"Love is what happens when we STOP trying to figure out who deserves it." - Karen Faith (wow! I love this quote!)

@Gabolu_21

Жыл бұрын

Me too! Gave me chills!

@VintageVigilante

Жыл бұрын

Bit of an 'oof' moment for me 😅

@karenninascott

Жыл бұрын

Me too! Very notable.

@hindyjordan118

Жыл бұрын

❤

@dodgersfanextreme

Жыл бұрын

me too

“I will listen to you, but I will not obey you.” That really made me cry.

@abby999

Жыл бұрын

me too🥲♥️

@orianareta991

Жыл бұрын

came to comment the same thing

@treeya20

Жыл бұрын

me too, my mind kept whining why i wouldn't obey 'me', but other mind knew for sure why i couldn't.

@delife_bkk

Жыл бұрын

Trillionsssss of words could not make 4legs get the TRUTH. Before teaching others what to talk, please STOP to thinking and looking yourselves, your people, societies first. If you see the TRUTH, you would close your month and the whole country.

@pujasaha8507

10 ай бұрын

Best part of this talk🫂

This felt like stand up comedy, therapy and a poetry session all in one. Beautiful.

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

🙏

Her talk reminded me of a Rumi poem. “This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.”

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

Yes, exactly this. Thank you, Chris.

@Kala123467

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this; it gives an added level of meaning to the talk.

@ericvannielsen

Жыл бұрын

I was at a gallery opening this past week and the band that was playing music during the event read this poem in the middle of their set. Strange to run into it twice in one week. Thank you for posting it.

@catsozen

Жыл бұрын

This is perfect. Wow.

@philosopher2king

Жыл бұрын

I thought the same thing! I had a copy of that poem on my desk at work for years.

Best note: "We've been told love is hard. It's not. Love is what happens when we stop trying to figure out who deserves it. It's right there.. and we welcome someone, anyone exactly as they are in the moment."

@Jeff-S-Grimes

Жыл бұрын

agree, that is quite note worthy to say the least

@user-hf5ct5tn2c

5 ай бұрын

Yes, but we don't try and change them if we don't agree with how they live their lives

@esds

Күн бұрын

Yes that's life changing.

The technique Karen is talking about is called Internal Family Systems (IFS). I had a therapist use this to help me and it did wonders. You can also use it yourself. It works if you can ask yourself questions in a self-compassionate way. It does feel like you are crazy when another voice (which is yours) speaks back, but parts of us have been stuck in traumatic moments.

@jenniferbates2811

Жыл бұрын

YES!!! Such an incredible therapy! The best book on this kind of therapy is called: "No Bad Parts" By. Dr. Richard C. Schwartz.

@christinaandriani6087

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!

@crystalcole888

Жыл бұрын

I came to the comment section to say this. Internal family systems made my life so much better. This is the future of psychotherapy, of all therapy. So few people know about it right now.

@michelebechard1523

Жыл бұрын

Came here to say this.

@yukikowu5695

Жыл бұрын

I had never head of IFS but it makes sense and I need to practice it.

I’m a TED Talk addict and have listened to hundreds of them - and this one is one of the most compelling AND practically useful.

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Yukiko!

@Joey-ye

9 ай бұрын

this is my first time to watch TED talk，I think this one is great

@koreakim693

14 күн бұрын

Totally agree

"Everyone that you show unconditional welcome may show you a part of yourself to love"

@amandapatino1352

Жыл бұрын

"I love you, thank you for helping me see what you see"

So strange how, sometimes, you stumble upon exactly what you need in that moment. Thank you.

@DavidAnderson-gp6gi

Жыл бұрын

The Universe has an uncanny knack for that😀

I’m sitting here crying. I’ve prayed for months for God to help me better myself. All myselves. The signs He has given me just the past few days are overwhelming but I’m welcoming them all! Your talk is awesome THANK YOU

@HopeWins777

Жыл бұрын

You are not, you are never, alone.♥️ That's why we need each other so very desperately. Otherwise, we forget. 💪 Be strong, and very courageous. Be kind to yourself first.🦋

@dianejones4276

Жыл бұрын

I am alone. God please come to me. Is it possible that my mental illnesses are too overwhelming to get past to receive the messages?

@prodigaldaughter2242

Жыл бұрын

Ditto! I almost didn't listen because of the pain I knew it would expose. SHE told my story better than I think I could have.

@thetp816

Жыл бұрын

@@dianejones4276 be careful because hoping for a savior that may never come can be even more detrimental. Try to think ligically

@missamericausa

Жыл бұрын

✝️

“Love is what happens when you stop trying to figure out who deserves it.” I’m now inspired to practice growing my “sphere of unconditional welcome”. 💗

@dankozubal

Жыл бұрын

The quote's brilliance is in its simplicity. I'm really interested in this practice!

@6582rg

Жыл бұрын

@@dankozubal hmmmmm

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

@@dankozubal Thank you, Dan. It is super simple, and super useful. :)

@marypolancodesigns

Жыл бұрын

This quote hit me so hard! YES

Top human. Scarily confident, funny, intelligent, professional speaker, beautiful voice, flawless diction and an actor's range of tonality and so incredibly expressive... Perfect live delivery from memory or ad-libbed?? AND with a vital compassionate humanist message and a bunch of cool insights on the way.

@lmp9726

Жыл бұрын

A tiny bit of vocal fry. Otherwise, excellent.

@emilymartin5418

Жыл бұрын

@@lmp9726 Get over yourself and stop searching so hard for superiority.

@Freetheebees

Жыл бұрын

@@lmp9726 just say you’re miserable and have to see the bad in people.

@abby999

Жыл бұрын

@@Freetheebeesand yet they're welcome anyway

@Chris_P.Bacon0

13 күн бұрын

​@@abby999 😂😂😂 dude's gotta open his sphere of unconditional love

She is phenomenal. A force of nature. I didn't even realize I had tears running down my face for a moment, that's how deeply she reaches. She bypasses the conscious mind and ego and speaks directly to your subconscious, the truth. I wish that everyone had at least a fraction of her wisdom and intelligence. We would be a thriving, evolved global society in no time.

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

What a compliment! Thank you. 🙏

@4465Vman

Жыл бұрын

@@KarenFaith have you studied IFS??is this from IFS?? you are amazingly intelligent

@b0xf0x13

Жыл бұрын

I'm performing a scientific experiment: how many times do I have to watch this video in order to burn its wisdom into my brain so that I can recall it in times of stress. Luckily, there is no end of stress with which I can test my hypothesis. :)

If you can't love yourself ,start by loving others , actually that way you respect yourself and it is loving yourself too

Easily one of the best TED Talks I’ve ever watched. Awesome message and compelling speaker.

@JoSheeply

Жыл бұрын

Even her name fits well.

@MorgALew3

Жыл бұрын

@@JoSheeply 😅

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

@@JoSheeply :)

"can you just.. welcome them here" "can you welcome you" I love the way she says it

Came to a lot of these realizations as a tattoo artist. We have to sit with people we don't agree with for hours sometimes. It's our job to make something beautiful for them.

Absolutely extraordinary. This is a masterclass in delivering a TED-style talk, how to use humor without stepping on the message, AND on the deeply misunderstood and under-appreciated skill of perspective-taking. What a gift to us working in the field of human connection. Thank you, Karen!

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Brian! I just watched yours and loved it.

@brianmillerspeaks

Жыл бұрын

@@KarenFaith Thank you! Feel free to connect elsewhere on the socials. I’m easy to find :)

@iananono9083

Жыл бұрын

@@KarenFaith Thank you for the shining example of authenticity, courage, humility, empathy/love, humor, more! I had flashbacks of John Bradshaw, who 31 years ago opened me up to inner-child work. I will look up more of your work, both personal and general focus-group moderation. Watched this 3x already, and will keep enjoying it. Brilliant & beautiful. Thanks again.

I’m just so blessed that every time I hit a wall, the universe sends me a lifeline. And this talk was it this time around.

Wow, definitely made me cry. That moment when you realize that we all have parts, and some of them just need a hug, like how you would hug a little kid. I believe she is talking about Internal Family Systems.

@4465Vman

Жыл бұрын

yes i think so too

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

The ideas that I'm discussing are very similar to those in IFS, but my practice doesn't happen to come from there. The concept of multiplicity of self is OLD and unattached to psychiatry (Rumi, Walt Whitman, and the apostle Paul knew ages ago). The main idea I am sharing is Unconditional Welcome. It is an approach to engagement with the self and others which begins with full awareness and acceptance of the moment. And I didn't invent that, either. :) I do appreciate all the commenters who recognize IFS and other philosophies here. It has been my experience that when something rings true, it can be found everywhere.

This actually made me feel so much relief. "The round table" of inner selves is exactly how I describe how I found the strength to rebuild myself and function again after falling into a sever depression when my partner passed I slept nearly all day but my mind was my inner selves sitting in a circle in a dark room bringing everything to light and talking through everything. To hear I'm not just crazy for how I did it and that others do too is such a comfort .

@CheRob96

Жыл бұрын

♥️

@nadiaclara7651

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this. Sending you lots of love! ❤

"Only reality is the moment , everything else is thoughts . What's in front of you , where you are , what you see with your eyes is real and that's reality . Rest everything is your thoughts " My mentor told me this and this thought helped me , maybe help you as well , try thinking that way .

“I promise I am going to take care of you, but I need you to get on board. I will listen to you but I will NOT obey you.” Going through a rough breakup now and really needed to hear this. My inner-child is in disbelief of the trauma and keeps screaming and crying out for something (but, like a child, doesn’t know what it needs). I just have to hold him, hear him out, and promise it’s going to be okay- but being toxic to ourselves or others won’t resolve anything.

@nehakolekar3134

Жыл бұрын

Hey, how r u doing????

@faithfulwife

Жыл бұрын

Going through the same thing.

@nehakolekar3134

Жыл бұрын

Everything will be alright.... ❤

WHO ARE YOU AND HOW DID YOU HELP ME IN LESS THAN 15 MINUTES? 😂❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

I'm a therapist. This is WONDERFUL. Brilliant.

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Michele. 🤍

@esds

Күн бұрын

I am so grateful for therapist. Thank for doing what you do

"Love is a house you can crawl in through a window" this is so poetic

Wow! It's like she is speaking my mind, my heart and my soul. Never have I ever heard anyone describe anything so accurately it's like she is describing me but the beauty is she is describing all of us. Reminds me how we're all the same and all connected in this vast universe. Beautiful 😍✨😍🥹🥺😢

Love doesn't care which way you come or what state you are in when you get there. I have no words. Absolutely incredibly brilliant, life changing

Our depression speaks for us, far more than anything we can ever say at times.

@SweetSeraph93

Жыл бұрын

Loud voice 🌹💞

This was absolutely brilliant. Karen captured what I have been struggling with my entire life. It was no accident that I stumbled upon this video I saw needed to see this. Thank you so much Karen from the bottom of my heart.

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

You are very welcome, Stefan. Thanks for saying so. :)

@DavidAnderson-gp6gi

Жыл бұрын

I’ve just recently learned there are no such things as accidents. Everything happens for a definitive reason. We have all found this Ted Talk for a reason…eventually, that reason will come to us. Enjoy the journey😀

This morning my new experience was imagining that my long breathes of exhale were filling a bubble of calm.

How strange it is that I find it on a time when I needed all these answers in maybe exactly the way you addressed it. It is a very beautiful way. And I’m too going to give all my selves unconditional positive regard and I know it will work out❤

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

I'm so glad it was helpful to you, Ananya.

@quietowl1246

Жыл бұрын

Manifesting!

Psychodynamic psychology refers to this as the "committee in your head." I often ask my clients to identify who they have on their committee in their head, and if they want those voices (often from childhood trauma) to continue with a seat on the committee. What a well done talk, thank you!

I've had so many issues working on this, i feel like i did get better at dealing with it but still it's very hard at times. Consider the fact that 1 year ago i was jobless, depressed, out of shape, heavy smoker and out of options in life as a 25yro, and at that time i was extremely rough with myself, i used to genuinely hate myself, and hate is a strong word. Then i took a leap of faith and traveled to another country, i had to stop being so toxic with myself, psychologically and physically, it started with what i eat, i started to eat more healthy, stopped smoking... 6 months free of it! I started working out as well and learning the language of said country. It's been such a wild ride, and despite the fact that i consider myself to have made such a good change in my life i can't but be harsh at myself at times, but i know why, some of these reasons are true in my opinion and some are just delusions that i created over the years. I really plan on working on this and just free myself of the chains that i created.

@CHRISTALMOUNTAIN

Жыл бұрын

You’re perfect ❤

@caro8712

Жыл бұрын

You’re brave, please don’t give up on your journey.

@lumijasminasmr3583

Жыл бұрын

@@CHRISTALMOUNTAIN No one is perfect. No one. We don’t need to become narcissistic about ourselves inorder to have mercy on our imperfect parts.

@kristinaseitaj5699

Жыл бұрын

❤️🙏

I love knowing I am not the only one with a roundtable. The last few years have felt all of the things she mentioned. Her daily commute sounds like the last 6 yrs of my life. There's no worst feeling to me than being trapped in your own mind and know no one can get you out except you. I hope she knows how powerful this was for me!

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Phylicia. You are certainly not the only one. :)

"Love happens when we stop deciding who deserves it" - Karen Faith

I am not looking for any kind of trouble. But she is the Karen that everyone needs to talk about ☠️💕

Her voice is healing, and she really released the "me" who felt shaky with her voice omg 😂

Setting boundaries with yourself is one of the hardest things to do And I think I need to remind myself of this, constantly

This was the best TEDtalk I’ve heard in a while. What a beautiful, meaningful conversation about honoring OURSELVES in every aspect. Even the bright, luminous moon in the night sky has its dark sides… though by no means does it detract from the light it projects onto the whole world

This exact time last week I found myself having this talk. I gave into it, not expecting to wake up in the morning. I woke up started my week as usual but something different happened. I got back to work on the things I enjoy ,and I progressed much faster because all of me has been engaged to the process. I think it’s crazy that no matter how hard I push I can always push harder.

I'm always in my head. This was so relatable. I literally had tears in my eyes the entire time and it wasn't even sad. Lol

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

🤍

@codykidd2523

Жыл бұрын

@@KarenFaith I've tried to understand and accept everyone my entire life. I was on drugs for close to ten years and I've been sober for a little over 2 years now but the voices in my head get a little crazy now. The fact that all I need to do is welcome people instead of trying to understand them is really comforting. I'll start trying to apply this each day as I work on positive growth. Thank you so much...more than you know.

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

@@codykidd2523 What you are doing for yourself is the best possible thing. That's awesome. I wish you all the best!

@codykidd2523

Жыл бұрын

@@KarenFaith Thank you!

@jxunmtchd

Жыл бұрын

I 100% agree. I've never felt so seen.

This talk was uploaded 57 minutes ago... I just prayed about my struggle with self-love and acceptance....Never expected the answer to my prayer about learning to love and accept myself, would come through a Ted Talk on KZread. All I can do is cry and thank HIM for answering another prayer. ❤‍🩹

@CHRISTALMOUNTAIN

Жыл бұрын

Start eating healthy

@fritz1624

Жыл бұрын

nah, all it shows is that the microchips are working

@tylerfrost4110

Жыл бұрын

Maybe thank the human being, the one on this stage giving the speech, not your imaginary friend.

Speaking of micro cues, the way she says, "Horrible" at 14:05 sounded to me like despair, terror, love, betrayal, and sadness all smooshed into a single word's time-couldn't have been more than 3/4 of a second in an otherwise positive and hopeful string of words and ideas. It got me. When I heard that, it was like a knife went through my chest and poked my heart-took my breath away for a second and made my eyes well up. Maybe because I know all to well what she's talking about. Maybe because, for the moment she said that, I felt for a split second that I wasn't alone. One thing's for sure, our thoughts and emotions and the way our minds work and everything about us works to make us who we are and how we experience and interpret what's going on is extremely complex. I think she's right. We should give ourselves more credit, be kinder to ourselves. So I hope you reading this right now, if you know what I'm talking about, I hope you can know too that you're not alone. I want to take this moment, in my own multi-faceted sometimes good and bad and perfectly flawed self, to extend my love to you in your multi-faceted sometimes good and bad and perfectly flawed self. We're not alone, you and I. And we can learn to live and love ourselves. It's gonna get better. It's gonna be alright. 🙏❤

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Mike. What you felt was exactly what I meant. 🤍

Im the joking dad and retired Marine combined. Just so you know Ms. Faith, im in rehab and have now incorporated your self-moderation into my daily mantra, as well as the "thank you for your input,remember our agreement"

@KarenFaith

10 ай бұрын

🙏

The mind is hard to understand, the human mind is so complex, thanks for the message 😊

"Love happens when we stop trying to figure out who deserves it." Profound.

Seeing myself as a prism instead of a broken mirror is wonderful

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

Yes! I found it so helpful, too! 🌈🌈

I watched this multiple times to make sure all my inner selves saw it. ❤️

The moderator she talks about is the Self energy that we talk about in IFS. Powerful realisation for transformation and integration ❤

It took youtube two months of recommending this to me every single day, but I hesitated. Until today. Thank you, Karen, I needed this.

Karens usually call the manager to complain but YOU KAREN TOUCHED MY HEART AND I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS. Sending you so much love for sharing and being yourself

What a beautiful way to share how our emotional traumas reveal themselves to be our greatest gift to humanity! ❤

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

It is an amazing mystery. :)

I have done so much to "heal" and looked and looked for something that even scratches the surface. THIS has really, really helped. Thank you 💓

@ 12:09 "see myself less as a fragmented mirror and more like a prism".... or maybe a kaleidoscope scope.

“Love is what happens when we Stop trying to figure out who deserves it” ❤

This is one of the best Ted talks I’ve heard in my entire life. What a great speaker! She made me feel so good about me and my parts! Good reminder for me to not be rough on myself and start seeing what différents part of me are telling me and accept them as they are! ❤ that’s how the path to accepting and unconditionally loving yourself starts. Thank you

Your speech was very powerful, genuine and full of heart. Thank you.

Oh my!!! You just described me perfectly!!! I have never been able to understand my CPSTD and all the voices that tell me who I am and am not...thank you for speaking my language...I hope one day I feel welcome to welcome me...

"Love is what happens when we stop trying to figure out who deserves it." So powerful.

10:57 thank you for sharing 11:00 I'm going to remind you of our agreement 11:02 to be honest and reasonable

00:00 🧠 Self-love isn't a prerequisite for loving others; love doesn't require conditions or self-love as a starting point. 01:13 🗣 Focus groups taught the speaker to welcome diverse perspectives, similar to how she learned to accept all aspects of herself. 03:25 🤔 Recognizing the different aspects within oneself allows for embracing conflicting thoughts and feelings without judgment. 04:36 🛤 Struggling with self-deprecating thoughts is a common experience, sometimes leading to seeking various therapies or distractions. 06:09 🌟 Complex past experiences can shape one's abilities and struggles, highlighting the uniqueness of personal journeys. 08:17 🤝 Practicing unconditional welcome allowed the speaker to connect and understand even with those she initially disliked or judged. 10:37 💬 Accepting and dialoguing with all parts of oneself, even the difficult ones, is key to inner harmony and growth. 12:46 🌈 Embracing all facets of oneself, even the challenging voices, leads to a more complete and compassionate self-understanding. 13:49 ❤ Unconditional welcome for oneself and others fosters a deeper sense of connection and the capacity for love beyond self-love.

I love this talk so much, after being exhausted of just giving away too much love for other people, I became dismissive of their emotions, trying to protect my peace, but the happiness and love I feel disappeared, asking where it went.. turns out it's because I stopped caring, the joy of helping someone out even in the smallest things were gone. The talk gave me comfort, Just welcome everyone unconditionally and not look for specific people to love, everyone deserves to be loved. Thanks for the comfort and security ❤️

I came across this video just at the right time and it literally changed my life. She did something that most therapist have difficulty in doing in just 15 minutes. An eye-opening, inspirational talk. Thank you Karen!

@itsjustme7212

9 ай бұрын

SAME.

I was taught how to work with inner parts by an amazing therapist. I still have a meeting everyday with my parts & it is amazing how much wisdom they have if I only listen. CPTSD is part of my life’s journey along with the hyper vigilance which is tiring as parts are on guard for any changes in others that would signify danger. Our parts always have our back, but some of them are young and need help to devise other strategies to deal with overwhelming feelings of shame, anger and fear. This talk was so affirming. Thank you so much. It has normalised my daily practice and lived experience. The one thing that is good is that I’m never alone, there are 26 parts inside me and being with others can often be too much on top of all the voices inside. I often create voice recordings when my parts are particularly vocal, others just think I’m talking to a friend.

I've watched a lot of TED Talks. Sooo many. Hoping to find what I can't put into words. This was, by far, the best TED I've ever heard. It encapsulated what I'm going through while trying to remember to not hate myself and give up. Yes, I have those voices and days, too. Like yourself, I have tools to navigate my fears and traumas, but sometimes, ...often in fact, I forget. Or sometimes the voices are too loud. Today I'm good. Thank you for reminding me to gently talk back. Too check in and to love myself always. ❤🙏🤗

Haven't seen a Ted this great in a while.

Beautiful and I’m grateful to have found this.

I totally get loving others before you love yourself, the way that I learned to love myself was I gave empathy to others and then one day it occurred to me. Why am I not willing to do that for myself?

It's in this point of time that I realize it's normal to have a conflicting feelings. That I don't have to repeatedly justify myself why I still remain kind to other given they've hurted me badly.

I really needed to hear this right now. Lots of me's are arguing with each other right now.

If you want to read or know more about this topic it is called Internal Family Systems. Developed in the 1980s by Dr. Richard C. Schwartz. Good presentation. Thank you for sharing your experience!

@amystanleygracestudios-pil2322

Жыл бұрын

I was hoping someone would acknowledge this. I just finished the book “No Bad Parts,” and it has been life-changing!

Ive almost always tried to be welcoming and considerate to every type of person or animal. But its always been hard to welcome my own negative thoughts. It's eye opening to see it as the same thing. As an artist it really helps to visualize it as a group of individual inputs! Thank you for that perspective!

THANK YOU, one day I will have the opportunity to help others the way you are helping me today.

Wow! That’s one of the best Teds ever. Your definition of love X deserve… that’s what changed my mind one year ago, and them I started a true love relationship with my boyfriend!

This made me cry…thank you for sharing this…

Loving someone in my life is really hard, but once without thinking I sat next to that person and was surprised I actually did that and didn't care if it was them or some other person. Love really is universal.

Love is in the air, love yourself and others too

Great message “Love is what happens when we stop trying to figure out who deserves it.” And it’s true that all parts of you deserve to be heard!

Thank you for helping me and accepting myself and my marriage!

I thought only I was weird now I have another person with me. It was a insightful Talk Thanks!

She was the One speaking but We felt heard. 🙏🏼

Accepting and not arguing with oneself. Listening and understanding should be a priority

I lost my mother whom I was extraordinarily close with to suicide in 2018, although sometimes it feels like it was just yesterday still. I cannot begin to explain how much I identified with the things spoken in this video, they were words my soul needed to hear. I struggle with “beating myself up” a lot mentally. “She told me that we were never going to get better, and she wanted out of here. I asked her what I could do, she only told me she wanted to die, over and over and over”. Here’s to getting better.

@babymermaid83

Жыл бұрын

As a mother, I know all your mum would want is for you to live a long & happy life. That’s all I want for my kids & all my mum ever wanted for me 🙏💕

So funny cause I literally have meetings with all my selves!

This is perhaps one of the funniest but also heartwarming TED Talk I've ever watch. Thank you very much for your sharing and I truly enjoy it!

One of the best TED talks I watched. Probably because I am struggling with this, like who do I believe? What is real and what is not that’s why I was never able to trust myself. I will try this and hopefully I will be able to learn more about myself.

@KarenFaith

Жыл бұрын

Best wishes in getting to know more of you! :)

@Ntk2031

Жыл бұрын

Yes! Exactly!!!

Self love then is something that happens when we stop trying to decide which parts of ourselves deserve it and which not.

I find TEDx talks are almost always better than than TED talks. I loved this talk! Thank you Karen(s) 😊

It all starts with love. It all starts with loving yourself and when you do that you start understanding others around you. One day I simply looked at myself in the mirror and said out loud, I LOVE YOU. After I did that my life got better. I now have empathy with people that have rough personalities. It’s all about love.

This is basically the whole premise of internal family systems by Richard schwartz - I highly recommend his book.

One of the BEST Tedtalks I've listened in years. Simple, poignant, solution driven. Karen Faith: THANK YOU! Simply BEAUTIFUL in its simplicity and profound for its resolution.

I love this woman because that's how I've thought all the time and I've felt alone for thinking that everyone deserves love even if we don't know how to love.

I loved people I never should have. They harmed me, until I walked away. I loved myself more. And that matters. Self love is vital. People who think they love others, but don't love themselves, aren't loving anyone. They are avoiding the truth. You can't give away what you don't have. She is wrong! She confuses love with being needy! They are not the same. Love is a two way meeting between two people.

Schwartz’ Internal Family Systems practice in a wonderfully clear dialogue

@peterscheer445

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exactly... I have shown this to patients on a psych unit to get this concept across without teaching it formally... its a lovely introduction to IFS in simple and relatable language

Can I love this TED talk before I love myself 😂😂. I'm just kidding. Thanks Karen Faith

Man I had a part that incessantly wanted to die. Been working on internal family systems for a bit. Literally life changing

@KarenFaith

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Hang in there, friend. 🤍

@SK-ps5pn

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This is exactly that, Karen gave everyone an incredibly honest, loving and compassionate glimpse of IFS and how all of our parts work. Corey if you are more interested in watching about IFS, look up Dr. Tori Olds here on KZread. Amazing communicator and purveyor of IFS concept.

She's funnier than any standup comedian & more information than any online course... she's amazing ✨

Gosh, she's so talented a speaker! Hadn't expected to be moved to tears when I clicked this vid. Thanks for the beautiful message!

One of the best Ted Talks Ive ever heard