In simple terms: Be Relentless... Sometimes simply being persistent and not giving up, gives you the results you want.

@TheKhopesh

4 жыл бұрын

Don't be relentless, be tactfully persistent. Relentless implies a confrontational aggressiveness.

@SerenityEscapes

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheKhopesh Ah yes, well said

@robyndismon394

4 жыл бұрын

@@TheKhopesh I disagree completely.

@SerenityEscapes

4 жыл бұрын

@@jacquelinel1618 😅

@liebejill

3 жыл бұрын

I liked this talk very much but she made it sound like we can even negotiate with science.

This lecture changed my life. There was something I wanted that I thought I couldn't get; I thought it was written in stone that I WOULD NOT GET IT. It seemed IMPOSSIBLE. Even though it was very important to me, I gave up on it. But then I came across this TED talk, and realized that my NO started with the words “well, typically...” So I pushed, and pushed, and pushed. And...I got it!!!!!! 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

@nadiamagdalena2712

3 жыл бұрын

Well what is it?!😮❗❓

@anandalux4774

3 жыл бұрын

Nadia Magdalena it’s a bit of a long story and very personal. I left this comment to encourage anyone who sees this to apply the lesson of the lecture to anything in their life they want to achieve, but might think it’s impossible. With the right perseverance ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. 🙌🏾

@purplefunkything7514

3 жыл бұрын

Ananda Lux I’m going to use this like you have - encouraging to read that this has helped others change their life 🦋

@slimetime7611

3 жыл бұрын

yayy:)) good for u, glad u learned something and glad u got what u wanted!

@samsara-summermooncomehome5881

3 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 I hope it made you very happy💗

Since no one else has taken the initiative to reveal the five words, here they are: "Decidedly Because Changes What Was."

@ROB7002

Жыл бұрын

wat

@JoeHamilton-ms9qb

11 ай бұрын

If ur not being honest BECAUSE you DECIDED to CHANGE WHAT WAS said..Ill know too late

@michellewilson9545

11 ай бұрын

⁠

@Krankyism

9 ай бұрын

Its so funny that those are the words 😂

@Cats_HolisticCatMom

7 ай бұрын

Huh?

Just in case someone is in the same boat: I had trouble getting engaged into this Ted talk and almost clicked out. A comment here said that this talk changed their life, so I skipped ahead. I definitely will say the perspective offered here over the "typically, because, changes what was" is brilliant and worth a listen, even if it's just the way you receive insight over how you use or interpret those words. When the speaker gets comfortable with the audience and into her own skin, she's absolutely captivating. Thank you for the insight!

@nikilee5535

Жыл бұрын

I found her hard to follow until the end. She mixed a lot of metaphors making her point a bit confusing. However, now I will always listen for 'decided,' the 'l y' words, and 'because.'

@juliecayer6342

Жыл бұрын

True she's good at what she does

@juliecayer6342

Жыл бұрын

Life always happens !?

@reginafromrio

7 ай бұрын

Yep, I'm at 5:08 and already tapping out. Not engaging.. Thank you for your comment!

@DJK-cq2uy

25 күн бұрын

​@reginafromrio big deal!!! Who the H cares u 🤪 😂

For everyone confused, the words are "Decided(ly" and other "ly" words of which she listed 3) and "because". (For people reading this before watching the video, I don't do it justice in the least. If you actually want the empowering effects of these words I suggest you still watch the video and just keep this explanation in mind for a clearer understanding while viewing ☺.) Decidedly Normally Usually Typically (and other like words such as ordinarily, unfortunately, sadly and alternatively) These are the "open door" words. "Because" is the word you use to open that door and get what you want even when people are using the first four words as an excuse to not give you what you want. "Decided(ly) because changes what was" is supposed to mean "decidedly *+* because changes what was" as in using *"because"* against people who use *"decidedly"* *changes* *what* the previous "decision" *was.*

@earleneh.4457

2 жыл бұрын

YOU absolutely broke it down for me. The light bulb went off when I read your comment. Perhaps seeing it in written form helped. Thank you for getting it, breaking it down and sharing it for the "slow people in the back"- like myself. Lol

@spirituallyawoke5569

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much this helps with note taking

@Lorant1984

Жыл бұрын

"Because changes what decidedly was!" Makes more sense to me.

@adiconstantin4598

19 күн бұрын

They say: DECIDED/ ... ly word: NORMALLY/ TYPICALLY/ USUALLY/ etc. ==> The door is 2% open 😃 You say: BECAUSE 1...& BECAUSE 2... & ... BECAUSE n... ==> You open the door 100% !!! 👏 PS: for me, your cause must be fair

This is true. A group of professionals ‘decided’ I had to pay a large amount of money I supposedly owed them. Everyone refused to take my call from that department. All I wanted was for them to listen and understand my situation. I did not accept that decision. I wrote and talked to every politician I could think of to question it. Guess what? They listened and agreed that I did not have to pay that amount. The decision was changed in my favour. It took a lot longer than I expected but I succeeded. Decisions can be changed. It just depends on how much you want it to be changed and what you are prepared to do to get what you want.

@grace-shantif2073

Жыл бұрын

BRILLIANT. Inspiring YOU following your Inner Guidance 🙂

@mugen8studios

Жыл бұрын

cheap! but smart! =]

I am dying….our daughter is now 34 and she was also the relentless child that you spoke of! She would ask for a cookie then I would share with her the reasons why she couldn’t It was too close to dinner She already had ice cream earlier We were getting ready for bed and she had already brushed her teeth….on and on!! Well if she just wore me out I would say “yes!! Have the cookie”. Her response was always “may I have two”?. That kid is grown and still knows how to get what she wants in business and her personal life!! First time to hear you!! Blessings from Texas!

I think I managed to found my own company and lead it only due to this amazing talk that I listened first like 2 years ago! Thank you so much for shaping my way of communicating and getting what I want, not agreeing to first thing I hear ❤

Don’t wait until 50 for things to just magically work out without you being proactive. NOTHING works out without participation. Begin to MOVE! This video has opened my eyes to see that I have been spending life sitting on the side lines. Nothing is written in stone and everything is negotiable. Period.

@Pessia88

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, this is the right way

@j.3779

Жыл бұрын

Even with 50 you can still do things and change stuff!!

@olir6910

Жыл бұрын

Why stop at 50? Not written in stone anywhere that you must give up at 50

@j.3779

Жыл бұрын

@@olir6910 exactly. Often those big steps are happening after 50. Still going enough to learn, study.. Work. Everything.

@kosalax

Жыл бұрын

@@j.3779 Dz

People like her are what Ted Talks are supposed to be where it’s told in a way that entertains while at the same time teaches.

@DeuceGenius

2 жыл бұрын

should be more about the ideas than entertainment.

@dawnieb.7394

2 жыл бұрын

@@DeuceGenius not entertainment in the typical sense. It's more about personality and how someone speaks to and interacts with an audience. It's what makes the difference when you take a class with a professor who can teach a difficult subject in a way that gets students enthused and interested, or the way a presenter at a business meeting can keep everyone engaged in a day-long seminar. You don't want the person who speaks in a monotone or hasn't at least taken one public speaking course to be holding you captive in your seat. You need someone with a little personality, a little bit of liveliness, even if the topic is a very serious one. Otherwise people will reach for their phones or doze off.

@playertherapper

Жыл бұрын

@@heavypizza True, TEDx has a smaller audience and is local. They also have to be licensed by Ted, and anyone who has a license can host them with speakers who are not necessarily field experts.

@patriot20000

Жыл бұрын

@@dawnieb.7394 And a few laughs are always welcome!

I heard this, once - "Five birds are sitting on a wire. Three decide to fly south. How many birds are left on the wire? Answer: Five birds. No one said the three actually flew away."

I’ve always thought of myself as the exception to every rule and because of that I’ve never stopped pressing. This is a great talk, maybe we should all think we are exceptions all the time and not settle ❤

I'll *probably* forget most of what she said by next week, but I'm still glad I *decided* to watch this, *because* I found that ketchup cup hack very useful.

@waking-tokindness5952

3 жыл бұрын

To Bri Terry: --- But now, _because_ of your high-spirited creation of such a neatly summary comment, your previous low-spirited _decision_ (to let yourself forget about most here re this precious life-door-opener) is almost certain-_ly_ being averted, enabling after-all some higher potential future for you & yours to be happening by now.

@sharlottafalls

3 жыл бұрын

Nah, you learned your lesson🤣🤣🤣

@dedwinx8040

3 жыл бұрын

Why not take notes on it am implicate the things you learn in Ted Talks into your life, just imagine if all the little things you learned you began adding to ur life instead of learning about it for entertainment then forgetting it.

@katherinewilson1853

3 жыл бұрын

​@@KENNETHTXMMA Adverbs used correctly are rare. Adverbs are used incorrectly quite often. They are overused in modern English, in order to convey a sense of, "maybe," rather than being more precise. Hence her current ability to gauge others' use of them as a frame of mind.

@sabrinamarie4380

3 жыл бұрын

You probabLY can remember because you have not executed that decision.

I just used your advice to go from a 2% raise to a 4% raise because I deserved it! Thank you :-)

@GxsrLuv

2 жыл бұрын

Just go ask

@laurenragle5228

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations, that's wonderful!

The first time I watched this, I might have been a little high: the second time, I was probably drinking, the last two times, I am stone cold sober and finally nailed down the format for me to get back to work from covid non-work. Thank you!! (I'll let you know how it works out)

@DJK-cq2uy

25 күн бұрын

Please don't n say u did.😂goofball

in a while, i have never been emotionally touched by anything “except” this... harboring one's potential not just because “but” because there is certainly a room for it is one of the most ted talks that inspires.

I usually do not leave comments for videos. But because it was so awesome I have decided to do one. At first, I thought why spend 24 minutes on just three words. I give it 4 and see where it goes. Turns out it IS NOT an instructional video. It IS a hands on coaching. Thus 24 minutes well spent. Thank you, Janine.

@kapilcybridge

4 жыл бұрын

Evgeny Minkevich The most important part is after you “Decided “, you actually “Acted on it” ! :)

@katanyajason3316

4 жыл бұрын

@@kapilcybridge Despite the fact that he "usually" doesn't leave comments :D

@starlessmystery6429

4 жыл бұрын

I still don’t get it. I am missing the point of this. I never get what I want and wish I could get it, I mean understand it

@kapilcybridge

4 жыл бұрын

@@starlessmystery6429 He used 2 words that she mentioned in the video. First, "Decided" where Katanya explained that Decided is just in mind but Not Action Taken, so I pointed out that the best thing was that he actually acted on it. Then Katanya pointed out that he used the "Usually" word as well , which means it is something he is ready to compromise with , which he did. He usually do not comment, but he did comment. :D Fun to watch the magic formula working in the comments as well. :)

@kylaleigh8018

4 жыл бұрын

​@@starlessmystery6429 I don't get what I want in life because I have decided that I never get what I want in life. After deciding that I must be missing something, I typically start wishing for something I usually assume I don't possess. I've decided that there's something wrong with me, and typically this is when I discount myself, and don't give myself any credit. Typically, this is a perfect opportunity to ask the question, what do I want in life and how might I be more open to receiving what life has to offer? Usually it can be helpful to ask - What can I give to life because you're stronger and smarter than you think. The willingness you have to ask the question here is a beautiful window through which you might peer into your limitless potential.

If you are watching this talk, make sure you listen to the entire 23 min, she has a valuable lesson by the end. Thank you Jenine.

@moperson1

5 жыл бұрын

i missed it.

@ajmalali5317

4 жыл бұрын

Soha Fontaine Obrigadoh Grazzie

@buck4490

4 жыл бұрын

All the boring stories about her infertility problems..... she needs to learn to get to the point.

@martam518

4 жыл бұрын

Why dont we start watching this ted talk from the end? Thanks fir the clue.

@jaelthegreat

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you because I'm listening and bless her hear but I'm not getting the point.

I keep telling my family, when they make plans that involve me without my consent, or when they use my property without permission, "...I decided that we..." "...I decided that your..." are not acceptable options.

I was waiting to find out if the most powerful five word phrase to get your outcome would make an appearance. In the final minute, I smiled and said "Ahh, there it is!" "Would you be willing to?" Bravo!

I remember a few years ago deciding you don’t have to be “lead” or “controlled” in a negotiation or conflict resolution. The mind set is to not give up your position, get control, and keep it. State your case ultimately convincing others to get what you want. Do the Dog whisperer (calm and assertive) Put your fears and manners aside, go over their heads, make your argument. What have you got to lose.

I get it. I've negotiated for virtually everything I've wanted, and have achieved 100percent. My Parents did a great job with me.

@dana102083

2 жыл бұрын

There's always more to do..

@aparnabhatia5072

Жыл бұрын

@myklmusic how did u negotiate for virtually everything? It's not possible to get everything in life, u have to give in sometimes. Some people are stuck up, stubborn to the core, have OCD, or other mental health issues, u cannot negotiate with them. I have been trying to negotiate with my x-hubby who is egotistical, for the past 7 years and no luck plus I have a sister who suffers from schizophrenia and a brother who is stubborn too. Pls, share your negotiation strategies, they will be helpful for all of us. We wouldn't need the legal system if could negotiate for everything in life.

Jeanne Driver is a powerhouse. She provides people with the tools needed to navigate tough situations. Though I cannot promise you that you will WIN every time. I CAN PROMISE that you will be a better version of yourself. More aware, stronger, faster version of whoever you were before Jeanne blessed you!

Thank you Janine! Exactly what I needed to hear today. You are amazing

I normally don't leave comments but I decided I will this time. I am having a hard time understanding why people leave comments bashing things. Some constructive criticism could be helpful but outright slamming somebody doesn't seem helpful to anyone. If you looked at this video you were seeking something if it was only entertainment this is a government interrogator telling you information how to make negotiations go more your way. The bottom line is to be more of a critical thinker and not just accept what somebody is telling you

@Mrs_Yvonne_Afreh

5 жыл бұрын

Mike Qeetus Excellent

@TheRealJanineDriver

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Mike!!! My Mom raised me with the belief that "Hurt people, hurt people." So when I see that someone has taken the time to not only continue watching a talk they don't like, but they then throw away more of their life, putting hate here, I send some love their way. When people say mean things to anyone, it's a way of getting "Significance," which is a basic human need, so I say a silent prayer asking that they learn to walk away from something that doesn't fill them up and get their Significance through finding love and joy.

@ameliarodriguezvisconti3674

5 жыл бұрын

Constructive criticism or no posting. We who appreciate those with courage to speak in front of thousands of people in order to help others live better, do not want to hear negativity.

@MaryannMarshall

5 жыл бұрын

@@TheRealJanineDriver Thank you for this. It is a great approach.

@jeanfoley3266

5 жыл бұрын

Janine Driver 👊¡¡¡¡

Normally I don't watch an entire youtube video, because they are typically unstimulating, but because she makes compelling and interesting arguments I decided to watch it through.

@elizabethk6658

Жыл бұрын

I see what you did there!

@Corinthians-kjv

Жыл бұрын

You decided?

Clawing to be better equipped to communicate what I want and this talk literally spelled it out for me, THANK YOU!!!!

This is freaking phenomenal. I would pay to hear her speak or take her classes. No LY words involved.

Janine. Love your story. I too struggled with infertility due to age. I used an egg doner + my husband. It was still the early days of the procedure. They are twin boy and girl, Seniors in High School. I gave birth at 46. They are the greatest gift from God.

@katekate8973

3 жыл бұрын

Blessings for you and your family

@littledancingfawn

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome! But I feel bad for your children this year. They missed so much or it wasn’t what it was supposed to be like ( prom, senior trip, graduation etc). 😥

@redwoodrebelgirl3010

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations! God bless you, your children, & your family, always. 💗

This had me in tears right at the end. What she’s teaching us is amazing! Thank you, for sharing!

@traceycollins8101

Жыл бұрын

me too!

@melfitch2088

Жыл бұрын

So weird because I teared up when she introduced her 3 sons...

brilliant! "decidedly, because, changes what was"

This is a good talk. I don't *typically* expect much from "power words", but this isn't the typical kind of talk about words to use for persuasion. Instead, Ms. Driver teaches us to challenge the way we hear some words and not let those words be the ends of conversations that could have had more potential...which is of course a person's *own* potential, and the entire trick is to get past the words that might hinder that potential and stop your progress. I think this is something really powerful for anyone who senses that they aren't really typical, usual, average, ordinary, etc. and wants to live genuinely. I'll probably still use -ly words, but I'll try to use them a-typically and keep an eye out for what can be done extraordinarily.

@migi7787

Жыл бұрын

I share same your point of view, was just reading through the comments to see if I am wrong...

O my God! This woman was blowing my mind for straight 24 minutes, I have decided to rewatch this again, usually I don't do that, because not everything is this much interesting. You rock Jeanine.

@JaysonT1

3 жыл бұрын

...you DECIDED to rewatch it, did you?

@madsubhash

2 жыл бұрын

@@JaysonT1 he's joking he also used the ly word

@robertdaem2315

2 жыл бұрын

Put the setting speed at 1.5 decidedly less time

@jillh2186

2 жыл бұрын

Because……😊

@willstrongnovastar6955

2 жыл бұрын

This is no woman >

I'm italian and I've just realized how powerful is the word "because" in english. We don't have such a multitool in italian, because we have to use a plethora of words to cover all its possible uses

@blueclover9918

3 жыл бұрын

And you used "because" already

@Lcab-bh3wx

3 жыл бұрын

@@blueclover9918 no wonder Italian have so many hang-ups

@katherinewilson1853

3 жыл бұрын

Interesting. I'm fascinated by the types of words now. Thank you for sharing.

@othmane-mezian

3 жыл бұрын

Ma perche??

@Ani-cm4cs

3 жыл бұрын

...pero

I happened onto this TEDx talk and all I can say is amazing. Worth every minute of your time!

I have been a leader and in leadership my whole life. I will complete a national leadership certification this October on top of all of my other leadership credentials. THIS twenty minutes is icing, cherry, whip cream on top! Love it. I am going to follow Janine, read her books, and never accept or use decided or LY again! What a great name too, "Driver."

It boils down to how badly do I want something. If I don't care that much, I'll let it go. If it's critical to my happiness or wellbeing, I keep going until I get whatever IT is.

@riobrasilsambashowssambist1453

2 жыл бұрын

Versus how much pain or suffering u might have to endure. U might want it bad enough, but not enough to endure suffering

I asked for a promotion at Job. Boss told me “is not time to approve it until new year” I answered: well, I dont need to work until new year to do my best every day. What I hear: “Let me give you a resolution in two days”.... two days after ¡¡¡Congratulations you have been promoted!!!

@dshizznitrb3

3 жыл бұрын

if they don't let u in through the door, u get in through the window

@maiaallman4635

3 жыл бұрын

Well done for making it happen!

@mycarpenterfl7096

3 жыл бұрын

danger I've always felt that way . Being self employed the only way your getting paid is to complete contracts and make a happy customer . If it doesn't work one way go another.

@CnithTheOnliestOne

3 жыл бұрын

You must have a nice boss! What I hear from other people is this: If you don't work, you get fired.

@theselector4733

3 жыл бұрын

What a GREAT comeback. U must've been thinking very "quick on your feet" that day.

This is so appropriate for these times. Im watching this for the 3rd time in 3 years

This is one of THE best Ted's I've ever watched. Thank you so much. It somehow lifts the feeling of oppression. I'm so delighted you have your beautiful family. Much love to you 😍🤗💖

Brilliant -- it's another way of not taking no for an answer -- but alerting us to the keywords people use to side step our dreams and goals. Thank you, Janine! My ears will be perked up for the "decided" and LY words.... and I'll be ready with my BECAUSE list next time.

@rickdeckard1075

Жыл бұрын

not "brilliant" at all, she's representative of exactly whats wrong with 21st century HR practices

@marblehead2500

Жыл бұрын

@@rickdeckard1075 can you explain?

@rickdeckard1075

Жыл бұрын

@@marblehead2500 my comment is self-explanatory.

@marblehead2500

Жыл бұрын

@@rickdeckard1075 not as much as you may believe.

@rickdeckard1075

Жыл бұрын

@@marblehead2500 1) watch video 2) collate all information from video 3) this is whats wrong with HR in >2001

Just brilliant Janine. I've always prided myself on seeing reality for what it is, but you made my brain feel like an egg being cracked open for the first time.

Keep coming back to hear Janine Driver somehow at a perfect crossroads time when I need to have tools in my vocabulary to close a deal. Thank you Mrs. Driver.😎

This was hands down the best and most life-altering speaker I have ever listened to. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and for providing this TED talk

@melodioushaste

Жыл бұрын

Sad life, eh?

😳👀🤯 *I'M STILL MIND-BLOWN THAT I'VE BEEN USING WAAAAAY TOO MANY KETCHUP CUPS FOR NOT KNOWING THAT LITTLE FACT!* 🤦‍♀️

@BabyGrlTina34

4 жыл бұрын

P.s. 1 week later, and I have only had to use 1 cup each time during the 4 times I've ate out this week. 😎 (and yes, I'm working on slowing down how many times I eat out weekly! But for now- 🤷‍♀️- convenience)

@conradangel8602

4 жыл бұрын

Same

@danadowning2065

4 жыл бұрын

I'm still watching but all I'm thinking about is who has the paper cups so I can try it....

@kinky_Z

4 жыл бұрын

Don't believe everything you hear in a TED talk.

@tobyvision

4 жыл бұрын

@Anon Ymous They make them that small so that they can fit one million of them in a box for shipping. The restaurants use them because the cups have been around forever and they elicit good memories and associations of quality in older generations. The good news is that they are made of paper, compostable, and extremely material efficient.

Fantastic! I only knew “de-cide” comes from the Latin words “de” away from, and “cido cidere, “ to cut,” so we’re cutting away all possibilities … but this is awesome, you’re totally right that deciding isn’t taking action! Thank you! 🙋‍♂️

I’ve been very persistent in many areas in my life and I “practically” always got what I wanted “because” I negotiated till I was told yes

Wow... very very well done. The beginning I felt was slow but at the end I feel like she crammed so much in, in so little time! Thank you Janine.

I will never look at a tiny ketchup cup the same again. What an amazing lesson for life. Janine you may have just changed millions of lives. Thank you.

Super helpful. Unfortunately Friday my employer said 'we have decided To let you go because the business has taken a hit financially with covid". No wiggle room there.

@gusgrizzel8397

2 жыл бұрын

That's a time to use the 3 words.

This is amazing, thank you Janine! Decided-LY because changes what was. I've been into personal development for years and this was such an amazing, new, novel reframe in my life!

This is a lot more constructive than the 5 words most people use (or imply): "My way or you're dead."

Her introduction was 100...and she knew exactly how to get attention. I fall asleep on most of Ted's speakers. This one is full of energy and smart

@ayeshak6822

2 жыл бұрын

Takes her too long to get to the point. It's freaking pointless.

Stretching our limits means to become uncomfortable. To work harder for it. To prioritize things in a daily schedule, our relationships including those that I call "vampire relationships" draining you of energy (or loading you with negative fields). Words are the most clear ways a human brain can express in any language though the association with the body language can become a better picture. I walked in the shoes of Janine, and asked many uncomfortable questions that made them uneasy from their regular path of what the doctor decided. I severed relationships that did not deserve my money, and continued to choose what I thought it was best for myself. Cleared the way of all negativity in my life, and finding a focus that worth my attention and precious time. This was a beautiful reminder that we all need to be our own advocate. Nobody knows better than we do in our heart what's best for us and what we really want. Best of luck!

@tonywilfred5719

Жыл бұрын

i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world 🙏🌍 I'm originally from Ireland currently living in Key West Florida☀️☀️☀️☀️and you where are you from if i may ask?💭💭

I was raised with this type of thinking. When I was young, I remember people getting frustrated with me when I didn’t take no for an answer. Someone once tried to be cleaver and asked me, “What don’t you understand about the word NO?” I thought for a second and said, “I don’t understand the ‘N’ or the ‘O’ but I can see you do!” She was speechless and never challenged me again...damn it!

There was something about her that I didn’t like right off the bat. When I have that perception, it doesn’t mean that I have let that perception reign. I stayed with it for a minute, and what I got is that she’s very protective of her cards. Who she is doesn’t come out right away, or maybe at all unless you know her. It makes sense. She was law enforcement, and if I spent that much time with unsavoury characters I wouldn’t be all peaches and cream either. I would be protective of myself as well. She offered excellent info. I will watch her other videos as well.

What a brilliant woman! At first she grated on me "but"--another amazing word that is a light flashing which signals "Ignore everything that came before the word--but...she managed to give a masterclass in persuasion in less than 24 minutes. 🎗

First I dissed this, then I gave it a chance. So glad I did. Thank you J.

Excellent. I am now retired but can see clearly 2-3 major turning points in my professional life that could have turned significantly in my favor had I heard this advice. Will most certainly be passing this on to my daughters. And keeping it in mind for my own future. Excellent talk.

What a fabulous talk and at God's perfect timing. Thank you, Janine and bless you and your family.

@lesjf8832

Жыл бұрын

"God's perfect timing". LOL. OMG, you sad little sacks.

@ninclosernin

Жыл бұрын

Your god you worship is actually Satan, that’s the master deception….. or….. maybe don’t just take the word of fictional characters

@1stdomco

Жыл бұрын

She said God created the earth in 7 days. It was 6 the way I remember it.

@louisaisthankful4603

Жыл бұрын

@@1stdomco Relax. He did create the seventh day for rest.

@ProTechSecurityInc

4 ай бұрын

He typically decided on six days but for purposes unbeknownst he changed his mind to add the seventh day for rest on this occasion.

What an outstanding and timely message. I absolutely love Janine Driver’s delivery and style. I wish this message was available 30 years ago, but it’s never too late to apply her wisdom.

There have been many times in my life where I have pushed at the wrong times and relented when I should have pushed. Thank you Janine, I’ll keep this in mind

I love that her husbands name was "Lee" (LY). That is funny right there. Dam good speech. I love it. Great story and glad you had your 3 children.

Outstanding message. One of the best I ever listened to. Thank you.

Fantastic observation! Great metaphor! I agree with Mike Qeetus, we should more often to use ctitical and independent thinking, especially at the doctor's offices. Too many people agree with an authority! I am alive because I decided how to battle the cancer my way!

@tovahromanov7414

3 жыл бұрын

Mazel Tov! Masters Nurse and I can’t tell you how many times I legally have to shut my mouth and I want to scream RUN! There ARE OTHER SOLUTIONS THAT WONT KILL YOU BEFORE CANCER DOES! I’m so very very very happy for you!♥️♥️♥️♥️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@chinita505

3 жыл бұрын

Y

@littledancingfawn

3 жыл бұрын

Tovah Romanov why won’t they tell people all the options? Smh. I believe most all doctors start out as really great people/doctors, but somewhere down the line they start caring less about people. What happened to that oath? Sheesh.

@bonitainthekitchen6032

Жыл бұрын

Same here, the doctor put me in medicine and I asked for the minimum dose, kept going with my natural herbs and meditation, then he asked What I was doing because it was shrinking and I told the doctor I was just doing my herbal medicine and meditation and no medicine so he wasn’t shocked to know that I haven’t been taking the chemo medicine for a year but my tumor is shrinking. I am Sooo happy, the only side effects is some pain

@tonygosbee3390

Жыл бұрын

@@bonitainthekitchen6032 God bless u. I will rather die than to take chemo. CHemo kills 96%. There is a wealth of info on Google, nowadays. Don't blindly listen to authority. Doctors can only tell u what they are taught in med. school. They will lose their licenses if they tell u otherwise even if they knew it will cure u.

So when someone says "decided", than sure their are options from which something is chosen to be decided..and when there are options, there is room for negotiation..👍

Great points! Life will never be the same again. I’m listening out for these -ly words.

Wow, that was powerful and opened up so many avenues in my thought processes. This is practical knowledge that can be put into practice immediately.

@tonywilfred5719

Жыл бұрын

i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world 🙏🌍 I'm originally from Ireland currently living in Key West Florida☀️☀️☀️☀️and you where are you from if i may ask?💭💭

Beautiful way of making people understand. Really appreciate the time and efforts.

So powerful! Thanks for giving us tips to be bold and go after what we want and not take soft responses of disapproval.

If I don't ask for what I want....who else does it effect? Great question!!

@butyoulooksohealthy-fibrom920

2 жыл бұрын

I am chronically ill and have been housebound lately. I am going to use this from now on when I deal with my doctors because this affects my husband. He has do to do everything when I am bedridden for days at a time due to lack of proper medical care in finding out what is wrong with me.

I have done it and I am proud of myself for not giving up for the NO answer .I felt that it was wrong to refuse to let children to go to PGL simply because some people do not want to try .I went to headteacher and I had conversations with her and luckily 50 children will go to PGL next year.Honestly I sleep better because I tried

Brought tears to my eyes on seeing the family photo. What a wonderful ending. So inspirational! Thank-you!

I love her casual style of presentation! It sounds like a talk show rather than a formal discussion. Had me engaged throughout.

The boxes made so much sense. I’m definitely in the researching stage right now, but I hope to move to the middle box sooner than later so I can get to the results box!

Thank you for sharing Janine and Tedx. I'm going to start incorporating these into my daily life. ❤🇮🇪🇺🇸

Rule for getting results: Persistence wears resistance.

@stephanguitar9778

3 жыл бұрын

If you don't get beaten senseless in the process, as I was brought up with. No meant NO! and any further attempts would get a serious beating.

@nishthabhargava378

3 жыл бұрын

@@stephanguitar9778 The closet was fully shut, Suzy! No 2% there. But hey, u tried. Kudos.

@zazu3006

2 жыл бұрын

also this saying could encourage stalkers n other creeps. because on the other hand we repeat ‘no means no’ i wish this was a joke, but i also had a stalker

@turkishdewdrop

Жыл бұрын

Or utter repulsion

Loved it! First time listener. I will listen for these "trigger" words while keeping what I want ahead of me. You kept me captive from beginning to end! Like you said, it's funny how we accept these words differently in everyday conversation. Thank you!

Powerful and clear! Because I want it.... because I can... Because....and yes, interseting as we're telling these "decided Ly" even to ourselves and we aren't clapping the hands at the end of 7 days. Will be in the lookout for them and be open, curious to push the boundary. Love you

You really changed my perspective in the outcomes that life has to offer! Thank you Janine!

@TheRealJanineDriver

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Edwin for your positive comment! Xo, Janine

I legit cried (in a good way) at the end of this vid. Thank you Janine for explaining how easy it can be.

She opened my mind to require my company that I need to be compensated fairly.

That was seriously the most heartfelt story ever. Congratulations on your three beautiful sons and for having perseverance and not giving up. I did know that about the ketchup cup, I find it fascinating. I always like to open them whether or not I need the extra room. Great Ted talk, thank you for sharing.

@tonywilfred5719

Жыл бұрын

i hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness prosperity love and peace 💞❤️🕊️🕊️ all over the world 🙏🌍 I'm originally from Ireland currently living in Key West Florida☀️☀️☀️☀️and you where are you from if i may ask?💭💭

This was pure gold. You are amazing Janine - THANK YOU!

Definitely watch to the end- my eyes teared up involuntarily at her favorite ketchup cup story. It made me realize how many opportunities I may have missed, but now have the tools to not let that happen again. Thank you for this! Just what I needed to hear today.

Thank you for this I am going to watch this several times to make sure I remember to act when I hear the words ......

I reviewed the end of the talk about 5 times because it was worth listening to and because i got an idea how to ask for a raise.

Golly gosh you have me crying tears of joy for you!! Thank you for making me think 'outside of the box'!

Great story! I "generally" push hard to get what I want. Now I will listen for the LY words, and use "because" to frame my argument. Amazing, super interesting.

Thank you because now i know i am going to get my new home overlooking the water with our 2 loving twin Labrador dogs.. happy to swim in the ocean , with my only Son and Bro coming to visit. Brilliant.

Janine that was a real eye opener ,and going watch again until I'm sick I know that was a bit extreme, in other words I'm going let it manifests in one's mind set. You are real P.O.W.E.R.H.O.U.S.E thanks sharing knowledge .Bless you 🙏🏿😇

@samstars9623

Жыл бұрын

This is so need I believe how life changing this is ,and it really work,s

Fabulous talk!! I'm keeping this in my motivation and success playlist to watch again because it was that good. Typically I wouldn't bother. :)

@matthewmathis7050

2 жыл бұрын

I am creating one of these now based on your idea! Share any good ones :-)

Wow, it's like I discovered this in my old age. Learning words that really work. I'm needing this now. What you learned as a child isn't true. Thank you, I so look forward to my next life.

@ConsultingjoeOnline

3 жыл бұрын

Next life... Don't rush things, enjoy life now. :)

@cedricerleward

3 жыл бұрын

Dee Godfrey Just about EVERYTHING you learned in your childhood was NOT true.

If this kind of great content was available 30 years ago, I am *certain* that my life would have been *so much better!!* Better late than never, but to anyone who's in their 20s and 30s, use these strategies to improve the trajectory of your life.

@regalchic

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks we will

you know what, i used to use this with my parents (in my head you never lose hope) and then i grew up and forgot about it, and started taking the decided-ly as final sentence. was so good to hear it again

THIS IS MY BEST KETCHUP CUP STORY! I loved this! I wish I'd have heard this year's ago. Maybe my life would have been so different. This woman is my hero!🙂❣

That was so moving it brought me to tears because there is something I want so bad that I was about to give up fighting for, but now I won't.

@anandalux4774

3 жыл бұрын

Amanda Sutherland Keep pushing!! Don’t give up!! 👍🏾👍🏾🙏🏾

@empressironbladder8942

3 жыл бұрын

Did you keep pushing? Don’t give up, I’m rooting for you!

Oh my God. This speak is exactly what I couldn't get out of my brain more eloquently than I could ever. I'm also a decision profiler. I use quantative data to maintain data integrity.

Thank you Janine … you make so much sense with the little paper ketchup cup, I’ll put it to the test tomorrow with an email I sent to my Human Resources director … I have been waited several days for an answer.

@TheRealJanineDriver

2 жыл бұрын

You got this girl! Xo, Janine

Wow... thank you so much Janine for this talk. It literally changed the way I think about those words now and about how I'm going to respond/act to those words, and also changed the way I think about achieving my goals and getting the things that I want

@TheRealJanineDriver

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Kayla, you go this girl! xo, Janine