You arw such a genuine intelligent awesome woman i love you're video's i love being asexual and being aromantic it is completely horrible how the asexual aromantic community are treated like they have no problems in the world

Honestly the hard part of being asexual is other peoples’ behavior about it, or how isolating being baffled by horny allo people can feel. Being in a romantic relationship had its good points, but now that I’m single I don’t really want to go back. I do think it’s much easier in some ways, especially when I think of how a lot of my allo friends have tormented themselves about love or desirability or relationships they’re in/wanting to be in. I’m happy to be ace especially now that I have ace friends. I think you’re very right to point out it’s not that we don’t have problems, we just have different problems. But since I wouldn’t want to be allo, I guess I can see how an allo person might want to be ace lol

Yeah, being an Aro/Ace a few have wish they were like me. Some don't know the struggle, had some guy trying for three years to get me to be in a relationship. Thankfully he gave up when people told him to leave me alone. I even got bashed for being an Ace on one of my friends live stream, here is the plot twist it was by a browny! I admit it was more comical then insulting, I wish I screen shot the conversation. I did look up his name online to find out he is an Ace phobic person.

I think i'm very glad my relationships are pretty straight forward and less messy than allos, however living in a world where you don't understand these relationships can be just as hard and fraught with problems of its own. It was much harder a few years ago before i knew i was ace. I think knowing helps a lot and its understanding yourself that makes most difference in this way for all of us. Still, its hard feeling there is something missing in what you want and as a man how unacceptable and odd it's seen as to not want to do allo things. I am more at peace knowing though.

@swankivy

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Yeah! I've often felt a little relieved that I don't have to deal with the added weirdness of whether I'm going to have to deal with crushing on someone and how to flirt with them or whatever--but then I DO have to deal with the added weirdness of if they decide they like me, and if I don't like them back then what to do and how to handle it without potentially ruining the friendship (and feeling like I ruined it, not them), and how to deal with everybody else's expectations of what your relationship will be, etc. Knowing you're ace makes a HUGE difference. I've heard many people talk about the male ace experience that way and I don't envy you!

Yes I am glad I don't have to deal with the issues allos deal with but that doesn't make my problems any less worse just different.At least with allo problems people from any sexuality can relate and help but with aces and aros,our problems are not commmon and there isn't alot of us so having people relate and help us is nearly impossible unless it us other aros and aces.Allies can only do so much for us,not to say they aren't helpful.Yeah alot of allos don't see that they are the majority and people can relate to them.

Like anything in life it's only as hard as you make it. If you focus on what others think you should do/be then you're never going to be happy. Best to just live your life as you want to live it so what if Bob wants to sleep with Alice, or Steve, or noone.