Had to catch my breath when she said she asked the parents: "Why would your daughter feel at home with people who are troubled?"

@McGuire123100

5 жыл бұрын

Hmmmmmmm...good question; why DO I feel so at ease with difficult people in toxic environments? I guess it must have ALWAYS been that way, MOM and DAD! Good job. -- thank goodness she raised that question. It just changed everything. I might actually have a chance now that this question has been raised. I can't thank this woman enough.

@user-hf8xq9zm9e

4 жыл бұрын

I was crying at that very moment...

@Shay45

4 жыл бұрын

That question really shocked me. I have not recovered yet.

@nutmegshoppingspree8835

4 жыл бұрын

@@user-hf8xq9zm9e me too

@kat-cx5ir

4 жыл бұрын

That has resonated with me on a scary level. As has the meeting someone high maintenance and being the emotional shock absorber..

“Why is it her role to be an emotional shock absorber” omg that hit, that hit so hard. Thankful for this

@djmarylou7610

2 жыл бұрын

Same 😘

@Zenith510.

Жыл бұрын

Sooo fkn hard. 😳🤯

@aegnira9222

Жыл бұрын

Truuueee :(

@perfectsplit5515

2 ай бұрын

Re: “Why is it her role to be an emotional shock absorber” Maybe that concept is why many good-girls chase badboys and say, "I want to bring out the Nice-Guy that's buried deep down inside."

I'm learning to give myself the love I desperately want to give other people.

@joshuaclavel9666

2 жыл бұрын

How!????

@stassh.3065

2 жыл бұрын

Very interesting point of view

@sanyingcao5738

2 жыл бұрын

amazing

@MsCandice247

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful!

@chrispalmer2312

2 жыл бұрын

How do you learn this,what is the best way?i wish anyone who reads this a blessed life,and anyone who doesn't for that matter.

Literally burst into tears at the part when she said that the girl who was once a goody two shoes goes on to be with someone high maintenance because she’s so used to seeing her worth through the lens of being the caretaker all the time 💔

You know it's a great talk if you take your tablet with you when you take out the trash because you don't want to stop listening for even two minutes!

@kunshukla

7 жыл бұрын

...or an addiction to your tablet perhaps?!

@raraavis7782

7 жыл бұрын

Kunal Shukla I'm writing this on my mobil phone, so clearly I can't be addicted to my tablet, now can I? 😎

@Awnfire4God

7 жыл бұрын

Kunal Shukla 😂 lol

@momodavis1601

7 жыл бұрын

Rara Avis haha I do the same thing all the time

@FB-bo3sj

7 жыл бұрын

i stopped cleaning too lol

who here is addicted to other people's love, attention and approval??

@stephentreanor5044

7 жыл бұрын

Uh huh yes me, I am, it's fucking crazy mate.

@mashiela7189

6 жыл бұрын

Jojo Jo guilty🙆

@dreamsofturtles1828

6 жыл бұрын

Jojo Jo I am practicing not freaking out if someone does not like me and trying to win their favor. RATHER I sit with / observe the bad feeling of it....it's not pleasant but it dissipates. My ultimate goal is to not give a damn.

@dreamsofturtles1828

6 жыл бұрын

Dareios You have completely misinterpreted what I meant. The thread was about being addicted to other people's approval, My goal is not to care so I can be true to myself . It doesn't mean not caring about other people.

@livp1835

6 жыл бұрын

I am in extensive therapy for caring too much..amongst other things. I just started the 12 steps 3 weeks ago. I love that she used it for her arthritis..this is a great talk

I broke down in tears when she described the whole "good girl"... I felt everything to my bones.... Because lately I felt tired of everything and wanting everything and nothing from everybody and nobody at the same time... I really had no idea this was me...

@adanye2812

3 жыл бұрын

it is a freeing experience when you realize it is not your job to take care of anyone.

@nanafindingcure2331

2 жыл бұрын

You just described my feelings... Indeed its so tiring, wanting and not wanting something at the same time

@avinashkumbhar3626

Жыл бұрын

Happy Healing!!! 😄

@mhfarmgirl1969

Жыл бұрын

Ditto!!

@Zenith510.

Жыл бұрын

We...are hvg the exact same existential crisis rn.

How to take care of yourself; 1. Say nice things to yourself. Create a relationship with a part of yourself that might feel vulnerable. 2. Write down what you're grateful today. 3. Simply be your own best friend. Treat yourself like your own best friend, ok? 4. Self-respect; it's not always just about giving, but it's also about receiving, the ability to say 'i need help', or 'no'. Be true to yourself.

@Jacquievv

4 жыл бұрын

Aviva Hana Izdihara well said

@charlie-cc4mh

4 жыл бұрын

♥

@lykimgech3806

3 жыл бұрын

Thx q

@idanwillenchik3050

3 жыл бұрын

CAN YOU BE MORE CLICHED?

@bill35973

3 жыл бұрын

Awesome

This video clearly shows that how you have been treated in your childhood greatly influences how you will feel about yourself when you grow up .

I decided not to have children because I can barely handle my own emotions. Just being in the presence of a screaming child in a public space puts me in a bad mood. A lot of this resonated with me, I think I need to listen once again actually. Very real talk.

@mariannekoech1438

7 жыл бұрын

Mariposa Redimida You will be able to do it one day.Be blessed

@brittanamo

6 жыл бұрын

Marianne Koech this is such a powerful comment.

@SublimeLullaby

5 жыл бұрын

Same here. Im with you Mariposa.

@annkleinman3244

5 жыл бұрын

Self emotional empowerment. Maintain medium no matter up or down, high or low feelings is our quest in life. You can do different things to find "Medium" (ie,. being balanced emotionally) I had to listen 3x....she talks fast lol

@cgt2816

5 жыл бұрын

@@mariannekoech1438 She might not want to though. Not all women want to be mothers.

I've made a new promise to myself to watch this once a day...AND I just walked by the mirror and said "Hello Gorgeous!"

@Kate-qg6yi

3 жыл бұрын

did it work out? Can I ask you how are you now?

@KELEIKE

3 жыл бұрын

Hello Gorgeous from 2021 with love, have a nice day/year/life as much as you want

This is one of those rare ted talks where the speaker doesn't act to hold your attention. She is natural and really knows what she is talking about.

She hit the nail on the head! There is so much healing from childhood wounds that this TED Talk provides. One might just have to listen to it more than a dozzen times to really let the message take root in one's mind!

@omitarishi7994

6 жыл бұрын

Mzukisi Ndzipo I

@ssundeepoopsalot1391

4 жыл бұрын

Agree. GREAT Ted Talk

@rimiaya2287

3 жыл бұрын

yep amazing talk

@1877Pegasus

2 жыл бұрын

totally agree. There are many crucial points that one has to adapt to his or her personal situation and set a plan of action

@tracydecker33

6 ай бұрын

She described me in so many ways. I thought I was alone 😢 The child that wanted to be accepted. By trying to be the good girl. If I'm a good girl I wont get yelled at. I have always referred to myself as a chameleon. Let me be a person pleaser. So nobody will know I'm insecure of who I am. I too eventually turned to a substance to numb myself or to actually keep up. This has helped me more than anyone knows. REPEAT REPEAT and REPEAT ❤

My attention was held the entire time. Very interesting and insightful talk! Wish there was a book I could read...

@projectspending674

7 жыл бұрын

John Bradshaw "on the Family" is a good start.

@laurahenke

7 жыл бұрын

Effortlessly Eclectic yes, absolutely!

@viktorracz4188

6 жыл бұрын

You might want to take a look at " Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect" book by Jonice Webb and Christine Musello. ISBN: 978-1614482420

@christinebuckingham7334

6 жыл бұрын

Viktor Rácz Thank you! ♡

@saragretlein6918

6 жыл бұрын

I would recommend Becky Bailey and her website Conscious Discipline. Great information on feelings starting from birth.

"..remain invested in the curiosity, instead of in the offense - when we meet people.." Well said!

This 18 minute speech taught me more about who I am then 2.5 years self isolating watching around 800 hours of KZread obsessively trying to find these answers and 34 years of caring about everyone but myself ending up all alone at the end anyways. Tears flowing Thank you so much for validating me for the first time.

@youarewhatyourelookingfor4496

27 күн бұрын

How about now? How are you?

I think it's one of the greatest talk I've ever heard/watched. Lots and lots of thanks for this!

@cre8veheart

7 жыл бұрын

Renáta Végh me too- I am the parent - ugh now I have the child I neglected- because the sibling needed ALL the family resources- She's 28 now and working through this- Until this talk - I believed it was her Now I realize it was me.

@aquilathebee8058

6 жыл бұрын

Leslie Katzenmeier yes you need some self love!

@imittenen

6 жыл бұрын

I agree

emotional healing to remove the feelings we try to "medicate" . once you give up on others approval then life truly begins

@brittanamo

6 жыл бұрын

Tessa Cyclone well said.

@saskiaulbricht

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, how it resonstes! I'm actually physicslle sffected

@whoami1654

2 жыл бұрын

That's easier said than done.

"And actually what you wanted to do was get out of your skin, leave that behind and be someone else!" Daydreaming addict, here. This pretty much sums it up and it looks so simple, or perhaps it's being older and being aware I'm not the only one, but growing up the shame was so profound. So insidious. How can you ask for help when you dont believe you deserve it? What a poison. I'm thankful for the people who have the courage to give themselves a chance and who develop such wisdom to share with us-- especially when therapy is not affordable. Thank you Mandy

@beva6162

2 жыл бұрын

It was my upbringing too.😔

2 days ago I had a breakthrough in my CPTSD first time. I woke up feeling like I weighed half of the prior days. After 10 years I was finally feeling better. I am so grateful to God and my family and friends. Tomorrow is my birthday 🥳💜🙏🏼🤗🦋🍀🎂

Watching this while getting ready and now I'm crying and my makeup is ruined. Thank you for such a beautiful talk.

@brittanamo

6 жыл бұрын

Lucia Vega love your vulnerability❤️

@SublimeLullaby

5 жыл бұрын

Me too It made me cry.

@nIXfarmer

3 жыл бұрын

ha ha - me too, also sitting here thinking ... why am I crying .... clearly it's hit home, will have to watch it again and again

WOW!!! Just wow! she is one of the best speakers I have listened too! Some very powerful stuff!!

@unity6906

5 жыл бұрын

You haven't heard many good speakers.

@adishakti5481

4 жыл бұрын

I agree

I'm currently watching this talk for the fourth, consecutive time. Life altering. Thank you Mandy.

@whibraen2750

4 жыл бұрын

really helpful and insightful

@criquethamrick7255

Жыл бұрын

I've watched three times myself so far. Taking notes from the comment section this time. Also been sharing the video with the people closest to me.

That passage about 13 minutes in - "I judge how I feel against how you look." - and elaboration is truly priceless. We aren't just trained in people pleasing and codependency. We're trained into misperceiving the nature of reality.

@DavidTaylor_616

2 жыл бұрын

That hit me too!

@nancytylicki1824

Жыл бұрын

WOW!

@kayleneregterschot5831

Жыл бұрын

i dont quite understand this can u explain?

@lovethineownself7994

Жыл бұрын

I also didn't really understand this part. Could you please explain what she meant with it?

@charlenevano

8 ай бұрын

@@kayleneregterschot5831 Put another way, don't compare your insides to someone elses outsides. Comparing yourself to someone else, often in a negative way.

As a person who has been talkative my whole life, I've been told I talk too much, that I'm too dramatic and that I'm annoying. I heard these phrases so much from my parents and siblings when I was younger. before I turned 18 and moved out we moved 14 times. SIMPLY BECAUSE MY MOM WANTED TO. My parents were yellers until I turned 15 and by then I wad already a "good girl turned rebel" type of person. I went from bad relationship to bad relationship for two years until I met my husband, who has been such a great influence on me. Now I'm a mom and I struggle with the snapping at my children as well as the resentment. I totally feel like this talk was made for me, it applies so perfectly. Thanks for giving this talk.

@theclimbingchef

6 жыл бұрын

Mackenzie Packer I struggle with work in the same aspects

@houdaelmouatassim8166

6 жыл бұрын

Mackenzie Packer I have the same struggle. Do you know any other talks or books we could use?

@BTvLegit

6 жыл бұрын

Are you a Gemini?

@Spilled_Oatmeal

6 жыл бұрын

Misu yea

@ifyogbuefi7340

6 жыл бұрын

Me too

I cried over her speech. She's a gift to her listeners.

I was branded 'difficult' by my dad, but also my mum's rescuer when he upset her. Interesting. This woman knows her onions.

This is me. I feel like she pulled back the curtain and exposed me. Wow. She gets me.

Self Esteem is at the heart of all this.

After listening to this, suddenly everything about me as a person and as a woman makes complete sense. It was like she was describing me and my childhood/teenage experiences during the entire talk. I've been so afraid of letting people in my entire life, and now I know why. Thank you, thank you, thank you....

Wow this is one of the best ted talks I've ever watched! I'm a recovering addict, sober 13 years, child abuse and foster care survivor, recovering people pleaser, learning to place boundaries with my son after our relationship has crumbled and I'm recovering from a disability. It was almost like she was speaking to me!

I have just recently had this realisation that so much of my self loathing, unhappiness, anxiety and cynicism was probably because I am too self-centred, constantly looking at myself and worrying how I appear to others far too much. So glad that she's talking about exactly that and reduced me to tears.

The content of her talk and the way she delivered it was so captivating. She speaks with so much grace and passion.

This is very deep, very wise and so true. Thank you so much for your amazing inspiration towards self -love!

@TantawyAhmad

6 жыл бұрын

yes yes yes :)

this one hit me close to my heart when she said that she has always been labelled as difficult.

This is absolutely the best TED talk I’ve ever seen. Wow. She explains self esteem in a way that makes it so easy to understand. I will watch this many times.

Had to stop the video half way just to say how amazing this talk is. Super interesting.

@moshesakal

7 жыл бұрын

I have a feeling it's going to become one of my favourites!

I honestly feel that Ted X, with Talks like this, is actually able to/ indeed beginning to, change Society in a real way. Pioneers help of course; and I feel Ted X is breeding pioneers in its very audience.

Wow. That moment where you keep pausing to reflect on what she said and have some self introspection. Really powerful!

I used to care for my children, parents and husband. I used to work hard. I realised that forget to care for myself, to think what really i want to do, to eat. I began living my life, but not others. It's like a splendid gift to put yourself on the first place. Thank you for your speech!

@ginasverige2570

Жыл бұрын

This is my life story. Wow....

Wow! Mandy speaks truth and shines light on our feelings- a topic many of us have preferred to avoid. Our lack of understanding, our discomfort with vulnerability, and our avoidance is right at the heart of the world's addiction crisis, many health conditions, and the widespread discontent in our culture. Odds are our parents and teachers were less than skilled in this aspect of communication and we were not provided with the emotional safety and encouragement to be fully self expressed as children. Learning to identify and manage our feelings is surely one of the greatest skills we can learn- and gifts we can give ourselves and future generations. And as we do so, others see that they can too. As with most things, it works best when Kindness and healthy boundaries are woven into the mix. Thank you for your leadership, Mandy. Your truth resonates, having been my own journey. ☮️🌿💟

@ifyogbuefi7340

6 жыл бұрын

Fantastic analogy

@Diabeteslovewithdee

4 жыл бұрын

Wow, beautiful said Holly

This is one of the best TED talks I've heard. What an amazing woman. She speaks so clearly and describes vulnerability so well, very inspirational.

I feel personally called out by this TEDx Talk.

Oh my god, the feeling of "Why is it always me, who has to do everything around here..." and "Giving in under pressure", so true. Thank you so much for the video!

I LOVE HER

@Anmol34

5 жыл бұрын

aseel dawoud But she doesn't :-(

Use this message as a guide to deal with narcissism. Very valuable information.

Feelings are mentionable and manageable. She continues Mr. Roger's mentality in a beautiful way.

talk to yourself...because at the end what you need is all youuuu....create a relation with yourself,,,talk to your inner childish younger youuu,,,,,,,do it.....and before you go to sleep, write down the gratitudes of the dayyyy💗

This talk has changed my life. It is a vicious cycle within families. especially my own. I am so glad so saw this so I can change the pattern.

@ifyogbuefi7340

6 жыл бұрын

Absolutely it is a vicious cycle from one generation to the next . It is terrifying, I am desperately working hard to break this cycle

This talk touches on a core issue for self-realization that is nebulous and undefined; yet she speaks with a clarity and commitment that is a joy to behold. I'd love to hear (read) more! Many, many thanks for a GREAT TED talk!

9:20 - BAM. This is everything.

"if you're crying, and I come and comfort you, and you don't feel better, I feel like I've failed."

She is just so mesmerising. An inspiration. Brought me back to life

Mandy, this is one of the best talks I have ever watched. I nodded along as someone who's a big proponent of therapy, and I'm only starting to realize the benefits after a lifetime of sporadically winding up there, searching for answers about myself and others. I hope this comment doesn't diminish the content of your powerful, resonant talk, but I think you would be a fantastic theater, tv, or movie actress. You are obviously someone very in touch with your emotions, and an intelligent reader of others' emotions -- it's evident in your gestures, body language, and how you move so vigorously across the stage as a narrator. Thank you so much for this excellent lecture!

She explained my life in a ted talk. Woah. So why am I crying about trying to find a picture of my younger self that isn't hiding behind family that I can put up on my mirror to become friends with?

I need to rewatch this again and again. KZread, bring me back to this regularly.

This is by far one of THE best video on healing from addictions and past trauma/triggers I have ever seen. I am inspired beyond measure. Bravo, Mandy Saligari. I am a fan

Gosh she's insightful. Wow.

We can't change those who hurt us, it's an inside job within us. Gratitude is very powerful ❤

I'm a ball of tears..this really hit home.."the emotional shock absorber" "the good girl"

100% spoke to me, I can't like this video enough!!!! I know I can be so self-conscious and a people pleaser because my Mum is so I grew up watching her and adopted those behaviours. Always looking for approval from outside. I am so grateful to be in a place where I don't need that anymore! I feel I can enjoy things now and really be in the moment rather than worrying what someone will think if I do x y or z - it's so draining. I would love to help people get to this place too x

@ruksarharoon7278

Жыл бұрын

How have you managed to overcome this wounds. Please share I would love to know. I have similar behaviours as you.

God I'm so grateful for those TED videos. I'm making a playlist of my favourites to watch every morning. I'm naming it "free energy". Love

This woman is absolutely brilliant! I've probably watched this 7 times now, and every time I watch it - I notice & understand more of her messages. Outstanding presentation

well I feel personally attacked by how accurate this is to my life.

Well done. There is often narcissism / co-dependency at the heart of just these sort of addictions.

@meekainc

4 жыл бұрын

YES!

I woke up this morning with a terrible feeling of beeing emotional exploited, and just a deep loneliness inside, due to a very complicated friendship I've been in for some time now...I didn't want to get up, but this just gave me my strenght back. Such a great talk, and such an enlightening woman ! Thank you so much!!! Sometimes it can be very hard to unplug ourselves from people we love, but which just suck up our energy, without giving much back. But no one should feel like their own feelings, their own needs don't matter. So thank you again, this really "kicked my butt" and openden my eyes about how compulsory caring I have become just to get some approval from someone, that doesn't and might just not be able, because of his own mind, to acknowledge me and my feelings ❤ wish you all a wonderful day!

@AdrianaGonzalez-zq6tx

5 жыл бұрын

Lilli Lorenz My old friend of 17 years keeps saying we are BFF's, when I haven't felt that way in a decade. I'm 31 now, and after so many times of trying to be supportive (i.e. being her shoulder to cry on) of her romantic relationships, I finally gave in to ME and my feelings and accepted that what we had wasn't healthy. We don't mesh that well, we became too opposites-attract, and above all, my ideals were not hers. I can certainly be more secure as a person, but I'll stop bending to her whim now. Thanks.

This has to be my favorite ted talk. I love how she connects to this topic.

14:00 best part

This talk taught me so much about myself. I love how expressive she is as well!

It was like she was recollecting my life. I want to meet her.

I'm improving my self-esteem and self-love with daily self-love meditation (there are plenty on KZread) and stop my self criticism. Each time I recognize me being too strict to myself I tell myself that I'm a loving and lovable person and that I don't have to be perfect.

As I understood it, the point is to be aware of your feelings.

This is the best advice I've ever had. She's got me pegged. A map that tells me just why I am how I am, and what I can do about it. THANK YOU!

@davidcalado6917

6 жыл бұрын

I've spent the whole life trying to pass this message to my parents so they'd learn how to raise my little brother. I've been diagnosed as a lost case, but I've grown up and learned by myself. Thanks Mandy Saligari

I have watched the TEDtalk multiple times now. It is amazing how I can see my entire family, childhood, and sadly what I did to my children. If I could go back and be the kind of mother I wish I was, perhaps my children would be in a better place themselves and they both are in their 30s now.

@oilinmyface787

Жыл бұрын

Its alright. You know my Mom and i went through a hard time wich Led to a Long seperation. Years later we sat together again and she apologized to me and stood Up Form her mistakes. The fact that she Made mistakes (that werent minor) but stood Up, acknowledge that and took responsabilty for These Things taught me more than If we never went Into such a troubling time. Nowadays I feel trememdous Love and Respect for my Mom and she became a real Role model because of her actions that followed. What Im trying to say is that even when youre children are adults already, how you handle your regrets still affects Them ! Im sorry to Hear that you probably had to shoulder some stuff from your childhood but the fact that you're Here, listening, poofs a Point that you're probably a really good mother. :) Sorry, If my Text is pointless 😅 i Just felt Like Sharing my Point of View as a child

@jodowns8202

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your very kind words. Your comments were helpful and s source of comfort!

Great talk. Wish I had heard that when I was a teen. I'm in my 50's and just about to place a photo of myself as toddler on the fridge.

I accidentally clicked on this and it really really resonated with me. wow.

just the crude reality of ourselves, thank you Mandy

Absolutely LOVE the ending about loving yourself and putting up a picture of yourself and speaking to yourself

Thanks Mandy. One of the best TED talks I've seen. For me, what you say is obvious wisdom put into simple, everyday language that anyone can understand, while the scientific community often rubbishes this perspective as being over simplistic, needing to quantify and qualify and calculate everything when, in fact, it's the same stuff we are dealing with learning at the age of 4, 5 or 6. Unfortunately, most of us don't learn it as we don't have anyone in our sphere of influence who can, and too many never even learn this later in life. Congrats on your successful rehabilitation at such a deep level that you can inspire and teach others! Well done, you are an inspiration to many and, having learned from experience, the best kind of teacher there is!!!

This is so many shades of excellent.

@brittanamo

6 жыл бұрын

Creative Reindeer hahaha love the creativity in your writing!!!

I just learned the FLIP tactic at summer camp training: F- FEELINGS: validate the feelings; "I see that you are really excited and that's wonderful!" L- LIMITS: set limits; "I know your excited but we can't express that as running around inside where it's dangerous." I- INQUIRY: Ask child open ended questions~ "How do you think we can better express your excitement?" Let them come up with ideas so it's their choice and they learn problem solving ☺️ P- PROMPT: if they say they don't know...make some suggestions: "maybe you can run backwards? Or sing a song, or do some jumping jacks when you feel this excited!" Don't go to the inquiry or prompt steps until the FEELINGS are validated and felt through. If they are still angry or upset, continue on step one until they feel heard and the feelings are addressed ❤️

Mandy, you are truly a gifted teacher, and your insights (clearly hard-earned, but probably true insight cannot come otherwise) are powerful. The sequence starting at 14:10 is deeply moving: putting your arm around yourself, giving yourself caring and love, and then, “Suddenly, I am available to talk to you, I am available to live.”

This touched me. This is so very relevant to my life. One of the BEST Ted Talks I've listened to! Thank you for sharing this message!

Brilliant, profound, measured,well reasoned. Amazing !

@ruthnakyanzi3934

3 жыл бұрын

Well said 👌

Wow, she just explained what happened to me growing up. Both mg brother and sister were over 10 years older then me and in active addiction throughout all my adolescent years. They were always in trouble and in rehab. I was like my moms project because I was great in school, helpful at home. I was gifted got great grades went to college. Now I’m 40. Recovering meth addict married with a 14 year old child. I got exhausted because I always placed everyone before myself.

Oh God. This is my story. i always looked for validation and approval from other people. I really wanted to hear this. I cant thank you enough. Now i know what i have to work on!

@whibraen2750

4 жыл бұрын

yes- the human condition

This is the first TED talk I just had to share - Thank you, Mandy!

This just blew me away! Woah, what a talk. Take a bow.

I feel like i'am the one who is talking right now. Because everything she is saying is all about me, I pray God to give you more wisdom and knowledge to help a lot of people.

Wow, that may be the best TED talk of all time for me!!!

Mandy Saligari you are so inspiring! I am study my undergrad in psychology, and you've given such great insight into relationships for me. Thank you!!

She packed so much interesting information into such a short presentation! Amazing.

This is one of my Absolute FAVORITE Ted Talks

Wish my parents saw this. Moved out of home after looking after my mum, went to live with a high maintenance guy who was completely dependent , but I felt like I was doing a good thing. 3 years it took for me to wake up and realise. It's been 2 years from there and I feel like I'm only just starting to look after myself properly and I don't need to take care of everyone. But the one thing I struggle with is actually being happy and knowing that I can be without having todo anything for anyone. I can be happy, it's just not what I'm used to, so I give myself negative reinforcement but I am trying to change my perspective. I know I'll get there soon, hopefully.

What a brilliant talk?!! All love, care and curse starts inside and then spreads outside not the other way around in my opinion.

@kittens3029

7 жыл бұрын

RISHABHA DEVA Sharma what a brilliant talk?!! Is that a question??!

@MrRishabha

6 жыл бұрын

No. I meant it was a fascinating talk.

@christinebuckingham7334

6 жыл бұрын

RISHABHA DEVA Sharma I feel we come into this world as open and loving, vulnerable beings. Outside influences shape everything as we grow up. As adults, we must then accept responsibility for how we live in this world. Outside in first as kids, lucky are the loved - inside and outwards as adults. As adults we are responsible for our own happiness, coping skills and healing.

this is absolutely incredible - priceless talk. It is a big treasure(find) Mandy has provided to her gen. Well done

I was that one kid. Overly excited, unable to control her emotions. I was only around this at home though for some reason. I’ve been told I was difficult. Felt something was wrong with me. I know exactly how Mandy felt when she was younger. It feels satisfying to hear this, but also quite painful, as I’m still struggling with controlling my emotions.

Wow! Eye opening and deep. This talk has caused me to reexamine myself and my relationships. Thank you!

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 very good presentation and very true. We've wasted too much time and money focusing our efforts on the symptom or the physical manifestation of the problem instead of at the source of the problem itself. What she is talking about is the future of greatly improving our health, relationships, careers, and ultimately our happiness. All change happens from within, all change starts with ourselves. We are finally starting to catch onto to what ancient civilizations already knew.. you alone have the power to change your life if you just look within

Wow! This is quite literally one of my favorite talks. I will have to rewatch this several times again. So happy to have found this amazing speaker. 😊