I decided to become a mature woman the moment I began dating my husband. He’s a true man and would never accept immature behavior from a woman.

@melmel7011

3 жыл бұрын

congratulations... grown men are hard to find.

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 As a young man I remember so many times hearing about “that time of month” as an excuse for a females behavior I started accepting it as being something a girl had no control over. Then I thought, how do they keep a job??? Well of course, I then held them to a standard. “Thank You!” You’re very much on point here. Unfortunately I see these females get with males that compliment their lack of self growth, especially in our communities and it’s a real social problem. Sometimes I think it’s me and I’m expecting too much. So this video is so reassuring and uplifting in my hopes for better. ✌🏽❤️😊

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Darryl Powell I’m glad you hold the women in your life to a certain standard, brother! That’s the only way we’ll all grow, collectively...when we require more(or better) of ourselves and from each other.

@TyreseTyGetItTheOriginal05

4 жыл бұрын

Preach my brother u got that right well said and that's true cuz I was in that same boat as well I had to accept certain things but then I realize I've been around classy woman that's know how to act like a young lady a grown woman at that and then you got the ratchet want to be females that think they are a woman but they need to continue to find themselves so

@maxwell6525

4 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena you obviously had a very strong bond with your father.

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

max well Actually, I didn’t. My biological passed away when I was 2. And my step father was an alcoholic and a pervert.

@maxwell6525

4 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena Sorry to hear that. What do you attribute your clarity of perception and insights to?

Wow! Every grown man need to watch this.

I have experienced my grown female phase, and I'm accepting and excited for growth

@tinaking9120

4 жыл бұрын

Destiny yes!

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

We ALL have Sis! And we ALL still have room for growth. When we recognize this “grown female” traits within ourselves, it’s just a sign that we need to heal.

@carribeproductions

4 жыл бұрын

Support to you sis. Your comment is a Grown Woman comment. Looks like your growth has already started!

@nikkishropshire7174

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

I lived with a 47 year old kid. She straight up fit the description. Now I went up on her job one time and saw someone totally different from what I saw at home. She was very sharp and smiled the whole nine but once she got home Oh boy! Made a brotha not want to come home.

@AnthonyMckinney-yu4lk

4 жыл бұрын

Preach

@melmel7011

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe you are the problem, a woman will only disrespect you if you let her. Have high standards or leave

I can see my past self in the grown female traits lol I was a mess. Thank God for growth and maturity! It can be tempting to bash grown females, but we all need the time and space to grow into our best selves. Looking forward to the male version. Sidenote: Your skin is so clear and beautiful!

@tizhariyah30

4 жыл бұрын

Girl me too! Thank The Most High for growth and maturity!

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

I love y’all! 👸🏾👸🏾🥰

@ga9100

3 жыл бұрын

May I ask what changed in u❓

@JoeyT

3 жыл бұрын

@@ga9100 nothing changed obviously. She's asking for a male version of this video. The creator just talked about that. Taking accountability. Grown women know what a grown man is. Period. She wouldn't have to know the difference.

This is the type of women that is neede to raise up and build strong nations!

@lizmad8091

3 жыл бұрын

Jay Real Baby boy don’t throw women in the trash. All three women mentioned deserve respect. Why tear down classy black woman for no reason? They don’t do anything to deserve sloppy disrespect.

@johnnyblaze2257

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe she can be your king Albert

Damn!!...sister you described my children's mother with pin point precision...stay humble, you're a rare breed

Every woman has the opportunity to pass through the five stages of womanhood: the little girl, teenager, young woman, grown woman and finally the sage. Now not everyone matures into each stage some get stuck in one or more stages, some never reach the sage stage but we all have the opportunity to develop through each stage IF we choose to do so. Great video can’t wait for the man/male version.

@angeliaimeanttoloveyouharr8404

4 жыл бұрын

D Boss lady exactly👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

@levibondjr4650

4 жыл бұрын

D Boss lady Well said.

Very insightful. Adults are able to productively manage their own time. That takes being accountable.

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Chris Norwood Indeed Brother!

Thank you again for bringing clarity to the "Difference Between Grown Women and Grown Females!" This is a much needed conversation that compliments Shahrazad Ali's work "The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Blackwoman 1st Edition".

@lavi7521

3 жыл бұрын

Ima getting both to understand both sides. The only thing I dont agree with is that men weren't monogamous and her being a Muslim. The Africans became Muslims or practiced Islam due to the Arab slave trade.

Grown females sound tiring & draining. When I started my journey I noticed these things in myself & I started doing the work. I even cook more now💞

Omg unicorns do exist, this unicorn speaks sooooo much truth

@vonsimms9116

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah sure man sure

@chynadoll77cyn59

4 жыл бұрын

Right

@DubG9

4 жыл бұрын

**this woman** she is definitely more than a unicorn but I feel ya tho.

@Kabaselefh

4 жыл бұрын

Only 1% left unfortunately

@jarodorla6949

4 жыл бұрын

@ron sampson good to see u here

If I would of married her, I probably would of been the first black astronaut. Thank you for this video Sara.

I have this issue with my girl. Will not accept her wrongs at all.

@SaneAfrikan

4 жыл бұрын

D Luckett leave her yesterday!

@riddickj16

4 жыл бұрын

Not the only one bro

@dlucket90

4 жыл бұрын

@@riddickj16 being a good man isn't enough sometimes

@riddickj16

4 жыл бұрын

D Luckett in today’s dating climate I’m starting to think that being a good man is never going to be enough. The level of immaturity and entitlement from some women is insane.

@dlucket90

4 жыл бұрын

@@riddickj16 that's real talk

I bet you have a lot of female's hating you for exposing them with this one. I have never seen a female expose the truth in such a fashion, I commend you on your content

👑Stay dropping jewels 💜 💪

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

My Brother! Appreciate You!

@mrgoode1647

4 жыл бұрын

@@SaraLena much love sis 💜

@davidmartin8351

4 жыл бұрын

She's a jewel herself! Plus dropping them!!! 🤜🤛

Communication is something I'm working on. My husband told me stop holding things in and just be real when I'm bothered. No more keeping things bottled in and then going off when I've had enough.

the grown female sounds like a narcissist and a grown woman like an empath

@stevenroshni1228

3 жыл бұрын

Often Narcissism minus the confidence.

Thank you so much sista this is very informative and I can't wait for the grown men version. We as a people need this wisdom. Love you all my sistas. Let's build and grow together ✊🏾

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Son of Judah Indeed Brother!✊🏿

@sentry9834

4 жыл бұрын

Sisters are grown women. Sistas are grown females.

I think another one you should add to the list is that a grown women doesn’t expect for people to accept them for who they are even when they know that they’re a toxic person, over weight, vulgar, etc. Grown women can accept constructive criticize and they use it as fuel to improve them self’s. No one needs to be accepted for who they are when they know that they have things in their life that need to be addressed.

@TyreseTyGetItTheOriginal05

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

@tizhariyah30

4 жыл бұрын

Yup!

@ga9100

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with you T that shirt u have on do some research and u will burn it

I SWARE IVE HAD HUNDREDS ON TOP OF HUNDREDS OF CONVERSATIONS ON THIS VERY SAME SUBJECT OVER THE LAST 6 MONTHS. THANK U 4 SHARING A "WOMANS" PERSPECTIVE ON THIS

I’m going to have to let this Grown Female go. 😒... unfortunately.

@Itsme_1648

4 жыл бұрын

NEnigma Elle Did you show her this video first?

@Lglover001

4 жыл бұрын

Nah... didn’t have to, nature took its course and it’s done.

@Lglover001

4 жыл бұрын

Britney L 🥰thank you !

@Lglover001

4 жыл бұрын

Britney L I’m not greedy... just want 1 real 1 aside from daughter, it’s not appropriate in my eyes to talk you your kids about everrrrything. So God’s will.

This woman must be protected at all costs.

This channel is underrated cause you are speaking truth. People don't want to believe that their sh*t stinks.

This has to be one of the best videos I've seen. I've been waiting for this a long time.

I absolutely love your content and hearing it from a females prospective that doesn't seem bias is refreshing. I swear I say these things and no woman wants to hear it from me.

I am 22 years old, and after watching this video I realize that I am still very immature and have a lot to learn. What tips or tools would you suggest, can you make a video about that Sara? I’m ready to grow and make some changes.

@AGemini93

4 жыл бұрын

Deff agree ! ♥️

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

I’ll make several videos about growing into a better woman. Of course, Love.

@wshelby83

4 жыл бұрын

Just Jay Right!! I'm 21 and I do have a lot of growing to do as well

@nikkishropshire7174

4 жыл бұрын

Ladies you learn with experience 😉stay focused and keep god first !! I'm 33 And learn new tools everyday !! Tip #1 ALWAYS KEEP IT CLASSY

@makalahthompson4042

4 жыл бұрын

I’m 21 and I’m in the same boat and didn’t even realize it until I got into a relationship with a grown man.

I love and admire you two!.. I am a 57 year old "grown man." (smile) Even though you're much younger..I consider you both, mentors. You are wise, well beyond your years. Keep up the great work! ~DC

Thank you for this! Taking notes 📝

Some people have grown female traits and grown women traits they are in between the grown woman phase

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

king Jaffe Indeed! These are sisters that have developed in some areas, but have not yet grown or healed in others.

@kingjaffe321

4 жыл бұрын

I agree I just cut one of them off man she was so damn fine

@Beanieboom

4 жыл бұрын

king Jaffe why?

Sara after hearing this breakdown there is about 98 percent of grown females outhere and maybe 2 percent grown women that's sad

@Itsme_1648

4 жыл бұрын

True the Soulja Change your environment 😉

@racqueldillon3560

4 жыл бұрын

Get around more diverse groups of people and be picky about your interactions.

Definitely on point. Speaks the opposite of what I discuss on my channel. Logic over emotion and men's accountability. Great Stuff Sis.

I’m saving this video, much respect

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

BlkWallStreet ADOS Generational wealth Much Love Family!✊🏿

@Lglover001

4 жыл бұрын

BlkWallStreet ADOS Generational wealth I did too. Lol

This was a great message! Please keep them coming. I’m learning a lot!

Thank you, great advice

Thanks for this! I had to take an honest look at myself and admit I have some grown female traits. Keep up the great work!

Everything you speak of in this video is what I look for in my counterpart. Getting to each other's core is a tedious task, and makes the ups and downs worthwhile. Falling in love and staying in love is a serious undertaking for me and her, but I think your tutorials will part great help!

Growing older is necessary. Growing Up is optional.

You said everything correct. One thing I’d like to add, immature Males/Females are the way they are mostly due to their upbringing, their past. They haven’t taken the time to “heal their inner child”. So, it’s important for the ones that are hurting, that don’t believe their life can get better, to know thy self and recognize that life is your right. Don’t let “the media” or what has better socially acceptable to keep you from learning the truth about Life. You can achieve anything you put your mind to. You can always become the best version of yourself.

I really appreciated & needed to see & hear this video.... can’t wait until you come out with the male version so I can see the areas where I need to & can grow at. 💯🙌🏾

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Maleek Hellem I appreciate that brother.

@vr4892

4 жыл бұрын

Honestly, a man should be talking about the difference between a grown man and grown male! Not a woman! Just like a man shouldn’t be talking about a grown woman/female; a woman did that! Why? Because how can you talk about something you never experience and don’t have a clue about. You can only talk about things from your experience and perspective. Just my opinion

I love your locs! Good info!

Great video, thank you! Also, your skin is beautiful!!

Great perspective. Looking forward to the men/male version.

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

J. Wellington Much Love!

Awesome video. Thanks.

As a grown woman, I’ve often had to end my relationshipswith grown females. They bring a certain energy to your environment that, for me, is “too much”. So this goes beyond the romantic relationship aspect. Thanks, this is insightful!

I appreciate how you differentiate between a grown woman and a grown female. Like you stated there is a difference which boils down maturity. I have noticed this with women who choose real Ninjas instead of real men

I just love you and your spirit thank you Queen for these videos

Great advice thanks 💯

Great video!

Very true thanks for this video

I am definitely appreciative of this video. It has helped me realize how much I have grown and matured over the past few years. And I'm grateful that I have steadily been progressing into becoming the best version of myself. However, this video has also made me reflect on those negative "qualities" I have been trying to work on and I definitely need to step up my game. Number 1 was a big one for me. While I have no problem genuinely apologizing for my actions or wrong doings in situations without being prompted to do so, I do get easily offended sometimes. I'm still a work in progress and I pray no one counts me out because I'm not "complete." As always, thanks for helping to heal & energize the Black community one video at a time. #PeaceAndBlessings

@SaraLena

4 жыл бұрын

Indya Thomas Number 1 is a big one for everyone! Lol It’s easy for us to make excuses and try to justify why we do the things we do. It takes a lot of growth, maturity, and discipline to hold ourselves accountable. But much respect to you on your transformation journey!

@icyourbs

4 жыл бұрын

This is a grown woman response.

I love this... thanks.

Thank you I really did enjoy this video because I think it really helped me to understand a lot about myself.

“A grown woman can’t to nothing with a boy” thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

You always keeping real and fair across the board for both sex.I appreciate this video so much.Keep dropping these precious gems queen.

It just dawned on me this past week after throwing the biggest tantrum at 33 that I am not grown like I thought I was. I have a few grown women qualities but that doesn’t make me grown. Thanks for sharing this. I can’t wait to see the rest of your content.

Thank you so much very good advice. It really help me out again thank you.

You are that woman go head lady!! Every lady needs a woman friend like you!!! Thank You for sharing your videos 😚💅🏽

Sara Lena is a nice sister, and a dope writer. I especially appreciate how she can turn one-syllable words into two-syllable words for emphasis. "Man" becomes "may-hn" "Feel" becomes "fee-yhl" "Will" becomes "wee-yhl"

You could have ended the video with Trait number 1. Everything else falls into place once a woman has accountability and responsibility. It's the most important trait in my opinion.

You had me with your Title...So, I have 23 year old daughter and I feel you are voice that is needed for this generation. Gotta Love this Sister.🎯🌹

On point with this video...and when the male one is uploaded, if anything said applies to me, imma take it as an indicator for me to grow from my current state

I’m so happy I found your videos

One of the best explanations of females I've encountered on KZread very insightful!!!

Well !! Little Lady its a lot of adult females out there.

@sarikaholmes2716

3 жыл бұрын

I absolutely love the jewels u drop....now I refer to my better half as King...bc he is ...and I see how I've grown as a woman bc I once owned so many of those "Female" traits...thank u God for growth

I needed to see this

Good Information!!! Every body can learn from this

You speak so much truth so wise with wisdom. I pray that all the young women and older will listen to you and I guarantee you marriage will work. Cannot wait for you to do The men's. Thank you very much for your wisdom peace and love.

Oooooo my 👀👀👀👀👀you surly spoke the truth on this subject , I've been dealing with these issues with my lady an it's gotten worse since we have had a child !!!

1:53 nothing but facts spoken at this point!🙌🏿

Always Facts on this channel. I appreciate the 5% women that you are. Keep up the great work.

This was on point on every level

This melts my heart knowing all the prospectives that I no longer pursued had traits of a grown woman this whole time, it's too easy to see only the bad when my exposure to them is not present in my immediate family so I only know the stereotypes from tv and movies, to know they are reserved, just, and dont desire toying with me, is a great motivation to be bold when all the indicators show they are that type and to not panic and move on if they are of that non learned type.

Stop fighting the accent... It's so dope Queen 😍😂😂😂

I appreciate this.

You nailed it ❤️

Thank you I need this lesson.

A grown woman also isn’t selfish she doesn’t expect you to get her things for Christmas and birthdays without her doing the same. She understands and gets the fact that the relationship is the prize and not just her. If you want to own a business and she have a degree in business management she is more than happy to help you. If you get her something for her birthday she will do the same thing

Great Video Your like an accountability partner for us brothers and the sisters. We need this wisdom in our community. Would love to see you and Shahrazad Ali do a lecture or speaking together. When are you going to write a book I will buy it.

This woman in this video is indeed a unicorn, her argument is well balanced, she is feminine, has beautiful skin, no visible tattoos, she appeared to be married, this is so refreshing to see, just hoping she is not an undercover feminist. There may be some hope out there black man.

@ashley-annasledge9869

4 жыл бұрын

Sergio Guerrero lol what’s wrong with feminism?

well done.

Great video ma'am 👍

🕓Thank You!

New subscriber here! I just wanted to share that I enjoy your content. I noticed that you've mentioned that you have gotten feedback that your videos are too long. I'm only one person but totally disagree. Your subject matter is not light so it needs to be broken down in depth. So I said all that to say that your doing an awesome job and I'm here for the long videos. ✌🏾💞💡

Thank you for these great videos. I definitely had to subscribe. I wish more females would watch your channel.

I am still working on myself but I have made progress but thank god for my boyfriend helping me on this journey and opening my eyes to what i needed to work on.

If you use your Zodiac sign as an excuse for your actions, you have a lot of growing and maturing to do 💯

EXCELLENT! Is this list written/ typed down somewhere?

THIS WOMAN IS SPITTIN 🙌🏿

Peace. Nice Build

This is what needs to go viral! Not allat other shiii

Men can benefit by watching this as well! Great stuff!

Need more women like you queen 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

This should be on nbc twice a day.

I notice that a lot of men watch your channel! That's great

@andrewharry5472

4 жыл бұрын

Shouldn't matter

So true

I LOOOVE this sista!! 😂😭😭😭😭😭😭🤎🤎🤎

Your inside beauty shines out

beauty and brain's , a rare trait that is hard to find in these days