How To See Past What Drives You Nuts | Janine Marie Driver | TEDxWilmington
Before she can tell us how to see past what drives us nuts, Driver tells us about two important things -- that we are all in fact judgmental, and that we often suffer from inattentional blindness. Such circumstances can make us feel crazy. How do we get around it? Movement pattern analysis. Each of us has a fingerprint. Those who understand the system can tell a great deal about people by watching them move. But we can also use it. As Driver tells us, whenever something is driving her nuts, she now wiggles. It is a movement from early childhood, and one CANNOT be angry when one is wiggling. This, she tells us, can save you headaches, and more importantly, friends.
Janine Driver’s mission is to INSPIRE people to look at their world in a different way. Janine is the New York Times Best Selling author of You Say More Than You Think, and more recently You Can’t Lie To Me, award-winning keynote speaker, and body language expert for NBC’s TODAY Show. Janine is the CEO and founder of the Body Language Institute and the elite division called the Decision Profiling Group.
Janine and the Body Language Institute have helped Fortune 500 clients become examples of the total leader, which ultimately led them to win millions of dollars in new business contracts.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
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I love watching & listening to her. she's effective, knowledgeable and entertaining.
@johnlynch575
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah she is. She's GOOD
@davidvanwinkle5033
Жыл бұрын
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Jeanne Driver is a powerhouse. She provides people with the tools needed to navigate tough situations. Though I cannot promise you that you will WIN every time. I CAN PROMISE that you will be a better version of yourself. More aware, stronger, faster version of whoever you were before Jeanne blessed you!
Surprised to say I love this lady. Humor and intellect goes a long way. Job well done.
OH MY GAWD I LOVE this lady Saving to favorites
Everybody has their own style and merit in their own presentation, superfluous yet here we are listening to this woman. The learning curve is all that we go through and boy, Janine has gone through a lot of evolution. One of the best aspects of her presentations I see is the ability to get the audience's attention to whatever the heck she might be trying to say. Truly she is one of the speakers who increases one's attention span unless we may have inattentional blindness or just about a bit judgmental as I sometimes am. Thanks, Janine.
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10 ай бұрын
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10 ай бұрын
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Wonderful, inspiring talk that could change lives. That wiggle could also be called "pattern interrupt". What a fun way to do it. Thank you, Janine Marie Driver!!!
Her outro brought me to tears. Powerful words. Her talks are amazing.
Janine is the only speaker i open my notes app for when i'm listening to. She drops gems everytime!
@user-tb5xs9qk9n
23 күн бұрын
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@user-tb5xs9qk9n
23 күн бұрын
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She's one of the best, if not "the" best speakers I've heard in a long time. How to hold an audience.
@AragonaAlessandro
Жыл бұрын
I agree
FANTASTIC TALKS THIS LADY HAS ONLINE!!!! DEEEEEP GRATITUDE from Belgium, Europe 🙏🙏🙏
I live this woman!!😘 She made me cry, laugh and Google new topic ls in 15 minutes!! 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
Janine, your voice when talking about your mom and the embezzeler. : ( If it's any consolation, Scott Rouse has a blindsided story that he's shared as well. Thank you so much for sharing then and also for your teaching today with Lena Sisco. Thank you!! : )
I love this woman, she is so wise!
Yay! Janine! Thank you so much! On a Zoom I'll tell you how much this 'resonates' with me today. Talking with my mom whose ghosted me for 3 years. Heavy and happy time : ) Thank you so much!!!!
Wow! That was awesome! This lady is amazing. how mesmerising!!
I like the way to give your word across to help people. You are BEAUTIFUL women of God. God bless you. I trust our HEAVENLY FATHER to watch over you and protect and guide you in all your ways, i pray the LORD protection over your children's as you take your time to educate the public about wicked people.
So glad I found this! You really need to listen!
more more more more!!! Janine you're amazing! I want more info on movement pattern analysis !!!
You are wonderful. Who would have ever thought, I will do this from now on because not only is it funny but it makes people wonder.
Janine, you are my current guru. I share your videos, this one and the 5 words to get what you want, video as thank you gifts when potential clients and patients share their valuable time and vulnerability with me. Your NH accent along with your attitude make it fun to share this stuff! Thank you.
Very uplifting and focused ideas to implement today!
This is wonderful. Thank you so much for putting it into words.
What a great talk! Definitely want to dig deeper into this topic
Thank you Janine. I had a great time watching you.
When you are willing to help yourself, the world will pound down your door to cheer you on...
@wondafaith8621
4 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@rubylimey7614
3 жыл бұрын
Truth!
Omg Janine.. my mom wiggled too! and she lived with cancer for 15 years.
You are amazing, your talks are so powerful. I love your delivery.
Thank you Janine so much for all you entertaining and helpful tips.
I like this! Never thought about a lot of these things. You are amazing!
Janine, I love your speech so much. You remind me of my boss who is always entertaining and teaching at the same time. 😅
Love this lady/ teaching with stories, humor and really important things to say..,..helpful god bless her
Loved this talk very informative and insightful.
This was great! Loved her energy
she's gives the best Ted Talks
Bravo Janine...I loved this...so insightful,and enjoyable...and I learned some new things...and I might just incorporate that wiggle in my life...thank you!!!
Great, great, great! Love the wiggle thought. Going to implement. Thank you.
Janine, you are awesome!! Your "wiggle" came at the right time in my life. Thanks for a whole new way of looking at things!!
Your amazing and I can see that you have gotten so healthy since this ❤️ thank you for your wisdom beautiful soul
Love you, Janine!
Janine I love you!!!! Thankyou 💗
Wow! very powerful, insightful, and motivational speaker! love her and her wiggle;)
Love this woman!
Thank you Janine! Love this wiggle idea! ;)
Wow! Wiggling away all anger ❤️😘 Thank you Much ❤️
Loved this
Fun lady! Great perspective. And, yes, I will try the wiggle.
What an eye opening gift you just shared with those willing to watch and to listen. By the end of this presentation, I instinctively knew what my "wiggle" has always been. I thought I had somehow lost it, but it's still right where I left it. I needed this in more ways at this stage of my life than I can put into words. Perspective is everything. That's justna stone cold fact. Thanks so much Janine for sharing this! The more you know... You're a gem! ❤ ~ APRIL LIPKE
touche! excellent talk. thanks
She has a lot of ted talks I always love when she talks
Great TT Janine thank you!!
@mijuajua4820
5 жыл бұрын
Also, watch listen to the video of the song by 2 in a room singing “Wiggle It”😁 This should be the theme song for the Wiggle it movement! My ex use to say a little humor adds some levity when things get too serious and getting angry could ruin things. 😄
The remote control. 🤣 Hey guys just wiggle.
This is awesome
Fantastic! I really needed this today! I hope you feel the love and the hope too : )
You are so amazing!🙏
Now I know I'll wiggle my way into solutions and happiness. And effectively change my world, our world, is the same world.
You are Awesome Janine!!! I love your wiggling miracle!!!
Thank you so much!!! I feel like my children have decided to make me “Crazy” yet it’s their way of not having to see what they are doing . I have examined, re-examined also being a parent I have accepted all blame . This has brought a lot of shame as well as being Stuck!!! I am there for them at all times rain or shine . Yet, I do have anxiety so maybe what they are picking up on something I’m not seeing ? Yet I am losing my children to something I wish I knew what it was that I am doing ? I’ve decided to put facts above emotions . Still I am wrong ? “I would love to know better to do better”
@sweetmissypetuniawilson9206
3 жыл бұрын
My guess would be that they are teens. If so, the loss is temporary. Don't worry, they'll be back.
@buzoff4642
3 жыл бұрын
Respect is a two way street, and kids know when they're not respected. (Do you explain, or do you dictate? Are they 15 and still have the responsibilities and privileges of a 5 year old? Habituate yourself: "Happy Birthday! You're new privileges are ..., your new responsibilities are ..." Respect is a two way street, and kids know when you don't demand respect for yourself. (Ignore me unless/until I'm yelling, because there are zero consequences to ignoring me, unless/until I'm yelling.)
@rubylimey7614
3 жыл бұрын
Listen to them....my sis had 5 an each birthday they had a one one time to get her full attention an discuss anything... Dont beat yourself up an dont stop communicating with them. Prayer also works. GOD BLESS YOU ❤
@JacyndaMinor
7 ай бұрын
Kids aren’t that complex. I guarantee it’s not about you. It sounds like they are teens and you need to get some hobbies (edited for typos)
@andreahunter2471
5 ай бұрын
You wrote this four years ago. What is the current status of your relationships with your children? Did you learn something better, and did things get better because you did better? Still a work in progress, perhaps? The variables that our children are exposed to, whether it be the way mom or a teacher or the world at large chose to interact, makes it hard to guarantee a positive outcome. But I hope you found a good way to wiggle out of your fears and crazy emotions to find that you were not losing them afterall. But either way, if you see this comment, I feel you and would benefit to know what four years of life has brought.
Amazing!
Love her!!
That's a beautiful soul
This woman is Awesome.
So funny - at 11:32 she said ... one of these people who get so mad at you, they come at you at a "diagonal." LOL
The amazing janine 👑
brilliant
Wonderful and I love you and your mommas wiggle♡♡
What a concept ...
YOU GO GIRL!!🥳💖💖👏👏👏😘
Love this gal!
LOVE! I so so get this.
Amazing
I'm quickly becoming a fan
Thank you. Your mother's wiggle is beautiful.
Love it.....I'm down for a little wiggling. I may look silly but my 6 year old will get a laugh.
I just got up and wiggled a little bit! Janine, you're awesome!
I absolutely love her , funny and smart as well being a good hearted woman, God based , knowing God’s so important, God Bless you @Janine 🦋✝️🦋
Wiggle 😍 I sooo dearly needed to hear that
Janine is so inspiring!
Or knowing what produces love to release the area and the impact of the message to the death of feeling angry to the pain only one impact on the addicted theory is that Spirit of the love of God is so good to hear from the time we get together inside and know how believing God in faith and trust in the inner strength in doing the things never did before
4:29 YAH me too. I lost my' dignity' in front of oakdale elementary. That's a regret I live with.
I love her
OMG! You are knowledgeable and hilarious.
ty i forgave !!!!
So Janine, when someone says they have "decided" to.... it's no definitive; when someone uses an "ly" word push them to get what you want; "because" it the right action to take to improve your life and the life of other.
@Mary200692
4 жыл бұрын
Checkmate, my friend 😂
wiggle, sister, wiggle!
14:19 I am going to try wriggling when I'm pissed off.
@madsubhash
2 жыл бұрын
You can't wiggle all the time
@johnlynch575
2 жыл бұрын
@@madsubhash that is why I game (video gamer) better than drug addiction, helps with anger, and nobody dies...except for that one guy...smoking
“Bra-ER” rescue... lol 😂... I love it
:45 dude! I knew when from another video she said "wicked" I KNEW!
😊 Lovely - this made me think of my dear mum who had a similar journey. 'Wiggle on'
Ahhhh ❤️
Yup. I need to wiggle more.
I wonder if perhaps we ‘assess’ more than ‘judge’? Im seeing assessment as due diligence, perhaps the word judgement has recently come to mean something like absolute righteous declaration?
She's a hoot. Wish I knew about the wiggle when my dad was alive...
Absolutely love it! Let me wiggle!!!
Ohhhhhh I love dat wiggle!
Isn’t this the FBI body language how to spot a liar TEDtalk lady ?
@apacur
4 жыл бұрын
yes
@dixiechampagne2892
4 жыл бұрын
Pamela Meyer, who wrote Liespotting, has a TedTalk as well
@erinmarquis6626
4 жыл бұрын
She lost a lot of weight!!
@margaretsteensland7997
3 жыл бұрын
My channel fbi body language
@izawarszawska
3 жыл бұрын
@@erinmarquis6626 I think she was pregnant then or just before and just after with her 2 youngest boys.
Got me at the wiggle, Janine. Then you pulled out the hammer with that video of your mom. I will NEVER, EVER forget the WIGGLE.
36 billion moving pattern behaviors? No way. Impossible to count them in a lifetime, much less examine them all. Luv the wiggle, tho!
My girls do the wiggle!!
She’s right about us making judgements all the time, but being judgmental has more of a connotative implication of being condemning.
Unfortunately? So still apply pressure?