Dear younger self, I'm sorry for denying you opportunities because I chose fear over happiness.

@Dark_Abyss375

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my god that is what I’m doing I’m choosing fear over happiness and it is confusing

@starg19

3 жыл бұрын

True. Fear of success. Never really seeing it, so not sure if you are capable of it.

@isee7283

3 жыл бұрын

Dear future self, I hope that overcoming fear and giving trust to my gut worked out for you.

@royal3161

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry myself too.. :(

@YssaMD

2 жыл бұрын

Oh my huhuhu that's where I'm at now unfortunately 😭 and it's scary, i don't know why fear keeps on popping everytime I'm thinking of taking a leap to pursue my dreams. And that's what even sadder.

You really hit me with the "Realists are often just dreamers who got their hearts broken along the way" I call myself a realist :(

@jessaaredidon7435

4 жыл бұрын

Because their dreams are expectations that doesn't meet the reality and lead to a major disappointment. Analyzation comes in with factual basis and they became realist.

@Ma.Basthoris

4 жыл бұрын

That hit home deep in my soul too cause I've always called myself a realist. 😞

@yellowtowels118

4 жыл бұрын

I think that one can only truely call themselves realists once they take out the " :( " in situations. Youre either a dreamer being sook or a pessimist but not a realists. Being a realists means accepting reality without either negative nor positive connotation in existing situations; but rather taking "what is" to what it is.

@user-nb8hd8or2n

4 жыл бұрын

@@yellowtowels118 ط ..

@susanna8612

4 жыл бұрын

SAME

it’s crazy how she managed to start the conversation with a traumatic situation and leaded it to the point of her talk. i love it

@chethakmp3

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! amazing!

@360.Tapestry

2 жыл бұрын

riveting, but a misdirect. it had me ready to hear how she spearheaded the investigation that brought down an international kidnapping scam

@charnjitsingh3365

11 ай бұрын

​@@360.Tapestry what!

@eugenia6356

9 ай бұрын

Sharing personal stories makes a conversation more authentic emotionally, absolutely.

@jean-francoiskener6036

7 ай бұрын

No, it's not. Just connect two ideas.

“Show up. See what the universe will give you. Make a commitment. And know that you can course-correct along the way.” Loved this advice!

@elev8tedspirits

2 жыл бұрын

Eye really appreciate how Eye happened to read this comment JUST as she was saying it, was like double confirmation for me in the moment in what’s been going on for me and why Eye’m watching this video again today. 🤍🙌🏽💫🦋🌹 so needed the reminder both times, at the same time, thank you both.💯🌹🤍

@chethakmp3

2 жыл бұрын

me too! :) you look nice in your profile pic @Beka Firefox

@blue9549

3 ай бұрын

*see what GOD will give you.

"Perfectionism is a mask we all wear when we're afraid of failure." Hits my heart.

@ruo-ye

2 жыл бұрын

:'(

@ruthngobia8064

2 жыл бұрын

True

@kayskreed

2 жыл бұрын

Relatable.

@erichbrough6097

2 жыл бұрын

💯😖

@richiiruu

2 жыл бұрын

Same :(

Me sitting down to get clarity: Self: okay heart, what do we want? Heart: lol I don’t fking know Gut: chicken wings bro

@thatotau7478

3 жыл бұрын

loool

@Johankenzeler

3 жыл бұрын

So true

@Russel.Idrive

3 жыл бұрын

If you dont know what you want. Its beacuse your mind is so busy with comfort things. When I say comfort I mean you should have an achievement. Like getting a good job or starting to have a good body shape. In these caseses you may want to leave your job to start your own business or after a year gym you decided to start boxing lessons and become a boxer. If you don't know what you want to do you just need to do something basic. Then you will figure out how it would be better

@fancyoo8670

3 жыл бұрын

@@Russel.Idrive I'm at an age where comfort is good. I understand growing and learning is important. (Read a book walk in nature make a new recipe.) Especially for the mind but who says we need new bodies or to quit our jobs because those bigger things makes life better .. the problems if America is they're never content. They can't sit still therefore leads to unhappiness from unfulfilled expectations ..we have the most people on antidepressants. It's a crisis

@fancyoo8670

3 жыл бұрын

Gotta learn to enjoy the small things in life ... Tacos lol

9:44 Step 1 - *Self Audit* Ask yourself: What's working? What isn't working? Fear and criticism hold us back. What is something you are afraid to admit to yourself, what is something that you _know_ is true that you wish wasn't? 12:30 Step 2 - *Follow Your Freedom* Follow what feels good to you. But how do you know what feels good to you? "Trust your gut" (way easier said than done) Pay attention to your feelings. Keep a joy journal- make a note of moments that light you up and inspire you. Ask how to connect your inspiration with skill. Because when we are acting through inspiration, there is an absence of fear. 16:30 Step 3 - *Engagement* " *Clarity comes from engagement, it does not come from thought* " Decide on something that feels good, and make a commitment. You can adjust along the way. Thought paralysis is far worse than doing things improperly- you don't learn anything by over analyzing but you always benefit from engagement. Overall a decent talk. Heard a lot of this stuff before- nothing groundbreaking and nothing insanely insightful. But she is a great speaker.

@czara1111

2 жыл бұрын

Really thank you soo much for this notes

@victoriahill7218

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the notes. Sometimes its a bit like the universe posting sign posts to a better roadway. It keeps reposting messages until we get it. Twas a lovely talk.

@3alienigena3atea57

2 жыл бұрын

@@victoriahill7218 of Extinction please. Antivictoria

@salimmaharjan6899

2 жыл бұрын

Noiicee

@Aritul

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks!

My take aways:- 1. "Realists are often just dreamers who got their hearts broken along the way". 2. "Perfectionism is a mask we all wear when we're afraid of failure." 3. "Clarity comes from engagement ... it does not come from thought". 4. "See your career as an experiment that really meets you where you are. A vehicle for your own selfexpression." 5. “Show up. See what the universe will give you. Make a commitment. And know that you can course-correct along the way.” THANK YOU ASHLEY!!!! 💝

Biggest take away was "Clarity comes from engagement ... it does not come from thought" -- Solid gold!

@hamedomani6672

2 жыл бұрын

@@phyju from trying things that feels good and taking actions ,,, the clarity will come ..

@sharongitau8727

2 жыл бұрын

The previous ted talk I watched talked about how isolating yourself doesn’t fix things, your attitude and asking for help does…..coincidence? Lol

@hamedomani6672

2 жыл бұрын

@@phyju if you take actions , try things .. assess your feelings after trying... its not a thought any more ... its reality

@godfreyandguitars

2 жыл бұрын

@@phyju yes of course it takes thought/brain power to take action and move your body, everybody knows that, but it’s sad that you’re missing the deeper meaning here.

@CherylJohnsonPlsacrite

2 жыл бұрын

Indeed!!

I don't really have a dream.. this is why is hard to know what I want to do

@LizaBro1

3 жыл бұрын

just start searching do hobbies that you always wanted to try

@nastyamikhanoshina

3 жыл бұрын

start with small things like what do you REALLY want for breakfast or what do you REALLY want to wear today, how do you feel or what do you really want to do on the weekend.. And do it!! then listen to every desire you think of, from small things to bigger things. Just listen to yourself closely and carefully, don't shut any of your desires. And make them happen if you can. You'll get a habit eventually. That's a good habit to do what you want to do (not what others want, for example) It gives you more freedom even in your own thoughts. When you don't put a barrier in front of your own dreams. And bigger dreams will appear.

@unavailable8395

3 жыл бұрын

@@nastyamikhanoshina thanks.

@genevaconvention5443

3 жыл бұрын

@@nastyamikhanoshina adding this to the page and a half notes I took. Do your OWN Ted talk

@Sarushky3

3 жыл бұрын

I hear you!! ♥️... Think about YOU and what makes YOU feel good... Dreams don't have to be a GREAT BIG THING

I'm 71 years old (Feel younger)...but that number sometimes boggles me with how fast I got here. The title of this talk somehow crossed my path, and I had to listen to this. I recently made a move to another State, alone. Made some lifestyle changes, in an effort to downsize. Moving to an area I knew nothing about, but the 'place' jumped out to me. It brought up some fears, and some exciting promises that I thought, perhaps I might re-write a story in my Self. Everything she mentioned, hit me like a gut punch. And brought up some anger too. What the heck am I afraid of! I've lived a life of fearful events (abuse), and yet I survived them. I did some good things (caregiving) for others, yet each time, I lost my own footing. I set my plans aside. I honestly don't feel like I have much time left, my Mom died at 84 - tho' my Dad died at 62. I purposefully changed lifestyle habits, to stay healthier. Now what do I do? THIS may be an old talk from 3 years ago - but IT might just be the thing I needed to hear Today, in 2023.

@tbelho

Жыл бұрын

Hello. Good to hear your story. I hope you are living the best life in your new home. Regards and prayers from Nagaland, India. I hear you.

@frankiehoward6912

Жыл бұрын

I’d love to hear from you. 30 (31 monday) I’m so glad this is what you needed and our age difference aside, we’re in the same space.

@wyldwyrdwytch

Жыл бұрын

I hope your new start brings you all you need and much joy ❤

@MARTYNEJHARRIS

6 ай бұрын

To me- you’re an inspiration!

@KRahulk91

Ай бұрын

Really

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@susannnico

9 ай бұрын

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9 ай бұрын

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"Perfectionism is the enemy of action." JUST GET STARTED.

@devgemmy

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks, I will

@cx3935

3 жыл бұрын

facts!

@foodiermacita

3 жыл бұрын

I love this. Thank you 🙏🏼 😊

@XxQueenChristinaxX

3 жыл бұрын

All it takes to get the ball rolling.

@rebekahfunches6876

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, get started and *mean it*. THAT'S the part lotsa ppl have trouble with.

This TedTalk was just fantastic. She is a phenomenal speaker, shame the mic quality didn't match her.

@SweetHeart-rq5hd

3 жыл бұрын

I think the same thing

@VincentPascoe

3 жыл бұрын

Done is better then perfect. I guess this is a perfect example: if she turned down the talk just because the mic was bought from the discount isle at Target we would never have heard this.

@prodbymogul1907

3 жыл бұрын

@@SweetHeart-rq5hd re

@RicardoPicena

3 жыл бұрын

@@VincentPascoe “pessimist are usually right but it’s the optimist that change the world” 🙏🏾❤️🌐 Agree with you

@IsabelKret

3 жыл бұрын

The editor could have improved the poor quality, specifically the plosives, with Izotope RX or even just some filtering. I agree because it distracts from the message she's sharing.

"We start calling ourselves 'practical' or 'realistic' for making choices that seem 'responsible', when really, we're just so scared of criticism."

" Often we kidnap ourselves from the life that we really want" just hit home! I shall remember this every time I let fear get in the way.

This entire talk has so many truth bombs that it feels like an attack😂

@iris1484

3 жыл бұрын

Jump o

@empo1397

3 жыл бұрын

...an attack on that "kidnapped" mindset we operate with most of the time. This ted tlk is a huge wake up call, thanks!

@sayusayme7729

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🌟

@panashegwaze3181

3 жыл бұрын

I can relate bro😂

@klannstyle

3 жыл бұрын

You might take it as an attack to the fear. It can do "miracles" if you find what fear... "fears" most.

To those apologizing to their younger selves. I understand that. But what if, Instead of apologizing to your past. Make a promise to your future self instead. To be inspired by pure positive emotions and your surroundings and to promise yourself to be happier and enjoy life.

@amberbent9626

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you 💛

@thewritingroom3738

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! 🙌🏼

@marysem

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this beautiful piece of advice 🙏🏾

@ellyvine1992

2 жыл бұрын

That's a great way of thinking!

@heyAPJ

2 жыл бұрын

YOU are genius! Thank you

What feels good to me: walking on the beach, cooking a delicious meal, yoga, caring for my elderly Mom.

"See your career as an experiment that really meets you where you are. A vehicle for your own selfexpression." Love, love, love this!

@eky893

7 ай бұрын

I am stuck with my life.

My key takeaway: - To figure out what you want, really take a look at yourself and figure out what makes you feel good (i.e. What do you like doing)? Shoot your shot, show up, commit, and try it. If it doesn't work out, go for the next one. My notes: Steps for a You-turn: 1) Do a self audit. Ask: ○ What's working for you? What isn't? ○ What do you know that you wish you didn't know? What are you scared to face? See things for what they actually are (and where you actually are). 2) Follow your freedom a. What do you like? What makes you feel good? b. Usually when you follow what feels good, your purpose is in front of you, or on the periphery c. Follow your gut listen if you feel anxiety or anxiousness d. List out your ideas/things you think you want. Do you feel: i. Joy or fear? ii. Excitement or Dread? iii. Expansion or contraction? iv. Liberation or suffocation? e. Try writing a joy journal (30 days) i. Write down every moment that brings joy to you ii. Then look at any patterns in inspiration -> what skillset am i using when I'm the most inspired? 3) Engage a. Take action. Don't go for perfectionism, dont be afraid to fail In summary: Try things. Show up and commit to something that you like. You can always course correct if things don't go well.

@RebeccaEusey

3 жыл бұрын

This was very helpful

@mjbdare

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the keypoints.

@jolie4804

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you.

@nicole-ob9pl

3 жыл бұрын

Tysm

@georgiettaperry1196

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the notes

To everyone who is experiencing a difficult situation: To shoot an arrow you have to pull it backwards. So when life drags you back with some troubles, it means it's going to launch into something better.

@doraemonworld6735

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 😊🥺 It really means a lot to me.

@missgolightly5488

2 жыл бұрын

thank you for this ...really needed it .☺😓.

@mindbodyrelaxation6828

2 жыл бұрын

@@missgolightly5488 Glad you liked it. Have a nice day.

@nadhs21

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much , you’re totally right 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I hope I can think like that when I’m feeling Terrible about myself, but I know it’s all my fault , I hope I can forgive myself and forget about the time I’ve wasted , and look up to the future ❤️ Your words was really helpful to me

@mindbodyrelaxation6828

2 жыл бұрын

@@nadhs21 You welcome Nadia. Glad I could help, but I think by acknowledging the problem or the mistakes are already helping yourself far more than anyone else can advise you. Wishing you all the best! Have a beautiful 2022!

I am currently in the last semester of a career I studied because I thought would meet the expectations the world had for me, not because I actually liked it. Me, myself and I was the only one who kidnapped me from making the decision I really wanted. I was scared of not having the money, I was scared of not being good enough for something else. Honestly there is so much of me in this TED talk and so much that I needed to hear. We are our own kidnappers. Of course I'm still young and I'm sure I didn't waste my time. I just have to figure out what is it that I love and go for it, not settle to a career that doesn't make me happy.

@beautifulday7528

Жыл бұрын

Good luck! As a 67 year old who missed the mark several times, I am happy that you got to hear this now, knowing that you can 'course correct along the way'. Loved that!

@tusharsingh122

10 ай бұрын

Yo Andrea, am also in the stage of selecting what I wanna do next as my Master's. I also am in the dilemma of choosing money/future security or passion i have and the things I doo... It's a tough place to be, that's for sure :)

@eduardamello728

9 ай бұрын

100% my situation as well. Good luck for us! ❤

@dhrishathakkar760

Ай бұрын

Same. I am on the same point in my life. In dilemma what to choose, whethe to cobtinue or take a u turn . Just want to know ypur feedback. I think this will guide me. Did you manage to find what you love? Did you followed your passion?

This is honestly one of the best TEDTalks I've ever seen. The universe lead me to seeing this one tonight after I watched like seven other ones before yours. I'm starting my Joy journal tomorrow and I'm excited to make my u-turn! Thank you for sharing your story with us.

@Mtnsunshine

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly said, Ryan. I,too, was led by forces greater than me to find this video. I turn 71 today and often have to fight the drift my mind makes to the past in trying to solve past hurts that can never be solved. This video, and the message contained in it is a blessing for the day. Sending you good vibes on your own U-turn and Joy journal. 🙏👍

@eunicesandoval478

Жыл бұрын

How’s your joy journal coming along?

@marco-rh6xy

Жыл бұрын

If you watched 7 videos like this it isn't universe which lead you to this one

@JK-zu3lp

Жыл бұрын

Same!

@divyanallapuram5140

Жыл бұрын

How're things going for you?

"Clarity comes from engagement, not from thought." Damn, girl, you are ON it. I'm what you would call an overthinker, and have been overthinking for months about something now. It's time to take action.

@genevaconvention5443

3 жыл бұрын

🙌🏻🙌🏻 You got this

@elenersbebeners

3 жыл бұрын

@@genevaconvention5443 it turned out pretty great ☺️ thanks girl 😘

@genevaconvention5443

3 жыл бұрын

@@elenersbebeners I'm so glad!!😊

@mauve9266

3 жыл бұрын

Wooo 🥳

@nightrainbows1032

3 жыл бұрын

Reminds me of Chidi on the Good Place

I burst into tears when she told about her father's reaction after learning she is safe and not actually kidnapped. 😭

@mansibabbar6938

4 жыл бұрын

Yatha Sharma me too! 😭

@MidnightSonnet

4 жыл бұрын

So did I. We have empathy. In that moment, we could empathize with the massive relief he felt in knowing she was okay. It's a very happy feeling.

@bye-lingual7916

4 жыл бұрын

Sameee

@princegupta6188

4 жыл бұрын

@@MidnightSonnet true

@liantux9011

4 жыл бұрын

Same

I am turning 27 this month. I feel like I am having a mid life crisis. I am lost but this speech has given me hope for my future and redirection. I cant wait to experiment tomorrow on my Joy Journal❤️

@PARAMITATECKCHANDANI

Ай бұрын

All the best 💗

“perfectionism is the enemy of action”. It hits different when you know that’s what is holding you back 🥺

Tried to be perfect at work for 20 yrs. Then i left... got a new job, less money, but now my days are much more joy.

@unknownworld6171

3 жыл бұрын

Sir I wish you a happy life

@butterflydragonK10

3 жыл бұрын

Goooood!! Way to go!!!

@johne.chalco4134

3 жыл бұрын

What are you doing now

@grommie

3 жыл бұрын

@@johne.chalco4134 i was working in a factory, now i am driving a dilevery truck. I always sleep at home at night, btw.

@Lafoochen

3 жыл бұрын

@@grommie what’s that got to do w anything

notes 1. self audit -> seeing things as they are 2. follow what feels good / your freedom -> write joy journal 3. engage -> take action. connecting to the truth, the body

@spoorthi-hf4hy

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for ur summary

@JomariMariecris

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you! ☺

@user-jn4fn9od7u

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks!

@vitamatulyte5110

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks ^^

@ttreibick

4 жыл бұрын

Thx

"Perfectionism is the mask we all wear when we are afraid of failure". That quote describes me. I call myself a perfectionist. I want to do things great, better than everyone else. But deep down, all I want is not to be a failure.

"Clarity comes from engagement, not thought" - one of my favourite Marie Forleo quotes 👌🏽❤️

Perfectionism is the enemy of action..... agreed

@mmpoggs2033

4 жыл бұрын

I don’t understand what you mean by this ? Please explain

@misslucario7278

4 жыл бұрын

@@mmpoggs2033 if you're a perfectionist you refrain from acting in fear of making mistakes

@luberr6736

4 жыл бұрын

Also, if you're a perfectionist you spend huge amounts of time and energy making your action perfect and waiting to act at the prefect time. You either miss your opportunity or you never get to the point where something is perfect enough for you to actually execute so you don't....

@luberr6736

4 жыл бұрын

Also, if you're a perfectionist you spend huge amounts of time and energy making your action perfect and waiting to act at the prefect time. You either miss your opportunity or you never get to the point where something is perfect enough for you to actually execute so you don't....

@cainanguan9166

4 жыл бұрын

Well, I've heard another saying, which is - 'The major barrier to skill acquisition is EMOTIONAL'. I think the meaning of these two aphorisms are almost the same.

She is really an INCREDIBLE speaker.

@freshprincess210

4 жыл бұрын

She has an awesome podcast called YouTurn that you might appreciate too

@adilla2294

4 жыл бұрын

@@freshprincess210 where could I listen to this podcast of hers? Is it available on Google Podcast?

@temitopeabubakar9699

4 жыл бұрын

lifewithsasha is the youturn podcast available on apple podcast?

@Mistwalker67

3 жыл бұрын

Fantastic isn't she

@Surayya444

3 жыл бұрын

Seriously

"People who Call themselves realists are the ones who got their heart broken somewhere along the way"....this woman is beyond genius. I'm SO SO glad I came across this video.

@jameswilkerson4412

2 жыл бұрын

If you haven’t had your heart broken, you’re probably

@JoJohXD

Жыл бұрын

@@jameswilkerson4412 my heart was broken at 3yo.... Then at 7yo, then at 11yo, tem at 15yo, at 30 I resigned without any plan in mind! I just can't find a thing I like to pursue in the work field.....

"People who call themselves 'realists' are often just dreamers who got their hearts broken somewhere along the way."

"those who called themselves realistic are often the dreamers who got their heart broken along the way" 10:53 …

@dalitm7315

4 жыл бұрын

J2 N yes, that was powerful. Unrealistic people also get their heart broken, but they don’t learn so they keep making the same mistakes all over again, still dreaming of a better outcome.

@j2n223

4 жыл бұрын

@@dalitm7315 but still at least they don't give up…

@arjuhama

4 жыл бұрын

@@dalitm7315 That's quite assumptive. A lot of people who go after their dreams do learn from their mistakes, but what makes them go on is their resilience and optimism.

@dalitm7315

4 жыл бұрын

Juris Maclang I didn’t mean that unrealistic people shouldn’t follow their dreams, but rather that they repeat the same mistakes, dreaming of a better future. So I will give you an example. I have a friend who has been married twice and will most likely marry a third time quite soon. She dreams of a happy relationship. But she keeps attracting the same kind of man, and she doesn’t give herself time to breathe in between and figure things out. So I am not saying she should give up on her dream of a happy relationship, but I am saying that she should not expect a different outcome. Learning from our mistakes is what makes us realistic. We are all dreamers, but the question is do we go about achieving our dreams realistically or unrealistically?

@jackinthebox6143

4 жыл бұрын

The phrase is actually the pessimist is just a disappointed optimist.

Ok Im legit crying hearing how horribly devastated that dad was and I couldn't bare hearing something so horrible about my only baby.

@nikolaneuman9305

4 жыл бұрын

Omg same 😭😭

@TonTon-rm8xn

4 жыл бұрын

But she felt sorry for the kidnappers. I did not like that part. We need to prioritize the victim even though we could analyze and find empathy for the criminal.

@drubie9553

4 жыл бұрын

Good thing ur not from Pakistan

@RenyxGhoul

4 жыл бұрын

@@TonTon-rm8xn someone who can think from the shoes of others are both rare and dangerous

@sherisellars5129

4 жыл бұрын

You would not have a choice, just like those of us who have gone through it had no choice. That statement you made implies you somehow love your child more than we did ours. Please just acknowledge how horrible it is without stating you would be the magic one who doesn't have to figure it out after.

“People who call themselves realists are often just dreamers who got their hearts broken somewhere along the way.” That hit the nail on the head for me. I’m so beaten down by life and men that I’ve created a reality where I am happier alone. I truly feel more content now that I’ve been single for 6 years than I ever was when I was someone’s girlfriend for 16 years. Yet, I’m a hopeless romantic and all I want is a to call a good man my husband someday. ~sigh~

@MsBeautifulDae

2 жыл бұрын

SAME SAME SAME!!!! OMG, same. 😍😍

@hadley_mcdonald

Жыл бұрын

I wish the best for you, and I hope you find someone you can trust and feel safe with who supports you through everything. There's billions of people, there's going to be one who you can spend the rest of your life with, so good luck finding him!

@isolated.wallflower

Жыл бұрын

Another hopeless romantic and almost same situation, but I hope God bless you

@naynay3174

Жыл бұрын

Same here 100%

@JOYELLE93

Жыл бұрын

I feel the same way.

“Often, we kidnap ourselves from the lives that we actually want, because we think a different path is gonna help us survive, get by, pay our bills, or meet our needs in the world.” so truee…..

@douglasmccoll6296

6 ай бұрын

Isn't a path that pays our bills kind of preferable to the ones that don't? I wanted to be a professional mime; it was what made me happy and felt like my calling, but sadly limited opportunities left me, or rather kept me begging for handouts of food and living on the street. I actually thought about kidnapping myself and selling my own kidney or something just so I could buy a few meals at a restaurant.

This womans choice of words slaps hard

@ITSLIZZ111

4 жыл бұрын

Right?

@adorablebelle

4 жыл бұрын

Seriously!

@kateosborn6033

4 жыл бұрын

*woman

@user-jw7jl2bz5y

4 жыл бұрын

@@kateosborn6033 thank you for correcting me. i'm asian so i cant communicate in english very well

@martynakregiel145

4 жыл бұрын

@@kateosborn6033 I think what he meant was "this woman's choice"

I sent this to bae so she can choose what she wants to eat

@whitemaleoprah

3 жыл бұрын

Vastly underrated comment

@afellowmanofculture4165

3 жыл бұрын

@@whitemaleoprah lol thanks

@de6hl

3 жыл бұрын

Nah. Wouldn't work. She'll make you choose anyway and then criticize your choice

@draycrandall3821

3 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@girlyessencee5273

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

“People who call themselves “realists” are often just dreamers who get their hearts broken, somewhere along the way” - I felt that

@madnessintomagic

2 жыл бұрын

100% over and over

@MarlonValcq

Жыл бұрын

Same

@dheerajkumaryadav659

3 ай бұрын

AA

“See your career as an experiment…” wow, a total 360 from what most of us 50 and over were taught. I’ve been with the same company for many years. I thought this was a good thing. I was being a loyal employee. I was stable and not a job hopper. However, it’s time to rethink this before it’s too late for me. Thanks so much for these words of wisdom. Excellent!

@livesontrial

6 ай бұрын

360 degrees equals to 0 degrees which is the inital point.

I can't help but notice that the police sent a message to her phone BEFORE they knew for sure she had not been kidnapped, thereby potentially alerting the kidnappers to the fact that her father had gone against their instructions.

@Hashslingingslasher-

3 жыл бұрын

Damn good point I didn't even consider that, sketch

@getgirly

3 жыл бұрын

It is possibly because kidnappers would have not kept the victim's phone. Otherwise, it would be so easy for the police to track it and find them. So if the victim answers, it could mean that the kidnapping was a scam. Or maybe the police already tracked it and knew that she was in her Beverly Hills office. So many combinations of "maybe".

@Hashslingingslasher-

3 жыл бұрын

@@Lolipop59 Man have some respect, it's still an interesting factoid and they cared enough to think about the deeper going ons, everyone thinks differently

@landofmyth221

3 жыл бұрын

Yes Sherlock...

@aguy559

2 жыл бұрын

I caught that too. Didn’t seem right.

If she was really in danger that text from the police was not a smart thing.

@angelsplace9540

4 жыл бұрын

maybe it was not a better option :)

@blackopal3138

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe If it really happened real police would not have really done that. Good catch.

@AshleyStahlCareers

4 жыл бұрын

Hi Ajoh! Agreed. My dad was about to make a wire transfer to the fake kidnappers and the police text came right before it, so he’d have been out a lot of his life savings. The policeman told me later he expected if I didn’t reply that perhaps it was real. Thanks for watching the talk. I hear this sort of fake kidnapping thing is happening to many these days and it’s so sad how many people lose their life savings in that moment of fear. Sending love xo Ashley

@angelinasouren

4 жыл бұрын

Yo, if you thought all police officers are smart or only do supersmart things, think again. First of all, they are mere humans. Second, my experience in the past 10-15 years has been that many police officers know as much as the average homeless meth addict or industrious takeaway owner who doesn't even have website but they still consider themselves experts on everything, LOL. And yes, that can be dangerous.

@karolinakolarova4082

4 жыл бұрын

How do you know?

9:45 - self audit 12:38 - follow your freedom 16:38 - Engage "Perfectionism is the enemy of action" "Clarity comes from engagement"

I needed inspiration so bad today. This helped me so much. People tell us to ‘follow our dreams’ and ‘do what feels good’. She has actually told us how to make that happen, while also explaining why we find this so hard to do.

I know what I love. Unfortunately nobody wants to pay me a living to knit and watch KZread docs all day. edit 11/30/2020: Ok people. I appreciate all the likes and all the responses, and I appreciate all the advice from well-meaning people who don't understand that there's no way to get paid back for all the time required to make any knitted item. For example, it takes about 12 hours to make a pair of socks. Even if I charge something around minimum wage, who's going to pay $120 for a pair of socks? Also, I don't know enough about technology or anything it takes to set up a KZread channel and make videos of myself knitting and/or watching documentaries and commenting on them. I'm not trying to be negative. These suggestions are hopeful, but not practical.

@Manj_J

4 жыл бұрын

Well, there are a lot of online craft stores selling homemade knitted things (scarves, little plushies, hats etc.) so you could knit and watch youtube docs all day and then sell the things you knit online, or perhaps at a local hobby/craft market or fair, you could start a youtube channel showing people how to knit, or sell knitting patterns online or to craft magazines (I've seen lots of people buy these magazines purely for the knitting patterns)... There are a number of options, and it won't be profitable in the beginning, but as you gain momentum and popularity (and wool company sponsorships) then you'll see how profitable doing what you love can be :)

@Lionofthelovinggod1

4 жыл бұрын

fenixrising1972 perhaps there are organizations which would pay u to knit.?

@goldenhelmet403

4 жыл бұрын

Maybe “knit” is a euphemism.

@fenixrising1972

4 жыл бұрын

@@Lionofthelovinggod1 If you know of any, I'd love to hear about them.

@fenixrising1972

4 жыл бұрын

@@goldenhelmet403 I actually did mean knit.

If you were her father, wouldn't you be proud to hear her speaking such wisdom. Nice work dad.

@dannyr333

3 жыл бұрын

She is very wise

I don't think people realize what this woman just managed to do in under 20 min. Every teaching of hers put together births the perfect recipe for a massive world shift, if only more people would truly listen and apply it to their lives. Calling you a genius would be an understatement. You're a life saver.

@jandersen6802

Жыл бұрын

My gut tells me that I want to become super rich and sleep with hot young women. I also like to eat good food.

@inner-healingwbrendabasco

Жыл бұрын

@@jandersen6802 Totally a superficial and unrealistic gut level guidance to nowhere

@jandersen6802

Жыл бұрын

@@inner-healingwbrendabasco Totally bitter answer with no substance from you.

@inner-healingwbrendabasco

Жыл бұрын

@@jandersen6802 You get to be abusive because as a male human it is a normal way of being - such a sad state for the world.

@amaan06

11 ай бұрын

@@jandersen6802 your gut can be wrong too, just like your brain.

"People who call themselves "Realists" are often just dreamers who got their hearts broken somewhere along the way". Precise.

@amaral4875

2 жыл бұрын

I am very conflicted because I always say that I am a realist

What an intense intro for a career choice talk 😂

@hannayimenu3907

2 жыл бұрын

Thaaank youuuuu

@LibertyMadison

2 жыл бұрын

Riiiiiiight!

@sorackee2512

2 жыл бұрын

I know right? But it was still pretty effective. Grabs your attention and really think what pushes people to make decisions that they otherwise wouldn’t in the absence of fear.

@rawdaaljawhary4174

2 жыл бұрын

YESSSSSS, that was quite a sharp turn. Damn. Trauma is not to be taken lightly like that. She used it to get people's attention. I don't like how concerned I felt at the beginning only to realize it was just a career, check in with yourself, talk. 🤦‍♀️

i believe the body knows and we don't listen to it enough.

@AshleyStahlCareers

4 жыл бұрын

cindy chan YES! Thanks for watching

@Indi_Waffle_Girl

4 жыл бұрын

Dude agreed. I also didn't know my "gut feelings" were a physical thing.

@vNill

4 жыл бұрын

@@Indi_Waffle_Girl what exactly do you mean?

@Indi_Waffle_Girl

4 жыл бұрын

@@vNill I think I mean, like, my intuition in a way. The part of me that knows deep down what I dearly want, and the part of me that I trust when I take risks in my life by doing things unconventionally and going after my dreams. I feel it as a sensation...a thought...."gut feeling" I suppose...but I forget that the brain is a physical organ and that those things manifest physically at times. For example, I have had several jobs where I pushed through depression and anxiety, and the symptoms got so bad that I became physically ill, over and over again. Sometimes it's easy to say "it's all in your head" to disregard some feelings as valid, and while I do think that we can get too wrapped up in our own minds, I also think that we don't give our minds/ourselves enough credit....enough faith that we know ourselves better than we think we do. I guess, I feel like maybe the body and mind are more connected than we are taught.

@basicinfo2022

4 жыл бұрын

Yes my intuition was always right and i learned the hard way after not honoring it.

I was watching this with goosebumps and tears in my eyes. SO well spoken, SO easily but smartly explained. Thank you SO much for this eye opening TEDxTalk. You have no idea how bad I needed this at the very moment.

@sungria_aloha

Жыл бұрын

Same here❤️

Easier to do when you have a family that loves you and is there for you. Being alone in the world and knowing that nobody will be there if you fall not that you will need them but having that gives you a strength. Having a family but one that is neglectful and downright mean might be worse than being alone. But I have survived difficult times without there love and support. With Gods Love and my guardian Angels I am still moving ahead and taking one day at a time. And i have learned that I am stronger and more able than I felt that I was. I can do this life and do it well and survive the trials that come along the way as they will. The Love of my Son drives me

I’m not confused about my direction in life, I’m just scared I can’t do it

@fino2b

4 жыл бұрын

Daimon Smith u can do anything

@queenaminalivingabundantly4320

4 жыл бұрын

Understand the feeling

@genevaconvention5443

3 жыл бұрын

You can.

@trishonamish

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, same

@diegomartinez5391

3 жыл бұрын

Practical steps for your situation based on the speech: 1-Ask yourself whether it is possible to accomplish your goals with your current habits and strengths. 2-Ask yourself whether you really like your dreams. 3-Go 100% for it and journal along the way to evaluate how it's going. Believe in yourself; you only live once. "I wish I had..." is ten times worse than "At least I tried it" when you're old.

“Pain is often a trampoline that’s launching is into the next step of life, if we’re willing to let it” idk but there is something powerful about this

@AshleyStahlCareers

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for watching and for the acknowledgment. Hope the talk moved you as much as giving it moved me! Happy 2020 to you and yours!!

@johns8065

4 жыл бұрын

@@AshleyStahlCareers its so cool that you comment under your talk! I think its talks like this that over time change our society for the better. The more people go after what they want and become happy, the more healthy our society gets. thank you! sry for bad english if there were mistakes

This is hands down the absolute BEST TED Talk I've ever listened to. I've listened to so many amazing ones, but I truly felt this one like no other. She speaks with absolute conviction, emotion, and passion, and it truly inspires me as a person.

I have strayed so far from myself chasing an expectation I had since when I was 21. I am 27 now and it’s okay to know that goals change. I need to make a u-turn and feel alive again. Thank you ! I’m ready to feel good

When someone is depressed, what feels good get's distorted. Also, when someone is going through hormonal changes, or being overly influenced by people or situations around them, what makes them feel good is different than when they are in control of their feelings. To "Follow what feels good" is just generally bad advice and can lead to horrible consequences. I would say, "Find mentors. Pattern your life after people you respect and after life choices that lead to success joy. Use discernment, to judge your situation. Don't make decisions based on just your feelings."

@NukubiMusic

4 жыл бұрын

Bruce Matichuk @Bruno Mikuš this is another factor I overlooked in my response to you Bruno.

@Stormy575

4 жыл бұрын

That is certainly true, but you're skipping the first step--self audit. First that person would need to acknowledge the truth of their situation, and if they can't make choices and take actions from there, then they need to get help. She also doesn't just say to do what feels good, I'd describe it more as following the divine spark of evolution. Sometimes that spark is calling you in a direction that feels terrifying, but underneath that is a sense of joy, expansion, freedom. That is what you move towards.

@merrysol4920

4 жыл бұрын

This comment is brilliant. I'm ready for YOUR Ted Talk.

@johns8065

4 жыл бұрын

I get your point and its a great addition in my opinion. If someone wants to harm themselve for example because it feels good isnt meant by "follow what feels right". I know that example is a bit extreme.

@GoddessY1968

4 жыл бұрын

That's a good point but probably a good reason to journal so you can see if those good feelings are valid or are good options or just temporary and poor decisions based on passing moments, life events or hormone imbalances. Just as a check

Man I thought watching this during breakfast was a good idea until a few minutes in I’m sobbing with sympathy for her dad 🥺

@AshleyStahlCareers

4 жыл бұрын

Aww, just showed him your comment, and he said to thank you for your big heart. Thank you !

@gsl94

4 жыл бұрын

I usually listen to Ted talks on my drive home from law school and was not expecting all the feels. I was literally sobbing my car.

@stephross700

4 жыл бұрын

Same. Bawling. And a great message. Thank you!

@ProwerAdmirer

4 жыл бұрын

@@AshleyStahlCareers You have the best dad

@yourtower5808

4 жыл бұрын

I was sobbing while I was eating my dinner

This TED talk hit different! “Perfectionism is a mask we all wear when we’re afraid of failure”.. this has held me back the majority of my life! Inspiring and transformative articulation of what many of us struggle with Ashley!

17:00 "Perfectionism" is probably the funniest word to have misspelt in a presentation.

What feels good?! I changed my career 3 times. I used to be a teacher in midschool, got bored. I started my career at a bank with a good salary. Got bored again. Not I am a researcher in the field of nanomaterials. Sometimes I feel like giving up! What makes me feel good?! Traveling?! But to do traveling, I need money. Those money comes from those jobs, which I hate and fear! Life is not a bed of roses.

@SHGogo-df5jr

3 жыл бұрын

@@cranjis Although, if Dorin is anything like me than they do not want to work when they travel. I think people forget that when you travel for your job the whole time you are out you are on the job. Companies don't send people to new countries to have fun. I really want to travel, but I would never get a job that requires it.

@rae8961

3 жыл бұрын

There are ways to travel. Start investing your money to get passive income. If it's a foreign country, see if you can teach english there. Korea, Japan, and China have really good deals where the schools pay for your apartment and you can save so much money. Most contracts are just a year long. Find an online job, that way you can move around the world without being tied down. I hope you find a good path and get what you want out of life.

@estellec5340

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. What feels good can change over time...

@khadijaelmoqnia912

3 жыл бұрын

There is some jobs where you go to different hotels around the world to test their quality and you get to spend time I'm beautiful places if you could aply to such job then you will do both never give up on finding the right one

@Sisterlisk

3 жыл бұрын

@@rae8961 I want to do that, but unfortunately there's a bachelor's degree (in anything) requirement. I guess it's to make the applicant pool smaller. What if I'd be a much better English teacher than someone who went to college? They don't care.

I was often told that if your dreams don’t scare you, that they aren’t big enough.

@theparanoidandroid3583

2 жыл бұрын

That seems harsh. Why should dreams be scary?

@aeon-pingxpong4842

2 жыл бұрын

@@theparanoidandroid3583 Sometimes we force ourselves into dreaming things we don't actually like, because we choose to see so little of the world that the ideas that we love feel like they can never be achieved, that we'll never have someone just like us who has that same spiritual dream we always have locked in our hearts, but can't ever seem to describe. And the fact that we choose our comfort zone, the one thing we have or have made, instead of risking it all for something completely different, it makes us afraid. Sometimes we don't wanna dream and we think we have to, sometimes we wanna dream, but we haven't seen what we can dream about, no ideas. It's so hard sometimes.

@mhill1711

2 жыл бұрын

I just read this quote an hour ago 🤯. Sidney Poitier.

@plko90

2 жыл бұрын

@M Hill. Is the universe trying to tell you something?

I'm never able to follow conversations properly because of my ADD, but you got me fully concentrated and writing along with it, that's how insightful this was

These are the things that I made to fight this process called life: 1. Fear of mathematics, I enrolled in Industrial Engineering. 2. Fear of public speaking, My current job is Safety Officer, conducting training to various people and making presentations. 3. Fear of Darkness, I always sleep without light in my room, total darkness. 4. Shyness, introvert, timid...I talked to strangers all the time. I initiate conversation often. 5. Fear of death, I always remember, all people will taste death, the only question is when and how? 6. Fear of unknown/uncertainty, I just do things it with precautions. Who moved my cheese book help me alot. Cheers🥂😉

“Perfectionism is the enemy of action”.... I started crying because that’s me. Your absolutely right. I feels so called out

@monicacespedes4406

4 жыл бұрын

OMG me too.....

@samanthakim5035

2 жыл бұрын

Me too.

"What do I know that I wish I didn't?" I picked my major for the money but I am not passionate about it. I love to help people and I fear that if I go down that route, I will live a average poor life. I have a deep fear of continuing to be poor. I feel alone all the time. Maybe because I overthink things. Probably. Being poor growing up was embarrassing and a confidence killer. Having nothing and watching everyone else get all that they wanted. Now, I struggle with the idea of being happy and less successful or making more money and putting my happiness last. I know the right answer. It's just hard to execute.

@camibleu

4 жыл бұрын

Guillermina Canales this is me!!!!!

@sheepshark

4 жыл бұрын

Being poor is hard and not shameful. My friend was born with debt because her parents ruined her credit by using her name. Even being the poorest and most abused person I know she is the most amazing person I have ever met and she was joyful in her worst times and now in her best even more so. She did what this women spoke about naturally and she is getting paid handsomely. I wish you luck.

@BrandNewMe93

4 жыл бұрын

Wow took the words right of my mind in what I been thinking and been feeling. Thank you for writing it.

@jmax9782

4 жыл бұрын

With your degree and experience, if you are willing to live cheaper, many, many doors are now open to you that would not be if you hadn't worked hard doing something you don't love. It's time to execute your plan. True wealth comes from good health and wise ways my friend.

@esther.8392

4 жыл бұрын

Same sentiments. 😭

"what do you know that you wish you didn't know" bro i teared up immediately, this woman is the real deal

I was CRYING at the intro story.. Then she said "realists are just dreamers who got their heart broken along the way".. And here I am crying again.

As a father of a 15yr old girl, I couldn't imagine feeling the way her father did when that happened.

@plumtucker9514

2 жыл бұрын

probably mentally violating, and the rush of emotions when he found out that reality was false...those emotions would be everywhere from relief to anger to shame and joy.

"people who call themselves realists are often just dreamers who got their hearts broken somewhere along the way." What a powerful statement!

@nompumelelonpk

4 жыл бұрын

💖

@estellec5340

3 жыл бұрын

Or people who just can't afford to follow their dreams? She is probably right but I think it's a bit too simple

“When you are in your inspiration, you are not being run or kidnapped by your fears”…This is the best Ted Talk I’ d ever heard👏🏻👏🏻

**"What do you know that you wish you didn't?"** Is such a wildly informative question to ask someone & also very bold

Patience, perseverance, and persistence are coming to win your goals. Yes to you who is reading this. Good things are coming your way, my friend. Sending you good vibes. Now go and visualise

"Clarity comes from engagement, it does not come from thought" might be some of the best advice I've heard in a LONG time

@TREVASLARK

3 жыл бұрын

For me too !

@Yesandbymarin

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Action is a shortcut to answers

@aquababy5

11 ай бұрын

I’ve had time to think and gotten nowhere. Needed to hear it too

im 28 and still very unsure about what im doing in life. this is really inspiring to me. i hope these steps help me feel better about myself and my life

I've really been trying to think my way through confusion but I always just end up more confused. Thank you for making me understand that clarity comes from engagement, not thought. This is my intentional social media imprint to deciding to engage more than overthink.

"What skill set am using when I am the most inspired?" - probably the most powerful tool to understand yourself I've heard of in a long while!

Our body knows and going against it is what causes depression and anxiety.

@roxsta1113

3 жыл бұрын

YES EXACTLY!!! 💯

@jessicagreene2649

3 жыл бұрын

I agree completely. Every morning I fight with myself and force myself to go into a job that is slowly draining everything that brings me joy. I’m in such a dark place.

@CatarinaSi

3 жыл бұрын

@@jessicagreene2649 I feel you Jessica. I am sick of having to force myself to live

@OzSaudarna

3 жыл бұрын

True but life isn’t a bed of roses. It can take time to get to where you wanna be. In the meantime, sometimes you need to work that job you hate to have the funds to do what you wanna do... life is about balance and learning experiences not necessarily constant pleasure...

@dancetx

2 жыл бұрын

You wish it was that simple to identify a cause of depression or anxiety

"Do a self-audit. Follow what feels good. Engage." Priceless, simple advice!

I love her articulated points.very well delivered. Every second is worth watching this video. Thanks Ashley and TED.

@evergreen719

Жыл бұрын

A little bit too much of a performance. Felt very Disney.

"So many of us choose college majors just to make ourselves survive...." Damn that got me teary eyed, cuz' that's what I felt in the past...

@stephanguitar9778

3 жыл бұрын

I know a lot of people who followed their dreams but ended up flipping hamburgers in MacDonalds or cleaning toilets at the age of 45. 99% of all non mundane ambitions end in failure, musicians, artists and actors amongst them. Me, Ive been stuck with sick family responsibilities since the age of 6 and am over 60 now so no room to dream.

@teudunggie

3 жыл бұрын

Nah i am still crying cause i think that's what's going to happen to me.

This is one of the best TED talks I have seen in 2 or 3 years. Great quotes: "What do you know that you wish you didn't know?" "Pain is often a trampoline to get you into the next stage in your life" and "Perfectionism comes from fear of failure". Btw, I am a perfectionist.

@saythetruth1396

2 жыл бұрын

So you wear a mask all day long?

Clarity comes from engagement. Thank you ,for this golden statement. ❤❤

What an amazing ted talk from such an intelligent person. Thank you for sharing your insights and story. I enjoyed every minute of this ted talk

I love that notion of careers being vehicles for your self-expression. It makes the idea of changing careers so much easier to digest, since there's always an emphasis on just climbing the ladder than jumping around to suit oneself as they grow and change.

@AshleyStahlCareers

2 жыл бұрын

💗💗💗

@dellanfielding8626

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! Agreed

I searched this one on KZread coz I'm mentally broke. It felt like my heart is searching for something and to tell you, i was crying the whole time while watching this. I love the way she talk. Her wisdom is something to awe

@girlyessencee5273

3 жыл бұрын

You are going to be fine, it is well!! I totally get you, I'm still trying to understand my path and it gets overwhelming at times, but we are going to get there 🙌. Best of luck on your journey 😊

@bre5199

3 жыл бұрын

@@girlyessencee5273 thank you, bub!

@shreya7968

2 жыл бұрын

Same bruh same.

@shri5740

2 жыл бұрын

Everything is going to be okay sending you strength 😊

I haven’t stopped crying since the beginning. This is so moving.

We give in to our fears thinking we don't have another option. Loved this video.

"Your body is a messenger and it's constantly giving you feedback"

@stephaniejordan9066

2 жыл бұрын

👍

I think this just made my brain form new neurons. Thank you.

@genevaconvention5443

3 жыл бұрын

And your stomach too, right?

"We learn to stop taking risks and start being afraid" This hits hard ..

i love how she talks with her hands, my therapist always mentions that I do this and how it makes everything sound more understandable and helps to create your own perception

This is so powerful, “We are our own kidnappers.” how many times I let myself from becoming my best self? A lot. Thank you so much.

@ronaldgadget

3 жыл бұрын

The question is why we do it - and keep doing it even after we figured out we are doing it

@Hashslingingslasher-

3 жыл бұрын

@@ronaldgadget because it's easier

@douglasmccoll6296

6 ай бұрын

We are captive by the time we are born into and resources at hand to transcend the place we are in@@Hashslingingslasher-

"Often we kidnap ourselves from the lives that we actually want, because we think of different path is going to help us survive, get by, pay our bills, or meet our needs in the world." This really struct me.

My problem is that sometimes what feels good actually seems to be the right thing to do because it keeps me in my comfort zone. Therefore, I struggle with understanding what I truly want to do because I'm afraid of failure or being uncomfortable/stepping out of my comfort zone, even if the outcome could be amazing. I have to choose what I want to do in college and I'm panicking because I can't seem to understand what I really want to do, some things feel too ambitious, others too simple, others don't apply to the type of role I'd like to play in society... idk...

@Here4TheHeckOfIt

10 ай бұрын

I think your thoughts are legitimate. Life for some is about walking down the same comfortable, worn trail their whole lives, and they find joy in that. For others, life is like getting lost on the trail of life and trying to find another trail that will lead out of the forest. Sometimes there are friendly, fellow trekkers along the way that can help point a way out and it makes the whole journey worth it. Not everything is about fear.

Hearing this was the motivation I needed to make a change. I have a great career and income but it’s not the life I want and I am getting no satisfaction from what I do. I’m in bed by 8pm every night and up at 4am, out the door by 4:30am. I’ve been wrestling with the idea of working for myself and starting my own company but fear has prevented me from this. I am robbing myself of enjoying a couple extra hours of time with my wife at night and waking up and having coffee with her in the mornings. She is onboard with me quitting my job and focusing on starting my own business, but my own fear is robbing me of that. It’s time to stop being afraid and start living the life I want….

@annaz3266

3 ай бұрын

How is that going? Did you take the u-turn?