"The more you go against nature, the more nature will go against you" ... WoW! -Goddess, Sara Lena: 👸🏾⭐

@nitelite745

4 жыл бұрын

I had to quote this onto my facebook, crediting your name, Goddess. 😊⭐

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Peace Brother! Much Love!

@olaoluolajugbe5811

4 жыл бұрын

True . go against design and you will get punished severely.

See, we need thousands more Saras.

@percyastronautstatus.8780

4 жыл бұрын

No. Millions.

@KeemvsKeem

3 жыл бұрын

@@percyastronautstatus.8780 lol swear

@jon_s

3 жыл бұрын

Nope! One Sara is enough

Never tear down a fence until you first understand why it was put there. I love it that you are a voice of logic especially for women in this day in age. Keep up the great work you doing woman !

I want to attempt to clear something up that may be confusing especially to the men out there. On one hand you said that men need to be masculine, while later on the the video you said men need to be soft, caring, affectionate, kind, loving, nice and 'feminine' (for lack of a better word). This where where men can become confused as this seems to be conflicting advice. The fact of the matter is that women want a mixture of both, but the masculine traits must come first and be most prevalent (confidence, dominance, poise, power, leadership, authority), while the feminine traits (kindness, affection, love) must be shown only after your masculine traits are established. Do not make the mistake of leading with your feminine traits. Another thing that I would like to add is that a woman must first and foremost be sexually attracted to a man for her to care about any of the things you listed. It does not matter how much you can provide, how much you want to commit, and how much you want to protect, she has to want to have sex with you otherwise you will be nothing more than a 'great friend' to her. Again, women want a mixture of both sexual attraction and non sexual attraction. While men get the stereotype of focusing more on looks and are only focused on sex, the fact of the matter is that women actually more selective when it comes to looks and sex. There is an asymmetry between men and women when it comes to looks and sexual attraction, meaning that there are more women attractive to men than there are men that are attractive to women. So, if a woman is not sexually attracted to you, leave her alone. There is nothing you can do to convince her or to change her mind. Do not spend time, money, or energy trying to date her. Do not be her 'friend'. Do not ask for an explanation. Most women you approach will not be attracted to you and you will face a lot of rejection. Sure, its not fair that women don't have face rejection as much as men do, but men need to accept it, deal with it, not take it personally, shake it off, and move on.

@Takis018

4 жыл бұрын

Emmanuel Fadina I see what you’re saying but say some women. I can be sexually attracted to a man and still not want to have sex with him only because values and vibes are just as equal if not more important then being sexually attracted to him. If anything the first thing I look for in a man is chemistry. Is the vibe right? Then I look for intellect, then looks and then if all of that is right the sexuality comes into play.

@sexyblackcharlery

4 жыл бұрын

Brilliant explanation

@sexyblackcharlery

4 жыл бұрын

I'm gonna screen shoot this

@Blissful_Gia

4 жыл бұрын

Emmanuel Fadina I agree with this 💯. Which has lead me to be more picky and know the individual morals & value. I’ve met men that were very successful and wanted to basically take care of me, and like you said it was a waste of their time because I wasn’t attracted to him physically, mentally, etc.

@Aritul

4 жыл бұрын

@@sexyblackcharlery Definitely worth it.

Thank you!!! I thought I was the only one who thought this way. I told my ex that marriage is a business not just love. I need to know yoi can hols this down not just me. I have to trust that when I can't think for myself when I'm sick or something like that.

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Carmen Hayes Yes Indeed! Marriage is a business.

You are spot on! You put it straight no chaser. Listen.. we need strong masculine energy on Amazon Prime!

@ga9100

3 жыл бұрын

Damn ur fine‼️👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

Wow. I just love how you broke it down. You never fail to amaze me. I walk away with the best knowledge every video. Nothing but the truth. Straight emotion and no logic

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

ocballday I appreciate your support brother.

@BrickzSenghorOfficial

4 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena absolutely sister

This makes me so happy about choosing to be single in my 20s.

@mariekano9730

3 жыл бұрын

Its worth it. Being single is everything! Especially in your 20s. Im in a relationship and its tiresome

Love is not enough. It must be the foundation, the cornerstone- but not the complete structure. It is much too pliable, too yielding.

I definitely agree with you. Logic is key to the relationship

All I can say is I’ve come a long way. Growing up in a home with a passive father. I had to figure this out the hard way. I’ve done a lot of work on myself.....

I’ve been called a gold digger because I simply date providers and I think about what kind of legacy I want to leave behind. In all honesty, it doesn’t matter to me because at the end of the day, generational curses will not effect my future family

@donsmith4833

3 жыл бұрын

There have been times when "Love" is enough. But sometimes, it is not enough for a black woman.

@dahveedandsarkis2123

2 жыл бұрын

@@donsmith4833 love is not enough. Children will suffer, if a woman chose a partner based on emotion

@donsmith4833

2 жыл бұрын

​@@dahveedandsarkis2123 ... how do you know for sure that the children will suffer. At first, the man might be poor or lack assets because he is trying to start his own biz; or he is developing a new patent/ invention; or he is working his way through medical school. Gold diggers will not see his potential or his compassion and drive. She would rather tell him to come back once he has made it... and for me, by that point, that would be too late.

100% accurate as usual. My main issue was looking for the female version of me. If things made sense to me, it took a struggle to understand why she couldn't see it the same.

You make a lot of great points especially when it comes to a woman's nature, however when it comes to "time", you can give a woman all 24 hours of the day and they'll still complain. After all the affection and touching in the world its still not enough. At some point a woman needs to grow up. Too often these are excuses for women to cheat and it stems from a lack of discipline in the home. Women are not held accountable and are spoiled like you pointed out that you are as well. Nobody has time for a child...........................a grown man needs a grown woman if he's going to married. Eagles don't mate with chickens.....................level up!

You & Your Husband publish "Essentials." Excellent & well-done.

So true I like the firmness about being masculine tellem Sara 👍👊👏

Keep preaching facts wish I had this teachings before I had my kids and tried to have a relationship with women I thought I loved or loved me. Now I’m on a different journey how I approach women and what I want in a relationship.

Thanks Sara for putting this video out. Definitely needed to be reminded of this.

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Jonathan Irving Much Love Brother!

I’m so glad you brought up the arranged marriage piece. You know your stuff!!!!!

You said a word in this video💪🏾 thank you for sharing your honest insight on such an important part of all of our lives. Both videos were dope! Much love ❤️🖤💛💚

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

T. Grant Thank You for watching!🖤

My lady and I love the videos you and your man make. Totally empowering. Can't wait for the next series.

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Daav Eed The next videos will be with my King. We appreciate y’all support. Much Love to you both.

Not everyone is blinded by " love" hope this is taken into account

Love your videos,, subscriber since day 1 ✊🏾

Wow!!!! Dr. Lena, you are Amazing!!!

You are always speaking the truth. This video made me clap out loud🤣👌🏿. Keep up the good work and bringing the quality content.

I've been waiting for this one..

She speaking to my soul 😩

All I’m saying is, “When’s the book tour?” 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Appreciate you.

I agree with you on this subject.

You are so right 💯💯🙌🏾

im african, and you are right about arranged marriages, basically if you were from a royal family, which is chiefs, you married for either resources or the most good looking people the signs of agreeableness, that is the person would totally submit to the culture of the royal family. if you were a common person BACK IN THE DAYS in africa you married across levels with a lot of focus on similarity of principles, you couldnt marry someone beter than you because their family would object to it, and by family i basically mean the whole village since everyone lived close, you can imagine even relatives that you can hardly explain in words how you are related forming a combined force to object. if you you are basically born into a family were your father and uncles ploughed small fields and only hunted small animals like rabbits, while other men could hunt antelope, there is no way you could marry into a family were the men were productive, and if in your family the women were home makers who cooked on time and didnt nag their husbands and were not village gossips you could actually marry into royalty if you are a woman and had those principles, IT WAS ALL ABOUT PRINCIPLES, the only people who would actually marry for beauty were nobles. it was a bonus to marry a beaut, and you had no way of hacking the system, you were just an ant in the colony. people like to think that the women in that error were oppressed, not the case, everyone was oppressed by that system and they all learnt to live with it, because it was basically fair, a lazy woman who cooked the bare minimum, who was not the cleanest would marry a man who was lazy and found it hard to provide for himself and his family, forced marriages were actually few, and its not that men married who they wanted, a man in some regions may be just as surprised as the bride, basically, when you were little the whole village (mainly the uncles) is already starting to gauge who you will marry when the time comes

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

eli soopu THANK YOU so much for this comment!🙏🏾

@crimsonite1524

4 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena pleasure

Sis, this is good straight talk!!!!!!!

I agree with all you're saying.

Keep up the good work Sister ✊🏾

Sister you are on point.

Thank you for post your wisdom and your beauty queen...All facts

love your content. i would also love to get your perspective on the self-work necessary to become more masculine, and what that masculinity looks and feels like.

Real wisdom...sister

Outstanding!

I appreciate this women alot

The time and validation! We need all of that! Lmao

@yoooyoyooo

3 жыл бұрын

You don't need validation when you understand that you are nobody. Looking for validation is futile effort since as soon as you get it it will last for 1 second as long as the thought and the feelings are present and then you are back to square one. Not only that, but if someone else is source of your validation what will happen when that person invalidates you by cheating or simply leaving. You will be crushed. You are setting your self a trap by expecting other people to validate you.

Thank you!

makes sense.

Sara is phenomenal

Yes real talk so true more like you yes

Great Rising 👑

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

MR Goode Peace Brother✊🏿

@mrgoode1647

4 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena 💜

Agreed 100%

Sharing this with My wife she needs to watch this.

@percyastronautstatus.8780

4 жыл бұрын

Lol.....then she gn show YOU a vid that she think u need to watch. That's how women work

Love don't cost a thing but your time

Graet work! Keep doing what you doing!-E.M.E.-

Have to meet them to know.! Only Way 🙏🏿 good information let them know ✨

You're exactly right. I settled for good looks and no logic.

You are spot on with alot. can you share with how many years you have had the blessing of being with your Alpha husband? The scripture says the older ones are to teach the younger ones, well dawg on it you tell alot of truth on this channel. The females (Worldly) got to get grilled with the truths.

That's not a hundred percent true because I'm a man and when I saw the mother of my children / at the time she was my girlfriend I already knew off the back she was going to be the one. From the beginning to the end I didn't have no other talk to that and like you were saying about the cheating situation I didn't cheat on the mother of my children the reason why I had to look for like a friend figured as a female because the girl that I know as a friend was giving me more attention and caring about my situation then the mother of my children no matter how many times I try to talk to her come up to her and be the man I supposed to be to her she was always pushing me away but then my friend that came along that I knew she been more there for me and that's why it happened the way it happened but she wanted to date me and I told her no because I'm in love with the mother of my children I didn't ask for a committed relationship out of my friend or anything I just needed someone to be their for me

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I can definitely say it's easier for us men (especially if the woman is natural or were very attracted to her) to be masculine to them or at least want to fulfill that role for her needs but if we don't really feel her like that we can still be masculine we just wouldn't care if the need was met on a relationship level

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Dagoldin1 Your comment reminds me of something that I was discussing with some sisters a while ago. I apologize for getting off topic, but I’d like your opinion. Some women feel that men only respect and protect women that they find attractive.(specifically women that attractive in their natural state) But women that aren’t attractive(according to western standards), or women that wear weave and a lot of makeup feel that they have to work harder for a man’s respect and to feel safe in men’s presence...even if they respect and appreciate masculine men. Do you agree with this?

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great videooo

Again, we seem to have a rather poor administrative definition of LOVE, and continue to define and redefine it as simply complex emotional interactions, but this effectively discounts a greater truth. We could speak on logical deductions in LOVE, or moral imperatives in LOVE, or a host of other simplistic derivative concepts, or we could glean a better understanding. To be plain- true LOVE is all encompassing.

Clear

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So true...if a man is giving a woman all of these things, she should look no further!

@DG-cz5cy

4 жыл бұрын

Hi ! Latoya ! Where can a brother like me find women like u ?? This black love is what I need in my life !!

Men and women are created equal but we are created differently with different responsibilities or roles and needs that complement each other.

Enough is not enough

One thing that actually helps men commit easier is how much he is actually physically attracted to the women. If she brings a certain level of value into his life, And she's up on her A Game with hygiene, hour glass, face, nails, personality etc etc it will be almost impossible for him to not commit... Or else he would be dethroned by his silly decision to cheat.

Dropping Jewels

My friend said my mama said..... That what needs to figure out talk about who is for y'all progress and who is not.

I surely thought I'm entitled .. lesson learned... But now that's pushing me more to be an honest non misleading boy toy and just leave the risk of anything else...pockets ain't enough for that....

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

The Realty Plug Honest and non-misleading...yes indeed. Boy toy though? I think we both know you’re better than that. Hope all is well.

@chynadoll77cyn59

4 жыл бұрын

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First two minutes I agree. But most people don't know how to let go of the past/people who hate. Mother , father, sister, brother and cousin. Let's not forget the friend.lol When you find something and or someone at first it's sacred If you choose to bring the past in you should talk with your presence first and after discussing the the people you bring into your life. Fact

Somebody please let me know.. where can I find a woman she's talking about ??

@OneVeronique

4 жыл бұрын

We* are here. 💕💕However, most* are hurting from the Men that are not here for us*. Men whom were/are males & boys but put on a phacade that they are a Man* You are probably* that Man that many need, but tooooo hurt to find (per sè). Ladies need to heal. And healing is NOT jumping from one person to another (or we* have NO idea what we want) Childhood trauma & generational "curses" unfortunately follows us* I think of "Willie Lynch" 💔 What's a solution Honey?

@holyfire327

2 жыл бұрын

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all of these things will be added unto you! -matt6:33 Gotta go through God to find here ! Be the masculine to her feminine! God bless you King 🤴🏾

My only issue with this entire thing is the HONESTY part. If women were more honest like men can be about what they're lacking in, Communication is key...98% of Relationship issues wouldn't exist. People rather cheat and keep shit secret instead of being upfront with their partners. That they somehow have a 1+ UP on them or just being selfish. If we set everything on "Female nature" when women do things that in itself is a slippery slope...Like Hypergamy for example...Even as far as biblically with the Forbidden fruit..

That's true I want to stop right there that is so true because we go by our motions of thinking what will be best for us instead of going by choice by me how I look at a woman I look how I parent is how she dresses how she smell how she operates her house and she's good with kids back then I was thinking about all that even though I was a man that you know cook clean and I got some floors to I had to work to be the best man I can be but at the same time I was trying to look at the parties or what is going to be a great woman for me to have forever and we do suck at that we don't know what is choose for right or wrong but I'm a better choices now for now on when I am going to choose because that's how I see in a Woman by her parents in the way how she carry herself individually

8:39 I agree with you in some point, but there are also women who need a lot of discipline for that. 11:03 I don't get mad at women for this because I want to have a lot of money anyways so I can live better and I am aware of the fact that men have a nature too that women have to accept

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Thomas Michael I appreciate the feedback. Thanks for watching.

@micha5976

4 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena Thank you! Appreciate the content from you and your man!

I can say I'm the most logical one in the mother of my children is most emotional because her mindset don't think as I thought she is, she's a very smart woman don't give me wrong she got a lot of good times but her mindset is not 100% day like mine

What's your take on the dynamics of a young woman dating an older man (10 yr age gap)? Is age just a number or it matters? Thanks.

@kelsey5410

4 жыл бұрын

Eleven years, any more invites problems. ..11 years-ONLY if the man is the older one.

1 Tim 5:1 Rebuke not an elder, but intreat him as a father; and the younger men as brethren; 2 The elder women as mothers; the younger as sisters, with all purity.

Romantic that come from here you so silly 😂😂

Do you have a podcast?

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One thing that is really never discussed at all that you touched on is a man and a woman bringing their resources together looking to "BUILD". If Im gonna work my butt off to create this great life for myself and want to find a wife, my wife cant be a stay at home mom…Im sorry thats not an option….She cant be someone that doesnt have a respectable career…..Yes I am the provider but I want to build something with you not build alone and you got your feet up chilling.

@beans9499

4 жыл бұрын

A good Stay at home Wive/Mom do alot of work, they don't just chill with their feet up.

| : Yes, sista, thank-you! : LOGIC over EMOTIONS.|

Sirach 6:7 If thou wouldst get a friend, proue him first, and be not hasty to credit him.

Great points..I think more than half the people divorced would still be married if they HAD BEEN arranged by logical people or elders. Work that angle for a minute.

Women: We want equality, we want equality, we want equality. Also women: You must provide, we need your money!

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Nah...we’re not created to be equal. We’re designed to fit our original roles as men and women. So you can take this comment to a feminist’s channel. I don’t want equality. I want/have complementation.

@harunrazak7764

4 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena We're equal in the same of humanity; we are not identical.

My thoughts....nobody are obligated to anyone... it just our choices....but it is true about, some men think they entitled and some women think they are entitled!!!!! but if people would choose wisely and not with foolishness.....then we wouldn't have these trouble finding somebody to be with....just saying!!!!

Therefore because of the male ego, a man can actually commit depending on the Value the women has and how he sees her Value.

I embrace what you said and yet earth and the most high is against humanity

Spontaneous attention is good planning to time to do something with your woman is not always good what about the element of suprising

Or his decisions cause some type of harm to us whether it be financial or emotional or to your image

A routinely relationship gets boring after a while too

" NEW FLASH " WHERE CAN STRONG ALPHA BROTHERS LIKE MYSELF WHO EDUCSTED, STRONG, LOVE BLACK WOMAN TO DEATH, A PROVIDER , SPIRITUAL, .... SO MY QUESTION IS ??? WHERE CAN I GO TO FIND WOMEN LIKE YOU AT... IS THERE A WEBSITE AVAILABLE ???

I disagree wholeheartedly about men being more difficult about being in committed relationships. Women definitely have that issue too. Even more so I feel. We, as men, just can't hide it as well as you guys can. Aside from that, I agree with just about everything else Sara Lena is saying.

If I had some one like U🤨

I appreciate your videos on what men need and what women need but you explained all 6 when talking about what women need but only talked about respect and basically just listed the other 5 that men needed

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Maurice Moore Right... because I did an entire video with my King about what men need. I put a link in the other video. “Things All Women Should Bring To The Table.”

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Maurice Moore kzread.info/dash/bejne/qZl6yJSCp9i4fc4.html

@mauricemoore3193

4 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena thx so much!

These days you need money just to be treated like a human being with these women

I hate arrange marriage

How about a guy just saying, “I love you” 🤷🏽‍♀️??!!! But then again, not everyone’s love language is the same.

Why do people always give women the excuse that they cheated for revenge? I think both sides are just guilty. No excuses.

Wow! We think women are so emotional? I discovered something in this 20th century; something is extremely wrong , I notice a lot of men are just as emotional as most women. Sis, you are so on ppint.. Plus no one ask the big question from each other and that's what do each other except from one other? Anyway everyone have a blessed day!

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Daaveed Seth Definitely. My King and I wrote down our expectations of each other as Parents, Business Partners, and as Husband and Wife. We both agreed to each other’s expectations, so we both know our roles. It’s necessary for any successful partnership/relationship.

@daaveedseth5427

4 жыл бұрын

@dubeei4u Well, I'm glad to ask and I'll be more than happy to oblige.. Absolutely nothing, as long as its balanced. Remember, the man is created in God's image and that simply means that men should be more mental than emotional 🙂.