15 Ways Intelligent People Deal With Difficult and Toxic People
Here are some clever ways intelligent people deal with difficult and toxic people. Toxic people seem to thrive on drama. Many of them derive satisfaction from creating chaos everywhere they go. While others are completely unaware of the negative impact they have on those around them.
As annoying as it is, dealing with toxic people is something we just have to confront from time to time. It can be tempting to give toxic people the same treatment they give to others, but of course, that never works. That’s why it’s imperative to understand the psychology behind toxic behavior. It’s also important to realize that toxic behavior directed at you doesn’t always contain ill-intentions, anger, or resentment.
One of the best ways to deal with difficult people is to use techniques that are commonly practiced by intelligent people. Yes, toxic people create drama and chaos. But, you don’t have to let them ruin your day, or your life. Practicing the techniques outlined in this video will allow you to handle difficult people more effectively.
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Surrounded by toxic people can lead to anxiety and depression on long run, especially when u are a sensitive person
@wangechimwiyeria9423
3 жыл бұрын
I hope I don't fall prey
@archie9026
3 жыл бұрын
@@wangechimwiyeria9423 put your focus on somewhere positive, good luck 🍀 asap Don’t waste time being in a negative mood because of those people
@TeeRose25
3 жыл бұрын
I agree. I have been targeted by a toxic person I live near, and it's really affected my happiness. I've actually been borderline depressed for the better part of a year now, and with all that has happened this year it's like fuel to the fire. She lives for the chaos and thrives on the bad news that's on tv everyday. It's a downward spiral that's hard to get out of.
@markjhiansoriano9101
3 жыл бұрын
I wanna get out of this house....... It's not my home..... It's hell
@androidenthusiast4943
3 жыл бұрын
If i have enough ability to get out of this house and make a new life and own family far with them i will do it anytime i want. such Devils wearing like an angels.
Toxic people can make you toxic too. Best to avoid them when you can.
@trudytriad4574
5 жыл бұрын
That is sooo true. Prevention (from becoming toxic) is better than cure
@janessasade2777
5 жыл бұрын
Vince D'Souza SO SO TRUE!
@malenyluna5275
5 жыл бұрын
I've seen that with a couple of co-workers.
@TonyaA7
5 жыл бұрын
True
@Shanimoo48
5 жыл бұрын
I had this guy at work, I worked hard and he did everything to hurt me and make me sad' he told my boss to fire me, and I ended up being toxic. now, year after, I feel free, I apologized myself for my behavior even if they didn't. and have moved on.
To deal with toxic people. I have learned to NOT take things personally ; to always think that whatever the other person says or does - good or bad - is a reflection of themselves and has nothing to do about you.
@exclusivegemsforbusymother2314
2 жыл бұрын
AMEN to that
@marilynshaw4248
Жыл бұрын
Found a man for your daughters at the church ha ha !!!
@Mel130673
Жыл бұрын
Great idea….I like it!
@SeekTruthTransparent
Жыл бұрын
The book The Four Agreements is excellent on this ❤
@Sarah-gf9ed
Жыл бұрын
Definitely
-Establish boundaries -Ignore them -Dont share secrets with them
@maryfimielkowski220
2 ай бұрын
What if THEY ALMOST ALWAYS ignore your boundary lines ?? What if THEY continually harass when you ignore them ??? How do you defend yourself ???
@JessicaBielma-sq8wd
19 күн бұрын
❤
The worst thing is when the members of your close family are toxic.
@lifeslessons9889
4 жыл бұрын
Ana Hata .... ohhhh I know !
@slapman7646
4 жыл бұрын
Mhm hmm
@anonymousperson1327
4 жыл бұрын
So true. I had a toxic family member get mad at me over basically nothing and they expressed their anger to me in an extremely rude/mean way through a text message. When I tried to call them to discuss it, they never called me back. I didn't speak to them for year, until they called me to tell me how mean and rude someone was to them. Imagine having someone who treated you poorly call you to talk about how poorly someone treated them, NOT EVEN ACKNOWLEDGING WHAT THEY DID TO YOU! This toxic person is trying to squeeze their way back into my life and I don't want to talk to them. I don't mind speaking to them a few times a year briefly, but no more than that. I don't know what to do!
@abigailslade3824
4 жыл бұрын
Try both parents lol, luckily my Dad was cool but my mum and step dad both have serious issues so I just avoid for the most part.
@maryrguy4732
4 жыл бұрын
I so agree!
I’d rather have no friends for the rest of my life than with toxic ppl
@astriw_92
4 жыл бұрын
that's so true
@elhadjdiallo633
4 жыл бұрын
Like wise . ...stay away from toxic folks for resl ...i wish you gpod luck on your journey ...thanks .....
@riteshsewratan710
4 жыл бұрын
You look cute tho
@elenaappleton2932
4 жыл бұрын
So true!
@dinobussanich3017
4 жыл бұрын
Same here.
1) emotionally disengaged from them 2) minimum conversation 3) ignore them
@maryfimielkowski220
2 ай бұрын
HOW do you defend yourself especially if the person refuses to take NO for an answer ????
Someone once told me "A bully is actually a coward" and it was some of the best advice that ever helped me, I wrote it on a piece of paper and put it in my pocket- used it to stand up to them and then there came the day that I didn't need it anymore!
@spmoran4703
Жыл бұрын
My father told me the same thing . He was right . I am not s coward and my father was not a coward . But, bullies are and they are not worth bothering about.
@joanbayer4679
Жыл бұрын
@@spmoran4703 You Are Wise~ and Strong, Kindest Regards to You & Family
Stay away from anyone who can't say anything nice about anyone. Just stay away from them.
@errrzarrr
4 жыл бұрын
Toxic people can a DO definitely say nice things about people if it fits it's agenda. The video covers that too.
@dlouise64
4 жыл бұрын
The worst is when someone bad talks other people to you constantly. Like everyday. I knew a couple people who do this, and no matter how many times I asked them to stop, they weren't able to. It makes you feel disgusting when they speak like that to you.
@sleepwalker29
4 жыл бұрын
Everyone is negative stupid. Even your comment is negative. You're a dumb chick.
@unknowngirl208
4 жыл бұрын
Joe Smartballs you're just being toxic..
@memecrafttutorials8795
4 жыл бұрын
some people are weak and that won't solve the problem(basically passing the bomb to someone else)
Anyone who gossips with you will definitely gossip about you🤷🏾♀️
@brycie_
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to that. When I was in 4th grade 👁👄👁✌
@brycie_
3 жыл бұрын
YUP, THAT HAPPENED TO ME... regrets-
@michellemgbeke2693
3 жыл бұрын
Yes including me it’s bad
@ambiava123
3 жыл бұрын
Quoting the Buddha🤗
@evermic81
3 жыл бұрын
Gossip can't effect you if it isn't true, and if you are unbothered. They can't rattle a cage that isn't there.
I agree with this video 100%! Toxic people cause drama and chaos. That's why I keep my social circle VERY small now and I'm much happier!
@soultrynicole8443
8 ай бұрын
So do I😊
This kind of stuff needs to be taught in schools. Knowledge is power. I had no clue my ex was a gaslighting narcissistic psychopath. Life skills!
@julianhudson9341
2 жыл бұрын
I agree. Sometimes I wonder if they don't teach it in schools because they themselves are toxic and don't want to be exposed. So they hide with silence and only teach safer subjects.
@debrasullivan7479
2 жыл бұрын
We have to incorporate these life skills early on if we want to see a change in this world. So many spend their lives trying to figure out what is wrong wasting valuable potential the world needs to move us forward.
@altheasamuels2388
Жыл бұрын
Definitely needs to be taught in schools. Totally agree.
@DKSE123
Жыл бұрын
One of my coworkers from years ago was an extremely arrogant queer person , and a narsasist as well
@ericmerrifield4393
Жыл бұрын
Had no clue my ex was gas lighting and setting out to destroy my life and turn everyone Against me and even get by with trying to kill me ,I want away from everyone and this state
Toxic people are miserable, lonely, have low self-esteem and do not love themselves. PERIOD. Its never about you!!! They just want to be you
@11940ful
4 жыл бұрын
@Henry Louie so true!!
@pumpkinpie7254
4 жыл бұрын
Love your post !
@V.ResilientInYAH
4 жыл бұрын
Just pray for him/her and keep your distance.🙏🏾
@angelliew194
4 жыл бұрын
So true..my mother was toxic..she jealous of me because my father love me more then her and she make me fighting with her so my father thinks lm bad and don’t love me anymore..she also jealous of my beauty.
@11940ful
4 жыл бұрын
@@angelliew194 i can relate. I have a toxic mother too. I do not talk to her. She has 3 kids, and she only abused me. She's jealous of my light.
The worst thing is not being alone, the worst thing is being in company and feeling lonely.
@Ray2311us
4 жыл бұрын
👍🏼
@hiphopdanceeliana8659
3 жыл бұрын
that's what Marilyn Monroe says "it's a terrible thing to be lonesome, especially in the middle of a crowd."
@craigj.davies1983
3 жыл бұрын
@@hiphopdanceeliana8659 Wasn't he also the same guy who disrespected God and tore out pages of the Bible at his live concerts?
@raffed2291
3 жыл бұрын
@@craigj.davies1983 I think you're thinking of Marilyn Manson, Marilyn Monroe was a beautiful American actress, who was also a major sex symbol during the 50's - 60's. She had a rough childhood, had a mentally ill mom and others that would abuse her. Marilyn herself had been dealing with mental issues before her passing. She died of an overdose, some would even say she died from loneliness and emptiness.
@craigj.davies1983
3 жыл бұрын
@@raffed2291 I know about Marilyn Monroe, although I've heard from conspiracy theories that she was murdered by the F.B.I because she apparently was having an affair with J.F.K, but what's her sad story got to with my status? And I wasn't thinking of Marilyn Manson, I wasn't thinking of anyone, that was a quote that I came up with.
I have toxic relatives in my immediate and extended families. I do my best to keep physical, emotional, and spiritual distance. My inner peace and my spirit deserve to be in equilibrium. 🥰🙌🏾🙏🏾🎯❤️
@angelique2653
2 жыл бұрын
Very wise. I have a toxic siblingvwho tried to poison my bond with other family members. In the end, I dumped her and told the others why. Finally, they accepted this. I am liberated!
I have learned that when family member(s) are toxic, always make me feel bad, I put myself first to maintain my dignity and sanity. I don't retaliate yet I keep my distance as much as possible. If they call every now and then I am cordial but soon as they start gossips, insults, becoming negative, etc., I end the conversation quickly.
I hate when they act nice the first time we meet and when I get close too them they slowly start to show their real selves!
@pureroseangemuse7910
4 жыл бұрын
_ whenthestarsaregone _ yes!
@marbananta
4 жыл бұрын
It always works that way, time will tell. Notice carefully, sometimes what you consider 'friends' are not 'real friends'. Been there for much too often.
@hawoaster2901
4 жыл бұрын
Yep that's what they're good at
@elhadjdiallo633
4 жыл бұрын
Your gotta chose wisely next time whom to intertain in your circle.... Run 🏃 for life before they suck your energy etc.... Cut those toxic off it's good for your sanity , dignity , integrity, and over all you well being be warned !!! Bless be with you and everypne that existed in this universe....
@iceapplecontent
4 жыл бұрын
I have a toxic friend who started being really rude to me when we got close
Bullying isn't just them thinking someone else is weak. Most of the times it's because they see your potential and they just don't want it to exist.
@xoxo-vp7ww
4 жыл бұрын
!!!!!!!!
@kynathomas4809
4 жыл бұрын
PERIOD! 💯🙌
@bluerosefire_503
4 жыл бұрын
That I believe.
@kaiclegane824
4 жыл бұрын
True!
@Potatoman483
4 жыл бұрын
Heh True enough
I will simply disengage with toxic people. They drain my energy. Leaving them makes me live at peace, I won't allow them ruin my peace
@NatzTalk
4 ай бұрын
Same💪🏾
Good advice! I deal with them by being direct and I've many times said, "I'm not getting involved in your drama because I don't have the time".
someone told me I was ugly and I responded with "thanks, you look great today!" the look of regret on her face was priceless lmao
@paulinehignett6557
3 жыл бұрын
Great reply! You are not ugly. You look great.
@chandrikanair6224
3 жыл бұрын
when ever you talk observe judge then you proceed talking if you find them problemetic terminate them
@mariaremik.j.8919
3 жыл бұрын
That's cool😎
@adayinthelifeofgeorgia3844
3 жыл бұрын
Lol 😂
@rabiasultana5316
3 жыл бұрын
Youre cool
arguing with a fool only proves there are two
@user-lw2rt1ho6z
4 жыл бұрын
THAT'S sometimes TRUE😆😅😂🤣😭😁😘🤪
@Justadudeman22
4 жыл бұрын
(Maybe) marry me Love an intellectual . Who knows Maybe you'll be invited to my private island.
@dominiqueechevarria1889
4 жыл бұрын
TRUE, DON'T ARGUE,CUT EM OFF
@arlequinfinelune63
4 жыл бұрын
I'm arguing with you. Haha just kidding xD Truly: this sentence is so empowering, in my opinion. Don't argue, just go away and/or group with empathic people. There are plenty of good folks, even in 2020. Don't listen to nawsayers, stand firmly in silence in front of scapegoaters so they can echo to themselves their own insecurities and mistakes.
@sarangkim6373
4 жыл бұрын
*I think my lover is going to abandon me* *I think my business will go wrong* *I think my friend will gossip about me* This baseless imagination turns on the switch of your anxiety. In this state, a logical approach is meaningless. If you can't calm down this anxiety, your imagination already becomes a reality. That is why you get anxious and impatient *search youtube "paradox of I can do it"*
I refuse to put up with people who are too difficult. I have my own problems and it don't tolerate rude or crappy behavior
@EXRDaBeasta
Жыл бұрын
Same, hope you are doing well a year later.
@djdjdjdhddh
Жыл бұрын
if they can't understand that we got our stuff as well then nope i mean really
@soultrynicole8443
8 ай бұрын
💪🏾💯
I have been dealing with toxic people and decided not to respond to the things that they do and little by little they started leaving me alone. I have been ignoring their texts and calls and I have been having more peace. When I see them I just smile and wave and keep going wherever I am headed to. I feel so much better. I've realized how much of a distraction they have been and I am able to focus more on myself and my children.
It's been my experience that completely cutting a toxic person out of your life is the best thing you can do. They are are nothing but a cancer for your soul.
@bluerosefire_503
4 жыл бұрын
🙌
@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
3 жыл бұрын
Truth be spoked
@sunshinegodguidance9730
3 жыл бұрын
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT. A FAMILY MEMBER OR NOT.
@artemis6828
3 жыл бұрын
💯
@alleitroop9060
3 жыл бұрын
It’s so hard when you live with one
I’d rather be alone than in bad company
@queenoflasvegas
4 жыл бұрын
me too
@onlyonemitch5049
4 жыл бұрын
I thought it,you wrote it! Great minds think alike
@lifeslessons9889
4 жыл бұрын
J P . That’s my saying lol 😂 true though. Having been both !!!
@saranagh7097
4 жыл бұрын
Amen.
@ScottyMaster-hv9fd
4 жыл бұрын
@JOHANNES NORSE no thats called staying out of problems
My daughter blames me for her childhood. She is in her fifties yet she still has these rages and continues to attack me for something long ago and which I can do nothing about. I told her that I did the best I could and tried very hard to be a good parent that I am sorry if I did anything to hurt her. She threatens me with reporting me to the state when there is nothing to report. She wants to control my life and I will not let her. I thought she would change but she is still doing this so I have to distance myself from her and set boundaries for my mental health. I hope she doesn't hurt my granddaughter and her child with her toxic way. Thank you so much for your video.
Avoid them at all costs! Thanks for this Great Time up!
What I learned is Happiest people don't have the best of everything they just make the best of everything ♡
@graciethankful4643
3 жыл бұрын
Very knowledgeable nice 👌 God bless you 🙏❤
@urja330
3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@melissas1815
2 жыл бұрын
And they kill toxic people with kindness
@marymaher4036
2 жыл бұрын
I Love and agree with "Stuti's Flairs "!!🤗💖🌹
@MoiraDelie
2 жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤
Very hard to find loyal friends. I'd rather to be alone in my life
@binzsta86
5 жыл бұрын
There's a lot of fakers and snowflakes out there who only thinks "Me Me Me." Screw them.
@d3sladrvltia88
5 жыл бұрын
This is what i always do
@erickelmar7291
5 жыл бұрын
OMG! No! You need friends to vent! My friendship is free. Loyalty and Trust will cost a few years of good friendship. True friends only ask for emotional support.
@ninjanerdstudent6937
5 жыл бұрын
I think you are toxic, Chloe Smith.
@chloesmith6154
5 жыл бұрын
@@ninjanerdstudent6937 your wrong I'm not a toxic, if you know how bad experience I been through from the user friends, stabbing behind you? I wish you could stand it to still loving them!
I’ve found that setting healthy, sometimes very firm boundaries is very effective in dealing with negative people. The root cause of their toxicity could manifest itself in any number of ways, but staying away from them as much as humanly possible helps. Even when avoidance isn’t an option, it’s good to develop a way to ghost these types of people. I just mentally check out on them. Even though my body has to be there in that moment, my mind doesn’t.
@soultrynicole8443
8 ай бұрын
I realized today I tuned someone toxic completely out amazing 😅
I am in a toxic relationship right now, and i am getting tired of it and the unneeded and unneccesaary drama! This video really helped me thanks
@looqischmidt5581
2 жыл бұрын
Take care.
@EXRDaBeasta
Жыл бұрын
Wish you the best. Hope you are doing well now.
@lindamariani6921
Жыл бұрын
Get out and surround your life with people who really love you, respect you and life you up. you deserve to be happy and healthy..
Never tell anyone your dreams or aspirations, unless you don't want them to come true.Because people will shoot you down and it's usually the people your closest to!
@rigo7733
3 жыл бұрын
Truth spoken sometimes even the family want to keep you down for no reason.
@jessdrocha
2 жыл бұрын
Change your people. & commit to daily self-care...finding your purpose, knowing your worth & not looking to others for acceptance approval or validation makes you unshakeable to the toxic person. & then they'll usually weed themselves out. Also, boundaries boundaries boundaries....discover them, define them & defend them♡
@naomimitchell8858
2 жыл бұрын
Usually if you’re strong enough in your convictions on plans you have nothing or no one can stop your dreams…only you can stop your dreams whether you have toxic people around or not when you know who you are you have nothing to worry about!
@myuniversedna9801
2 жыл бұрын
You are so right... if only i have control of being very expressive , i could have lived in my mostly dreamed situation..
@chandrikanair9389
2 жыл бұрын
yes never tell your secrets to toxic people suppose if the dreams does not come true they will taunt you and let you down our every action should be prompt
toxic people will take your kindness… For weakness… Protect yourself from toxic people… 🚫 Let go of what no longer serves you!!
@florence1395
5 жыл бұрын
Anita Carter I cannot believe you wrote this, people take kindness for weakness! Someone close to me is taking advantage by being mean. This is so true!
@sunflowerroark5170
5 жыл бұрын
They sure will. I dealt with this for over two decades with the same people largely because they were my in laws. Religious people say to turn the other cheek. NO! move on.
@lindabyrne5692
5 жыл бұрын
I always say, "Do not mistake my kindness as a weakness; my niceness as stupidity; nor my silence as naivete. You will be unpleasantly surprised." Also, as I enter into a new phase of life (I am 58) and I have to clear out closets and get rid of things that remind me of the past, I say, "I easily get rid of what no longer serves me." So, thank you for being on the same page and posting your comment. I makes me feel validated ... and I hope I validated you in return.
@sunflowerroark5170
5 жыл бұрын
@@lindabyrne5692 I will be 57 in January. Now, I have to recreate my new self, and that will take time, but a great adventure.
@franciscanishagomes3944
5 жыл бұрын
I believe in mending things and people around me. Don't let go of things and people easily especially when they are very close to you. First try all your possible honest ways to make that person understand your feelings. Even the Bible says that we must not give up and old friend because a new one can never equal him/her.If you really can't tolerate anymore, distance yourself from that person. The distance will make the heart fonder and so there are pretty good chances of winning that person back.The same the Bible says about a husband and wife relationship. I don't believe in divorce. Because, the person God had destined for me I got and so I have to use the best of my wits to make my marriage a success.By using persuasion, expressing my feelings of sadness regarding the person's behaviour towards me but I will never leave my husband for a small thing because I too am at fault sometimes and he tolerates me.The first husband /wife will never be able to be replaced by anyone else. It's always easy to break but very difficult to reunite . We all can preserve our relationships especially of marriage by working honestly for it and definitely by asking God's grace. Because, God can do the impossible.
Saying, NO to an invitation from one kinda toxic person in my life made a huge impact between us. I am certain it made her realize something went wrong. Setting boundaries is quite effective. Life is not short, its actually long, only if you know how to use it.
@lindamariani6921
Жыл бұрын
Boundaries, they work if you set them in place. and follow through. The only way it will keep your own mental health strong.
Working with someone who is extremely toxic has been very draining for me. But this has helped me to much. Everything thing listed this person does. This is definitely helping me handle this properly.
Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience. EDIT: All the world's problems stem from the same issue. Idiots always think that they're correct and wise always doubt themselves.
@GrillCheeseWithaG
5 жыл бұрын
Zero why have I heard this somewhere else before
@ericbonaparte9790
4 жыл бұрын
I Think Mark Twain Said That However Don't Quote Me. .
@user-sc7nh6dg3r
4 жыл бұрын
spot on, i find laughing helps, which tends to get them angry, which makes me laugh even more, beat them with a smile...watch them squirm
@lifeslessons9889
4 жыл бұрын
Zero 🔥absolutely brilliant advice!!! Hard to shut off tho !! God I’m trying sooooooo hard !!!!
@lifeslessons9889
4 жыл бұрын
GozioG it’s sound advice that
I had a best friend who was toxic for years and I didn’t even realise for so long their behaviour want normal. I distanced myself last year and it was honestly the best decision I ever made
@supersaiyen20
4 жыл бұрын
Isabella Perini female?
@diamonddreams4538
4 жыл бұрын
How ? I need help
@jparas4623
4 жыл бұрын
Tagging my rich kid w attitude best friend syrhene descalso she bullied me for 4 years and saying that I am the toxic between us hahahahaha
@amug3536
4 жыл бұрын
Don't be in their company/friendship/relationship break it ASAP and get away from toxic people even from social media or social gatherings, if you can't avoid them sit at the far end of the table.... Otherwise it will be hard n harder to get away from them
@twinklepops1015
4 жыл бұрын
Im trying to cut off someone whose so toxic for me but the thing is she's my cousin so i cant even do anything. A few days ago I confronted her and told her i needed space.. and she came mine yesterday. Do you have any advice?
Toxicity has many faces. Often toxic people may not be upfront, instead they are the passive aggressive ones. They want to give the illusion that they are calm and cool, yet they go out of their way to make issues out of simple situations. They make snide remarks and do everything in their power try to disprove you or purposely do the opposite of what is needed. The apathy ..!!! I can almost respect someone more that is a full on jerk....because it is real. It's the phony ones/ two faced people that are exhausting
I know someone that fits almost all of these. I don’t talk to them anymore and I feel great about it.
Cutting connection to my toxic best friend is the best thing I did in my life. No more anxiety just peace of mind ❤️
@dewayneneeley2656
4 жыл бұрын
I did the same.
@tirtunemdouq
4 жыл бұрын
Same thing, same situation. I thank myself for it every day.
@ricardoheckstall9233
3 жыл бұрын
I'm working on that now
@androidenthusiast4943
3 жыл бұрын
I did the same
@martye.n2943
3 жыл бұрын
Former roommate was such a pain
When a toxic person says something negative, I say something positive in return.
@Ronnymikkonen2686
4 жыл бұрын
Then they continue to fuck you down! Even if they do not say anything directly to you. They think about something shitty to say to you until next time they meet you! Because in their world of ego self centered negativism,has been the normal for so long time so It will be hard to their brains to cope with positive outlook.
@kynathomas4809
4 жыл бұрын
@@Ronnymikkonen2686 💯 PERCENT FACTS!
@monamonet2643
3 жыл бұрын
Even tho its hard, I've been trying to deal with and teach the toxic person mew traits, only because I see better for this person and they ate actually changing!
@bonkeydollocks1879
3 жыл бұрын
Oh my word they hate it, I do this and it absolutely destroyed them
@tanyaboyle2173
3 жыл бұрын
That's a good idea
This video struck a lot of nerves. Mainly because I am a toxic person and the truth hurts. I'm looking to change for the better. I can't undo the hurt I've done to others but at least I'm facing the right direction. Going to take this one day at a time.
@Leda98
6 ай бұрын
Did you change? Shows youre a brave person willing to change and be gonest with yourself 😊
Thank you for these suggestions. I'm so exhausted by dealing with the many toxic people in my life, including family members. I'm so tired of feeling used and abused that I've just been keeping to myself. Sometimes I am lonely but I feel really let down by people. Thanks for the video, it was informative. I think I became a sponge for these people because of my low self esteem from having a Narcisstic Mother and having a Father who abandoned me.
@user-anonymous6125
Жыл бұрын
"a sponge for these people". I really feel you. I feel like I'm also in . sometimes my parents. But most of the times It's the people from school. I really feel like they steals the sunlight in me. THIEF. I'm more concious than before. Guards are so down than before, more sensitive to what others have to say. I really told you cause I feel that you're gonna understand me. The way I'm understanding you
@newflower8974
Жыл бұрын
🙏🏽
"Great spirits often encounter violent opposition from mediocre minds." Albert Einstein
@sookmingy5533
4 жыл бұрын
So true
@someothername9462
4 жыл бұрын
Nice
@K8lynMiller
4 жыл бұрын
This quote hits different
@TheDaltonius
4 жыл бұрын
Jaymz Gaetz I got bullied by a stranger on KZread cause I typed a reply he assumed I am something I am not then attacks my KZread channel
@doctordootch
4 жыл бұрын
Oh! You've met my brother-in-law?
Toxic people see manners as a weakness
@goldengalsclazy
5 жыл бұрын
That's because toxic people have problems within themselves and are either unable or refuse to take responsibility for their own thoughts and behaviors. Having manners is a sign of strength. It's easy to be rude, but it's so much harder to be nice to people; especially, if said people are toxic. To summarize, keep having good manners because usually toxic people are people, who are hurting emotionally.
@elizabethmonica2307
5 жыл бұрын
Joseph Watkinson I absolutely agree .... respect them and treat them with etiquette and in return they will consider you weak !!
@Shush7717
5 жыл бұрын
I agree They'll take anything they can for granted even others manners.
@sundrapoonan6724
5 жыл бұрын
I completely agree, your comment holds a mirror up to the world we live in today. Sadly, people have no consideration for anyone else's needs or feelings and the days of common courtesy and basic manners are long gone, we have this and our previous generation of parents who believe that children and even grownups must be free spirited, what a load of.....!
@bharatmahan7505
5 жыл бұрын
Bless you bro. You heard my heart
Remember that toxic means "poison." Imo, its easier to avoid, disengage, cut them out of your life. Then you can enjoy life and enjoy the decent people, who aren't critical and negative 24/7.
I needed this! I work in close proximity with a toxic person... because of the geography I always made an effort to get along with them, because I thought it was the easy way out. That was before our Covid shutdown. Now they have finally returned to the workplace and I have been back already for over a year, putting in the hours, so I'm not in the mood anymore to accommodate their mentality. I am not even going to push back, I'm just going to be polite and scarce. I remember the saying: Aikido - If you have to fight you've already lost. And thanks for reminding me that we all have a right to be happy.
This is on point! Thank you so much for posting. The way I deal with toxic people is by reminding myself that they do not: (1) pay my bills, (2) put food on my table, (3) go home with me, (4) hold the keys to my future. They are miserable because they have no life to go to.
@ss1075
5 жыл бұрын
What if the toxic people are the omes paying for ur bills and expenses? How wud u handle that and how to avid them?
@huckaf
5 жыл бұрын
@@ss1075 i read that you have to find whatever they are providing you, (money, love, help, etc) and then, cut contact with them
@grmpEqweer
5 жыл бұрын
Very good point.
@svetlanikolova7673
5 жыл бұрын
@@ss1075 I would go on the street and I would definitely not allow anyone to pay my bills unless I worked for it! Nobody owns me
@Jackgritty28
5 жыл бұрын
Life is miserable for toxic people🥥🌷🍃🇯🇲😍🐮🥕🏚️
Toxic people complain about everything but do Nothing to help the situation!
@greenbird777
5 жыл бұрын
It's possible that they're trying to ask for help & don't realize it sounds like complaining. It's also very likely that they aren't doing anything to help the situation because they don't know what to do, so they are asking for help in a clumsy way. Maybe you give them suggestions/ideas/possible solutions & they don't take any action. People who are really struggling or have been struggling for a long time need more than thoughts, they need real, practical, hands on help. They're probably too exhausted to take action.
@sheepketchup9059
5 жыл бұрын
@@greenbird777 that's how they use your empathy.
@greenbird777
5 жыл бұрын
@@sheepketchup9059 : This is just my thoughts on the subject - I'm not trying to change anyone's mind. To me, the act of cutting family members & close friends out of my life needs careful thought.There are other reasons people become grouchy, weepy, needy, sarcastic, nosy, etc. For 6 months I gripped every day to my husband that his boss should be paying him more - I was angry that they weren't valuing him highly enough. What my husband was hearing was, "Make more money! You're being weak, not standing up for yourself!". We worked it out: he realized that's not what I was saying, & I realized coming home every day to an angry wife would be hard to take. There are a lot more examples, but I hope you get the drift. I've know MANY true narcissists, & suffered from their twisted "games". There's never any excuse for narcissistic behavior, & no contact is the healthiest option if it's possible. I guess I'm saying make sure you're protecting yourself from harm, not abandoning someone who's maybe hard to be around for while but still really needs help. Sorry this is so long, it's really late... :)
@lilythepink9036
4 жыл бұрын
green bird at the end of the day you need to put your mental well-being first. If someone is sapping all the energy out of you and always makes a discussion turn to argument somehow and doesn’t even make you happy to be around! Why would you stay around with them?
@robbienally8976
4 жыл бұрын
Their usually control freaks
I gotta deal with toxic people everyday at school, society, and work place and neighborhood. Thanks for the heads up. Much appreciated. Have a good day, sir!
Just ended a 4 year relationship with a very toxic woman, she couldn't control herself, from the moment she got up, couldn't go anywhere without her bad mouthing everyone, Lived for drama, tried to help her get over her past troubles but she played on it was very negative to everybody and everything I said
The worst thing is to find yourself in a toxic relationship because it saps all your energy.
@mommabear5059
5 жыл бұрын
juliet gardiner BINGO
@user-hv6ov3pm3f
5 жыл бұрын
Narcissist do that
@christianandreipeciller8561
5 жыл бұрын
Spah sappin mah energy
@afreeman9508
5 жыл бұрын
Exactly 👍
@janeyd5280
5 жыл бұрын
I was married to one and had to get out while both my children were under 4 yrs old. I got them in nursery and got to college and also got an interim interdict to get him out of the house. my life was in danger. that's how toxic he was.x
I can't believe that I was once that toxic person, it's so sad and I am so happy that I am not that type of person anymore, I'm so glad that I have changed. Being depressed changes people a lot
@jpfallon8155
5 жыл бұрын
Yup depression is a very real, very serious prob. I have BiPolar Disorder Type 1-my mother & I wrote a book from patient & parent’s/caregiver’s perspectives.
@BuySmartChannel2700
5 жыл бұрын
Yea , sure
@gnarwhal7562
5 жыл бұрын
BFloraWolf 87 Idk who you are, but you described my time in high school to a tee. Small world
@JOALKR11
5 жыл бұрын
I’m glad I’m not alone in this. I started to become like the people I dislike the most and now I’ve started improving myself so I can be the version of myself that makes me happy and makes the lifes around me better as well. I can’t wait to heal.
@kalee1857
5 жыл бұрын
BFloraWolf 87 q
Truly I can’t handle toxic people; they handle me. I cry. . I needed this video. I’m sure I won’t immediately be able to handle them but perhaps if I watch this many times I will.
A Toxic person will most always cloak an insult in a joke or pass it as a compliment. That is how they display their envy and jealousy of the person they target.
@PotterSpurn1
5 жыл бұрын
Not always. Some are downright direct and call you out as being a 'fat b**h' or some other emotional abuse. It's not always subtle, just hurtful.
@whatfreedom7
5 жыл бұрын
My mom does that. She will say some snide smart ass remark to people then do a little half laugh after trying to play it off. Usually it was my sister in law and now my brothers girlfriend.
@ansheng9833
5 жыл бұрын
Backhanded compliments, praises with a hint of snide.
@annsmith4876
5 жыл бұрын
So True!!! Every time my Father and his family would get together, they would always make me the butt of their jokes, at first I truly thought it was just fun and games, but then I realized I had all the control to remove my self from that toxic environment!!!
@annsmith4876
5 жыл бұрын
@@PotterSpurn1 or Fat, Funky Bitch!!! Read the book Toxic Parents!!!!
Toxic people are frustrated, jealous and always unhappy. Run and run fast from them.
@chandraragoonanan-silochan2162
4 жыл бұрын
Manjula True that’s exactly my boyfriend sister
@M124M
4 жыл бұрын
My daughter!
Create some boundaries and assert yourself. Life is too short to deal with energy that isn't complimentary.
*This is by far the best video on KZread in my opinion. *Silence is very rewarding in that sense to either discern in others and/or consider reevaluation in yourself in the long run. This is a must. *It is in fact something we all need to consider on our journey in life.
Move away, block and delete them on social media and email and keep 'being you'. I was involved with a narcissist and the relationship was so fake and I just walked away. Don't stick around these fools, walk away and watch your life improve each day.
@hwanglee3330
2 жыл бұрын
What if they abuse your privacy and they make fun about you with their whores.
@cristinawakumoto7268
2 жыл бұрын
Indeed💯
@cristinawakumoto7268
2 жыл бұрын
Indeed💯
@jamesordwayultralightpilot
Жыл бұрын
My Boss, I never met a person who had to be in complete control of everything that goes on in a skilled labor environment...from 3 states away. Constant calls everyday for 3 years until I couldn't get anything done because he always had something to say. I second guessed myself at every turn. Then I found another job. No point in trying to save a sinking ship.
I have parents who are toxic and negative. They have made me feel bad for me being a girl child, me getting educated, the money they had to spend on me, me not getting married etc. This went on till the point that I went into complete depression.This have really affected my career and emotional growth as well. But after I became financially independent, it became lot more easier for me to ignore them. Because I don't have to ask for my expenses from them anymore. They still try to control me by making me feel bad about my looks and other things but I am capable to ignore them now. I have started to stop talking to them now unless it is very important.Even if I have to talk I prepare my mind before so that their taunts do not effect me. Trust me this really works.
@sadiya5750
5 жыл бұрын
@Jenny K Walsh Hi Jenny. You can share your issues with me here. I am not an expert. But maybe I can help you.
@daisydelarocha3688
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My situation is so very similar, cept, I'm not financially stable yet. I had no choice but to stay at their house for awhile. It's been terrible. I try so hard everyday to stay strong and smile & nod, and not take things personal. I have never taken the time to study the dynamics between both of my parents until this recent stay.. Needless to say, Both of them are just as toxic to eachother. They've never known anything else. It's a shame.. Anyways, thank you so much for sharing. I don't feel so alone anymore.
@sadiya5750
5 жыл бұрын
@@daisydelarocha3688 Just ignore them. Focus on things that will help you become independent. That's the only way out.
@NOT_SURE..
5 жыл бұрын
i bet you are a wonderful intelligent person , they hate that.
@sadiya5750
5 жыл бұрын
@Jenny K Walsh you can email me at sadiyaakram@ymail.com
Thank you so much. I am surrounded by too many of this kind in my working place. They really have a way of destroying others' peace and happiness.
I deal with toxic people by first understanding the vibration I emitted that attracted a toxic person. I ask myself questions and hold myself accountable in answering. I ask myself “did I subconsciously attract a toxic person to reaffirm the emotion of shame that developed in early childhood?” I remind myself that most people’s actions and reactions to their environment are repeated negative emotions of shame, guilt, unworthiness or judgement. I remind myself that toxic people are people that are suffering, and it’s best to not feed into their negative emotion by not reacting, but just observe the body language and the real message they are indirectly screaming out. Toxic people need more love, healthy love in efforts to influence self love. Understanding when one is toxic to others they are toxic to themselves as well. And just like it when one is truly practicing self love they are propelled to love others through solution-based communication, patience, compassion, empathy, understanding, and encouragement. It becomes easier to not internalize or be affected by toxic people when you place more emphasis on why that person is toxic with the understanding that it’s not personal; if it wasn’t you it would be another person so long as they reaffirm their emotion of judgement, disorder or victimization. Emotions are addictive. Toxic people are clear cases of unhealed trauma. Those negative emotions are usually developed in early childhood. If that person is 40 years old, they are so conditioned to that personality that changing is unlikely because it’s daily, all day everyday work to change years long repetitive thoughts, feelings and actions. It’s also an unfamiliar feeling. And to eject an emotion that feels so familiar no matter how much they didn’t like that feeling, it’s so much easier to find comfort in that discomfort than to change the way they think. So yeah look deeper.
I had a toxic friend for 3 years. She was so toxic that the majority people of our college hated her but I decided to give her a chance since I didn't want to be judgemental without interacting with her. She wasted 3 years of my life. Thankfully last year we had a fight and then I decided it was the right time to distance myself from her. I stopped talking to her and blocked her from everywhere. Honestly I feel so free and positive after that.
@kynathomas4809
4 жыл бұрын
I befriended someone like that before and it was a big mistake.
@HyoBerry
3 жыл бұрын
Im happy for you! 😊
@laughoncomedy2923
3 жыл бұрын
Same here but am done ✅ now I think they could be described as narcissist
@tesstefera6334
3 жыл бұрын
Who knows she may be in some kind of pain, it is always good to understand the source
@captainpinky8307
3 жыл бұрын
@@kynathomas4809 google "Social proofing" other people probably saw right through them before you.
When it comes to friends, focus on quality not quantity!
@edgbaston149
3 жыл бұрын
Yes
@bradford_shaun_murray
3 жыл бұрын
5:28 when it comes to noses focus on quality not quantity as well.
@lanapalij4014
2 жыл бұрын
Definitely!
@angelwild9145
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!! Well said! 💪🏻👍🏻✌️❤️
@shivpatel5413
Жыл бұрын
@@bradford_shaun_murray lol
A house that has a library in it has a soul in it - Plato.
I needed this today :) thank you! My wonderful boyfriend proposed to me this past weekend and it was amazing. I'm so happy in my life :) Then my ex tried to ruin it with their mouth and negativity. I woke up today and said out-loud "I need toxic people out of my life, I'm not going to allow it anymore...I'm done" And then I saw this KZread video :) thank you!
One thing they failed to mention is that after all these ideas and techniques fail, you simply need to cut toxic people out of your life.....for good. They are like a cancer or a fungus that will overtake you if you let them. Cut your losses and walk away. Go...it’s the only way to avoid their evil.
@yusur1929
5 жыл бұрын
what id its hard to cut them off..? and by cutting them off they will only create more drama and make it even worse.
@MrTruthseeker1980
5 жыл бұрын
I thought ignoring them was listed. Isn't that what cutting them off would be?
@MrTruthseeker1980
5 жыл бұрын
@@yusur1929 If they cause more drama for you it means you don't know how to cut them off. No contact means they're someone else's problem and no yours.
@SBecktacular
5 жыл бұрын
easier said than done...and not very realistic. what works better are the tips in this video and getting good at it..
@sassy61
5 жыл бұрын
Mason Kissel what if they are your husband and coworker?
Run don't walk. Toxic people are usually narcissistic and do nothing but make others miserable. Recognizing this type of personality from the beginning of any relationship will save you a lot of time & effort better spent on someone more deserving.
@Mad_S
5 жыл бұрын
I respect your opinion, but I believe you are misguided, a lot of times toxic people are just people that have not come to terms with their own inner demons (their mental illness, their bad situations that they try to reflect in the world.) I never assume that someone is a narcissist unless they give enough red flags. They could just be having a hard time and we have to understand that we do not see or know 100% of the other persons life. We cannot be the ones to diagnose or judge them. My step dad may be a narcissist but I don't talk about it. I just keep him out of my life. I guess all I'm saying is maybe we should leave the diagnosing to the professionals. People are people.
@YasFlowers
5 жыл бұрын
My ex boss was a toxic person and you can't determine such a shithead until you start working for them. He was very nice and normal during interviews but after 2-3 weeks his true colors came out and I stayed in that job for 7 months.
@burnsalpha7559
5 жыл бұрын
Depending on the situations... Sometimes we can be toxic..
@epameinondastriantafyllou9152
5 жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@mjparham6430
5 жыл бұрын
And by the way they never Change and They suffer from low Self esteem.#TheyHateThemelves
You simply leave them behind and move on. It is better to be alone, than wish you were!
That's why KZread is my best social media platform>>informative videos (remember you are what you consume)...I can tell the million viewers of this video got immense positive energy...self actualization is crucial for your well being...stay focused..stay blessed🙏...
Toxic people are very manipulative 😳
@vazvazvoova3941
5 жыл бұрын
Extreamly. And it's worse when they don't do it on purpose.
@TonyaA7
5 жыл бұрын
True
@user-zh8kk9qy4o
5 жыл бұрын
Like zombies
@Shush7717
5 жыл бұрын
What is up with that emoji😐
@leslieking9657
5 жыл бұрын
Anita Carter yes.!
Ha, in 2020, I’ve been using covid isolation as an excuse to stay away from toxic people in my life...silver linings y’all 🥳🤷♀️🤷♂️🥳
@melancholyheart8396
4 жыл бұрын
I can relate, I've been doing the isolation tactic before it became essential to my well being...
@reenabansule3446
4 жыл бұрын
I'm stuck with toxic people😟😔
@MS-py5gb
4 жыл бұрын
Only problem is I’m gonna have to see them at school and I don’t know what to do 🥴 it’s gonna be so awkward
@nodozhit
4 жыл бұрын
Amen to silver linings.
@nodozhit
4 жыл бұрын
@@MS-py5gb I hope this video helps you with dealing with them. I kind of hoped that the narrator would have highlighted the power of not taking toxic people too personally. But staying goal oriented and embracing your right to express your emotional wellbeing is another way of establishing your personal boundaries with others.
This video is the best thing I've come across in a long while. I needed this so bad right at this moment. Thanks a ton for the amazing advices❤️
Just recently I cut off a very toxic friend in my life and believe me it was the greatest decision that I have ever done. I'm so happy now 😊
@whoneedsapillowwhenjinshou2660
3 жыл бұрын
wish me luck, i am going to do the same, i see her every day at school, its going to be hard.
"It is fully within your rights to be a happy person who associates with emotionally healthy people." Excellent. As was this list overall. Thanks.
@SStupendous
2 жыл бұрын
Great video. Came here after having a comment argument. While I'm getting better at avoiding arguments on the internet, this one guy simply misunderstood what I was saying and started getting rude unprovoked, and instead of taking my correction of what I was saying, telling him what I really meant, this guy and his ego refused to take it and instead, of course, I was the one who REALLY the ignorant one who misunderstood, and defusal didn't work. I pointed out the obvious hypocrisy and didn't even read the further replies. Sometimes it's good to just leave it I guess.
Confront them and they will say you are imagining things when you know that they did it
@lifeslessons9889
4 жыл бұрын
lee curtis . Hooray someone who thinks as me !! That’s why they hate challenges... my sister instantly says to me “oh you live in the past and imagine you are a victim ‘!! Hmmm, Patronising bitch ! And I told her so . Then blocked her ... cuz, there’s no arguing with a narcissists
@anonymousperson1327
4 жыл бұрын
@@lifeslessons9889 -OMG! When I confronted my sister about her extremely rude/mean text message, she acted like she didn't even remember anything and said she doesn't live in the past. It's crazy how people develop convenient amnesia!
@thatprettymama4875
4 жыл бұрын
Life’s lessons Does anyone else have a sister who is a golden child and was never wrong in your mothers eyes while you were always wrong when it came to an argument or fight with them. After 33 years my mom and her still can’t name one situation were I was right and she was wrong. I think I almost lost my mind for a minute and believed them. Thank God I snapped out of it.
@Aeonized
4 жыл бұрын
Isn't that called "gaslighting"?
@StephenWestSyd
4 жыл бұрын
@@Aeonized exactly what it is!
remove toxic people inside and out of your life, reach your goal. we all deserve peace.
I grew up under the thumb of an extreme covert narcissist mother. I also learned later in life that my younger brother adopted all of her personality traits as well. Virtually all of the character traits explained in this video are exactly what one would expect from a narcissist, especially a covert narcissist. Covert narcissists are masters at many of the toxic examples in this video. My advice to everyone here is to go online and research exactly what to expect from narcissists (and covert narcissists in particular). This will allow you to spot one immediately (as they can be very sneaky and at least initially gain allies and friends to help support their abusive behavior), and then using many of the examples here to avoid them.
@tyreeduncan5866
Жыл бұрын
Dont forgot that they use your character for everything they do in life. I was really dumb I thought I had a great friend for life at tbe least but I can admit I was super dumb. I'm still learning but I'm just glad that we wo.t ever speak again.
@pacalvotan3380
Жыл бұрын
@@tyreeduncan5866, I wouldn't be so hard on yourself. There are a LOT of empathetic people who want to help others, and I'm sure many of the people watching this video have experienced that too. It's considered "intelligent" to learn from your mistakes, and even more intelligent to learn from other people's mistakes. So yes, covert narcissists most definitely use you, and will try to use many of your character traits too. Once you know that though you should be fine (i.e. fool me once, shame on you...fool me twice, shame on me 🙂). There's no shame in being "fooled", as long as you learn from it.
You have to maintain a "no contact" policy with toxic people.
@lifeslessons9889
4 жыл бұрын
toneman335 NO CONTACT MEANS NONE !! Zero
@marbananta
4 жыл бұрын
But the problem is I have to work with them every single day & that's tough. Being silent (talk only if necessary) doesn't help either, since they think I'm weak & start to crank me up, bend & manipulate me. Of course, cutting them off is the best way, but I don't see it's possible while I'm still depending on the job. I'll start to run my own business after having enough money, so I won't have anything to do with them anymore.
@jennie3309
4 жыл бұрын
But it's not always that easy, especially when the toxic person is your 'best friend'
@coivgse5992
4 жыл бұрын
They will do politics
@lonerhappy
4 жыл бұрын
toneman335 -I wrote about my nextdoor neighbor. Asked me for a lot of things I complied. Needed help I was there. But so toxic started saying things to me, took it and took it. I told her sorry no more. Now it's to a point where she wrote in our newspaper she felt no security because of a neighbor and needed to see a lawyer. So now she is so scared of me because I have started to live my life without doing things for her and now she doesn't know what I am doing and became scared of me. What she wants is control and very much attention. She's got neighbors watching me, following me to make sure I don't attack. 🤣
I was friends with 3 toxic people. I decided to be alone than to be with them. I found a group of healthy friends. I am very happy and relieved today Edit: it's been a year since I wrote this comment and I really didn't expect to get any attention but I am glad for the people that responded and for everyone that took the time to read everything (the silent majority) 😂
@moonwalker2.040
3 жыл бұрын
Where do u find healthy friends , I’ve been trying my whole life 😭
@gojosatoru8378
3 жыл бұрын
@@moonwalker2.040 for me they were always around me but I failed to notice or maybe I wasn't able to notice. The opportunity came to me to connect with these people came after cutting loose my toxic friends. So I would recommend that you start by dropping toxic people as soon as you can and then pay attention to your environment. I'm positive you'll find someone that maybe was looking for you as well but didn't know. Then again who knows maybe I am wrong but this was my experience. At the end of the day being alone isn't bad you know. Better alone than with toxic people so no matter the case become more independent.
@moonwalker2.040
3 жыл бұрын
Tf D Law thank you so much 💜💜
@gojosatoru8378
3 жыл бұрын
@@moonwalker2.040 you are welcome have a beautiful life ☺☺
@susan7374
3 жыл бұрын
Congratulations to you for never giving up on humanity ❤️
Right now I'm experiencing depression and anxiety because I am surrounded with toxic people ,I don't know what to do that's why I'm here .And I want to say Thankyou for this video 😣💖
@julianhudson9341
2 жыл бұрын
I've been there. I learned to shun toxic people and those who defend them with silence or attacking my reaction. We can't make peace with everyone. The time to make peace was years ago and they dismissed it. So I dismissed them from my life. We don't owe them our peace of mind or an explanation when we shun them.
Thanks alot now l know how to handle these toxic people, they will not get any change to distract me again.
I have learned to ignore them and distance myself from them and they will eventually back off. Don’t give anyone a satisfaction to ruin your day. They don’t worth your time. Life is too short to be unhappy.😁💕
@theterence20able
4 жыл бұрын
Yes I agree, this is so true.
@ESHANA
3 жыл бұрын
V true. .
@shamfagrey
3 жыл бұрын
☝🏽😌🎧❤ Always in my own world by myself n then someone appears unnecessarily. Thats when i give them a piece of my pouty witty mouth.😒
@baehelphasna
3 жыл бұрын
thank you !!
@bravekhan2654
2 жыл бұрын
Sooo good dear this is going to be a very great motivation quote for me from now and i will take screen shot of it thnxxxx
Played this with no earbuds so a toxic person could hear it 🤣 thank you 🙏
@karamlevi
5 жыл бұрын
tracey Joy girl fight (toxic fem) tech #1. Be passive aggressively loud and let others over hear you. 👌🏽. Classy-
@kayehicks8
5 жыл бұрын
😂 THAT WAS GREAT!!! BUT REMAIN COGNIZANT AS TOXIC PEOPLE ARE HABITUAL LINE STEPPERS!
@remitsktan4939
5 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@jennifer9047
5 жыл бұрын
Noooo!!! 🤐 Don't give away our techniques! 😜
@fredericksharon5095
5 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
Two of my brothers been relying on me to give them thousands over the past four years. Never once have either taken me to lunch or even a cup of coffee. Last month I finally said, " This is it" no more " and stopped answering the phone if I saw their name's. As they realized I wasn't a Trust Company or a " Drive Up Bank Teller " The calls stopped and I knew in my heart of hearts just because we have the same parents doesn't mean, " Family First" and guilt me into constantly giving in. I am my own person at the end of the day.. Maybe someone out there in You Tube land has felt , taken advantage of. but it is when we draw the line that we can heal,
It's worst when it comes from people that should protect ur interest the most. My mom has been a thorn in my flesh eight from childhood, I grew up feeling unworthy of anything good. Luckily enough, I had to take refuge in motivational speeches to keep my sanity
I avoided the most toxic person, I divorced him 😊 Have a lovely day everyone 💕
@youmuqututube4248
4 жыл бұрын
Yesss
@donnajoseph-barford1076
4 жыл бұрын
I cut out my sister. My mom only speaks to her. Her son's grew up, left, and changed the cell number to be rid of her. She's not invited to family events either.
@saranagh7097
4 жыл бұрын
Amen.
@ayaelaraj
4 жыл бұрын
Donna Joseph-Barford I want to cut out my sister. Unfortunately, I live with her. Really don’t know what to do.
@joielai7571
4 жыл бұрын
Aya Maybe you can live somewhere else with family?
I think intelligent people avoid anything that gets in the way of their success, Including difficult and toxic people.
@ahmedandalous2878
5 жыл бұрын
"@Spurious Flatus.👍🏿😲😃😯😗😮🙂🙃😉😎👍🏿."
@christinamorrison646
5 жыл бұрын
I KNOW A LOT ABOUT SCIENCE,BUT FIND IT VERY DIFFICULT TO WEIGH OTHERS UP AND FIND OUT THEY ARE TOXIC....MUCH LATER.I AM A BAD JUDGE OF CHARACTER. ANY IDEAS? NEVER BEEN STREETWISE....
@christinamorrison646
5 жыл бұрын
@Spurious Flatus SORRY MATE.I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN FAIRLY RECLUSIVE.I EDUCATE MYSELF AT HOME,EVEN THOUGH I AM ALMOST 60.LOL.OLD SCHOOL.SON TAUGHT ME HOW 2 USE INTERNET.YES.I HAVE WORKED FOR MANY YEARS B4 BECOMIONG ILL..THE GOSSIP IN MOST PLACES AND IN TOWN? NOOOOOOOO. A SUMMER MEADOW ANYTIME FOR ME.BLESS YA .
@katelala23
5 жыл бұрын
yet those toxic people think youre weak by avoiding them, they think they won the game.
@JUANRIVERA-zb9xq
5 жыл бұрын
@@katelala23 fo that reason please don t be quiet, tell him all in his fukin face
I helped my relatives stay in my house. I didn’t really know them well but because my brother asked me to help them… my nieces… When they became comfortable with me they started showing attitude, disrespect and became rude after I told them the house rules. They joined force with my other relatives who hate me. It’s a chaos! Now I’m happy that they’re not with me anymore but they still continue backstabbing me all of them, putting me down and making me look like I’m a bad person. I just ignore them and move on with my life. Their loss is my gain! Now I saw their true colors… I could care less.
This is well researched, well organized & makes sense. It helped pull observations I've made - of myself & others, into focus. And I appreciate the way I felt context add to form, like building some more structure & places to put ideas. It's helping me form a map of how humans work, so it's amazingly useful. Where have you been all my life? I'm going to keep this tab open, & re-watch it during commercials.
Took me a minute but I realized most of my family and friends were extremely toxic but disguising it in polite judgement. Pulling myself out of their pit and sprinting for the door has been one of the best things for my own sanity.
There are 2 types of negative people: 1. The Victim - the one who became negative due to misfortunes and maltreated from others that affects their emotions and views in this world. Examples are those who are always lonely and down. (these people need someone who is compassionate to lift them up.) 2. The Abusers - The person who treated others with malice and abusing others emotions and feelings. The main example of these are bullies and man users. (these people must be avoided at all cost) Remember this facts: 1. Weak people bullied and use others, They ABUSE others. 2. Feeble minds dont care. 3. Average minds SYMPHATIZE. 4. Wise minds EMPHATIZE and 5. STRONG people treat others with COMPASSION...
@mdmmalou
3 жыл бұрын
And what about the Know-it-all's?
@cristinawakumoto7268
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly...Toxic people see manners as a weakness.
I’m dealing with the worst toxic person I have ever met in my life right now. She is attempting to make me feel as if I’m the most horrible person in the world. She looks at me like I just killed her child! She treats me like I am the devil and she is putting up with me. I have been so affected by this and have tried to communicate my thoughts to her but she just takes it as an attack. I have never been around anyone this sick. Unfortunately she is a roommate who doesn’t want me around. She gossips about me. I have decided to move. My self respect is too important to me..
Well, there is one effective way to deal with them: avoid them. That's it
Keeping your Distance and ignoring them. seems to work.
@fundemort
5 жыл бұрын
Sometimes ignoring doesn't work. The person will still keep disturbing/bullying you until you stand up for yourself.
@joserizatecson1487
5 жыл бұрын
You cannot distance or ignore them when they are an immediate family (mother)!😣😥😫😯
@curtistinemiller1560
5 жыл бұрын
@@joserizatecson1487 Gurl you know you telling nothing but the truth?.
@curtistinemiller1560
5 жыл бұрын
@@joserizatecson1487 So.if you don't mind telling me How do you deal.with them without snapping?.
@joserizatecson1487
5 жыл бұрын
@@curtistinemiller1560 i snap most of the time! I have a love/hate relationship with my mom!
I was very very toxic, but with time i worked on it and i still work on it everyday . Im not out of the woods, but im the owner of my actions and their consecuenses and i can change! Hopefully
@KelleyBroussardMackaig
4 жыл бұрын
Talk about some serious self awareness!! Damn, good for you Rolando. Can't imagine this would be an easy realization to come to, but the fact that you have chosen to face and tackle it head on says so much about the value of your character. I applaud, appreciate and commend you. May your growth and learning never cease.
@shannonclark6758
4 жыл бұрын
I see some of these traits in myself and I don't like it. This is going to get me to take a good hard look. It smarts, I do not want to be this person. I thank God it's only a few too many. I was thinking if anyone here was beside me had any of these traits. Thank you for sharing.
@thenameofthegame4037
4 жыл бұрын
Takes guts to say that brother you have my respect on this one
@toralmehta543
4 жыл бұрын
remember we all have somewhat toxic behavior. specially when we go through tough times. a little compassio n and empathy is needed to support each other
@4everu984
3 жыл бұрын
🥰🌟🤍🔥 me too, ty for being open.
Thanks for these details.. i have toxic family relationship now i understand how can i handle this
Solution:- just forget them or stop talking with them...
My mother is a highly toxic person. I only realized in the past year that I don't have to be a part of the chaos she creates. These techniques work very well!
@meisha2945
5 жыл бұрын
My mother is too! Removing her from my life has been the hardest thing I’ve had to do
@tiffanyjordan7872
5 жыл бұрын
Meisha Ross I’m working on trying to remove my toxic mother. How did you do it?
@arbphil6238
5 жыл бұрын
Kristy S. Did your mother degraded you at one moment? My mother do that
@spdadventurer1754
5 жыл бұрын
Kristy S same here ...except I came to know this years ago, but have been unable do stay clam within .. I think I gotta do that in a more smart and diplomatic way rather than feeling a need to explain her things
@spdadventurer1754
5 жыл бұрын
Woah! So good to see similar people here ... I mean m not happy to see so much suffering but u know what I mean😧😧😧 Both my parents have been toxic but one was in a stealth mode and other which is my mother has been so in a very irruptive dramatic way, every moment.... I think one can only be free from such family members when they are on their own, seperate home. Untill then be really smart and technical in brushing any chance of debate .