Letters to an Asexual

This is #110 of a series in which I read correspondence between me and people who have questions, comments, or--more often--misconceptions about asexuality. In this video, I discuss the importance of acknowledging that though sexual dysfunctions and psychological issues surrounding sex are not asexuality, they also DO exist.

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  • @Roadent1241
    @Roadent12415 ай бұрын

    Small correction, I believe (and I can't remember if I've said this before) - I understood recently that the 1% thing comes from a UK study. 1% of the UK is ace. We're tiny. I wonder how big that number actually is then if we consider every other place in the world. I wonder how much of America is Ace XD

  • @swankivy

    @swankivy

    5 ай бұрын

    Not sure how that's a correction on anything I said though--I know where the first study came from (made reference to it in my book a good decade ago). The 1% is a very generalized figure that people have been quoting for a long time (and of course it makes a lot of assumptions that the initially surveyed population is representative, which it may not be), but Anthony Bogaert kicked off his research in Canada and the USA based on that initial number and wanting to study the group that showed up in that UK study. Other research that builds on those numbers still ballparks at 1%, though of course that expands a little if you also broaden the definition to include people anywhere on the ace spectrum.

  • @Roadent1241

    @Roadent1241

    5 ай бұрын

    @@swankivy It's a correction on the 1% thing and I thought I should bring it up that it was the UK study only that was the 1% but it was labelled as worldwide, to my understanding. So for this long we've thought that was the entire world and it doesn't make sense, there can't be that few? Especially not with several new rounds of generations since. I've met more ace people than deal people and deafness should be a higher percentage. Unless they're all behind a portal somewhere XD

  • @swankivy

    @swankivy

    5 ай бұрын

    @@Roadent1241 I'm not sure who you're saying labeled it as if the study was worldwide--since I saw the statistic, I've seen it both acknowledged that it originally came from a UK study (with only 18,000 people) and that we're generalizing when we assume that number applies to other populations. I don't think it's a misrepresentation to use that number. If there's a reason to go in depth enough to quote the source, I've always pointed out where it came from.

  • @Roadent1241

    @Roadent1241

    5 ай бұрын

    @@swankivy I understood it was labelled as worldwide/the entire population of earth since it's not been called 'the 1% of the UK'. Only saw that was the possible correction recently which makes me wonder what the overall number actually is, just slept lots since so I can't remember what name was attached.

  • @lesedintuli340
    @lesedintuli3405 ай бұрын

    Sexuality is mostly an internal discovery,people just act like sexuality is a body thing or something that you should physically explore all the time in order to truly know yourself.We really need to redefine what sexuality is.Hopefully in the future the study of asexuality will become better

  • @swankivy

    @swankivy

    5 ай бұрын

    I think you're right here. I've been told stuff like that asexual romantic people should "figure your situation out before you try to date people!" but like . . . how are you supposed to just figure it out without existing in the world and interacting the way you've been told you should want to? It's not just a thing you figure out alone in your head. Thinking and talking to others is necessary for certain kinds of understanding. People expect "figuring out" our sexuality to look similar to the way other people do, when in fact when we try to figure it out the way they do, we mostly get more questions than answers.