Have you been dissociating from reality? If yes, in what aspects?

@JamesSmith-xq4us

3 жыл бұрын

I dissociate but i always felt it was trauma induced.

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

Can very well be...still always worth looking into...it‘s pain you keep caring with you.

@JamesSmith-xq4us

3 жыл бұрын

Yes I was tricked back in the day to smoke what i thought was marijuana but was acctuly a hallucinogenic and i expeircend dissociation ever since that day developed cognitive issues as well. Im getting treatment its been a rough road but infjs are looked at certain ways in culture i belive

@lindateuling7862

3 жыл бұрын

I'm older now, and I have worked a long time on designing a life. But I remember what it was like feeling disassociated. Believe me, it's better now.

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

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The older I get the harder I realise life is, because I have to live with the consequences of my past disassociation from my life. This is why MBTI should be taught in schools, especially for INFJs.

I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said, I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully unique sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So lts break some myths about INFJ Personalty Types. When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not sttempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass. INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss. Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understand', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves. Why does a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this behavior. Everyone deals with stress differently. Some people become acholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed. INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane. INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situations. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows. INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries? INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. However, if they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they lie to protect that person's feelings. INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment and making mistakes. INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice, then completely ignore their recommendations. They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriendl' button on Facebook. INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in. Do not mistake a INJ's confidence as egocentrism. There is a difference. INFJ hate themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase, 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves. The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's care more about other people than themselves which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (2) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. They are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer. It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group. The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a psychiatrist disorder rather than a Personality dysfunction). INFJ's are not prone violent behavior. The good news is they give up easily, This is where the Door Slam or simply walking away from a argument comes from. If a INFJ loves you, be prepared for lengthy romantic rituals. Box's of candy, flowers, poems, lovely e-cards, teddy bears and such. But be careful. A INFJ understands how to manipulate situations to their advantage. Including the human heart. Once they reveal their true inner nature however, you will begin to understand why only 2% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are just so dam charming. INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted) INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots' even when there are no dots. Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying. Occasionally, you will notice them acting rather mysterious, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes. Never tell a INFJ they possess a 'Old Soul'. They are terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't want the extra competition or deciding who should run the Universe (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity. That would be considered cruel and unusual punishment. Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials. So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. They are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. I like to think they represent the noblest form of humanity. A personality type which everyone aspires to immulate....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Altruistic and Protective.

I've spent so many years visualising my success and I'm convinced it has been a major factor in me achieving my goals. Even though I've spent so much time dreaming, I've still been able to achieve. My advice is never stop dreaming; saturate your subconscious mind with whatever you want to achieve. The hard work will come naturally to you and in greater quantities often than people with no vision. Right now in life, I'm learning the power of living day to day, in the moment and as I mature as an INFJ I hope I can balance my ability to visualise and strategise with the ability to be present. I truly believe that is when an INFJ is unstoppable, when the visionary becomes a great executor of their plans.

Letting go of the fantasy of being with her was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. But I had to do it for my own happiness, well-being, and my own betterment. Now I'm moving forward and being receptive to meeting other women, instead of being hungup on one that will probably never happen. And if the universe's plan ever brings her and I together in the future, then so be it, that would make me very happy. But for now, I'm taking my time, energy, and effort, and I'm moving on to better (REAL) things, that will better my life, and make me happy. It literally feels like the weight is no longer sitting on my chest and shoulders. It feels very liberating. 👍🏻 If someone out there is going through the same thing, please do yourself a favor and listen to Wenzes, and take her advice...LET IT GO! It will only bring you pain, heartache, and hindrance to your life. I just went through it, and it sucks. But you HAVE to let it go to better yourself, and in-turn, progress your life. 👍🏻

@mattsequeira8610

3 жыл бұрын

Love this!! Going though the same thing currently - wish you well brother

Everyone has a different life narrative, so each has a different 'reality'. Dissociation in a technical psychological sense is a reaction, either wilful or not, often brought about by trauma of some sort. This kind of disassociation as a natural survival response when in shock, or a situation that requires separation, to stand back from the chaos and see the bigger picture. Being stuck in a unstimulated life and dependant on vicariously living through other people's energy is indeed unhealthy and needs specific motivation to break out of it. One of the difficulties for INFJs is that our default setting is one of seeking harmony and balance - so we don't want to rock the boat unless its for a greater cause - and in so doing we create an expectation with other people, that means we are so blended in its a shock to the social dynamic when we change and tell them that we are moving on. All of which creates tension and discord, which are the 'opposite' of our preferred reality. It is a conundrum. Maybe the better path is one of creativity - so quite literally with purpose, we set out to build from our personal base of understanding our own reality. Having the confidence to make mistakes, but still endeavour to realised (or bring into reality) those forward thinking insights and visions that others just don't see. In other words set out to make our own future. We have the mind to do that, not waste it with other people's displays of self-interest and endless 'being busy' to that end - but which in reality is procrastination and a deferring to someone else's wants and needs.

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

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💜⭐️💜Sometimes it’s best to disassociate. I actually did this most of my life. It was the only means available to me growing up. It can remove you from sadness emotional feeling like grief turmoil. I’m much older now and has been a life journey pulling myself back into reality. In order to heal overcome. Reality is difficult to recognize at times, there is this thin line what is real and what is not. Then u add Spiritually. That blows the mind. Because reality doesn’t make sense….. the world sucks. My thing is why would u want to stay in reality. When imagination is so intriguing. Haha. Raising your vibration above the density of this world allows better insights. I enjoyed the video. Thanks again Wenzes. 💜⭐️💜

I've spent a lot of time away from reality. Going through the motions of life, but not really living it. I've had times where coming home after work was awful. I would have to work up the nerve to go into an empty house. Sometimes I still do. I'm no quitter, but it'd be nice to not care so much sometimes.

Your channel has been a blessing to me. I've discovered toxic things about me (like disassociating from reality) but also good things that I'm learning to embrace. Good bless you and please never stop uploading!!💜💙💜

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

So happy to read that. Thanks so much for your feedback 💜

I am disassociated 24/7

I dedicated from reality bcoz I want to start focusing on my life more without being distracted or worried about things I wish I could change and can't. It's not a good strategy bc now I'm behind on political issues, but it was one of the few ways I could make myself calm

This was a good video. I am at a different point in life than you and most of your viewers I assume. I have spent the last 22 years dumping all of my energy into my family. Trying to be a good example for the kids, taking care of the house when SHTF, fixing cars, etc... Now the kids are moving on and doing well and I have found myself pulling away from life. I want to be alone, I want to be away from everything. I want to rest and not worry about anything anymore. I cannot allow myself to continue to do that. I have to get engaged in life again. Thanks for the video. I hope it will wake me up and get moving again. 👍

Nailed it that its about integrity and finding the boundary between our integrity and reality and expanding our integrity into reality

I’ve never heard something so accurate I was becoming so aware of this happening and then this video popped up, I’m so grateful.

I am so overwhelmed. Never imagined this will be the point of the title. It is 100% accurate in me and it was like a large brick hitting suddenly right before my head. Thank you so much for the best reminder but it is at some point reality is so hard. I know I need to relate to others to lift up my burdens but I am too reserved which become a burden. Change in me needs time and so accepting my reality. Of course, your videos are my stepping stones.

It took me a long time to realize those annoying little process that exist in life help develop your vision for the future you imagine. It’s like watering a flower everyday and watching it grow.

Focus on your past instead of your future. Remind yourself of the past and the presences separate action form emotion. Figure out all your emotions was just (I) and admit to yourself both soul (s) emotionally equal throughout your whole relationship together❤️❤️☯️ we only know our emotions from our parents (experiencing something over and over most definitely non-emotional) that torture Within

Haha Wenzes in my culture, a backhanded raised hand gesture is a sign that someone is about to get slapped! Got a good chuckle this morning seeing the feature pic for this video :)

These videos seriously bring out things that I go through 😔.. Really insightful.. Thanks

This video gave me chills. Thank you

Thanks so much Wenzes for posting this! I think you hit the nail on the head with this for me. I've been stuck in what people think is a great job but I'm totally bored (detail oriented, not connected to bigger picture) and when I search for other jobs I keep imagining how awesome those other jobs must be, but it's perhaps gonna be like Suits! My personal life is not moving forward either. I find myself feeling stuck in a rut, without the energy nor drive to carry out plans to improve my situation, and not wanting to think too much about how I am truly feeling because it hurts. This is super insightful.. thanks so much!!

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it was helpful 😊 it really is a step by step process and in the beginning it feels like ‚not worth it‘...but it definitely is. Aim for growth in all of those aspects. Go on more dates, meet new friends, work on your boundaries...lose in the fear and if the job isn‘t fun at least go for something that pays more but is just as boring ☺️...it‘s not the end result. The point is to teach your mind to go for incremental upgrades and before you know it you are working something that you love that also pays well...same thinf with the personal life

This whole video resonates with me. I have completely dissociated from reality, which is y I am not where I want to be after all this years of no growth.

Thank you for seeing how to overcome all of the trials in life which have given the insight needed to be able to explain so many things to us which are in the tip of our tongue. If only we knew the right words to express it. You give me those right words and lead me to a new place where I can find my own right words. So grateful for you and your journey. It’s a beautiful struggle, Wenzes. Love you bunches!

Thank you Wenzes, always on point. Actually reality together with our imagination can bring great results and that can be our strength - but if we don't look at reality and don't take real world actions, imagination can will a curse. What is also important - we have to believe that we have that strength to reshape our reality and we don't have to look for someone who will do that for us.

You are the most articulate person i know. Wonderful.

Uhm...you just summarized my entire life during the corona lockdown/quarantene 😂 Boy, in that time I was dissociating so extremely hard. Fortunately, I finally got out of it (or my family helped me getting out of it) and I'm feeling much better now 😍😍

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

👍👍😊

Recently I literally RAN to my room from the kitchen when the elderly people I live with got home 😅:') I love them but they are (especially the male) are so loud and soooo don't know me and tbh I dont want to share and inteact! I'm just doing my best to learn about facing reality and being eith the situation I'm in. :)

This video shook me to the core… I literally broke down and cried when I realized how much of my life has been spent this way. Especially when I realized how accurate your description of how to get out of that place is. I had to work really hard to integrate the real world into my life. When I did the first time, I failed to acknowledge my dark side and so I got addicted to the outdoors and continued destroying relationships and burning bridges. It wasn’t until recently I realized that I just need to show people I am good person to break the feedback loop between my own being overly blunt in the se grip and peoples perception of that behavior leading me to be an even bigger and bigger A-hole as time went by. The key is to be good in the real world, to publish real works, to help real people, and to spend time with loved ones in the outdoors instead of pushing my body to extremes and burning out.

Wow, I need to watch this one again

Omg I needed this !!! I'm inspired! Baby steps being a key is very validating. Thanks!!

@catheadu

3 жыл бұрын

Realizing that by doing something small towards a fantasy that CAN become a reality a little bit every day (ie fantasizing about becoming a psychologist or a spiritually deep person) can actually give me footing in reality and LIVE that fantasy in all its pain and pleasure is what is inspiring me. I'm currently working really hard to have relationships based in reality but that's the most challenging aspect in my life. I'll be bringing this concept to my next therepy session.

Hearing this helps me so much❤ thank you!!

Exactly how I feel, always hoping, I see the potential in one individual eventually that *self-conscious< Dark Shadow* finds out they snap into a narcissist

Thank you for the video =)

Wow...you call it 100% relatable

Thx for made this video. Interesting, how mind tricked infj to enter fantasy as an alternative reality to escape from real world, I think dissociation from reality also happen for other intutive types, not only infj.

Thank you.

I have done this quite a bit, but never had a name for it

What about the fact that what you imagine can be created and therefore reflected in your reality at a time delay of course?

@Seafox0011

3 жыл бұрын

Yup that's our 'secret sauce'. We have the power to make a new reality. Just learning and knowing how to wield it is the hard work part.

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

That‘s the point...we have to take action to reflect it back in reality...we have to allign to what we want and imagine. If you imagine you have a great job but you are not alligned to it you sit and home and wish for it. If you have the image and allign to it you automatically go and apply for better jobs 👍

@lolapoente6216

3 жыл бұрын

Manifestation

@user-60267

3 жыл бұрын

When I was younger, I used to be so hard on myself for dreaming but having little to show for it. Any books I read on success were adamant about visualising your success so I never stopped doing it. When your subconscious mind clearly knows what you want to achieve, it will give you the drive and energy to make it a reality and that's exactly what happened. Dream big, believe in yourself and do whatever little you can do today. It will happen for you.

Have I been dissociating from reality ? In what aspects ? I have dissociated from reality on a few occasions before. Example: Frustrating day at work, I drive home, then I retreat to my own personal garage, turn on some music, and do some more work to my hot rod truck project. Working off the negative energy and accomplishing something good keeps me out of trouble. Normally, the "reality" I am escaping from is dealing with difficult people of whom are either discipline problems, or have issues that I am not geared to deal with. Mental exhaustion drains me more than physical exhaustion. So, I recharge. I like being single and having a home in the country all to myself. 😎

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

I wouldn’t call that dissociating...you are recharging your batteries, no problem with that 😊 just consider if you can use your energy to change some of those relationship dynamics so they don‘t drain you anymore in the future.

@mr.goodwrench8273

3 жыл бұрын

@@Wenzes Yes, you're right and I'm sorry I misunderstood that. Thanks for the advice. I appreciate you and what you do.

Hair fleek af

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

😉👍

I agree that living in mind makes us happy but do not make us move forward like i failed 11th grade and live in my mind whole year and failed it again😅

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

We do as well as we can...when we know better, we do better 😉👍

Me and Sarah are just alike we grew up together and we do the same thing.

Have you ever read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance? He talks about the Classic/Romantic split - we have an apriori romantic idea of a motorcycle and then there is the classic reality of spark plugs and pistons etc. that are the reality of what it really is. Great book. I’m guessing, in hindsight, that Robert Pirsig was an INFJ. (Might be time to escape reality for a bit and reread it.). 🤷‍♂️

my 24/7...

we are good at focusing while escaping and that can be good or not.

Like I said so see yall.

Do you have a video for INFJs on grieving?

Or maybe escape deep into reality. All in, hardcore. I know i cant help everyone. I find most people dont want help. I would love to go back to "gone fishing".... maybe Jan 20th ill go back to healthy escape and daydream. Or, im not arguing just trying to make sense of all this insanity...lot to think about, Wenzes

I've tried to stop using headphones at the gym for like a week(4 sessions), but I'm just back to them, I don't know if it's because it's boring otherwise or I don't want people to interact with me? I used to train for years without headphones and didn't make any friends at the gym anyway so I don't see how that's changed because I now wear headphones, although I wonder sometimes if people would approach me if I didn't wear them. I always try something new to bring my focus back on the reality, god I wish reality wasn't so boring at times, lol, gotta change that soon!

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

It‘s a step by step process 👍 stay in the boring reality and continue to make it better...music in the gym though I totally understand 😊

@lolapoente6216

3 жыл бұрын

I always wear earbugs but its because its boring

Did you think infjs can go to mit? Because in order to do that they have to think like they are the best and can think of best of all because they want self confidence as well as motivation for that.

Would my wife who is an INFJ leaving me be an example of this? I’m lost mentally because she’s leaving me and I can’t understand it.

It takes me a really long time to accept really bad news and react sometimes on a random day or weeks later. Is that dissociating?

infj is no longer the rarist personality ..