Do you have problems quieting your mind and relaxing deeply or do you always have something you are worried about?!

@eneopopa3145

3 жыл бұрын

Yep my mind never stop to think about something the most about ideas I think that this is a great thing beacuse i can turn off my brain just to watch some funny videos memest etc To be an INFJ is amazing And i have an idea to show to my class a subject that school need to add that is more important than anything its to learn Value The Value its a subject that can solve almost any problem Wenz pls can u give me some advice is this a good idea? Thanks so much for your videos they are helping to becomea better version of myself :D

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

@@jackiekittie6135 Because I record the video much earlier and add the first comment once I upload it...why would it be any different?

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

Sorry, I am so in my youtube creator mode I forgot that most people are not aware that you can upload a video as unlisted or private before publishing it.

@simovtransportmedia1137

3 жыл бұрын

Great INFJ visions I know that story. I ask myself can I count my canceled projects.

@lindateuling7862

3 жыл бұрын

As I listen to this, I'm working on an art project and this video will give me some real food for thought 🤔- namely, how working on art can help me with mobilizing my SE.

I finally found my inner peace when I completely surrendered to God's plan and timing for my life. I used to be soooo stressed out and bitter when things were not happening according to my plans and schedule. I also learned to find the lessons in my failures and setbacks and use them to build and strengthen myself going forward. Once I started using my adversities to my advantage my life transformed! Thank you for this video 💖

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏 you fot this!!! 😊👍

People have described me as really tense and to some extent I'm always thinking I have to prepare more and work harder to prepare for or avoid bad things from happening. I always thought rest was a privilege only allowed to other people, not myself.

Ok. I just cried. Thank you for explaining myself to myself. I can never just sit still. My mind is ALWAYS going. Now I understand why. Goals...goals.

When I stopped comparing my life to other people's lives, stopped worrying about what they thought about me, and what all they have that I don't, I found inner-peace and was finally able to chill. I am who I am...A work in-progress. Either accept me, or don't. I still want those same things...No debt, a new house, a good wife, a family, etc... But I don't let it control every aspect of my thoughts and I try not to dwell on not having those things anymore. I'm much more happy now, because I know it's all part of God's divine timing. He has a plan for me (as for each of us), and it will happen when it will happen. Maybe I was meant to go through all that shit as a lesson to be learned, so I could really find myself in the process. Not everything bad that happens to us, is done out of hate, most of which is done out of love, for us to learn lessons from. Take that advice how you will, but it's coming from someone who spent close to 2 decades making the same mistakes OVER and OVER and OVER again, and is still working on finally breaking the cycle for good. 👍🏻

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

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@Coneman3

3 жыл бұрын

I just had the thought that all the shut us INFJs go through, while obvs unpleasant, is character building as I feel we never give up. The shit gives us great insights into other people’s motives and what life is about etc etc.

@Iamgemsthevessle

Жыл бұрын

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Never compare yourself to anyone else, ever.

we must overcome the real challenges of life in order to relax

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

One of them being that we realize that we are good enough and allow ourselves to rest NOW and regain strength for the next step and not one day when we feel like we are ‚good enough‘

@user-zf8bq2fq3j

3 жыл бұрын

I've always felt not good enough even though others think I'm great. Always felt short.

🤩🤩🤩 your coaching always validates and challenges me (simultaneously)! That’s why I keep watching ❤️. Thank you.

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

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NAILED IT ☺️ kiddo I'm an 67 yr old, but still in my 20's I can't grow up.. that's why it's hard to be myself around ppl... WEIRD HUH? Anyway all my life I've been on pins and needles. I think cutting back on coffee might help. Hah good video ☺️👍

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

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First thank you for this video because it allows me to vent a little and to get much validation and I will never thank you enough for that Wenzes. My mother became the scapegoat of the community because of my "father" because my "father" sent her to a psy ward in order to get the custody of the children and of course, my "father" scapegoated me, identifying me to my mother I started losing at the age 5 years old. Let's just say that too many people to my personal taste are at best unkind, at worst psychopaths with suit and tie/ or costume and yes, I've dealt with 2 of them and I'm trained as a psychologist. As a result, I want the psy wards closed because I know what they have done to my mother. I try to find my way to like this life and trust me, my mind never stops working in order to solve the main problems in my life not caused by me even though I take all the control that I can get to transform my life and this is not my only channel. I don't feel I succeed yet since I am not working as a psychologist yet.

Beautiful message - thank you for this!

This literally brought me to tears... its so frustrating and this shed so much light onto this issue.

I’m living in my purpose. And today is a day off. I’m not using a to-do list on purpose. And it feels strange.

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

Practice makes perfect 😉👍 allow yourself the rest day so you have enough power to tap into it again

I love this video you spoke to me on this one with us infjs we take things one step at a time because we want go get it right and with that once we put our on whatever a goal or challenge we want to achieve we're going full throttle for it like you said when you was swimming when you was younger you was the one that had to catch up cause you had to take yo time for you to able to understand the process and with us infjs that's what we do taking one step at a time until we realize we got it as long as you continue to push forward and stand ten toes down and constantly humble throughout everything in life you'll be okay

So insightful. 👏👍

Thank you!! You have helped me make sense of my entire psyche and it has saved me from feeling like an insane person (no exaggeration)

What my present moment feels like it was kind of scary cause you had the right words to describe it. My heart is always like move in life learn constantly explore and i always make it outside of myself so i feel the obligation is spiritual and if i aint doing something im failing gods purpose for my life in someway or another even with the words i speak very cautious but when i have moments of being a sailormouth i feel regret and that ball of energy we feel becomes adapt now or suffer.

@JamesSmith-xq4us

3 жыл бұрын

Constant paradigm shifts this feels or you fall into the weight evolving at fast rates so it feels you can't relax

This really resonated with me, especially today! Earlier I was having difficulties quieting my mind. I was having troubles O'Reilly emotional state. I just felt ...like I should be doing more.no didn't feel fulfilled and couldn't relax. I thought it was because I didn't work out at the gym. I intentionally took a rest day from the gym because my body has been telling me it is tired. And I have two tough workouts upcoming. This video gave me much to consider and implement! Thank you!! I will rewatch because I think I missed a few things on the first viewing.

Oh my gosh this frustration I remember feeling it intensely when I ran cross country. I kept having doubts about the previous season and I'm just like I hardly improved. Can I really improve come spring doing the same thing the answer was no. I felt like I needed more endurance, strength training, and more stretching/drills.... something we simply rushed through. It's so strange yes i was putting in more time going slower (I'm like i can easily be pushing myself at faster pace) but it was that return to basics that ended up making me feel for once at peace with myself. I no longer left practice like I "should be doing more" "is this enough". Sorry long rant but i gotta try to flex my Fe :).

Powerful and very much needed for me to hear.

Couldn't have sai it better. Thanks, it makes a whole lotta sense! Peace.

Thank you for this video xx🙏🙏💝

This is so helpful and true.

Thank you for your videos 🙏🏻

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

You‘re welcome 👍😊

I want to give this multiple thumbs up.

Waw.. this one really hit home. As always 💌

Thank you!

Thank you! It helps a lot. About how to achieve my goals! 🤗

I just realized that I am INFJ FER SURE! It's been an ongoing question with in myself for couple years now.? Very helpful video!!! I would greatly appreciate some direction towards finding out more on this as it directly relates to me.?!

Thank you very much for the video.

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

You‘re welcome 👍😊

This helped a lot

Looking at my INFJ girlfriend sleeping all day on the sofa...

I am currently trying to make my vision a reality and this video couldn't have shown up in my recommended at a better time.

really nicely explained!

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

Glad it resonated 😊👍

Thank you 🙏 💞🎶

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

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No.we don't relax ...never ...we can't stop thinking either .. planning we Re just always so busy... My Dr. Sent me to undergo sleep therapy for 5 days ... He does that to me at least 4 times per year..... Thank you for your VC's I appreciate it so much ..

Amazing video!!! I really struggled to understand what's happening to me when it comes to working hard... and I was living in guilt because of it.

Is the child in the pic you Wenzes? So cute ☺️ Thanks as always for the great advice! 👍🏾

When I was younger, I could easily relax. Then, a few years ago, I kept getting so utterly ignored and misunderstood that I would worry all the time. After learning that I am an INFJ and learning what I have to do for myself, the only things that keep me up now is all the things I want to do that will make me happy and hopefully make the money that the rest of my family is so worried about.

You just blasted me

Sitting on my couch watching Wenze' on KZread.....😁 But relatable! Interesting.

Thanks Wenzes don't let your Pass cross your future😘

Thank GOD for inner peace, I can actually turn off that voice, HALILUYA!!

Merlot works!!

As always, thank you for great video. It is well timed after working so hard all summer long on getting the school buses ready for the first day back full swing tomorrow. Do I have problems quieting my mind and relaxing deeply or do I always have something I am worried about ? ! Actually both. It takes a little while for me to quiet my mind and relax deeply due to me replaying and reviewing in my mind what I have either said and or accomplished during my work day. As far as me worrying about something, that doesn't take place that often. yet when I do worry, it's after a tough day and normally after dealing with difficult people at work. I am tough on myself to get it all right the first time which is why I spend enough time both thinking things through, then accomplish the tasks properly. There's an old phrase that carpenters have used a lot "Measure twice, and cut once".

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

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What do I do if my partner really honestly needs me to move fast? What if he needs me to move at a level of at least 7 or 8? How do I do this? It's tearing me apart...

Havent slept 2 nights this time...im hoping on Jan 20th.....maybe ill be able to get 2 or 3 hour nap

Interesting...okay so, if FE and NI comes so natural to INFJs, why don't we conciously focus on developing our SE then? I wonder is it exhausting because there are many fears I have to overcome in that aspect or it's not who I truly am or I don't know? Can you imagine a world where SE becomes as good as the other functions? I still remember and I will never forget, I don't know how it happened, maybe through meditation, but I remember one day at work at 2pm I just realised I was completely in the present moment since morning til 2pm thinking: "omg, I've been focusing on the NOW and all details and completing task by task instead of reflecting, thinking and all that we INFJs do!" I believe this is what Eckhart Tolle advises on doing in his book "The power of now"...I bet my ass he is an INFJ, hehe, biased! Thanks for another great video, ah I rarely comment, but when I do, I mean it, they help keep `em coming!

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

I also think Eckhart Tolle is an INFJ. I don‘t think SE will ever be as strong as the higher functions but it doesn’t have to be...but if we want to live a fulfilled life it is necessary to learn step by step how to tap into it so we have a feeling we are makinf progress. That in itself creates a feeling of fulfillment

@meowtank

3 жыл бұрын

I heard that there is a similar pattern between INFJs, but it is probably more applicable to unhealthier or more unbalanced INFJs. I see all the minuscule steps involved in a process as I'm doing it and I get annoyed or tired before I even do them. Everything has a process which creates more problems that I have to exert more energy to solve in order to get to the real problem, and I don't have a problem dealing with the trials and tribulations but sometimes it is mentally and/or physically exhausting me before I even reach the real problem/work that I had set out to do in the first place. I'm not a lazy person, I will do what is necessary even if there are no shortcuts, and I don't complain, but at times it is daunting to see how long it will take just to get to what I wanted to exert my energy on. I am a perfectionist in my work as well, and I hardly take breaks because I just want to get stuff done. On several occasions I've gone 9+ hours straight working on something, or solving preliminary problems and errors. Sometimes there are tons of roadblocks that I wasted my energy on and I end up losing all of my energy, focus, and care, and I'm not even close to the goal which was supposed to be where I put my energy into. It's the worst, and I'm constantly told to suck it up or accept that I'm just being lazy. I'm working on my Se but I have been neglecting it for years since I have been so lost for all that time. I only discovered and researched MBTI this summer to now. Maybe you're onto something with not thinking, and just being in the moment. That might help to conserve energy and make things faster. This might be hard to do if you're still learning something for the first time though, such as a new task at work.

@serban2139

3 жыл бұрын

@@meowtank that's literally what happened at work, im trying to convince my co workers that the new project is pointless but im still being told to do it, I have overall energy, but not for this one because ive connected all the dots already and its not gonna work... Lets just wait and see how it will turn out, but I don't have energy to do my work properly or you could say "I am lazy". I am not, you said it yourself, sometimes we are the exact opposite of lazy, but idk if its all INFJs, I need meaning behind it and knowing that whatever I do will lead to something or somewhere, I'm extremely productive if that's the case... Otherwise, I am lazy, as they say. I don't even take it to heart anymore, being lazy u see... BUT c'est la vie and its reality sometimes is that we need to do things that seem pointless from a big picture perspective and BEING in the NOW is definitely what helps to deal with this. Let's enjoy the experience as it is even though the outcome will be negative, pointless and whatnot.. Most of the times, we are right, but that doesn't make me happy... I want to be happy, not right.

@meowtank

3 жыл бұрын

@@serban2139 "I need meaning behind it" Agreed. Those 9+ hour work on projects at home, and the physical work at my day job required something I cared about to keep going; food, goals, love, something crazy I made up in my mind, anything I really cared about. Although food and goals didn't work as well, I had my own little tricks to go alongside them.

I agree and not agree with you, because I am primarly an NiTi Dominant, I go NiTi then Si so I got some precise knowledge then after a certain mastery I go Se (experiencing and living and dealing with the Qeos).

@Wenzes

3 жыл бұрын

Tapping into SE will help you either way...but not as in ‚go work out‘ but use your visions and make them a reality. Don‘t let them stay in your mind just because you are ‚even more‘ dominant in that regard...it won‘t change your personality it will just make you feel more fulfilled

@elmehdisaniss2731

3 жыл бұрын

@@Wenzes Thanks, I'll try more.

Haha we so ancy

they can't chill because they're too hot...lol...Cheers!!!

I dont know how to chill. Looks stressful. To be honest. I spelled tbh out because im older than earth. :)

@christopherj5780

3 жыл бұрын

Emoticon intentional.

@divina3814

3 жыл бұрын

I don't know how to chill either, but one day, I actually planned it, like in a "To-Do List". It's easier if it's intentional. The absolute worst is when I had plans, and they cancel last minute. For the rest of the day I feel like no matter what I do, it's wrong, confusing and all over the place with no structure.