My mom always said, “if you only knew how little time people everyday spend thinking about you, you would stop worrying about it”.

@blankshaliburton277

3 жыл бұрын

I thought she is going to disapparate after finishing the speech .

@Apaulshi

3 жыл бұрын

I've heard something similar... Something like "You would think very little of what others think of you if you thought of how very little they thought of you"

@jimenatorres4866

3 жыл бұрын

English is my second language, so I’m glad you have wrote this down because I couldn’t understand exactly the words, so thank you for doing it.

@michelleburt3468

3 жыл бұрын

My mother said something very similar. She said " What makes you think you're so important everyone is thinking about or looking at you? Until those people pay your bills their opinion doesn't matter"

@RaeZoladawn777

3 жыл бұрын

hahahah

One of the best days of my life was when I realized people aren't really paying attention to me all the time

@skeptikoky

6 жыл бұрын

mariana barrios love it

@matthewcoombs3282

6 жыл бұрын

Good comment. If you live for others opinions you are most likely to remain unhappy.

@jsn883

6 жыл бұрын

Think about your own headspace. Easily 80% of your thoughts are about you and your own current challenges - maybe only 5% is really spent thinking about others.

@matimbantimane3170

5 жыл бұрын

How I wish to get there

@natashawagner2236

5 жыл бұрын

@@matimbantimane3170 I agree!

"Humility is not thinking less of yourself. Humility is thinking about yourself less" So many people need to hear this beautiful line 💙✨

@toomylight2311

2 жыл бұрын

I love that quote from mother Teresa!❤️❤️

@gherieg.1091

2 жыл бұрын

@@toomylight2311 Read the Bible ... it’s got all The Best Quotes. Not only Best, but they are Life Giving.

@breal6718

2 жыл бұрын

THATS SO SERIOUSLY GOOD

@leticiafernandez5300

2 жыл бұрын

@@toomylight2311 [⁹⁹8th in ⁹Ii⁰00⁹and

@yeseniacarabantes9306

Жыл бұрын

🤯

41, got fired 8 months ago, still have no job, rediscovered myself, feel happy as never have been. Bless you all!

lets pause the speech and just embrace her fuckin SWAGG!!!!

@burpie3258

7 жыл бұрын

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

@duncenews1542

7 жыл бұрын

true

@michaelkylow4411

7 жыл бұрын

She is definitely the most authetinc woman ever!!!

@giscell4853

7 жыл бұрын

Pedro Rivera lol

@rovaidkhan1500

7 жыл бұрын

would love to own it... :)

Did anyone else think about how that outfit is EVERYTHING?!!?

@nikeraje247

4 жыл бұрын

yes, it is a dope outfit!

@nikichem

4 жыл бұрын

I love her outfit where can I get one in red?

@ace-fz4zn

4 жыл бұрын

A SERVE. A LOOK.

@yulianaquinones4494

4 жыл бұрын

。・:*: ace ・:*:・゚ couldn’t have said it any better

@yulianaquinones4494

4 жыл бұрын

Shalom Sixta yes but independent of that fact it is still a LEWK

"We all have our own thing, that's the magic. That everybody comes with their own sense of strength and their own queendom. Mine could never compare to hers and hers could never compare to mine." I love this so much.

@marielivesey3176

2 жыл бұрын

H r

@lanascottlighthouse4934

2 жыл бұрын

Love JILL SCOTT LOVED HER IN TYLER PERRYS WHY DID I GET MARRIED???IM A 90 % ER

“I’m never the center of attention. You’re the center of Mine.” Love this.

"People who are afraid to be themselves, will work for those who aren't afraid"

@dotunn

3 жыл бұрын

that one hit me

@kousiish

3 жыл бұрын

I just read this comment at the exact same moment she said it.

@eilzmo

3 жыл бұрын

This also resonated with me. I’ve spent the last 4 or 5 months deeply troubled by how much I know I struggle working for other people when I know I would be better on my own doing MY thing. This talk has helped me start to unlock how to make that possible. I can tackle the fear 😊

@sylerknight7280

3 жыл бұрын

@@eilzmo I feel absolutely the same way, I know that struggle well! I am so happy to have found this talk too because it is like a light-bulb turning on, it all makes sense as to why. My work history has been rather unreliable and sporadic. only last at a workplace for 6months, max 1year in the same job. and i know that i am capable to run my own thing, just need the confidence in myself. Good luck to everyone on this never ending journey.

@saaniyahsajed1932

3 жыл бұрын

that line stunned me.

I can't believe the audience aren't laughing more, she has a wicked sense of humour

@1lightheaded

8 жыл бұрын

+Nicola Price I don't think they are getting her humour . You ever been to Glasgow? It has improved since I first saw it in 68 but Glaswegians are culturally as hard as nails .

@sohinidutta97

8 жыл бұрын

Agreed!

@anneeisnerkarp6746

8 жыл бұрын

+Sohini Dutta I agree- so funny!

@deeperstillhealing

8 жыл бұрын

I think it has to do with the microphone recording mostly her voice and it only picks up the loudest of the laughter.

@kristinasportal

7 жыл бұрын

Right!!!! I very much enjoyed this!!!! Shes awesome! I will follow her work as I can!

I'm so happy that when I was 29, a single mother and attending college for the first time, I decided, I was tired of being someone's daughter, sister, mother, wife and I decided to find out who I am, what I me personally like. I wasn't always easy, but as I found myself, I became happier. I am 56 now, I had decided back then, I don't care what other's think of me, and I taught myself to realize in the grand scheme of things, I am more important to myself than I am to anyone one else. I learned to love myself, worry less about what someone might be thinking about me and I am happy. I taught myself to say, who cares what they think, they don't pay my rent or bills.

@yes7855

Жыл бұрын

“In the grand scheme of things, I’m more important to myself than I am to anyone else”. That’s a lovely sentence, thanks! Wish you well ❤️💖

@HeatherLaurenCo

Жыл бұрын

I would love to know more about how you navigated that journey. I have decided to do something similar but I’ve stalled out. I don’t know if what I like is because I like it or because someone else likes it and I want to be like them….if that makes sense.

@nitin_sailesh

Жыл бұрын

👍✨️

@SanaaDiab

Жыл бұрын

C Bv B Fb B B Fb FGB B nab B

@MarshmilloJB

5 ай бұрын

Beverly, I’ve found you ☺️ another woman who is tired of being someone’s daughter, girlfriend, and all the other social roles.

I listen to Ted Talks everyday, and I can honestly say this is one of the best. I think I'll listen to this on again. Thank you for this. My Grandmother always said to me, me. People don't think about others as much as you think. They are way to busy thinking about themselves to be thinking about you. What others think about you DOES NOT MATTER. It's what you think about yourself that matters.

@agentcris007

Жыл бұрын

So true!!

@MARYANNE269

Жыл бұрын

What I say to people who are anxious about what others think.. its so true.. I learnt this from my mother. X

@ReginaLynnThomas

11 ай бұрын

You just typed the true meaning of life I do beleave . Regina 2023

@LemonOlga

8 ай бұрын

Thank you and your grandmother. My dear grandparents told the same. They love me - it was a bliss.

@MillenialWanderer

2 ай бұрын

This is hard when you don’t believe in yourself and struggle with self esteem. I hope to let go and just be me.

"Most of us don't take up nearly the space the universe has intended for us."==> THAT. RIGHT. THERE.

@minagoldenshteyn9128

3 жыл бұрын

Univers 😉?

@Fillup82

3 жыл бұрын

She said it so low key too and it's huge.

@SisMaria1

2 жыл бұрын

My most exhilarating moments have been, when I've stepped out my self imposed box.

@hopetrnr0

2 жыл бұрын

Weird. I scrolled upon this comment right as she was saying it.😳

She's definitely one of the teachers from the Defence Against the Dark Arts courses

@deviritter5232

2 жыл бұрын

Or Transfiguration 🧙🏻‍♀️

@ASMRyouVEGANyet

2 жыл бұрын

Or, she teaches The Dark Arts

@4u2cbu

2 жыл бұрын

By u in

@shafirar.a.m.4415

2 жыл бұрын

ikr, i love her sense of fashion.

@jarrodyuki7081

2 жыл бұрын

jk rowling sucks.

I love her sense of humor. Seems like the crowd is asleep or too damn serious about this.

@neiudesu2382

Жыл бұрын

I just read a comment somewhere here that she's talking to girls that are under 12 years of age💕

@wasder-xm5so

Жыл бұрын

That’s true that sometimes, when a joke goes “unnoticed” or it’s not laughed at, it can look and feel a little uncomfortable. But people have different senses of humor, so how I try to see it is a public speaker setting a more lighthearted, familiar tone with her audience. Sometimes speakers are more looking to teach, their jokes don’t have to be perfect for everyone but should at least try to include all into the same atmosphere, right? :)

@jeanettesdaughter

7 ай бұрын

They’re children! Young girls listening, rapt. Dig deeper.

@ThirtySomethingDiaries

Ай бұрын

Her presentation, language, and mannerism do not at all agree with that statement. ​Kids? Nah. @neiudesu2382

I was born a naturally friendly child. My mother told me stories where I would talk to any person at the beach as a little girl. This part of me they tried to change to protect me from strangers. Only I still talk to anyone. I still have the gift of gab. That’s who I am. I’m a sociable soul and I attract others to me that enjoy my personality. I was born to communicate with others it’s my gift. I’m also a natural born singer. Singing gives me great joy but I hide that part of me because I want perfection. I was meant to be a singer I’ve always thought but maybe I was just supposed to be a communicator and sing for my own personal pleasure.

@annepilgrim6865

5 ай бұрын

No dear, if singing is what makes your heart sing, sing out loud and clear so others can enjoy your authentic expression... that's what the whole talk was about. I hope you see this and go for the singing, no matter your age or circumstances. In love and light!❤

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.” - Amazing

@hanneliejonas9021

3 жыл бұрын

Brilliant quote by C.S. Lewis

@HayabusaOrlando

3 жыл бұрын

I wrote that down. 👍🏼

@sevrinaanastasia

3 жыл бұрын

@@HayabusaOrlando I'm writing it down too! I've been on a journey of self-discovery the past year (age 31) after my grandma (my rock) passed away and though it's difficult sometimes missing her I've learned SO much about myself. She had always told me things I never understood, but the past year I've been learning and understanding myself more than I ever had before. :-)

@loli3939

3 жыл бұрын

CS Lewis summed up Christ's life well.

@Lovo369

3 жыл бұрын

So much truth in this Ted talk

If you are reading this, i wish you the best in life :)

@RasMajnouni

4 жыл бұрын

"May those who bless others also be blessed"

@sebvansteijn7227

4 жыл бұрын

@@RasMajnouni It's not 'may'... If you bless others... You're blessed... It's a given.

@unsuspectingdogwalker4028

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you and for you as well! :-)

@janinesatioquia8881

4 жыл бұрын

thank you, i wish you the best too

@alinegleice6280

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you :) you too

This is the most beautiful talk I've ever watched. Such rich lessons, such a soothing tone. And she looks stunning. One can see her life is her message alright. I'm really grateful for all the plataform/channel/everyone that made possible for a girl in Brazil with a cellphone on her hand to receive this amount of wisdom from a stranger. Thank you.

@suzibrewster1290

6 ай бұрын

Wow, I think that you are amazing.... "Girl in Brazil with a phone in her hand" ❤❤❤ Muito obrigado!

@wendyerskine6951

9 күн бұрын

Hello that girl. I'm another girl from Scotland like Caroline. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

I am still looking for myself, even after 54 years. I unexpectedly cried a few times during this exceptional talk. I have finally found the way to find me. I am saving this forever and will watch it many times. I can now focus and begin to sort myself out. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you.

@courtneyhernandez7450

Жыл бұрын

Seek Jesus Christ I’m a Christian god bless

@michflannery2887

6 ай бұрын

Oh wow how spookily similar to my response! Really hit a point hey

@CarolineGlennon-bh5kh

2 ай бұрын

Same and will be 54 soon ,. I'm forever saying to my pal i dont know what my purpose is.

"I'm not the center of attention, you're the center of my attention." That's going to change the way I look at everything.

@bernieabromaitis5202

3 жыл бұрын

This is as huge as the change from earth-centric to helio-centric. It shifted my world ✨🧚‍♀️

@doshinall

3 жыл бұрын

This mindset has helped me tremendously as a customer service rep. I developed more patience and compassion for those that I serve.

@PriyaTiwari-bx2yp

3 жыл бұрын

I could not connect with this, how you people are using this in your daily life. Can anyone explain a little bit please

@happylion18

3 жыл бұрын

@Bella Dama I took it more as directing your focus away from how you are being perceived, and turning it toward whatever you're doing.

@happylion18

3 жыл бұрын

@priya tiwari sorry, I didn't see this notification. As a socially anxious person, it was helpful to change my focus away from how people are perceiving me and onto whatever it is I'm doing.

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself but thinking of yourself less.” Btw your jacket is fire 🔥🔥🔥

@crypthor2008

4 жыл бұрын

uf

@uztuben3

4 жыл бұрын

John Wilson right?! Loving the jacket!

@jaithevegan

4 жыл бұрын

John Wilson right!!?????

@BladeRunner-td8be

4 жыл бұрын

I've never seen a jacket like that. It over-the-top for someone saying the words you quoted. I wonder who she was thinking of she decided to wear that jacket.

@rachelfreeders356

4 жыл бұрын

Lol the jacket is... silly to me I spent the first few minutes trying to figure out if shes pregnant or has a deformity

This talk hit so much harder when I realized she was speaking to a group of young girls under 12!!! It fills my heart to think of the impact this had on the girls in the room that day. 🥰 not to mention everyone else who has come across it since! Very powerful speech. 😊💖🙏🏼 Edit: it was pointed out that she wasn't actually speaking to a group of young girls after 12, and upon listening again it was clear that she wasn't. 😊 In the beginning of the speech I assumed it was a group of adults so her comments that made that clear didn't register deeply as they were expected. Then the way she worded that part near the end about them becoming 12 and 13 sounded like she was speaking to people who were not yet at that point. It seems she was talking about the past but the way it was worded was easy to misconstrue. Regardless, I'm sure some 12 year olds have watched this since then, and it would be a great talk to show to them! And whatever age, this is a very valuable perspective to listen to. 🥰

@JimiBegbaaji

Жыл бұрын

Wow, that context makes me want to relisten. Best TEDx talk.

@crazyprincess789

Жыл бұрын

She's pretty obviously talking to a group of older women lol

@infiniterippleshypnosismed2817

Жыл бұрын

​​@apunkphilosophy interesting! Throughout the talk I assumed it was a group of adults so none of the talk being specifically addressed to adults stood out at all because it fit with what I thought. But at the very end she seemed to address the audience and say that you might at 12 end up to be this or at 13 be that or at 14 be this. It sounded as if she was addressing people who hadn't yet become 12 as it seemed to imply that what she was talking about was a possibility for them. On listening again yes a lot of the rest of the speech appears to be directed at adults. I was happy thinking it was girls under 12, but thank you for commenting! It gave me a reason to watch it again, and I really needed that today 😊

@eliserolinson5108

Жыл бұрын

No 12 year old has a son of four or three years old, she asked this from the audience

@infiniterippleshypnosismed2817

Жыл бұрын

@@eliserolinson5108 see my reply above 😊

Part of being yourself is choosing to do what makes you happy even if it doesn’t lead you to success by social standards

“From the age seven you become less good at being yourself” so true

@emilyflores9844

4 жыл бұрын

That's so sad

@niauser2684

4 жыл бұрын

Public school dims your creativity and your light!

@LaGuera2858

4 жыл бұрын

Couldn't have said it any better. It's the terrible truth we all live.

@sheebakitty378

4 жыл бұрын

That's false on its face. You can only be yourself. Even if pretending to be someone else. It's just you pretending. Lol. More self aware but no less you.

@edwardseverinsen5598

4 жыл бұрын

@@sheebakitty378 It depends on how you define self. If it's your ideas, thoughts, sense of humor, beliefs and passions then you certainly can be something other than yourself. And it's usually for the sake of another persons perception of yourself.

“I’m not the center of attention, you’re the center of mine”

@AbbyNagel

4 жыл бұрын

I find it very disappointing to see this statement got only 4 likes (mine included). Thank you, Press Iyamu, for making this comment.

@aminamalin8915

4 жыл бұрын

i didn't got what she meant with this statement , can you explain to me ?

@pressiyamu8976

4 жыл бұрын

amina Malin when she said this statement, it was a shift in perspective. It’s a realization that there are no gazes truly resting on you. But rather, your gaze is resting upon everyone. Causing you to think things that are majority of the time not true. Hence why her mother said don’t flatter yourself. Caroline’s statement brought me peace, I hope I was able to explain it in a way that generates the same self assuring effect.

@yourjourneyisnow

4 жыл бұрын

resonated with me as well

@allsorts7049

4 жыл бұрын

Press Iyamu like that

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. you need to accept yourself.” Thich Nhat Hanh

Her authenticity is out of this world. I am simply blown away by how in depth she knows her subject Absolutely phenomenal!

@RamonOzuna-sb4du

7 ай бұрын

Ready when you are

@RamonOzuna-sb4du

7 ай бұрын

Ready when you are

"I'm not the center of attention... you're the center of mine" daymnnn... mindblown.

@yunusk6217

4 жыл бұрын

I don't get this.

@lenap4956

4 жыл бұрын

Smooth af

@svinland3446

4 жыл бұрын

@@yunusk6217 same

@yunusk6217

4 жыл бұрын

@@svinland3446 Now I get it, and it's so powerful. It's about getting over the worry that people are constantly watching and judging us. It's taking the attention from yourself and putting it on the things your seeing/observing instead.

@svinland3446

4 жыл бұрын

@@yunusk6217 I see :) Thank you.

Great speech, but can we also talk about how amazing her outfit is? It’s iconic

@luvospambo6612

2 жыл бұрын

It's sooooo dope

@johnmorpheus120

2 жыл бұрын

Huh? Are you serious? Lol

@coolygirl11122

2 жыл бұрын

I was looking for this comment

@missinsertmyname

2 жыл бұрын

She's trying to break us out of the matrix.

@707Dove

2 жыл бұрын

I was hoping someone would have commented on who the designer of her outfit is by... beautiful!

This is one of the Ted Talks that I rewatch over and over again. What an inspiring woman she is.

I keep coming back to watch this video in different phases of my life. And I learn something new each time. So much wisdom packed into one video.

@user-vi1dl3xg4g

10 ай бұрын

Yes, I come back these years too❤

Why is no one is talking about how beautiful her voice is and how well she articulated everything? I feel so calm after listening to her. I could listen for hours it seems like. Of only she had an audio book or something.

@amiborabee

4 жыл бұрын

@Sum Suman ?

@amiborabee

4 жыл бұрын

yeah, ikr. She was amazing, I feel so calm and at ease. Beautiful message and beautiful speech

@yugao12

4 жыл бұрын

I really hoped one of the comments was saying she did have one...

@GoFree33

4 жыл бұрын

I'm from Glasgow too and have this accent. I always hated it but now I'm coming to see it for the beauty it has. A lot of people struggle with their Scottish accents early on in life and get punished for having strong ones in school.

@Martine1love

4 жыл бұрын

She is so AMAZING!!

“Everybody has their own strength and their own queendom. Mine could never compare to hers, and hers could never compare to mine.”

@taramoore2424

4 жыл бұрын

Arsha Rahmadhani perfect quote 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼👍🏼🙏🏼💚🔥🌻

@daphnebernues2624

4 жыл бұрын

Yes but later she compares Ghandi's message of life with hers and others... I think she had a conceptual lapsus.

@natalipohl

4 жыл бұрын

What was the name of the artist in the video, who said that please?

@sorinaremote3966

4 жыл бұрын

@@natalipohl Jill Scott

@dotdashdotdash

4 жыл бұрын

queendom? wtf

i learnt soo much i swear here is the list: “Best way to keep being yourself is to proactively cut the world out and be self interested””interiority” “ Your only job is to be good at being you” “He that does not see the essence in my originality is not deserving of me” “You are already different your job is to figure out how and then be more of that” “Get your ego to work for you, not you working for” “We are all sleeping working and waiting for something to wake us up” for me my career “People are not interested in you they are interested in what you can give me” “ a wise word can become a burden to those who don’t fully understand it”- When things are important you only have one shot at it just like the movies with important mission. Your life is the same you have only one shot once you blow it it’s over there is no do over. Mission failed

@kathyzimmermann8459

Жыл бұрын

Be

@rubib7150

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the summary

@ZiggyLu-og3zp

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to write this. Thought provoking. Thank you.

@utkarshutk9504

Жыл бұрын

What does last line mean (the one related to one shot)

Thank you for making this speech. It reminds me of my younger age when I dared to dream to be anything. When I was confident enough to raise my hand every time the teacher asked a question or gave us a chance to ask. It's different now. I am shy, I am afraid, and sometimes I feel that my question is so so and no need to be asked. So I will try to remember my childhood experience, I will take the spirit from it, and make it my power to face the world. Thankyou.

@eddygan325

Жыл бұрын

You can do it !

"people who are frightened to be themselves, will work for those who arent afraid." that really struck a note with me...

@sunnybloodworth9950

6 жыл бұрын

Ian Williams same here

@ArtyMars

6 жыл бұрын

Yeah. Blew my mind.

@sherri-leedunlop4382

6 жыл бұрын

M

@JaIch9999

5 жыл бұрын

Ian Williams And it is completely entirely wrong. In this capitalistic system it is those with more scruples who work for those with less or no scruples. This system rewards criminal and cold blooded people. And her lecture is all together not very well thought through and focuses very much on success. It sounds good on the surface and is presented with a soothing voice. But it is a actually a lot of hot air, mainstream spiritual BS, unscientific and contradictory.

@AngelTacha87

5 жыл бұрын

@@JaIch9999 But somehow you sat there amd watched the full 26min and 23 secs of the video AND proceeded to read comments and leave a comment as well. When you realize something is B.S. you don't give it a second thought, you immediately dismiss it move on to other things.

her voice and her accent are so soothing

@ginakhairani13

7 жыл бұрын

what does the mean shooting?

@Leelz247

7 жыл бұрын

I agree! She could say anything at all, I just want to hear her accent!

@octane2344

7 жыл бұрын

+gina khairani soothing, not shooting. soothing = calming and peaceful

@adonisadmirer2752

7 жыл бұрын

Scottish accent is totally my favourite accent.

@NinjaStripes

7 жыл бұрын

Carol Berardinelli I like it too. Then again, accents you're not exposed to everyday are always cool.

“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.” ― CS Lewis

@zackWilbert-wb1qm

10 ай бұрын

Hello dear , how are you doing today ?

My Mother has always told me just be yourself. I know realize how important it is, how precious she is. Thank you Mom.

@zackWilbert-wb1qm

10 ай бұрын

that true my dear, how are you doing today?

@renztaylor5904

10 ай бұрын

I’m hanging in there

She reminds me of “the ancient one” from Dr. Strange

@CricketRodeo

4 жыл бұрын

YES!!

@Rainzerose

4 жыл бұрын

same!

@moonharp

4 жыл бұрын

I think that's intentional.

@slvpro

4 жыл бұрын

Though BOUT THAT TOO AND NOT ONLY IN LOOKS BUT WISDOM AS WELL.

@ChicoMuya

3 жыл бұрын

I was looking for this comment 😂😂😂

Oh, my mom gave practically that same advice, Go, no one will look at you... they are too much interested in themselves. This was excellent!

@ginamccollum7237

3 жыл бұрын

So true!

@carolinenorman6141

3 жыл бұрын

Lol too true 🌹

@lindsaywait8763

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, we had an assignment in psychology class in high school to dress in a completely different style for a day. I dressed as a punk and not a soul said a thing. That single day convinced me of this.

@roshnik5137

2 жыл бұрын

My mom destroyed the little self worth I have by calling me a useless person who shouldn't have been born.

@laliboi4684

2 жыл бұрын

@@roshnik5137 You are exceptional , I love you.❤❤❤

My mom would always say whenever I was grouchy & moody growing up..."you are only as big as things that bother you". I have never forgotten that wisdom and since then, I was not bothered by insignificant stuff like gossips, fake news or drama. People can never tell if my heart was braking in pain or filled with love and peace. Nobody is privilege to see me cry. Not when I buried my parents. I loved my mother very, very much. She had 11 children, every night she helped us with our homeworks when I was in school. She graduated in music major in piano but the was an excellent mathematician, and fluent in English, Spanish, Ilonggo, Aklanon and Tagalog. Her IQ was 142 and she was considered genius. She knew a lot because she read most of her waking hour and she has a photographic memory. Everyone in our hometown people loved my mother. She was well known in our hometown as an intellectual individual that made a wrong choice. Wrong choice because she married my father who was totally worthless, God forgive me. I'm just saying the truth. May he rest in peace but that doesn't change the fact that he was totally worthless, but okay, R.I.P. but my mother was a saint, sacrificed, suffered from my cruel father and other siblings that were drunkards. I remember seeing my mother on her knees praying almost everynight for the safety of my siblings who were always out and drunk. When I saw the pain caused by alcohol & drugs, it had a strong impact on me. That's why I never smoke, drink or do drugs. Because I witnessed what it did to my mother that never smoke, drink alcohol or drugs .. but what alcohol did to her 6 children who are alcoholics was ruined and this broke my mother's heart. It pained to see her children and grandchildren having severe difficulty in life even basic needs like food & shelter. of my mom

@ramyhuber8392

Ай бұрын

Thank you for this statement. I am glad you've been able to stay away from alcohol and drugs.

@henryomorodion4534

Ай бұрын

l love what your mun said. thanks for sharing. may her soul rest in peace.

"you're job is to be as good at being YOU".... beautiful. inspiring. flourishing.

@zackWilbert-wb1qm

10 ай бұрын

you have spoken well dear, how are you doing today ?

“People who are afraid to be themselves work for people who aren’t afraid to be themselves”‼️‼️‼️‼️ wow

@Relle.

4 жыл бұрын

FULL STOP

@user-tv1kw4wl7t

4 жыл бұрын

TRUTH.

@kayumochi

4 жыл бұрын

Yep. When I heard that I came up with a half dozen people I worked for who were not afraid to be themselves.

@slindilengcobo3235

4 жыл бұрын

María Elizabeth Cruz Flores Im setting a reminder to listen to this in a year’s time.

@jeaninelanza981

4 жыл бұрын

THIS IS SO TRUE! Its because people who are too afraid to be themselves are ashamed and would never go through that path to be their own boss

I just want this woman to follow me around and give me slightly insulting but well intended advice! She seems good at it.

@coach9410

4 жыл бұрын

for real!

@Azori10

4 жыл бұрын

Like a bite of a snake, if poison in low dosage - won't kill you, even heal, because well intended.

@HairGlitter

4 жыл бұрын

🤣

@lunasea4309

4 жыл бұрын

hahahaha

@bilbobaggins4403

4 жыл бұрын

She's married to Yoda

"Since that day, I have never been the center of attention. You're the center of mine. And that a very different feeling." She dropped this 👑👑👑 I'm a teacher and in my teens I was the shyest person you could imagine and the very thought of speaking in public TERRIFIED me. Even speaking to people in general 🙂 Now I sometimes speak at international conferences, which is just mind-blowing to me. Because of my job, I had to make myself learn the "thinking of youself less" advice just so as not to freak out when I'm with different people lol This talk really resonated with me and the speaker is amazing ✨

I discovered this gem a couple years ago and have been listening to it on and off since. Each time feels like a therapy session and a motivational speech and it gives me the strength to keep pushing on. Much love to the speaker for giving us this gift of a talk.

I know this was released years ago and no one's going to see this, but i'm 13 and I feel so fortunate to have found this. I'm struggling to understand myself and my feelings and who I am, and this is really really helpful. It reminds me of something my uncle said, something along the lines of "the things you need most come from yourself and only yourself". I rejected it at the time, but now I know it's true. I want to be myself and not an impersonation of what I think people will like, and I know it won't be easy, but it's one of the things I think the universe wants everyone to do no matter where they are. If anyone's reading this, I hope they can recognize themselves for who they truly are and be as individualistic as they can. goodbye edit: I can't believe how many responses I got. I thought no one would read this and it would just be something i'd look back on, but thank you all very much for your kind words. I'm more motivated now than ever! thank you so much.

@_justlikejulia

4 жыл бұрын

amazing perspective, xo keep being you!

@lisgnell

4 жыл бұрын

‘I want to be myself and not an impersonation of what I think people will like.’ So hard to do for any of us but especially for a teenager. Best of luck to you, young smart kid.

@dearyouhealingyoga

4 жыл бұрын

Lottie Miller :)

@EJTTN

4 жыл бұрын

Lottie Miller You seem to be a very smart individual. I was in very similar shoes at the age of 13. Now looking back I realize, in fact much of everyone else was trying to figure out just who they were too!...You’re not alone in trying to figure these things out. Stay true to you. Only you know what that means or how that looks. Someone once told me and it still resonates with me, even at my age, 36. “Don’t let anyone else define who you are.” Who we are as individuals at age 13 might be the same at age 14, 16, 25, or 36. Or, maybe who we are will change many times between now & then...either way is perfect. There’s no rule book or recommendations in learning yourself and the beauty is....You are in charge of that so you have the free will to change it as much or as little as you wish. Best of luck to you, you’re a special soul. Remember, “Don’t let anyone else define who you are.” Sending positive energy and hugs your way!

@mayalianne

4 жыл бұрын

Bravo Lottie! You're on the right path.

Such a liberating way of thought. "Mine could never compare to her's and her's could never compare to mine". Someone else's greatness is not an absence of yours.

@beatbisangwa5649

3 жыл бұрын

Someone's greatness is not the absence of mine....hahahehe...wowowo!! 🤔

@JazzyJ96771

3 жыл бұрын

If only more women realised that, there'd be a lot less hate in the world. Men too.

@elizabethchamberlin3475

3 жыл бұрын

“Someone else is greatness is not an absence of yours“. That was perfect and I definitely needed to hear it!

I love her. the way she talks, what she's saying, the way she holds herself... Magnificent.

Addicted to TEDx and finally found my favorite speaker! Love her presentation! What a great guide to find who I really am. Glad I wasn't a wrinkly before I found this. Thank you, Ms. McHugh.

@terrymiddleton6077

2 жыл бұрын

I'm a "wrinkly," and I'm glad I found this. It's never too late for improvement.

@yes7855

Жыл бұрын

@@terrymiddleton6077 ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 thank you for writing!!

In this area I feel quite gifted with autism. My autism prevents me from being able to pretend to be someone else, or to even want to be someone else. It's just not a thing I can think and thought that's made my life hard in some ways (bullying mostly) I'm glad to have the gift of authenticity.

@natashacloutier3285

3 жыл бұрын

Wow that is revealing. The gift of authenticity is what we wish to attain without even knowing it. And then here you are! Thank you and many blessings to you 💗🌎

@aaxen7255

3 жыл бұрын

Good attitude.

@michouvansluis4539

2 жыл бұрын

This has probably already been said, but I think she was trying to point to the space that you don't take up in the world. Who knows how much space you can fill by being you

@sickbabyratt9614

2 жыл бұрын

Yes!

@hopelove6658

2 жыл бұрын

My son is the same way.

I have to say... this woman has a wonderful message. Also, her sense of style is impeccable.

@ahmadanderson8645

7 жыл бұрын

absolutely

@BarryAi

7 жыл бұрын

Very much agreed, Sour Eggz.

@SourEggz

7 жыл бұрын

BarryA Thank you. I didn't realize my comment had so many likes... 😊 I love this video!

@nicolochanleo5730

6 жыл бұрын

Sour Eggz can never go wrong with black

@almacz6074

6 жыл бұрын

That makes the difference, we got a message, some people just got someone to judge... I love her speech

I've been watching this video for years! Every time I realize something new, first time I had no kids, now I have 2. And hearing her speaking now was like listening to her for the first time ❤️❤️❤️

The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not JUST you are FINE The world Needs You Because There is Only One You And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do LOVE from Cappadocia!

@yes7855

Жыл бұрын

Ohohoh… the world NEEDS you. That’s why it’s okay to be you, even if people react badly or you might feel you aren’t liked as much as you should be feeling like! Because the world NEEDS you to be you. 🥺

" You already different. Your job is to figure out how, and then to be more of that." It came to me as if on cue.

@jeaninelanza981

4 жыл бұрын

This is so true. BE HAPPY BEING YOURSELF.

@RasMajnouni

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe you need to be more like Shachar and less like Malca? Joke .Chasidim say "We KNOW what we need, but do we know what we are needed FOR"? ואהבת לרעך כמוך.Emphasis ON and mainly the other.

@HayabusaOrlando

3 жыл бұрын

So many good quotes here.

@OhHapppyDaay

3 жыл бұрын

Me, too! Wow!

@deewekoms

3 жыл бұрын

that's what Ariel Sharon said to the Gaza lot before bombing them

"When you're a kid - you don't know how to disguise your Different-ness" BOOM - Truth Bomb.

@aplindop

9 жыл бұрын

Joel Corrigan It's just developmental psychology really mate

@le_th_

8 жыл бұрын

+Joel Corrigan Although her statement rang true for me and some of us can really identify with it, there are hundreds of young children who are AFRAID, some even terrified, to be themselves as young children because of their abusive and neglectful early childhood experiences. In a perfect world, ALL children would feel SAFE to be themselves, but thousands of kids are abused and neglected HOURLY every day, just because some adult hates who they are so much they have to discharge that self-hate onto someone too vulnerable to fight back. Thankfully that wasn't the case for you or me.

@nasernaser2553

8 жыл бұрын

xxxxkkk

"Since that day I have never been the center of attention. You're the center of mine, and that's a very different feeling." Thank you so much for this advice, definitely changed my point of view!!

I knew I was going to love this from the moment I set my eyes on her clothes. No one who is disconnected to themselves would be able to be bold with such simplicity. This video has inspired me in many ways

Her voice is the closest thing to an auditory blanket, cup of tea and a warm fireplace on a cold snowy day.

@behindthen0thing

6 жыл бұрын

kyle northrup I disagree

@dragonswordmountain2908

6 жыл бұрын

+kyle northrup Her voice was a little difficult to understand...her accent hahaha.

@brittanynicole4370

6 жыл бұрын

I agree

@antoinettenovella1630

4 жыл бұрын

I love the accent.

I felt like I was just lectured by a Jedi master. That was awesome.

@ZsuzsaFarkas87

6 жыл бұрын

ToaLegend :D :D :D lol

@dragonswordmountain2908

6 жыл бұрын

+ToaLegend She is Asajj Ventress turned Jedi hahaha.

@aliciaanthony3067

6 жыл бұрын

Kl

@kellyberry4173

3 жыл бұрын

Do. Or do not. There is no try. YODA

I understand myself more than anyone who’s misunderstood me, but I never knew who the real me was. I was so keen on searching for answers through media and others that I never took the time to ask myself who I believe I am. When I did, I realize that the journey was scarier than I thought because for so long I’ve been in airplane mode in this fast society that I’ve never synced at my own pace to heal. Whether that be past traumas, stress, and so much more. I knew I could evolve to something so great but change is what scared me. I’m still on this long journey for a lifetime, but when I realized the world never revolved around me and I had been the audience of my own movie, everything had felt more real to me.

🤣 love how she describes the days that you're on fire. "Quick! point me somewhere!" Such a cool unobtrusive way to conduct information. No judgment just information and a few well-placed jokes.

@zackWilbert-wb1qm

10 ай бұрын

Hello dear, how are you doing today dear

She looks like a time traveler that's been on a few tours and has seen things.

@MlleCarocks

3 жыл бұрын

She definitely is from Galiffrey

@sandyprimus9831

3 жыл бұрын

she came through the Star Gate to speak to earthlings how to cope with our situations .

@thetruthk5138

3 жыл бұрын

@@sandyprimus9831 Well at least she wasn't trying to sell fashion it's not a good look perhaps she just nipped out from her funeral parlor job

@user-ci7vu7eo9w

3 жыл бұрын

@@thetruthk5138 lol

@ivysabregz1518

3 жыл бұрын

She's like the master in Dr. Strange

" be yourself.... everyone else is already taken " - Oscar Wilde

@kunalpatel3074

8 жыл бұрын

true

@mundoinvisivelxd1936

8 жыл бұрын

+Just Jeanne humm

@jakem5039

8 жыл бұрын

Oscar Wilde...

@moonbeanification

8 жыл бұрын

Okay, in your case we'll make an exception ;)

@Dines27120

8 жыл бұрын

+Just Jeanne lol

Caroline, you are a gift to humanity. Thank you for this amazing talk, and helping me to find myself. I really appreciated the line: "I have spectacular disregard for where my abilities end and spectacular disregard for being the center of attention. In fact, I have never been the center of attention. You’re the center of mine." That is a powerful line. A beautifully constructed speech.

Love the acknowledgement of Jill Scott and all that she is! She is EVERYTHING and beautifully herself.

My favourite moment was when she told the story of when she refused to sing, because she’s feeling shy for everyone will be looking at her. Her mother said, “Don’t flatter yourself darling. You think everybody’s interested in you, they’re not. Your job is to make them happy.” And when she said, “Since that day I’ve never been in the center of attention. You’re the center of mine”.

@Rama_Rama_Rama

2 жыл бұрын

I don't get it. "You're the center of mine?"

@zelsha

2 жыл бұрын

@@Rama_Rama_Rama Centre of HER attention, in the sense that she is not focusing on herself, they are not focusing on herself, but she is focusing on them making them the centre of her attention. No more focus on herself and her own ego. Just making them feel happy/right. That fact changed her life.

@Rama_Rama_Rama

2 жыл бұрын

@@zelsha ok hmm

@auroraseyets8516

2 жыл бұрын

I love that part too. When I learned this lesson I stopped being nervous to perform for an audience because my focus was on bringing them joy or knowledge. Not thinking of yourself works wonders.

@keesjefischer778

2 жыл бұрын

@@auroraseyets8516 u

So in conclusion, to be yourself is to acknowledge your weaknesses and strengths, and accept them, appreciate them, embrace them, and cultivate them. You enjoy someone's advantages rather than seeing it as a threat to your flaws. You don't compare because you know that life is not all about you, you're not the center of other's mind, you just simply live life doing your work and being happy with your relationship with others. Edit: you're welcome;)

@cubbybear8322

2 жыл бұрын

Well summarised!

@cal4318

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this beautiful summarization.

@jarrodyuki7081

2 жыл бұрын

this is a plane governed by multiple dimensions.

@jasminemonroy1722

2 жыл бұрын

I love this :)

@farooquisheesh4414

2 жыл бұрын

Thnkew for the conclusion its seems u r good speaker ... And a motivator

This was a gorgeous talk through and through. So well out together and down to earth to the core. It was grounding.

O God this was amazing forme to hear as a 20 year old who's already feeling like she's behind in life But also she should be recognized worldwide she's iconic legendary 👏

@voreshbo7031

4 ай бұрын

Its only just begun , fasten your seatbealt dear 😊❤

"Find out who you are and then do it on purpose" D. Parton

@reggiestreet8662

3 жыл бұрын

The whole Tedtalk summed up in one sentence. But still a great video.

“I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am ” ― Thomas Cooley

@raceandcrime

5 жыл бұрын

I am thinking of how i think i am in terms of how others think i am so i can tell people what i think i am to challenge what they are thinking i am

@AIReStudios

5 жыл бұрын

Very interesting perspective. Have you read the book Ishmael (Great Book!)

@raceandcrime

5 жыл бұрын

AIRe who r u talking to

@wahid9901

5 жыл бұрын

Just gave me an existential crisis Thanks

@juneaddis4940

5 жыл бұрын

I had to read it 3 times.😊 It is Amazingly true.

Never tire listening to caroline. She's grace personified!!!

Her voice is so soothing. I feel so relaxed

" People that say to you they have 15 years experience when they mean one year, 15 times "

@olgapaz1329

3 жыл бұрын

A thing to say on an interview : - ' I see you don't have 10 years of experience as we've asked'.. '-well, some may have 1 year, but 10 times' :D

@Jewel77777

2 жыл бұрын

@@olgapaz1329 Genius!

❤ when you're at a point you can genuinely celebrate others victories you know you're being authentically yourself. You dont get upset they're better than you, you know you have your strengths & allow others theirs.

@CAI.DREAMS

5 жыл бұрын

Nile and Moon way it louder for the people at the back

@bellabukuru

4 жыл бұрын

EXACTLY

@harikrishnancp2662

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@lunasea4309

4 жыл бұрын

yes.

@user-tv1kw4wl7t

4 жыл бұрын

Internal confidence.

Just a tip if you’re interested: to fully convey your life’s message, use more examples of yourself & your experience when explaining, using famous people can help us understand because we’ve already heard of them, but too many examples of other people might divert from the actual message at hand, to be your own you, and it helps to hear your own words of it- it shows that you have understood and realised it in your life which in turn helps us to do so as well. Anyways you really shined- I could feel your energy through the screen and it was wonderful- not many people can do that, so keep doing all that you’re doing!

@Joy-ci2js

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you!

This is such a valuable, inspiring talk. Glad I came across this today

"I'm not the center of attention. You're the center of mine." That line hit home.

This talk exposed so much of my internal insecurities

@garrywindshield1

7 жыл бұрын

if you that's you on your profile pic and you have insecurities...I think you'd die within a day being me lol

@michaelkylow4411

7 жыл бұрын

Highway61ru: Being secure and comfortable inside your own skin is not about having a good look, it is about having a great presence and founding the beauty in imperfection. Dont be hard on yourself.

@konmari7511

7 жыл бұрын

+Michael Kylow lovely response.

@gurpreetmann4312

7 жыл бұрын

u looks awsm

@zackng5340

7 жыл бұрын

I feel you. try to be yourself and be confident at who you are and what you are going to be after that. cheer! hope you have a wonderful year ahead.

This is easily the best ted talk I’ve ever heard. No cap. Absolute gorgeous stuff. None of it felt pretentious and the balance she struck between an individual’s importance and his insignificance is what I needed so badly. I gained so so much from this talk.

TEDx events embody the ethos of lifelong learning and curiosity. I'm continually impressed by the caliber of speakers and the depth of insights shared at these gatherings.

This makes me want to take up space. It reaffirms that I am a child of the universe, I have a right to be here just like the trees and the stars...

@AzraelisHorny

4 жыл бұрын

fynes leigh what a mong

@maryobenhaus4032

4 жыл бұрын

fynes leigh this one I lifted from Desiderata. and a b-boy, who said the whole point or something the other of dancing was to take up space on the dance floor.

@immaSHRIMP_

4 жыл бұрын

yeah a lot more people need to realize that about themselves. in the end nothing really matters, so live as you dream whenever you can.

@1grumppa

4 жыл бұрын

Shine you beautiful spark

@emanmughrabi

4 жыл бұрын

Desiderata

"I've never again been the centre of attention, you are the centre of mine, and that's a very different feeling" - wonderful, in a round about way a fantastic piece of advice.

@diamondsinthedust7734

6 жыл бұрын

Yes! Because when you put the focus of your attention on others, and drop your own ego, you're being of service: truly seeing, appreciating and accepting others is a radical act of love, in and of itself.

I have watched this off and on for at lest five years. She is brilliant.

Credible. At 52 I'm still not exactly sure who I am but I know I'm ok to discuss it. 11:20 Gold.

“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing it’s best, day and night, to make you like everybody else, means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight ,and never stop fighting.” - E.E. Cummings

@vinny5727

5 жыл бұрын

This is on a car commercial now.

@immaSHRIMP_

4 жыл бұрын

e.e. cummings - thats how he wrote his name bcuz he liked his unique lowercase look

"I don't want te sing" "Whai do yeh no wanna sing??" "I'm shy." "Wot ye shai fer??" "Cus everyboody is gonna be lookin at me" "Caroline...Dont flatter yeself darling. Yeh think anbody down th' stairs is interested in you, th' noot. Yer jobs to go down there n make'n happy so go'in sing." Ladies and gentlemen welcome to Scotland.

@heizie88

4 жыл бұрын

Want you to know I laughed really hard at this.

@ellyw7201

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for writing out this little conversation! I have a slight hearing problem and couldn't make out the mother's last sentence...Thank you for enabling me to "hear" it!

@patcasey1

4 жыл бұрын

@@ellyw7201 I had to use the close caption option... it's at the bottom.. otherwise... I wouldn't have gotten the message very well

@sarahfloyd7948

4 жыл бұрын

Haha ... that is so on point!

@yerinpark2950

4 жыл бұрын

i absolutely love this

This was so beautiful. I wrote down a lot of messages. I almost sobbed when she showed the pictures of those leaders because they are the living proof of what is possible. Their entire life speaks to the power of what is possible and as a spiritual being, everything that is possible is also possible for me.

I keep coming back to this talk. Thank you for creating timeless resonating content

Almost started crying when she said that one of the times when you're most like yourself is when you were a kid. I was so lively and fearless when I was younger. I loved everyone and believed I could do anything. Fast-forward to age 26 and I've become fearful of taking chances, quiet, reserved, and slightly bitter towards the world. I've always longed to be the original me and I thought I could find it by just pressing forward. But maybe I just need to look back to the times when I was myself. What I found amazing is she follows up with saying that those original moments are when we're younger and when we're older, but never in the middle. I find this sad, since we have both some wisdom and some strength and energy in our mid-years. And yet we never utilize that time to be authentic. When we're children we're bound by rules, social systems, guardians, and other problems--but we have the ideas and energy to make things happen. When we're elderly we have the wisdom and knowledge to make those things happen but not the energy or health. It makes me realize that I need to utilize ALL parts of my life and live the life I was created to live.

@MrGrace123

6 жыл бұрын

As you pointed from her talk about being original when one is young and old, to further take from those two stages, a person needs to spend more time with kids and seniors. That way a person will constantly be reminded of being one's self. A added strength that kids have is braveness and old people have wisdom. So you can take from both sides of life.

@coralday2009

6 жыл бұрын

Dear, take it from me, you are fine.

@xxStarkissed

6 жыл бұрын

You sound like a lovely human.

@dragonswordmountain2908

6 жыл бұрын

+Miss Lady Whoa, you typed he same thing i would have typed...and i'm 26 as well, that is so cool.

@happinesss2

6 жыл бұрын

beautifully stated and I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU

The supreme one giving ted talks while guarding the universe

@mistyhess3546

4 жыл бұрын

Yes 💛

@gav25x

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Mr1982bigman

4 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@naomigunther7954

4 жыл бұрын

I laughed out loud! 🤣❤

@stun09

4 жыл бұрын

This lady will be the end of Thanos

Love her energy... love Jill Scott's even more.

Oh my her speech and selection of words, i am amazed and felt in love with her personality and wisdom

That accent and hair cut are killing me dead. She’s on 🔥

@sohamyogaindia6275

3 жыл бұрын

And her outfit. Omg

@freeyourmind4349

3 жыл бұрын

Sinade oconnor

@Oshaoxin

3 жыл бұрын

She does look flammable in that curtain

@sammohd938

3 жыл бұрын

she's the best in the worrold :-D

"Humility is not thinking less of yourself, humility is thinking of yourself less."

Gratefulness is the secret to happiness. Once we all realize how incredibly lucky we are to even be alive on this planet and stop comparing ourselves to others, true happiness will find us. The one thing that helped me so much to become more grateful was Forwago.

@Joyjoy-ih1ie

2 жыл бұрын

Gratitude...

She talks wonderful. A great public speaker with impactful content.