Words mean things. Its dangerous for men to move into female communication because business and providing world dont work that way at all. Stay masculine brothas

@afrotraveller3768

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! its important we do not deviate. This is how we ended up with this disfunctional society.

@cgaskin00

2 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate being impeccable with my speech. As a woman, I find it to be the best way to communicate. I just need to work with my bf who gets annoyed with me for this. If I make an effort to think before I speak so that I'm clear, I expect him to do the same. He just gets mad at me and says that it shouldn't matter what he says, and that I'm trying to control and censor him. I find this very frustrating.

I think this is one of, if not, the BEST video I’ve seen you make. The accuracy is Exact in regards to how a truly Feminine Female and a truly Masculine Male typically communicate with each other. Excellent work!

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! That means a lot coming from another sister!🙏🏾

Men take things literally and are precise vocally because in the masculine world the wrong word can be fatal and could be taken as an offense. People can get hurt in the masculine world if disrespect is perceived. We can't afford to do confusion or ambiguity. It can cost your life or at least your teeth. It's not a stubbornness thing, it's an etiquette thing. We're talking about this one thing at the moment so throwing everything in at once makes it sound like you are not listening and are only being triggered. Thank you💖

This is true.Neither men or women are "wrong". This is just how we communicate. We should try to understand how each other communicates and understand how we are perceived to the opposite sex.

Holy sh*t, Sara is right. *I have been doing that to women all my life. LOL* I am fact-based, competitive and not really emotional. Everytime I talk to a girl they think I'm arguing with them. *Especially when I bring up statistics to support me ideas.* Dang it... Sara ... why didn't you tell me this in college. LOL

@S1lverspike

2 жыл бұрын

My wife and I have been working on this. We gotten a lot better being honest. I find women base things on there experience and men base things on what can be proven.

@anyamiranda9452

2 жыл бұрын

As a very girly, yet not emotional person, I wouldn't have a problem with this *if* m3n wouldn't present *very* biased studies as fAcTs (which, in 9 times out of 10, doesn't happen). Or if it does, they don't take into account the whole story.

@ReStellar

2 жыл бұрын

Don't use the Holy spirit in vain! "Therefore I tell you, every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven people, but the blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven. And whoever speaks a word against the Son of Man will be forgiven, but whoever speaks against the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven, either in this age or in the age to come." (Matthew 12:31-32) God (Jesus Christ) Bless! :)

@User-uk6rk

2 жыл бұрын

@@ReStellar Simply using the word "Holy" as an adjective DOES NOT qualify as blasphemy.

it's the way a woman not on code perceives masculine energy from a man on his purpose and knows his role as a man

@zabar1518

2 жыл бұрын

Man I haven’t finished the video yet and you hit the nail on the head Brotha

@kenney0313

2 жыл бұрын

They are definitely NOT on code. It's sad when women take pride in life as a doorknob. It's even sadder when they all emulate Kardashian ways, when before the Ray J tape she and other so-called "white" folk were getting surgery to emulate our women. It's ridiculous.

@ggram0551

2 жыл бұрын

💯 percent agreed

@ryanbrown1464

2 жыл бұрын

Sarah I saw your picture and I felt your feminine vibes coming off the page

Your skills in understanding the male /female perception is impressive. You are always spot on and excellent in your analysis! 👊🏾👍🏾❤️

Men: aggression towards facts, concepts and abstract ideas Women: He's personally attacking me Men: -_-.... LOL. It's not even semantics. It's just as simple as "say what you mean and mean what you say"., I love this video because everyone believes feminine communication is the only and best way, hence, women *seldom* try to learn how to speak/understand men. It's like when u talk to ur strict parents and anything you say is deemed "back talk" or "disrespectful".

I literally had a back and forth with my wife...…ALL THIS...…wow! You Madam are dropping gems

Great point about how men skip over the emotional aspect of the discussion. Feelings really dont matter they will pass while the problem may persist

Sara, my wife has been watching your videos and I want to thank you so much for the work you're doing sista! Omg you're fantastic! Our marriage has benefited vastly from the information you provide. We both are learning. You are serving your community tremendously.

Great explanation about MEN needing self care just like their Women. There’s a neutral-zone that we inhabit occasionally in which there is nothing & we are null in essence. We need it & expect to be respected in that state of being just to stay alive & functional. It’s only temporary yet necessary.

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

Yes Sir. I think men not taking the necessary time for themselves, also contributes to developing unhealthy vices.

Men, this is why our forefathers understood women should have nothing to do with politics, government and especially positions of power. No disrespect, just women and men are different - not better then one or the other.

@octaviusbrightwell6215

2 жыл бұрын

I've been on the other side with communication where I listen and when it's me responding then I get cut off! A lot of times it's to get an understanding on where she's coming from before responding! You're right about the work part cause if I'm working it's for the both so it's inclusive without saying most of the time!

@blacksoul2410

2 жыл бұрын

"our forefathers"? who's forefathers? My forefathers come from Afraka. in PRE-Colonial times womben were ALWAYS a part of the politics of the society. obviously you cant be black. so stop speakin' on black issues.

Always good to get the woman’s side or perspective. It really hits different

This is absolutely the truth! I’ve been married 20 years and have learned this the hard way. I’ve experienced these exact things. I’m glad you are talking about this

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE everything about this video! Perfectly and well articulated!

I see these masculine traits in women more so then men. At work the guys are cooperative with each other and get straight to the point.

I've had a few women that blatantly disrespected me trying to actively tag me as a nice guy in the process. Those women get the homeboy treatment plan verbally 😂. Usually I'm pretty cordial with women even in disagreement but some get so arrogant that they need to feel a little shook imo. I had a roommate that would eat my food and laugh about it, tried to steal deposit money etc etc. Then she would turn around and think I'd actually forget and want to have casual conversation with her. I'd just give her an emotionless stare but actually it was just building disgust. She was doing this one day and I'm looking at her. She breaks out in the middle of her monologue "I could never have a black father!"

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

Sheesh! I’m just glad you didn’t put your hands on her.

@quintonmaldonado8368

2 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena To be honest I think she is the type to go for that on purpose. She dated mma fighters and loved trying trying to talk to men like they were dogs. Her parents even asked how I could stand to live with her.

I always say mean what you say, and say what you mean. We are a very intelligent and expressive people when we find it important to do so. So use your vocabulary is what most of us men mean. I do appreciate your videos, they are very accurate and informative.

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

Yes Sir.

This is probably one of the most eye opening and insightful videos I've seen in all my relationship travels on KZread... Not being funny, I'm so serious. Very balanced, fair, understanding, and exhibits the truly best benefits of objective observation. Instant classic in my book❤️💯

1000% on point. God bless you, and keep this up.

Speaking from someone that has been in these situations previously I can say..... THIS VIDEO IS SOOOOOO SPOT ON!!!!!!

Please do more of these videos. It took me years to understand men and women speak a different language but when they learn to work together it brings peace and harmony in the home.

Literally just ended a talking stage because of this. Too accurate.

Lol that explantation of women wanting to explain when men want a direct answer... 🤣🤣💯 Reminds me of the Kevin Samuels videos I see this all the time even when asked a direct yes or no question seems like women have to go into a huge explanation instead of answering the question. I loved this video you were completely on point. I think all women should watch and understand so we can all do better and have happier more productive relationships.

Hello:) I’m 22yo I’ve been watching you for years now Mrs Lena, I’m a guy with a feminine emotional Flilipina girl haha. She’s very clingy and I love it. She’s the most feminine woman I’ve been with and I often stream your videos when her and I watch KZread. She thought I was attacking her by showing here these but now she understands why hahah☺️

Best video of 2022 so far. This should be liked and shared a million times.

Wow. She knows her stuff.

I'm convinced that men and women are two completely different species. How can a woman come to me with a problem and get upset when I give her a solution to the problem?! How @Sara Lena ?! How?!

@cgaskin00

2 жыл бұрын

If she came to you asking for a solution and you give it to her, then she's unreasonable for getting upset. But if she's just venting and you offer a solution, she can get upset because he wasnt asking for that. it's annoying when someone thinks they're a know it all.

BREAK IT DOWN BABY!!!! U get it 😮‍💨

This was AMAZING!! Spot on! You're definitely being a mediator/translator!

Beautifully expressed sis and you give such wonderful and practice examples. And I love that you teach your ladies, "How to listen for feelings." Whew!! This is truly what it is about. So much gems of wisdom you're dropping here. And you're so beautiful and have such lovely speaking voice and cute laugh. I couldn't help but smile every time you giggled. Blessings 💖

One of the most important videos on YT. Most people don’t think about others perspectives in general.

this was perfect every point was clearly hit thank you for this, hope many can listen and make this practical

As a brother, yea, this is mad accurate. I appreciate your well-informed perspective on these principles - looking forward to more :)

Incredible!!! Sara you didn't miss, wow! Every point is a hit!!!! Thank you for this

I love this video. Thank you so much.....I swear u just shed sooooo much light

This Video Was The Best Interpretation Of Masculine And Feminine Communication. Thank You For The Break Down Sister.

This was a great assessment all across! I feel understood and as such find this to be a very helpful video

Perfect explanation. This vid is GOLD!!

Love your channel young sister!!!

So relatable girl. Spot on with private issues and conversations with my alpha man 😎

Great video, Sis.One is for leadership(task oriented), the other is Nurturing based. I think we respecting our unique roles, and not crossing lanes is the best way forward. If you don't need the other, don't waste their time. stay alone till you're ready. aka, be matured.

In the literall part, he knew what you meant, he was just calling you out on your bs lol.

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

😭 Yea...I hear it all the time “Stop just saying anything!”

Gotta admit this is pretty spot on, you're good at what you do no doubt about that and I really enjoyed this video!

Ms. Sara Lena, you are a treasure!

Number 4 and 5 most definitely on point. Good video

It feels good see your video popping up in my notifications once again

Legit it's the opposite in my relationship. I like to have challenging conversation and not take it personal or as an argument and my bf sees it as an argument.

Thank you for your content.

Thank you .

Intellectual, ur videos r rated help viewers b practical. Ur credit goes to their success our achievements derive from u, how women perceive etc

Thank you for your video😊😊

It's clear to me that the good sista Sarah Lena, had a lot of fun making this video.

@sara love your channel… this is great for my communication with women. Thank you.

Great video...

Omg!!!! I just went through this!!! Men are not mind readers!!! I deliver facts with proof and she will still argue!! Yet ask me for my opinion or help! It’s maddening!!! She can’t make a decision!!! I just shut down because it wears me out!! Lol

Aye!!! Ms you ms lady

Excellent, you’re right, I do some of these things

Golden!

wow.. um this is true and happening right now. thank you!

SIS! you never fail ❤️ this resonates so much with me. Although you were targeting men, it really helped me understand my King

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

It’s for both men and women, Sis!!🥰 I’m so glad you found it helpful.

You are speaking straight facts 💯!! I be over there bout to😢...🤣 it seems like there has to be a middle point or a compromise in communication. Love this video! 🔥

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

If you suggest a compromise with your spouse, he will likely begin with “ You need to learn how to control your emotions.”🥴

@goldonpaper

2 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena exactly! Lol 🤣 or saying that I'm trying to make excuses or something.

@ryanphillips5591

2 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena Men understand that women are emotional. Believe it or not, we don't see that as a bad thing, until we bring you logic that you don't pick up on.. It's not a knock on women, but it's why we get frustrated.

Definitely miss her out here ,,

Fantastic video!

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate you!

Thank you 😉

OH MY GOSH!!! Sara, I feel like you have been in my room listening to my husband and I communicate! It is so frustrating! All of this! I just want him to listen and understand me.

GreatAdvice

A lot if times men take women humor seriously for one of two reasons. 1. Either they are taught women of beacon of virtue and don't joke that much. 2. Haven't spent enough time with women (or the things they are primarily interested in) to tell when they are joking.

Preciate the video

Dead on💯 well said...Thank you.

Interesting perspective 🤔 thought provoking

Dope video Queen i enjoyed every minute oh i still got questions lol. Your ending to this video was amazing NOOOOOO WAIT MORE LIKE SPLENDIFEROUS. Thank you 🙏🏾

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate that, brother. I would love to know what questions you have.😌

This video is transformative. I will communicate differently with my wife going forward.

Helpful

Sis you don't know how extremely helpful your vids are. My significant other & I been together for almost 20 yrs. His biggest complaint is I don't let him finish talking. Mind you after hearing him vent for 20 minutes repeatedly. When I decide to jump in... I'm met with, you don't listen or you don't let me finish. SMh... There's an old proverbs that says, when a man is speaking a woman must put water in her mouth. In other words, zip it. I guess I need to be on mute.

Yup, on the money

Women don't hear "he's holding me accountable" because modern women don't know the word accountable exists. With some of these modern women, you have to walk on eggshells or baby them like a child. Much like children, sometimes you try to be gentle until they refuse to listen, then when you get rough there is a problem. But those same women have no problem reversing the roles. Of course, if she loves for her and her man to talk to each other extremely rough, you might need to run. I agree that many women expect men to "just know" and we don't care about minor details. We just want the answer. Women do love the tit or tat, but they hate for it to be turned on them. We also hate that women want to move to the "we" so quickly. Men will eventually get there. It annoys us when they want to move to "we" too soon. But even when we move there, our primary focus is on what "I' need to do

This is excellent and 10000099%%%% true.. wow.. lol 😆 awesome, EXTREMELY HELPFUL 👏🏿

😂 sis you are so correct .

For me, it’s not intentional to interrupt you but it just kind of happens

Great video definitely made me self reflect and see where I can come off as a selfish and not hearing my girl out

I shared this video with my mother 🤣

We need you

🙏🏿✊🏿🙌🏿 Much appreciated!! 757 VA in here

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

Peace VA Family!!!! 🖤

Great great video Sara & very good energy. I do not agree with no6, men tend to listen more & take accountability:the minute they start talking she'll jump right in. Men are also inclusive of their family hence why we're solution oriented. For today's women its always 'i" "mine" "me" & most men cannot trust to build with them.

I’ve always felt misunderstood until now

Yes Girl!!! 🤦🏽‍♀️🤣

Drop them 💎gems💎 QUEEN!

This came at a perfect time, thank you

@SaraLena

2 жыл бұрын

I hope it helps.

I subscribed asap

You would think after centuries of evolution men and women would be better at communicating but nope, I'm still confused... Smh lol

Also when we as men say “I, and me” a lot it is us taking accountability of what we are responsible for, its “I need to do this, and not you”

Another great point about men being literal. Ive had females say better do this or else... i would repond or else what? And they never thought that through lol

She said it’s rude to ask yes or no questions Fam?! 😂😂😂😂

❣️💯

Details vs Broad Strokes

U r dead on with 100% of what u said. Wow! Im jealous of ur husband. He has a great women...where can we clone you and make the world great???? Lol....u are saving relationships one video at a time....wow!!!!

💚💚💚

Great video especially the yes/no part because women talk to much and get off topic lol. We want direct yes or no because it gets to the point and we don't care about your internal clarity.