1-The law of attraction! 2-You can speak elegantly with an accent 3-Enunciate and articulate 4-Don't go up or trail at the end 5-Reduce filler words - Practice on the mirror Practice out to the world! Practice Practice Practice!

@tristan4386

2 жыл бұрын

what does number four mean ?

@SincerelyHannah9

2 жыл бұрын

The law of attraction is demonic lmao UHH avoid it at all costs y’all

@madaa_batista143

2 жыл бұрын

@@SincerelyHannah9 no it isn't

My teen daughter and her friends play a game to reduce filler words: One is given a topic to speak about, for as long as possible, without using filler words. The one who can do it longer wins. They are always trying to improve their time!

These are good tips, however, I believe equally as important and noticeable, is to eliminate the filler words, “Um” and “You know “. It is not easy, but makes a huge difference in sounding more elegant.

@jyothipathak5456

Жыл бұрын

You’re right.

@ajohonly3721

Жыл бұрын

🙌🏿☝️

As a teacher of 25 years, I feel heartened to see this video. I would add that good grammar is also essential. The final practice sentence should be, "This sentence is a perfect example OF how to speak elegantly."

The guys at the Elks lodge are going to be so impressed with me.

Stumbled upon this in my feed. This video is full of useful tips thank you for sharing your knowledge. I was blessed to have a mom who taught me the importance of presenting myself well from a young age and taught me the importance of manners. We can always improve ourselves and learn more. My mom grew up very poor (she had 2 dresses, slept in a covered porch with no heat in Iowa, they had very little food and no luxuries) but that did not stop her. She took advantage of the local library, learning manners and watching travel films. Being elegant has nothing to do with having money, but with having the spirit to learn. I hope this channel inspires people to learn and grow in ways that open many opportunities for them.

@4gma59

2 жыл бұрын

The perfect example of a high quality woman. Thanks for sharing with us, DeeDee.

@thesensitiveowl

2 жыл бұрын

I love stories like this. People like your mother are living proofs that elegance has no social class and the only barrier between us and our more polished versions are our mindsets. Thanks for sharing.

going along with "taking out heavy slang".... replace "what" with "pardon." Makes a world of difference.

I’m focusing on elevating my elegance in my 60’s. I teach English as a second language, single, and dating again…primed for elegance.🌹

I'll give a few tips to others that may help. 1. You can speak well solely with confidence and positive energy regardless of your accent. (You cant fake this though. 2. You can speak "elegantly" and not obnoxiously or contrived, by speaking with clear distinction. 3. Proper communication between people is not about speaking with complex or verbose words. Speaking simply what you are trying to convey is important. If you have someone scratching their heads, then you have committed a faux pau. 4. There is a difference with what you believe is "Elegant" and what is actually a familiarity among people who come from ultra educated households or very refined breeding. This is probably the hardest to convey, understand and master because its generally a lifetime of learning through osmosis, (a culture. Not by trying to create a new existing accent. It would be just as difficult to behave as if you were apart of any other culture you were not raised as. In other words, its the people around you and your environment and the schools you go to which will regulate the way you speak naturally. 5. Knowing this, you may attempt to improve and tweak your way of speaking to a point where it is familiar sounding to the well bred and well educated. There is nothing disingenuous or wrong about wanting to sound more pleasing and bring comfort to others in the applicable social settings. Feel good about your self and your intentions on why you are learning this. A. You can't be thinking about it or trying too hard otherwise you will come across as fake. B. It's about being soft and clear and distinct without coming across as obnoxious. C. No one can pick you out for sounding rich or anything. You know when to pause, you use certain tones, often comforting tones. You do not over react or use too much inflection for intense or sophisticated language. D. Do not attempt to sound "rich" or like the valley girl or the typical WASP with that drawl. This is a different accent. Sometimes these accents often meddle in the same circles. However this is not the well educated or refined way of speaking. Even a professor may not speak in this manner because it is not simply how educated you are that defines how refined your articulation is, but your inflection and clarity and control of breathing and its consistency over the course of a conversation which again is brought upon by your environment not by reading books or getting A's. Conclusion: You will need to also understand the complexity and nuances of body language and demeanor that goes a long with how you speak. It's just not possible to have one without the other. It's a package deal. Also understand that behaving in an elegant manner or in a way that is pleasing to others that would appreciate such behavior is called being graceful and it has no relation to public speaking or effective leadership.

So, I have a confession to make. I've been a fan of yours for years. Before opening a KZread channel, I watched every video of you on etiquettes I could find. Then finally you opened a KZread channel! 💕 I was very very very very excited.. and still am. I want to say that I wish you could've opened a KZread channel like a decade ago, but no regrets! I get to watch your videos on marathon. Also, I love how friendly you are. 💕 Love from Kenya 🇰🇪

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness this is so wonderful to hear! Thank you so much for the support and for watching! ❤️❤️❤️

opening my mouth more into a "Mona Lisa" smile when I'm speaking is something I realized I needed to improve on since practicing in the mirror. Thank you for including this in your video!

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you found it helpful! :)

Thank you, Myka for the helpful tips. I am learning refinement in my 30's. I also needed an internal FEELING to grasp these concepts, so it helps to think of myself as a princess learning dress and etiquette lessons. More table dining and party etiquette, please!

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Would LOVE to do more dining and party etiquette! Will absolutely post more! Thank you for letting me know what videos you want to see! :)

I enjoy elegance topic. In my family elegance topic is our tradition. Girls in my family are learned how to walk. How to speak. My mother learned me all of these things and now I feel like a true lady and I love it.

I can't stop starring at that most beautiful headband. Thanx fo the lesson. Heard everything 😍

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

Oh thank you! This headband is from Lele Sadough :) xoxo

@mhopi9744

3 жыл бұрын

@@mykameier7474 thanx lots 😍

I’m excited to practice this- thank you for sharing!!

Thank you so much for this lesson! It’s been years since I have heard someone mention this topic. My charming southern grandmother in North Florida was an English teacher and she used to fuss at me and tell me to “Enunciate your words!” Fun fact, she helped me prepare for a 4H public speaking contest in 5th grade where I demonstrated how to set a table. I would have loved to learn etiquette and turn it into a career like you did- I think that is so interesting! I have the Beaumont etiquette video series and your books and one day I’d love to take one of your classes at the Plaza. But until then, thank you for putting out such useful and timely content! Now I’m going to practice enunciating and articulating in front of my mirror 😉

@CEinNC

4 жыл бұрын

Also what lip color are you wearing? I love it!

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness thank you so much! I’m so glad you found it helpful and I hope to see you at future Plaza course! ❤️🥰 also thank you! It’s a gloss by Rimmel called Oh My Gloss in number 7059 😊

I love your blouse and headband

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you - You are so kind! The headband is from Lele Sadough and the blouse I cannot remember at the moment but I included the credit when I wore it on my Instagram last year! Hope that is helpful

This was a really interesting video, thank you 😊 I’m British and the funny thing is that young people here now are sounding more American! We have now adopted, hi rather than hello, like, gotten rather than I got, can I get, rather than may I have. Not all British accents are elegant though! I love the film My Fair Lady where cockney speaking Eliza Doolittle is asked to say “The Rain in Spain stays Mainly on the Plain”

Your speech lesson is definitely standing out among all other coaches!

You have a lovely, warm way of presenting. It makes your content very accessible 😊

Just found your channel from The Daily Connoisseur and my children and I love watching your videos. Also, I am from Sarasota, FL too, such a small world.

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

WOW!!! SHS grad right here! I miss home :)))))

@fertilehomestead8879

3 жыл бұрын

@@mykameier7474 I was homeschooled, but went to prom and homecoming there with someone that went there. That was the school for where we lived.

This was such a fun video! I have recently been trying to switch from yeah to yes and it is very hard! Also, coincidentally I am from the east coast of Florida and my mother is a Speech Language Pathologist. Thank you for the lovely tips, I cannot wait to implement them.

Thank you so much!!!! This will help me so much!!!

I enjoyed your interview with Jennifer L. Scott of The Daily Connoisseur! I am looking forward to your KZread content and to becoming more elegant in speech. Cheers to being classy and chic! Blessings! 😊

I love the examples and the homework, Myka! Thank you so much. I learned about you from Jennifer Scott, and I am thankful I did.

This is such a lovely video! Thank you!

I really love this topic, want to practice more and more. Thank you dear Myka

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

❤️ I’m so glad you enjoyed it!!

Thank You so much i practice it everyday and it helps me in grooming and your videos give me self confidence thanks alotttttt

This is an amazing video! Thank you for sharing these valuable techniques and tricks. Really appreciate it! :)

These are great tips. I will practice hard! Thank you.

You are Fabulous this is so helpful you deserve so much more than money for doing this for everyone!

That was really wonderful and interesting! That you so much! 💙🌞🤗

Beautiful video, learning so much. Thank you.

Dear Myka, I'm searching ways to develop my voice and manners when speaking for ages. I read, whatch only good shows and study professional. You ARE 💯 right!! Once I read that Jacqueline Kennedy and sister had a big trainning to talk as they mannaged to do.

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

It really does take time! Even celebrities must practice it! sounds like you're off to a great start! :)

Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us! I have your book and watch your videos. Thank you for giving us homework to practice ❤

Thank you. This was amazing, I now have a new elegant voice. I sound so much more confident. You’ve now gained a new fan & subscriber 🥰

I’m going to start practicing! 😃

Wow!! 😍 I’m so glad I found your video & channel! Thank you so much for this video and for the homework!!! 💖 I’m so excited for this journey! ☺️

Hey! I mean hello. New subbie, I mean subscriber here. Florida native here from Bradenton, I love in Tampabay area now. I learned about you from Jennifer’s page. Love this video. ❤️

This is such a helpful video! I often rush through what I'm saying... to some level lack of confidence... but what happens, people don't understand what I say. I need to take my time and enunciate my words. Thank you!

Hello from Thailand. Thank you for this very informative video! This is very useful! I’m a non-native English speaker, so I always try to speak slowly and clearly as much as I can. Because I’m afraid that people will not understand what I say. I think reducing filler words is the hardest part. But I believe practice, practice and practice will make perfect. 👍

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! Practice is key! And speaking slowly is a good practice for speakers of all languages, so you’re already off to a great start! Thank you for watching! 🥰

Thank you for teaching us:)

Love your headband and top

Love your shirt!

Love it!💞 I love your videos! How did you adapt moving from Florida to NY? It's sooooo cold there!

Excellent and helpful video. Thanks!!

I love your channel, thank you. I needed this one. Hello from Ohio.

You're best yet imho. Thanks so much 😊👍❤️

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness! Thank you for watching!! ❤️

From Jennifer Scotts page. Great tips!!

This was fantastic. Thank you for the tips. I have A LOT of practicing ahead of me. Also, go Gators!

Amen! Great tips.🤗🙏

Thank you Myka Meier for your wonderful lessons🌺, can you suggest any books about speaking eloquently???

Thank you!

I remember in my speech class in college doing “toastmasters” and it really helped bring our attention to these filler words and “filler phrases” like “know what I mean?.” It really worked!

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Love this! Filler words and phrases can be so sneaky! :)

@munequa81

4 жыл бұрын

once it becomes safe, I'm going to join my local Toastmasters chapter.

@evelynmom2902

3 жыл бұрын

Graciela highly recommend it! 👍

Very valuable information, thank you ♥️

that’s what i need 😊

Very helpful,I will definitely practice this..thank you

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

It takes practice but just remember to test it out at places where nobody knows you at first and it will build confidence and before you know it you will start speaking more eloquently without event trying!! Cheering you on!

I love this! The second sentence reminds me of Eliza Doolittle! ❤️ Also, I enjoyed your interview with Jennifer Scott.

Love your videos.

Waoo Myka. That was wonderful this video... could you do much much much more, please lovely

I sabsolutely agree.

Once again thanks Myka ♥️❤️🌹

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

❤️🥰😘

Brilliant.

I am so excited that I found your videos. You’re very in the “now”! You don’t seem judge and happy to teach anyone. Thank you.

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! I’m so excited you are here and finding them helpful ❤️❤️❤️

My husband is English (taught with the English Southern accent) and they actually squish words together more and say things faster. This includes the educated. For example, "lit'rally", where US Americans say "lit-er-ally". IMO, I think Americans enunciate and exaggerate with harder dipthongs than other Anglo speakers. They also say Americans haven't spoken English in years lol. There's a lot they don't pronounce because of the long history of widespread illiteracy a long time ago. So there's a lot of misspelling and different spellings of the same word/name. It's also kind of their own code -- the sounds they don't say that Americans don't -- because after all, it is a different language. Like in French, you only pronounce the last letter of the word if there's an 'e' at the end!

Thanks

Great video. I have a lot of practice ahead of me.

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Starting the practice is the first step! :)

Thank youu😍😍good tips

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

❤️🥰

Thank you..

I would love to be more elegantly.

Love the word swaps. That might be a good video on it’s own 😉 Have a fabulous week!

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely! 🥰 Thank you very much!

Hi Myka! I knew all of that because I've read your Modern etiquette book 😃 I'm about to start Business etiquette made easy 😉 Have a lovely day. Greetings from Spain.

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the support! I’m glad you’ve found it helpful! ❤️

I really want to do this and have tried many times...but I feel sooo lazy to! LOL I will try! It gets tiring! But I always admire someone who speaks so eloquently, for instance Diane Sawyer!

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

YES! I am a huge Diane fan!!!

Nice video very helpful 🙏🏻 thank you

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you enjoyed it!

Good work.

Thank you for this mini lesson in verbal etiquette. My biggest takeaways are 1. Speak slower and 2.Be aware of and stop using filler words (especially "like", that is awful). 3. Pronounce the full word. I would add to stop using contractions. Say the full word such as cannot instead of can't, or do not instead of don't, especially do not use "gonna", say "I will" do this or that.

I remember meeting an older *English* woman while on vacation 20 years ago - she was adamant that she was not British. She lamented how elocution was no longer taught, or not taught well. I'm certain she would be horrified at how common it has become to completely drop "t" pronunciation (bu-un, versus but-ton).

I love this video, thank you so much and I know you from Jennifer Scott

Love this, Myka! As my mother used to teach her students, "Yes, with an S". 🥰

@mykameier7474

Жыл бұрын

🥰🥰

I always enjoy your videos. You always provide useful tips. I also love how you are so lively and full of energy! Thank you so much💗

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much! I’m so glad you find them helpful! :)

This is such a helpful video for many. Pronunciation is a major skill to have. For example, the word “cotton.” It is extremely unattractive to hear someone pronounce it without the “T.” “Co’on!” So irksome!

@mimieemmanuel9469

3 жыл бұрын

That’s subjective

@TheDestineyy

2 жыл бұрын

For certain British accents, saying words without the T’s are normal. For example ‘better’ turns into ‘be’ah’. It’s called glottalisation

Great content. Could you please comment on what you see as the difference between enunciate and articulate?

Hi Myka, I love your videos. I have been working on my mannerism and trying to improve the way I carry myself and was so happy when I found you started a KZread channel. I was hoping you may answer a curiosity I had concerning on how one should maintain there composure when asked personal questions? As I recently graduate high school and am a sophomore in college I get asked many question about future plans and the work I am doing and though I am proud of my accomplishments I do not like to get into much detail. Although more and more frequently I find my self in situations that feel like interrogations rather than conversations. For instances like those how should one act or what can I do to avoid these types of situations without sounding rude or put off?

@Cekatu

3 жыл бұрын

@Natalia Sanchez I understand exactly what you are talking about. I hope she responds here or makes a video addressing your question.

first time on this channel and I love the intro song

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

Aw thank you!! I wanted something happy and welcoming :)

This reminds me of the hilarious scene in Singing in the Rain, when movies went from silent to "talkies" and the actress' own voice was awful. Someone tries to teach her the right way to speak. :)

@beaumontetiquette6195

3 жыл бұрын

Ha! I love it

@leahmoore6430

3 жыл бұрын

Speaking of old movies the accent that the people in old movies talking in the transatlantic accent, I think it’s so nice and pleasing to the ear.

This is sooo phenomenal. Thanks.

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

💕💕

Hola, como estas? Podrás programar tus vídeos subtitulados en español? Gracias

Even a cat may look at a king. I grew up speaking properly from day one, because it is how my mother, and even grandmother, spoke. No slovenly slack speech spewed forth from freakishly foetid accents aplomb. Why? It's how I was raised. Yeah, I can drop into a more base accent, but there's no need...usually. If you enunciate such that I can easily understand you, regardless of your base accent (e.g. deine Muttersprache ist, z.B., Tamil oder Russisch) I will still be able to converse with you, and we shall be great friends. I know plenty of celebrities, whose trademark is their wildly, nearly off-putting, accents. Don't try to be a celebrity. Be you. That's the best!!!

That's so good video. Only think there are sounds behind. İf you can clean them it will be more beneficial to nel listener.

Hiii Myka.🙋...I'm ur new subscriber... I watched your royal etiquette video...it's wonderful... Your video s r really good... I do want to follow your suggestions...😊😊🤲🤲

Here in the uk people speak really horribly and they always use slabs and I’m just appalled I love speaking in an elegant and sophisticated manner! I’m really trying to increase my elegance of speaking more 💘

I love this! And I can't count how many English teachers have said to me to "miss" letters in order to be fluent in English... Now I know why I didn't like it 😊

fantastic video

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching!

On the first day of 7th grade as our teacher was laying down the law, she said, "...and finally there is one four-letter word I do not allow in my classroom." We gasp. She turns towards the blackboard and writes, "Yeah".

@hii4558

3 жыл бұрын

LOL HAHAHHHAHA

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

This is brilliant!!!!

Oh my gosh filler words and slowing down while speaking are what i'm working on! Thanks for this video! 👏💞

Wow, great lesson. This is something I've never thought about. Guess I will now keep my ears open. Thanks.

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

😘❤️

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Thank you so much! So should cities be included like "At-lan-ta" instead of "At-lan-na?"

@mykameier7474

3 жыл бұрын

I say AT-LAN-TA very clearly :) I also think it’s cultural. In the south, cities are pronounced in different dialects but I really still always like to over pronounce

I didn’t realize I had some sort of speech 🎤 issue until I replayed one of my Snapchat videos, I tend to repeat certain words, that’s considered my filler words..it happens when I’m trying to get a thought across..I sound silly sometimes 😭

A good trick is to practice to speak distinctly with a cork between your lips.

@mykameier7474

4 жыл бұрын

Great suggestion! Often used in voice work and SO effective

@ametrineambrosia4929

3 жыл бұрын

I don't understand. Why a cork between your lips?

@girlwithhappiness1298

3 жыл бұрын

@@ametrineambrosia4929 same I dont understand it too

@ametrineambrosia4929

3 жыл бұрын

@@girlwithhappiness1298 you're so beautiful!!! You radiate it and I love your username!! You're a real gem!!

@nellking17

3 жыл бұрын

I am a practicing speech pathologist with 30 years experience, I don’t recommend the use of a cork between your lips when improving your overall articulation skills. You need your lips to be able to form your sounds correctly, it may work for vocal practice because you are taking the ability to articulate away and have to focus on vocal control, but most definitely not used for improving articulation. Mika is suggesting you formulate all the sounds/syllables in a word. In order to do this you must first reduce your rate of speech (slow down) to coarticulate the words and work on your auditory processing of hearing yourself saying these words. I would suggest you take a paragraph from a book, then pull the first sentence from it, start by saying each word individually in front of a mirror and listen to each sound you make, then read half of the sentence, then practice the other half, then the whole sentence, then keep practicing until you have mastered the whole paragraph. With everyone having cell phones, make recordings of yourself to listen to see if you actually articulated each sound. To change how you already speak to one of over articulating isn’t easy to do. If you are serious about changing your speech pattern and you feel the need to do this keep your practice to one where frustration is at a minimal.. also, remember you can code switch between your natural rhythm of speaking and your more articulate way of speaking, by just using your more articulate way in places where you feel it is needed. I hope this makes sense, I wrote rather quickly!!