"Anger is a secondary emotion to things like fear and sadness and anxiety." Possibly one of those most valuable lessons in this entire talk.

@dylanmcwhirter9844

3 жыл бұрын

Pain aswell physical pain

@christyeddy3199

3 жыл бұрын

I was in a behavioral rehab for 2 weeks when i was 13 and was taught that. Its really the only thing i remember. It has been very helpful in understanding people. That and a phrase i heard about 10 years ago... "Hurt people -hurt people"

@roshanibabu

3 жыл бұрын

That is all I took from this talk...

@ArtofReliance

3 жыл бұрын

"Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." ~ Green Thing

@rpshd7275

3 жыл бұрын

My mom must be really anxious

Really interesting stuff. Some caution: Eye blocking is very common with people on the Autistic Spectrum and to some degree with people who have anxiety. This should absolutely be taken into account when assessing eye blocking.

@daughterofyah6209

4 жыл бұрын

Vanessa Wood but if you speak to them you understand that there could be something different. Her points still valid-notice the scenes and probe. With her son and her mother she asked deeper questions that was related to their ESL. The more questions you asked the more you may notice the difference in autism and someone who is hiding. My older cousin is autistic and before I actually understand what that is and the spectrum I could see that there was a disability or learning difference between us.

@benjaminmarler457

4 жыл бұрын

Totally agree this is all interesting but I'm not sure about the eye blocking I personally just have trouble looking people In the eye some days more than others feeling intimidated seems to do the same for most

@idaliihernandesss924

4 жыл бұрын

I was just thinking of this!

@jessicarenae5107

4 жыл бұрын

I just commented about this. I have social anxiety so i tend to never look ppl in the eye. However, if I'm blamed and innocent, you'll get my attention ... changes your focus and becomes serious. Of course that can depend on the situation too! And your def right about Autism...ty for stating that to everyone!!! My cousin is autistic, and that's very true.... most autism causes them to be distant with all their gestures and emotions!

@lungulst

4 жыл бұрын

It is not important because there will be not so many. And no one could by mistake, take an autistic as a person without that condition.

Comming from a Middle Eastern background, we were taught from a young age that looking someone in the eye is a sign of daring and disrespect, especially when done during a conversation with an older person or one with a higher level of authority. That caused me some real problems with one of my bosses at work in Australia. He believed he's a 'people reader'. He often thought I was lying when I spoke to him 🙄

@Dolphinboi

3 ай бұрын

So what do u think of this woman?

@kennywonderley5883

2 ай бұрын

I'm always thinking and my eyes tend to go up. I'm been misread many times.

@nopetheworld977

Ай бұрын

I can totally relate. Cultural differences really do make communication a bit more complicated and can misread someone’s intentions.

I appreciate her emotion when talking about things that are clearly important to her. Thank you so so much!

@KarenC-yi9xl

Жыл бұрын

😂 this is the first video I watch the beginning to the end thanks 😊

I have learned more about life from Tedtalks than my 61 years of life.

@saraf.3444

3 жыл бұрын

I love your comment. ♥️

@janetpierce6487

3 жыл бұрын

@@saraf.3444 8 ,,p , by

@RM-lk1so

3 жыл бұрын

RIGHT ON. I share more Ted's talks than ANY other KZread series

@annamariedetter4319

3 жыл бұрын

Same, but I'm a millennial. Which is why I go easier on my Mom these days. The internet is truly a privilege to use.

@Fifiguggles

3 жыл бұрын

I get it from all sorts of sources

This woman is spot on. She captured me immediately and distracted me from imprtant work.

@angelagivens545

3 жыл бұрын

Wow. This was awesome

@aleenanoad9

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. Haha

@alvinzady764

3 жыл бұрын

very good,her words are great...

@styxmot

3 жыл бұрын

Same here :D

@JacquelynnFaye

3 жыл бұрын

I believe it was you who pushed play first sir lol

My 19 y.o. son is a junior w/ a psychology major. I met you today on Mel Robbins’ podcast and immediately sent this Ted Talk to my son. I plan on following up with him to be sure he gets well acquainted with you!! You’re going to be an additional professor of his… We need you in our lives!! Thank you!!❤

@actuallyjustVaibhavSharma

5 ай бұрын

How did it go ?

@joannep3437

5 ай бұрын

@@actuallyjustVaibhavSharma Well, I have yet to find the opportunity… he’s so busy that we’ve been like two ships passing in the night.

“anger is a secondary emotion to fear, sadness, and anxiety “ really important to remember having empathy in life 💯

She wants everybody to fight their battles using whatever tools they have in order to never give up. She is a friend to all of us

@kaitlinlounsbury4444

Жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree 💯

Me to pup (pointing at carpet stain): “Did you do this?” Pup: eye blocks for 9 seconds. Fast forward - pup watches video. Me to pup (pointing to shredded dog bed): “Did you do this?” Pup: Looks me square in the eye, assertively shakes head no, and points to invisible cat. Thanks KZread.

@kierraspearman4759

4 жыл бұрын

Isabelle Robbe-Dren lololololololol

@KimishaJames

4 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣

@lindseynovak8058

3 жыл бұрын

Everyone needs this information. Spectacular talk.

@abdul-q-khan

3 жыл бұрын

@@lindseynovak8058 If she is gifted it doesn't mean that everyone can and should start relying on their ESL. I remember once upon a time in Pakistan, We were going in a Jeep and we noticed there was another jeep overtook us and there wasn't number plates on it. And a after while there were to police with 125 cc bike standing at road shoulder and waved to us to stop and we saw the other jeep of different make passed them, they asked us for registration of the jeep and we showed it. Then they told ok you can go. You only can feel it when it happens to you. We asked why they checked our jeep registration while the other jeep even passed in front of them didn't have number plates. They replied we doubted you. 😡🤬

@jeannieravenscraft4938

3 жыл бұрын

Ha!

When you're a person with high empathy (an "empath") It seems like most of this is just innate. We pick up body language, energy, and other people's emotions quickly...even when you would prefer not to. It's all highly intuitive even before you know what to do with the information that you're feeling.

@cynthiadennewith49

2 жыл бұрын

Accept, her information is concrete. Everyone can benefit from the knowledge she is teaching. Even Empaths. We may be able to intuit the emotional energy of a person, and 'know' what that person is feeling, and that they are not being honest. Or that they are hiding something. But 'feeling' something from someone isn't actionable when it comes to using that information to show how you 'know' when a person is lieing. Having both; abilities as an Empath and skilled knowledge like she is teaching, can only make you better all around.

@ompabaletserametse8643

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. You're totally right. I saw a friend after probably a year and I could feel that they were not doing so good. I didn't know what to do. I just prayed that whatever it is, they got through. I'm hoping to learn how to "get it out" of people and maybe that will help.

@traceyschneider3296

2 жыл бұрын

You are totally right! I’ve been told I am an empath but haven’t really gotten into researching it but even if I’m not, I’ve noticed things that would be considered signs like these I was told I was crazy and those signs that I’d see in a person weren’t really credible. This verifies and validates so much for me!

@lowbudgetadvice95

2 жыл бұрын

True that.

@violentnewworld

2 жыл бұрын

I can spot these things.. Just unnatural reactions.

Wow this is one of the best ted talks ever. The fact that Janine gets emotional gets back to her full strength throughout this talk makes her so strong. Her mom is so lucky to have her ❤️

She is absolutely captivating. I loved this ted talk. Easily made my top faves.

@danfelmusic447

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@aidanpowell9143

3 жыл бұрын

I would also have loved to be in the audience. She captivated the audience's attention very well.

@jocelynford4209

2 жыл бұрын

Right! This may be one of the best talks I have heard. Powerful and enlightening.

@drivebyquipper

7 ай бұрын

What's up with the Spanx?

As a single mother to an angry, frustrated little boy who’s full of love, Thank You. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

@atlas3732

4 жыл бұрын

You're welcome

@neoanderson4840

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah agree to the kids anger and the response from his mother is what makes better parenting 🤗

@estrid8616

3 жыл бұрын

man i was like your son when growing up. wish my mom had seen this video. great of you to utilize it and not dismiss your son. amazing mother

@Yeniphur

2 жыл бұрын

I've been there and I wish I knew then what you know now. I wish you the very best with your spirited little boy. Please remember to take care of yourself as well. Being a single mother is VERY draining. ❤️❤️❤️

We always read each other's body language...we just haven't honed the decoding skills to the level this lady has.....she was very compelling and amazing....strong woman....loved it!!!!

I loved the talk, now I'll see anger differently. Also, I don't know if I'm right because she put "I miss you mom" in the last slide, but I am really sorry for her loss, it is a beautiful thing to honor her with this talk and sharing ESL to teach people another way to help others

Weak clapping, audience.., she deserved so much more enthusiasm, in my belief, during this presentation. I appreciate the gift of knowing, the signs to look for, thanks to this informative video.

First of all, everything she said is true, however, people with anxiety, depression, all do these same things. I live with really bad Anxiety and horrible depression. I am always asked why do I never look at people in the eye when I talk to them. I always answer, because I feel claustrophobic, and I do, it makes me have a panic attack every time I look at someone in the face when I am having a conversation with someone new, or when they are next to me. My nerves skyrocket when I have to look at someone in the face when I talk to them. However, I can look someone in the face, in the eyes when I listen.

@rachell2099

3 жыл бұрын

I feel exactly the same as you… every way. And claustrophobic is the true feeling. But yes, looking while listening is nice.. are you an artist? I am in love with human faces their range of differences, measuring and drawing them even if only in my mind. Good day!

@MeetByTheRiver

3 жыл бұрын

Rachel L I’m not a professional artist if that’s what you mean? I don’t draw or paint as much as I honestly should, though I like to write more. My real art skills is in writing, I love to create a work of art through a story, though I never do it professionally, lol I also hardly ever post them online anyway, because I never finish them. The few I do post are just fanfictions. But, I can appreciate the art of profile expressions. I never got into wanting to draw profiles a lot even though I practiced a lot to try and draw different types of faces I never could do it as well as I thought it in my head lmao. It always turned into some animated version of myself for some reason, I put it up to me just being horrible at drawing and left it at that, but I’m gonna sound like a creep here, but I love to watch people’s expressions when I’m in like a public place, its not that I’m obsessed I just curious and also nosey, lol you can tell a lot about a conversation through someone’s expressions sometimes. It’s also a little frustrating because I can’t look at someone’s face when I talk unless there’s like more than a arms distance so I’m always guessing peoples reactions as a way. Man, living with social anxiety sucks, especially because people always assume the worst because you don’t look them in the eye or is just a little standoffish

@BeeLove369

3 жыл бұрын

You just proved her point love. ❤😊😉

@slhayhoe

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed 100%. ME TOO

@slhayhoe

3 жыл бұрын

@Rickie j 100%

There is more sadness in her voice taking about him than he ever showed

@nghhn9687

2 жыл бұрын

Who?

@janetbrennan3882

Ай бұрын

Would like to share my body language things that I learned from around the world brains of people who respected my psychic ability I was born with as some things are not in books and would love to share with you as I am sr retired now and would like to give to you a nd would love to talk to you and help your mother too Janet Brennan Bklyn ny. I am real

Mama has me in tears! I love her! She looks like a warrior.

Am i the only one annoyed at how the camera is cutting off the top of her screen or nah?

@ogmma7364

4 жыл бұрын

More annoyed about her repetitive sell on ESL, like we get it already, we ain't autistic..

Good stuff; but I have to point out that there are people who have difficulty with making eye contact for other reasons like mental illness, aspergers, fear, nervousness, etc.

thank you Janine Driver for motivating my daughter when thing went really had for her. It was really so bad that she attempted committing murder until you invited Mrs Lyra Holt Dean for your TED show program. Am really so grateful for her finical assistance in my daughters life thank you so much once again.

@bennyhinnministries3027

3 жыл бұрын

I see please do you mind if i know how this woman helped you cause i have been hearing people testifying i really want to know who this Mrs Lyra Holt Dean is. I even searched her name on goggle she was all over but i want to confirm if she can help me too.

@warnerrecordsvault5869

3 жыл бұрын

@@bennyhinnministries3027 Honestly is not something we can talk about on the comment section i can give you her direct so you can contact@lyraholtdean; KOM that her direct mail feel free talking to her and thank me later SMILES.

@KimberleyB

2 жыл бұрын

@@bennyhinnministries3027 this is scammy. You'll notice this account posted identical comments on different videos. Please be careful.

@hadesisbaby

2 жыл бұрын

@@KimberleyB the account replying to the comment is part of the scam lol they responded to all of the other accounts comments

@lucienoon7262

8 ай бұрын

ah!

She really … she’s an excellent speaker. She showed her emotions & sometimes it can enhance the message. She hit nail on head.

Oh man, people are gonna come after me for not making eye contact now lmao. Im guilty of a lot of this, i promise im not hiding anything. Im just autistic, ive almost been arrested a few times. Now i know why haha

@melclarke64

4 жыл бұрын

alot of people use autism as an excuse for bad behavior.

@lishangisbae9170

4 жыл бұрын

Melvin Clarke Maybe, but some people genuinely have situations such as this because they have autism. I’m not dismissing your comment, I’m just stating that some people are genuine with their reasons for seeming suspicious but are actually innocent in reality.

@jpmorgain912

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely fuckang understand! Can't wait until Jesus comes back and allows skyscraper sized loctus monsters smack everybody's mom👍

@jpmorgain912

4 жыл бұрын

@@melclarke64 ---- your mom uses jungle fever to excuse her bad behavior👍

@jpmorgain912

4 жыл бұрын

@@lishangisbae9170 ---- I'm dismissing His comment because His mom uses jungle fever to excuse Her bad behavior👍

The moment she mentioned Chris Watts my heart dropped

@AnxietyRat

3 жыл бұрын

Same. He was also very bad at lying. Most people could tell SOMETHING was wrong with his behaviour. But as she said they didn't have the skills to KNOW why his behaviour was wrong and sending red flags.

@eunicestone838

2 жыл бұрын

The very moment I saw Chris Watts speak for the first I had a horrible sinking feeling.

I am really glad I dropped my prejudices that Ted Talks were boring. Literally became a thing I liked spending time listening while studying after this video ❤

This was the most informative talk I’ve heard in awhile. I’d love to see this speaker again.

With typical people, eye contact probably a good clue, and I have used this many times to judge someone's truthfulness. However, people on the autism spectrum do not make eye contact and if they are low on the spectrum, they will seem like everyone else, but will avoid looking you straight in the eye. Teaching law enforcement that certain behaviors means someone is guilty or up to something can be dangerous. Unseen handicaps can make people seem to be something that they are not. This reminds me of a case in Aurora, IL several years back where someone was shot and killed by police. He had a BB gun, someone called the cops thinking it was a real gun, he did not drop the gun when the cops approached. They killed him, of course. He was deaf.

@toshir0m1

4 жыл бұрын

What exactly are "typical people" supposed to be? No two situations will be the same, and the "general" principles Janince Driver uses here are useless. I mean, useless to everyone but her, since it helps her scam a lot of people.

@ernawiget868

4 жыл бұрын

Tamie Pryor TOY. GUNS NEED TO. B. OUT- LAWED. SUE THE TOY COMPANIES 👀

@Traumatised311

4 жыл бұрын

I am autistic and what you said is true , people often don't expect things I do or I have done , they can nevr tell what I am up to

@tiffanybruner6002

4 жыл бұрын

@@Traumatised311 do you feel that is a gift or a curse, if you don't mind me asking??

@Traumatised311

4 жыл бұрын

@@tiffanybruner6002 , both curse and a blessing but more of a curse , cause i am more often misinterprated and misunderstood

What a wonderful public speech! The speaker uses effective speaking techniques such as story telling, repetition, audience engagement, body language and vocal variety, to make her speech memorable and persuasive. I am going to follow her call and use this ESL in my day-to- day life.

@peterbarker3574

4 жыл бұрын

You sound like you must be a Toastmaster. AmI correct?

@robhatesyoutube

4 жыл бұрын

Is she holding you hostage and making u comment?

@mayasanchez4014

3 жыл бұрын

I found the story telling and repetitions a bit tiring by the end I have to say, maybe not for everyone

@blessingsbest6838

3 жыл бұрын

She is good!

@geewiz8253

3 жыл бұрын

Maya Sanchez I don’t know how you don’t understand that all she was doing was showing several examples to compare... and contrast. Not rocket science or a reason to see her speech as a negative but 🤷‍♀️

The wisdom i gained by this lady for this 30min is just amazing ❤❤❤❤

Anger is the desire to do something about fear, or sadness, or anxiety. In some languages there is no separate word for anger or so I've heard. It's just sadness.

She is so dynamic, I really admire her and her speach was amazing and useful😮

@TheLeopard0

4 жыл бұрын

yeah she could be a real rabble rouser

@Darkphoenix3450

4 жыл бұрын

She tell you whatever you want to hear as long as you will pay her. (That is just the facts about her.)

@toshir0m1

4 жыл бұрын

so "dynamic"? Ffs people, don't make her job even easier, try to exercise at least SOME rationality.

@ChristopherYTDontchangemyname

4 жыл бұрын

@@toshir0m1 what do you mean ?

@joseph-mariopelerin7028

4 жыл бұрын

with a grain of salt...

I find her amazing, PTSD affects us all. I can hear it in your voice when you talk about the murder of the mom and daughters. In a odd way we can be exposed to so much and not have much of a reaction. Then a case comes along that blindsides you. A particular gruesome murder of 1 child still haunts me to this date. I am medically retired Thank goodness . Thank you Janine, you are fascinating and I love your passion !! Glad your mom got a second chance !!!

@julietv3863

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your service ❤️💕✝️

@stixx3342

Жыл бұрын

I completely agree with everything you say. But the end it states, I miss you mom, meaning unfortunately her mother is dead.

@drivebyquipper

7 ай бұрын

She is overconfident and overbearing.

@TecnamTwin

6 ай бұрын

​​@@drivebyquipperOverconfident? Maybe you're just not used to a confident woman who has strong reasons to be confident. She's an industry expert and knows what she's talking about. Why do you feel threatened by her strength? You should get that checked out.

Favourite talk Ever. She is extraordinary! ESL. Wow.

Damn powerful. Thank you, Janine.

Hola 👋🏽, Ted talk brief notes 📝 de nada ESL = everyone’s second language Fear & sadness- 2 missing emotions of a killer 👁👁 glasses 👓 E- eye closing ( eye blocking) S- shoulder shrug - uncertainty L- lip locking ( lip going in) ( when we don’t like what we see or hear our lips disappear) Eye blocking- ( timing) screen saver password- take away visuals Second and a half- hiccup -***9 seconds eyes closed exercise Anger - 2cd emotion to fear , anxiety and sadness

The emotion in her voice when she was talking about Chris Watts...

@GLPification

4 жыл бұрын

which suddenly disappeared, then came back during the mom scene, then suddenly disappeared in a second.. come on ppl, wake up. (emotion fiber, cancer, kids... => rational/critical thinking = OFF)

@imlate3238

4 жыл бұрын

@@GLPification its almost like emotional things make people emotional. Strange.

@GLPification

4 жыл бұрын

​@@imlate3238this is what make people (and a lot of other species) social. that woman like facebook & marketers know it well and they are always looking on how to manipulate/exploit it for an outcome.

@lanajeanvecchione9659

3 жыл бұрын

@@GLPification Its true she is using emotion to captivate and manipulate people in a sense. She knows her stuff. She also knows how to dress very well to maximize her body. Great talk.

@lanajeanvecchione9659

3 жыл бұрын

@@imlate3238 This is true, that's why they always sell the lifestyle and not just a product.

Miss Beautiful Janine, Your talk "rocked" my world! I thank you from the deepest depths of my heart & soul. I'm not much more than a counselor, but i'm the founder of a nonprofit that works with the homeless, has a safe house for women & children, is a Community Outreach Center, runs an animal rescue, has a small thrift store & lots more. I'm an advocate for Veterans as well as for delicate situations for those recently freed from years in prison & EVERYTHING you brought up up in your talk filled my heart with gladness & hope. Thank you for all you do. Blessing & mst respectfully yours.

@tanakaren1822

3 ай бұрын

Yes you are much more - an embodied angel, doing needed & challenging work!! Thank you for your open careing heart & persistent efforts, dear one!

Janine! Thank you for who you are + for all you do.

I really enjoy learning from this woman. She's so genuine and down to earth, and Real. it's hard not to love her!

@terahwieland8482

Жыл бұрын

Look up Paul Ekman. At one point there were some free things on his website and he has been at the research for a very long time.

This is the 3rd of her TED talks I've listened to and she is just amazing. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, Janine.

@alvinzady764

3 жыл бұрын

her words are too amazing..how are you,hope you are good?

I just stumbled upon this accident yesterday at work. Im relistening to the whole talk again. Thank you.

This is my new fave Ted Talks & my EYES arent closed, SHOULDERS aren't shrugged, LIPS aren't tight!

She's fascinating! I almost didn't click, but I'm so glad I did. Definitely worth watching!

she literally just describes someone who's anxious. Like, I have anxiety. I'm not meeting your eyes because I'm anxious. I'm shrugging and fidgeting because I have anxiety.

This is the Best Ted Talk I have ever watch!...im literally crying, oh how I wish Im more matured when i was 14 when my mother had to fight a cancer how I wish to comfort her, I realized how it really affect me know that im 19 how i deeply regret being there physically but not emotionally.Thank you for your inspiring story

@TheRealJanineDriver

2 жыл бұрын

Oganse! I'm so sorry to hear that when you were just 14-years old, your mother had to fight a cancer! I'm sure your mother knew you loved her with all your mighty. I remember when my mom was dying, I apologized for all the years I would ignore her phone calls when I was in college. She said, "Janine, that's what teenagers and young adults do, they are trying to find themselves. I let that go years ago." xo, Janine

I am grateful to Janine Driver for sharing this beautiful wisdom😊

These are the things I took as note but please watch the whole video it's really great :). Remember that context matters because some people who have autism may do eye blocking so be careful *_Eye Blocking_* : To protect sensitive information 9:25 *_Shoulder Shrugging_* : May indicate uncertainty 18:00 *_Lip Locking_* : "When we dont like what we see or here, our lips disappear" 20:55 Bonus *_Anger_* : In the video she states that anger most of the time might be a secondary emotion to fear, sadness, anxiety 23:38

@TheRealJanineDriver

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Junior! Yes, context does matter. People on the Spectrum often give less eye contact. xo, Janine

@may_0reo816

11 ай бұрын

fr

@gallorumrex

10 ай бұрын

Not just Autism, but those with ADHD also.

First Ted talk I watched more than 15 min. Amazing information and the way she educated the listener was awesome

@judichristopher4604

4 жыл бұрын

RIGHT!!!! She took a (can be boring) subject and made it AMAZING... She is not only smart she teaches you something along the way.

I have CPTSD and sometimes I can't talk about intensely vulnerable things without closing my eyes. So let's keep in mind these are guidelines.

Why did I start crying when she said I was going to tell you about my mom‘s journey but I’m gonna let you to let her tell you😢

Exceptional Ted talk, this amazing lady put a lot of herself into this.

@toshir0m1

4 жыл бұрын

No, she's a charlatan. You might want to strengthen your epistemology, brother.

@djangoalvarado6703

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah this lady I'm not sure I can put into words how amazing this woman is because she knows a thing or two about a thing or two and she makes you feel assured that what she saying it's some real talk the truth no doubt

@lungulst

4 жыл бұрын

I don't know this woman but her voice is hard to hear for me. I simply cannot listen. I like peacefully, worm voices. Too bad. Hope next time it will talk with more affection.

@rwatson2609

4 жыл бұрын

@@lungulst It's these types of talks where the full heart is invested that make an impact on me.

@rwatson2609

4 жыл бұрын

@@toshir0m1 Perhaps.

Janine Driver stole my attention and kept me interested and excited, ESL EVERYBODY'S SECOND LANGUAGE!

Oh I love this! Your Mom swearing is so awesome...and accurate observations! Thank you! "Sometimes we have to fight for people that can't fight foe themselves!" LOVE!!!

I came across this video trying to deal with devastating betrayal. This took my mind off the negative thoughts, perked my mood, and captivated my imagination. The topic was dark and I never would have thought it would give me hope and lighten my mood

27:34 .... in 34 second Use ESL to read body language: - Eye blocking (the person don't want you to see his eyes, to protect/hide his thoughts) - Shoulder shrugging (uncertain about something) - Lips disappearing (the person tights and presses his lips when he don't like what he sees or hears)

@robhatesyoutube

4 жыл бұрын

Ah... I finally see another person unimpressed by this lengthy presentation

@judichristopher4604

4 жыл бұрын

@@robhatesyoutube Move on random person... she is way above your pay grade...

@laurabloodiam

4 жыл бұрын

@@judichristopher4604 Indeed!

@JessBlake2

4 жыл бұрын

​@@judichristopher4604 She does not have sound scientific support for her claims. She uses the same strategies for fooling people that psychics do. Post hoc observations, bait and switch, making generalizations from subparts of the data without evidence, burying false data that is easy to believe because it sounds plausible, using appeals to mysterious phenomena by using concepts that can't be defined as if she has defined them, using sciencey sounding words occassionally to sound like an expert even though she uses the words incorrectly, etc, etc.

@amystarstimulusandcrypto4303

4 жыл бұрын

@@JessBlake2 She worked for the government because of her skills. She is very qualified. Eye blocking is also used by people with autism and anxiety, but she has a depth of knowledge and an extensive background in profiling murderers for the government.

One of the best things I've ever seen in my life. Thank you for sharing! Best learning experience in a long time.

@thebiscuitrose

3 жыл бұрын

20:26 wow

This TED talk was the best I have ever seen, Janine!!!!! Thank you

Wow! I love you Janine...you taught me so much today...thank you thank you thank you! You're a beautiful person!

Amazing.. first thing I thought.. this lady has PASSION! And what a beautiful thing to watch when someone has that kind of passion. I laughed, I cried... even she laughed and cried.. so engaging, best ted talk I’ve seen in a while!

Precious moms testimony brought tears to my eyes. Great talk!

@toshir0m1

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, it brought tears to your eyes. She's expecting that exact reaction because she needs the emotional appeal to convince you without the slightest shred of scientific credibility.

You had me in tear about your mom, but so happy she is fighting it , all love and prayer for her.

This was the best Ted talk I’ve seen in a long time.

Imagine having a friend like her. Let’s go for a coffee.

@LadyNolaJ

3 жыл бұрын

Yes imagine if you accidentally give her a negative body signal that had nothing to do with your thoughts or intentions. Self-righteous "expertise" is dangerous.

@angelineginnings3178

3 жыл бұрын

For reals and for sure

@jasonowens4368

3 жыл бұрын

Just don't let her drive.

@shsltrash6685

2 жыл бұрын

@@LadyNolaJ but if she truly is a professional, she’d be able to collect enough data and judge you based on more than one signal to make sure that its not accidental and you truly are lying

@Alphacentauri819

2 жыл бұрын

@@LadyNolaJ would it be self righteous expertise...if a physician was up there telling you signs of sepsis, heart attack, stroke, or any other myriad of ailments? No. They happen to be an expert. She happens to be an expert at reading body language due to her job. She didn’t just read a book, people watch at an airport and then become an “expert”. She worked with hostage negotiations, illegal arms deals and much more.

Having been raised in a DV situation, for many years I was afraid to look men in the eyes; there are OTHER reasons than lying for not looking people in the eyes.

I wish I had heard this at least 4 decades ago. It would have changed many roads that I took.

This is the best talk I've ever seen, I can't believe all the information this woman is delivered, fantastic job ! 👍

Chills when her voice started to crack ("praying for a pregnant battered woman") - I've watched a lot of footage on the Chris Watts case - this is the 1st time I got emotional

@ogmma7364

4 жыл бұрын

Don't worry, it's part of her act. She's trained to do that on cue.. Deception

@dorcasderose4485

3 жыл бұрын

I'm actually scared of how effectively she could manipulate people

I cried when the mom came on. I’m beyond happy for them that she’s survived. And thaaannnk you so much for all this information 🙏🏾 I’ll definitely spread this info

"I'm the boss in this household." Why do I have no trouble believing that?

@soniaakabonusgrandma3338

2 жыл бұрын

My first thought when she said that was, won't dad have an issue with his decisions being overridden and degraded? But, when she went on about the situation I think dad wouldn't mind in this instance since he reacted inappropriately at first.

I cried at the end. This was so incredibly beautiful. I hope to one day learn how to live up to my adhd potential..

What a phenomenal talk... Thank you so much for sharing... love Janine's mom, such a warrior. 💜 from TX

I am crying while watching this. I have so many to thank for.

I’m seeing this for the first time and I can’t leave this KZread until I say that I’m praying for your Mom and hope she is well though the video says it was posted 2 years ago! I cried! She made an impact on me though I loved your tremendously informative video as well! This is my favorite TEDtalk of all time! You and yours are in my prayers! ❤️

One of the best Tedx I've watched, thank you Janine.

Best talk I have ever heard! I really needed this because I tend to miss social clues. I was dating and then married to more than one abuser, and being bullied and/or being taken advantage of so often! Finally, my therapist ordered me a dose of abstinence and living on my own until I learn and heal, or else, she was sure I would end up with the man that woul kill me. Thank you so much! I will be learning more about this, and continue Aikido classes for sure.

This lady is awesome! Strong loving woman. Thank you.

The best talk I’ve ever had the privilege of listening to

I have to say THANK YOU. She breaks it down so easily. She has been an inspiration for me. God bless her

I did not expect to cry. Excellent Ted talk. One of the best I’ve watched in years.

Wow.... Just wow... Now i know how many moments i have missed with my family specially my daughters... I am going to promise them, I am not going to miss anymore ... THANK YOU JANINE, God Bless You.

Wow. I’m speechless. This is absolutely incredible. You are an amazing story teller- and had be captivated from the very first minute to the very end. Thank you!!!

Brought me to tears thank you for telling your story and giving knowledge

Janine , Thank you for sharing your expertise and your vulnerablity with us when talking about your momma.💗 You're mom is truly a hero ❤️

as an autistic person, i do all of these entirely naturally. yes, a lot of these things can be essential for finding criminals, but many neurodivergent people display these traits with no guilt behind them at all

@redsloane879

3 жыл бұрын

She's specifically talking about her time working with murderers and their body language..... naturally 'regular' ppl may react differently or the same depending on context.

@averyjoycelynbarakudablock4139

Жыл бұрын

@@redsloane879 Absolutely .Thank you.🌱 I find this to be a key point.

I don't really know the right words to use, but honestly, this was my best Ted talk so far. I've not come across such information before, thank you , I really appreciate.

Great video. I am a sales associate at JCP, and will use ESL to detect a thief. I can call a AP and they will watch the suspect. And I will use her tools in my social life. Thanks, Janine.

This is one of the best Ted talk! It took all the flick of an eye. The message coveys depths of knowledge!

The shoulder shrug thing...makes so much sense. I have spoken to/met/sat in interviews with criminal defendants/possible accomplices and often wondered why so many of these ppl were twitchy. I just thought maybe it’s overall discomfort or a neurological tick developed from long term/past drug use, etc. Which all could still be true, but now I think it’s part due to them hiding something and having a parasympathetic response to nervousness or selecting info to present, etc. Interesting talk.

One of the best and most useful Ted talks I’ve ever heard!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Hands down the best Ted Talk I have ever watched. I laughed, I cried, I learned ... wow, amazing speaker.

Janine Driver, you are an amazing speaker !!! Thank you for all this life saving information. Please let us know how your mom is doing. I was so happy you talked to the doctor and the truth surfaced. Your mom was so relieved. Keeping her in my prayers !!!!🌷

Take a shot everytime she says "ESL, Everybody's Second Language." awesome talk but damn she loves saying that.

@thisismichellelynne

4 жыл бұрын

she says it so that you will remember!!! Eye blocking Shoulder shrugging lip hiding. You'll never forget :)

@xxwintermoonxx1528

4 жыл бұрын

Its her brand so of course

@tabithamunduru3073

3 жыл бұрын

There’s nothing to take a shot over......the purpose of repeating the word is to imprint it in your brain

@Dani-ICU-RN

3 жыл бұрын

Lol. And-now we won't forget it Like writing your spelling words 10x each in 1st grade..lol...we do ASL too♡..we can hear everything in silence

I admire your courage to show emotion in your talks and to keep talking, it feels like your talking to me not at me and its so more engaging and memorable. These ESL lessons are interesting. I'm very visual and purposefully block my own eyes to stop overwhelm. I see too much.

Just incredible! Bless you and your mother!

Talks from her heart. Eye opening!!

@Darkphoenix3450

4 жыл бұрын

she is a con who steals people money by telling you what you want to hear.

was I the only one who noticed she could make her voice tremble on cue?

@mjbates9624

4 жыл бұрын

Motivational speakers are highly trained and great performers

@mstarr4812

4 жыл бұрын

No- and yes-BUT - if you watch her Mom in the interview, they do the same thing- I have noticed this trait with a few people - you will see it if you look for it- it is genuine, we are culturally trained in this way

@ogmma7364

4 жыл бұрын

All part of the act.. sociopath

@yvonnerich1514

4 жыл бұрын

I do not feel it was an act at all. The love she has for her Mother is real. Can you not tear up today by talking about someone you love that died many years ago? I sure can and I am not "acting". Either way...I would give her the grace to assume it is legitimate. I think she is awesome!

@ladysteel6019

4 жыл бұрын

She was feeling her words...

Esl a whole new outlook on life i really appreciate this. Its going to help me a whole load more, a bigger evaluation other than based on a sisth sense. Thankyou Janine

I'm obsessed with Janine!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽