6:17 Wow. Who would be so misguided to say something that mean. Sending that person a hug, too.

@swankivy

6 ай бұрын

Right? "YOU being part of a group would make them less legitimate." Who frigging says that??

Happy New Year! I needed this video, I'm asexual and I was pretty involved in the ace community (both online and off) in my teens/early 20s, but now that I'm in my 30s I've sort of stepped back from that and have mostly just been living my life, and been much more circumspect about coming out, and I feel kinda bad about it, like I've abandoned the community or something. But I haven't in my heart, I've just been kinda flying under the radar. So it's nice to hear some validation for that. 💜

@swankivy

6 ай бұрын

I relate to this! I was much more active on my blog with ace stuff ten years ago, but nowadays the only ace stuff I do is respond to interviews when I'm asked and make a video for this channel once a month. Sometimes I feel like I should do more, and other times I feel like I kind of did my thing already and it's time to let new voices have the spotlight, but it's not an either/or situation, so sometimes I think about whether more contributions would be helpful. I guess on some level I've wanted to just "be an ace person" without being in activist mode all the time for a while.

@TimeandMonotony

6 ай бұрын

@@swankivy You deserve it! You've done so much for the community!

I have never formally come out. I have always told people I wasn't interested in things like that. Interestingly, my mom never had a problem with it UNTIL I started calling myself asexual. Now, I have no problem using the term to English speakers. I am lucky, that very few people in my daily life have a problem with it. Explaining it to non- English speakers (read scammers) is a pain. I still explain I am not interested and why but, It is STILL a pain. The only reason I let it go on as far as it does is if they are spending time talking to me that means less people for the scammer to scam.

The channel delivers! I love it so much

I will only share my asexuality with people that I feel would understand it. That is not foolproof either because there's plenty of lgbtqia+ people that are still aphobic. I have met plenty of wonderful queer ace allies though. There are also a lot of people in my life who don't take me seriously for the way I live my life. Telling those people about asexuality won't change anything. So I'm happily openly ace but only with the cool people.

@swankivy

6 ай бұрын

Legit. And you're right that there are many people you'd think would be cool to talk to about it who actually aren't. No point in insisting on talking to people who have made a point of not listening!

Good to see you swankivy love you're intelligent channel you're are a fun person iam asexual and aromantic channels like yours is the only connection i have in ths oversexualised world

I’m going to be meeting a guy I used to hang out with back in high school. I honestly can’t remember anything about him other than that he was always trying to have sex with as many girls as possible. I’m hoping our conversation doesn’t devolve into a discussion about his “conquests” from the past 40 years because I really don’t want to talk about that subject My knowledge of my sexuality has grown so much since then and I’m not sure I want to explain it all to him. I’m hoping he’s grown too.

@swankivy

6 ай бұрын

Oh, I hope it goes well. Never very nice to compare experiences and find that a person has a different measure of success than you do and is going to judge you for it. Here's hoping he's matured.

@RobAGabor

6 ай бұрын

@@swankivyIt went about as well as possible. The subject didn't really come up. The roles are kind of reversed now. He's found Jesus and I'm an Atheist now. He asked me why I was an Atheist (by asking me if God had gone away), and I wanted to say something really profound and movie quote-ish like, "What I thought was Catholicism, was really my ace-ness." But I didn't, because our other fan pretty stepped in and said he didn't think we should talk about religion.