"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone, it's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel alone" - Robin Williams

@lewisbale1

3 жыл бұрын

True, that's how my marriage has been, I filed for divorce!

@navywoman7709

3 жыл бұрын

So true!

@gdean6002

2 жыл бұрын

@@navywoman7709 he killed himself not a good example LOL

@navywoman7709

2 жыл бұрын

@@gdean6002 ...think it was his payback time to make “them” feel alone... RIP and lol in heaven Mr. Williams!

@michaelrobinson3871

2 жыл бұрын

Well put

I once asked a 94 year old woman if she was lonely living alone - she said - there are a lot worse things than living alone - and one of them is living with a person you don't like.

@jamesmehay3494

3 жыл бұрын

O

@danielasterling6936

3 жыл бұрын

SAN CARLOS DE BARILOCHE USHUAIA A R G E N T I N A

@acortez1004

3 жыл бұрын

I know the feeling.

@CarolinHauser

3 жыл бұрын

so true

@oneofmanybychance2742

3 жыл бұрын

That speaks for me.

"Men in a sexless marriage cheat to remain in that marriage, Women cheat to get out of it". Profound.

@vetracer217

Жыл бұрын

That's so funny... I've concluded (through the years) that a bad man doesn't leave a good woman, but a bad woman will leave a good man!

@Watchmewatch5752

Жыл бұрын

@@vetracer217 Morality never heals hurtfulness

@johnbobson1557

Жыл бұрын

@@vetracer217 Actually Eddie I think many men these days don't bother with Western women at all. I think in the USA they call it MGTOW. Other than for children or a visa, marriage isn't actually worth it. In the end I married a lady from SE Asia and the transformation from the years of demanding Western women was like switching a light on! Jesus, married 16 years now and my wife wakes me up with a massage and I get a breakfast menu!! If I even try to help in the house I'm thrown out!

@cherylween4973

Жыл бұрын

My mum didn't do that

@cherylween4973

Жыл бұрын

@@vetracer217 a bad man may not leave a good woman but they treat women badly!

Been married 19 years and we still do it 3-4x a week. I can’t get enough of my husband. Ever. Give it to me every day. Love it.

@carloscanziani1644

Жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏

@AidanTheLoverBoyOhDwyer

Жыл бұрын

why are you here then ma ' am

@sarawhite5136

Жыл бұрын

Boredom lol

@steveng1624

Жыл бұрын

That's awesome !!

@craigskinner6747

Жыл бұрын

You're a bloody nymphomaniac Mam👍good on you

Being with someone that makes you feel alone, is worse than actually being alone.

@ashsteatime9407

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

@rachelwilliams1971

4 жыл бұрын

Correct

@lostinspacerobinson1527

4 жыл бұрын

So true ..... I hate that feeling .

@StartingOverSingleAgain

4 жыл бұрын

Absolutely. Lately it feels just fine with his being gone because I was alone for a year before he left.

@cliffordpatin3960

4 жыл бұрын

Jesse Peterson very true

There is no more lonely feeling in the world than being needed for what you can provide and being unwanted for who you are.

@BigBossIvan

3 жыл бұрын

That’s painfully well written.

@LulaRoberts

3 жыл бұрын

There's no way the words to this sentence could be written any other way. POWERFULLY WRITTEN 🤔🤨.

@RubysBoxers

3 жыл бұрын

Aside from being a good woman and not being able to find a WHOLE man.... because he has spent years with bad women....

@alyssaoconnor

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed and also being needed for what you can provide and the person who tells you they love you not even looking/seeing who you are (it’s not even on their radar to even look/ask/seek) also is pretty lonely.

@shaivyasrivastava4217

3 жыл бұрын

How true 👍

Not always the women. My ex was always tired, busy, "not tonight" ,etc ... as a woman I was embarrassed to talk about this for years because I thought. When I finally discussed it with friends, I discovered many of my girlfriends were experiencing the same thing. It's not always just the women.

@princesschelsea1558

Жыл бұрын

THIS!

@anonymousslave6521

Жыл бұрын

Just 99% of the time it is the woman.

@Yeawhateva

Жыл бұрын

Not always but almost always 😬

@TakeOneGoodLookAtYourself

Жыл бұрын

There's always that person pointing to the uno reverse card

@MrsCeCeCooper

Жыл бұрын

Very true!!!

I'm so broken and depressed. This is my marriage for 4 years now. We're two ships passing in the night most days. Most words out of her mouth directed towards me are critical. She loves our children at least. To all the husbands out there going through this but wanting to hold on, you're not alone, even though regularly you may feel like it...

@IPASAustralia

3 ай бұрын

You have just described my life to a tee! But I'm at the two year mark.

@z5m2

3 ай бұрын

@@IPASAustralia hang in there. Stay strong, honorable, and don't give up. I'll probably give counseling a second shot

@IPASAustralia

3 ай бұрын

Good luck to you. We tried counselling, but she said, in no uncertain terms, that in her view counselling is how you work out how to split up... not how to stay together. She is adamant that the marriage is over and that we are together merely for the stability of the children's home life. All the best to you.@@z5m2

@dennisrobinson8008

3 ай бұрын

I'm familiar with that 90% of communication being critical or negative. What is it saying and how to flip it? Doing more and better doesn't help that.

@adamhughes4442

2 ай бұрын

Went through the exact same situation. Stayed in the marriage for as long as I could for the sake of our children, who are my world! I ended it eventually. 5 years on, with joint custody, I still cry over it!!!!!

Better to be single wishing you were married than married wishing you were single - just my two cents.

@themoneypromethod465

5 жыл бұрын

ColGadarby I agree w this

@VS-pr6jg

5 жыл бұрын

You're either married or have been married. Just my two cents.

@rev1ction

5 жыл бұрын

Better to be single and happy with it. Or married and happy with it. Can do that, too.

@iamlegend0000

5 жыл бұрын

Preach.

@ivorysamoan

5 жыл бұрын

@@rev1ction This is the correct response 10/10.

It’s destructive. Single life is better than the feeling of being unwanted and neglected.

@user-hn9fv8jp9c

2 жыл бұрын

I agree

@kbanghart

2 жыл бұрын

So true, and that can lead to abuse.

@pantheraatrox4653

2 жыл бұрын

It's the same analogy as "slow internet is worse than no internet"

@tomcolby5802

2 жыл бұрын

@Jessica B. While it's true that you can experience loneliness and neglect as a single, when you are married, and your partner is cold and distant, you have a real dilemma. Customary marriage protocol precludes your ability to seek out alternate companionship, and/or lovers. If your wife is attentive enough to demand fidelity, but slips into cold and distant for a great portion of the day, and acts like you are just a chore... Like being affectionate is a duty... Then it would be so much better to be single. At least, as a single, you feel as if you have some control over your emotional future.

@rhondasisco-cleveland2665

2 жыл бұрын

Is it, though?

Better than most comedians out there. Perfectly elegant in her delivery with a touch of cheek. She’s an excellent speaker.

If you're getting nowhere with your partner, and you are just over it, tell them. Propose parting ways. If they want to make it work, agree on a schedule, and honor it. If they can't change, don't look back. Happiness is out there. You aren't getting any younger.

@lisacormier2237

Жыл бұрын

Big problem there. Nobody wants to talk about what’s going on.

@shedparker

6 ай бұрын

Most ppl are parting ways, which is why the divorce rate is so high.

@ckosasih

4 ай бұрын

talk it first then think lol

@tomlehr861

3 ай бұрын

Till death do us part

Q: what’s worst then sleeping alone in your bed? A: laying next to someone in bed and have no physical interaction at all.

@peterscholte300

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I know that feeling all too well.

@llee8325

3 жыл бұрын

Laying next to someone whose heart is not open to you as a person.

@VinodKumar-yu6vf

3 жыл бұрын

Sleeping alone is good at least we have vacated space

@54lex

3 жыл бұрын

So true. Post menopausal in women is a killer in marriages. Many a night I cry with my spouse next to me. You get tired of the rejection.

@darcy5823

3 жыл бұрын

I'm in that place. I can relate so much 🙁

I am leaving a 17-year sexless marriage because she just 'did not have time for it'. She worked a part-time job at 15 hours a week but seemed to be busy quite often and 'fall asleep' when I would come to bed. I gave 100% into the marriage and she put 0% into the marriage, concentrating on what she wanted instead of our relationship. She is still angry I filed for divorce. I am past caring. It is time to find someone who will love me and not just use my resources.

@EmilyBltz

2 жыл бұрын

Jow much house work did you do- resentment can add up even if she only had a part time job.

@wilmaz7035

Жыл бұрын

You should do it long time ago . I’m just happy for you

@paigeturner4763

Жыл бұрын

Same!

@saws-bl9cq

Жыл бұрын

@@EmilyBltz exactly my question, especially when he says ""not just use my resources". I'm guessing there's a lot of unpaid labor there, possibly including lion's share of parenting. She likely gave up her career to lift his up and now is left in a financial desert b/c of it

@Skywatchers

Жыл бұрын

You did the right thing. First thing I notice in unhappy marriages is they start complaining about not getting any. Next thing you know they are divorced. I’m with you, I would want the person I’m with to want me as much as I want them. ✌️

Connected to the internet! Honestly, the number of times I’ve seen couples in a restaurant together yet glued to their smart phones.. leaves me glad to be married to myself. And actually I’m taking myself on another extended honeymoon. I’m finally a happily married man.

@jasonwareing905

Жыл бұрын

Go you! I love you attitude!!

Affection Deprivation. I was never loved. Now I'm 34, lonely and very very depressed. When NOBODY touches you and doesn't WANT to touch you, you feel unlovable.

@greeneyesfromohio4103

Жыл бұрын

I was loved and have slept with many women….Yet I still have depression and drink alcohol daily.

@hushanimation2855

Жыл бұрын

@@greeneyesfromohio4103 You slept with many women. That's why you still depressed and drink. Youre carrying jezebel spirits in you. And to think you were a "man" getting "some". All you were doing was wasting time and energy with a bunch of low hanging fruit.

@mizzdacasamoah3160

3 ай бұрын

You can still get touched and still feel unlovable

@faylynsandiego4725

2 ай бұрын

this made me cry. i am this

@Quarterhorse44

Ай бұрын

I can relate.

After 39 years of marriage, I find myself to have a strong desire for my wife. I find her far more interesting at 58 than I found her to be at 19 when we first met. At times it is a struggle to connect just due to so many things going on, but it is all about the commitment. As the husband, I cook, clean, shop and take care of the house. The fact that my wife is not exhausted all the time really helps. In the long run it is a partnership with give and take.

@bt7846

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, well done.

@maureenmcgrath2897

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you have the right recipe!

@dennisrice2763

3 жыл бұрын

That's the way a good marriage works. I brought my wife flowers, did not need an occasion. Would pick up her feet and massage them, or her back and shoulders just to touch her and show her that I cared.

@networth8754

3 жыл бұрын

@@dennisrice2763 Sir, I believe you have found the right formula!

@tngerman

3 жыл бұрын

Beta male

All of it is true. Ending up in a sexless marriage is very lonely. Falling so in love, having a healthy relationship in the beginning and then nothing as time goes on can make a person fall into a depression. Marriage without passion is an empty place to be.

@kristinefaulkner6035

Жыл бұрын

True. Its a sad lonley place.

@lumiya_lumos1423

Жыл бұрын

Well said. I’m only engaged and this is what I am feeling. It has me thinking a lot about if this is something I can live with for the rest of my life.

@Freya778

Жыл бұрын

@@lumiya_lumos1423 Please work on resolving the issues in your relationship before you get married.

@lumiya_lumos1423

Жыл бұрын

@@Freya778 I am in the process of doing so now or moving in with my life. I won’t start out a marriage in a bad place, that’s not wise and I know it.

@awkwardpanda75

Жыл бұрын

@Madonna Hagedorn truth. We’ve been together for 6 years - we haven’t been intimate in 2. I don’t want anyone else; I want THIS man that wants no part of me intimately. We are best friends and have a wonderful relationship outside of that - but living with this secret day in and day out has turned me into someone who hates herself.

This happens to women too. I'm in a sexless marriage, the amount of pain and rejection is unbearable. I thought things would get better, it's been 10 years. 😥

@geetakommu430

Жыл бұрын

Same here

@tieniedutoit4689

Жыл бұрын

Get out now. Don't let that happen with you I'm in 46 years won't gebetter just bumd him.

@toothpasteman3400

Жыл бұрын

@@tieniedutoit4689 well that doesn't sound like good advice although it's not exactly like I would know what good advice is

@lucydendee4111

Жыл бұрын

Soo true most women are living in sexless marriages.

@namastestx

Жыл бұрын

its not going to get better. LEAVE

There’s virtually no intimacy in my marriage, my wife had shown no interest for years on end. Then out of the blue she initiated physical intimacy. But now I cannot be intimate with her. I no longer associate her with physical intimacy. After years of rejection that part of me that found her desirable has died. When I could no longer perform, she got angry at me and accused me of not loving her, I still love her very deeply and need her in my life, but I felt miserable most of the time and started drinking. I’m a happy drunk, but I know it’s not the way to cope and have stopped drinking. I’m still miserable most and just waiting for life to end. It so hard to explain anything to a woman.

@mickgts8402

2 ай бұрын

You gotta get off KZread and get it cracking lol

@undugoo

2 ай бұрын

You have one life to live. ONE. You get to decide if you want the rest of your life to be fulfilled or just be a husk of regret on your deathbed. Like Red said in ShawShank, "Get busy living, or get busy dying." Peace and courage be onto you, brother.

@huhhuhhuh4069

2 ай бұрын

Consider the possibility that your life is more important than your wife's feelings. If you agree with that, then go find a woman who will make you happy. You will die one day (and possibly soon because life is unpredictable). There are no do overs.

@spamcatcher2760

2 ай бұрын

@@undugoo Dude.... Maybe don't use that line. People that have a hard time "getting living" might be take it wrong.

@raymacdonald7519

2 ай бұрын

@@huhhuhhuh4069 Troll

When you’re in love, wonders happens. When you get married, you start wondering what happened.

@willie3528

3 жыл бұрын

That's a good one.

@randolphphillip1817

3 жыл бұрын

Nñ

@mirriamchebet7315

3 жыл бұрын

@cop,don't make me laugh,I see you 🙄👀👀😂😂😂😂

@waseemahmed9890

3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha

@WillysWorld527

3 жыл бұрын

U nailed it.. 😉🤗

I never knew what loneliness is till I got married.

@geraltofrivia__w.w.7513

2 жыл бұрын

very sadd.

@usemyvoice2010

2 жыл бұрын

Wow! That a powerfully sad statement.

@saramatthews7159

2 жыл бұрын

Damn

@compositestudios1204

Жыл бұрын

Very true and powerful statement, unfortunately for me am newly married, my wife changed the first week we got married, it’s like am married to a stranger, she’s moody, never talks,

@user-kb1ur9ky8b

Жыл бұрын

@@compositestudios1204 Ask her why she’s changed.

I've been married for 17 years. We had our kid 5 years later. Long story short, I've been lonely in my marriage for the last 12 years. I'm a great, compassionate guy and a devoted father. I have absolutely no issues with E.D. whatsoever... I mean what I'm a doing wrong here...? Up untill seeing this video, I thought our situation was unique and outside the realm of normalcy... This was a real eye-opening story.

@jjac72

Жыл бұрын

I'm in the same situation bro. Ready to leave but is very hard when you ahve kids

@moremoola

Жыл бұрын

@@jjac72 yeah that's unfortunately not an option. When you have kids, you have to be willing to sacrifice your well-being for their benefit. It's the right thing to do. Hang in there bud. I have for many years and constantly get better offers... Once the kids are gone it'll be our time. Good luck!

@losangelesftw7545

Жыл бұрын

Buahahhahah .. im single with 2 girlfriends and currently talking to 1 more plus the baby mama . Will never marry .. 😁

@inspirationalguy81

4 ай бұрын

Look into her phone. Make sure she hasn't got "friends for benefits".

@danrunner84

Ай бұрын

It’s somewhat common. It’s NOT normal.

I am 72 years old and learned more from this video than I knew. Thank you.

@Argylleagen

21 күн бұрын

Ok boomer. Thanks for ruining the economy

WOW, Maureen! You described my marriage to perfection. I did all the cooking and housework and child care (6 kids) PLUS worked 50 hours a week. But any time I wanted "time" with her, she was "too tired," "too busy with something." or just "not interested." And then after 11 years SHE left me, saying I never did anything with/for her! To top it off, the day after the divorce was finalized by the court, she married the guy she'd been seeing the whole time. Sexless marriage? More a thoughtless, uncaring marriage, I would say.

@erikaltemus2755

2 жыл бұрын

That woman is cruel

@nanga196

2 жыл бұрын

Im a single woman & never comment on this marital issues but yours broke my heart....

@MarkAB2210

2 жыл бұрын

@@nanga196 you single ? How old are you and what do you look like, describe yourself to me and be honest .

@atlantic7949

2 жыл бұрын

I wish you realized all those years that you were a simp. I’m glad you got it now though.

@nanga196

2 жыл бұрын

@@MarkAB2210 im 41

A lot of people get married because of lust not love. They basically confuse the two. Once the lust runs out so does the marriage.

@dawn7685

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@bernardlartims9114

5 жыл бұрын

Spot on

@Android-ds9ie

5 жыл бұрын

Please tell me what if you cannot marry the person you love for instant I loved a girl Unconditionally for some reason I could not marry her I cannot love anyone as much as I did her

@DW-vl2wi

5 жыл бұрын

Wrong way around.

@johnalfano6483

4 жыл бұрын

A big YES to that one

This is the kind of talk that husbands everywhere will say "I wish my wife would hear this." and then resign themselves to knowing she never will. Or want to.

👏👏👏👏👏 love how so honest and truthful You simplify these matters for us to understand.thank you for presenting these issues in a world where people are lost for answers.

I have been married to my wife for twenty eight years. She is gorgeous and I am still crazy about her. I can't say why we have got along so well. We just always do. I think she is the most gorgeous woman in the world. We get along very well in every aspect. I wish the same for everyone

@she_sings_delightful_things

6 жыл бұрын

Hello Wow That's very sweet that you think this way of your wife =) I'm concerned however, because you've only spoke of her outward beauty....is this because of the subject content? Please explain what else you love about her besides the way she looks. I'm curious

@jorgerodriguez4694

6 жыл бұрын

Hello Wow I'm happy to hear that. And thank you for your support.

@CheekyMonkey888

6 жыл бұрын

does she have a single horn growing out of her forehead?

@moeensmr1467

6 жыл бұрын

Hello Wow you are lucky to have a gorgeous wife and you are still crazy about her, but everyone is definitely not like you because I'm the unfortunate person on my marriage and still regretting, and living my life completely sexless and loveless, so that's the reason I'm taking antidepressants from few years but extremely desiring for my favorite great sex, which i never had unfortunately 💘

@louiselove8212

6 жыл бұрын

Hello Wow Amen

When you hear "No" too often, you tend to stop asking, even if you're as helpful as you can be.

@maureenmcgrath2897

4 жыл бұрын

Truth +gary dufala

@kristincooper2949

4 жыл бұрын

Yes

@olandofuller5588

4 жыл бұрын

@@maureenmcgrath2897 so what if money is a factor out of your control, and when you did have an abundance you spent it all on them. Now with no money you're the bad guy cause they have to help.

@scaracci24

4 жыл бұрын

@@kristincooper2949 so what's the solution? in your female opinion

@sarah.8648

4 жыл бұрын

Very true.

I stayed at home to look after our twins from the day they were born until they started school. The house was always clean and tiday and dinner was always cooked. It was me who put the kids to bed most nights. I couldn't have done more while my wife worked as a school teacher. Still wasn't enough. We separated. Not only could I not give any more, I now feel like I can't love another woman. She met someone on a dating site within two years, I've remained single with joint custody of our children, for almost 5 years. Too broken to love again!

@maureenmcgrath2897

2 ай бұрын

You are a gem.

@mokeboi3328

2 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear that

@Brittbrittsanthony

Ай бұрын

Get back up and get out there. 8 billion of us in the world.

Timeless talk that holds up 7 years later! Great stuff, and so true.

@maureenmcgrath2897

2 ай бұрын

Aww.....thank yo so much!! Appreciate that.

This reminds me of something I read in a Dear Abby column years ago: "It's better to be alone than to wish you were."

My ex wife practiced “social distancing “ for years.

@umersaeed6032

4 жыл бұрын

I guess you wont get corona ...from her at least..

@mosesmoloi9114

4 жыл бұрын

She must have known that COVID-19 would need early practice

@kellyfontes7757

4 жыл бұрын

My wife was ahead of her time too with the social distancing.

@kirstontozer-goaspirit61

4 жыл бұрын

I know the feeling lol

@Sharrieff93

4 жыл бұрын

Banjamin Mann LMAO I’m dying man

I love that you share your vast experience so generously in service of humanity. Your sense of humour is fabulous

When I got married, I agreed to fidelity, not celibacy.

I lost my virginity at 18...and I found it again when I got married

@joeb6947

3 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@ghftbh9274

3 жыл бұрын

Yes mate 👍🏾

@lp1823

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏😉

@ayliea3974

3 жыл бұрын

Darkly, sadly funny.

@eduardsragze2496

3 жыл бұрын

Ouch

Sometimes i get more knowledge in comment section than the video itself.

@maureenmcgrath2897

3 жыл бұрын

ME too!

@greylove2064

3 жыл бұрын

Almost always

@elrickpenn

3 жыл бұрын

... On God !!! .. So true ...

@mournerlisa6025

3 жыл бұрын

I came here specifically for the comments.

@lanranedward7868

3 жыл бұрын

​@@maureenmcgrath2897 i got more knowledge from the comments you caused to arise after your replies , Irony, Thank you for the Great TED Talk that year you really made me make a huge jump in my thinking towards women thank you Lady Maureen McGrath

The most painful thing is to live with someone who you can't communicate or you are not enjoyed with

I live alone now but I am not lonely. When I slept next to my wife who had no interest I felt terribly lonely.

Sooner or later you just get tired of begging for attention .

@mimesthaisilva8321

4 жыл бұрын

If this is the case, better file for a divorce.

@slickwilly6868

4 жыл бұрын

@ferkemall what dummy gives their wife access to his account

@PDZ2028

4 жыл бұрын

And you end up having an affair.

@masmith0512

4 жыл бұрын

David maybe you do . I’d rather go fishing

@bubblygumm2634

4 жыл бұрын

Goes for both sides. No one - man or woman - wants to be unseen in their individual needs.

Better to be happy alone than to be married and miserable

@12B4Christ

4 жыл бұрын

Married is fully satisfying - if you are mates as God designed a relationship to be. The Bible describes this love and how a husband should treat his wife, and how she should treat her husband. Its not 50/50 effort. Its 100/100 percent effort, at a minimum. Are you all in, or just a part timer is the question....

@joetotin8665

4 жыл бұрын

Better unhappy alone!!!!!!

@anonimous2451

4 жыл бұрын

Being Alone is statistically proven to cause you to die younger. Which one is really the answer? 12B4Christ has the answer

@stephenclare8760

4 жыл бұрын

@Stephen Trapnell Exactly, I was reading all the objections from lonely people and your comment was refreshing.

@Africasgreatest

4 жыл бұрын

I disagree. Marriage is a roller-coaster. It has it up and downs. Been alone is just sad

Was married for over 20 years- after moving 1,000 miles to her ailing parents' hometown and making great sacrifices to help her help them in every way I could, it became too much and she had no energy for 'us' anymore: after her mother, her father, our child, and her troubles with family. What was supposed to be a temporary situation turned into decades of living in a location that was a slow death for my career. Lost the house where we moved from, and struggled financially the whole time.. Be very careful about how much you put into any relationship- there can come a point where it can become ruinous. She then took 'revenge' by distancing herself from me physically, and chasing every old boyfriend she could find. I am free of this, at last.

@sophiasmythe6221

Жыл бұрын

Almost 24 years, living in my husbands hometown, which I hate, so I sympathize. He's pretended to be "sleeping" for 12 years. Much luck for a brighter future for you! Here's hoping I can get to mine

@ktkt1825

Жыл бұрын

@@sophiasmythe6221 I am still in her hometown (she's left!) but more accepting which has helped me find aspects which are good for me- those exist. We are free to choose- set your sail.

@icedteagames

Жыл бұрын

@@ktkt1825 I know how you feel as she chased old boyfriends the entire marriage. Find things that make you happy 😃

@ktkt1825

Жыл бұрын

@@icedteagames Thanks- day by day, I'm moving ahead, taking good care of myself finally.

When is the last time you saw someone give an hour long talk/ speech from memory? She is clearly an accomplished speaker, this was enjoyable to watch for that reason alone, says so much about the world we live in, where real skills are scarce.

@forwardrecording1445

Жыл бұрын

Lol they have multiple teleprompters at Ted x. Good speakers practice their speech and use them loosely

The poor want to be rich...The rich want to be happy...The single want to be married...and the married want to be dead: Ann Landers

@amanimascara

4 жыл бұрын

No satisfaction 🤣🤣

@whisper2162

3 жыл бұрын

LOL

@frankig222

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@marybiro9233

3 жыл бұрын

Prefer poverty to riches during VIRUS crisis....so many rich are fearful and I suspect hoarding like my RWC ( rich white Christian ) evangelical conservative Christian sister used to do before Y2k

@thebaggirl1

3 жыл бұрын

Lol this is so true

"You are more likely to die from loneliness than from alcoholism or excessive eating." Wow.

@pogodanaprzygode

3 жыл бұрын

Good news! Finally, I feel free to drink alcohol :)

@princesslene55

3 жыл бұрын

@@pogodanaprzygode lol

@mzzim

3 жыл бұрын

Not me, I love myself. I’m smarter, wiser and have more common sense, and I spend wisely. Don’t be thinking someone else can fix you, or love you like your mother loved you, ain’t gonna happen, read all these comments. I think half these people would be better off getting a wonderful pet, like a dog, that you can walk to the park and get to meet and know other dog walkers. It worked for me.But I’m staying single, liking my own company, I get to watch what I want on TV, shop without sitting and waiting, or standing holding packages. Being single is cheaper. Lots of women even are doing more solo travel these days. Have fun, get to know you in the process.

@ralphbuttawitz6945

3 жыл бұрын

GOOD I'm 99 percent there..

@kohtalainenalias

3 жыл бұрын

Rubbish.

If you are have repressed trauma from childhood you will put up with anything rather than face your own internal pain. Of course this is not a conscious decision. You will not know any difference. This applies to many.

It can be so lonely when you get rejected constantly.

@workingman9745

Жыл бұрын

Yes it can Vicki. I was constantly rejected and then my wife told me she was not my wind up doll. So I plainly responded that I wasn't her daddy and I didn't marry her just to raise her. Sad part is now I don't care anymore.

@thewolfdoctor761

Жыл бұрын

@@workingman9745 Get a divorce. I was rejected for 13 years then finally got a divorce. Don't waste any more time in a loveless marriage.

I'm watching this and I'm not even married, lol

@maureenmcgrath2897

7 жыл бұрын

Bravo! +Jack Bravo.

@odin8352

7 жыл бұрын

Jack Bravo 🙋

@willowgrace4796

7 жыл бұрын

Jack Bravo heyyy I mean I'm 14 sooo

@jackbravo2172

7 жыл бұрын

Brookie Perkins Well ok, then you will be ahead of a lot of people on this, lol

@XDhorsecrazyXD

7 жыл бұрын

same.

I have been divorced 40 years. I often dream of some one to love. Then I wake up and remember how happy I am.

@spikeyapplesseashells9233

3 жыл бұрын

that is what matters. being happy

@feliciakidd9358

3 жыл бұрын

Great comment!

@mr.johnrandall8676

3 жыл бұрын

Me too bro.

@angelaferreira5177

3 жыл бұрын

Me too😍

@josemagalhaes2947

3 жыл бұрын

That makes 6 of us :)

Am convinced beyond any doubt that this is one of the best speech I have heard so far. Thank you Maureen for making it so short ,sweet and funny 😄. I want more of this sort please. Can you direct me to the well there of

What an awesome episode. I’m about to go find the one(s) before, and look forward to the coming ones with this guest. Thank you!

I would show my wife this but she will not take the 20 min off Facebook to watch it.

@maureenmcgrath2897

7 жыл бұрын

Case closed. +Steven Lopez

@CuiBap2

7 жыл бұрын

Steven Lopez post it on her Facebook

@maureenmcgrath2897

7 жыл бұрын

Good one! Chris Nguyen

@eatnosenuggets

7 жыл бұрын

Maybe she's Facebooking old flames.

@timy.4818

7 жыл бұрын

Steven OMG ! My wife is the same way !!!!!!!!

Alone is the worst when you are married

@heatherdanielle85

4 жыл бұрын

Henry Arrey truth

@krissander1

4 жыл бұрын

I feel what you are saying

@hjsigcjj3

4 жыл бұрын

As of jan _24_ 20 Getting divorce. Now I am super lonely but hey i am alone. This time

@krissander1

4 жыл бұрын

@@hjsigcjj3 I hope better times are ahead of you

@tuliptracker

4 жыл бұрын

Henry Arrey I don’t know what to say should you be congratulations or condolence But i hope you find happiness

I tried talking about this with my wife (we’re Latino) it did not go so well haha, but we’ll get through it. Thanks for having this conversation, I think it’s really important. - Man on the couch

@maureenmcgrath2897

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome! Best of luck to you.

@realamericannegro977

Жыл бұрын

Time to leave

Wow....couples make love 58 times a year? That would be my definition of heaven at this point 🤣🤣

@ozonzechibudike4293

10 ай бұрын

Swears🤣🤣🤣

"Only about 7% of married couples set the sheets ablaze." That hit deep, its powerful...

@chrisbuesnell3428

2 жыл бұрын

We wash our sheets. Silly to burn them.

@omeratayilmaz9493

2 жыл бұрын

@@chrisbuesnell3428 KASDKKASDKKXAKD

@nahoga

2 жыл бұрын

WOOOOOW

@chris532008

Жыл бұрын

that high?

@realamericannegro977

Жыл бұрын

Thats sad and depressing

I'm 56 years old. Been divorced for over 12 years. After this TED talk, I'm glad I'm single and don't have to deal with the stresses of a sexless marriage!

@samuelnjenga1086

3 жыл бұрын

Are you happy

@cyee2802

3 жыл бұрын

Are you happy..I feel like either way we always chasing sth...like in life..

@hardwiredtoselfdestruction3401

3 жыл бұрын

@@samuelnjenga1086 More money, peace and freedom. Of course he's happy.

@MarkJones-gt2qd

3 жыл бұрын

@@hardwiredtoselfdestruction3401 Divorcees are generally poorer, apparently. But at least what you have is your own, I guess.

@hardwiredtoselfdestruction3401

3 жыл бұрын

@@MarkJones-gt2qd Lol, false news. Im a divorcee now 18 years. Im not rich but far from poor lol

"Better to be single and lonely than married and miserable".

Well done …great speech and I love that she was promoting marriage …🙏🏾

@jackporter5708

9 ай бұрын

Great talk. So true.

My grandmother was from the old country she used to say the day after you marry someone you wake up with someone else.

@KnowTheLedge888

4 жыл бұрын

We men definitely wake up to someone different

@33ladyRAM

4 жыл бұрын

wow...THAT is some reall @%#$%!

@filsolano5465

4 жыл бұрын

John T. Smith pure words of wisdom!

@aegyo9272

4 жыл бұрын

Probably because of the make up?

@ISa-jy8ol

4 жыл бұрын

@@aegyo9272 nope....try again

I’m 21 years married. There are sometimes bumps in the road, kids, work, fatigue etc. but its still like our honeymoon when we do bond together

@CarolinHauser

3 жыл бұрын

that is awesome!!!

@glennjohn1388

2 жыл бұрын

thats the way you might feel

@augustajones7224

2 жыл бұрын

I can only speak for myself, my husband and I loved each other more the longer we were together and to the day he died. I do not understand how some one can get and speak for what happens between people that they have no idea what happens in other people's life.

@patricesilva8004

2 жыл бұрын

That's cute keep it alive

@kahuipaewai6448

2 жыл бұрын

@@augustajones7224 j

Love this!! So enlightening. Puts so much into perspective.

@maureenmcgrath2897

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Amber!

'You are more likely to die from loneliness than from obesity and excessive alcohol consumption'. Great statement.

Being married for 25 years I can pass on this chunk of wisdom. Two people working together as a team can bring rewards beyond explanation. Give each other space to be individuals.

@angelablackthorne3026

4 жыл бұрын

You're saying it's worth being celibate to have a good partnership? You must be asexual.

@lrherrel

3 жыл бұрын

YES! space!I wanted to "Space" my EX wife many times in 25 years! lol

@sylpra09

3 жыл бұрын

Nice comment.

@philipbenhardb.velasco369

3 жыл бұрын

How did you guys address your individual ego’s?

@Thaharim

3 жыл бұрын

Great insight, thanks!

I should play the content of this video three times a day to my roommate, sorry I mean my wife!!!!!

@adoumoru5034

5 жыл бұрын

Thats if they ever listen

@ANACOSTIA2010

5 жыл бұрын

fernando g. aguirre 😂😂😂😂

@vickrichardson819

5 жыл бұрын

You meant roommate.I had one 18 yrs.

@delusionaltantan6855

5 жыл бұрын

Good to know I’m not the only one saying it

@siphiwemabuya

5 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha

Superb! What a joy to absorb her intellect and words of wisdom.

Thank you for this conference!!!

I wear underpants in the shower because it’s wrong to look down on the unemployed.

@aiahzohar5636

3 жыл бұрын

HA! :)

@fazbell

3 жыл бұрын

Can't stop laughing.

@INECKSNAP

3 жыл бұрын

U win!!!

@mittastudio4112

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@axelaortiz9523

3 жыл бұрын

Good one 😂😂😂

16:45 The idea that men cheat to stay in a marriage and women cheat to leave one is really profound and I don’t think we talk enough about it.

@robertfisher2844

2 жыл бұрын

How true it would save a hole lot of heart acke on both sides and a lot of money in divorce fees .couples are meant to talk and try resolve there issues if they can

@kristibell30

2 жыл бұрын

I've experienced and seen the opposite. Some people are just monkeys -have to have another branch to hold on to before they can let go

@snwdwg1

2 жыл бұрын

Women cheat so they can be discovered and end the marriage, men cheat so he can appear to be in a happy marriage

@tpilot_error404

2 жыл бұрын

I tell you , coming home with a disease ( a cheating side effect ) isn't gonna safe a marriage. Communication is.

@susanjones5654

2 жыл бұрын

So much unnecessary shame and embarrassment often needs one or both to get off their sanctimonious high horse.However when you put up with a person treating you badly for a long time it then becomes your problem for putting up with it.Young people think relationships are easy they aren't and decent people are rare.What is the shame in working less hours or taking a slightly low grade of responsibility if it means saving your marriage?Pathetic, a longer for baby and a decent man.Prepared to throw it all away because of some proxy so called career.People have got their priorities wrong.

Rather be happily alone than miserable with the wrong person.

Amazing Maureen, you nailed this subject.

Couldn’t live like that - I’m 52 and my wife is 57 (still attractive and has a good body) been married for 27 years and are at it like rabbits, she bangs like a barn door in a storm. We can’t get enough of each other- love her to bits and it gets better every time. She’s amazing and my best friend and a great cook too. I couldn’t stay in a sexless marriage - no way!

@whit3powd3r

5 жыл бұрын

I envy u.

@GabrielArchangel

5 жыл бұрын

Life goal there.

@tomkelly8827

5 жыл бұрын

So it is possible!

@bencrosbie

5 жыл бұрын

Brilliant 👍🏼

@inoneo8252

5 жыл бұрын

More couples need to be like you two it would fix so many problems love is a lost art and many have become either prudish to the point of lunacy or giving it all to everyone instead of someone special... Your comment gives me hope!

Dont be in a failed marriage. Don't punish yourself for the other person's incompatibility ! YOU OWN YOUR OWN HAPPINESS !

@MarkJones-gt2qd

3 жыл бұрын

Good advice, until you have a family....

@tiffanynot-amused9077

3 жыл бұрын

I seriously needed to hear that.

@anthonysargeist8292

3 жыл бұрын

💯. Agree

@meda3654

3 жыл бұрын

Not easy at all

@oliverrafikki901

2 жыл бұрын

Simple, but thank you for that truth.🙏

My husband has no interest. Theres been absolutely nothing for over 4 months and in that time it was my birthday and our anniversary (decided to just say nothing and see how long it would be before he mentioned anything, well 4 months and nothing)and before that i was lucky to get it once ever 6-8 weeks. Over the past few years, 99% of the time it was me who initiated it. Some times he'd say he was tired, wait till tomorrow night etc. Once he asked and i said not tonight and he was visibly shocked as i never said no before. I joked and said "refusal often offends, doesn't it?" i only said no because i wanted to see his reaction. I'm beyond frustrated at this stage and feel lonely while lying beside my husband every night. I have zero interest in going to be with anyone else and i wouldn't mind but he even says I'm unreal, that i do things that blow his mind and he doesnt know how i do it but still nothing 😢 i know it has to be my fault though. He was away last night and was going to text to say i wanted it but decided not to cause probably wouldn't happen anyway and honestly i could have cried.

@user-fw1wd2gb1w

5 ай бұрын

I know exactly what you are going through because I have gone through it. Your husband exhibits traits of an asexual. I know because my wife is asexual. May I offer a suggestion? Enter "Am I asexual quiz" into any search engine. (I used Google) Take 2 or 3 of the quizzes for your husband. Answer truthfully. You should know how he would answer. I suggest you take the quizzes too. (My wife refused to take the quiz which is why I did it for her) If the results indicate that he is asexual you should educate yourself about asexuality. (Wikipedia has an excellent explanation) If you apply everything you learn about it to your entire relationship it will explain everything. It certainly did for me. It wont change anything but, most importantly, you will realize that you are not the problem. Good luck.

@EriqHawkins

5 ай бұрын

Please don't blame yourself

Very inspiring and interesting speech. You raise a topic undermining many couples I know, if not all after 7-8 years of mariage…

Sexless marriage sounds like cellmates, not soulmates.

@dorianwelch3869

3 жыл бұрын

Bob Gillis Radio!, Keep it down . People got to get up early in the morning! No response.

@georgetheodoridis3857

3 жыл бұрын

"Cellmates!" Spot on!

@skael1258

3 жыл бұрын

I feel sorry for you and your partner that you think so.

@ladabe4979

3 жыл бұрын

This deserves top comment.

@mudchair16

3 жыл бұрын

Fornication almost always leads to instability in a relationship. This has been known for literally a few thousand years.

I was celibate for five years, then I got divorced.

@SIR__________

6 жыл бұрын

haaaaaaaaahahahahahaha!

@timgreen4137

6 жыл бұрын

rick777888 I've been celibate for 14 years now. Maybe I should get divorced too.

@RigobertoMartinez07

6 жыл бұрын

Tim Green maybe you should be a man and work it out.

@timgreen4137

6 жыл бұрын

Rigo Martinez Maybe you weren't brought up to understand that when a woman says "no", that means no.

@victormilligan8526

6 жыл бұрын

Tim Greenberg is not

What a great talk! I thoroughly enjoyed it.

@GeorgeMorgan6600

8 ай бұрын

@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?

Instead of the video, I'm reading The comments :D

@PsychoSiKS

5 жыл бұрын

Same here

@babblingbrookc.8659

5 жыл бұрын

Same!!😂😂😂😂

@MrRudesaint

5 жыл бұрын

Trust we are all here lol

@bernardlartims9114

5 жыл бұрын

@@MrRudesaint same here lol , the comments are pretty interesting

@michaelheery7427

5 жыл бұрын

Why do i have to read all this.

This was my problem!!!!!! "I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone, it's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel alone"

@okellobob6361

2 жыл бұрын

Yap

After 25 years with the same person I have to say that it takes two people working to get what both want. I still look at my wife with the love and lust I had in my twenties but it’s completely wasted. We talk about why things are this way every three months for years. She will not be intellectually honest about her feelings. She shows no passion. She does nothing to create romance or intimacy. We’re roommates raising kids. It breeds so much resentment. She’s preventing me from being fulfilled. While I beg her to tell me what she’s missing. Half the time she wants time alone. Some times I just wish I was single. I love her but I wish I could have my 22 year old girlfriend back. I don’t need a roommate.

@paulsimonsson

Жыл бұрын

That's painful to hear, and somewhat close to my own experience. If she is unwilling to discuss and agree for a solution, you have to ask yourself if this is a person you wish to commit your life to. A one-sided relationship is not healthy.

@Pawdee

Жыл бұрын

Read Rolle Tomassi's 'The Rational Male' - you can't negotiate intimacy.

@mke3053

Жыл бұрын

Só true

@patoshannessy3775

Жыл бұрын

I hear ya.

@jeffgreen7499

Жыл бұрын

Are we married to the same person? All the same except we aren't raising kids, instead we have 2 cats. Aside from that dullness of our marriage I have a very wonderful life.

I’m so lonely and depressed in my marriage. At this point, it’s my faith and God’s grace only that’s kept me sane.

@jeffgreen7499

Жыл бұрын

Same here.

@wacheragikonyo3690

Жыл бұрын

Same here .He betrayed me once even after being a good woman to him .We got back together but it has never been the same

@brigittelaurent2874

9 ай бұрын

Me too

@LeahLaTour-wc3kk

Ай бұрын

I hope this year you talk to your other half and take steps to feel whole. I will pray you feel God's grace in your journey.

"Life's greatest desire is to LOVE and be LOVED" - Hesiod (750 BC)

@kamarassakka9922

4 жыл бұрын

nope, give me money and take all your love for all i care

@cristian-mariusstana2682

3 жыл бұрын

Falls

@aprillovejoy4567

3 жыл бұрын

It is better to have loved than to have not loved at all.

@Lioness_Es

3 жыл бұрын

Kamara 😂🤣 I'll take the money and good health too!

@twangbarfly

3 жыл бұрын

@@aprillovejoy4567 "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all......"

I hate how much of this is true in my life.

@bobby3787

4 жыл бұрын

It's true in everybody's life because you can't eat the same dish everyday.

@superbreastman

4 жыл бұрын

Be happy man, you are not ALONE...the team is growing 🤣🤣🤣

@alanbarriga77

4 жыл бұрын

Mgtow

@debradodd2535

4 жыл бұрын

Lorenzo Catalano haha!!!

@DocGreenePrivate

4 жыл бұрын

sir nimbus take the “Love Dare”

Right on Maureen, good show, perfect way to explain the problem.

@maureenmcgrath2897

Жыл бұрын

Why thank you very much @larrylorimer3065

WHAT??? This is all shocking to me. Married since I was 19 to the same man for 40 years. Things have been rockin' and rollin' all this time and especially those early years. Literally, I had NO idea this was a problem for so many couples.

@shedparker

6 ай бұрын

When you consider an overload of multiple partners before marriage, unresolved childhood trauma (including nolestation), lack of self-development, poor communication/conflict resolution skills, etc., I’m not surprised.

@forkthepork

6 ай бұрын

You must not have many married friends...

@dawnstrohm6982

6 ай бұрын

@@forkthepork wrong!!! Almost all of my friends are married. So sorry you are missing out.

@forkthepork

6 ай бұрын

@@dawnstrohm6982 Statistically, 25% of your friends are lying to you. Simple as that.

Shout out to my wife of 38 years. She loves me and takes care of me always. Feeling grateful 😍

@maureenmcgrath2897

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome!

@elstoniobanderas4091

3 жыл бұрын

DO you still do it?

@spikeyapplesseashells9233

3 жыл бұрын

well done to you both . shows u also a team that love eachother.

@teresarenee3829

3 жыл бұрын

It takes two...😉

@drewbranch7700

3 жыл бұрын

You lucky bugger,congratulations!

the 3 rings of marriage - the engagement ring, the wedding ring and the suffering!

@c.j.9248

5 жыл бұрын

Amen brother!

@charlesbosse6035

5 жыл бұрын

Mike Stand Oh, man!!!

@Mike-G777

5 жыл бұрын

PEACE THAT'S REAL TALK

@bibi-nakoriwafula5108

5 жыл бұрын

Mike Stand 🤣🤣🤣

@toluplanb1584

5 жыл бұрын

😅😅😅😅😅

Que aula Magna, foi um excelente aprendizado.

Great talk. Informative and entertaining!

Being told to "Sort yourself out, it is only friction" week after week, month after month really riled me. So much for the warmth, closeness and connection of a intimate relationship. The result was animosity, emptiness and the complete loss of self worth.

@waltergeorge9617

3 жыл бұрын

Andrew, Was Her name, Diane

@waltergeorge9617

3 жыл бұрын

It was ?

@waltergeorge9617

3 жыл бұрын

@Oldie But Goodie Indeed and Agreed 👍

@ws678ta

3 жыл бұрын

@Oldie But Goodie Yes ! Rent it is right ! You have it ALL that way ! Legalize !

@robbiestoly5795

2 жыл бұрын

Me too. Me too. It hurts. But if I leave CA law will screw me financially. I’ve found my hand again. It’s better than nothing. 😔

I once was the happiest man in the world. Overnight, she changed. Now, I the loneliest. My right hand is now my wife.

@maureenmcgrath2897

5 жыл бұрын

It happens. Not uncommon. +barski1960thomas

@U094326

5 жыл бұрын

Get help

@joejones5837

5 жыл бұрын

@@U094326

@Network-jw1jd

5 жыл бұрын

Mine found religion and became a zealot within a few months..

@mr.t3321

5 жыл бұрын

GO GET SOME SIDE

The last line was most wonderful!

I enjoyed her lecture and will definitely share it with others. Thank you

@user-le1vx9rd4q

Жыл бұрын

Are you married

@lightghost7524

10 ай бұрын

Share it with femceIs lmao

Trust me, this isnt just a mans problem, there are women out there turning purple out of frustration because their men arent interested

@maureenmcgrath2897

4 жыл бұрын

So true +Kelly McGinniss

@thankfully1202

3 жыл бұрын

I wish the speaker dealt with the female not getting her needs met more because a man that is not interested or can't keep it up leaves us with little recourse but a man that has a woman not interested she can still be there for him to get his needs met whether she is interested or not.

@andysawyer647

3 жыл бұрын

@@thankfully1202 unfortunately, I doubt that meets his needs regardless of because he is aware that its not wanted

@thankfully1202

3 жыл бұрын

@@andysawyer647 the point was he at least has an avenue. A woman has none.

@rahmanforever

3 жыл бұрын

Amen sister! I can relate to all the men and the few women who are vocal about this being an issue.

I am married and absolutely happy and satisfied in every sense of the word. The bottom line is, be with someone who you are compatible with. Stop looking for someone you are not.

@luigidragonborn

2 жыл бұрын

question : as the years ago by...do you see your wife (I am assuming is a wife) as pretty as you did the first day? if not, how has your "love" changed? I have always wondered if couples truly in love see each other as beautiful as the first date?

@kevinmurray9367

2 жыл бұрын

@@luigidragonbornlol, your assumption is correct. She is an adorable wife. The truth is, change is inevitable. So is growth. However, as she grows physically and otherwise, her true self and inner beauty remain. That's what makes the difference. She is still the same person I fell in love with and our love keeps growing STRONGER as the days go by. What we do as a couple is that we keep dating, we plan weekly and monthly activities, publicly affirm and support each other's goals and aspirations, and keep the fire burning etc. Be honest and transparent, communicate and commit to each other. That's what works for us. Be blessed!

@narcssuckass

Жыл бұрын

Being treated right

@rociosanwisch4450

Жыл бұрын

I am so freaking confused about the meaning of marriage. Honestly

@freedomlifestyle8571

Жыл бұрын

How long have you been married is the question

Great talk .. sad but true .. totally spot on

I'm 62 and never got married. No regrets.

Amazing talk. Women also feel the rejection in a relationship. Nobody should stay in a sexless, loveless relationship 🥰🥰

@jeffreyolufemi8074

2 жыл бұрын

We do have it twice in a year ,is crazy

@bexsh3207

2 жыл бұрын

@QualityRockProductions troll.

@robbob96

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. When you’re open to make changes and put their needs in front of yours. But they don’t have enough care or desire to make it better in any way or level

@leonardenyanhakeem8757

2 жыл бұрын

💯

@primrose369

2 жыл бұрын

@@jeffreyolufemi8074 ure not alone