I have a little story of ace joy! At a holiday party several years ago - distinctly before the pandemic, probably getting closer to 10 years by now - I was sitting together with a bunch of my friends, just chatting between games of Cards Against Humanity. I'd just recently gotten comfortable with using the term 'asexual' to refer to myself, after not having a word for how I felt for over half my lifetime. I was nervous as hell, but I managed to come out to them, and they all took it well! I actually then learned that a couple of my friends also identified as ace, so I had some folks in my corner to help explain some things to those who had a few questions. I remember it just felt like such a relief, like I wasn't holding in a part of myself anymore (and feeling that relief again as I've started to come out about my gender identity) and feeling so happy I found some community IRL as well as online. 😊 Happy 100th video! 🥳 I love watching them, and I seriously admire your patience and clarity! 🖤💟🤍💜

This letter feels like such a throwback to those earlier days, both of your channel, and of widespread asexual visibility and discourse. I feel oddly nostalgic when listening to this one. Also, having followed your channel for over ten years now, I can safely say that you haven't aged a day in that time. Impressive.

I don't think I really have any one moment of ace joy, nor any really interesting ace story, but I can say that finally putting a word on who I am and what I feel truly made my life better. No more wondering what's wrong with me, no more trying so hard to fit in with the sexual people around me only to inevitably fail and not understand why. Now I can just "tap out", say to myself 'oh this is something I can't understand, let's not bother with it', say to people I'm not interested without feeling the pressure of "trying things out", to "discover myself". I know who I am, I know what I am, and I don't need to try to fit other people's idea of "normal", because I am my own "normal" and I don't need to change it. No idea if it fits what you're looking for for the 100th, but it felt good to write that down :)

Oooh, Ace Moments, okay - this one happened in my first year of college, when I was (1) newly discovering my ace-ness and (2) going to every event that advertised free food. So a poster outside the laundry room advertised "Redvines And Relationships," at which you would eat redvines and learn about healthy communication in (romantic) relationships. But the fine print said there would also be pizza‚ so I thought this is great, no one's gonna go because they won't have looked closely enough at the poster, I'm gonna eat so much pizza, I won't be in a romantic relationship ever but communication skills translate across relationship types, right? So I asked my roommate if she wanted to come to this event called Redvines And Relationships with me, there's gonna be pizza, and she kind of looked at me for a few seconds and said "you know, I'm good, but thank you for offering," so I asked my (newly-made) friend if he wanted to go to this event with me, it's called Redvines And Relationships and the fine print says there's gonna be pizza, and he gives me a kind of odd look and says "uhhh, no thank you, I'm good," so I ended up going alone to it and the first thing I saw when I walked in was a poster on the wall about all the different types of lube. Which definitely. Put the prior two interactions in a clearer light. Anyways that's how I ended up giving an impromptu lecture to three frat bros about yeast infections. Despite being extremely ace (and Definitely Not Sitting This Ramrod Straight Because I'm Uncomfortable Whatever Gave You That Idea) I knew the most about safe sex of all like nine attendees so my group aced (ha) the trivia game, and yes, I did eat several slices of pizza, so I count it an evening well spent.

My ace joy was a small one, but it filled me with delight-I was accompanying my baby sibbling to a local punk concert, and since this was happening during pride month I pinned my ace and aromantic flags to my jacket to show my pride. And not only did people compliment my flags, but they knew what they stood for! And those who didn't reccognize the flags still knew what asexuality was, and were delighted to see my pride. When I first learned about asexuality via AVEN at thirteen, I was constantly explaining and re-explaining myself. But now, people know!! And people are supportive!! For every ignorant comment and bigoted remark, there are still people who support ace pride, and the number is growing~

There is a word for what they described - Autosexual. It's not a word I've heard people identify with, and instead a prescribed label that gets used in "what if" discussions.

Sex or death... hmm... reminds me of a couple futurama episodes... wait, that was sex AND death

I'm a libidoist Asexual. I did quit self pleasuring once for 2 weeks but it didn't change a thing. Having higher testosterone levels does change sexual attraction only desire for sexual activity.

happy birthday! he is clearly coming from ignorance and thinks that is an equal viewpoint when it comes to merit. that was his problem along with thinking he has all the answers.

I have a question: someone stated that friendshipis very important to asexuals due to lack of romantic partnership. Does this ring true to you?