"when you focus on problems, you'll have more problems. When you focus on possibilities, you'll have more opportunities."

@spabitha1499

3 жыл бұрын

Well said 👌🏻👍👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@graceg19799

3 жыл бұрын

YES!!!

@naniprasadganta2719

2 жыл бұрын

Yes of course !!! It's true👌

@pokie291

2 жыл бұрын

Whoa..❤️‍🔥

@abhijithshastri5834

2 жыл бұрын

True, focusing on constructive actions help us move past the crippling paralysis that results from ruminating on problems

"Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself." 👌🏼

@paulrassam6375

4 жыл бұрын

That's one of the best quotes, I have ever heard

@elliottgwendolyn

4 жыл бұрын

Omg saving this. It brings me so much comfort. Thank you!

@viviannatellis9500

4 жыл бұрын

Love the ever-inspired RUMIinations.

@NICK-zo1mz

3 жыл бұрын

Quote: The world hasn't changed, I have changed, everything has changed.

@hittendavda60

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome!

Video: "90% of people are not self aware." 90% of people: "That's not me."

@MJ-vf1im

4 жыл бұрын

😄😄😄

@loloshine1329

4 жыл бұрын

I'm not after seeing the video

@donblack1571

4 жыл бұрын

Facts

@gaberoyalll

4 жыл бұрын

Probably more like 99.999999999% but we can try ! :)

@Phoenix-tv4gb

4 жыл бұрын

Never listen to statistics...follow your own path 💝💝💝🕊️🕊️🕊️🕊️

“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift... that's why they call it present” ― Master Oogway

@SarthakBiswal

3 жыл бұрын

I will make him an offer he can't refuse... The godfather

@2137xd

3 жыл бұрын

Bababoee -twomad

@Maryisclement143

3 жыл бұрын

I'm still stuck on the past

@truthispriceless1372

3 жыл бұрын

Classic 😂

@ssunkite1

3 жыл бұрын

Super deep quote. Thanks for posting it.

Great video. Basically it says to focus on solution instead of problems

@faizankhatri1089

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks. That saved my time.

@imageshahi8715

5 жыл бұрын

But there are some problems which is impossible to fix. For example: our past.

@oljenka88

5 жыл бұрын

@@imageshahi8715 Why would you want to change it? It allready happened. Concentrate on "what" can you learn from it and change for the future. That's what the talk is essentially about.

@pathtowarrior

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks my adhd couldn't take the slow pace

@toppylovingtop

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks lol

Self reflection can quickly become overthinking and stop us from moving forward.

@JessBess

6 жыл бұрын

lol that's me!

@Aviao100

6 жыл бұрын

depending on the person.. i'd disagree when looking at how i self reflect and the value of self reflection in general. self reflection is needed in in any selfdevelopment, self actualization, or self awareness pursuits.. Just gaining knowlegde by reading books, or watching TedTalks and then trying to put this knowlegde into practice isn't enough. In fact, it is the slowest way of self developing, because the reflection part is missing. like albert einstein once said: insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results... how will you know if the method that you're applying isn't working for you if you don't take the time to reflect. self reflection is much more than just discovering defects, its a great tool to find other flaws that were hidden in your subconsciousness, without your awareness. We are so distracted by our every day life, and trying to meet our daily needs. there is so much noise going on. self reflection is muting all of that noise, and focusing on dismantling everything that is going ''wrong'' and ''right.'' don't overthink it, just analyse.

@michaeljt10

6 жыл бұрын

Well it depends what you become self-aware about. The deeper you get the more you realize the truth of reality itself.

@abesauer2189

6 жыл бұрын

Riley Graham well that's not true self reflection, it's almost a negative mirror image of it

@loismendelsohn3210

6 жыл бұрын

Lily ferreira yes

The essence is "Instead of stuck on problems,focus on finding solutions." Great and very useful speech. Thank you for sharing your ideas and work.

@timesn7774

3 жыл бұрын

What she failed at trying to convey, is that essence...

@orangewarm1

Жыл бұрын

Solutions to what?

"Why" makes us aware and "what" leads us to the solution :)

@barsozuguler4744

4 жыл бұрын

I think why makes more easier to learn approved things like science but not good human conversations and experiencing reality.

@ryandragon7515

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, I believe the speaker is preoccupied with solutions, and confused awareness with action.

@deepika2644

3 жыл бұрын

Now that's a good comment and some very good thoughtful replies!

I still think asking “why” do I feel like this, why was I triggered, why do I behave this way, has led to some of the most groundbreaking self discovery for me. And I believe she’s right, that all we can ever really do is come up with a story to explain why, but those stories have helped me. We are the stories we tell ourselves! But then to not get stuck on why, and move on to “what can I do now that I know this” is what I’m taking from her speech. Loved this, thank you!

@yeaolon

Жыл бұрын

We were the stories we tell ourselves. We don’t have to limit ourselves to the same reactions to the same things. We can reinvent ourselves entirely and focus on what to do to never repeat past mistakes

@maxwelmutuku8394

11 ай бұрын

I watched this video yesterday and I was coming back here to make a similar comment. In my opinion, you're absolutely right. Why questions are still very important.

@cartergomez5390

7 ай бұрын

When asked in an introspective way and not as a doomy way, we can still ask why. Then we can ask ourselves, "What can I do to change, now that I hold this very valuable information?" I think that is the essence to this speech.

@sarahscharnett8233

6 ай бұрын

I can both appreciate this important message AND respectfully, wholeheartedly disagree with its dualistic premise. While I imagine it would be difficult to easily assess through traditional research methods, it has absolutely been my experience that BOTH asking why and how are important to the developmental process necessary to transcend old, unsupportive narratives for ourselves and others. Just because the why tends to precede the how, does not make it any less valuable. The understanding of self-awareness is incomplete at best-and shameful at worst-without making space to honor both parts of the whole.

@mindywh0624

4 ай бұрын

I believed we can ask why but not to ruminate in the why.

Her anecdote about her book in the end shows how humble and resilient of a person she is. Hats off to her. She seems like a genuinely fun and caring person.

@christoc99

Жыл бұрын

I don't agree with that . Not part of my belief system therefore I dissolve any almic contracts attempts created by that being . Pay attention to the realities she tried to Programm into us . We are love. However you are free to believe in whatever you feel is the truth . I'm just expressing my opinion based on your public comment . Vibrating in the FRECUENCY of love. Chris

@HakunaMatata225

7 ай бұрын

That anecdote was totally uncorrelated to the message of this video! had nothing to do with self awareness!!

something happened to me today. i was angry and i asked myself WHY i was angry. after i found out i asked myself what can i do to improve the situation and make things better. and this helped me so much......and i came across this video afterwards.

That’s why I love the phrase, IT IS WHAT IT IS‼️ it’s about accepting things the way they are and not lingering on the way things should be.

@Eric-gx6vm

3 ай бұрын

Yeah I just wanted to say “why”proves or imply that I don’t accept true but “what” is to find what it is

Perhaps it's because "Why" is about the past, and "What" is about the present. And what better way to be self-aware other than being in the present moment.

@kmaseka5206

4 жыл бұрын

omg you smart can i quote you in my instagram

@surfinmuso37

3 жыл бұрын

That is just semantics, and can equally be applied to both "what" and "why". Also they are both thoughts or words-both remove the present...if u are thinking or talking you are not in the present. Thought and the present(awareness) cannot co-exist.

@danielmoore4024

3 жыл бұрын

@@surfinmuso37 If you are thinking in the present moment the present moment is you're thinking. When you're walking down a street can you be in the present moment? Your brain is processing information and analysing it as important or not at all times you're awake, less than one second later the information your brain sensed is no longer present, then the information you just sensed is not the present, then that information in your brain is not the present. Can you safely cross a road and remain in the present moment? Don't you have to think whether it's safe or not?

@surfinmuso37

3 жыл бұрын

@@danielmoore4024 You misunderstand. If one is thinking then one is not in the moment. Thinking is thinking-self awareness is the opposite, they cannot co-exist at the same time. You seem to be confusing beliefs on how the brain works with actual self awareness. One cannot witness the workings of the brain-only the results...yet one can experience the here and now at will. Try it. It is that simple.

@danielmoore4024

3 жыл бұрын

@@surfinmuso37 I do it all the time pal, I do Tai Chi, an art of meditation and meditation is where we are in the moment seeing what's in our mind and around us. Tai Chi is development of self awareness in the present moment. Science has stolen from the Chinese, the Chinese knew the truth about the human body before atheists ever even believed the truth about it, including the brain, never mind saw it. The Chinese knew the truth over a thousand years before any visual evidence became available. Plus, where in the author's comment does it mention thinking? Or are you the one who added that in twisting things?

The thought of a tree, is not a tree. So too the thoughts of ourselves, are not us.

@evelouise3028

5 жыл бұрын

I needed to read that, thank-you :)

@norm1815

5 жыл бұрын

A man will become what he thinks about though.....

@HearTheHeartBeatVid

5 жыл бұрын

unless you are self aware and that data is looped in your brain then you ARE what you think you are

@Albert2139

5 жыл бұрын

People place too much emphasis on the mind.

@georgethakur

5 жыл бұрын

СECI

When half of my family-of-origin excluded me from events surrounding a larger event, I felt rejected and I wondered where I had gone wrong. I was asking "Why"? Trying to figure out what I needed to change about myself to not be excluded again. Getting no where, eventually I realized I can't please everyone, and I realized how many people in my life want me around. That was like my "What". I now feel blessed because I'm focusing on how I can nurture the relationships in my life that are healthy and natural, rather than trying to put all my effort into relationships where it's just not happening no matter how hard I try to connect.

This is literally the best ted video I've ever seen in my whole life. The way she suggests makes us focus on the present moment. Why-question makes us see the past. The abyss. Where we can't take clear reasons out from the insanely complicated reality. And drag down us to a number of wrong answers. Let's just stop it and start to live the present.

@craftsentic1899

2 жыл бұрын

Ironically enough, this is what the scriptures say!! Sheesh!

@orangewarm1

Жыл бұрын

The abyss?

@orangewarm1

Жыл бұрын

@@craftsentic1899 where?

I think the message here is not to over think the Why. The Why is one of the pillars of science, we just can't abandon it. The trick is to balance the Why with a hefty amount of the What. But an excellent observation nonetheless, worthy of TED.

@loismendelsohn3210

6 жыл бұрын

maidenfan1484 please explain how so.

@maidenfan1484

6 жыл бұрын

guanacahermosa That's what I meant, thanks. I think, in science, it is important to ask "WHY does the apple fall to the ground". But it is equally important to follow up that Why with "WHAT can I do to test/prove it, or disprove it".

@lopezjraul

5 жыл бұрын

Science does not ask why it asks how. It explains not gives meaning.

@maidenfan1484

5 жыл бұрын

Raul Joey Lopez Good point, but I still believe the Why will come before How. I mean, I will always wonder "Why does light bend around massive objects" before wondering "How does it bend".

@escorcely

5 жыл бұрын

I found this a bit hilarious. This is not about science, is it? I don't understand what's the relation between science and the thought process on self-aware people over their personal issues. Nobody here is stating that you should throw the scientific method through the window. It doesn't even remotely talks about science as you are.

Damn, she buried me underground with this talk, I don't even need to take the test to know which one I fall under... I am blown away.

Amazing talk. I have to stop victimizing myself and look for solutions instead to fix it.

@thelovelylife7451

3 жыл бұрын

♥️

@chicksue7030

2 жыл бұрын

Many of us are guilty of that my friend. It's easy to get caught up in the flow of negativity that surrounds us. But we must change our thoughts to change our life. And we must intentionally make positive thoughts a habit. I've been trying a method where every negative thought I have, I combat with a positive one right after. And now I've been able to stop the negativity mid-thought, and replace it with the good, positive one instead. It's incredible how much it has helped. I wish you an abundance of love and blessings!

@thisreckless

Жыл бұрын

This comment is gold.

@SalehSaleh-oz6bq

Жыл бұрын

True by mona noorchaalida

@togfanatic3781

14 күн бұрын

why

Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to changed the world. Today I am wise so i want to change myself

I woke up one day and decided to stop lying to myself. I became self aware, and then turned my life around. I have felt more fulfilled ever since.

@Cynthia-Landers

5 жыл бұрын

@Rob Wow. Just like that, huh? Glad it worked out

Another thing that validate what she is saying is that when you ask "why" then you are loosing control of the outcome but when you ask "what can you do" you are changing the outcome to what you want which will give you confidence hence resulting in happiness and fullfillment.

Asking “Why?” creates “alternative facts”...👌🏻💫

So powerful, the key is to come to the realization that we are really disappointed about the way our lives have turned out , don't dwell on that, re-think about focusing on the real way you want to live and focus on the outcome you really desired !!!

I'm 43 years old and I have learned some things. Advice I try to give to couples who tend to fight a lot. Instead of getting angry all the time and worried about what your partner might or might not be doing channel that into keeping your partner won over. Keep reminding her or him that you are the person he or she wants. It can be that simple. don't get angry show more affection instead. Stop worrying or getting angry at whether your partner is cheating on you or not and be a person that she would not want to cheat on

This is the perfect example of how to manipulate the audience into thinking that something as normal and useful as asking ourselves "why" is not a good thing, just to sell a new idea. Although there will be situations where asking ourselves certain questions will not lead us to a useful answer, the problem does not lie in whatever interrogative adverb we use; the key thing here is to know what we want to achieve with a certain question.

@sorinaina71

3 жыл бұрын

Let's put on those color glasses and be happy while ignoring reality because it is unpleasant and hard to dig out.

@S1L3nCe

3 жыл бұрын

@Mystic Sama And that was mine. Problem?

@S1L3nCe

3 жыл бұрын

@Max Sharpe I've listened perfectly well. The fact that you question my listening/comprehension skills without any proper argument makes this discussion meaningless because you don't really want to know what I have to say; you just want confrontation and "win" the argument, which is a waste of our time.

"Why" and understanding is valid. It allows you to change what was once unconscious. "What" seems to be a excellent next level!

I think being compassionate to yourself is vital

In 1973 in College I took a humanities course: Self-awareness and hypnosis. That was my best choice in my life and lead me on a great journey my whole life in enjoying life more and self-improvement in many areas of my life.

I am Iranian and it was a great honor for me that your speech ended with a sentence from Rumi. Thank you very much.

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I’m wise, so I am changing myself.”

This made me realize I spend way too much time wondering why when there is actually no solution in that. Huh. I definitely going to move forward asking what questions instead. This was incredibly eye opening. Thank you so much!

Asking "What" versus "Why" is a solid approach. Thank you for the class.

Her advice, to me, is more about changing focus and perspective. In "Deep work", Cal Newport states an excellent idea that our minds actually turn more toward negative things, which leads us to depression. Therefore, instead of spending hours on what we call "introspection", it's more about what we can learn from this experience, or remind ourselves of what are the important values in our lives. Anw, one of the best Ted talks I've seen. Excellent delivery, and well-put honest emotion makes her message somehow more touching and memorable.

@amirahmuhammad8855

Жыл бұрын

Kykuukkl.ilj.

Self-Awareness is about realizing your weaknesses, making peace with our imperfections and having a greater goal for our lives. Instead of asking "How we can achieve things" we should ask "How we can become someone greater, someone strong and wise". Thank you for reading my comment!

The main idea is not about asking why and what questions, it is about the ability to see the positive side of yourself

This is so true! I was miserable for 20+ years until I stopped asking 'why' and started asking 'what' do I really want, and what can I do to get it?

@bengood7337

Жыл бұрын

Hi baby how are you doing now i hope you are really doing good you are awesome looking at you baby makes happy when I look at your picture it is beyond my imagination that a creature like you really exist like a rose you make the garden so beautiful You are a diamond to any man that have eyes to see goodness of a womanhood Baby am Ben easy going person very understandable Am a civil engineer and a contractor I work at so many places like Asia Europe and Africa I love art craft and I write music I like ideal people when I see your picture am impress I want a good woman that understand what real love is all about who will understand me and perfectly be for me So we can build our world strong enough to care for each other I want you to be mine and I hope to hear from you soonest thanks

Come out of your comfort zone I was an introvert before..I became an ambivert now only through practice..Because I want to become an extrovert after XII board..took numerous steps during graduation and even afterwards.There are many days where I heard comments like 'You are a silent girl etc..'..even then.But those people have zero idea how far I have come..During the process I learned a lot about myself. Now I am an ambivert..

I once heard someone say "we are trapped in a prison of our own making, but there's nobody trying to keep us inside". I never really understood what that meant until now

4-COMPONENTS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (Self-awareness // Self-management // Social awareness // Relationship management)

Love this. We often waste time overthinking and it really doesn't help

You can cultivate self awareness w/o over thinking by meditating regularly, in my experience.

@KingsMom831

4 жыл бұрын

Ari Keeper I absolutely agree! 😊🙏💜🌍

@honeybee6978

4 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@jagdishlakhani3958

4 жыл бұрын

Yes that's right

@barsozuguler4744

4 жыл бұрын

Just perfect time to be happy to breath air and get more relax sleep by getting away hard problems. Especially before sleep

@edwardseverinsen5598

4 жыл бұрын

I used to be skeptical because I tend to go towards things that feel rational. Meditation seemed to me to be more about spirituality and superstition but it doesn't have to be that. It's just sitting quietly, breathing and shutting your eyes. When you look at it that way of course it's relaxing and good for alleviating stress. If you haven't tried it, try it for just 10 minutes. It really helps.

Training my brain to go from why to what has been one of the biggest challenges in my life but has been very rewarding.

I like this quote “Keep going and most importantly, keep believing. Realize that you are the only thing stopping you.” - Richard Branson. Love you Tasha Eurich ;)

Although asking 'why' questions can lead you down the rabbit hole of negativity 'why' questions can provide valuable information for your 'what' questions. The key is to not get stuck in the 'why' questions, which can lead to inaction, or only focus on the 'what' questions and loose purpose and decrease motivation.

I like that the final quote from Rumi is delivered so powerful, especially because it contradicts the start of the talk. “I became wise and changed myself”

@_preetiyad

3 жыл бұрын

Which quote?

@erfanghasempoor3193

2 жыл бұрын

As a persian person , I should say , Rumi after being translated to english totally became an other poet , to that extent that it is very hard to claim he is not any thing except an islamic fundamentalist person that had the fortunity to become a poet.

"I have self-awareness that I have no self-awareness" -Sun Tzu, Art of war

I definitely struggle with this. Its hard to find problems within yourself when you don't know what you're looking. I'm starting on my self journey now. The first step for me is learning to be more self aware

*simon sinek and his book "start with why" leaves the group chat*

@erastusmarugu

3 жыл бұрын

🤣

@onyegbulamchiomanancy794

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@Camzeyy

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with what she's saying, but I disagree with her saying don't use the word why. I agree that the word "what" is super important because it carries action with it instead of endless thinking, but "why" is a good starting point. for example, if something tragic happens to someone, they can ask "why me" and then decide to understand how something tragic can lead to many opportunities. I think the main point is to stop running scenarios through your head, and instead start taking action. Decide what you want to do / be and do the things necessary for it.

@letslearnearn6839

2 жыл бұрын

@@Camzeyy yeah you are right. Actually , her main idea related to 'why' is to decline the negative introspection . Normally, people suffer as a result of thinking negative about self, situation , and people using this why negatively. What they forget to use the word is ' what'. So, I think the journey from why to what is a journey from problems to solutions . Best Regards

@Camzeyy

2 жыл бұрын

@@letslearnearn6839 I love to hear thoughts from people like you. Great explanation

I finally know why I do self-analysis a lot from my childhood. I am not a confident person and not hold my life well. After I have kid, I started to realized how important of the family education and what is the reason I have less confidence. I will ask more "what" instead of "why", change myself and I hope it can benefit my kid. Thank you so much.

What makes the universe such a terrifying place? What is the point? What did I do to deserve those horrible reviews? What made me sit through that whole thing?

@pippalottadejong

3 жыл бұрын

for me it was a school assignment 😂

I wished she explained the difference between self-awareness and self-consciousness. For example, you know that you can do something when you get help. You get no help. You get low self esteem because you don't know how to get things. Then you think you also can't do the thing you can do, only because of obstacles.

*I NEEDED THIS. I NEEDED THIS.* Thank you so much. I just realized I was doing it wrong the entire time. I would get stuck on hundreds of whys and forget/wouldn't focus on the whats (which is/are the most important ones); these eventually put me in the same situations, made me feel even worse, and stopped me from moving forward. Thank you!

I think the reason we chooce to go with 'why questions' instead of 'what questions' is because it is very easy to come up with a why than a what question. Inorder for you to come up with a what question that means you will first have to take a pause and analyse the situation then come up with the correct what for the situation. Great talk, Leaned a lot from it...

I understand that introspection and asking yourself "why?" can lead to overthinking and victimization but that is why it is important to not stay in this phase for a long period of time. When I became aware of my toxic behaviors, one of my first questions was why. Why do I act this way when this happens, why am I so judgmental or why do I get defensive etc. I believe that this was the foundation that I needed to figure out what events happened in my life that lead me to where I was. If when I discovered that I couldn't tell myself that I was beautiful and then I said "what can I do to make myself feel beautiful?", "oh I'll just do some self care and pluck my eyebrows or paint my toenails". It's more like a band-aid instead of getting to what's really under the surface. I believe the next phase is "what", what can I do to make this situation better? was what I did the right thing to do? what do I want out of life? what are my boundaries? BUT I can understand if an individual doesn't have any baggage like I do and if they don't need to "get to the surface", then they most likely can skip the "why" and go straight to the "what". Everyone's situation is different.

@timesn7774

3 жыл бұрын

I just posted a comment on how she can't speak for everyone, like me on my WHYS my why's entail what's in them as well.. for example "why do i feel this way" entails what could be causing me to feel this way. I don't think she's the best teacher imo. Maybe not her fault but just doesn't convey well.

@daniellelamarsh4806

3 жыл бұрын

@@timesn7774 Yes, I think that she is trying to categorize everyone in the same bin and that's unrealistic. I do know that her talk will help people on their own journey though, just not ours ;)

We r always looking for a ''quick fix'' well here it is. Very brilliantly presented, always ask ''what '' and not ''why''.

I’ve reflected on myself since I was about 9 years, literally meditating on why I feel or do what I do and it has allowed me happiness even with my flaws, and I have many. asking outside sources for their opinion on someone, remember 80% don’t even know themselves. Your best chance for opinion would be a husband of many years, he intimately knows your awareness, or a best friend who is also aware. ❤️ nice lecture

^Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world, today I am wise so I am changing My self^ This one is what I've been Seeking for for a long time

just want to save this sentence I found on the comment section "when you focus on problems, you'll have more problems. When you focus on possibilities, you'll have more opportunities."

I think asking "Why" is the first step to understanding yourself. Asking 'What" is the first step to changing that. When it comes to your emotions, it's important that you ask yourself "Why am I feeling this?" Then, should you ask yourself "What can I do to fix the situation and make it better?" Why and what are a duo, a packaged deal. I understand that this Ted Talk highlights being optimistic and making the best of your situations, but it's equally imperative that we understand the reason to why we feel what we feel, and why we do what we do. So first, give yourself the reason, and then work towards the solution.

@SomeoneBeginingWithI

3 жыл бұрын

yes exactly!

I think that stop asking "why" and start asking "what" starts the path to insensitivity. I had begun that path I time ago. I have become more practical, handle some abusive people better. But I also think I overlook many details of life, which you can only access if you ask "why".

I recently watch your webinar and it changed my life! Exactly what I needed to hear! What a blessing😇

All that is required to lead to self awareness is to be open to the idea that everyting you believe might be wrong and indeed, that the questions you ask ourselves may not be the right questions.

Your "Why" question examples were all about negative events/thoughts etc... which is why the "what" may have been a more useful question to ask in those cases to help them move forward :)

@oljenka88

5 жыл бұрын

I think these questions are supporting each other - find the reason, then make conclusion. This can apply to positive situations as well :)

This thing was personally so important to me. I've had this habit of questioning why since my childhood and I've kept a journal too. Much thanks for the insight.

I am brave. I am courageous. I am loved. I'm living an abundant life. I love you Connie❤

This is the best program in the world

There are so many insightful moments in my life where I have felt I am no more the same (including this) and then things go back to where they were. "Why ?" ....No wait what can we do to not forget these amazing insights when we need them ?

One of the best books I’ve read so far. Thanks Tasha for your authenticity and great work!🙏🏼

Why is important, we just don't have to get obsessed when we can't find the answer, and we must understand that why is not the only question we can ask to analyze ourselves, or a problem or situation. Things must be analyzed from various angles and perspectives, in order to make the most accurate decisions.

Before, your string of thoughts and actions would have been 'I need to do this' -> Not actually doing it -> 'I really need to do this' -> Feeling stronger resistance -> 'I need to do this no matter what' -> Feeling self-remorse But through relaxation, your action patterns will change as the following: 'I should do this' -> Not actually doing it -> Relaxation -> Feeling lower resistance In such a way, you break away from the pattern of increasing your level of resistance, and create an opportunity to at least begin the work you need to do.

I can tell the audience has enjoyed this talk so much from the way they are laughing >.

I agree that asking better questions leads to better solutions and I value it a lot. But I'm wondering how she defines self-awareness and its relation to asking better questions. For me, self-awareness is when you can predict better your reactions to the actions. It can be related sometimes to the questions you ask from your self but asking better questions to improve the way you think and perform is another topic! Useful talk anyway, and beautiful quote from Rumi.

@salinuh1467

3 ай бұрын

you right, they're completely unrelated.

Thank you so much for helping me open my eyes and being patient with me. I feel like you really go out your way to help me better understand myself and the situations I'm dealing with. 👍

Got it! - Focus on the "What", the solutions instead of ruminating endlessly on the problems.

This is an amazing speech. I've already interested in self-awareness and hereafter you are one of my guide in the path. Thanks a lot. And good luck

As you age you get to know more about urself by the experiences u came across you've learned from it the lessons u'll never forget as you still living in this world

@magortukamara1837

2 жыл бұрын

Well said

This is the most important lesson of my life.

Such a wonderful insight into self awareness.True focussing on solutions rather than problems builds on character and leads to continuous improvements

What an unbelievably enriching presentation she gave! I think the stage and the audience were both grateful to have her ideas and views presented on a platform like this..!!

Never read the 1 star reviews!! Loved this talk, thank you. I’ll be asking what a whole lot more 😍

now everything makes sense to me... since i decided to take action of my problems and the things that I wanna do it's really the question of "WHAT" ... for my own understanding of the word what is about addressing your situation "what is happening to me.." (self awareness)... and the my other understanding is "what do i need to fix/achieve this.." (planning).... this is the second best ted talk that I saw.... the first one was the "The first 20 hours" ..... you should try that video...

I believe that a lot of people got the wrong message from what she said. What she is trying to say is that by asking ourselves what had happened and what we can do, we can have awarness by understanding that our identity is dictated by our actions. Asking why is not always a bad idea, but asking it too much makes us self assorbed and personalize our experiences and traumas. Asking what had happened and what we can do about it gives us a space from ourselves and the experiences, and that space is what selfawerness really is (or at least in my opinion).

Awareness is like the sun. When it shines on things they are transformed

Thank you! The trap of overreflection was very well known to me. Your talk was convincing, focused and clearly backed up by research. Just ordered the book.

Being in denial is one of the most dangerous states of mind. Lets all stop and start helping each other or seek assistance in order to keep learning efficiently

first, we ask "why" , investigate and collect facts (not our "assume"/thoughts). Then ask "what" to do. Know yourself and know others around you is the start point of everything

Yah the "why" question kills. It is not the first time I've had to become aware of this

I love the way she delivery the message, immensely emotional and inspirational. I'm the kind of person who is invariably introspect myself. But fortunately, after this introspection, I usually turn my feeling around by my own advice-to my myself. Although I can find that this is fruitless to overthink about everything and I can overcome then, I just stuck in this trouble all the time and find no ways to keep away from it.😵😵 P/s: I'm not a native English speaker, so if you are, please correct my mistakes in my sharing above. Thank you so much in advance❤😍

@ilusmkkie2183

2 жыл бұрын

My self correction is *introspecting* in the second sentence. Please help me and tell me your assessment about that.🙆‍♀️❤

@traceyg07

Жыл бұрын

its called analysis paralysis... so stop thinking and try to just take a leap of faith and trial and error it!

@ilusmkkie2183

Жыл бұрын

@@traceyg07I got it, thank you❤

Self-awareness is not self-analysis. It just means to be able to observe one's own states and mechanisms, optimally without judging them. But the 'what' vs. 'why' recommendation is a great one.

What an amazing talk! A real gem! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.

Very impressive Ted Talk! One of the few that *really sticks to the topic, and provides useful information!*

First of all, Thank you Tasha Eurich if you read this or not. You helped me state some things about me. Secondly, I realized I was lately thinking about why-side more often as I learn psychology. But when it comes to learning my religion's beliefs it goes to what-side more often. I wondered what is the reason behind? Because I see this more often in some people around me too. The more and true implementation of religion, the more self-awareness, relaxed, happy, high-quality, and stress-free life. The answer I have found, is pretty simple, if you are smart enough to understand Tasha's why-what advice. Think about why only humans has this capability to search and learn this much unlike any other living kind. We have extraordinary capabilities given by a creator for nothing? What is the purpose with all these perfect designs in human body and the universe as a home to human kind. The position of human in the universe. And if we are gifted from a creator, it means creator knows us better than us, and loves us. If so, listening the Creator's advices will definitely lead us to self-awareness. Now, I call this real Self-Awareness. And in this context, I consider the advices Tasha gave, as helpful practical exercises to make a better version of ourselves.

Years of meditation have lead me to great introspection. The question is always: "What can I do to move forward?". There are no obstacles, just challenges.

Asking questions with 'Why?' seems to be a level one effort, asking questions with 'What?' seems to me level two, the level three question is 'How?' In my counselling and therapy business I now never ask 'Why?' questions.

Self-Awareness... a space where we can see clearly who we are and a place where live consciously?! Yes! How does it get any better?!

@raygeorgia3096

5 жыл бұрын

Uiu

@raygeorgia3096

5 жыл бұрын

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That was mind-opening, and I'm one of those people who appreciate what you and your colleagues do. 😊

Love this it elevates my thoughts. Interesting to know this I often Love to ask questions or focus on the why knowing this gives me hope for the what question instead

Absolutely love her angle of approach, in general. By far one of the best/affluent speakers I have come across. Much to learn from also.

I think it's not about "not asking why?" at all but "when to ask why?"

@saspry

6 жыл бұрын

Yes! And her examples were all about negative situations. Why can't I ask "why" when something good happens? :)

@lopezjraul

5 жыл бұрын

It’s about meaning. The problem with why is it asks us to attribute meaning often times which will be misplaced. What seeks to steer from the moment that happened in order to reright the ship. We are meaning seeking even when there is no real meaning to be had. I believe that’s the underlining issue here.

@Nixiliog

5 жыл бұрын

She does explain further in her book when to ask 'why questions' especially in business.

@oljenka88

5 жыл бұрын

And when to move forward to "what" can you do about and learn from it

@andrewchoco2929

5 жыл бұрын

Like what Simon Sinek said, "Start with Why"