3 Rules That Will Immediately Change Your Life

These 3 Rules for Life are simple, straightforward but nearly impossible to adhere to.
One of the best lessons I’ve taken from @JordanBPeterson over the years is that we can create rules for life for ourselves. I think this is incredibly profound. The idea that we can set our own principles to navigate the world promotes self-control and discipline.
So I sat down and asked myself, what are MY rules for life? And, what makes a good rule for life? For me, they need to be simple and straight to the point, but also nearly impossible to achieve - because why would you want a rule for life you can hit within a year? They should require constant effort.
I’ve shared my three in this video. You can love them or hate them, take them or leave them, I don’t care. But I’d like to see your rules for life in the comments.
Timecodes:
00:00 INTRO
01:45 RULE #1: You are responsible for everything in your own experience. Even if it’s not your fault.
06:05 RULE #2: There is no such thing as a bad emotion. There are only bad reactions to emotions.
10:38 RULE #3: Every action and decision you make should be motivated to improve lives.
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  • @AndreAlessiCastro
    @AndreAlessiCastro2 жыл бұрын

    1. Radical Responsibility: You're responsible for everything in your own experience, even if it's not your fault. 2. Radical Acceptance: There's no such thing as a bad emotion. There are only bad reactions to emotions. 3. Radical Growth: Every action and decision you make should be motivated to improve lives.

  • @Theunknownuser652

    @Theunknownuser652

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks a lottt❤

  • @khushisingh2163

    @khushisingh2163

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks👍😊

  • @devakinandan23

    @devakinandan23

    2 жыл бұрын

    I honour this guy by taking screen shot of this

  • @derekstark6612

    @derekstark6612

    2 жыл бұрын

    Screenshotted ~ thank you!

  • @nathaliealidee6650

    @nathaliealidee6650

    2 жыл бұрын

    that's it!

  • @albwilso9
    @albwilso9 Жыл бұрын

    Yes!! I I am 78 years old and I am still trying to improve myself, and will do so all my life!! That is what makes life good, and interesting !!!

  • @alexjulius69

    @alexjulius69

    Жыл бұрын

    How are you 4 months later?

  • @pranjalrawat2590

    @pranjalrawat2590

    Жыл бұрын

    ​@@alexjulius69 lol

  • @alexjulius69

    @alexjulius69

    Жыл бұрын

    @@pranjalrawat2590 What's funny, I'm just impressed by this guy being on youtube at 78 years old, that's rare.

  • @Elaba_

    @Elaba_

    Жыл бұрын

    Do you take food supplements?

  • @amar-td4zs

    @amar-td4zs

    Жыл бұрын

    @@alexjulius69 ded prob, jk

  • @MindsettoMastery
    @MindsettoMastery2 жыл бұрын

    One of my rules: Self-love is not conditional. It doesn't mean that you love yourself once you achieve X. It's about loving yourself just as you are right now.

  • @VrittiKhawani

    @VrittiKhawani

    2 жыл бұрын

    👍

  • @mr.knownothing33

    @mr.knownothing33

    2 жыл бұрын

    Definitely we are enough

  • @ezra4554

    @ezra4554

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed, self-love should be unconditional. Self-respect, on the other hand, requires constant upkeep!

  • @ezra4554

    @ezra4554

    2 жыл бұрын

    @تشاريينه Yes, it does. I assume by "killer" you mean someone morally reprehensible like (as an extreme example) a child rapist/murderer. Putting aside the fact that you can be a killer for morally just reasons (defending your family, for example), I still say that self-love (by which I mean loving the divine/transcendent aspect of your being that makes you human and it's ability to change the world and itself for good) is the best path. That's not to say that such a person shouldn't feel ashamed or (hopefully) remorseful for their actions (in fact, self-love's function is often to allow us to honestly see our faults), nor that they should be unpunished, it's just the case that loving (or attempting to love), nurture, and share the good that remains in yourself is a far more productive endeavor than spending the rest of your life doing nothing but hating yourself. You may even end up helping some people on the way. So I suppose I do apply conditions for self-love, though in the sense that I think people are not genuinely able to love themselves unless they are honest (in so far as they are able to be) with themselves about themselves. We all struggle with this at times, and we tend to notice it happening, we feel the lack of self-love in those moments.

  • @twinkietwinkie9258

    @twinkietwinkie9258

    2 жыл бұрын

    @تشاريينه admittin mistakes does not prevent self love

  • @DemetriPanici
    @DemetriPanici2 жыл бұрын

    *“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.” - James Clear*

  • @dimitridoroshko

    @dimitridoroshko

    2 жыл бұрын

    What's up, Demetri?

  • @JesusChrist-su9zj

    @JesusChrist-su9zj

    2 жыл бұрын

    Whatsthematterpunk?

  • @ricklil8174

    @ricklil8174

    2 жыл бұрын

    That is Deep!

  • @user-mc5fg3fx5w

    @user-mc5fg3fx5w

    2 жыл бұрын

    Bot

  • @vajs6312
    @vajs631211 ай бұрын

    1. Always be at peace with what the worst possible outcome of a situation might be and accept that it’s not only possible, but sooner or later - inevitable. 2. Try to make every social interaction fun (at least for yourself) 3. Accept that you did your best with what information you had at the time.

  • @SamS.455

    @SamS.455

    9 ай бұрын

    Solid. 👍

  • @jessygirl4339

    @jessygirl4339

    8 ай бұрын

    Love this

  • @anusha2465

    @anusha2465

    5 ай бұрын

    I always felt the third advice because there is no point in blaming the past you.

  • @septimius8244
    @septimius82442 жыл бұрын

    My 3 rules would be 1)love yourself- take care of your mind and body health, do what you love 2) no comparison - you're a unique existence just figure out your own way through life 3) Empathy with other people - you will not get easily angry & don't easily influenced by other people's emotion

  • @anniemartinho9360

    @anniemartinho9360

    Жыл бұрын

    Do agree

  • @ZippetyZoppetyZop

    @ZippetyZoppetyZop

    Жыл бұрын

    I don’t love these rules. I don’t think you’re going to get anything productive done, but I do think these rules will make you a really nice person. Only problem is being nice doesn’t provide for your family

  • @lonezome

    @lonezome

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ZippetyZoppetyZop then you didn’t get his point. These are basic standards that help you navigate making decisions. So your condescending tone should be dropped because you don’t know more than most. You are a prime example of the Dunning-Kruger effect.

  • @lonezome

    @lonezome

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ZippetyZoppetyZop although these rules are not the greatest, this won’t be how he makes his decisions. It’s the thoughts and motivations behind your decision that matter.

  • @lonezome

    @lonezome

    Жыл бұрын

    @@ZippetyZoppetyZop also, I can say these things, but I can’t understand them for you. Most people usually get offended and try to school me, so I don’t respond. Just be aware of that before responding lol

  • @flavioptferreira
    @flavioptferreira2 жыл бұрын

    Can we just take a moment to appreciate how Mark's videos take stock footage to another, HILARIOUS level 😂😂😂😂

  • @chills2447

    @chills2447

    2 жыл бұрын

    Totally yeah

  • @rainmanjr2007

    @rainmanjr2007

    2 жыл бұрын

    I loved the water polo guy.

  • @hisanzee3052

    @hisanzee3052

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed xD

  • @alanissac1294

    @alanissac1294

    2 жыл бұрын

    The keyboard smashing lmao

  • @hannibaldelephantrider7614

    @hannibaldelephantrider7614

    2 жыл бұрын

    Guy sees a baby on outside his door, "I'm going to pretend I didn't see that". 😂😂

  • @T_Civ
    @T_Civ2 жыл бұрын

    I often follow a principle that can be laid out as: "Do nothing that harms the humanity within yourself or others." It helps me a lot to recover the sense of humanity constantly attacked by our modern (cold and alienating) way of life. Thanks for the video Mark!

  • @relativeparadox9567
    @relativeparadox95672 жыл бұрын

    1- Responsibility 2- Empathy 3- Open Mindedness

  • @kavasejanka51

    @kavasejanka51

    11 ай бұрын

    That is not exactly what he said...

  • @relativeparadox9567

    @relativeparadox9567

    11 ай бұрын

    @@kavasejanka51 it's not what he said. It's what I said.

  • @notus299

    @notus299

    11 ай бұрын

    @@relativeparadox9567 damn thats true

  • @sofiagiorgio370
    @sofiagiorgio3702 жыл бұрын

    Love your life rules Mark!! Mantras that I often tell myself: 1. "Seek and you shall find" I see this being evident in my life time and time again. If I need and seek a solution to something I almost always find it. 2. "Everything that mean something is worth fighting for" For example I am grateful to my children to mean the world to me so I always make my most effort in caring for them and putting them before my own needs. 3. "Treat others like I you want to be treated" I always admire and appreciate when People are being professional and friendly towards me so I want to pay that forward to others that I meet and work with. I am currently reading your book about hope. Thank you for your amazing books Mark 😊

  • @d-rail1781
    @d-rail1781 Жыл бұрын

    I just had a revelation smack me in the face but what you just said Mr. Manson. I realized that I just had tears of joy just to hear you say” I didn’t leave that baby at my doorstep but it is absolutely my responsibility to take care of it”. It’s nice to hear those words of relation. That one small statement tells me your entire personality.

  • @ArtSzabo
    @ArtSzabo Жыл бұрын

    1. Never stop improving 2. Always think of the other person first, put yourself in their shoes. 3. Make time for yourself and try and understand who you are inside.

  • @melissahunt5074
    @melissahunt50742 жыл бұрын

    So happy to see a new video! It was a great reminder, and was really what I needed to hear again! Thanks Mark, your videos and perspective always get me through tough times, even if the advice or things you say isn’t what I really want to hear. Your books, videos, and website have really been a great help for me in many hard stages in my life…lol, it’s even helped with some of the petty crap too and knocked my senses back up. I always come back whenever I need a good reality check or perspective and it usually helps. Like the psychological broccoli I need. Now I’m going to stop feeling sorry for myself and move forward. Looking forward to your next video Mark! And thanks again!

  • @jamiececilielange5249
    @jamiececilielange5249 Жыл бұрын

    A 'rule' of mine is to not let fear control my life. To do things I want to, despite anxiety. I don't always succeed at this, but I've become better at this.

  • @oceanioszeele961
    @oceanioszeele9612 жыл бұрын

    This put so many of my thoughts and philosophies into a few simple words. You really hit the nail on the head. Great job!

  • @lbeck119
    @lbeck119 Жыл бұрын

    Love how you give guidance to those that can't GROUND themselves.... I'm a 30 year pipefighter... This is the mindset we are trying to teach the next generation of problem SLOVERS!!!!!!

  • @philalegre6819
    @philalegre68192 жыл бұрын

    Probably one of the most aware individuals in the world! I love how you have thought of things on a whole different level. Seriously man. Btw, read Models when I was in college and it gave me a better perspective overall. Thanks Mark.👌

  • @starter89mo
    @starter89mo2 жыл бұрын

    'newborn baby on a doorstep' always cracks me up.

  • @nicksainsbury696
    @nicksainsbury6962 жыл бұрын

    The last two years have been brutal for me with break ups covid etc but got to a place where I'm being happy on my own and not chasing things to make me happy as know it starts within your self 🙏

  • @theferaltaint5065
    @theferaltaint50652 жыл бұрын

    Again Mark, you are my spirit animal. These are things I’ve been telling people for years. Very simple and straightforward list.

  • @NederDiogoJunior
    @NederDiogoJunior2 жыл бұрын

    Obrigado Mark, você me faz um ser humano menos detestável há vários anos já 😂 e continua fazendo ainda hoje

  • @devakinandan23

    @devakinandan23

    2 жыл бұрын

    Google is awesome

  • @lauragoiaba

    @lauragoiaba

    2 жыл бұрын

    é nóis, BR!

  • @AzizIzgin
    @AzizIzgin2 жыл бұрын

    I’m a new subscriber, I am really happy that I’ve found your channel. I am in a place in life where I want some answers and your lectures give me a bit of hope 🙏

  • @joyceperdon
    @joyceperdon2 жыл бұрын

    As usual, your content is freakin awesome! I've heard these from you countless times but I always want to hear them from you. thank you for reminding me of those again! I love your 3 rules and I used them often for couple of years now so thank you so much Mark!! One of my life rules: Always try to pay attention to my here and now.

  • @lateonaname
    @lateonaname2 жыл бұрын

    My life’s biggest lessons have come from taking responsibility for circumstances that may not necessarily have been my fault. You explained it so well! & We learn coping from those things which in effect hopefully help us manage the emotions we feel and to a greater extent open us to empathy and the desire to improve life in some way. Seems to come full circle my friend ☺️🙏🏽

  • @yidianzuikeai
    @yidianzuikeai10 ай бұрын

    People saying internet haters make them miserable is another example of blaming others for their decisions (of opening up herself for comment on internet) 😂😂😂😂😊

  • @learningmusicwithmalia
    @learningmusicwithmalia2 жыл бұрын

    “There’s no such thing as a bad note, there are just bad musicians.” Lmfao 🤣🤣😅💯💯💯💯💯

  • @JaysonT1

    @JaysonT1

    2 жыл бұрын

    I disagree. I've had very unruly notes from other keys jump in and cause havoc without my permission.

  • @softwareamedida
    @softwareamedida Жыл бұрын

    "I'm responsible for everything in my own experience" it's a great way of walking in life. Thanks Mark.

  • @juanramontorresano2932
    @juanramontorresano29322 жыл бұрын

    Man I discovered you had a channel some time ago and now I'm looking at one of your videos every morning while I have breakfast. Love them. They make me laugh, think, be thankful and start off the day damn well!

  • @SpeakerGregoryDwyer
    @SpeakerGregoryDwyer2 жыл бұрын

    I love the way you take age old wisdom and connect it to modern personal growth.

  • @DemetriPanici
    @DemetriPanici2 жыл бұрын

    *"It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness." Charles Spurgeon*

  • @xxyyxx2861

    @xxyyxx2861

    2 жыл бұрын

    Today I replied to a bot

  • @TheChrisSea
    @TheChrisSea2 жыл бұрын

    I shared this with my FB group for Empowered Highly Sensitive People. I think this is GOLD. Thank you Mark.

  • @cristinagardon9270
    @cristinagardon9270 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing all of this with us! This is so helpful!!!! I appreciate you!

  • @Melo-by5gi
    @Melo-by5gi2 жыл бұрын

    You helped me to understand life , people and myself better , which is something I really need it , thank you so much .💙

  • @davidr4523
    @davidr45232 жыл бұрын

    These are excellent rules by Manson! I would set my 5 Rules for Life as 1. Control your mind/thoughts- People allow themselves to have harmful thoughts that makes success and happiness impossible. Absolutely it is hard to do but you simply must. There is no other option. 2. Plan your day and your life. It is very difficult to accomplish great things if you do not know what you have to. 3. Always use time to its most productive use. This does not mean you are working toward a goal every minute. Relaxing and having fun is also part of this equation. 4. Take care of your body and mind- if you abuse both of them you will have no energy to succeed and you will probably die early. 5. Be good and kind- Even if you are not religious, there is Karma which may get you if you do bad things. In the movie almost everybody wants the evil person to lose. Of course there are many exceptions to this rule, but in more cases than not, if you follow the 5 rules above you will have a better life than if you didn't.

  • @tolaumken324
    @tolaumken3242 жыл бұрын

    Honestly, I watch your video as entertainment not just to get advice, I feel it's a kinda relief, thank you for your hard work.

  • @marcoduran4497
    @marcoduran449710 ай бұрын

    These ideas have been super useful to answer some pretty essential open questions I had. I've seen lots of videos, read books and shit, but Mark's way of structuring and framing fundamental concepts is so concise that it is like having a shortcut.

  • @david_108
    @david_108 Жыл бұрын

    You speak very profound ideas in such a simple way... Love your work man, thanks for sharing.

  • @JasonOngVlog
    @JasonOngVlog2 жыл бұрын

    As a fellow personal development blogger, I love this guy's content 🤣 Perfect combination of lessons and entertainment

  • @a4Patiole
    @a4Patiole Жыл бұрын

    Thanks @Mark I love it. Thanks for sharing. This video inspired me to have a discussion with my wife and kids and generate an individual/family rules for life. Cheers mate 🙏🏽💪🏾🙌🏽

  • @BostonInAustin
    @BostonInAustin3 ай бұрын

    "Sometimes I wonder if maybe we're becoming a little bit over vulnerable that the celebration of being vulnerable is negating the benefits that come from vulnerability." YES! That part! Well said.

  • @priya931x
    @priya931x2 жыл бұрын

    I love how every time your videos come to my feed, I never skip it & every time I watch your videos you sound so honest and what you say are so profound, I can't help but learn a lot. For now the rule I set for myself is to try and become a person whom I would myself like to be around. I know it's really hard for me to live up to that because I feel like it's really easy to think of myself as perfect and finding faults with others instead, but I try a little every day to keep reminding myself and asking myself "Am I behaving like the kind of human being I would like to be around?" It puts me back in perspective every time I do that, so that's the rule I currently follow. I also liked your rules and will try to incorporate them into my life as well. Thanks a lot!

  • @WinchurchGuitar
    @WinchurchGuitar2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for another great video Mark! I laughed really hard at the Jordan Peterson F-bomb video clips and I appreciated your passionate and realistic take on life. I personally vibe and jive with your rules. Watching your videos makes me daunted at how skilled you have become as a video maker, but they also inspire me to make better KZread and online content for my guitar students, while I also sit here getting loads of applicable advice. Yesterday I shared your 5 Ways to be More Emotionally Intelligent article with my University class, and I will continue to share your content, because it's excellent. So fuck yes to you and your videos and your books, because I fucking love them. Keep being fucking awesome, Isaac

  • @claudiagreves5370
    @claudiagreves53702 жыл бұрын

    Love this! Love your videos. THANK YOU FOR TAKING THE TIME TO SHARE THIS WITH US!

  • @missyuu9348
    @missyuu93482 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Mark, now I never care to even compare myself in a negative way! I also took the bravery to start a KZread channel (I was doubting myself) You have achieved what you intended to

  • @melissaantone9207
    @melissaantone92072 жыл бұрын

    Love this! A couple of my rules: Take Action or Let Go Be Kind or Be Quiet I also love the 5 Agreements (Ruiz): Be impeccable with your word, don't take anything personally, don't make assumptions, always do your best, and be skeptical but learn to listen.

  • @icecreampimpdeux

    @icecreampimpdeux

    Жыл бұрын

    take action or let go... I like that one alot, hell yeah

  • @cgyang

    @cgyang

    Жыл бұрын

    I really like these. My initial reaction to Be Kind or Be Quiet, was that one shouldn't let others walk all over them. Then I remembered a saying: Honesty without kindness is cruel. Kindness without honesty is also cruel. There is a path to both stick yourself for yourself and be considerate and kind. I believe, walking that line promotes emotional and intellectual growth.

  • @JOTYYY

    @JOTYYY

    6 ай бұрын

    Love it

  • @kiirdeng1548
    @kiirdeng15482 жыл бұрын

    Brought a smile to my face when he talked about Models. Mark, please do a book summary about it.

  • @mrnaizguy

    @mrnaizguy

    2 жыл бұрын

    The book that forever changed my life like nothing else!!

  • @jameshookins2770

    @jameshookins2770

    2 жыл бұрын

    I had never heard of it, and now I have ordered it.

  • @varunarumugam5525
    @varunarumugam55253 ай бұрын

    1. Radical responsibility . 2. Radical Acceptance 3. Radical Growth 🖤✨👍🏻

  • @greggelliott1434
    @greggelliott14342 жыл бұрын

    I love your rules. Two of mine (which are encompassed within yours?) have always been to seek to develop yourself to your maximum potential .... and also recognize that everything is connected.

  • @jimp9977
    @jimp99772 жыл бұрын

    Mark, you are amazing. I appreciate everything you do. Your books are awesome. These KZread videos are always on point with great humor mixed in. And your audio articles on spotify rule. Thank you for trying to inject some rationality and sanity into the world!

  • @morzansreddragon
    @morzansreddragon2 жыл бұрын

    I broke up with someone who didn't know anything about personal responsibility. Even though I purely knew all about it, I bared a brunt every time I'd unintentionally stepped out of line and it made me feel bad like being myself just wasn't enough. I'm happier now that I'm free from such a relationship I knew I didn't originally choose, now I know cutting myself off from such a person is respecting myself and my responsibility for taking back my power and living life on my terms.

  • @michaelchildish

    @michaelchildish

    2 жыл бұрын

    totally. no point keeping truly toxic people in your life

  • @freshliving4199

    @freshliving4199

    2 жыл бұрын

    That thing that made you feel bad is still inside you, with or without the other person. Overcome it so that you can truly be free. This way you will never “feel bad” again.

  • @thoughtscollided
    @thoughtscollided2 жыл бұрын

    Man, what a fantastic, action packed video. So many things to think about and more of this needs to get out to the public!

  • @JakeDuval
    @JakeDuval10 ай бұрын

    Totally agree with the emotions, we all have them, and we handle them differently. There's no rules to say how you should do so. Also agree that we are praising the vulnerable, too much. Great rules for life, Mark.

  • @sadiqadams7186
    @sadiqadams71862 жыл бұрын

    I've waited for the Peterson Manson product for a minute. today is a good day for me.

  • @Tom_Het
    @Tom_Het2 жыл бұрын

    9:00 Applauding someone for being open about their emotions is not the same thing as applauding their emotions. Being vulnerable is not the same thing as being depressed or anxious.

  • @TheSheepster

    @TheSheepster

    2 жыл бұрын

    True. I didn't notice that but people usually applaud the openness. The problem is, however, the thing we're being open about...Which tends to be VERY sensitive and negative.

  • @churchJRE
    @churchJRE2 жыл бұрын

    Your the shit man. Really great ways to conceptualize these ideas and make them relevant. Keep killing it!!

  • @jpwhatabout5864
    @jpwhatabout58642 жыл бұрын

    effort. no matter what happens in life always try your best and keep looking for answers the best you can

  • @kalash_nikov
    @kalash_nikov2 жыл бұрын

    I'm only 1 minute in, but the video gets a like for an unapologetic montage of JBP saying swear words 🐐

  • @Dog3D

    @Dog3D

    2 жыл бұрын

    “FUCK FUCK FUCK BULLSHIT” - Jordan B Peterson 2021

  • @JaysonT1

    @JaysonT1

    2 жыл бұрын

    He needs to quit his fucking cussing.

  • @mr.khaton8719
    @mr.khaton87192 жыл бұрын

    The man that changed my life. Love his books

  • @user-qw5gx8zg9p

    @user-qw5gx8zg9p

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me too

  • @movement2contact

    @movement2contact

    2 жыл бұрын

    I forced myself to finish his book and then put it for sale online... 👴🏻

  • @mr.khaton8719

    @mr.khaton8719

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@movement2contact IQ level 2000

  • @movement2contact

    @movement2contact

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mr.khaton8719 Yeah, it's that much of a terrible book... 😏

  • @tsb7911

    @tsb7911

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@movement2contact Do you need to be told how wonderful you are?

  • @charlesring4670
    @charlesring46702 жыл бұрын

    More people should think like this, thanks for spreading this knowledge so others may choose to live like this

  • @Darthnerdius87
    @Darthnerdius872 жыл бұрын

    Radical authenticity! Place your value of yourself in yourself. Also if you say honestly what you feel in the real actual way you're feeling it, you're gonna wind up liking yourself better and you have a much easier time separating the ones that love your true self from the people you are just not compatible with. You'll then have an easier time leaving those ones behind.

  • @dlloydy5356
    @dlloydy53562 жыл бұрын

    This is absolutely brilliant. Agree with all of this. One of your points aligned with something I’ve been saying for a while…we’re in danger of celebrating victim hood where people want to be more of a victim than the next victim. What happens when there are more victims than not & the balance shifts? Who will be there to take responsibility & keep society functioning!? Everyone needs to take personal responsibility for their own lives & actions.

  • @OfftheChainz

    @OfftheChainz

    9 ай бұрын

    We need to tip the scales, one person at a time.

  • @kstepk5003
    @kstepk50032 жыл бұрын

    I’m taking these rules. Balancing life and emotions is tough. Trying to center yourself and find a balanced partner seems rare.

  • @LUImusic856

    @LUImusic856

    2 жыл бұрын

    IT IS Super rare dude.

  • @thedenrock796
    @thedenrock79611 ай бұрын

    Muchas muchas gracias Mark! Resolviste muchas trabas e incógnitas que tenía. Te mereces todo lo mejor del mundo!

  • @gregorybresnahan2161
    @gregorybresnahan21612 жыл бұрын

    Really enjoyed this video and the one about paradoxes...felt like the humor outweighed the substance in the videos on this channel before that. Keep it up, Mark!

  • @adebayoileri
    @adebayoileri2 жыл бұрын

    Love first rule: Responsibility/fault fallacy

  • @Sams911
    @Sams9112 жыл бұрын

    I LOVE Jordan Peterson... he gets human nature, men, women and society... I can't say well enough for this man.. he is a giant of our time.

  • @nancy-sq2xc
    @nancy-sq2xc2 жыл бұрын

    Loved this, thank you Mark! ❤️

  • @albwilso9
    @albwilso9 Жыл бұрын

    Yes, you are so right!!! I have always felt like you say, all my adult life!!!

  • @areebatanveer7043
    @areebatanveer70432 жыл бұрын

    Since the day I read your book and got to know you, I've been claiming you as my therapist lol. Idk if that's a bad thing... but who gives a shit?! Thanks for being there on the lowest of my times. I really appreciate you. You help me deal with the circumstances so well!

  • @michaelchildish

    @michaelchildish

    2 жыл бұрын

    he did me a lot of good too, amongst other resources I found later on. Other useful bits I've learned recently thanks to him nudging me in this direction of philosophy: "who is my master? He who decides what I do or do not like" - Epictetus, former slave who rose to philosophy guru "hope for the best, prepare for the worst" - Marcus Aurelius" "the best revenge is to not be like them" - Marcus Aurelius buddha's parable of the second arrow. Epicurean philosophy has some good bits too, but I fail to remember them right now

  • @areebatanveer7043

    @areebatanveer7043

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@michaelchildish I only remember that Heraclitus said, "Everything flows".

  • @michaelchildish

    @michaelchildish

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@areebatanveer7043 The original Cynic philosophy is like a punk, anarchist attitude to life with not much relevance but fun to look at. Meanwhile Socrates had a lot of great stuff to say, but incited insurrections that led to Tyranny more than once as he desired, and was eventually executed for these shenanigans, by Hemlock I believe 😂

  • @hindiwithhetal7717
    @hindiwithhetal77172 жыл бұрын

    The models acting out as per his speech are hilarious 😆

  • @mooseofmystery
    @mooseofmystery2 ай бұрын

    01:16 lol... love this. Very refreshing delivery of Truth.

  • @TheGreenEyedBee
    @TheGreenEyedBee Жыл бұрын

    This came up In my feed today and it is really resonating with me. I guess I found it at the right time. No nonsense but a real challenge.

  • @edoardobruzzese98
    @edoardobruzzese982 жыл бұрын

    5 rules of my life: 1. Do not mock, do not pity, do not despise, but understand human actions. (Baruch Spinoza) 2. See life as a challenge (by Viktor Frankl.. to have a goal is usually to cling to something that can save your life... when he was in the lagher to escape from reality he was willing to think of his wife or when he will be out that part of fantasizing was the instinct that allowed access to survival) 3. Don't take life too seriously or you will overthink too much... thought is what makes us aware but at the same time it is also what can ruin us... Too much overthink it would mean to drive only looking the GPS without paying attentions at driving (Alan Watts) 4. You have privileges and you know it use them in a virtuous and noble way (Seneca) 5. Don't let the context define you.. be a poliedric figure dont let other define you from a single tile that forms part of your mosaic I hope my philosophical competences (Sigma Male grindset) will help you grow and became a Sigma jkjk XD (but at least became a better version of yourself UwU) **soundtrack of Drive Forever**

  • @RealJamieBarclay
    @RealJamieBarclay2 жыл бұрын

    My number 1 rule for life: Happiness doesn't come from getting more, it comes from appreciating what we have. At some point in the past you swore, that if you had, what you now have, you'd be happy. Prove your past self right.

  • @kalash_nikov

    @kalash_nikov

    2 жыл бұрын

    Proving anything to anyone, even yourself, is a scarcity mindset and is based in fear. It's definitely a good attitude for getting the results, but not an approach that brings long term happiness and contentment.

  • @frog6054

    @frog6054

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@kalash_nikov I agree, I just do things, because I want to do it, not because I want to prove myself or anyone about it.

  • @michaelchildish

    @michaelchildish

    2 жыл бұрын

    Alan Watts sometimes goes a bit off the mystical deep end for some people, even as I like it, and one thing he says that seems indisputably true is The Backwards Law: "Accepting the negative is a positive experience. Chasing the positive is itself a negative experience"

  • @ginopoe9150
    @ginopoe9150 Жыл бұрын

    Brilliantly put, like a swearing Buddhist monk enlightening others, I’m learning in a new way, thank you Mark!

  • @janetbolden597
    @janetbolden59710 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for the but on rule #2. I definitely notice praise for explosive emotions and an assumption that stoics have trouble with emotions. That was a great explanation.

  • @DonVigaDeFierro
    @DonVigaDeFierro2 жыл бұрын

    "All these years I thought it was power that brought responsibility. It's not. I was wrong. *It's responsibility that brings power.* It's knowing what needs to be done that brings strength. And courage..." - Peter Parker, Earth X

  • @Life2.0_Community
    @Life2.0_Community2 жыл бұрын

    Fucking brilliant. Thanks for sharing. Man, Sartre! He influenced me so much - nice to hear you sharing the philosophy. You explained his views very well. Such SOLID work Mark. Big fan!

  • @theresacookie5143
    @theresacookie51436 күн бұрын

    One important rufe I have for anyone who is a workaholic like I was is putting my own health first. Only if good health is given, we can give our best. So therefore I make sure to take the time I need to maintain good health in my every day life. That includes physical and mental health.

  • @princekalender2154
    @princekalender21542 жыл бұрын

    Love your work, Mark. I'm hoping to divulge some of your works in schools, back in my country. We're stuck in a system that shows no path of improvment towards our younger generations and something must be done to try and change it.

  • @aliktrike8666

    @aliktrike8666

    2 жыл бұрын

    Which country u frm?

  • @princekalender2154

    @princekalender2154

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@aliktrike8666 Argentina.

  • @mlulamibennetjeremiah6589
    @mlulamibennetjeremiah65892 жыл бұрын

    My rules: my mindset is what I need get where I want to be in life. Never skip leg day at the gym. NEVER 💪🏾

  • @movement2contact

    @movement2contact

    2 жыл бұрын

    Why..? 🤔🙄

  • @mlulamibennetjeremiah6589

    @mlulamibennetjeremiah6589

    2 жыл бұрын

    Cause it's what I believe/prefer. "My" rules

  • @movement2contact

    @movement2contact

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mlulamibennetjeremiah6589 Hmm... 🤔👴🏻

  • @edoardobruzzese98

    @edoardobruzzese98

    2 жыл бұрын

    Legendary without leg it only would be endary.. keep working, my friend

  • @Vince62524
    @Vince625242 жыл бұрын

    Mark Manson ive been watching your videos videos for quite sometime now . its kinda motivational and theres a feeling of relief every time i watch those videos of yours , specially the paradoxes , its just kinda addictive .maybe its the way of how you speak and explain things , i like this kind of channel thanks

  • @lauriew6324
    @lauriew6324 Жыл бұрын

    I wish I’d heard of Radical Responsibility 13 years ago!! That was the end of my last relationship. “The last time my heart would ever be broken.” The last time I allowed touch beyond a handshake or a friendly hug. (I feel better just having said that to a bijillion strangers :D ) I’m thrilled I found your channel!!!

  • @maintainreason8040
    @maintainreason80402 жыл бұрын

    1st rule: probably the most important thing I could get to know thanks to having read your books 2nd rule: probably the most important thing I could get to know thanks to having read your blog articles 3rd rule: probably one of the clearest things I've got out of the book about hope (shout-out to Kant), and definitely my favourite

  • @devakinandan23

    @devakinandan23

    2 жыл бұрын

    You said it bro!

  • @311DaveR
    @311DaveR Жыл бұрын

    Great thought provoking video. Love it!! I like your three items A LOT and will use them in 2023. Some of mine include: make a difference everyday, drive to feel valued and share the positive energy it brings, be a life long learner - I am 59 and never plan to stop learning, and lastly my father taught me to listen with patience so as to “hear” the entire message BEFORE you formulate a response. Those are my words of wisdom. I will weave yours in to mine - they are wonderful. Thanks for sharing!

  • @CDAL0
    @CDAL02 жыл бұрын

    Great insights Mark. Amusing delivery. Thanks!

  • @grahamplanet
    @grahamplanet2 жыл бұрын

    people say stop scrolling social media for content, but how else can you find great content. Like this !

  • @Chuck1221111981
    @Chuck12211119812 жыл бұрын

    I feel like if I ever have a baby I will leave it on Mark's doorstep. Imagine what a boss that baby will grow up to be.

  • @yellow.2504
    @yellow.25042 жыл бұрын

    I am doing academic requirements, but fuck it. Mark uploaded so time for a little break 😅😆

  • @rameslamichhane9154

    @rameslamichhane9154

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same here 😆

  • @cleaningup12
    @cleaningup122 жыл бұрын

    Enjoyed that! Your rules are good and they have a stoic essence, Mr Aurelius would be proud

  • @patriciahartner7336
    @patriciahartner73362 жыл бұрын

    Good point- our emotions are bio-feedback- react accordingly or face the consequences.

  • @michaelchildish
    @michaelchildish2 жыл бұрын

    "Strive for perfection, don't go TURBO and chuck tantrums if you don't get it, very few things in life are perfect. If absolutely necessary, accept the lesser evil" - Michael Child.

  • @michaelchildish

    @michaelchildish

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Abby did you read the rest of it? Yeah nah thought not. You read 3 words and then thought you'd give me some patronising 'advice' about not being a perfectionist. I know what the perfect solution fallacy is, so I hope you at least know what that is without googling before you try lecture somebody you know not one thing about.

  • @michaelchildish

    @michaelchildish

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Abby if you in any way think that is a logical counter-argument to me utterly dismantling your failed argument, you're sadly mistaken. If you think in any way you've hurt the feelings of a grown adult called Child, by being arrogant, egotistical, and trying to hurt my feelings, you're also sadly mistaken. Mark Manson has his own rules for life, as does jordan peterson, other people, and you don't need a lot of money, to be a best-selling author or a license to be a philosopher. STFU, stop drinking, and get some critical thinking and debate skills, you emotion-led thinker who is giving too many fs on a video by the guy who wrote the subtle art of not giving any. WREKT you hilariously triggered snowflake.

  • @michaelchildish

    @michaelchildish

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Abby lol, did you report my reply because I hurt your fee fees? Ok, I'll keep it briefer and polite: get funnier, or go away, because you're boring. I don't know how to tell you this, but some of your problems in life, are your own fault.

  • @michaelchildish

    @michaelchildish

    2 жыл бұрын

    @Abby You still think you're hurting my feelings just because yours are stirred up by some random stranger, ergo "I must be hurting his feelings cos he answers back" Nope. I am one of the most spammy peple on social media who destroys faulty logic on a regular basis all over social media and youtube. If you don't have any logic, cannot accept you're wrong and are incapable of apologising... The funnier thing is I'm actually mind controlling you right now by exploiting your emotions and you don't even realise. I am IMMUNE to the insults of total strangers on the internet, but I like to play with your minds if you come at me for no reason. Try psychologically manipulate me? Nah sorry darling, I'm better at it and you lost as soon as you replied being snotty.

  • @douglatins
    @douglatins2 жыл бұрын

    Radical responsibility... Hmm kinda like extreme ownership

  • @kineticsavant2256
    @kineticsavant225611 ай бұрын

    Loved this video. Solid life advice infused with subtle comedy just travels deep in my brain.

  • @ianwhitehead7247
    @ianwhitehead7247 Жыл бұрын

    I think you nailed what might be at the core of these ideas, being that they need to be founded in values and beliefs. Maybe then, these ‘rules’ wouldn’t seem restrictive? I’ve tried a few times to articulate for myself what I value and believe in. That was harder than it sounded…. Then having the fortitude to actually abide and act on them, that’s where the work is. And it’s so easy to fall out. But you’re totally right about the sweetness that life could bring, if we could just stick there….

  • @MrJoshplatinum
    @MrJoshplatinum Жыл бұрын

    Peterson seems more concerned with creating rules for other peoples lives.

  • @sqweed653
    @sqweed6532 жыл бұрын

    why do you look 30 years older in your thumbnails

  • @TiaFarfromhere

    @TiaFarfromhere

    21 күн бұрын

    I believe it might be since sometimes we judge very fast based on a person’s age, older=wiser. So maybe this tackles this aspect so that it encourages more clicks, or doesn’t draw away some clicks

  • @brittney3156
    @brittney315610 ай бұрын

    Agree with a caveat - I've had lots of experience with mental and physical health where on the other side of treatment I was like, "Well yeah! It's way easier to regulate my emotions now or have the energy to do other things." If your emotions or energy levels seem out of scale compared to other people, explore medical causes. It's as if I had a 100 pound backpack on that other people weren't carrying or experiencing my internal and external reality very differently from the norm. In some cases, it only required addressing vitamin levels to create huge shifts.

  • @pankajkone123
    @pankajkone1232 жыл бұрын

    Great Mark. Thanks for this.

  • @ConnorCordell
    @ConnorCordell2 жыл бұрын

    1. Nothing good happens at night besides sleeping in your own bed. Be wary of most every other activity and location to be. 2. Don't stare, it's rude, and frankly, a bit creepy. If you do accidentally get caught up in it, at least say something to the person that caught you leering to avoid further insult. 3. Cut the assholes in traffic some slack, they didn't choose to be bad drivers at this particular point in time just to personally offend you and your 13 minute commute, which will now be nearly 13.5 minutes thanks to this jerkoff.