Your Ego is Not Your Enemy | David Gerber | TEDxQueensVillage

David Gerber is a partner, speaker, and coach with Novus Global, an executive coaching firm that works with Fortune 500 companies, professional athletes, and high-profile business leaders to develop lives, transform teams, and elevate companies to go beyond high performance. With over a decade of leadership development experience, David is passionate about helping people come alive and creating extraordinary results. Committed to building and strengthening communities, David is a long-term volunteer with Defy Ventures, an organization that works with people in prisons and transforms the lives of business leaders and people with criminal histories through their collaboration along the entrepreneurial journey. With Defy, David emcees and facilitates sessions and coaches inmates on business plans. Locally he serves in leadership with the Rotary Club of Oakland. David Gerber is a partner, speaker, and coach with Novus Global, an executive coaching firm that works with Fortune 500 companies, professional athletes, and high-profile business leaders to develop lives, transform teams, and elevate companies to go beyond high performance. With over a decade of leadership development experience, David is passionate about helping people come alive and creating extraordinary results.
Committed to building and strengthening communities, David is a long-term volunteer with Defy Ventures, an organization that works with people in prisons and transforms the lives of business leaders and people with criminal histories through their collaboration along the entrepreneurial journey. With Defy, David emcees and facilitates sessions and coaches inmates on business plans. Locally he serves in leadership with the Rotary Club of Oakland. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • @bigthinking1715
    @bigthinking17152 жыл бұрын

    the conversation about ego has been changing and evolving for years. we have such a better understanding now of the role our ego plays and how we must manage it. David is spot on, what a great man!

  • @suebakernottly

    @suebakernottly

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes I agree.

  • @bigthinking1715

    @bigthinking1715

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@suebakernottly 👍

  • @gabekilljoy

    @gabekilljoy

    2 жыл бұрын

    He is a philosopher of our time!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you all for the kind words!

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    Such thought provoking idea!!

  • @lgerber77
    @lgerber773 жыл бұрын

    Your ego says, "I am not your opponent, I'm your partner"--what an awesome perspective! Your ego is your ADVOCATE! Yay!!!

  • @thenextbigthingishere

    @thenextbigthingishere

    3 жыл бұрын

    or your enemy!

  • @mwcermak

    @mwcermak

    2 жыл бұрын

    I wonder what other thing in our lives might be our advocates if we just perceived them that way?

  • @leodancingsanders
    @leodancingsanders2 жыл бұрын

    never even had this perspective cross my mind before, brilliant

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree Leo.

  • @shannoncurran5409
    @shannoncurran54092 жыл бұрын

    I come back to this when I need some grounding. Thank you, David.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome Shannon! Thanks for the kind words!

  • @hichemkahela
    @hichemkahela2 жыл бұрын

    This is so different to the usual stories about ego, I think it's the first instance I've seen where someone has described their ego as the thing that fills them with self doubt and anxiety.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Hichem - thanks for taking the time to watch the video and glad you enjoyed it!

  • @Lulu-99

    @Lulu-99

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are so right. This is a far cry from the usual approach.

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    Жыл бұрын

    Love the different perspective he provides…

  • @mftrezza
    @mftrezza3 жыл бұрын

    LOVE this Gerber! Your dragons aren't for slaying, they're for dancing! Amazing buddy, congrats all the way!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Trezza!

  • @janiceglanders

    @janiceglanders

    3 жыл бұрын

    love that line too!

  • @joyceguthals6860
    @joyceguthals68603 жыл бұрын

    David, you are so gifted in saying how we all feel, and giving us hope that these feelings may be lies. Thank you for your wisdom and transparency. Keep it up!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for your kind words Joyce! Glad the talk connected with you.

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    Totally agree!!

  • @mwcermak
    @mwcermak3 жыл бұрын

    Rare to see such authenticity and vulnerability in a Ted Talk! Well done David!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Mark! Appreciate your kind words.

  • @melissacaddell2764

    @melissacaddell2764

    2 жыл бұрын

    Right? So great!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agree!

  • @thomaspowell3rd
    @thomaspowell3rd2 жыл бұрын

    Oh, I read that book 10 percent happier, and I agree with this speaker it's really helpful.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Glad you liked the book as well!

  • @rubyguil4622
    @rubyguil46222 жыл бұрын

    David, this is a very smart and grounded way of looking at the ego and one I believe many philosophers would agree with.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely true

  • @shirleytross
    @shirleytross3 жыл бұрын

    Joseph Campbell is an amazing inspiration of mine. I so often think of the hero’s journey- so much wisdom in his messages.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Shirley!

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree!

  • @dakjussord821
    @dakjussord8212 жыл бұрын

    It's amazing how much positive change can come from just thinking of that voice a little differently. Thank you David for providing this for me.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    I found that helpful too Dak.

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @tedbuden
    @tedbuden2 жыл бұрын

    i like david's speech. plenty of thought provoking bits that made me question a lot of bs i've read over the years. well done.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the kind thoughts Ted!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me too Ted!

  • @11ThaoNguyen11
    @11ThaoNguyen112 жыл бұрын

    “If being an egomaniac means I believe in what I do and in my art or music, then in that respect you can call me that... I believe in what I do, and I'll say it.” ― John Lennon

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love that quote Thao.

  • @blakestephens6558
    @blakestephens65583 жыл бұрын

    Your vulnerability is inspiring, David! Love the JC reference. Way to samba with those dragons.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Samba! Love me some Joseph Campbell.

  • @alibabagurjiani

    @alibabagurjiani

    2 жыл бұрын

    He is an absolute legend.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love the JC ref too

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @ronaepstien
    @ronaepstien2 жыл бұрын

    I was pretty intrigued by the title of this talk, I didn't think your ego was your enemy to begin with but after listening to David's journey I have a much better understanding oh what ego actually is!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Rona!

  • @melissacaddell2764
    @melissacaddell27642 жыл бұрын

    I have never thought of my ego in a positive way--what a wild pivot in my whole perspective. 😲Thank you for doing this Tedx!!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome Melissa!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same! Really enjoyed the story about a dragon name Ego. It has stuck with me to this day.

  • @lgeekgamingl
    @lgeekgamingl2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for sharing this information with us David, your honesty and vulnerability is refreshing. Thank you for your authenticity.

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes, thank you!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    @@bethanypeer3206 You are all so so so welcome.

  • @raquel-mercedes
    @raquel-mercedes2 жыл бұрын

    This is probably the best talk on overcoming that negative inner dialogue I've ever seen.

  • @DoYouPlayWell

    @DoYouPlayWell

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ditto

  • @SlickEdits-official

    @SlickEdits-official

    Жыл бұрын

    I agree Raquel

  • @my3rojas

    @my3rojas

    Жыл бұрын

    Right? So good. Such a shared human experience.

  • @OO-OO-OO-OO-z
    @OO-OO-OO-OO-z2 жыл бұрын

    Thought provoking, uplifting, positive and refreshing! Everything a tedx talk should be, thank you David.

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agree!

  • @OO-OO-OO-OO-z

    @OO-OO-OO-OO-z

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@bethanypeer3206 I'm glad we are on the same page!

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    I thought so too. I feel so inspired.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much. I'm honored.

  • @bethanypeer3206
    @bethanypeer32063 жыл бұрын

    I get choked up each time I watch this talk. Thank you for being real. Your pursuit to be the best is so beautiful, David.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    That means a lot to me. Thanks for your kind words!

  • @marychristmaseveryone

    @marychristmaseveryone

    2 жыл бұрын

    I think e's the best i've seen in a long time

  • @larrygerber1462

    @larrygerber1462

    2 жыл бұрын

    Definitely agree

  • @cjmartindale6012

    @cjmartindale6012

    2 жыл бұрын

    I love the authenticity in it. Definitely have watched a more than a couple times

  • @my3rojas

    @my3rojas

    Жыл бұрын

    Same! Just so powerful.

  • @jordankunaszyk1993
    @jordankunaszyk19933 жыл бұрын

    Very encouraging to see how shifting the way you view your ego can turn your ego from an enemy to a friend that sharpens you as iron sharpens iron! Thanks for sharing your heart, God bless.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @cjmartindale6012
    @cjmartindale60123 жыл бұрын

    I always love hearing Gerber talk. His life talks are always inspiring and this man has transpired more than anyone I know. The most open and authentic person I have heard from

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    3 жыл бұрын

    A very authentic guy! What you see is what you get!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree!

  • @eliseseveniegn
    @eliseseveniegn2 жыл бұрын

    Even if the brain convinces us there is evidence to put ourselves down, we must fight against that, talk back to that voice that we are enough and we have plenty to be grateful for. That's when I've found my ego to balance out. Excellent topic for a ted talk! I Love it.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Elise! Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @eliseseveniegn

    @eliseseveniegn

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@davidgerber401 I just saw this now, thank you David!

  • @megmillerful
    @megmillerful3 жыл бұрын

    YES. Yes to this talk. Thank you!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Meg!

  • @enesyldzsr
    @enesyldzsr3 жыл бұрын

    I have been doing a lot of reading recently about how the ego actually can keep us safe at times and this talk definitely reiterated that. Keeping ourselves in check and holding ourselves accountable is what keeps the ego healthy I think. I really loved David's dragon explanation here. So good.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Enes! I am glad the talk resonated with what you are finding!

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed Enes - the explanation of the dragon is so helpful.

  • @jasminelovell
    @jasminelovell2 жыл бұрын

    Our ego is meant to keep us safe. And for those of us who are facing our weaknesses , the ego continues to be a friendly reminder of what we need most in our life to feel safe

  • @graciasandlove
    @graciasandlove2 жыл бұрын

    100% Agree! ego gets a bad name and we need it.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Absolutely agree!

  • @maehaslet
    @maehaslet2 жыл бұрын

    I've come back to this a few times. It's very much in line with a few online psychologist that I subscribe to. Our ego is essentially our inner child trying to keep us safe, if we can have a relationship with our inner self that allows us to always feel safe - our ego is definitely always our friend.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for taking the time to share Mae. Glad the talk is resonating.

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    Beautifully put!

  • @harryhandsome7638
    @harryhandsome76382 жыл бұрын

    Oh I love this talk so much, the quote about dancing with our dragons is just a perfect analogy. Thank you David for this incredible perspective shift!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome Harry. I really appreciate it!

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree. Great way to ponder this.

  • @SlickEdits-official

    @SlickEdits-official

    Жыл бұрын

    I thought it was really good as well!

  • @my3rojas
    @my3rojas Жыл бұрын

    Re-watching this today. Powerful. I'm coupling this with some work around self-compassion, and it is really impacting my ability to dance with my dragons. Well said, David!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Melissa!

  • @I-Am-june-day
    @I-Am-june-day2 жыл бұрын

    Love this talk David! So many beautiful moments and the overall message is wonderful.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you June!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    Жыл бұрын

    One of my favorite talks.

  • @patricegerber6797
    @patricegerber67973 жыл бұрын

    “The greatest opportunities we have in life lie in areas that we’re currently wrong about.” This struck me from your talk today. What am I...what are you...currently wrong about? Are we open to being wrong? What opportunities are available if we are open to being wrong? Do we have to be open to being wrong about everything we believe? Are there times when life is just a multiple-choice question, and we chose the answer that we believe is MOST right? Is there anything we can be absolutely certain about? Just some questions running through my mind...

  • @WilliamSmithnotthatone

    @WilliamSmithnotthatone

    3 жыл бұрын

    Yes I agree, is there?

  • @vivianacorinacabarcaherrera

    @vivianacorinacabarcaherrera

    2 жыл бұрын

    Nothing in life is certain

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Very helpful.

  • @my3rojas

    @my3rojas

    Жыл бұрын

    So.good. I hear this line repeating in my brain all the time. Really interesting way to think about things.

  • @gabriele3691
    @gabriele3691 Жыл бұрын

    I figured out the same thing by myself a few years ago it changed my life completely. Only now I have found this video. It is fascinating to see how people from different realities arrive at very similar conclusions when questioning their inner self, their essence, something that all mankind has in common. Be kind to yourself and speak the truth with him, be transparent and respectful because no matter what happens you will always have yourself.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Love that Gabriele!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    Жыл бұрын

    Beautiful Gabriele! Such heartfelt thoughts. Love how TedX talks can bring this authenticity out of people 😊

  • @lindsayallinson310
    @lindsayallinson3103 жыл бұрын

    Beautiful message, David, Well done. Thank you for sharing & for your vulnerability.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for all of your help along the way. This wouldn't have happened without you and the team!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agree!

  • @davidleys91
    @davidleys912 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for this talk. I didn’t see this before. I really loved the visualization of taking your ego to the airport. As you know, I once chewed out my ego, shouting at him at the beach to shut him up and put him in his place haha. It’s an invitation to revisit my ego in a new way…

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for watching David.

  • @my3rojas

    @my3rojas

    Жыл бұрын

    IKR? This was so enlightening for me--my ego is not my enemy....what??

  • @baileebrushell
    @baileebrushell2 жыл бұрын

    Such a refreshing take on ego and the reasons for it!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Bailee - thanks for taking the time to listen to the talk and share your thoughts. It means a lot to me.

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    I found it refreshing as well!

  • @maverickvassallo
    @maverickvassallo3 жыл бұрын

    Finally a healthy conversation about ego! About time!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Maverick! Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @bridgettemsanders
    @bridgettemsanders2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you David, this was so beautiful and a valuable thing for me to hear.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree Bridgette. Was so helpful!

  • @SlickEdits-official

    @SlickEdits-official

    Жыл бұрын

    I got so much value from it too!

  • @shannoncurran5409
    @shannoncurran54093 жыл бұрын

    Many very real tears. David has made such an impact on my life! I love his way of storytelling.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    That means the world to me Shannon. Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @megmillerful

    @megmillerful

    3 жыл бұрын

    ME TOO!

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    3 жыл бұрын

    He IS a great storyteller!!

  • @agnespuentes
    @agnespuentes2 жыл бұрын

    Anyone else just love this guys mannerisms? He seems so joyous and humble and I really enjoyed his talk.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Agnes. That means a lot!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    He does seem to be full of Joy.

  • @charlieonno
    @charlieonno2 жыл бұрын

    Wow what an opening, hearing the little cracks in his voice when he talks about his ego telling him he won't make it and that he's a fraud really affected me. I love that he was able to overcome all that self doubt and get to where he is now.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Charlie!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    I felt similarly Charlie.

  • @DoYouPlayWell

    @DoYouPlayWell

    2 жыл бұрын

    It felt like he was living it in the moment of the presentation.

  • @randypoon8715
    @randypoon87152 жыл бұрын

    Powerful, David! Love the notion of dancing with our dragons ❤️.

  • @melissacaddell2764

    @melissacaddell2764

    2 жыл бұрын

    Me, too!

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    It definitely shifted my perspective.

  • @JeremiahAja

    @JeremiahAja

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@patricegerber6797 agree 100%. Hadn't considered this as an option until now!

  • @bojanilic4705
    @bojanilic47052 жыл бұрын

    I wish there were more wonderful people like David Gerber. Thanks man.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed Bojan!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Bojan. That means a lot.

  • @bilbobaggins3rd
    @bilbobaggins3rd2 жыл бұрын

    Sometimes visualising things helps in ways we would never predict, very cool to hear about his breakthrough.

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    100% agree. His vulnerability allowed me to connect with the visualization in a memorable way.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Bilbo!

  • @turkvestule1668
    @turkvestule1668 Жыл бұрын

    you're totally right, David. we need to rethink how we interact with our egos.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Turk

  • @effierose5391
    @effierose53912 жыл бұрын

    There is so much vulnerability here and I felt it in such a raw way. I could physically feel that shaking and the tears that are burning the edge of my eyes while standing there on a stage trying to deliver a message which means so much to me- all the while anticipating everyone to think ‘what are they on about?’. And he is there, giving this talk and pushing through and the message he is giving is just everything I needed to be reminded of. Thank you so much for sharing this vulnerability and message. One day, I hope I can get up and challenge my fears too.

  • @Lulu-99

    @Lulu-99

    2 жыл бұрын

    I wish I could have that courage too. I am not comfortable being center stage

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the kind words Effie. It means more than you know!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@Lulu-99 I hear you!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    Жыл бұрын

    I can relate ☺️

  • @sethschmidt2441
    @sethschmidt24413 жыл бұрын

    David thank you for shifting the narrative and opening us up to new possibilities. Loved this!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome Seth! Thanks for watching.

  • @randubrown

    @randubrown

    2 жыл бұрын

    true!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @wildflowerhoney1862
    @wildflowerhoney18622 жыл бұрын

    Nor does it have to be a big scary monster inside your head! Well done David for such concise and valid points as to the truth of the matter!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome!

  • @jycintabrown
    @jycintabrown2 жыл бұрын

    I love this concept of Ego. Especially considering all this speak of "toxic ego" these days. This is a really balanced view and with practical tools.

  • @sandypogson

    @sandypogson

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yeah I agree! I was so sure the ego was a bad thing, something that needed to be dealt with in almost every interaction. I so appreciated David's talk!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Jycinta!

  • @slavacroates
    @slavacroates2 жыл бұрын

    So eloquent and concise David! Can you please do another talk about ego reactions and how to keep them in check?

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'd LOVE to see that as well!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    Same!

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @mylescolton
    @mylescolton Жыл бұрын

    We have evolved so much since the conversation of Ego first started. The ego lets us know when we are confronted - and that we should probably dig a little deeper. The ego reminds us that we are human and are far from perfect, which means always digging deeper when it comes to things that make us uncomfortable.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Love this observation!

  • @waltersiegismund
    @waltersiegismund Жыл бұрын

    What a wonderful sense of peace this must have brought you.

  • @marktferris
    @marktferris2 жыл бұрын

    Gosh this is such a poetic and beautiful take. Very well done.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Mark!

  • @ursulayildrim
    @ursulayildrim2 жыл бұрын

    I always thought ego was the voice that said you're better than other people or that made you get super offended by things that aren't really a big deal but this talk has made me realise there are so many other factors or self dialogues that your ego impacts. All the more reason to keep it in check!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Ursala - I agree! Thanks for watching the video! It means a lot to me.

  • @my3rojas

    @my3rojas

    Жыл бұрын

    Same! I never thought about ego in this way and it's been really enlightening!

  • @raeflores-nr1ge
    @raeflores-nr1ge Жыл бұрын

    Oh, I'm so happy about this talk David!! I've felt this for so long. Thank you for your vulnerability, your bravery, and for listening to your intuition.

  • @moreismerrier1524
    @moreismerrier15242 жыл бұрын

    Everything in life is a choice! That includes our views of so many things, we do so much better when we look for the lessons in things.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for your kind thoughts Moreis. I appreciate you listening to the talk!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    So true! Love the perspective that our Ego is not our enemy.

  • @dance4life2333
    @dance4life23333 жыл бұрын

    I love this! Dance with your Dragons!!

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love it!

  • @lexingtonheiss7127
    @lexingtonheiss71273 жыл бұрын

    Thank you, David, for courageously stepping into vulnerability with yourself. You're creating safe spaces for others to do the same and begin learning how to dance with their own dragons for the first time.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Lexington! Glad you enjoyed the talk!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yes indeed. Very well said!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    Жыл бұрын

    So beautifully put - vulnerability is truly amazing!

  • @mathewgee6259
    @mathewgee62593 жыл бұрын

    I think we all get to a place eventually when they only way forward is to face those ill feeling and figure out how to master coping.

  • @-joanna-wang

    @-joanna-wang

    3 жыл бұрын

    I think ego in many is vile, it comes across not as confidence but as bragging.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Matthew - thanks for your thoughts here. I'm glad the talk spoke to you. Have you read Joseph Campbell or Yung Pueblo?

  • @micdaskel3313
    @micdaskel33132 жыл бұрын

    True, we need ego to tell us we are enough and we can do it!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed Mic!

  • @ryanmdaugherty
    @ryanmdaugherty3 жыл бұрын

    So vulnerable and pure you. Thanks for your openness.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Ryan!

  • @eliasOcarpenter
    @eliasOcarpenter2 жыл бұрын

    Oh! Ego as a sparing partner! I love this

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Elias, thanks for taking the time to listen to my talk and share your thoughts. It means a lot to me!

  • @JasonJaggard
    @JasonJaggard3 жыл бұрын

    I love this talk and everything that David Gerber does.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for the love Jason!

  • @cjmartindale6012

    @cjmartindale6012

    3 жыл бұрын

    Everything David does is absolutely ground breaking. Love you Gerber

  • @thiagodornelas131

    @thiagodornelas131

    2 жыл бұрын

    He is very handsome.

  • @eliasOcarpenter

    @eliasOcarpenter

    2 жыл бұрын

    He's pretty good.

  • @milesprimrose5990

    @milesprimrose5990

    2 жыл бұрын

    Just discovered him now, very good speaker.

  • @warrenbradford2597
    @warrenbradford2597 Жыл бұрын

    Four ways to be in peace with my ego: 1. Figure out what my why is. 2. Train your mind (Reading the "10 Percent Happier" book is optional to achieve this). 3. Find areas in your life where you are at least one percent wrong. 4. Consciously choose what is going to consume curiosity all day. Your sparring partner is not trying to defeat you, the boxer. He is trying train you to be ready for the next boxing ring. Dance with your dragon, not slay it.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you Warren!

  • @JeremiahAja
    @JeremiahAja2 жыл бұрын

    This is what bold humility & powerful vulnerability look like. Incredible talk!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much Jeremiah!

  • @nostatus4me
    @nostatus4me Жыл бұрын

    I'm not slaying, I'm not dancing - I'm making friends and getting to know the parts of me that are confronted by that which is out of my control. Understanding your ego and why it does what it does to keep you safe is so important - the ego is NOT BAD

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Love this, thanks!

  • @julianm8639
    @julianm86392 жыл бұрын

    It's there to keep us safe... I get it now. What a refresh!

  • @rooseveltmartens9918
    @rooseveltmartens99182 жыл бұрын

    Psychology can be so powerful when it's applied in helpful ways! Just lovely David, thank you.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it Roosevelt!

  • @therightway8115
    @therightway81152 жыл бұрын

    Finally someone laying down the honest truth about our Ego and how and why we manage it. At the end of the day we are still just surviving as a species and without our ego we wouldn't be able to do that.

  • @gemi10togood

    @gemi10togood

    2 жыл бұрын

    It took me way too long to watch this send. Cheers!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yeah there seems to be so much debate out there about the Ego. Really enjoyed this perspective.

  • @rafep
    @rafep Жыл бұрын

    The ego could be the enemy in some peoples eyes - but it would still be fulfilling its purpose to encourage us to learn and grow.

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Great comment Rafe.

  • @meganfreed1989
    @meganfreed19892 жыл бұрын

    This talk is brilliant! I'm so glad it popped up for me today, gave me a really great push to reassess that voice in my head

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it Megan!

  • @hinicetrygoodbye
    @hinicetrygoodbye2 жыл бұрын

    Such courage! I think this talk is a great signifier that he's dancing quite well with his dragons

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you!

  • @kraf-tee-bu-ger6078
    @kraf-tee-bu-ger60782 жыл бұрын

    I think it's really interesting all the different ways people interpret those facets of themselves, like the ego, props to this guy for figuring out a nice interpretation.

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agree - enjoyed his interpretation.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Kraf - great notice.

  • @beckyfrensill
    @beckyfrensill Жыл бұрын

    this is a wonderful talk. it's a thin line between being excessively hard on oneself and being truly self-reflective.

  • @my3rojas

    @my3rojas

    Жыл бұрын

    Yeah, I am exploring what self-compassion looks like and this has been a really helpful piece.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Thanks Becky!

  • @dustyevans2130
    @dustyevans21302 жыл бұрын

    Came across this a while ago and was kinda putting off watching it. Glad I finally got in and watched, left me with lots to think about.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    What did you think about when watching it?

  • @hollytrichards
    @hollytrichards Жыл бұрын

    The part about how the negativity and self doubt is designed to prepare you for what the world throws at you is an interesting one. On the one hand I can see how that's true and might be beneficial but on the other hand I don't know that anyone would ever be so harsh with you as you can be with yourself, because only YOU know about all the awful things you've done, said, and thought. That's why we can be tougher on ourselves than we ever would be with another person, and vice versa.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    Agreed.

  • @evanesterneg
    @evanesterneg2 жыл бұрын

    “Where might you be 1% wrong”. Great way to ease into challenging your dragon.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks for taking the time to watch Evan.

  • @kirstenviesitle
    @kirstenviesitle2 жыл бұрын

    “Your dragon’s aren’t for slaying, they are for dancing with”. I needed this today. I think that's a really important narrative to be reminded of, especially with all this new age understanding of the ego. Thank you David.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Kirsten! Glad the talk resonated!

  • @lexingtonheiss7127

    @lexingtonheiss7127

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree!

  • @cjmartindale6012

    @cjmartindale6012

    2 жыл бұрын

    Always good to stay in the question. How can we grow, not cut out!

  • @bethanypeer3206

    @bethanypeer3206

    Жыл бұрын

    So true!

  • @thedeepfocus
    @thedeepfocus Жыл бұрын

    My inner critic is so loud these days. Thanks for this talk, David.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    You are welcome.

  • @junesherlock425
    @junesherlock4253 жыл бұрын

    I admire you. You took the bull by the horns. As Brene would say, “you are IN the Arena”

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thank you June!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree!

  • @sarahgerber8805

    @sarahgerber8805

    2 жыл бұрын

    So true. Well said.

  • @hazrexall
    @hazrexall2 жыл бұрын

    I love love LOVE his way of thinking

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thank you Haz!

  • @sorphealove3321
    @sorphealove33213 жыл бұрын

    Yes! Targeting our blind spots can allow us to focus on ways to build balance.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Sorphea!

  • @itsgabbipascua
    @itsgabbipascua3 жыл бұрын

    Loved this talk and the sincerity he exudes. I’m sure the vulnerability seen here gave permission to many others to identify their dragons too. So good! Well done, David!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    So glad you enjoyed it and thank you for the kind words!

  • @juliapatel7265
    @juliapatel72653 жыл бұрын

    This was well said! You are such a gifted speaker and filled with so much heart🥲

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Julia! I appreciate it!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    I agree Julia. I got so much from this talk.

  • @lincolnholmes1933
    @lincolnholmes19332 жыл бұрын

    And this is why we all need to be in therapy - understanding what is trauma response and what is real!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    I'm a huge advocate of therapy!

  • @inggridwardani7554
    @inggridwardani75542 жыл бұрын

    i love this talk, he is so right, amaazzinngg!!!

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed Inggrid!

  • @justinerather
    @justinerather2 жыл бұрын

    EPIC perspective. What a genius way to keep yourself safe while also keeping forward. David, thank you for this I needed this check very much today.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome Justine!

  • @taliksharot

    @taliksharot

    2 жыл бұрын

    Juz, you are a legend for passing this onto the group. Great stuff.

  • @mygiftisme

    @mygiftisme

    2 жыл бұрын

    Yeah Im thinking many people are not getting it...

  • @taliksharot

    @taliksharot

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@mygiftisme agree with that

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    @@taliksharot Thanks for sharing this with your group!

  • @felipeecoelho
    @felipeecoelho2 жыл бұрын

    Ugh there are so many people I know who need to watch this!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed Felipee.

  • @pierrept
    @pierrept2 жыл бұрын

    There are so many philosophies around ego and ego death but this is a lovely way of explaining what the true purpose of ego is and how to exercise it properly.

  • @axelrespert3498

    @axelrespert3498

    2 жыл бұрын

    Like all theories, they expand over time!

  • @stanchance

    @stanchance

    2 жыл бұрын

    We are still learning

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Pierre!

  • @edscherzer
    @edscherzer2 жыл бұрын

    Powerful Brother! I needed this! Dancing and Owning my Dragons!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    You are welcome Ed!

  • @geenaremsby
    @geenaremsby2 жыл бұрын

    Great talk David! I think this mindset is a really lovely way to promote self acceptance and healing, which is always welcomed.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Geena - I'm so glad you enjoyed it!

  • @corkyamos
    @corkyamos2 жыл бұрын

    Oh yes, I've been there. I fought with my dragons. Actually, I always fight with them. Awesome talk, thanks!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome!

  • @izakjakub

    @izakjakub

    2 жыл бұрын

    I have too.

  • @miamay626
    @miamay6262 жыл бұрын

    I feel so silly that I didn't know that's what sparring partners were! It's kind of lovely to think of your ego as one.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Mia - thanks for watching and glad you know what sparring partners are now!

  • @andypetersen3466
    @andypetersen34663 жыл бұрын

    This is right on. I can totally relate and resonate with this. Imposter syndrome, knowing my ‘why’, dancing with my dragons.. Super valuable insight! I bought “10% Percent Happier” and I look forward to reading it.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Glad you enjoyed it Andy. Tell me how you like the book once you read it!

  • @lexingtonheiss7127

    @lexingtonheiss7127

    2 жыл бұрын

    Great thought, I agree.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    I found this so helpful as well. I gotta read that book.

  • @rosecaspern
    @rosecaspern Жыл бұрын

    That rocked my world oh wow I needed that! THANK YOU!!!

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    Жыл бұрын

    You are so welcome Rose.

  • @jacquelinehogan3313
    @jacquelinehogan33132 жыл бұрын

    Great talk! Honest and substantial. Seems I lived through every word this speaker said. I really needed to hear this.

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Thanks Jacqueline!

  • @hudsonhoward4114
    @hudsonhoward41143 жыл бұрын

    Love this perspective on the ego you have expressed to the world, David! It seems that the ego is neither good or bad, rather something we all inevitably possess but should learn to dance with instead of suppressing! Really enjoyed hearing your story and appreciate your vulnerability :)

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    3 жыл бұрын

    Appreciate your kind words Hudson! Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @lexingtonheiss7127

    @lexingtonheiss7127

    2 жыл бұрын

    Love this!

  • @jimwebbjr
    @jimwebbjr2 жыл бұрын

    Wow I found so much validation in this talk, really glad to have found it.

  • @lgerber77

    @lgerber77

    2 жыл бұрын

    Jim I felt the same way. So grateful.

  • @patricegerber6797

    @patricegerber6797

    2 жыл бұрын

    Agreed Jim!

  • @caligsimpson
    @caligsimpson2 жыл бұрын

    I feel like I have the opposite problem... like my ego is so over-confident that I think anything I'm going to do will be the most amazing thing anyone's ever done and then I get disappointed when I don't receive heaps of praise. But I still go on thinking that way...

  • @davidgerber401

    @davidgerber401

    2 жыл бұрын

    Can you say more Cali? Do you have a specific example?

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