How to Stop Making Stupid Decisions
A look into making better decisions in life.
How to make decisions was taught in high school. You may not have realized it but your Economics 101 class taught you, “there is no such thing as a free lunch.”
Think about it, if you’re eating an awesome cheesesteak, you’re giving up the chance to eat a hamburger. If you’re eating a hamburger you’re giving up the chance to eat a double-stacked burrito. And if you’re eating a double-stacked burrito, then you’re giving up the ability to ever respect yourself again.
Everything you do in life is a trade-off. Anything you say, do, or pursue has a cost and a benefit. Those costs and benefits may not always be immediately apparent - sometimes the costs and benefits are dislocated in time, the benefit being immediate and the cost in the distant future. Sometimes the costs or benefits are subtle and psychological. But nonetheless, there is always a trade-off.
In this video we’re looking at how decisions in life come down to trade-offs. And how it just so happens we’re really bad at evaluating trade-offs. Watch it. Like it. Comment on it. And make the easy decision to subscribe to the channel!
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List of books: Predictably Irrational, Influence, Stumbling on Happiness, Thinking Fast & Slow.
@sushilkhanagwal
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@aadi7437
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks man ,needed this
@andershattne
2 жыл бұрын
I'd throw in a good book on boxing for when you need to fight over a toaster.
I didn't know I needed this.
@djdigital3806
3 жыл бұрын
We all need this🤔
@user-xm1lo7sg9y
3 жыл бұрын
To the contrary.
@janycebrown4071
3 жыл бұрын
Keep watching ❣️ Mark is a smart dude 👌
Watching this video was one of the best Decisions.
“Look for the decisions that inspire the doubt and the insecurity, cuz that’s where the real shit is” loved it, great video Mark!
@sayektibruno8008
Жыл бұрын
2023 june
@HyeDonghaelove
Жыл бұрын
Damn, this hit really hard
@kingdom1872
Жыл бұрын
“It is human nature to think wisely and act foolishly.” (Anatole France)
@shorecasted9295
10 ай бұрын
Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life
The best moments I've looked back on in my life are the times I've forced myself to do something when every cell in my body was screaming not to do it. That time my friend dragged me to that party, BOOM!! I met the love of my life at that party. That time I forced myself to take that walk, BOOYAH!! I found that long lost friend and he introduced me to a viable money making opp. That time I forced myself to go on that vacation in the midst of a personal financial crisis, I come back with a solution to the problem. It's wild. It's consistent. It's weird. Does it only happen to me??
@jdxiong
3 жыл бұрын
I wish that was me. Lol. Everytime I've done something against my own gut feeling, I often end up regretting it (marriage, family drama, etc).
@iliveinsideyourhouse3943
3 жыл бұрын
@@jdxiong Me too lol. I guess all we can do is just keep on living and learning from our mistake. I hope things will get better for you.
@JohnDoeL337
3 жыл бұрын
maybe your reticular activating system picks up only on events such as these, but meanwhile you had 50/50 events with bad , as well as good outcome and you only remember the good outcomes (which is...... good); or maybe everything is written - Maktub and what happened happened that way and it couldn't have happened in another way. Providence etc. laid out plan
@robertoeliserio4967
3 жыл бұрын
@@jdxiong 🎟
@jdxiong
3 жыл бұрын
@@robertoeliserio4967 you got tickets for me?!?!
Step one: quit drinking. Then any decision will be better than those you would make. Wish me luck.
@amateurtries7542
3 жыл бұрын
All the best! Don't overdo it
@johnlester4987
3 жыл бұрын
Fernando. Ditto. Good luck.
@Minkjaah
3 жыл бұрын
how are you doing 1 week later?
@Fernando-wo8ox
3 жыл бұрын
@@Minkjaah doing great. I'm focusing on a total new mindset, where alcohol doesn't have any use or meaning. I think we have to change who we are, recreate a better version of ourselves. Most of the times alcohol is one of many bad/wrong behaviours.
@deanj6722
3 жыл бұрын
Best of luck with your future endeavor and Happy new year!
WTF MARK, I M HAPPY THAT U STARTED THIS KZread THING!
When I'm procrastinating I'm honest with myself about it, and the internal dialogue goes something like: "I can't do the thing because I'm too preoccupied making up reasons as to why I can't do the thing." It gives me laugh and then we get up and do the thing. Also, I talk to myself all the time because I quite often need expert advice.
@karlasmith8600
9 ай бұрын
I absolutely love "Also, I talk to myself all the time because I quite often need expert advice." I wondered why I talk to myself so much and you nailed it. Thanks! :)
Thank you, Mark! I have been struggling with depression here in China. Not very bad but I feel down a lot of time. Listening to and learning from your videos makes a big difference on my life! I stop feeling lonely when watching your videos, I feel a lot better. I will be a better man!
@banszkiviktoria
Жыл бұрын
Hang in there! 💗
@MiroslavWD
Жыл бұрын
@@banszkiviktoria Thank you! 🤜🏻🤛🏻I've been trying and it is getting better now.🤘🏻
@laurenlockridge5583
Жыл бұрын
@@MiroslavWD I’m happy to hear, gives me hope
@a_nikak
Жыл бұрын
yo bro, heard youre in China and immediately wanted to reach out to you. Whats up, are you good? Im a Russian student in China and I kinda feel you!
@ragebait988
Жыл бұрын
physical activity is the only thing that will help you. join a gym or play sport.
The harsh truth of the day is my favorite part, and hey I'm glad that you made the decision of making this KZread channel 👏🏻👏🏻
Staying up until 7 in the morning was definitely not the best decision.
@stumpedsuper2014
3 жыл бұрын
@@dongiku 48 hours is insane. Just why
@amateurtries7542
3 жыл бұрын
@@dongiku Sir, teach me your ways ..
@KEVLAR420
3 жыл бұрын
i'm at a point where 9 AM has become my bedtime, and i don't like it
@stumpedsuper2014
3 жыл бұрын
@@KEVLAR420 It's not fun. I try to stay up if it's like 8am until it's night time but I never actually make it
@KEVLAR420
3 жыл бұрын
@@stumpedsuper2014 exactly and you just end up sleeping halfway through the day and wake up at like midnight lol
I had a big career decision to make that I was putting off for quite some time and then I stumbled upon this video. The last advice of optimising for minimal regret immediately gave me my answer. It was such a simple decision and I can't believe I never thought like this before. Golden advice.
@jakubstepien5645
Жыл бұрын
How did it work for you after 2 years?
@user-bu7oz1lx4e
10 ай бұрын
Yes ?!
Damn, I've read those 4 books already and still needed this video.
I just bought your book “The Subtle art of not giving a F*ck”
Glad you did decide to make this channel Mark! Im debating whether to do a PhD or not and keep finding out I dont have a clue how it will actually be. But as you say, I will probably regret not doing it more than doing it. Awesome content!
This was great. As for creating a KZread channel, I'm glad you did, it's been incredibly valuable!
Solved my greatest mystery why everytime I wrote my diaries I always sorted my shit out and at the end of my diary i always used to get the correct solutions.....AS YOU SAID WRITING STUFF DOWN helps👍👌👌
@saipavand4064
3 жыл бұрын
Same but I write journal(just thoughts and feelings)
Thank you Mark❤️. People are born into this life and hardly anyone teaches them who they are, how to live with themselves, how to operate themselves to make it through this life. A lot of people break, loose themselves in drugs and alcohol, get mentally sick simply because they cannot cope with what is coming. You are one of very few people who shares the key on how to live in this life and to make the most of it. Absolutely fantastic analytical work on your part extracting the most important conclusions from all books you read and deliver it in the simple forms people can understand. You may not realise how important is the knowledge you share with us. What you do is very valuable. THANK YOU very much and God bless you and your family!
This is absolutely one of the best videos/articles you’ve made. Well freaking done, I’ll be applying all these things and checking out these books.
Thank you for making these videos. Your articles are great but when they're put in a video format, it's even better. Please continue to make videos on all the topics/articles that you've written. Your advice on relationships changed my life. Thanks again!!
Constantly struggling with every decision to make, takes me weeks or months to make up my mind - tend to listen to my intuition and then make a move
If I'm honest I think most of my best decisions in life were made for me, and the worst decisions I made were the ones I made with absolute certainty. This is by far the best advice on decision making I have ever heard and I'm 50 dude. You rock!
More valuable insights for me making my big decisions. I don't feel so bad dragging my feet, now that you shared that it took you two years to start your KZread channel. Thanks for adding perspective to the oftentimes tough decision making process!
Thank you Mark!! I needed this video. It's giving me the confidence I need right now to move forward with some big changes in life.
I love how you structure your videos! Always a pleasure to watch
Mark, I’m a fan of your work. This and your other vids only reinforce that. Great work brother.
Hey Mark, I've been following you since Models. I just gotta say that I'm loving the videos! Editing is on point too. It's nice to hear your voice and put a voice to the articles I've been reading for all these years.
“There are no solutions, there are only trade-offs; and you try to get the best trade-off you can get, that's all you can hope for.” We cannot achieve a perfect outcome. -Thomas Sowell
I appreciate your commentary and book suggestions. Thank you.
The writing it down stuff and the regret question really help me out a lot. Great tips, thanks Mark!
I'm so glad I started listening to you. Thank you, Mark!
You're so right. I try to question myself more and more, would I regret NOT taking this decision or path in my life in 5/10/20 years. Most of the time it is yes. Thanks so much for your real and awesome advice man
Your videos are really great and informative and also brought in a way that is easy to digest and understand. I struggle with so much of the topics that you talk about in your videos and I hope I can do more with myself and be wat more active in my life. keep up with the videos they truly are great!
i toss a coin if i want to decide on something. And when the coin is up in the air i will realise which way i really hope its going down.
Mark, I'm glad you are done waiting to share your videos, your translation of information is exactly the language some of us speak!!! Love the the way the videos are developing, you are a NOT an awful teacher! ;)
Define "good" and "bad" decisions (to the individual, not to others). They are all mere part of one's life, to a step closer(yes, only one step at a time) to know thyself, before time's running out, and that's life.
Great video for this Friday morning, thank you!!!
Ahhh! Mark! I'm so in love with your wisdom! I'm binge watching your videos and looking forward for more!!! You're a blessing to everyone! ❤️
I REALLY Needed to hear this, and hear it right now. Thank you so much Mark!
Great video! Going to look up those books you mentioned. And I recently made the choice to leave my job for a position at a new firm and how you said you should feel about a decision is exactly how I feel. Glad to be validated and more sure that I made the right decision.
1. Understanding biases (Books) 2. Using the right tool (Diaries) 3. To regret or not to regret (Sth abot great decision)
Finally a new video!😍Thank you Mark for changing my life with your books, you even inspired me for starting my KZread channel!😊
@yuridiana9047
3 жыл бұрын
Awesome man , good luck!! This is so inspirational because the harsh truth is what I've needed too to wake up and move
I appreciate you Mark Manson! Keep up the great work amigo!
I have been really struggling with a big life decision and then this video popped up in my feed...I just watched it because I like your stuff, I didn't even consider that it might help with this decision I have been struggling with. Anyway, it has really helped met understand how to approach it and what to consider. Thank you so much!
Always great hearing you Mark...u have a Way which is profoundly different and original...keep it up
I've been struggling with making the decision on whether to keep makin' KZread videos or not and that whole thing about will I regret it, certainly helped. Thanks Mark!
Your content is awesome. Thank you. 🙏
This was so great! I just got introduced to looking more closely at my decision making process and have been seeking more answers. This really helped me. The decision I am struggling with is not knowing what to do next in my business.
Great video and very interesting and also important topic. Thansk, Mark!
great content as always mark! and speaking of good decisions, the music in this video is soo freaking good!
This is gold man. Why so little views. Mark you are the best. You are like a big bro to me who always guide me gives wisdom without boring
That talking to you self reminded me to hit “like”. That was so refreshing to see, cuz I talk to myself in my head NONSTOP, but it is over anxious or nervous thoughts. Somtimes nice thoughts too
Great content all around, was hooked on the first article i read, keep up the great work.
Indeed, we should be making choices that causes the least regrets. Thank you, Mark!
Think and Respect. Thank you so much for your EXCELLENT videos. Stay blessed and safe everywhere. Everyone reaps what they have sown,
Can't wait to see this channel get noticed on KZread, I like these videos a lot
Mark you are a gaslighting-buster! Whenever I watch your videos I would make clear about at least one confusion that others gave me (through gaslighting me! Freak it!). I mean I just suddenly understand and see what's going on! And I quit agonizing about bad feelings I did not even know clearly about. And carry on with the right things. Thank you so much!
Obrigada pelo conteúdo, Mark. Muito bom 🤗😊
Hey Mark, I stared journalling back on November 1st from your advise. it was an eye opener. At first it sucked because it hurt, but then it really stared to pay off. I thought most days were 5s but then when it I wrote it down most days turned out to be 7-8s. Wow!
Thank you Mark for such a great video ❤️
Thank you Mark!
I really needed this! Thank you! :)
What a great video!! Funny, informative! Great content! Thank you Mark, and congratulations! 🇧🇷
You are a wonderful teacher. Thank you so much for sharing these lessons
While taking decisions be practical as possible and remove your emotions while doing it.
Interesting! I find myself getting lost when I can’t make a decision. This usually happens when it’s about something that doesn’t have a right answer. It’s so frustrating. I think I fear the consequences too much...
@wesleyvanpeer1988
3 жыл бұрын
I can totally imagine this is frustrating. Sometimes taking a risk, experimenting and examining are a part of paving your path through the journey of life.. Are you able to address the source of your fear of the consequences? What makes you so afraid of them?
@m.l.7558
Жыл бұрын
So true
@m.l.7558
Жыл бұрын
@@wesleyvanpeer1988 what I have seen in my experience is a fear of the unknown, or a fear to disappoint or just some really anxious people which can paralyze easily
Mark is just the friend we all need
Thanks Mark! I’ve made some big decisions on my life so far and don’t regret any of them.
Great work mark, thx
Hi Mark, loved your conclusion!!!
Thank you for this helpful content mark. I really appreciate it, just in time as i badly need this information :D
Last point was the best. Wow. Thx
My friend told me that whether a decision is good or bad is decided in the very moment when this decision is made. We can’t be sure what will happen in the future and so the only thing we can do is to base the decision on the information we have right now.
I love how Mark summed my 5 years of high school philosophy and 3 years of business history in college in like 2 minutes
Hey Mark, i've been following you for some time and i'm really happy to see you making these videos now... Keep going :)
I made a decision to drop out of College and pursue self-investment. Do I regret doing this? No. Do I regret not going to College? Also no, because I think I still can pursue it someday. To be honest, I am happy where I am at, even though I have so much more to learn. It is such a a bold move for me to choose something unorthodox but I appreciate writers like you, Mark Manson who continue to give content that actually makes sense.
Thanks for the book recommendations
I love your channel Mark! Big fan !
I really need this right now. Thanks Mark for the advice! I will definitely check out the books you recommend too!
1,000,000 subs before end of 2021. Calling it now. Great content here.
Thank you Mark
Thanks Mark!
I had no idea you had an yt channel Mark..your book changed my life!! subbed!
Thank you kindly ✍️
So glad you made a youtube channel.... i dont really like reading so listening to you is much more effective thanks mark😁
@AlokSingh-hz9sp
3 жыл бұрын
Mark won't be very happy at your non reading habit,though I am cool with it
you're amazing, Mark! thank you for the "will I regret it or not in the next 20 years"!
THANK You mark
That was very helpful, thanks!
Thank you, Mark! I like your vocabulary. Be bold to get fun in life
Thanks Mark, great lessons
Omg 🤯. You said just what i needee to hear in the right moment. I' m really grateful mark m. Thank you so much!
Loved this video! I don't know what to do with my life and I always struggle with decision making. I have spent the last four months thinking about whether or not to continue the course in digital marketing: 4 months of overthinking, overanalysis and procrastination. I'm still confused, but the question "will I regret doing it or will I regret not doing it?" blowed my mind...
@ninika7268
11 ай бұрын
so what did you decide ?/
GREAT CONTENT THANKS
Not starting land wars in Russia anymore has really helped me manage my mental health better. Thanks, Mark!
The line cutting thing is really about the fact that people are afraid of confrontation. Most were never going to say anything so the reason was irrelevant. They just did not want to confront someone and them giving a reason was just an excuse to avoid the confrontation.
Wow...Thankyou Mark. Regards from Indonesia
I'm going to use that tip and see if helps , needed this , thanks man
What a interesting video thanks for sharing have a rocking day ❤
So happy I discovered you
I love Economics, so I'm happy you brought up Adam Smith in this video.