I can break all this down to one simple thing.... Trust your gut. Always. Intuition is real.

@lisar2801

Жыл бұрын

They say humans have 5 senses I disagree, it's actually 6. Gut feeling is the 6th. This is an incredible sense which we sadly often disregard and is how we can get hurt

@kdlofty

Жыл бұрын

My gut has let me down so many times I can't trust it anymore.

@CeeDoubleU

Жыл бұрын

​@@lisar2801send n00dz

@iononcantomascrivo

Жыл бұрын

Exactly. After years of trying to give someone that I thought of as a very dear friend (who I just thought was a little high maintenance) the benefit of the doubt, I started looking at all the evidence. At bare minimum, she never respected me or my boundaries, took the word no as a sign of me being purposely mean to her and had no accountability. Therefore, she had no expectation of there being reprisals or consequences for her toxic atrocious behavior. Mind you this woman was well into her 40s, had two children and was on her way to becoming a grandmother. Yet she had the emotional maturity of a spoiled middle school mean girl who never grew out of the adolescent bully mindset. A lot of people walked out of her life, more accurately, they cut her out of theirs, Even her own family including her sisters, her brothers (who were more than happy to spill the tea when I contacted them on social media. Her one older sister said plainly: “She's been a liar since she could talk”). The way I heard it, when her name came up recently, that she's still playing the victim and wondering why her now grown children have very little if anything to do with her. She also whines about why she never gets to see her grandchildren. She dug her grave and now she has to lie in it.

@caroberton

Жыл бұрын

Agreed. Your gut feelings will tell you something is wrong; something needs your attention. You still need reason and insight to determine what that may be.

Energy and vibe won't lie. If you feel that something is off about the person, then something is off. Protect yourself and trust your intuition.

@cogama7846

Жыл бұрын

I was had a funny feeling that n my gut about two Managers I worked with. I will Listen to my gut and intuition more often

@jamoriah

Жыл бұрын

The more u listen the easier it gets.

@baronmeduse

Жыл бұрын

It does though. Loads of people are taken in because manipulators are good at what they do and people want to believe what they want to believe.

@SonicSpeedfan23

Жыл бұрын

Exactly energy/vibe doesn’t lie. If something isn’t right back away from it regardless of who or what it is

@SonicSpeedfan23

Жыл бұрын

@@jamoriah truly intuition is one of the few things in this world that is just as easily said and easily done. Your right that it’s gets easier to heed it and plan accordingly

All of this adds up to a toxic narcissist. Run, don’t walk, to the nearest exit!

@funkymonk542

Жыл бұрын

Or a person with borderline personality disorder.

Another sign I will say if they are disrespectful toward you or others and you feel something off about them this never fails me. I had picked off negative vibes from some people. Energy doesn't lies. I would also add nosy and gossipy people .

@glow1815

Жыл бұрын

So true

So difficult to understand how a person would take pleasure in someone else's pain and suffering.

@Marvin-dg8vj

Жыл бұрын

A lot of people are used to this unfortunately from childhood and they are scarred forever

@MonisMusic

10 күн бұрын

A lot of people do this all the time, by buying animal products, therefore supporting cruelty and torture towards inocent beings! Just because of the taste, just for pleasure!

Trust starts with truth and ends with Truth...

@drebugsita

Жыл бұрын

Well put!

I hardly trust ppl from the amount of times I’ve been screwed over. I’ve learned that most people disappoint. However, this doesn’t make me untrustworthy because I have no interest in doing that to others. I already know what it feels like to be betrayed.

@rhodakozak1205

Жыл бұрын

Amen to that! People always ask me, "Why don't you want to hang out?" And my answer is always, "I'm a really private person." I've also been known to say things like, "I don't hang with people I work with, and I don't work with people I hang with." That usually gets a weird look, but then the expression of understanding sets in. I'm sorry that you've had similar experiences as me: that people just suck. But you're definitely right that just because someone screwed you over, doesn't mean that you'd do that to others. I know this from experience, too. I don't trust others because they've consistently broken my trust and I don't want to get that close to someone again, but I also wouldn't go out of my way just to hurt someone. It takes too much time and energy that I simply don't have.

@SonicSpeedfan23

Жыл бұрын

This right here is exactly why I prefer to be neutral to most and keep my trust close to my chest. I’ve been disappointed before too. One thing that I’ve seen/have a hard time trusting is when people seem to flip flop between two sides and there is no consistency. Also one more thing and you might have experienced this a well, but more times then not when people realize you are actually a very trustworthy soul, most of them ( the toxic types)will not let you go

I wish I had watched this video 4 years ago... I would have saved myself from the most manipulative person I have ever met in my life... The damage is too big.

@OR-zb9pw

Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that. You are not alone…. Hope you get over it soon!

@X.L.B1

Жыл бұрын

No you wouldn’t have, 4 years ago, this info would’ve went in one ear and out your other.

@OR-zb9pw

Жыл бұрын

@@X.L.B1 👏👏👏 so so true

@floragreek

Жыл бұрын

@@OR-zb9pw Thank you, Justice shall prevail!

@kath6839

Жыл бұрын

YES, Truth, Justice, and Balance ⚖️ HALLELUJAH I definitely understand. Narcissist are the worst. There is families of them too Vampires, Energy and anything else they can steal from you. Controlling, manipulative, uncaring and mean. Hang in there, things will get better 🙂 Love and Light 🕯️ Too You and The World 🌎💞 Caring Cancerian Kat 🐱🦀♋❤️😇

Sometimes I see this in family members and it makes me so uncomfortable.!

@hippyelise1

Жыл бұрын

Yes, I agree 💯

@MoPoppins

Жыл бұрын

Blood relations mean NOTHING, so do keep your guard up & trust your gut, if this is what you’re experiencing.

@raiderlove5923

Жыл бұрын

I feel the same.

@NookTommy

Жыл бұрын

@@MoPoppins blood means nothing to me. If you’re a blood but toxic to my life, I have no qualms about dropping you

Knew someone who was very charming towards everyone. They were a con artist!

@NookTommy

Жыл бұрын

Charming people are usually red flags.

My ex exhibited nearly all of these red flags. If I ever marry again, I'll have to know that other person for a very long time.

I saw a friend of mine fall into pieces after getting into the claws of an untrustworthy person. She manipulated him into marrying her and now, about 24 years later, the poor man isn't even the shadow of who he was before that witch came into his life. He used to love science, now he is into alcohol, just to cope with her. He could have been one of the world's biggest scientists, that man, but faith flew.

@PREGOMILLIE

Жыл бұрын

Well then I pray he would be free and happy to attain his dreams. In Jesus name. Amen

@SonicSpeedfan23

Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear about that happening to your friend. He must of been a really good fellow. The type of w that caught him don’t let good guys get away. Sometimes I feel like I’m experiencing this right now

@irmaiz133

Жыл бұрын

@Lenny Brassratt I always wonder if things do happen for a reason!!? Sad for you and your friend. 🥺🥺

Narcissists are adults who were never treated for oppositional defiance disorder as a child.

@gail9566

Жыл бұрын

Thats an odd conclusion

@karenishness1

Жыл бұрын

@@gail9566 That's an odd remark. More critical than inquisitive. Are you a closet narc?

One should trust nobody. If you know someone or if the person is a stranger, never trust them. The person that says they will back you up through everything will be the first one to stab you in the back when things get rough for you. When things get bad, you will find out that you have to go through the difficulty alone. This is because people only watch for themselves, and nobody is truly your friend.

@mariec5716

Жыл бұрын

Hey so true. You sound very wise to me...

@indridcold8433

Жыл бұрын

@@mariec5716 It is not really wisdom more than having learned painful lessons in the past. They events that took place that taught me those painful lessons, will never be allowed to repeat again. I just posted to help others to learn from my painful mistakes so they do not haved to experience them.

I hardly trust anyone, & I come by that honestly & painfully! So, this list fits right in! Thanks, Brainy Dose! Have a safe & Happy New Year everyone 👍🤟😎🔥💜🌍

@BrainyDose

Жыл бұрын

Same to you!

@karatalley1987

Жыл бұрын

I understand.

@karatalley1987

Жыл бұрын

I rarely trust anybody either.

@sarahhurst701

Жыл бұрын

@@karatalley1987 👍🤟😎

@donnaatienza8001

Жыл бұрын

I feel the very same way at this time in my life and hardly trust anyone. I've had to learn from experience like many people have.

PSALM 118:18 IT'S BETTER TO TRUST THE LORD, THAN TO TRUST A MAN.

@bevanbuckwheatshea5520

Жыл бұрын

Isnt the lord a man?

@emman.4119

Жыл бұрын

The actual verse in the Bible for Psalm 118:18 is “The Lord has chastened me severely, but he has not given me over to death.” You put your own made up words after the name of the book and chapter & verse number just to test if Christians would blindly believe it. And you’ll probably fool some undiscerning people. That won’t disqualify the legitimacy of the faith itself, however.

@ananamu2248

Жыл бұрын

Yeah ,but can you trust that you have been listening to the lord God and not your yadder yadder brain

@karolinanie5946

Жыл бұрын

We're living among people not Gods, unfortunately we have to trust at some level

@jacquelineagurs1518

Жыл бұрын

AMEN 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

I used to trust a lot but people shattered my life. I am still trying to build and as it is now, trusting someone seems foreign to my being. However it is worthy to say I find some of these traits in me too which means to some people, I am not worthy of trust. It is what it is so we just need to be prudent as we relate. Self love counts.

Everytime I trusted someone, I got shafted. I quit. I only trust my wallet.🤦‍♂️😆

@catseyesinthesky1339

Жыл бұрын

Trust is earned by both ?? 😢and I bet you do ?

@divergentthg7925

Жыл бұрын

Trust no one and no one can betray you

@catseyesinthesky1339

Жыл бұрын

@@divergentthg7925 youuuuu better trust your soulmate?? Because she going to squeeze and sneezed alll over youuuu ??? You should've trust me in the get go ???

@VlogsNiKuyang

Жыл бұрын

The only people you can trust are your Parents…

@divergentthg7925

Жыл бұрын

@@VlogsNiKuyang must have not met mine

Yes people who don’t respect your boundaries they need to go . Yes people who badmouth others will bad mouth you . I don’t do controlling people . Yes they don’t want to re live it that’s me .

He just described a narcissist.

@velshock

Жыл бұрын

💯 %!!

@zandatee

Жыл бұрын

Yes and be speciall carefull learning about the Covert narcissists.

So completely valid. God tells us to love others and be kind...not to be a doormat and allow ourselves to be abused.

This is way I stay to myself and rarely seek out any new friendships let alone a relationship.

I've heard all my life love all and trust few,

It's surprising how often these traits show up in characters we're *supposed* to trust, such as authority figures both real and imagined, and the protagonists or "heroes" of many a story.

@lindac6919

Жыл бұрын

Like parents.

@catherinekeddy2816

Жыл бұрын

And parents...

It's important to note that trust is an important foundation for any relationship, and it is important to be aware of any red flags that may indicate that someone is not trustworthy. If you have concerns about someone's trustworthiness, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with them to try to address your concerns.

@RainbowBandana

Жыл бұрын

@Voice & Guitar project if you trying to warn a friend you might be the friend who they need to stay away from with your jealous ass

@janececelia7448

Жыл бұрын

It's a bit risky if they're narcissists. They never like to be challenged; their ego simply won't allow it and they could have a melt-down. Or they lie and deflect. I got gaslighted quite badly from someone who I tried to have a discussion with. She told me this and that had never happened and that I was suffering from delusions. Truly horrid how this person tried to drive me insane.

@jordanferguson2254

Жыл бұрын

@Jane, I agree with you. Better not to tell someone and figure out the truth for yourself through careful analysis or through different sources. To be honest, when you start questioning someone's trustworthiness, that's usually your cue to end things or start preparing for the inevitable. It's your gut warning you. Something's happening that's making you confused or suspicious. Why ask the very person who's words and actions aren't aligning, lol.

@truthmerchant1

Жыл бұрын

If they're a narcissist they'll gaslight you.

@jordanferguson2254

Жыл бұрын

@@truthmerchant1 Yep, exactly.

My family mainly my parents and others I met made me distrust mostly everyone. My parents wanted others to trust them even when they lie and deceive. A Chinese proverb goes. Don't trust anyone who lies to you and don't lie to anyone who trusts you. Another one. Watch what you say to others. A friend today can be an enemy tomorrow.

Unfortunately my own mother disregards my boundaries 😕 anyways thanks for this! This made me realise who the people were and who to cut off lol

@cynthialobo1500

Жыл бұрын

Mothers cannot be enemies. Their love towards their children is unselfish. Some mothers try to control children but that too out of their extreme love. They have concern for their children, their intention is good but action may be wrong. So take it in a positive way. That you will realise when you become a mother.

I always used to trust/see the good until proven otherwise but lesson learned 🙄

Powerful tips to consider throughout this new year as the focus seems to be around building lasting relationships 🎉🎉🎉

Never trust a POLITICIAN ..thats for sure!

Brainy Dose, you have single handedly just described my ex-husband! If only I could’ve watched this video in 2006! 😅 Although, I was young, dumb, in love and in denial and probably wouldn’t have believed it and still would’ve had to have learned it all on my own, and boy did I ever!!!

@brianbrian9759

Жыл бұрын

Sure hope things are much better for you now. I had so called friends that did a number on me. Years ago.

Try this test on someone, if you want to see whether their charm is a manipulation tactic: As they’re being enthusiastic, friendly, warm, helpful, etc., just receive it as sincere & authentic, and say to them, something to the effect of, “Wow, you’re so nice! It’s great to meet a fellow kind person!” 😀 Just put your own flavor on it, but what you’re doing is watching for their REACTION to your delight that they’re “also” like you (i.e., a good person). Narcissists/manipulators (one & the same) know that they can’t live up to the expectations set for someone who’s ALWAYS a good person (for them, they need to take the mask off, ASAP, to come up for air-it’s agonizing for them to be nice, since they’re only ever doing it for show). If you’re watching them, you’ll always see a look of PANIC in the moment that you mistakenly take them to be one of the good ones. The reason why this works is because they’re not expecting it-they had no idea that you were going to make that comment. It’s just a good idea, in general, to observe people’s reactions, since their MICROEXPRESSIONS tend to give everything away. I wish I’d known all this growing up, rather than having learned it thru trial & error. Another thing…trust your gut-even if you don’t have any concrete evidence of ANYTHING, if you get a sinking feeling, or some feeling of contraction in your body when dealing w/ someone (even w/ the THOUGHT of that person), then it’s your intuition & the universe giving you a sign that you’re dealing with danger/toxicity.

@janeway73

Жыл бұрын

This was very helpful, thank you 😊

@MoPoppins

Жыл бұрын

@@janeway73 Glad it’s helpful! Happy Social Experimenting! 😆

@americancountryboy6404

Жыл бұрын

That was excellent, now just got to try it out 🤣

@MoPoppins

Жыл бұрын

@@americancountryboy6404 Yes…HAVE FUN! You have the upper hand when you can see thru their deception-they’re not as cunning as they think they are. I’ve noticed that all narcs, essentially being toddlers in adult bodies, also make the faces that cartoon villains do. Look for these in their microexpressions.

@MoPoppins

Жыл бұрын

@@americancountryboy6404 🤣

I was dealing with someone that i have very bad vibes from. To many things to text here, one word they over used way way to much was AMAZING. There life is AMAZING, EVERYONE they know is AMAZING. Does not respect my boundaries either. Things just don't add up with them. We were texting or on the phone, he would say he was in Florida,then all the sudden in Missouri, then say he's at a formal event in Miami. There is no way! After saying he was in Miami,he said he was thinking of moving there, then just one day later says he put down a deposit on a place in Springfield for us. Now mad because i called him out trying to twist things on me like i did something to him. I DO NOT TRUST HIM!!!! He is full of so much drama as well!

@eriomnyc6073

Жыл бұрын

Stay away from people like that - they will ruin your life

Never trust nobody, only yourself.

Happy New Year Brainy Dose!!!😄🥰🥳💜💯Words to live by, I noticed you left out family in your assessment. One of my daughters works for me and she has lied, cheated me and stolen small amounts of money for years. Unfortunately, she has emotional health issues that cause her to resent me. Her loss in more ways than one, I just pink slipped her. I love you. 💖BD.

@solaris808

Жыл бұрын

Good job!!! Just did the same with my daughter.

The irony of it all is that they break your trust, the 1st words out of their mouths is why don't you trust me.

I swear number 2 is what I encounter alot. Anytime I hear someone tell a story about always being a victim or a hero with exaggerated claims, I immediately do not trust them.

use your discerning spirit (spiritual gift) to know their true motives.

insightful video! thanks brainy dose :)

The worst thing is so many of these traits do not show up through texting.

This is great but when is it so bad to make yourself sound good? You should be your own hero

Very helpful thankyou 😊❤️

There is only two people in this life that I trust, one of them is me the other one died a long time ago.

I agree trusting one’s gut feelings is a good warning 🙏😎😊

Everyone has personal character defects. Following advice like this literally has you looking for these signs instead of who the person actually is. Trust yourself. Time reveals all. You cannot box people. Trust yourself. You know when to say when. Listen to your gut

I dont trust any1 in this sick world ,not even myself.

Unfortunately depression and anxiety will make us victims, it doesn’t make us bad or untrustworthy

Trust, like respect is earned

always trust your gut!!

If they lie about you! Clear sign there, of course.

It will become more obviously clear in time. 💯

My intuition never fails me which made it even stronger and I’m so grateful for that!!! 🥰💋❤️👍🏼🌞🌙🌎🌈🔮♒️💟☮️☯️🔍🔐

If your dog growls, run!!

It's sad when adults think they can buy friends forever 😕

@bevanbuckwheatshea5520

Жыл бұрын

No point trying to buy friends

@mariec5716

Жыл бұрын

Yes true. People change, situations and time change. But its all happening because of the material and creed. Nasty people all off them...

Damn I so hyper aware after being manipulated and taken advantage of.

I don't trust anyone

Im getting headaches seeing the same people that I dont trust or talk to

D.T.A. don't trust anyone. That's been my opinion for 30 years now

Beware of people you barely know say "You can really trust me." or "I'm someone who you can trust." or who say "You can always come to me if there is something." or "i'm always be there for you." They usually trying to gain your trust so that you may reveal more information so that they can use against you later for whatever purpose. Most people who caused me harm and others harm where always the ones who said one of those 4 things I mentioned. Someone who is trying to gain something from you, usually tries to force friendship or a relationship very fast with you even if you clearly say that you only feel attracted to become friends or lovers with a person when you have a deep emotional connection first.

Interesting video 📸😁

Very helpful- thank you

TRUST ur gut. Its never wrong. If it dont feel right thats the universe. So just hit and quit it then block

Don't trust anyone

Every video I've watched from Brainy Dose has been so informative. And SO many of them really hit home. I'm so impressed by the information and the clarification, VERY WELL DONE!!

@BrainyDose

Жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you!

🌹🕊️Hi, thank you for making this video, wisdom advice is priceless 🌹🕊️🌹🕊️🌹🕊️

Dope content 🔥

Look for patterns but I guess if you do too much of it you'll eventually become jaded and think everybody's garbage. take people with a grain of salt. Either that or Don't depend on anybody and keep to yourself then you have less disappointment I suppose. Use discernment

Hi Brainy Dose!

A red flag is when they love to laugh at your performance….but you know if you start laughing at their performance..the knives will be out..keep away..

We are humans and we know !! 🙏🏼

What if someone is just really introverted?? Introverts, like myself, really ARE very private all the time with most people. You have to be in my inner circle to really know me. Does that make me "bad"?? My close friends don't think so.... I'm not sure about the accuracy of the information in this video....but, don't listen to me....

I was involved in a model railroad club and I was constantly feeling like something was wrong every time I was there I was told that I had too many train cars and I was told that I had been running my train illegally and that I had been hoarding. I eventually gave up and never returned because of how I was treated and my dad also gave up as well as a distant relative and the three of us are now doing our own thing and we feel a lot better

I trust but keeping it moderate ,cos someone can misuse your trust so I withdraw the excessive amount of trust . But spot your through self behind , to avoid chaos and bad Omen thanks 👍👌 Brainy Dose

About a year back my ex’s boyfriend called me a putrid maggot, along with grub, dog and scum; then got offended when I said chill dude.

This describes my narcissistic bully of a landlord.

I've never had any friends cause I don't trust them especially their own behavior

All the worse when it’s family!

This Is Exactly Why I Have A (DTA) Rule. Don't Trust Anyone

If someone is not behaving the way we want them to behave we tell trust is broken 🤠.

This is just like someone I unfortunately know!!

Dont trust anyone

These describe a Narcissist

thank goodness I like to have no fake friends at all I perf to be by myself

I agree with these but I am a highly private person.. I dont go into negatives and I dont share much personal info because.. well.. its personal.. besides who wants to hear all my lifes drama right.. I like to joke around and hav fun! it's about the experience.. but as stated in many of these comments, trust your "gut reaction".. its there for a reason..!! and make sure their Words line up with their Actions!!

I sure wish I knew these points way ahead of time,

I would add another one… people who constantly change their hobbies and what they like, because they can’t stick to one thing and get tired fast

@josebro352

Жыл бұрын

So. What'd wrong with that? Doesn't make them bad people. They just like to experience different things is all.

@ChocoParfaitFra

Жыл бұрын

@@josebro352 that makes them look unstable cause they may do the same thing to people and you never have a clear idea of who they are

@sunoclockoneday2576

Жыл бұрын

@@ChocoParfaitFra I don't know , I personally like understanding how things work weather it's wanting an understanding of fly fishing , working on cars , carpentry , or I may learn about birds and buy field guides then go observe them in the wild . I wanted art work for my home so i baught canvases and made pictures for my walls . When i purchased a bicycle I got the tools to work on them, learned how to disassemble one and change all the parts on it . But then I use the information to help and connect with other people . I'm genuinely curious about the world around me . I would say the people I have met with no hobbies seem to be miserable at times , lacking in self confidence and full of fear .

@ChocoParfaitFra

Жыл бұрын

@@sunoclockoneday2576 yeah that’s actually what I’m saying, my ex has no real hobbies and changes constantly, especially after he reached his “goal” with it. He’s fundamentally empty

I don't trust my classmates from Orion College 2022 this year because they are pretending to be my best Friend. I've blocked them on WhatsApp for good. they made me feel Disappointed, betrayed, and Uncomfortable. Thanks, Brainy Dose! Have a safe & Happy New Year Everyone.

@BrainyDose

Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that

@seankchisoko2740

Жыл бұрын

@@BrainyDose I've went through very hard time thinking about them, until I've decided to cancelled my Friendship with my Classmates. I'm moving on with my life from Stress.

I have a friend that's up and doing in everyone's matter. He always make sure he's the mastermind to make the problems solved and there be it. He always wanted to know one's step and why the step. He always make his idea were working all the time. Can he be trust?

Spot on!

Fool me once shame on me, fool me twice shame on you

Trust no one and no one can betray you

I trusted my ex husband and my lawyers! They stole 2 houses from me

@hippyelise1

Жыл бұрын

I am sorry. I had a crappy lawyer too. Peace 🕊️✌️

Not entered person! No foreign!

The problem with these types of videos is they don’t give examples of what they mean. For instance, there are good reasons a person might be protective of their privacy - maybe they don’t trust others easily because of past abuses. A lot of these points should be followed by “for example” or “as evidenced by” and actually provide examples of problem behavior.

Excellent vidéo ❤

@BrainyDose

Жыл бұрын

Merci 😊

So after watching that it seems every single person I know has a red flag.

Well, for me someone who do not keep promises or says something oposite Vs what has said before on the same topic without any explenation why he or she changed the opinion or apologise is not trustworthly ! Done that ones you may never know if he or she will not do it again...to build trust is a long process to lose it it may be a moment.

Greetings Team Brainy Dose, Key Thoughts : - Lack of Good Social skills. - Over Sensitive. - Eccentricity. - Publicity. - Pseudo-psychologic behaviour. Thanks for Valuable Insights in Toxic Relationships With regards, RanjithJoseph (R.J)

An eye opener.

I like to think im genuine, because people told me i am. i dont feel it, but even i myself caught me being nice from time to time, and it pains me because i am that genuine, that it makes people mistrust me all the time. fuck people who abuse people. im here to to be nice to see you smile dammit. I dont want anything lmao why is that so hard to believe.