Yeah I get the 'you're being emotional/angry' reaction often when I calmly try to explain trans issues as a trans person. People don't seem to consider it a possibility that a trans person could be calm or reasonable. The simple fact that you are trans means that you are angry, offended, sensitive, hyster!cal and delus!onal, regardless of what you say, or whether you even say anything at all. It's just projected onto you no matter what. I tried flipping it on someone once, using their own words back at them, telling them they were being emotional and unreasonable right after they did that to me, and I have to say, watching them get angry over it was pretty funny. Afterwards, they still couldn't admit that it made them angry, because of course they were one of the 'facts over feels' people who don't acknowledge that they have feelings. They consider themselves unemotional and logical just by virtue of them being them, like it's a permanent quality they possess. Cishet white guys, to them, have the intrinsic trait of being logical and calm, and everyone else has the intrinsic trait of being offended, outraged, sensitive, emotional and preachy. These people are exasperating. Honestly not worth interacting with. They're so blinded by their preconceived notions that they're incapable of actually interacting with people and the world. It's like they're living with augmented reality glasses where everything first gets filtered through an anti-sjw lens. How else could some of them come to the conclusion that Russia invading Ukraine is because Russia is trying to defeat western deg3neracy in the form of trans people and cancel culture? Absolutely delus!onal.

@swankivy

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. Any response at all elicits a shocked "whoa, WHOA there, no need to be HOSTILE, dial it down there baby!" Because they'd rather walk away from the interaction assuming they completely made their point and you couldn't possibly have a rebuttal. Any response is ATTITUDE and HATRED. And yeah, they are some of the most emotional/angry people out there. But they still think their outbursts are logic and/or justified, while our responses are pointless, "hysterical" emotion.

Hadnt thought about you in some time...glad to see you are alive and well :)

I once saw a person get offended by the casual use of the term "NTs" in the comments under a video about autism. People were discussing NTs in third person and venting their frustrations. So, an outsider came into that safe space and argued that there was no need for this "othering" language, as it only creates division and hostility in society. Instead of getting angry at somebody else, everybody should just try to be "normal". PS: I also don't see why the first person got so worked up over a text. From what I heard, she gave him an option of platonic relationship. He rejected it without any good reason, and now she's the bad guy. What a horrible experience with an ace.

@swankivy

2 жыл бұрын

It's so gross how people not affected by marginalization on a particular axis often don't even want us to have conversations about it. We need discussion, commiseration, and support because society is this way; it's not the other way around, with us causing the divisions by acknowledging they exist and looking for support in handling that reality. Problem is that the issues literally don't exist to the majority if we don't talk about it, so they want us to go back to not talking about it do they can think it's not a problem. It literally goes away for them if we just suffer silently. It's AMAZING how consistently they really think we create the problems and create the othering by talking about what happens to us! And yeah, the person acting like the ace person wronged him by being firm about their own needs was really something. As if it's just self evident that not wanting a physical relationship was a rotten thing she did TO HIM and justifies him distrusting and shaming all aces.