Be OK with being alone. Loneliness is not the same.

@KP-hi1om

Жыл бұрын

So true. Being alone and loneliness are not the same. I recall being in the Navy and being surrounded by people almost 24/7 and feeling lonely.

@heatherfulmore3412

Жыл бұрын

My friend enemies lie to my face then tell me that it's my fault. Some people just make me want to vomit 🤮 I never said that a woman did something dirty. When they start crap with me I will dish it back . Don't expect to abuse Caribbean folks and never get a feed back. We are the worst people to go around spreading stories about. People had better think before they make up stories. A lady I met for a few months can never be my friend. My true friends don't abuse other people.Don't talk about my clothes. My uniforms are clean everyday.

@oriolrodriguezdelolmo9232

Жыл бұрын

I prefer to be alone than going out with people who are crap

Things I don’t tolerate: Cruelty to animals, unkindness in general, failure to apologize.

@spookytyster4712

Жыл бұрын

Period!

@Deb_BG

Жыл бұрын

Vegan for ALL life!

@spookytyster4712

Жыл бұрын

Agree add child abuse to that ...

@robert-joshuamcfaddin7041

Жыл бұрын

Have you ever done any of those things?

@odinborson308

Жыл бұрын

NON VEGAN FOR LIFE

Alternatively try the following rules of thumb, based on 60+ years experience …. - Treat others as you’d like to be treated yourself - Everyone deserves a second chance, but chances 3, 4 and beyond are up to you - Never accept anyone putting you down, ever - Roughly 80% of the people you meet in life will take advantage of you in some way if they think they can get away with it, and 20% of them will actively try to do so - Take chances in life and with people if your comfortable, but always have a backup plan just in case - If something / someone doesn’t feel right, trust your gut instincts - Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me - Never trust anyone who doesn’t pay you back if they borrowed money / something from you - Never deliberately lie, always tell the truth but be judicious about how you do that - Be prepared to not have a lot of friends if you tell the truth - Never try to buy friendship - Watch out for those who change their attitude toward you if your generosity changes for whatever reason - Always try to keep in touch with friends especially if you don’t see them as often over time, a true friend will always respond Might not be a perfect list, or very altruistic, but it’s served me reasonably well in life

Since I cut ties with toxic people I am more at peace and even more successful than ever.

I unfortunately had to cut a bunch of family members out of my life for different reasons. I finally realized why am I putting up with people who hurt me or don't accept my husband? Because they are family? No thank you. I am now willing to stand up for myself and am not going to tolerate certain things like judgments, gossip, being ridiculed, and any interactions that cause me to be hurt. Life is too short! I choose to surround myself with positive, supportive people. No more drama or mind games. Friends are family that we choose. ; ) 💕

@joannabowen635

Жыл бұрын

I had to do that same thing. I realized that I was putting up with abuse from family that I would never have tolerated from anyone else.

@ngo7156

Жыл бұрын

@@joannabowen635 Yeah, life is too short. We have to be our own advocates. Stay well! ; )

@spookytyster4712

Жыл бұрын

I understand, my family was the oh just turn your cheek, everything is a misunderstanding. No, do not turn your cheek and no it is not just a misunderstanding. Communicate, even if it hurts. There are alot of people who don't accept things, explain why and agree to disagree. I'm old, I found my voice, I can tell you this. You will sleep better. Speak up and tackle what comes your way.

@ngo7156

Жыл бұрын

@@spookytyster4712 I can relate but with my family it was, "well, they didn't mean what they said". When why did they say what they said. Or my Aunt would say your brother will walk you down the aisle at your wedding, just ask him. But when I ask him he says he can't make it to my wedding?! That's a big difference! Whatever. Stay well! ; ) ❤️

@hsmd4533

Жыл бұрын

Be careful not to turn into Meghan Markle!

I have been married 30 years. I took 3, two week vacations, ALONE, this Summer to visit family/friends that I havent seen since 2019 (pandemic issues). It felt odd at first but ended up that I liked it ALOT and remembered what I like to do!

at the age of 92, i have absolutely cut all the people with these qualities out of my life. trying hard not to fail others.

3 Rules of friendship that we learned from a Vietnam vet . . . "No lying, No cheating, No stealing" -Rick&Morgan

Things I Don't Tolerate: •Liars •Controlling People •Disrespect •Critisizim •Gossip •Negitivity •UnGrateFul People

@antoinetteporter

Жыл бұрын

Physical violence, unfaithfulness in relationships

@NOBODY-cn6fj

Жыл бұрын

@@antoinetteporter nah their ok lol 😂

@karlsmith2570

Жыл бұрын

@Amber Littrell: sounds like you and I are cut from the same bolt of cloth, because those are things that I have no tolerance for also

@rj9617

Жыл бұрын

Lactose

@anton74624

Жыл бұрын

But constructive critisizm...

Tolerate what ever you want. You are smart enough to know what you can tolerate and what you dont want. Just live, you are who you are. Do not look into everything so much.

It’s really simple. Cut all people that slow you down from pursuing your dreams or those who always wants you to show your bad side.

@DR-nh6oo

Жыл бұрын

Except confirmation bias can allow you to misconceive the nature of things, nothing is that intrinsically simple.

@Spitnchicklets

Жыл бұрын

It’s NOT just other people, it’s places we go, things we do , and often times our own bad habits.

@mariaashley87

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly said Rei.

@debbysmith5346

Жыл бұрын

I would like to add another, deliberate cruelty to animals, and the environment, this world belongs to ALL OF US.

@atusayesimwaka5296

Жыл бұрын

What if they happen to be your siblings.

Years ago someone told me that you should always have something to look forward to at least once a month, once a week is even better, even if is a simple activity like setting aside movie night w/popcorn. I have found it helps to set that goal and reduces stress.

@granolagirlGfunk

Жыл бұрын

Love that idea !!!

@MW-on1ft

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the reminder, I really need to do that for myself.

@georgiacrossett83

Жыл бұрын

I was beat I was drug through the mud I was almost destroyed but I chose to prove that I was not the trash that they tried to treat me like and at all cost I would not be like them and prove to the world that was not the worst thing on earth and that makes me smile

I'm never bored. Frankly, I find it hard to understand people who complain about being bored. Presumably they themselves are boring.

@angelinaanguiano8854

Жыл бұрын

@Voice & Guitar project a

@ireneangelucci3733

Жыл бұрын

Omg I totally agree. Never been bored once in my life

When someone gossips , I always think what are they saying about me.

Use your third eye (gut feeling) if it's not right about someone, then chances are it is very very right. Use this skill to filter out people

@Maya-dc8cb

Жыл бұрын

I don't have common sense so I use my gut instinct and it really does work.

I made a heavy decision to cut a lot of people from my life in the last 4ish years since 2019. Some i formally told and some i just let the communication wither when they never responded or said thank you etc. All of my blood related family (there are a lot of skeletons, abuse and actual criminality there) were most of the people. I have a lot of grief i am dealing with with the whole "honor thy parents" and "family is everything". But emotions aside, i know that i was a tool for them. I was a source of money, a literal punching bag when i was younger and an emotional punching bag until my 40s. I want to share that once you are financially stable and independent adult in the US, there is no moral, social, legal etc reason to stay with abusive people. They have no real power over you.

@irmaiz133

Жыл бұрын

So true and you are not alone. I am going through the exact same thing!!!!

@dedhampster4730

Жыл бұрын

@@irmaiz133 I wish you all the strength and support. If you are like me, a heart-on-the-sleeve type, you might have a good bit of grief, doubt and guilt to process. Those you are distancing yourself from may even call you names, acuse you of being cruel and heartless, and tell others how "aweful" you are. It is not you. It is them having a tantrum that they know they no longer have sway. Good luck.

The first thing you say to yourself when you wake up and get out of bed will make or break your day. "I feel great today!", is a phrase I found works for me, even if I'm lying.

I've got the list down to three, thanks to John Wayne. “I won't be wronged, I won't be insulted, and I won't be laid a hand on. I don't do these things to other people, and I require the same from them." - J.B Books in The Shootist

@carolynwilson7736

Жыл бұрын

This perfectly sums it up

@jeffhavas8013

Жыл бұрын

He also I won't hit I won't hit you like he'll I wont

@lillianm.dougherty7647

Жыл бұрын

Lol

@michaelclark4043

Жыл бұрын

As far as I'm concerned people with those tendencies which have a negative attitude towards life in general are to be pitied rather than envyed.

@KP-hi1om

Жыл бұрын

Haha Ron Howard (Opie/Richie Cunningham) was in that film!

Remarkable person reading this.. It’s going to get better; all it is a season of opportunity to grow and be better than before. Challenging times are meant to strengthen us, not to break us. Success doesn’t define to what happened to us; it is how we choose to deal with our circumstances. The more you grow and develop as an incredible person as you are, the more things will change for the better. Forgive more (for you), be grateful for even the smallest things (we have it way better than someone else), choose love over ego, choose humility over ego (humility is strength), and finally, invest into new skills so that your future self will thank you. Our lives will change forever the more we grow. Be thankful for the challenges for we know something greater is coming. Love you always - Nathalie ✨❤️

@americancountryboy6404

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Natalie what great advice 👍

@thechosenones1410

Жыл бұрын

Thank you 💖 for. That😎

@Kennedy4OurCountry

Жыл бұрын

I needed to see this- Thank You

I totally agree with all of these on your list. The moment I turned my back on false friends/ work colleagues etc my life became so much more satisfying. I now enjoy my life 😄

Over the years these are the reasons I have let people go. This also included my family. You described my family. Growing up my father's family was like these things you talked about. He never saw it. My mother and I did. He wasted time. This taught me not to have these type of people around. There have been a few people around me. Growing up I learned to spot them. It usually is the way they act or say something. These type of people are not a friend. Most of the time they are not a friend to themselves let alone anymore else. Beware of these of these people for with friends like this you don't need an enamy. They are the enamy

Wow! I'm resonating right now, with this whole, entire list, of wisdom keys, & insightful counsel! Thanks for this incredible video, my friend! I really needed this today! Stay safe & be blessed, everyone! Peace out!🤟👏🌍

I love being alone. I have standards. Ppl mean nothing to me.

@daisyy99

Жыл бұрын

I hope you volunteer at an animal shelter or somewhere that you recognize that you could be helpful to others.

@nicoleharrington9086

Жыл бұрын

Same

@juliebryant3968

Жыл бұрын

That's how I feel too...

@hp640.

Жыл бұрын

Do you also eat unhappy meals, by any chance?

As sad as it sounds since your spouse should also be a confidante be careful of who you share your hopes and dreams with because they MAY remind you of your failures even when they know the circumstances that prevented you from achieving them.

I have siblings that thought they could treat me, talk to/about me any way the pleased and I had to tolerate it because they were family. WRONG! I cut them loose over 10 years ago. Best thing I've ever done. Sometimes I miss my family and then I remember the rest and it goes away... and then I smile. 😁😁😁

At the end of the day, *_without love and sense of humor life is meaningless._* 💕☮🌎🌌

Things I don't tolerate: Unfaithfulness, deceit, toxicity, disrespect, corruption, self-limiting beliefs, perfectionism, ungratefulness

@liliabenavides4052

Жыл бұрын

With due respect I would add asshol##.

@adilahaz

Жыл бұрын

@@liliabenavides4052 🤣🤣

Gaslighters, shamers, guilt trippers

Synopsis: don't tolerate people!

" With gratitude, the Universe is eternally abundant"

I love you Brainy Dose! You make me feel better about life, love, and happiness. And you're not wrong about any of it. TY for helping the world to be a better place. 😘

What an inspirational video. I think it's really sad that in so many cases it's family members that are the biggest impediments to one's happiness. Our sense of loyalty allows them to drag us down to their level . It is really hard for some people to understand that biology is somewhat over rated and sincere friendships are under rated.

@georgiacrossett83

Жыл бұрын

You can pick your nose and you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family so you just have to choose to be the best you can and one step at a time keep it moving say a little prayer and you know can't help those that don't want to help themselves but don't let them drag you down

@lindamaddox815

Жыл бұрын

"A man's enemies are among his own household." HOLY BIBLE

Understand that YOU are the ONLY thing PERMANENT in your life. What do you want? You decide how you're being treated. Our mental, physical, emotional and sexual health are ALL connected. Also knowing that "Successful" relationships have nothing to do with time. For any and all relationships in your life. Because quality and quantity are not the same thing. Individual growth is success in life. No 2 people grow at the same time.

Stop expecting other to make you happy...

I would be interested in hearing what people think constitutes gratitude. I have a sister that tells me I am not "grateful enough". I would like to know what the "enough" part means. I always say thank you, I will send her a card, or mail her some small token gift when she has done something for me. I say it once and move on. I don't know what else she wants or expects. Since no one else complains about my gratitude abilities I think she is the one that has an issue, like she needs constant affirmation of how wonderful she is. I don't know.

@hikerhobby1204

Жыл бұрын

It’s my belief (I believe psychologist will agree) people that tell you how to feel are trying to control you. Perhaps think of other things your sister may do that may be controlling.

brainy dose does a really really good job !! thank you!!

This video is so affirming and helpful. Truly one of the best. Thank you sooo much!🙏💐🥰

100% honesty is destructive. It must be measured.

Brainy Dose forgot the most important one: Blatant Disrespect! An example: my father passed away & I needed time to grieve & help my mom with all that encompass’ one’s death. This client texted me frivolous, redundant videos. When I told her the situation & to curb the videos for a bit, she said, “I didn’t know the videos offended you!” …and tossed a check at me! So, I put distance in between my services & dumped her after the summer. If someone can’t respect you, in business or life, this is a Hell No Walk Away!…Run!

This is a really good video . I’ve delt with lots of people like this especially hypocrites and naysayers and people are never happy for you .

Thanks for all the awesome videos ! I need to take stock of the people in my life ! Thanks again 😊

Brainy Dose you always seem to hit the nail on the head.

Lots of value in this video and hit VERY relevant aspects in life.

That's a super video, thanks for sharing these things.

If they want to "share" someone else's secrets w you they will surely share your secrets w others, BEWARE ! gossip is poison,verbal poison.!

@ngo7156

Жыл бұрын

Excellent point! I work with this person who will always say things about other people. She sometimes will say how this person swore her to secrecy then precede to tell me the secret! Red flag! I make sure to never tell her any secrets. Stay well! ; ) 💕

Best vid this channel has ever uploaded. Huge props 👏

Thank you Brainy Dose 🙏

Yes you should never tolerate someone putting you down . I hate Hippocrates it truly annoys me . I also don’t like being lied to . Naysayers I’m starting to see through these people I’m surrounded by a lot of these people . I’ve moved myself away from negative people it’s truly peaceful. I’m greatful for all the good people who have helped me grow . Yes I need some fun in my life with good people

Well said. Thanks!

I actually like the way that you talk about these topics❤ keep going

Great list. thanks!

Very truly analysed 💐

Life is a journey indeed, we all have our own different parts to travel💪🏾🌏

@briannab5296

Жыл бұрын

We all have our own crosses to bear.

@Charldonz

Жыл бұрын

@@briannab5296 yes 🙌🏾

So basically stay away from narcissist. Go in your house and hide from 95% of the world.

@hissyfitz7890

Жыл бұрын

I have/am. ❤️‍🩹

@hidefinishon12

Жыл бұрын

That was a narcissistic thing to say

Thank you for sharing your videos 📹 I have learned a lot about fake people

Excellent. Thank you🙌

NORMATIVE NEGATIVE VERSUS POSITIVE POSITIVE 1. Don't let anyone "should" on you. 2. Don't tolerate intolerance. 3. Think for yourself. 4. Balance the brain with the heart. 5. The only way to be genuinely happy is to be yourself and be present here now.

This is a great channel. A nice summary of what most intelligent people already know.

when oldman passed away in March 2006 the house was heavy with negative energy that it sucked the energy out of all those there took two days to recover before going up again wasn't until the house was cleansed by myself that feeling drained stopped .

Definitely don't be around jealous deceitful people. They will tell you good things, and then betray you.

Always Thank you 👍👍

I like the way you made the distinction between what not to accept from others &/or yourself.

You guys rock awesome tips thank you ❤

Excellent video thank you

A really enlightening and inspiring video. Thanks for this awesome video 😊😊

Don't tolerate disrespect

Thank you so much!

It has given me the answer I have been looking for I have been tolerant in all, forgiving but patience has been run out of me, thanks for the vedeo

Thanks for sharing i learned a lot

To live well is to live fully, sums it all up. Tk u.

It is possible to be good for yourself and be better for someone else. Smile for other people as well as yourself. I can only try. Spread love. My wife wants me back too sleep.☺️

Thx 4 making this video...

I Love You Guys So Much. Thank You Thank You Thank You ❤🎉😊

My brother in law is all of these...I cut him out of my life...it is like a 🚛 is off my shoulder....I never felt so happy...

I need loyalty, understanding, No judging. Don't try to make me eat. And I just described my dog. 🙄

So true my Boss thank you

You ticked every box , so true

Thank you

Avoid someone who is gaslighting your particularly at work. Disengaging is the greatest method to outsmart a gaslighter. A person who is engaging in gaslighting will find a way to deflect, minimize, or deny even if you bring a mound of evidence, films, and recordings to the conversation. It is more valuable to maintain your perception when you depart.

Can’t stand rude behavior in a man. I won’t tolerate it.

Thanks 👍

Wonderful.

Just do what make you happy. Be you walk away just a temporary solution for a long-term life.

Great stuff

Really good stuff

Number 13 is vitally important.

Awesome ❤❤

Thanxxxxxxx😍

People gossip, some are worse than others. Not everyone engages in it, but alot of people do. No matter what, where ever you are, unless you live as a hermit, someone will eventually gossip about you.

@nevertrustthegovernment7749

Жыл бұрын

It's actually gossiping or having an opinion about others? Confusion between the two can occur

@hikerhobby1204

Жыл бұрын

I’m a Christian, gossip is a sin so I try to stay far away from gossip.

Facts‼️

Yes!!!

I try never to open my mouth and say anything stupid. I don't disrespect anyone nor will I be by anyone.If that is clear life is good.

Authentic video.

Amen!

Trouble is in the workplace you have to tolerate things you cant choose your work people

I knew it deep inside, and now I'm officially confirmed.

thanks

As a general rule I'm mild mannered and easy going but some of the things that REALLY irk me are snobbish selfish people fault finders know it all's and negative people in general.

I feel SO MUCH better...NOW!

great video