Understanding the Most Depressed Country in the World

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South Korea is an incredible country with a vibrant culture... but it’s also undergoing what’s possibly the worst mental health crisis in the world.
So between playing video games, hosting a reader meet-up and eating some of the spiciest f*cking food of my life, I went out to discover what intense social pressures foster such high rates of anxiety and depression.
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  • @IAmMarkManson
    @IAmMarkManson3 ай бұрын

    This video was an experiment with a different format/style. Let me know if you would like to see me do more of them. P.S.: Feeling so blessed to have eyes like Hugh Grant.

  • @juandavidlopezlopez8079

    @juandavidlopezlopez8079

    3 ай бұрын

    I couldn't decide wether I was looking at a high-level production documentary or a Mark Manson video. The bit at the end showed me that this crossover definitely kicks ass. Loved this format!

  • @piquantea

    @piquantea

    3 ай бұрын

    More! Loved the video.

  • @Afrotechmods

    @Afrotechmods

    3 ай бұрын

    I liked it a lot and I am definitely down for more Markumentaries if you are enjoying making them

  • @janecavanagh526

    @janecavanagh526

    3 ай бұрын

    I loved it! Thank you! I’d watch more of these mini docos!!

  • @ngogol1748

    @ngogol1748

    3 ай бұрын

    I think this is a very great video you did. Cannot wait to see more of it. Best wishes from Germany!

  • @pomme._.fatale
    @pomme._.fatale3 ай бұрын

    as a born and raised Korean, 'having the worst mix of Confucianism and capitalism' is the most on-point statement of Korean society

  • @djrosepark

    @djrosepark

    3 ай бұрын

    I concur~ Korea sucks

  • @FantomwithanEff

    @FantomwithanEff

    3 ай бұрын

    Feels awful to hear, more so perhaps because in someway in someday even the best of us may have felt that kind of pressure..a while with it already feels so depressive so to live with that feeling for all the life 😢 ..hope with this new generation's open minds towards the issue the things will be better and soon... Support to all

  • @isabellaherrington4232

    @isabellaherrington4232

    3 ай бұрын

    Absolutely!

  • @johnytakdeep4839

    @johnytakdeep4839

    3 ай бұрын

    with no doubt. confusius is an idiot

  • @couloir1

    @couloir1

    3 ай бұрын

    💯

  • @dyii81
    @dyii812 ай бұрын

    I'm Korean. "If you get your shit together, you don't have to suffer from depression or anxiety" - that's what my mom told me all my life, being depressed herself for decades.

  • @lazyscorpion3889

    @lazyscorpion3889

    Ай бұрын

    Changes nothing. I've seen a successful Korean man and his friends they're all depressed. I've lived in Korea forn10 years and I'll never forget how depressed I've been throughout. I had no pressure on me, money has been useless to the core! Robotic lifestyles ugh

  • @edprestoza4099

    @edprestoza4099

    Ай бұрын

    Your mom's advice doesn't seem very helpful. But I think your country's medical health care system needs to be fully addressing mental health problems publicly not privately. It also needs to be discussed among Korean governments and medical Healthcare establishments in every news media, including internet news.

  • @Oneinamillion8

    @Oneinamillion8

    Ай бұрын

    Would you say that social media and the pop culture plays a part with the younger generation? It doesn’t seem like a healthy image . Young ppl thinking they need to look a certain way and to be so competitive that it impacts you . Just thinking about it makes me feel bad. I’m not a competitive person I only care about myself and why should I care to compare myself to someone else ? There’s always going to be better or worse.

  • @neshwhat702

    @neshwhat702

    Ай бұрын

    @@Oneinamillion8ngl a country where they give importance to looks more than talent is gonna be depressing. I won’t be able to survive there. The constant judgement from everyone is gonna make me suicidal.

  • @tldw8354

    @tldw8354

    Ай бұрын

    The best thing for koreans to learn is, "I don't give a fuck" on the _extraordinary_ expectations of my boss/parents/friends. I litteraly mean it. Chill more, let the preassure go from time to time and start living more socially focused. Every day has 24 hours and you should do 8 hours of _good_ sleep, a _maximum_ of 8 hours work where you can give 200% if you like, and 8 hours of _something socially else_ (and a little bit of workout). That will inevitably lead to more happyness and less anxiety.

  • @pomeloradish5491
    @pomeloradish5491Ай бұрын

    What about the bullying and hierarchy? Some are bullied to death in the military and schools, only because they are poor, not good looking, or even just younger. I think it is a really big and serious problem existing in Korea.

  • @user-yu3rv8xm5x

    @user-yu3rv8xm5x

    Ай бұрын

    Yes its the confucianism (and social darwinism)

  • @user-lv8vn8kq8r

    @user-lv8vn8kq8r

    27 күн бұрын

    In a society where play time for children is consider wasteful, im not surprise if its an outlet for their congested emotions.

  • @omittapir5986

    @omittapir5986

    23 күн бұрын

    Omg!

  • @danielsonn3046

    @danielsonn3046

    21 күн бұрын

    Korea isn't even the most suicidal country on earth it's ranked number 4

  • @donviajero2580

    @donviajero2580

    20 күн бұрын

    @@danielsonn3046 It's the most suicidal among advanced OECD countries.

  • @stilldrop9540
    @stilldrop9540Ай бұрын

    I'm a Korean-American, born and raised in Korea until high school and immigrated to America in 1981. This video is spot-on. When I was living in Korea, I was under so much pressure to excel in school, mercilessly driven to study so very hard to go to a good university - by the time I was in high school, I felt so old, exhausted, and wanted to retire from life. It was all about studying all the time to get the best grades with no time to play or have fun. We even pressured to waste as little time as possible on sleeping at night. I was so stressed, depressed and worn out. It was brutal. We never blamed society or others with sense of entitlement that most Americans have, and we just took all responsibility on our individual selves to work hard, improve ourselves and excel. Some of my Korean friends as adults had to work so hard, couldn't go home at night, had to continue working all night and sleep at their desks, some of them died of failed health - literally working to death. There is a price in coming so far from the poor and war-torn country to the one now excelling in every field.

  • @backintimealwyn5736

    @backintimealwyn5736

    27 күн бұрын

    and let me guess... you rocked it in the US and smashed everyone else. Did'nt you?

  • @stilldrop9540

    @stilldrop9540

    26 күн бұрын

    @@backintimealwyn5736 Hahaha! In a long process, I had to learn to relax and let loose, not being so uptight, regimented to organize and control my life all the time. Need to balance.

  • @backintimealwyn5736

    @backintimealwyn5736

    26 күн бұрын

    @@stilldrop9540 sure, but it's easier than struggling to make any effort. the US and the west in general also need to balance, the perfect system is somewhere in the middle, I would say that it's closer to Korea than western schools (since we have to all make the same mistakes and copy our worst ideas) , we used to have more demanding education systems, a lot of pressure too, but not as much than Korea, things were so much better.

  • @user-gb5wb9vy2w

    @user-gb5wb9vy2w

    26 күн бұрын

    The price is far, far higher. It is hundreds of millions of Africans and Asians being literally worked to death with whips and guns to provide you free resources. It is the investment of a big chunk of global GDP that the west stole from those places and invested into South Korea to create fake excellence. A billion souls worked or tortured to death to create the most depressed society ever. But hey, you won, congratulations.

  • @Isthisinterestingnow

    @Isthisinterestingnow

    24 күн бұрын

    @@backintimealwyn5736 I've found it's hard to connect with relaxed, not-so-ambitious Americans. Can't make friends because you're a weird quiet kid who just isn't cool or interesting. I don't think being a nerd is very popular.

  • @HaHa-ml5ct
    @HaHa-ml5ct3 ай бұрын

    As a Korean reaching 60, I feel that one of the biggest problems with Korea's education system is the intense pressure placed on students. From age 5-6 to until 19, they are focused solely on entering one of the top universities (SKY). While doing so, almost everyone tells these kids that entering a good university will guarantee them a prosperous and happy life, with good money, a good job, and even success in dating. However, the reality is much different. Once they enter university, the competition continues - to get into good companies, land well-paying jobs... it's an endless cycle of competition and comparison with friends, family members, colleagues, and neighbors. I believe this trend will continue for at least another 10-15 years, until the older generation retires. While Korea is in a transitional period, I fear things will get worse before they get better. Instead of everyone striving to become "someone" special, we need to understand that it's okay to fail, to be average, and to simply be normal. Young people need to be freed from the constant pressure and unrealistic expectations imposed by parents, society, and the media.

  • @epicxochi

    @epicxochi

    3 ай бұрын

    beautifully said 👏

  • @disarchitected

    @disarchitected

    3 ай бұрын

    Yes but if you fail, it will be much harder to participate in Korea’s ‘economic miracle’ and develop a career in the Chaebol’s, in Western level jobs, earning Western level salaries. All the markets, small mom and pop stores alluded to in this video serve Korea’s ‘underclass’ of people who live middle income lifestyles, akin to those in much poorer countries like Mexico. This contrast is much starker than in the West. In the UK, you can earn middle professional manager salaries by learning a trade, like being a plumber. That isn’t the case in Korea, you’d earn far less. A professional outside a Chaebol would earn maybe a half to two thirds what the same person doing the same job inside a Chaebol would, the tradesman even less than that.

  • @disarchitected

    @disarchitected

    3 ай бұрын

    Plus traditionally in Confucian culture, your status in society determined how the laws applied to you. There was no concept of universal human rights, it was not a dignity culture where each person had ‘worth’ protected in law regardless of who they were or what they did. Park Jung Hee realised a system like this wouldn’t sustain a modern industrialised society, so copied Western legal systems to encourage industry. However, these institutions became an overlay on old Confucian feudal legal systems and their values sustained in culture. Witness what happens to Chaebol leaders who fall foul of the law. Prosecuted under the Western legal overlay, then pardoned by the President, because their status makes them above the law. Status pays, opens doors, determines who you can associate with, which is important in a 2 speed society dominated by Chaebols. Sure this sort of thing exists everywhere but its really exaggerated in Korea compared to the West. You can’t understand modern Korea without understanding the Chaebol system, there are interesting video’s on youtube about this.

  • @ccmil555

    @ccmil555

    3 ай бұрын

    totally agreed

  • @jacques6090

    @jacques6090

    3 ай бұрын

    Same thing is happening in China. Chinese journalists are sadly comparing both countries. Hope both east Asian countries can improve in positive way, and younger generation can have a better and balanced way to enjoy the economic growth.

  • @lightdk6321
    @lightdk63213 ай бұрын

    Can you please create Korean subtitles for this video so Koreans can watch it? Im a korean and i would love to have my parents watch this. This was so helpful. Thank you so much, Mark!!!

  • @danielamonreal6066

    @danielamonreal6066

    3 ай бұрын

    I second this idea ☝️

  • @BaishiMusic

    @BaishiMusic

    3 ай бұрын

    Trying to help this get to the top. Good idea

  • @Zaguzah

    @Zaguzah

    3 ай бұрын

    Commenting to bump this comment!

  • @ROa2

    @ROa2

    3 ай бұрын

    Yes please, Korean subtitles would be great

  • @vastforcecrew553

    @vastforcecrew553

    3 ай бұрын

    👏👏👏

  • @sevendaffodils5944
    @sevendaffodils59442 ай бұрын

    외모도 완벽해야 하고, 옷도 멋지게 입어야 하고 피부관리, 자기관리 철저히 하며 연예인 부러워 하며 비교경쟁하고, 일도 잘 해야 하고 자녀 교육도 잘 해야 하고..합법화된 중독, 커피 중독자가 됨. 객관적인 시선으로 저를 뒤돌아 보게 되었습니다. 한국인으로서의 자부심도 크지만 냉철한 시야의 좋은 영상 감사합니다❤

  • @user-FULLJohnson

    @user-FULLJohnson

    Ай бұрын

    대다수 한국인이 열등감이 가득함. 다른나라 인종과 문화에 대한 존중은 찾아볼수가 없음. 인구가 줄어들고 있음에도 이민정책을 혐오하고 외국인에 대한 차별이 일상시 된 한국을 보면 그냥 이대로 망하는게 맞는듯🤣

  • @namedrop721

    @namedrop721

    Ай бұрын

    Koreans are some of the most resilient and warm hearted people I have ever met; please do not take pride in others using you as a workhorse though, they don’t love you

  • @pumpingbigsur6586

    @pumpingbigsur6586

    Ай бұрын

    경쟁없는 국가는 없어요. 미국인들은 자살할 용기도 없어서 마약으로 총으로 죽어나갑니다

  • @websitemartian

    @websitemartian

    Ай бұрын

    dont take this the wrong way BUT could it be that way because asian people LOOK ALIKE ?

  • @kaisonsays7754

    @kaisonsays7754

    Ай бұрын

    @@websitemartianIm Korean. You know what? yeah. this isnt exactly false. if everyone looks completely different, its hard to "compare" one another in terms of looks. Korea is a single race country, hence making us look alike with each other. thus making it more susceptible to peer pressure and comparing

  • @angieharper7173
    @angieharper717324 күн бұрын

    I enrolled in an online beginner Korean language class and the teacher is South Korean. He is pretty ok but he has a tendency to be sarcastic and put some of the students on the spot who can't understand on the get go what he is teaching. It's not a conducive atmosphere for learning, some of my classmates didn't even come back. I watch some Korean shows so I wasn't that shocked by what was going on. The teaching style is Confucian and he tries to make students compete against each other. I have questions but I end up looking for the answers on my own rather than have the unpleasant experience of being put on the spot for asking for clarification. Anyways, i just have 3 sessions left and I'll just finish them. Thank God I have a good sense of myself and am not a people pleaser otherwise i would have ended up depressed! I don't resent him, I am just accepting that he is like that cause that's how he grew up and that's what Korean society is like in general. I also found out that the reason why he gets all 5 stars on Google reviews is because he will give you a 30% discount for your next enrollment. He also has a very elementary grasp of the English language so it gets confusing sometimes since he starts rattling off in Korean. My goodness, it's a beginner Korean class he should know that his students might not understand what the hell he is saying even if it's a simple Korean sentence. Honestly, i feel like i got duped because of those google reviews. I'm still thinking if I'm going to leave an honest review on Google or chalk this up to experience and do my due diligence next time before spending my money. I don't want to end up hurting this guy even if he is abrasive and condescending.

  • @ejfeg779
    @ejfeg7792 ай бұрын

    As a Korean, pros and cons of my country are exactly evident. It's a heaven for a consumer, a hell for a worker/service provider/students

  • @user-yf3zr8yv9d

    @user-yf3zr8yv9d

    25 күн бұрын

    "_"😢😢

  • @changwoo6301

    @changwoo6301

    23 күн бұрын

    This is Why tourist loves Korea. Because They don’t work in Korea.

  • @CaL-76

    @CaL-76

    21 күн бұрын

    Can’t be a consumer without spending power, so you have to be a employee of some sort. Full circle achieved.

  • @erezinanicolet3601

    @erezinanicolet3601

    18 күн бұрын

    Absolutely right.

  • @civilengineer3349

    @civilengineer3349

    14 күн бұрын

    ​@CaL-76 i suppose the guys best off are the big business owners, though I think even thats not true

  • @helenstratigos4862
    @helenstratigos48623 ай бұрын

    The alarming suicide rate among seniors really got me. How absolutely heartbreaking.

  • @pourquoipas971

    @pourquoipas971

    3 ай бұрын

    And the teenagers and young people…

  • @adhynugroho9424

    @adhynugroho9424

    3 ай бұрын

    Agree. If you're a senior, that is totally heartbreaking. Like... what was it all for? As a youth, it's terrifying. Like.... what am I looking forward to? Decades of work with in a tunnel with no end or light in sight.

  • @MylezNevison

    @MylezNevison

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@adhynugroho9424 well put... helplessness and hopelessness

  • @thebettybassettproduction2458

    @thebettybassettproduction2458

    3 ай бұрын

    It has to do with what mark said in the previous travel analysis. If like let's say Brazil is great for it's sensuality, the opposite is also true. And it's like that for every country you visit. Korea is conscientious but when you lose productivity then what is the meaning of life. In essence you are a shame unto yourself. It's logical, given eastern values.

  • @ernestkhalimov748

    @ernestkhalimov748

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@thebettybassettproduction2458wtf is eastern values????

  • @WarrenJSmyth
    @WarrenJSmyth2 ай бұрын

    This is my second video I’ve watched and you’ve earned your subscription many times over. Incredible quality of delivery, insightful comments and questions abound, and fantastic production quality. Safe to say I am thoroughly stoked to see more of your content. Keep it up man, this is why KZread is the present, past, and future of content consumption.

  • @danielberlien3680
    @danielberlien36802 ай бұрын

    Amazing storytelling and analysis. I loved the format. It gives an interesting documentary vibe, the graphics really adds depth to the story and comprehensibility of info. Great work as always

  • @user-ut7fi7tu1g
    @user-ut7fi7tu1g2 ай бұрын

    I live in Ethiopia, I have worked with several Korens and most are older and whenever I point out these problems they tend to be defensive and avoid the conversation. It is a good start that the younger generation is aware of the issues.

  • @jojomythe

    @jojomythe

    2 ай бұрын

    I think Ethiopia vs Koreans are like opposites. I've worked with Ethiopians for business and they never showed up at the time they chose - they literally showed up 1 day late. I told them I won't move on with them. One is too relaxed, and the other is dying for work

  • @user-ut7fi7tu1g

    @user-ut7fi7tu1g

    2 ай бұрын

    @@jojomythe that's right! I gotta admit that we are laid back people in general, the huge difference in the work culture makes it easier for us to notice how their system messed them up (not defending Ethiopians)

  • @keepcreationprocess

    @keepcreationprocess

    Ай бұрын

    you can not address this. This is not your problem.

  • @Wurfenkopf

    @Wurfenkopf

    Ай бұрын

    Were they South Koreans? I thought Ethiopia was hiring North Korean workers

  • @keepcreationprocess

    @keepcreationprocess

    Ай бұрын

    @@jojomythe yes, that is true......

  • @Eunha384
    @Eunha3843 ай бұрын

    I am a Korean in my 50s. I read an introduction to this video in a newspaper article. There is no major financial shortage, but I have always lived with guilt and anxiety. I've thought it was entirely my personal responsibility, but I've come to understand that there are parts that come from the structure of society. It's a little comforting. The story about the resilience of the closing part was touching. Thank you.

  • @ElijahStorm

    @ElijahStorm

    3 ай бұрын

    영어를 잘하네요!

  • @C-zc4rf

    @C-zc4rf

    3 ай бұрын

    I'm a Korean in my late 30's. I felt the same feelings with you. I got a professional job and have no special social problem, but I've lived with guilt and anxiety for whole my life.

  • @saintejeannedarc9460

    @saintejeannedarc9460

    22 күн бұрын

    @@C-zc4rf Anxiety is too common, and a problem in the west too. What is the source of the guilt though, do you know?

  • @andynull8869

    @andynull8869

    15 күн бұрын

    built to spill --- carry the zero kzread.info/dash/bejne/l45rr6iNcs2wg5s.html

  • @nellisnellas

    @nellisnellas

    Сағат бұрын

    I've had anxiety issues in my 20's, but I've learned along the way that those feelings aren't equal to who I am as a person. It's the result of a combination of being perceptive of negative feelings but mostly due to what we went through in our lives from a young age on. After university I realised something was wrong. I started working abroad to get to know myself outside of what I know. It opened my eyes to certain things and I learned how to control my anxiety. You can also surmount your guilt and anxiety, don't give up on yourself

  • @f00l62
    @f00l6216 күн бұрын

    10:20 진짜 경악스럽다. 저런 사소한 예의조차 갖춰야한다는 의식이 없다는게 한국인 수준이지...젊은 세대는 '그나마' 낫지만 타인에 외모에 대해 언급하는 것 자체가 타인을 상품처럼 품평하는 거라는 것조차도 모르는 사람이 대부분인게🙂...

  • @hokmayoffi586
    @hokmayoffi5862 ай бұрын

    Beautiful, beautiful video!! Good job! I even cried a little😂❤ Absolutely loved it :) Thank you for looking into Korea with loving eyes and sharing it with all of us!

  • @faiyazfatin
    @faiyazfatin3 ай бұрын

    This man is an absolute trasure in content creation. Mark's channel definitely has one of the most underrated content on the internet. The combination of humour and education (psychology, history) with sheer openness was translated into a beautiful emotional roller coaster ride throughout this video.

  • @ktownfeatures

    @ktownfeatures

    3 ай бұрын

    Since none of it is news anymore he could take the time to make it entertaining and about Korea and Koreans and not just one thing (as news tend to do). I'm a fan🙂

  • @bigmikem1578

    @bigmikem1578

    3 ай бұрын

    Been a newsletter subscriber of his for over a decade. I agree he’s always been that way. And i subscribe to ALOT of stuff but his was always the best because he’s an incredible writer.

  • @Monkehrawrrr

    @Monkehrawrrr

    3 ай бұрын

    Yo star craffttt, k ya this guy is dope

  • @RYANLEWIS-pd7zs

    @RYANLEWIS-pd7zs

    3 ай бұрын

    Stop brown nosing he can't get you a job at Samsung bro.

  • @southcoastinventors6583

    @southcoastinventors6583

    3 ай бұрын

    1.4 M subs is underrated if so I would be happy to be so underrated

  • @jiwonmoon
    @jiwonmoon3 ай бұрын

    It was an honor showing you and Will around Korea. You guys did a phenomenal job showing the best and worst of Korea. Resilience IS the best word to describe Korea and even when things feel hopeless in Korea (especially these days in politics as well) I know Koreans are resilient and will rise to the occasion. We are resilient and super adaptable. I am so proud of my Korean heritage and really appreciate you and your team shining light on Korea. I hope a lot of Koreans watch this :) 🎉🎉more Mark documentary style travel videos like this please!!!

  • @jiwonmoon

    @jiwonmoon

    3 ай бұрын

    Also the cat cafe scenes were too hilarious. Maybe the happiest version of Mark i’d ever seen

  • @ktownfeatures

    @ktownfeatures

    3 ай бұрын

    But how does resilience go with the highest number of suicides? Lovest childbirths? Highest beauty standards? Asking because I generally don't see it as resilience. I see a lot of adaptation, incredible competitiveness, incredible fastmoving innovation in all areas and a lot of other things🙂

  • @ycc7744

    @ycc7744

    3 ай бұрын

    Resilience? Gaza is a story of resilience, you guys live in luxury

  • @JRoseBooks

    @JRoseBooks

    3 ай бұрын

    @@ycc7744 Korea has been through quite a lot of trauma. Including the Japanese invasion and attempted erasure of the Korean people & culture in the early 1900s. Genocide most recently happened in S Korea in the 1950s. That wasn’t that long ago!!

  • @wiandryadiwasistio2062

    @wiandryadiwasistio2062

    3 ай бұрын

    @@ycc7744absolutely. also the african countries that are still in civil war for years

  • @christopheralan7600
    @christopheralan760026 күн бұрын

    I’ve seen a couple of your other videos but this one got me to subscribe. This was excellent, I really enjoyed your work.

  • @adityakuppa694
    @adityakuppa69426 күн бұрын

    Amazing short documentary!

  • @globetrottress
    @globetrottress3 ай бұрын

    I'm Korean but I've been living abroad most of my life. I had no idea that I am culturally not Korean at all until I started dating in Korea. People nonchalantly mention suicidal thoughts, and wanting to run away and quit everything. How casually they deal with severe mental health issues and substance abuse, and even the news of an acquaintance killing themselves, is shocking. or how much they care about optics (as opposed to how much they don't care about what they feel inside).Their societal, cultural issues have been boggling my mind so much so that I've been getting therapy after witnessing this in person. This is such an important topic that needs to be addressed. Thank you for making this into a video.

  • @ChristianC-gy1ym

    @ChristianC-gy1ym

    2 ай бұрын

    By in large Koreans are happy and enjoy a solid mental state. In comparison, the familial and social dysfunctions people in the West, namely the U.S., struggle with is far more severe. People like you, who most likely enjoyed a family centered environment even in the U.S., who were mostly sheltered and kept away from having to deal with physical abuse, sexual abuse, divorced parents, alcoholic drugged out siblings, YOU have the luxury of seeing the minor differences between you and Koreans and Korea and are magnifying the impact it's having on you. I'm Korean born and raised in Korea, and it's baffling to hear anecdotes from people like you and then trying to pass that off as the norm. I truly question how/who/why you've come to see what you've experienced in Korea. Time to look in the mirror and perhaps evaluate your surroundings.

  • @PoisonelleMisty4311

    @PoisonelleMisty4311

    2 ай бұрын

    It is important to recognize and address mental health issues within any society, especially when they are so prevalent and normalized. It is brave of you to seek therapy and confront these issues that affect not only individuals, but the society as a whole. It is crucial to continue discussing and raising awareness about mental health in order to break the stigma and provide support to those who are struggling. Thank you for sharing your experience and shedding light on this important topic.

  • @JSC-cw8cs

    @JSC-cw8cs

    2 ай бұрын

    I think your words sounds a bit harsh. Which means it sounds like generalizing korean's as if every korean people are casualy talking about suicidal thoughts.

  • @ChristianC-gy1ym

    @ChristianC-gy1ym

    2 ай бұрын

    @@JSC-cw8cs You're right, and honestly they are exaggerating and/or embellishing. Or just around a bunch of toxic people.

  • @shae1414

    @shae1414

    2 ай бұрын

    @@ChristianC-gy1ym its pretty true with koreas gen-z. most of my korean tutors(they change each month) are my age and we talk like a friend would most of the time(execpt for the super serious ones lol). they casually make a joke about wanting to not be alive after they make a small mistake like its normal.

  • @oklu_
    @oklu_3 ай бұрын

    영상 보다가 양브로님들이 마크 맨슨님을 앉혀두고 K-외모평가를 시전하시는 부분 보고 놀랐습니다. 한국을 살기 힘들게 만드는 것이 바로 개인에 대한 바운더리를 쉽게 넘나드는 것이고 그중 대표적인 현상이 외모평가를 쉽게 하는 문화라고 생각하는데요, 마치 시연이라도 하시듯 그것을 하시는 게 보기 좋지 않았습니다. 다른 사람들도 아니고 정신과 의사분들이 그러시니 무척이나 놀랐습니다. 아무리 끝이 칭찬으로 끝났을지라도 무례하게 보였습니다. 저 분들도 나름 우리나라를 정신적으로 풍요롭게 하려고 노력하시는 분들인데도 한국의 큰 문화적 분위기에 스며든 것은 거스를 수 없는 걸까요. 여러가지 생각이 드는 장면이었습니다.

  • @user-ok3bz2sr4g

    @user-ok3bz2sr4g

    3 ай бұрын

    저 사람들 병원 약만 처방해주고 다른거 없어요

  • @Wigglesnoop

    @Wigglesnoop

    3 ай бұрын

    결국 의사도 국평오테크타고 입시해서 의사 되시는거라

  • @moon-bro

    @moon-bro

    3 ай бұрын

    양브로도 이 댓글도 한국이 낳은 괴물이다

  • @user-ib7sc4eh7q

    @user-ib7sc4eh7q

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@user-jt5ui9ck4q 전 캐나다사는데 여기는 외모 특히 얼굴로 남을 평가하는건 되게 무례한 경우임

  • @peachishere85

    @peachishere85

    3 ай бұрын

    @@user-jt5ui9ck4q갑분 이걸 한국인이 하냐 외국인이 하냐로 몰아가는 로직이 더 웃긴데ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 하지 말아야 할 칭찬도 있답니다 그 외모 칭찬이 이 영상에서 말하는 한국을 우울케 하는 점 중 하나라고 몇몇 댓글에서 얘기하는건데 참 ㅋㅋㅋ 3개월 여행왔다 가셨으니 개인영역 침범이 뭔지 이해는 안되겠지

  • @blakewang2373
    @blakewang2373Ай бұрын

    I'm chinese canadian, and my parents somewhat has the attitude of: "if you get your shit together, you won't be depressed". I was bullied in a canadian high school and at first my parents didn't want to acknowledge that. They realized I was developing a stutter and tried to ignore it. Now they have accepted it, but I feel like the damage was already done. I will spend many years trying to recover from the trauma and gain my confidence and my speech back.

  • @brunoheggli2888

    @brunoheggli2888

    2 күн бұрын

    We have to learn,that at the end not much does realy matter we will be all dead and forgoten,so there isnt much a diffrence between Bill Gates and some drunk guy on the street!Relax!

  • @ruchisingh1747
    @ruchisingh17472 ай бұрын

    i loved your book " subtle art" thanks for the book.

  • @merrymerryjohanna
    @merrymerryjohanna3 ай бұрын

    This content is GOLD, Mark. I was born and raised in Korea, and I was one of those kids who cry after getting 90 out of 100 on an exam. I think the biggest problem is that we’re made too busy and obsessed with achieving the *stereotypical* success to care about anything else. Most schools, parents, and media don’t talk about mental health, so we’re simply oblivious to the state of our mental health. We don’t even know we’re depressed.

  • @lowkeyconvert8971

    @lowkeyconvert8971

    3 ай бұрын

    it's because the east asian mentality especially, sees perseverance and tolerating a lot as some kind of badge of honour and good trait, which i can see how it is a good thing in some respects in this rollercoaster called life. but what happens when you reach breaking point and burn out? where is the support and empathy? the one good thing that has remained in east and SE asian cultures is the reverence for the elderly and closeness of the family unit and extended family. that's the thing that i think western cultures (although there are still some traditional western cultures, more in central and eastern europe) are lacking. without this, you can feel like a bit of a lost soul without being connected to anything. it can elicit a feeling of emptiness. hyper individualism and the "it's all about me, me, me" mentality is increasing in the west. on the other hand, it would be a problem if you have a toxic and abusive family. i guess it's about the yin and yang, which comes from chinese influence and the symbol features on the korean flag. there needs to be balance in everything. i think that historically until now, asian cultures place such an emphasis on academics because that's how people earned respect and status in their societies. it's a bit of a conundrum in the age of kpop, OF and social media celebrities. there are actual alternate routes to become 'successful' more than ever now and it's been made possible through technology.

  • @yonggeun4222

    @yonggeun4222

    3 ай бұрын

    why arent koreans competing to have babies LOL

  • @cristina8868

    @cristina8868

    3 ай бұрын

    @@lowkeyconvert8971 it all depends on how you define success, which is not just "sitting on a huge pile of gold". I think the far East preserves some values that are getting lost in what's known as Western society - which is odd because without them we wouldn't have got to what we've got today. Somehow it's like we really are not able to value things until we lose them...

  • @osss333

    @osss333

    3 ай бұрын

    I would like to you to read about Islam, it will help you to put the staff in place

  • @yonggeun4222

    @yonggeun4222

    3 ай бұрын

    i SWEAR TO GOD, can koreans STOP freakin sending their 5 to 18 year old kids to academy, like seriously just stop ok@@lowkeyconvert8971

  • @2xYuW
    @2xYuW3 ай бұрын

    I heard that Korea's most important day is the college entrance tests day, it blew my mind. Airports would shut down and everybody gets into a very serious tone. That's how competitive Korea's education is.

  • @ArtemisHealing

    @ArtemisHealing

    3 ай бұрын

    China is totally the same, even worse

  • @victorchen9170

    @victorchen9170

    3 ай бұрын

    Yeah that's pretty standard with most Asian countries.

  • @cristina8868

    @cristina8868

    3 ай бұрын

    That's not bad in itself, education is actually very important.

  • @shahirashamshulanuar3511

    @shahirashamshulanuar3511

    3 ай бұрын

    @@victorchen9170noooo, only Korea. My country did not shut down airport just for big exam in my country 😂

  • @dforeigner
    @dforeigner24 күн бұрын

    That was a great video. Please do more in other countries

  • @itsmekarishma_____128
    @itsmekarishma_____1282 ай бұрын

    love you mark, you are amazing!

  • @aynhs63
    @aynhs633 ай бұрын

    19:09 요약 진짜 정확하네요 모두를 이겨야 하고, 누구보다 잘나야 하며, 한번이라도 실패해서는 안되지만 누구와도 공유할 수 없는 상황에서 얼마나 버틸 수 있을까요. 점점 개개인에게 기본으로 요구하는 사회적-정서적-물질적 수치가 다양해지고, 그 수준 또한 높아지고 있으니 이것에 지쳐 떨어져나가고 있는 사람들이 많답니다. 어떻게 보면 정말 엄격한 선별작업을 통해 최상의 몇몇 제품만 팔고 나머지는 버려버리는 장사방식이네요 ㅋㅋ

  • @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    3 ай бұрын

    나쁜관점아닌뜻 개인적 과업과 국가가 어려움에 처해도 우리는 웃으며 일하며 나라를 위해 받친 애국시민입니다

  • @leaf3461

    @leaf3461

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@user-sp3vb7tk8r 그게 애국시민이라고 해석하고 내뱉는 너도 진짜 대단하네.. 초등학교부터 다시 들어가라

  • @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    3 ай бұрын

    @@leaf3461 잘살려면 공부많이해야함 그래야나라가 발전하지자력갱샌 1억불달성목표를 두고달려야 부자국가 푸른동산위에 놉니다 논땡이치고 하면 폐가망신이란걸 알고 보수정당을위해 응원합시다국민의힘만세

  • @justyoon51

    @justyoon51

    3 ай бұрын

    ⁠​⁠@@user-sp3vb7tk8r스스로 생각하고 말을 뱉으세요. 한국은 자유민주주의 국가이고 생각없이 기계적으로 무책임하게 뱉는, 방종을 지향하지 않습니다. 국민의힘 만세? ㅋㅋ 어휴

  • @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    3 ай бұрын

    @@justyoon51 국민의힘한나라당 앞으로 윤석열정권철권통치에 영원히 유지되어야 보수정당 새나라어린이도 본받아 반공주의자 됩니다

  • @marco_k_7787
    @marco_k_77873 ай бұрын

    놀랍도록 정확한 분석일 뿐만 아니라 그속에서도 살아남으려고 노력중인 한국인들에 대한 따뜻한 마음까지 담긴 매력적인 영상이다.

  • @warpwa

    @warpwa

    3 ай бұрын

    @@ZhugeLiang1004왠 헛소리

  • @Ramenenglish

    @Ramenenglish

    3 ай бұрын

    동의해요.

  • @user-tq9fj6rf2q

    @user-tq9fj6rf2q

    3 ай бұрын

    허나 한국의 사기공화국이 됬음 전세사기 비대면대출사기 주식사기 통신사사기 은행횡령 음주운전 촉법 뇌물 비리 등 사기꾼나라임 어찌 가해자 인권을 다지켜주지

  • @user-yt1nx2cc7j

    @user-yt1nx2cc7j

    3 ай бұрын

    @@warpwa헛소리가 아니라 다름을 인정하자는 이야기 입니다. 너랑 나랑 다르건 틀리지 않다는 것. 다양성을 인정하기.

  • @socalvibe4500

    @socalvibe4500

    3 ай бұрын

    @@ZhugeLiang1004 몬틀을 깨? 몰한게 있다고? ㅎ 방송나와서 돈버는건가 틀을 꺤거냐?

  • @user-wl2ij9ke3u
    @user-wl2ij9ke3u25 күн бұрын

    Thank you for filming this awesome video.

  • @ndjubilant8391
    @ndjubilant83912 ай бұрын

    Thank you for this brilliant video, brilliant 👏

  • @user-rb9gt7yu7d
    @user-rb9gt7yu7d3 ай бұрын

    Despite putting in hard work and graduating from a university in Seoul, I felt defeated by the high barriers to employment, leading to the development of depression and anxiety, which I am currently undergoing treatment for. I watched the video with deep empathy as someone going through similar struggles. While receiving psychiatric therapy, the disheartening view from my parents, perceiving me as a weak and disappointing individual, along with their harsh words, and the ongoing job failures, make each day of job preparation a struggle. I find myself lacking the motivation to continue, feeling helpless, and overwhelmed with thoughts of wanting to end my life. Amidst this, I'm glad to have come across a video that explains these reasons. Although thoughts of suicide haven't completely vanished, the guilt of being deemed useless by society and achieving disappointing results has slightly lessened. Just realizing that my situation is, in fact, a societal responsibility provides significant comfort.

  • @marilynfishel3843

    @marilynfishel3843

    3 ай бұрын

    warm hugs to you from the usa. i hope you can find someone who understands you & your trials & accepts you without judgment. the world is complex; and you have shown much courage in seeking help.

  • @martinmuzoc

    @martinmuzoc

    3 ай бұрын

    Paiting!!

  • @Charvo75

    @Charvo75

    3 ай бұрын

    High expectations can be a debilitating feeling when we don't meet those expectations.

  • @tylerhong4759

    @tylerhong4759

    3 ай бұрын

    힘내세요. 젊은 청춘이여.

  • @hyunny6227

    @hyunny6227

    3 ай бұрын

    취직하기 어려운 사회인거 같아요.. 막상 전 취직은 했지만 월급은 적고 책임은 무한이리 살기 팍팍함을 느낍니다. 전혀 글쓰신분의 잘못이 아닙니다. 꾸준히 산책하시고 쉬시면서 몸과 마음 회복하시길 바랍니다.

  • @Kwansmusic
    @Kwansmusic3 ай бұрын

    The female korean psychologist was mad cool

  • @southcoastinventors6583

    @southcoastinventors6583

    3 ай бұрын

    She even had subtitles to translate English to English we live in such a advanced time

  • @richardw1043

    @richardw1043

    3 ай бұрын

    Yeah what's up with that? hahaha@@southcoastinventors6583

  • @chayo4537

    @chayo4537

    3 ай бұрын

    *mad cool 🤔🤣 Why are you talking like an American?

  • @MooooonDemon

    @MooooonDemon

    3 күн бұрын

    @@chayo4537 why do you care what's wrong with you

  • @jajaja4118
    @jajaja41182 ай бұрын

    love this video and it's style, been reading your blog ten years ago, didn't even know you were on youtube. more like this please.

  • @brandozah4987
    @brandozah4987Ай бұрын

    Following similar playBook as Bourdain. Good on you 👍🏻

  • @anastasiabutton
    @anastasiabutton3 ай бұрын

    I currently live in South Korea (in the Southern area of the country). As an employed guest to this country I gotta say it’s an amazing place to be and experience. The people are wonderful, food is fantastic, and their history simply amazes me. There are cons, of course. The suicide rate scaling up is tragic and spoken about among my colleagues and friends; however, nothing seems to be changing on a legal or social level. I’m glad they are discussing it, but there is an umbrella of shame that if they change as a person or as a country that they are failing. The kids I teach are also in this camp. Some kids cry so hard if they miss one question on a 50-question quiz and think they are a failure. This becomes more so when the big school tests come around. I hope South Korea can overcome this, and quickly. If anything I’ve observed is that they really can do anything and in a short amount of time. They’ve accomplished so much. I hope they could also be the leader in accomplishing a social/mental revolution as well. ❤

  • @10secondsrule

    @10secondsrule

    3 ай бұрын

    This was my experience to fit the first 6 months. Now after 2 years now I can say it's not a place for humans (not a happy place anyway). It's a black mirror episode.

  • @BegaW

    @BegaW

    3 ай бұрын

    We have saying, as you guys might do, when there is a disease, there follows a cure. I see the liberation is on the way 🙂So hopeful. Btw, Happy new year!

  • @azizalfa752

    @azizalfa752

    3 ай бұрын

    And thats why they will vanish there birthrate is critical and they can’t get Babys because off money time and maybe the western society mind is the end for them and japan

  • @kfx3907

    @kfx3907

    3 ай бұрын

    @@10secondsrule“It's not a place for humans" i think you are over-exaggerating it.

  • @a.a.2419

    @a.a.2419

    15 күн бұрын

    Looks like people are working very hard to give their freedom and life to the worse capitalist predators. Aim seems to be to produce and disrespect mother nature.

  • @martinocoreano
    @martinocoreano3 ай бұрын

    I am a 30-years old Korean living in Seoul. I lived in New Zealand and Australia in my childhood and came to Korea to study in a high school. The pressure on high school students is so immense and crazy. Probably many of the students taking Sooneung(Korean College Scholastic Ability Test/Korean University Entrance Exam) might have some traumatic memories. Even reaching my 30s, I still had a dream of the day that I screwed up my test. It really sucks. 😞

  • @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    3 ай бұрын

    한국은 우울한국가가 아닙니다 외국인도 한국이 부자국가이며 소득에서 동아시아에서 1등국가 반공주의자국가입니다

  • @unbreakble

    @unbreakble

    3 ай бұрын

    @@user-fs1vx5lr8g수능 아니여도 잘 살 수 있는 사회가 되었으면 합니다. 요즘 학생들 의대 가려고 재수 삼수하면서 시간 보내고 있죠. 적성이 맞으면 모르겠지만 그냥 쫒아가는 사회.

  • @martinocoreano

    @martinocoreano

    3 ай бұрын

    @@user-fs1vx5lr8g 그렇게 쉽게 말씀하시는걸 보니 공감능력이 좀 떨어지시는 분인것 같습니다. 우선 왜 쳐야할까요? 더이상 보고싶지도 않습니다. 돈은 그냥 하늘에서 내려오나요? 돈이 아주 많은 동네의 부잣집이면 가능하겠죠, 재수든 n수든요. (그걸 한국인들이 그렇게 외쳐대는 의지의 문제라고 한다면 할말이 없네요) 저는 삶을 살아나가야하는 사람이기에, 거기에 들어가는 돈도 무시할수 없는 것 같습니다. 그리고 회사 생활을 위해서라면 더더욱 하고 싶지도 않구요, 한국에서는 회사생활을 더이상 하지 않을 생각이기 때문입니다. 그리고 저는 이제 석사마치고 박사를 고민하는 상황이라 더더욱 수능은 칠 생각이 없네요.

  • @user-ed7rh5dr9v

    @user-ed7rh5dr9v

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@martinocoreano 저도 동의합니다. 수능을 잘 쳐야지만 좋은 회사에 갈 수 있고 좋은 교수 밑에서 대학공부를 할 수 있는건 과연 맞는걸까? 라는 생각이 듭니다. 창의성이 너무나도 중요해지는 시대에 수능은 너무나도 구시대적인 시험 체계라고 생각합니다

  • @martinocoreano

    @martinocoreano

    3 ай бұрын

    @@user-fs1vx5lr8g 죄송한데 저에 대해서 무엇을 아신다고 이렇게 판단하고 댓글을 막달아 대시는건지 모르겠네요. 저에 대해서 여기다 전부적어놓은것도 아니기도 하구요. 적어주신 점은 참고하도록 하겠습니다. 적당히 해주시면 감사하겠습니다.

  • @casey152
    @casey15221 күн бұрын

    You can feel the vibes there. At first when you arrive it’s glitzy and nice but after three days it’s wild. So depressing. Too many flashing lights

  • @seaflea3
    @seaflea319 күн бұрын

    very insightful thanks

  • @AverageBlackManJ
    @AverageBlackManJ3 ай бұрын

    Being a foreigner that lived in Korea, I always pointed out the dichotomy of the society. The glitz and glam that you would often see but a couple streets away it would look more like I stepped back in time a couple decades. Seoul was an amazing experience but I know as someone who didn’t work in the Korean economy, I didn’t fall under the societal pressure that they did. I got to experience all the up sides with none of the downsides. I would love to go back to Korea and experience more of the culture and especially the food!

  • @AverageBlackManJ

    @AverageBlackManJ

    3 ай бұрын

    I also recognize the same could be said about America in the fact that there is a big difference in Beverly Hills and somewhere like Compton but it felt more in your face and kind of surprising in Korea.

  • @HH-kg4fq

    @HH-kg4fq

    3 ай бұрын

    It was neat reading about your perspective as an average Black dude.

  • @HH-kg4fq

    @HH-kg4fq

    3 ай бұрын

    Regarding your second comment, I second that. The huge differences in the neighborhoods in LA are obvious. Even just going across the street, you can notice the huge economic crises in the transient populations and the homelessness due to the extraordinarily high cost of housing. ​@@AverageBlackManJ

  • @ssssssstssssssss

    @ssssssstssssssss

    3 ай бұрын

    There are dichotomies in pretty much every society, kinda makes it interesting. It is often easier to notice if you are coming from the outside, though.

  • @AverageBlackManJ

    @AverageBlackManJ

    3 ай бұрын

    @@ssssssstssssssss this is definitely true. In your own society, things just seem normal as they are. When in a different location, you pick up on things that are different because nothing there is normal to you.

  • @gamrGaby
    @gamrGaby3 ай бұрын

    As a expat who has been living in Seoul for 4 years, I think this video beautifully sums up the situation in Korea. All of these points are true and I have seen it myself. I have had conversations with coworkers and friends about these things. The differences between Korea and the US/Western world. The biggest difference is definitely the view of mental health and accessibility. I realized how uninformed many Koreans are about mental health and mental disorders. They are surprised at how open I am about these topics and how my friends have been open to me when I tell them stories of my friends' struggles. I will say the younger generations are much more open to talking about mental health and making mental health a priority. Some children I work with are getting help and treated. However, there are so many that view any mental health issues, disorders, or disabilities as a weakness and will try to hide it or choose to ignore the reality that it is happening to them/a loved one. One friend who teaches kindergarten told me how one of their previous students definitely had some kind of mental disability and the parents were in formed this child should be tested. But the parents refused because they say "nothing is wrong with my child." Instead of identifying it early and getting help and treatment that will help their child cope and function well in life, they choose to ignore it because they don't want their child singled out. The work culture is also brutal. Just as the video says, many work crazy hours even if they don't have work. OR they have so much work, they work crazy hours. I had a friend getting 2-4 hours of time at home (getting home around 4am and back at work at 9am), with no overtime pay, and crazy pressure of having to complete a bucket load of tasks and some of those tasks she was not qualified or had the education to actually do. She did this work schedule for months! And to add another factor into the mix, the birth rate is low and the government is trying to encourage people to have children. However, how can it be expected for a person, who is barely seeing the apartment they rent, to have the time for a relationship and then have time to raise and care for a child? Very unrealistic. Even as a foreigner, I have felt the pressures as well. I am supposed to be a "role model" and "example of a good citizen." Which is fair, but there is no wiggle room here to be human and make mistakes. I feel judged or that I will be judged. And as an averaged sized American, the stress about my body image during my first year here was strong. I've grown to not care about it now but that first year when you are thrown into a society all about image, you start caring too when you realize how much everyone cares. I love this country. It's beautiful and the culture is beautiful. Generally, the people are wonderful and nice and the food is to die for. However, I have felt weighed down and stifled so I actually am returning home after 4 crazy years of fun but also awful experiences (but mostly fun). And most of my friends feel the same way and are leaving one by one, some of them taking Korean SOs that want out too. There are so many factors to this decision so don't weigh it all on Korean society/mentality as a whole, but it is a factor.

  • @hoilockpartian8627

    @hoilockpartian8627

    3 ай бұрын

    당신의 따뜻한 마음과 좋은 의견에 감사합니다. 현실은 당신이 말한것보다 한국은 더 최악입니다. 정말로 자본주의와 유교의 나쁜점만 갖고 있습니다. 나도 한국이 변하길 바라지만 쉽지 않습니다. 많은 사람들이 영상을 보고, 뭔가를 느끼고 반성했으면 좋겠습니다. 감사합니다❤❤❤

  • @sarahstwart1653

    @sarahstwart1653

    2 ай бұрын

    I would say its the korean culture because they are not evolving with time but holding on to how the older generations have been over worked

  • @Andrealopez-tw2ks

    @Andrealopez-tw2ks

    2 ай бұрын

    This is really sad, I was one of the people who standardized Korea because of what I saw in kdramas, I still dream of visiting Korea and i think it's good that people are more open to the importance of mental health.

  • @yamadoral

    @yamadoral

    2 ай бұрын

    좋은글 감사합니다. 우리의 성취를 마냥 즐길데가 아니군요. 자본주의와 유교의 최악의 결합. 외모에 대한 스트레스 징글징글합니다. 주제넘는 외모평가도 신물나구요.

  • @Queensaac

    @Queensaac

    2 ай бұрын

    As a Korean, I agree with your points about the importance of mental well-being. However, in Korean society, fierce competition starts at a young age, as early as elementary school. This creates a paradox: while mental health is recognized as crucial, current solutions often fail to address the issue at its root, which is the relentless pressure to compete. Even though individuals pursue success in various aspects of life, from academics and careers to marriage and social standing, the constant struggle to "win" fuels the prevalence of mental health concerns. Eliminating competition entirely, however, wouldn't be a viable solution. Korean society has achieved significant advancements through its emphasis on hard work and pushing individuals to strive for excellence. The challenge lies in adapting to changing times. The current competition-driven model, championed by older generations and politicians, no longer aligns with the needs of today's society. Maintaining this approach only exacerbates the situation, as evidenced by the unprecedented decline in birth rates, surpassing even war-torn nations. While competition can be a positive force, the rigid, one-size-fits-all approach stifles the potential of individuals with diverse talents. To thrive as a nation in the face of evolving global needs, we must cultivate diverse fields for competition, fostering creativity and efficiency across various fields. It's crucial that older generations and policymakers acknowledge the need to move beyond the singular focus on competition and embrace a more multifaceted approach that allows individuals to succeed in different ways.

  • @srenchristensen7898
    @srenchristensen7898Ай бұрын

    What a great video. What a great (and mysterious) country.

  • @Danieltheshin
    @Danieltheshin21 күн бұрын

    Great video Mark! And accurate too.

  • @oklu_
    @oklu_3 ай бұрын

    As a Korean, I think his video should be required viewing for governments, parliaments, and any organization that makes policy in South Korea. Very accurate than any other written or spoken materials ever made by us Koreans.

  • @indiasuperclean6969

    @indiasuperclean6969

    3 ай бұрын

    SOUTH KOREA IS SO F4KE SIR ! 🤮 MY INDIA IS BETTER ! 🤗🇮🇳🥰 🇮🇱THIS WHY IM SO LUCKY LIVE IN SUPER INDIA THE CLEANEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD 🇮🇳🤗 , WE NEVER SCAM! WE GIVE RESPECT TO ALL WOMEN THEY CAN WALK SAFELY ALONE AT NIGHT AND WE HAVE CLEAN FOOD AND TOILET EVERYWHERE 🇮🇳🤗🚽, I KNOW MANY POOR PEOPLE JEALOUS WITH SUPER RICH INDIA 🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗

  • @indiasuperclean6969

    @indiasuperclean6969

    3 ай бұрын

    SOUTH KOREA IS SO DANGEROUS SIR ! MY INDIA IS BETTER ! 🤗🇮🇳🥰 🇮🇱THIS WHY IM SO LUCKY LIVE IN SUPER INDIA THE CLEANEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD 🇮🇳🤗 , WE NEVER SCAM! WE GIVE RESPECT TO ALL WOMEN THEY CAN WALK SAFELY ALONE AT NIGHT AND WE HAVE CLEAN FOOD AND TOILET EVERYWHERE 🇮🇳🤗🚽, I KNOW MANY POOR PEOPLE JEALOUS WITH SUPER RICH INDIA 🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗

  • @flatfish72

    @flatfish72

    3 ай бұрын

    You are asking someone who designed this system to break down the system , and it is not going to happen. SAD

  • @bingoandtoto

    @bingoandtoto

    3 ай бұрын

    What the government intends is this abuse, they are not interested in people’s happiness and quality of life.

  • @indiasuperclean6969

    @indiasuperclean6969

    3 ай бұрын

    WOW VERY DANGEROUS SIR! I WILL NEVER GO TO SOUTH KOREA ! 😡😡 THIS WHY IM SO LUCKY LIVE IN SUPER INDIA THE CLEANEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD 🇮🇳🤗 , WE NEVER SCAM! WE GIVE RESPECT TO ALL WOMEN THEY CAN WALK SAFELY ALONE AT NIGHT AND WE HAVE CLEAN FOOD AND TOILET EVERYWHERE 🇮🇳🤗🚽, I KNOW MANY POOR PEOPLE JEALOUS WITH SUPER RICH INDIA 🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳

  • @echoi90
    @echoi9014 күн бұрын

    The “moan” of acknowledgment when talking hahahah! I’ve never heard of it that way… I’m Korean-American and I def catch myself doing this on work calls 🤣

  • @Gookwhazzang
    @Gookwhazzang20 күн бұрын

    I’m a genZ that lives in South K and this video really means a lot to me. Thank you so much for making this video.

  • @laurastephenson5169
    @laurastephenson51693 ай бұрын

    As an educator in Korea for the last dozen years, I agree with this video. Korea excelled in economics because it needed to survive. Now it must tackle its social problems, inequalities, and depression-inducing educational and work methods if it wants to survive.

  • @RollerBladingSuxs

    @RollerBladingSuxs

    3 ай бұрын

    The thing is stress and depression is all self-induced. So it's not the government or society that creates it. But it's one's own self-deprecating thoughts that induce it.

  • @Here4TheHeckOfIt

    @Here4TheHeckOfIt

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@RollerBladingSuxs Man - you really can't see the toxicity in this kind of system can you?

  • @SirCruxful

    @SirCruxful

    3 ай бұрын

    @@RollerBladingSuxssome society’s have terrible stressors and thought processes that can contribute to your pressure. You don’t exist in a vacuum so Your society can cultivate harmful thought processes and expectations that you have to work through to fix

  • @SirCruxful

    @SirCruxful

    3 ай бұрын

    @@RollerBladingSuxsunless you are in a forest you will always be influenced and affected by the things around you, especially early childhood where you learn the most about what type of attitudes and ways you deal with life. Shame is a huge part of these societies

  • @RollerBladingSuxs

    @RollerBladingSuxs

    3 ай бұрын

    @@SirCruxful Remember the saying no one is responsible for your life except you.

  • @oklu_
    @oklu_3 ай бұрын

    10:20 사람 앉혀 놓고 면밀히 외모 평가 들어가는거 상당히 한국스러움 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

  • @biyum918

    @biyum918

    3 ай бұрын

    이런거부터 한국이 망해가고 우울한 이유를 알려줌 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

  • @user-dv2cb7cf9e

    @user-dv2cb7cf9e

    3 ай бұрын

    ㅋㅋ 본인 댓글에 휴그랜트 눈닮앗다고 써놓은거 자체가 한번더 찝은거 같음

  • @user-wj7xd6tg1v

    @user-wj7xd6tg1v

    3 ай бұрын

    심지어 배웠다는 의사분도 저 나이대 이상 한국인들은 다 저모양이고 저게 뭐가 잘못된줄도 모름 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 초면에, 안친한데, 외모나, 재산, 연봉, 학교, 이런 민감한걸 전혀 꺼리낌없이 묻는게 한국문화 하긴 의사?였다는건 20살때 의대 들어갔을테고 그런 포지션으로 쭈욱 살았으니 ㅋㅋ 아무도 태클 안건 삶 살았으니 한국인 그 자체가 될수밖에 없었을듯

  • @minnn6744

    @minnn6744

    3 ай бұрын

    @@user-wj7xd6tg1v 외모 평가도 그렇고 올해 20살이면 대학어디 가냐 ㅈㄴ물어봄. 대한민국이 남인생에 관심많은건 알아줘야됨

  • @oklu_

    @oklu_

    3 ай бұрын

    이 유튜버님도 이 현상을 흥미롭게 보고 올린 것 같습니다 ㅋㅋㅋ

  • @eipechacko4344
    @eipechacko4344Ай бұрын

    Nice ending message to the video after all the depressing part before it. Resilience is one of the most important qualities anyone need and the Koreans can use it with their faith to somehow find a way

  • @lydiebalthazar
    @lydiebalthazar12 күн бұрын

    "I... don't give a f***"... That delivery is the most factual, determined and yet sweet I've ever heard. I'll try to say it like this everytime I'll get to think that from now on.

  • @mr6943
    @mr69433 ай бұрын

    Korea is real squid game.

  • @user-jb8vn7vf1y

    @user-jb8vn7vf1y

    3 ай бұрын

    True.. they're gambling to life

  • @user-LlLL580

    @user-LlLL580

    2 ай бұрын

    닉네임 보니까 다 한국인들인데 다 영어쓰고 있노 ㅋㅋㅋ

  • @jeonjubibimbap6740

    @jeonjubibimbap6740

    2 ай бұрын

    ㄹㅇ​@@user-LlLL580

  • @user-tx6vq5uj9z

    @user-tx6vq5uj9z

    2 ай бұрын

    ㅋㅋㅋㅋ

  • @user-FULLJohnson

    @user-FULLJohnson

    Ай бұрын

    ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

  • @themountaiinman
    @themountaiinman3 ай бұрын

    Born and raised, now nearing my 40s here in the peninsula, I feel like we are perhaps the most anxious & confused people in the world. The fact that those in younger generation nowadays are more aware of what's wrong with the country, I hope there still is a hope for a better future. We showed the world our economic success and now it's time for some self-care. Let us stay sane no matter what, dear fellow Koreans! Huge thanks to this video, Mark!

  • @chocoholic5645

    @chocoholic5645

    3 ай бұрын

    How can u be soooo good in English ^^

  • @jessp8238

    @jessp8238

    3 ай бұрын

    @@chocoholic5645They learn it in school 😂

  • @bulbob100

    @bulbob100

    3 ай бұрын

    agreed.

  • @atexaninkorea1773
    @atexaninkorea177323 күн бұрын

    On-point journalism.

  • @KaitinRean
    @KaitinReanАй бұрын

    I'm 100% korean who has seen korea in the eyes of a half foreigner, and a korean. I've lived in America for 6 years, and for the rest of my life, I've lived in Korea. I tend to think differently than my classmates. Maybe it's because I was raised in america. I've been through depression and self harm as well before. Not a surprise. Korea is safe, and it's comfortable. I'll admit it. No guns, no gender or sexuality wars. We have an amazing environment, a lot of things to learn and see, and a ton of culture and excitement. Then, why do koreans get so easily depressed in korea? Is the country the problem? It's mostly the socializing. Yes, the government and people around you pressuring to succeed and work are stressful as well. Very much. Studying is harx, and success is hard. Yet, what makes it so hard are the people. They pressure you. Especially if your job is related to human interactions. They knock you down, they tackle you, they humiliate you. The fact that you can stay anonymous on the internet does not help. There's a reason why I don't like to interact with koreans online. It's a total mess. Racism, perfectionists attacking you... It's not great. Although it's what makes korea so safe and uncontroversial, it's suffocating when it's a subject like race, feminism, or appearance. A quick note on racism, I was literally just talking to my friend on the phone and two little boys started mocking me.. I'm korean though.. the kids in my class mock my pronouncation. Yet, foreigners say I don't even sound korean. "People are rude here too." "Korea's social system isn't special. It's not a special problem." Go ahead and say that. Just understand that we are always pressured. We never feel free. Besides, the topic is korea, not your country😅 Thank you for reading.❤

  • @yaebinnie
    @yaebinnie3 ай бұрын

    Very understanding and heartwarming video. You did not describe nor define Korea’s problems through judgmental perspective but rather critically viewed and sincerely hoped for our better future. Thanks for a great video.

  • @indiasuperclean6969

    @indiasuperclean6969

    3 ай бұрын

    SOUTH KOREA IS SO F4KE SIR ! 🤮 MY INDIA IS BETTER ! 🤗🇮🇳🥰 🇮🇱THIS WHY IM SO LUCKY LIVE IN SUPER INDIA THE CLEANEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD 🇮🇳🤗 , WE NEVER SCAM! WE GIVE RESPECT TO ALL WOMEN THEY CAN WALK SAFELY ALONE AT NIGHT AND WE HAVE CLEAN FOOD AND TOILET EVERYWHERE 🇮🇳🤗🚽, I KNOW MANY POOR PEOPLE JEALOUS WITH SUPER RICH INDIA 🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗

  • @indiasuperclean6969

    @indiasuperclean6969

    3 ай бұрын

    WOW VERY DANGEROUS SIR! I WILL NEVER GO TO SOUTH KOREA ! 😡😡 THIS WHY IM SO LUCKY LIVE IN SUPER INDIA THE CLEANEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD 🇮🇳🤗 , WE NEVER SCAM! WE GIVE RESPECT TO ALL WOMEN THEY CAN WALK SAFELY ALONE AT NIGHT AND WE HAVE CLEAN FOOD AND TOILET EVERYWHERE 🇮🇳🤗🚽, I KNOW MANY POOR PEOPLE JEALOUS WITH SUPER RICH INDIA 🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳

  • @user-dr9cc2wz6m
    @user-dr9cc2wz6m3 ай бұрын

    I am a high school student who was born in Korea. Everyone here studies for 12 years from the first grade of elementary school to the third grade of high school. Most of them start earlier than that. These days, kindergarten-based private academies and kindergarten students prepare for medical schools before they think about the world they want to live in, because their parents don't know much about the world. I still think that the important thing for teenagers is their view of the world and their various experiences. However, the reality is different. You have to endure the pressure that you didn't even experience in the past, the desire to play, the exercise, etc. due to the set period of study. If you exercise, you also have to develop your physical strength to study. When you go to high school, you write down a portfolio like the first year and complete it for three years in high school, and then enter college based on the content and school grades. At this time, you have to write all the activities you do in school in relation to your career hope, and there is an academy that helps you write such a portfolio. Also, the cost of the academy is huge. I think such education in Korea will cause a wider gap between the rich and the poor. Most students these days don't think deeply about their career path and think that they should definitely go to college, and most of their friends who are good at studying want to pursue medicine. Jobs like doctors and dentists are expensive. Meanwhile, I thought I didn't know why I should go to college in my country. I'm still a teenager who hasn't had much experience, and I didn't think it was worth investing in because it would cost me a lot of money to decide on a department and go to college. Later, later than others, but when I had something I wanted to study for, I wanted to go to college. If I fail college at the age of 19, I will be treated as a failure. Even though I am a broken teenager, my dream is to travel around the world. But that means a lot of adults are interfering with other people's lives, such as how they will make money and need to have money to get married in the future. At first, I thought I would make the right mistake and others would get caught up in this world. I knew what I really wanted was to travel around the world, and I believed that I would be happy with the process even if I had a part-time job that wasn't a full-time job. However, it is really upsetting to find myself getting ingrained in this society. Success and failure are divided in teenagers, and if they don't get married on time, pressure from people around them will arise, and the heads of households will have to earn a certain amount of money, compete in new jobs again, and if they don't have children, I think it is natural that Korea has high suicide rates and depression levels. However, no one is trying to change. As a Korean, I want everyone to look back, not just ahead.

  • @jerrygreen9985

    @jerrygreen9985

    3 ай бұрын

    you're looking at the extremes buddy, south korea is not depressing, the people just have high-ass standards, you could go live in any area that isn't Seoul and getting a job and buying a house would be 100 times easier and actually doable in terms of house prices. marriage would be possible, as would children. but people insist on staying in Seoul, if you don't study, you don't study. sure it's more intense than any other western country- but that being said any country has students who study very hard. a shit ton of Korean students do not study hard. they just attend a lot of private lessons/tutors etc. doesn't mean that they study a lot or are super-smart. people with superstitions will say to go to college and to get married etc, but the thing is nowadays people don't ask that as much, and if you do you're just rude/old/uneducated. the students preparing at age 5, 6, 7 or at a young age? that's only the really rich people, and so that's a really really small minority of kids. compared to other countries like india, Indonesia, Malaysia, the Philippines i think korea is a way better country to live in on AVERAGE. compared to the states the people aren't open, extremely racist, and don't really care for others as much with a community vibe as western countries, but to say korea is depressing without giving an objective point of view is unfair. it's a shit country. the laws in particular and the judges/lawyers/politicians aren't great at all. i still hate korea even though i was born here. but give it a fair point of view when judging it.

  • @user-kx8ez1vd9r

    @user-kx8ez1vd9r

    3 ай бұрын

    이 글을 읽고 나의 아들에게 나는 어떤 것들을 보여줄 것인지 깊이 생각해 봐야겠어요.

  • @kasi-ns2hv

    @kasi-ns2hv

    3 ай бұрын

    좋은 관점

  • @kanchanmaitra3368

    @kanchanmaitra3368

    3 ай бұрын

    Your thoughts 💬 are very deep,, good luck bro,, I'm glad that i was born in India 😌

  • @indiasuperclean6969

    @indiasuperclean6969

    3 ай бұрын

    SOUTH KOREA IS SO F4KE SIR ! 🤮 MY INDIA IS BETTER ! 🤗🇮🇳🥰 🇮🇱THIS WHY IM SO LUCKY LIVE IN SUPER INDIA THE CLEANEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD 🇮🇳🤗 , WE NEVER SCAM! WE GIVE RESPECT TO ALL WOMEN THEY CAN WALK SAFELY ALONE AT NIGHT AND WE HAVE CLEAN FOOD AND TOILET EVERYWHERE 🇮🇳🤗🚽, I KNOW MANY POOR PEOPLE JEALOUS WITH SUPER RICH INDIA 🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗🇮🇳🤗

  • @OleFalla
    @OleFalla2 ай бұрын

    The fact that we get free videos on KZread by Mark is truly a gift.., keeping the education and knowledge alive. 👏👏👏

  • @brianpancoast6143
    @brianpancoast6143Ай бұрын

    Great video. Helps to give me some context and understanding of my Korean step-mother.

  • @dowonkim2482
    @dowonkim24823 ай бұрын

    17:40 This is so freaking true. My mom is clearly suffering mentally in various ways, yet she refuses to seek counseling or help from mental health professionals. I struggled with panic disorder for three years, and she always asks me, 'Can't you just overcome it?' No, mom, this is emotional abuse, seriously.

  • @mspsys

    @mspsys

    3 ай бұрын

    My family immigrated from Korea to the US when I was 12. When I went to school in Korea, the pressure to do well was so intense that I still suffer from PTSD after 40 yrs. My older sister, my younger brother, and I have all done really well (the academic standard in the US is a joke compared to Korea) because of how we were raised in Korea but I feel like I would have never made it had my family stayed in Korea. Yes, I also refuse to see a psychiatrist because I think being stubborn and being self-reliant is the definition of Korean mentality. hahaha

  • @Hotcheetos777

    @Hotcheetos777

    3 ай бұрын

    my parents were pretty open to me getting mental help because we lived in the US for 5 years a long time ago. But they still have the mindset of: "if you're traumatized or hurt by what someone has said/done, that's on you because the same thing might not impact others the same way, so just get an apology and move on". It's frustrating to me because I bring up the past because I feel like it NEEDS to be addressed for one to actually move on and make peace. Especially when it's caused by your own parents, and we'll have to see them for a long time until they pass.

  • @ithamarlowe6158

    @ithamarlowe6158

    3 ай бұрын

    @@mspsys as someone who has overcome depression I think talking with yourself is better than a psychiatrist. Or talking with people that are in the same situation also helps, though they are hard to find. The point is you are not alone in the way that you feel.

  • @jeunehomme_jun
    @jeunehomme_jun3 ай бұрын

    I love the last sentence you said. "I believe they will find a way." Thank you so much for this amazing video about KOREA.

  • @miraeja

    @miraeja

    2 ай бұрын

    the ending was so great 😭🥹

  • @sophieca6906

    @sophieca6906

    2 ай бұрын

    We need more foreigners and immigrants 😅

  • @makita12345

    @makita12345

    2 ай бұрын

    i really love the ending of this video, cause he even though there are many issues he realistically showed hope and the last seconds of the video asking the psychologist does she care what others might say and her saying 'i dont give a f' was brilliant. It can be a funny moment but at the same time it shows how the society is changing and proves the point that it might get better.

  • @swee2251

    @swee2251

    2 ай бұрын

    Since the 1980s, the Koreans have been criticizing the pressure that the students get and it was talked about on the media. But it continued to get even more terrible for the later generations. Parents fear that their children might get behind if they don't force them to study more.

  • @coopercollins8358
    @coopercollins835812 күн бұрын

    Beautifully made video

  • @HurKyung
    @HurKyung2 ай бұрын

    Many thanks for the video, which helps us Koreans to look into ourselves and to find a way out from serious problems inside.

  • @jamieandnothingness3525
    @jamieandnothingness35253 ай бұрын

    I'm a Korean who immigrated to America after college. 3 minutes into this video I realized I'm living the South Korean life even in another continent not because I was forced to but because I volunteered to literally grind myself to excel at work. My biggest challenge while working in the Western corporate environment has been having to work at other people's pace.. Because I wouldn't let emails sit in the inbox for longer than 12 hours, I don't want any dirt on my career, don't wanna take the blame when things go wrong against my wishes whereas my colleagues take that morning coffee and take a full hour lunch outside the office. So I definitely overwork myself and I know it. I just can't help the way i am. It's been helping me progress but at the same time I'm aware this isn't sustainable in the long run. It gets tough when I can't even have the time to seek assistance in mental healthcare although I could. I'll eventually give myself a break but I realize I really need to look after my mental health. Thank you for covering South Korea with clear insights. Very impressive I am now subscribing your channel!

  • @Pajune

    @Pajune

    3 ай бұрын

    Great story. But you really need to stop working so hard. You are giving a bad example for the corps what to expect from workers. We don't want to turn into SK 😂

  • @red4595

    @red4595

    3 ай бұрын

    As a westerner living in east Asia, I did experience all the pressure at work which has end up with a burn out. But I did manage to go over it and learn my way of handling pressure, simply go with life flow, especially I realized one thing, we all keep thinking “after I do this I will feel that”, but the reality it’s we should be living in the present. the energy is real.

  • @user-ov4wr5yu4r

    @user-ov4wr5yu4r

    3 ай бұрын

    I suggest a more concrete gradual approach. I work full throttle in the office. But I take the hour lunch. After eating, I go to shops, but don't buy, or a beautiful church, read in the church garden, etc.. I must plan carefully for my brisk walk back to the office to be on time. I also take super mini breaks by having some clean snack and tea at the desk, so I have to look up to take a bite or sip. This is subject to bosses allowing food, but it does make you slow down a bit. Sign up for yoga or other active class once a week to start. Don't be available for overtime, because you have a class. Good luck.

  • @user-hh1cr2cb7z

    @user-hh1cr2cb7z

    3 ай бұрын

    Your effort will pay you back probably more in the US than Korea. You are doing the right thing. If others around you don’t grind as much then why do they drink and do drugs more than you? Don’t stop. Feel free to slow down temporarily but keep going. Fighting!

  • @lowkeyconvert8971

    @lowkeyconvert8971

    3 ай бұрын

    what i find is the most important 'quality' to have and that will help your career in western workplaces is knowing whose bum to kiss and suck up to, social manoeuvring, being likeable...if anything, if westerner colleagues see you work hard and do better than them, they will resent you.

  • @TriPleBZina
    @TriPleBZina3 ай бұрын

    As a korean who will soon turn 19, this video almost made me cry. It is true we suffer and are worried about us and what the future will hold, but the reason why I couldn't give up and kept myself together was that slight hope that I never told anyone that things will get better if I try better, if I try to become that generation to lead the way to a much more acceptable happiness. As always I was thinking about leaving the country because of the lack of space and acceptance my generation gets, but again I also wish to stay where I laughed, cried and was born. I believe that we will get through this.

  • @oklu_

    @oklu_

    3 ай бұрын

    I second that especially the last part!

  • @leviryu4327

    @leviryu4327

    3 ай бұрын

    You’re happy man, I didn’t laugh, cry at the age (but was born).

  • @leonsong3284

    @leonsong3284

    3 ай бұрын

    **hug hug**

  • @Marshyblob

    @Marshyblob

    3 ай бұрын

    I too will be turning 19 did year..the stress sure kicks in ..we'll get through it ..its alryt

  • @ozskzkizz

    @ozskzkizz

    3 ай бұрын

    Just keep going and pushing. You'll be ok! Anyone at 19, their life has not even fully blossomed yet and begun. You've got to dig deep and try to bloom where you are planted. I hope very much that your beautiful country and its people rise to the level of self-acceptance and inner happiness that you hope to see in your world. You seem to have a really good heart.

  • @ToriHalfon
    @ToriHalfonАй бұрын

    That was really informative, and felt very respectful as well. Everyone that I know who has been to Korea has really loved it.

  • @vincentmorel7845
    @vincentmorel78452 ай бұрын

    Very interesting, thank you. When I visit countries like this where people work such long hours, I always wonder how they find time for taking care of themselves? I guess it means they never have time for themselves because the only day they don't work I imagine they have to spend it doing all there is to do apart from work (house cleaning, shopping, etc.). And what about exercising / sport?

  • @elansing3095
    @elansing30953 ай бұрын

    Korea is amazing...lived there for a year many years ago- some unbelievable and resilient people, and in my experience, some of the kindest people. I hope this helps open the dialogue for everyone ...thanks, Mark!

  • @suikwan0
    @suikwan03 ай бұрын

    ㅋㅋㅋㅋ중간에 정신과 의사들 아이스 브레이킹 한답시고 외모평가부터 하고보는... 진짜 한국은 저게 문제입니다. 저런것만 그만해도 사람들 사는데 훨씬 행복해 질거예요... 칭찬한거니까 괜찮다 그럴텐데 외모칭찬도 얼평입니다..그리고 앞부분은 은근슬쩍 욕했잖앜ㅋㅋ음습한 사람들..

  • @user-wk8qf4wb4m

    @user-wk8qf4wb4m

    3 ай бұрын

    ㄹㅇ 영상보다가 그 부분 보고 움찔함; 농담이랍시고 외적인부분 슬쩍 까내리다가 또 나름 칭찬한답시고 "근데 실물이 더 잘생겼네요" ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 외모평가를 재치있는 농담인것마냥 툭툭 하는 부분마저 너무 한국스러움^^ 심지어 정신과 의사들이..ㅋㅋㅋ

  • @hahahahaha7824

    @hahahahaha7824

    3 ай бұрын

    저도 외모 칭찬 자주하지만 이건 진짜 좀 놀랐음... ㅋㅋㅋ 자기들은 그걸 선의의 아이스브레킹이라고 생각했을껀데 외국에선 그런 평가질 자체를 초면에 조크로도 잘 안하는편인데 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 자기들은 그것에 대한 전혀 인식이 없다는거 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 한국이 평가질이 진짜 좀 심하구나 하던 모먼트 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 남 와꾸도 초면에 바로 조크로 틀어버리는데 평상시는 어떨지 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 당연한거고...

  • @user-bg2cl3vh2i

    @user-bg2cl3vh2i

    3 ай бұрын

    I'm Korean, That was really embarrasing. Even they are psychologist they didn't realize what's wrong with them. I reckon they thought that was a good joking or compliment. That's really rude mention.

  • @user-jt3vc3bf5c

    @user-jt3vc3bf5c

    3 ай бұрын

    와 저도 그부분 진짜 놀랬어요. 다짜고짜 외모평가라니 그래도 정신과 의사라서 기본적인 교양이나 상식은 있을 줄 기대되는건데

  • @equinox1470

    @equinox1470

    3 ай бұрын

    이러니까 이 나라가 답이 없는 거예요. 사람을 사람으로 대하는 게 아니라 무슨 상품 평가하듯 하고 있어요. 정말 지겨워요..

  • @user-mp1uf1bt9k
    @user-mp1uf1bt9kАй бұрын

    As a teenager in korea, this video gave me lots to think about. Yes, it is a fact that people constantly compare themselves to other people and have lots of mental problems. The shame and the anxiety make people feel like they are a loser, and since they are stressed out with these feelings, they find another way to solve it, by depreciating others, followed by loneliness and depression and hate amongest the community. But at the end of the video mentioning resilience and all the positive stuff we have, I felt that if we focused the positive traits then the negative we would figure out to live a happier life. Thanks for making this video Mark ❤

  • @sinmoonsik5721
    @sinmoonsik57212 ай бұрын

    우리는 언제나 살아나는 민족이다. 언젠가 전부 극복할거야.

  • @user-ps7oz3um9k

    @user-ps7oz3um9k

    13 күн бұрын

    빙고. 그래야지요 당연히

  • @oqeufh
    @oqeufh3 ай бұрын

    I live in Japan which has a lot of the same issues Korea has. I am half Japanese half Spanish though and I was brought up in Spain so I can't really speak Japanese well and I am regarded as a foreigner here, but let me tell you I am glad I was raised in Spain and I am actually also quite glad I am regarded as a foreigner here also. I feel like my Spanish environment really helped me be more relaxed in everything, the pace of living over there is just much more slow and relaxed, and my Spanish friends don't seem to be in a rush to build a successful career nor do they seem to care if they are behind or not, they are just doing their thing and that is also helping me come to terms that I don't need to rush my career and I don't need to rush my life. Here in Japan I have spoken to plenty of Japanese natives who are even younger than me completely stressed out about being behind everyone else and on having to go through the entire system of graduating from university, get an internship and afterwards get a job. All done within specific time frames also, someone doing a sabbatical year is almost unheard of, and young Japanese people are even afraid to do this sabbatical year even if their mental health is telling them, dude you seriously need a break. Because they feel like they will be behind everyone else. Being regarded as a foreigner here kinda makes it easier for me because I tend to surround myself with other foreigners and there are no expectations for me from part of Japanese society to do better, or to follow certain rules or standards, they are definitely more lenient on these kind of things for foreigners. Of course foreigners in Japan (especially those without the same privileges as me, who has a passport and doesn't have to worry about visas) deal with many other issues too. But at least there is not this pressure on us to perform better or to follow the "Japanese standard rules". Also, among us foreigners in Japan we are all just escaping in some sense and trying to make it abroad so we tend to have each other's back on our mental health. Korea seems to be a lot like Japan in a sense that the pressure, the societal standards and the amount of rules they need to follow just seem like it's too much for the young generation and that ends up literally killing them.

  • @Accuface2000

    @Accuface2000

    Ай бұрын

    It's because you are trying to be American, which is why you are depressed. China is happy because they created their own system of values

  • @abdiellawrence397

    @abdiellawrence397

    Ай бұрын

    You are lucky to have grown up in Spain. I absolutely adore your tapas culture and had a lovely time in Barcelona. Quimet Y Quimet is my favorite tapas bar in the world.😊

  • @IvoryBlair-zy2tn

    @IvoryBlair-zy2tn

    Ай бұрын

    Please girl we are so same. I also thought about the same thing, and like you, I am also a foreigner raised in a different country. When I came here, depression really hit me. They are so fast paced that I can't catch up with them, and work ethics are super TOXIC. I love Japan, (especially their scenery, architecture, technology- which just shows how much pressure are placed unto them to have reach this far) and I don't want to come back to my country without being successful first, but the stress and pressure here, and how all my relationships are transactional, it's killing me. There are no happy relationships here, everything is transactional :

  • @millettemone6844

    @millettemone6844

    Ай бұрын

    I am older Japanese and you may nor believe me but Japanese society is more relaxed than 40-50 years ago. It is still very strict country following SK and China but people realized they have a choice.

  • @ausgod538

    @ausgod538

    Ай бұрын

    Korea is much worse than Japan you have no idea

  • @lifeisasimulatedillusion
    @lifeisasimulatedillusion3 ай бұрын

    유교와 자본주의의 가장 나쁜 부분을 유지하면서, 둘의 가장 좋은 부분은 버린것 같다는 말이 너무 명확하고 정확한것 같네요.

  • @hoilockpartian8627

    @hoilockpartian8627

    3 ай бұрын

    저도 이말에 정말 공감합니다. 유교와 자본주의에 가장 나쁜점만 갖고 있다는건 정확합니다. 이문제를 고치지 않으면 한국인은 전부 사라질겁니다. 너무나 정확한 분석에 감동을 받습니다.

  • @suchislifespace7725

    @suchislifespace7725

    3 ай бұрын

    근데 좀 모순인게, 한국은 정확히 말하면 유교의 좋은 점인 커뮤니티 중심 주의가 희박해지면서 점점 자본주의의 개인주의로 가고 있는데, 저자는 이건 자본주의의 좋은 점이라면서요? 개인적으로는개인주의가 진짜 좋은 점인지는 확신이 안가지만, 지금은 혼란기로 보여지네요. 전통 사상이란게 쉽게 바뀌지 않는데 뿌리는 아직 가족중심 문화가 남아있지만 표면적으로는 개인주의로 변하는...이게 서로 상충하고 스트레스를 불러오는 거 아닌가 싶어요. shame & judgement 에도 순기능이 있긴 합니다. 자신을 돌아보고 자기의 책임을 다하는 것, 요즘은 오히려 어려움이 닥치면 회피하고 도망가고 싶은 심리가 강해지는 문제도 있는거 같네요. 미국이라고 다 잘 사는것 아니죠. 멘탈 강하고 행복한거 아니구요. 거기도 알코올, 마약 중독, 정치적 대립, 빈부격차 등 여러 사회 문제 우리보다 더 심해요. 평균 수명도 거의 10년은 떨어집니다. 한국의 문제는 좁은 땅에 자원이 없는데에 있습니다. 오직 인간의 능력으로 외화 벌이 하다보니 경쟁이 치열 할 수 밖에요. 미국이나 호주, 브라질, 중국정도의 자원과 토지만 있어도 사람들 먹여 살리는데 큰 문제는 없으니까요. 당장 지금만 해도 반도체 산업 등 일부 글로벌 리딩 산업, 경쟁 국가에 뺏겨봐요. 뭐 먹고 살지? 물론 교육의 방향이 바뀌긴 해야 합니다. 상대평가 없애고 절대 평가로 아이들이 노력한 만큼 정당한 성취를 이루게 하고 객관식 보다는 토론식으로 좀 다양한 생각을 할 수 있게 하는 것, 어차피 애들 수도 줄어드는데 대학 서열에 대한 구조도 변해야 하구요.

  • @caidylan

    @caidylan

    3 ай бұрын

    韩国人真的懂什么叫儒家思想吗?仁、义、礼、智、信在哪里?修身、齐家、治国、平天下又在哪里?居然把一些不仁不义的等级观念当做儒家思想,好的东西是一点也没学到

  • @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    @user-sp3vb7tk8r

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@hoilockpartian8627 이념과 사상 저분이 말한 가짜외국인말밑고 따른 너도 공산당이지 우리나라는 박정희각하가 등장이유 나라가 부자국가가되고 더나아가 우리나라가 공산당에 점령당한걸 윤석열각하가 도와주고 한반도는 나라에운명을 맡기면안되니 민영화를 통해나라를 살린다는데 우리모두 윤석열각하처럼 서울대출신들만 뽑읍시다

  • @Yok_Knnn

    @Yok_Knnn

    3 ай бұрын

    ​@@caidylan 你说的是没礼貌没素质到处出征的nmslese吧

  • @StinkySundae
    @StinkySundae2 ай бұрын

    11:54 omg he used to sell makguli in hongdae way back then! It’s nice to see him here haha

  • @dwkim1190
    @dwkim1190Ай бұрын

    As a college student born and raised in Korea, most of my childhood memories revolve around fiercely competing in schools and academies. Even in university, I had to compete constantly to maintain a good GPA. When looking at objective indicators such as birth rates and suicide rates, it's evident that there are problems in our society. However, amidst the fear of starving to death or becoming victims of social shame, many find it difficult to speak up and find their own way to survive. Although everyone is aware of these grim realities, it's true that opinions don't easily come together for societal improvement. Politicians, who should be at the forefront of change, often show little interest in opinions that don't translate into votes. In this sense, I'm deeply grateful for influential KZreadrs like Mark to share his thoughts on our social issues. As a young Korean, I hope there is a future where more people in Korea could become happier and more acceptive to others.

  • @mjylove2
    @mjylove23 ай бұрын

    As a native Korean, i can confirm that he addressed Korean society really well. I always welcome foreign viewpoint of our culture because it promp me to reassess the culture i am living in. Thank you for the documentation :)

  • @myponyislit6529

    @myponyislit6529

    3 ай бұрын

    Me living in central EU: i can't belive how much pressure already starting from childhood to go trough bc of a failed society. As exemple, Elementary school kids have 4-5hrs school per day. I rather choose time for myself over other people's opinions / beeing judged for "failures". Got time for my own, pursue personal interests, meet people having fun instead of beeing a slave working 100hrs per week to be able to buy the newest gucci goods selling you on a 1.000% profit marge ^

  • @erikmorales6912

    @erikmorales6912

    3 ай бұрын

    Please like Japan ❤

  • @gotislay

    @gotislay

    3 ай бұрын

    What will you do after reassessing?

  • @user-jc1ws2ni5u

    @user-jc1ws2ni5u

    3 ай бұрын

    번역 다 되니깐 한국인이면 한국어로 걍 쓰면 됩니다ㅇㅇ

  • @seobam_coach
    @seobam_coach3 ай бұрын

    hey i'm the psychologist in the video. 영상에 나온 심리학자입니다! ㅎㅎ 한국의 사회적 문제에 대해 더 구체적으로 설명하고 싶었지만.. 영어가 부족해서 저렇게 이야기 할 수밖에 없었답니다😂😂 나머지 이야기들은 영어 설명을 잘하는 분들께 부탁드리겠습니다🙇‍♀️

  • @seobam_coach

    @seobam_coach

    3 ай бұрын

    @@Mr-MarkManson learn Korean first😂 and then we can discuss

  • @ssamhangugeo4824

    @ssamhangugeo4824

    3 ай бұрын

    교포입니다. 영어가 부족하시다뇨! 넘 잘해주셨습니다. 꼭 알려져야 할 주제였고 인터뷰에 응해주셔서 감사합니다 댓글에 박사님 mad cool이라고 적혀있네요 👍👍 한국 사회가 박사님 말씀처럼 내일이든 일주일 뒤든 끝내버리고 싶은 나라가 아니라 앞으로가 더 기대되고 행복하게 더 살고 싶어지는 나라의 방향으로 갔으면 합니다.

  • @solbutton1611

    @solbutton1611

    3 ай бұрын

    Dude, you are so cool, and you’re English was great. Don’t worry about it. Thank you for what you do :)

  • @dbbaker1984

    @dbbaker1984

    3 ай бұрын

    That was such an awkward interview 😂

  • @digibojo5132

    @digibojo5132

    3 ай бұрын

    마지막 최고 ㅋㅋ

  • @user-il9xe8yb4v
    @user-il9xe8yb4v8 күн бұрын

    Thank you for making this video ❤

  • @marianavarro4704
    @marianavarro470423 күн бұрын

    I'm not sure if you had watched Taxi Driver series and SkyCastle series Mr Manson. I ❤ the concept and I had a better understanding of the Korean culture. 😊

  • @SOULtoSOUTHKOREA
    @SOULtoSOUTHKOREA3 ай бұрын

    Amazing video. This is the reason we are on a mission to make a difference. Thank you so much Mark. You definitely started this snowball of awareness for change, and it will just get bigger.

  • @usama.9950
    @usama.99503 ай бұрын

    This is what KZread was made for. You've done a great job outlining all the factors leading up to the problem. From storytelling to visuals and use of motion graphics, this was a great video overall.

  • @PkmnMasterHolly
    @PkmnMasterHollyАй бұрын

    YESS amazing Mark! Please make more documentaries like this!

  • @cybermuse6917
    @cybermuse691724 күн бұрын

    For anyone looking for the fire song at 15:06 its "Play Your Game - Juval"

  • @lazarkulasevic
    @lazarkulasevic3 ай бұрын

    You're killing it with these videos! Keep going, we love 'em.

  • @broncoxy
    @broncoxy3 ай бұрын

    As somebody who's travelled to South Korea and is planning an exchange semester in Seoul, I got a similar verdict, a similar feeling; while at first it seems very shiny and perfect and then concerning and sometimes almost scary, over time, you cannot help but feel that they'll somehow manage to get over it. All koreans I've met so far have been some of the nicest and most fun people you could wish for and they all seemed to have a certain strength and will in them, to not give up, to see and value even the little joys of life. I don't know what the future holds and I'm curious on how my view will evolve after a longer time there, but I really wish for them to find their way as a country, to strike a balance that works for both economic success and a healthy, happy society. _also bro found the key to me actually watching the placement instead of skipping it, respect_

  • @Hethink.-kx8bz
    @Hethink.-kx8bzАй бұрын

    Where are many psychotics in the world? (from Google) 1.Japan 2.Belgium 3.Netherland 4.Germany 5.Latvia

  • @KoongYe
    @KoongYeАй бұрын

    As a Korean, I've watched quite a few videos talking about the problems in Korea, but never this ON POINT. This guy really hit the nail on the head on all aspects.

  • @thebettybassettproduction2458
    @thebettybassettproduction24583 ай бұрын

    What an utterly indepthful analysis! I come from vietnam. Raised in America so there was that expectational disconnect. My mother simply expected me to be ingrained with the culture of financial acquisiveness first and foremost. I never truly measured up to the level of hard work to ever earn a semblance of respect in her eyes so my childhood was a mix of buffoonery and disregard. I my mother has earned a measure of financial success there is a disconnect to the generation that came before her and after her in the realm of familial piety. She fled Vietnam before the war ended. She imposed this point of Eastern expectation that an underling or child has no rights except to do what was imposed upon, and do it with a smile. It's not a far stretch to say that my western value didn't serve me. I'm 57 and just in the last few years have I come to terms with childhood, values and cultures. I understood it in a misty, peripheral sort of way. I understood it but it wasn't concrete enough to put to words, to put things according to their weight. It's so very insightful of you to deconstruct western vs. eastern values. You put it with specificity which ruled out everything else that wasn't that. I thank you. It's an enormous weight off my shoulders to put dimensions on the thing that I had been contending with. Thank you Mark. Betty ❤

  • @eatnplaytoday

    @eatnplaytoday

    3 ай бұрын

    I’m 33 years old Vietnamese female and moved to USA when I was 3 years old. I felt same way; a failure in my dad’s eyes. No matter what I did, I never really got a congratulations or good job. Multiple degrees later, much stress in a career I hate, I left and now pursuing to do something I enjoy much to my parent’s worry. I feel their anxiety was projected onto me and that my dad too felt like a failure most of his life. He wanted to brag to others in Vietnam how well off we are. So it was social expectation. But now I am living my own life. I realized there’s many ways to live, you don’t have to follow the social expectations that previous generation placed on you. You have free will and can leave that behind and build a more loving healthier family and community. It’ll be easier if we can talk about these issues openly with each other and be more kind

  • @Namoari941

    @Namoari941

    11 күн бұрын

    Vietnam has many similarities as SK and Japan since they are all in Sinosphere countries (together with China,Taiwan and Hongkong), and share Confucius philosophy, VN and mainland China are just recently opened to capitalist/market economy, therefore things are only started heading to what South Korea and Japan facing now, but maybe less serious because of the mixture of socialism/capitalism/confucian in China and VN.

  • @BennyOcean
    @BennyOcean3 ай бұрын

    I was expecting a normal travel video. You're delivering much more than what we would expect. Cheers.

  • @catryne2495
    @catryne2495Ай бұрын

    I actually got chills and teared up a bit at the end when you spoke of their resilience as a society. I have lived in Korea for 4.5 years and also am married to a Korean man and just, everything you said in this video is so accurate. It’s so amazing and refreshing to see someone really dive into the reality in Korea and not be distracted by the pretty things of it so much they can’t see the reality. In my time here, i have seen glimpses of change, and how there are more opportunities for people to have work life balance (even a slang term that means it) but i also see many cases where the worst is still there. I am going to share this with my friends both foreign and Korean. I am very curious on their opinions and take on it

  • @avalonjustin
    @avalonjustin8 күн бұрын

    Great video! I learned so much. Those spicy rice cakes kicked your ass though huh?😆

  • @TubeThings
    @TubeThings3 ай бұрын

    Please make this a series! Great video!

  • @squishedcockroach8579
    @squishedcockroach85793 ай бұрын

    As a Korean who spent my childhood in Korea and moved to other countries during my teens, I can definitely see how competitive Korean society is compared to other countries. This video is incredibly accurate and relatable. Thank you Mark and his team for this informative video, my entire family has now watched it !

  • @lasvegascity

    @lasvegascity

    3 ай бұрын

    Welp this just proves that u r a coward that ran away from the ‘competition’😂

  • @MaximusofAthens

    @MaximusofAthens

    2 ай бұрын

    yeh it really is. It's getting so tiring man

  • @user-ps8uo8xi1h
    @user-ps8uo8xi1h2 ай бұрын

    Such a great video! You are really wonder producer and youtuber. Treated very deep and real Korean fact. Can't wait to see next episode.

  • @muhammadtanriakbartanjung2239
    @muhammadtanriakbartanjung22393 күн бұрын

    Hi Mark, i'm one of your fan (hope it doesn't bother you), you changing many of my life perception. I would like to thank you for being most useful figure. If i have enough money i will be subscribing your premium blog😊

  • @xaviersee
    @xaviersee3 ай бұрын

    Long time fan of yours from the time you wrote "Models". Loved all your books and am so inspired and impressed with this video you made. The pressures and struggles of the young people of Korea really hit me and as a young Singaporean adult in Singapore, I fear that my own country is already on the way to some challenging times too. How about a story about the "success" of Singapore? There is another side to the "success story" that people all over the world read about and I wish more people knew about the struggles that the people faced in our society. Happy to host you if/when you are ever up for doing a story in Singapore!

  • @YOOXICMAN
    @YOOXICMAN3 ай бұрын

    Amazing video

  • @ColossusDS

    @ColossusDS

    3 ай бұрын

    연예인이다!

  • @anderson_c04

    @anderson_c04

    3 ай бұрын

    오오

  • @taeyoungkim1086

    @taeyoungkim1086

    3 ай бұрын

    정말 유튜브 지박령 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

  • @tteq1429

    @tteq1429

    3 ай бұрын

    형은 어딜가나 있네 ㅋㅋ

  • @jong-minchoi5989

    @jong-minchoi5989

    3 ай бұрын

    형이 왜 여기서...?

  • @chapero1
    @chapero1Ай бұрын

    Very interesting. I loved the Phil Collins t-shirt.

  • @cbishouquoi
    @cbishouquoi18 күн бұрын

    I just came across your channel and I was surprised to see that this format was an experiment because you snatched it. Looking forward to see more of this kind of content !