better as an individual regardless. Why are so many people so blind to that?

@rebeccadelbridge2998

11 ай бұрын

Yes. Well said. I agree.

@ceiling2967

11 ай бұрын

Why do that when. I could own a multi million dollar company with 5 super cars in my garage. And wife that respects me and takes care of my son's and daughter.

@freshsoftware4720

11 ай бұрын

Indeed. You could. Just not through the application of self-help guides. Success is correlated with intelligence, and intelligence is negatively correlated with the usage of self-help material as advice. And of course, one's own success is tied to the success of society around them, as I explain in my book (docs.google.com/document/d/1-MHpixuDpbcl60B26y8_aOLGBE5sJDTkmweigxL00y8/edit?usp=drivesdk), though it is still in progress.

The key is to be aware and constantly die and be rebirth. Even if that rebirth means to stop watching and following “ self help “ because it’s impeding you’re real growth. You need to burn it off if need be

Self improvement is the worst thing to happen in the last decade.

Applying some self improvement practices can be very helpful for your life. There's some genuinely useful general advice and knowledge that can simply come in handy at some points in life. Even if you do not want to change for the sake of being viewed in a better light by society (which you probably shouldn't, as you have no control over other's perspectives on you), some of the content you encounter is of use. As everything else in life, make sure to have a balance in your life. Remember, moderation is important. Thinking for yourself is very important. I know some people who go overboard with self improvement and I can't say it has brought a positive change in their lives (at least from my point of view) Don't just blindly follow these "sure-fire" ways to reaching happiness or these "gurus", "cult leaders" or whatever they call themselves. You do not need to become an automaton whose sole purpose is to be productive. Be careful what your read, watch and choose to apply. Sort out the information you receive. Don't stress too much. Regardless, the advice you can find varies greatly, so I don't think generalizing self improvement like this is right. Still, Aperture adressed this at the end of the video but I feel like the title may be slightly misleading.

@luck3yp0rk93

11 ай бұрын

A lot of philosophy channels use clickbait. It’s fine. Sparks fake outrage for free comments lol

Yeah now there’s so many of these “lifestyle” youtubers who try to sell a certain lifestyle that is ideal to have, but the truth is you need to develop your own lifestyle which is best for you and your own personal goals. You need to make yourself happy, not live up to the standards of random social media standards. You can even see this in all the goofy sigma male memes, “wake up 3am, workout 9 hours” it’s a joke but some people do feel like the need to live their life a certain way they see on the internet

Everything is subjective. People should do whatever works for them.

Although I completely agree with this video, there is one other factor which the video has not explored. Motivators and other self-improvement idiots bet a lot on other peoples weaknesses to earn their trust in disguise for money. There's plenty who do this, many of them being ex-military and preachers. They develop their vocabulary skills and their voice intensity to sound convincing, which although they do, a smart person can easily beat them in their own game. In reality, many self-improvement coaches have made their money through youtube and selling books, because the society they are part of is extremely consumption driven. In reality, these people have absolutely nothing to offer to society, and all they do is spew stupidity through a repetitive cycle of a basic concept; that you are to blame for your failures and all you need to do is get up from bed and start doing stuff to be more productive. Reality is often disappointing because the vast majority of the world works their asses off to make a living, often trying to financially maintain large families with debt. These so called motivators can not preach their ideas to poor countries because in poor countries if people don't work, they literally die as they are useless by just standing there and lifting weights. We owe it to our selves not to listen to demagogues and let them fade away slowly. They are professional liars, nothing much beyond that. Sure mr goggins, I will jog 10 kilometers today for no reason at all to make my day productive. IQ is lower than their penis size.

P.S This video is a self help book as well