Hey PSYCH-Os!👋 *Do you think others see you as intimidating, as an INFJ man?* Comment down below 👇

I feel that only inauthentic people are intimidated by me. I'm pretty easy going so if you see me being aggressive, rest assured the person deserves it. I still feel like crap after an argument.

@Zohar333

Жыл бұрын

Saw a vid on the INFJ Supernova the other day that goes in a little detail about the "why" we feel like crap after an argument and it has a lot to do with the negative emotions we need to take in and process from the other party and how even after winning an argument, we can lose sense of self because we are still parsing the feelings out. There's also a burning desire to be understood at the core of every argument and the feeling that despite winning an argument, if the other person fails to come around the victory feels hollow.

@SilverRiMiX

Жыл бұрын

@@Zohar333 Yeah I feel like crap afterwards because I know it could've been avoided, and I should've done better.

Maybe we INFJ should just stick to one another, yet we are the 1% and live under rocks 😂 with WiFi

@PSYCH-O

2 жыл бұрын

Haha I guess we'll have to stick to comment sections and forums 😅

@najiabushibba8963

2 жыл бұрын

On point 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

@marquishabarnett4598

2 жыл бұрын

Stop lol 😂

@sungodra999

Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@jacobreanimated9592

Жыл бұрын

Definitely

I find a lot of people are intimidated with my authenticity. It scares them away - being on the introverted side, the latter suits me! As far as your question about making me angry; it takes a lot to do that, but if you seriously want to push my buttons, then you best prepare yourself to loose any fight you care to mention, as you will find me not just intimidating, but formidable, with it.

@PSYCH-O

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@darrenparkes9805

Жыл бұрын

Yes, it’s all so true

@jasonstrong9974

Жыл бұрын

yep it takes a lot but when it happens run. buildings walls and doors will come down

@SolomonSage

Жыл бұрын

Maybe you should try blowing them kisses. I tried that once people actually blew me kisses back. Witch was surprising I did not expect it.

The energy we put off is something that's really prominent in my experiences. Women tend to be drawn to me more easily because of that energy, and men notice it too. Confident men are drawn to me and see me as someone they can trust as well as somebody not like most others (in a good way). Insecure men and women end up being the ones who feel intimidated. Very insecure women will take my authenticity as manipulation or deception. Thankfully I'm good at spotting and avoiding those types of people - not perfect at it, sadly, but close. Quick tangent aside, Idk why exactly, but I feel my energy has become "stronger" with age. Or maybe I'm just better noticing the ways it affects my day-to-day life.

Being an INFJ I don’t end up in the friend zone, I end up with women wanting to be FWB with me. It leaves me often feeling used.

@brentanthony6038

Жыл бұрын

Same. This video failed to mention that INFJs are both demisexuals and sapiosexuals. This leads us to the predicament you mentioned.

@_Paul_N

3 ай бұрын

THIS! I’ve never had a long-term loving relationship that’s meaningful with purpose. We’re too deep and intense and it starts off amazing and than the other person can’t handle it anymore. Our aura, spiritual energy, and authentic selves scares people, especially if they’re insecure. FWB has honestly been my peak in relationships at the young ripe age of 35 and it happens a lot. It’s tiring because sex isn’t the end all be all and it’s nothing to brag/boast about. You’re dedicating your precious energy to someone else that doesn’t deserve it so they can get a quick fix at satisfaction and were left empty. You’re correct!!

Being honest and eventually calling out BS, regardless of who you are has caused a lot of problems.

Recently at work, I was in my "zone" I was hyper focused on my job, then I was told that I had to switch assignments with another employee. I was nearly done with my work, she hadn't even started on hers. I ended up doing 1 1/2 times more work. Then she had the nerve to complain about how busy her day was! I ran into our office, slammed the door and let out a load of obscenities that weren't even in the dictionary. I quickly apologized for it, but I was still written up for it. My first experience with INFJ rage. Nothing g was even said about my coworker sitting and talking while I was doing her job. I actually think that was set up.

@sirdopaminesjournal3292

Жыл бұрын

I think you let her run over you. I think you held in the anger for so long, without a release valve, that you blew up.

@ActuallyZee

Жыл бұрын

says there is a reply but cant see it....

@charlestiraco8634

2 ай бұрын

GI Joe, A real American hero! GI Joe is theeeerrrrre! I just watched an INFJ video pointing out that we like to listen to little known music. The old Transformers/GI Joe music was some of my favorite music ever. Fantastic stuff. And yes, definitely INFJ rage. Been there.

Of course we prefer talking to women... what else 😎😎😎 We turbulent INFJs are not so very laid back, though. Yeah, "what's the catch?"... this behavior of ours leaves them puzzled, seen it many times, it would never occur to them to do the same, they tend to presuppose that something is fishy.

@jimmykeating2029

2 жыл бұрын

You are a 👁 NFJ majority of commenters are not people probably can’t stand you . I totally get what your sayin. I feel the they can’t stand me body language it’s aggravating and causes aggression in narcissist

@BUSHIDO117

2 жыл бұрын

As probably the only other one here I feel ya bro😎

Prime example why this world we live in is sick to its core. We question random acts of kidness with distrust.

This is the video i have been waiting for a lifetime. I intimidate all my male family members.

@PSYCH-O

2 жыл бұрын

🙏

Absolutely true 😊 Especially #1, #3, #7 I have more female friends than male 😀.

@PSYCH-O

2 жыл бұрын

Haha that's awesome, thanks for watching!! 😊

@najae084_

2 жыл бұрын

Same same

@jasonstrong9974

Жыл бұрын

all my friends are female

As a male INFJ, I get along much better with women than men.

I hope you will take time to make mention of gay INFJ males, as well. We exist and certainly have our own stories and experiences. I have so many experiences where I feel like I am intimidating other gay men, when I begin to unfurl, so to speak. That certainly isn’t because I’m a “ladies man”! Just another angle to consider in the kaleidoscopic array of relational dynamics. As a preliminary explanation, I do believe that, at a more fundamental level than sexual orientation, other men can be intimidated by INFJ males (perhaps particularly by assertive types, like myself) because they fear intimacy and have been trained to feel secure in themselves only when they feel they have leverage over the other person in the relational dynamic. Of course, they feel too “seen” for that to be possible with well-adjusted, assertive INFJ males. Weirdly enough, this has been far more of an issue for me with gay males than straight ones. I think part of the reason for this is because straight males subconsciously categorize me as a non-man (some ambiguous category closer to “woman” than “man”), which doesn’t threaten their leverage in their own minds. Because I am this “non-man”, my insights and behavior can be attributed to my nature and eccentricities (which are not “manly” like theirs), more so than a play for dominance or leverage over the other. Maybe almost like an asexual shaman, if that makes sense. Fascinating!

@richardoliver8174

Жыл бұрын

I’m straight, so I didn’t think about that perspective until I read your comment and I agree with you 100%

@Leviathan-jm7lm

Жыл бұрын

Im gay as well and other gay men find me intense lol. I find that I have a clear, direct form of communication and call out bs when I sense it haha.

@aaronthacker8209

Жыл бұрын

@@Leviathan-jm7lm I can understand! My best friend is an INTJ-A, and he is precisely the same way. I am direct in my own way, but probably more like a combination of Varys (GoT), Mr. Miyagi, and goofy Yoda (Dagobah).

@Leviathan-jm7lm

Жыл бұрын

Interesting, I am INFJ-A. I would say I am like a way less intense judge judy bc I try not to hurt feelings but say what I think/feel lmao. I have been called "cold" and "hard to read" by romantic partners. XD but im also an Aquarius sun and rising with Gemini moon🤷‍♂️ its rough out here.

@aaronthacker8209

Жыл бұрын

@@Leviathan-jm7lm I am also an INFJ-A. Only about a third of INFJs are, I think. Both of my sisters are INFJ-T’s. I also strive to be as honest and authentic as I can be, and since most people aren’t consciously attending to that, regardless of the context, I think many don’t know what to make of me. I deeply care about making others feel at ease in themselves though, so I always taper my honesty with as much kindness and attempts to meet people where they are as I can. Alas, I have never been in a relationship, at 36. I’ve found that I am far more willing to bear the weight of understanding another person than the other person typically is of me.

Yeesh as an Infj, I’ve been learning to control my temper since a young age.(My specific environment and condition taught me to learn fast and was always pretty chaotic). But due to my condition I always try to make the best out of the time I have in life(no I’m not dying, but pain has its influence) and probably around the age of 17 I had me a small circle of friends but also some acquaintances. I’m really passionate about a lot and love to observe so when I see someone downplaying the potential a person has I get really upset. (Another thing is as the observer I have a really sharp tongue so even though what I say may be true, when I’m angry it can come out more venomous than I intend it to be) The group of friends I have were slandering someone’s art and basically giving their efforts no credit. And while it wasn’t the best I still saw the potential they had so I spoke up to my friends about it. Tempers got heated fast once I understood that they couldn’t think how I did, so when I was slandered more than I liked as well it got bad when I finally unfiltered myself. Needless to say we all hate arguing and sat down for a talk on understanding each other and resolved the issue and cleared up my inability to tolerate situations as such😭plus we know it could’ve been worse

a month ago i had to work togueter with a coworker-"friend", and he was telling me about her new gf he got at work, and that he never thought of getting with her, and that someday i will get a gf etc etc lol, so yeah body language, tone of voice and words used, he was obviusly lying or felt intimidated by me somehow. then days later i got to see his GF and i told her that he is lying to her, and she said -i knew it!- lol.. he made a mistake trying to talk to me about his loving bs 😂

More female than male friends though, for the most part, they're more acquaintances (partly due to friend zone) and lack of reciprocation. Definitely aware of needing more male friends though because life is better in balance.

@charlestiraco8634

2 ай бұрын

Do you balance the way you eat your food?

Numerous times I feared my angry side. This video I've seen a lot of videos like this. But this one was really close to being spot on. There's only one thing that it was wrong in presenting. And that is that it doesn't matter what gender you are where this capability with everyone the top notch part of it like being able to intrigue the ladies is the same thing with the men and vice versa some people are intrigued some people think you're mysterious something people think at times that you are timid or insane to all spoken or literally hate them because you haven't said a word to them even know you literally hang out in the same location either every weekend or every day for months on and have never said a word to them just quite frankly we had nothing to say to anything that is not of some actual substance of meaning of purpose in reality as you can tell we don't go out and talk to people about what carpet we just bought for us the person is at the house phone oh where'd you get the carpet at all while we bought it up there quite frankly we can drop a person at the drop of a hat and never look back and still care even though it seems like we don't get us in a room alone and some interesting conversation of something substantial or say the something substantial on the other end of the female agenda would get their attracted if we're attracted to him flirting or whatever our best moments and the easiest way and fastest way to get to know us is alone quality time and if you don't go different places you won't see the full range of capabilities we actually have I'm saying we because this video literally described the nature of my habits sorry about anything that's misspelled or a word that shouldn't belong I'm completely I shouldn't have to say that but you know sapiens

We enjoy topics such as dreams, death and the end of the world. Most other men are rather intimated by that. Most people, actually. The funny thing is that people often take me as intimidating and arrogant when I am just being lost in thought and too shy to talk to them.

On point....Great video

I like being misunderstood, gotta confidence a bit but at same time makes me feel lonely because it’s so difficult to open to up fully to someone you care about

I globally agree with the video and I see one thing in my experience that you didn't mentioned, is the perfectionnist side of INFJ, I think that a lot of people are intimidated by me because of that and they fear my judgment

"Welcome back psychos". "Erik, why can't you just let it go"? "Because I'm a psycho". You just got a new subscriber.

I always had more female friends than male ones growing up, but the few male friends I had were true friends. Perhaps I was simply vetting them more harshly, since I knew the female friendships were less stable and one sided. I enjoyed my time around the girls more, but I knew they wouldn't have my back if I needed them.

@jasonstrong9974

Жыл бұрын

i had all female friends. but i could cover my own back.nobody was dumb enough to try it

Woah, very accurate

You want a tale? Here the go. I wouldn't know I was INFJ-A if not for one narcissistic control queen B... I let her fail in the most embarrassing manner possible, while she was using every play in the book to cast a dark light on me. Impireical math be her downfall. Day after day, she made one attempt and another, to call me "lazy." But numbers are real. How dare she afront me without so much as a calculator? I lead her to the stake to burn on the pyre she had built for me, and watched the mental unhinging ensue. Then I questioned, "Why did I do that?" So totally out of character, just wrong to me in some ways. The tube algorithm answered. I took the test. Can you grasp the pain that befell me? This was not the first time I tested infj. Twenty plus years prior I had done the same, and dismissed the result almost entirely. Then came the flood. The ONLY portion of my first test that stood to memory was the two percent. That called recollection. A horrible amalgam of two decades worth of strangely interwoven adjectives, conflicts, accomplishments and isolation. Every box ticked. The entire world had been screaming to me that I am something known, and nearly nonexistent. I don't question these things anymore. If a true infj reads this, keep going. A great many WILL try to tear you down in subverted ways. Respond positively, with logic and righteousness. If at all. Sometimes it's just a cry. Tempt not the child to call, you'll reduce yourself doing so.

Thank you. I even intimidate myself sometimes. My potential anger factor can be deadly. It is a beast that cannot be allowed to roam freely. I have to sit with it, alone, to see why it insists to be active in the times that it wants prominence. I hesitate to give details because of real-life consequences, such as influencing others in the wrong direction.

very true

Yes indeed 👍🏽

@PSYCH-O

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for watching! 🙏

I can agree 👍 to much of this

@PSYCH-O

2 жыл бұрын

Amazing - thanks for the feedback!

This video confirms to me that I am indeed an INFJ because it is all so true! It's simply amazing and unfortunately so is the friend zone with women. Therefore, I differentiate my empathy from that of women. It's just different.

This video gets me.

@charlestiraco8634

2 ай бұрын

You kind of look like me, especially your hair. Nice hair, by the way lol

My bosses have told me Others find me intimidating though I never understood why. And the women I worked with adored me.

Can you do a video regarding infj females? 🙄🥰👀

I feel SO seen

I am an INFJ...why no one is intimidated by me😢

I have been told that I can communicate well with women.

I like being open so I talk about my life but I do not share everything.

Fight Club is a love story. The Narrator is an INFJ.

Too nice hmmmm well I have always thought being kind is a good thing my grandma taught me that at a young age.

@SolomonSage

Жыл бұрын

It doesn't always have to do with selfish gain. I can achieve everything on my own. If I help someone it is because I just wanted to that's all no reason what so ever. Normally when someone says they want to pay me back I say do not worry about it if you really want to pay me back help out another person in need.

@SolomonSage

Жыл бұрын

Yeah I am severely blunt to others when I see something immoral happening. I don't usually step in though I immediately observe and see the causality of my choice to step up and speak up and how it will affect me if the risk is low and I am protected I stand up and deal with it. I agree though I do not hold back when I hear something immoral but some issues are just not my business and you have to let people grow at their own pace.

How old is the average Infj? I don’t meet a lot of people like me and I just turned 20 about 3 months ago

@gorillawhale1046

Жыл бұрын

I'm 25 and I realized I was different at 6

@jasonstrong9974

Жыл бұрын

49 for me. only found out a year ago a female friend had me take the test shes infj to go figure

@rogerfleming6354

Жыл бұрын

INFJ is not something you outgrow. I am 65 and have been INFJ as long as I can remember..at least age 4. I see it in my 4 year old grandson.

An infj man who has done his energy work has his energy down better and you will normally see an infj happy less you lie to or violate our ethics.

This seems to be mostly my experience.

I don't have an angry side. I hard lock, as I like to call it. If you come at me with aggression I will shut down. I turn off all emotion, all perception. It's not fun. And its very disconcerting. But you can't hurt me there, nothing you can do or say to me can hurt me there. Good video, wrong on a few points. Entertaining, nonetheless

I can’t count how many dudes went from jealous of me to obsessed with me and eventually they have to deal with the fact that they’re just gay. As hilarious as that is, when they realize that they’re gay and into me but then remember they’re the gay ones and not me…. 🤯🙀😿 Priceless. EDADIK, ya bunch of Mary’s

Didnt realise any of this. Damn. Sucks to be them... not infjs 👽

Umm a infj has extroverted feeling and the INTJ extroverted thinking sooooooooo

Only thing I say is I personally try too stop my anger getting to far.. either way think twice about me lmao I've had my moments and never ended well haha not proud but what can I do ?!? Just don't take the piss it's simple really

Your right. Very true and correct. Were not arrogant or conceded either.ℹ️💯✅❤️👍🏿👌🏿✝️🙏🏿📖🗡🥷☯️😎

Men absolutely hate me 🤷🤣🤣 I have the scars to prove it I can assure you 🤣the mirror effect kills them 🤣🤍✨️🙏

@SilverRiMiX

Жыл бұрын

Ha! "The mirror effect." Perfect name for it. Too many people see me as a mirror. It's either what they want to see, or the things they hate about themselves. It's their choice if they want to dig deeper past the mirror. Idc, I'll just keep moving forward.

@Jamiereid6166

Жыл бұрын

@@SilverRiMiX This is the best way , do our own thing nd I keep GUYZ at a distance lol ✌️✨

Honestly my last job yeah and basically anytime I feel like I'm being trapped in some type of strange box 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤌