So glad he included all addictions. People who look down on a drug addict need to look at what they are using to escape pain.

@paulfrancis783

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 🙌

@TheEarthandyou

2 жыл бұрын

What they are using to cope with abuse. What they are using to cope with something indescribable and almost unbeatable.

@Anon99anon

2 жыл бұрын

It's kind of hard not to look down on the drug addict when their actions have created a pathway of damage and you're the one left to pick up the pieces.

@mraaronfrancis

2 жыл бұрын

@@Anon99anon ...still the Dr says how he look at the reasons why they continue their addictions and what benefits they are getting from it despite all of this perceived damage. Nothing to do with humans is so straight-forward, especially things like addiction and human actions

@Chef-Farmer-Ninja

2 жыл бұрын

@@Anon99anon you should read up on addiction. There's a lot of literature out there.

"if they don't want me... at least they're going to need me." wow. powerful.

@Grimenoughtomaketherobotcry

4 жыл бұрын

The co-dependent's creed.

@subhadravm9973

4 жыл бұрын

The pain in it is depressing.

@niftycritter1870

3 жыл бұрын

my father and my half sister

@gailhawkins2210

3 жыл бұрын

Yesss

39 days sober. This is the most difficult fight of my life. Not the fight of wanting to use, but fighting to find myself and seeing the destruction I left behind.

@ptheprodigalson.575

4 ай бұрын

Keep fighting brother, you shine brighter than stars

@jb-t8112

4 ай бұрын

Congratulations ! Me 2 months and 11 days :) I lost 10 years of my life in C. Noboby will give me those years back but I'm learning to forgive myself everyday.... Ayahuasca in Peru helped me a lot. And before that therapy. Now I'm Bali to pursue my healing process....

@Tweettwish

4 ай бұрын

You got this, you can do hard things. If by chance you fall, try, try again. You’re the little engine that could. (Childhood book) You’re much stronger, braver wiser and more loved than you know, now it’s time to take care of yourself for once. You took the first step in admitting it, the second step in withdrawing physically, so now the mental part. That part is also very difficult because I feel like it’s never ending even after 11 years, so you have to fight for it daily. It does get easier though, but life in general is a trigger. Been there, done that and still fighting for it 11 years later praise God! Addiction runs in my entire family. I’ve lost two siblings, an ex and dear friends already. Thank you for speaking up, because that takes so much courage in such a judgmental world. I still feel like docs and others look down on me because of it, and that’s so unfair, but I’m actually okay with their ignorance because I’m proud of myself. I am praying for you and I’m grateful you’re seeking more information about it. It helps tremendously to have support, so you have mine.

@davidhperry

4 ай бұрын

27 days sober for me. We're getting our lives back.

@RajPLifts

4 ай бұрын

@@davidhperry keep going man. 76 days for me now. Find local AA meetings, they help massively

The single most highly intelligent, compassionate addiction specialist I've ever come across

@aaronnewman5888

2 жыл бұрын

Very sweet said

@deanbeastpittsburgh9751

2 жыл бұрын

Thanks that was very nice of u

@paulfrancis783

2 жыл бұрын

I second that. Well said.

@andrewnicol4403

Жыл бұрын

Have you read any books by Thomas Szasz? He explains a lot too!

@melissarenteria4689

Жыл бұрын

Yes everyone needs help

I'm over 40 months clean from drugs and alcohol and this man hits the nail directly on the head. I highly recommend reading his books.

@joanjensen6975

4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations! You are worth it!

@jennytaylor3324

4 жыл бұрын

Well done. So glad for you.

@blakehellebusch620

4 жыл бұрын

Yes he did! I have a month as of today actually can’t wait till I can say I have as many months as you but thanks to you I now know I have to add some new books to my shelf. Thank you. Would love to maybe talk recovery with you some time if you’re interested. Have a blessed and beautiful day to you and all. Happy Days.

@suzanahas4740

4 жыл бұрын

God job! I hope you are still off..

@naturewithin9

4 жыл бұрын

✌❤

I'm an addict in crisis right now and I've watched this 3 times now. It's the best talk on addiction I've heard and it brought me some peace today. Thank you for that.

@celinamelendez8545

Жыл бұрын

I to am in crisis right now and I'm to old for this!! I'm tired of it but I can't stop..... I'm isolated from everything and everyone. I am going through the most difficult time of my life right now. All he has said is true but it doesn't change anything for me. I need help getting help. Thank you for letting me express my thoughts and feeling.

@holly50575

Жыл бұрын

@@celinamelendez8545 So sorry to hear of your pain. Try walking outside and find one person to smile at. If they don’t smile back, they are probably in more pain than you right now. If they do smile back, then you will know you have power to help someone else. Therefore, you have power to help yourself. Then force yourself to go to you local library or food pantry and say to someone, “can you direct me to a crisis center?!!!!”

@laurenleahy6827

Жыл бұрын

Me to. How you doing? I hope this is the start of the change for me

@Aimes604

Жыл бұрын

@@celinamelendez8545 try going to a meeting. People are very welcoming and can point you in the right direction. If you don’t like the meeting you go to, go to a different one until you find one you like. I have 5.5 years clean now and it was really hard. I was also in crisis at the time. But I want you to know it does get easier, you just have to take that’s step to ask for help and follow what people tell you. They’ve been where you are. ❤

@shannongordon1384

Жыл бұрын

💓💓@kimberley virgint your not alone sis 🌷

Without finding this man I would not be on day 4 of sobriety. I will never look at people's addiction the same. EVER.

@pavlos307

2 жыл бұрын

I wish you all the best.

@tracylancashire9245

2 жыл бұрын

Good on you, I recommend reading his book, in the realm of hungry ghosts. He really opened my eyes. All the very best.

@giventolive3343

2 жыл бұрын

:)

@JennaBleasby

2 жыл бұрын

Im just over 500 days and its because I've come to understand what addict is. This helped me a lot too. Congratulations and keep going odaat

@abundantlife6577

2 жыл бұрын

Best to you my dear. I’m on one year and it just keeps getting better. ♥️🙏🏻😊

“People in power are very often some of the emptiest people in the world, so don’t look to them for change” Well put! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

@shirleyclemmer3299

Жыл бұрын

Gábor is so kind, caring and loving. Me, not so much, I guess. I’ve been saying for quite some time that the world is being run by psychopaths. Who else would want that job? I’m becoming a cynic in my old age.

@thedukeofnuts

Жыл бұрын

@@shirleyclemmer3299 Sociopaths perhaps. Add narcissism to the mix as well! Psychopaths have no sense of self-preservation.

@marielleo4715

Жыл бұрын

People in power can change the world. Look at all these great "men ... look at the wars... the revolutions....

@michaelhughes5595

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely Spot on! This gentleman is a visionary mind.

@robynhope219

7 ай бұрын

Yeah, Elon Musk certainly is empty.

“And yet we judge the drug addict because we actually see that they are just like us and we don’t like that. So we say, “You are different from us, you are worse than we are.”

@looksscotty

4 жыл бұрын

My heart😢

@MyraValdez

4 жыл бұрын

The story of my life 😔

@MrGreeneyedcat

4 жыл бұрын

Beautifuly, accurately, and kindly articulated.

@markdemell8056

4 жыл бұрын

There is a truth to what you say! I noticed today that a great number of people are super addicted to that infernal phone! Sad! I threw my phone away6 yrs ago, liberating! I have made up a new word ,,,Pheroin addicts' what that means is that people are addicted to their infernal phones.

@Jack-hy1zq

4 жыл бұрын

@bill Bloggs of course, addicts have to take responsibility for their own actions just like everyone else. but this video is about what causes addiction in the first place. and whilst locking up the addicts who commit crimes addresses their criminal behaviour, it does nothing to address the causes of addiction.

"Nothing records the effects of a sad life as graphically as the human body." -A Legend

@orderofrecovery.quitdrinki6778

3 жыл бұрын

Truth!

@titan3854

3 жыл бұрын

And that legend is called Naguib Mahfouz.

@vaishnavijadhav6806

2 жыл бұрын

@@titan3854 Thank You

@psd7721

2 жыл бұрын

How profound is that

@mandydean1327

2 жыл бұрын

Beautifully said

In 2001 I was a PhD student writing my dissertation on ADHD in children. I contacted Dr. Mate and he spent a good part of an afternoon with me talking about my work and his perspctive regarding ADHD. He was so generous with his time, and incredibly helpful!

@MR-kc2re

Жыл бұрын

What was his perspective?

@melissagreenwood1717

Жыл бұрын

@@MR-kc2re it’s a coping mechanism from childhood that you would tune out trauma

@NormaAnn91

10 ай бұрын

Wow I believe that I was abused physically for 26 years and a addict for 14 years and I have ADHD and I can believe it's a coping mechanism within myself absolutely amazing

Dr. Gabor Maté is a world treasure. His talk is filled with compassion and wisdom.

@fran8935

8 ай бұрын

I have his book the Realm of Hungary Ghosts.

@vladghelu516

6 ай бұрын

This is the right comment 👍

7 and a half years later, and this is still one of the most powerful talks I have heard.

@emmanueloluga9770

3 жыл бұрын

Well stated

@fabisobe

3 жыл бұрын

Have you watched Dr Mate and Russell Brand's podcast? If not, I highly suggest👍

@Mikein203

3 жыл бұрын

@@fabisobe thanks for the suggestion. I'll check them out now.

@sirishavenkatesh8415

3 жыл бұрын

Totally agree with you!

@krystatinyy9652

3 жыл бұрын

I’m starting my journey now I’m owning up

It kills me that people like this don't have a louder voice or bigger platforms.

@justahuman-being5983

7 жыл бұрын

people run on bigger platforms are empty inside so they don't want this. it's too revealing and wise.

@Mouna108

7 жыл бұрын

Who wants, will listen to him. Who looks for his philosophy will find him :)

@jelef001

7 жыл бұрын

LET'S JUST KEEP TELLING THOSE WE KNOW

@frankolm2795

6 жыл бұрын

It is happening as we speak.

@excusesbegone

6 жыл бұрын

ish He and other like him are reaching ALL that are READY to recieve the TRUTH. TRUST THE PROCESS HOTEP

This made me cry. Absolutely spot on. Today I celebrate 4 years sober. Very grateful for this amazing talk. Thank you 😁🙏

@lindseywestcott1501

2 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!!

@DawnalynForrest

2 жыл бұрын

Such encouragement!

@ruthtavarez8302

Жыл бұрын

Wow... that's awesome.. What did you do to heal?

@lynnelowe8461

Жыл бұрын

@@ruthtavarez8302 went to AA 💖 saved my life 😇🙏

@teresaoverholt6253

Жыл бұрын

Congratulations sister ❤ I am 4 years sober but I'm struggling again so that is why I'm watching this

I just found this on KZread purely by accident. It's explained so much about the way my life has evolved. I'm 72 with many physical problems. Most have been there all my life. Spent far too long in hospital as a child without emotional support. Life has been a mess emotionally. Made lots of mistakes. Understand better how that has made me what I am. Definitely an addict to a number of things. Despite life in general I hope I have a year or two to make a change .

@LaoTze151

2 жыл бұрын

You can do it!

@tinodani3124

2 жыл бұрын

U are amazing and u are great dont forget that. No matter how Old are u, amazing thing will happen to u. Im really sorry for all the pain that u endured, but don’t forget u are a piece of art created by God and I’m convinced that u will do good and u are an amazing human being! God bless u

@gojisandhu

Жыл бұрын

You got this!!

@DilbagSingh-ox8li

Жыл бұрын

Love you dear, god bless you.

@orchidgirl3432

Жыл бұрын

Good for you, some people never come to realise. Never acknowledge the issue long enough to recognise the impacts it's had on them. I hope you find some peace I'm your pain

This is one of the most powerful speeches I've ever listened to. Without any tricks, any flair or any glamorization. Just a small man speaking in the simple manner about the great truth from the great heart. Thank you so much for posting it. "Find a lamp inside yourself, be a lamp unto yourselves, find a light within." It made me cry.

@Vizharan93

8 жыл бұрын

+Montanee jo It is indeed. He explained exactly what I craved to understand for a long time.

@mylamai99

8 жыл бұрын

+Montanee jo - This is indeed the most honest and resonating speeches I've ever heard also; hands down my favorite from TED Talks.

@briandale5350

8 жыл бұрын

+Obiarshi link?

@superbeatclubfriends

8 жыл бұрын

+Montanee jo TRUTH.

@gunmanelite1398

7 жыл бұрын

Jo Montanee I spent 17 years in active addiction, and during those years my addiction was only halted when I was in prison. usually, I went straight to score almost as soon as I walked out of the gate, despite being free from active addiction and physical dependence. the mentality of an addict is undecipherable to non-addicts, and I've rarely heard anyone articulate the intricacies and nuances of addiction (and its' causes) EVER. However, Mr Matê is incredibly astute regarding this topic and is so articulate in his explanations that I can honestly say I've been stunned into silence by the raw power within his words. he summarised the feelings and thoughts I had during my own addiction, and did so in such an eloquent and articulate manner that I am speechless. watching this footage here, I've finally found some answers which I have sought from the very moment I realised I had become physically dependent on, addicted, to Heroin. Explanations like the ones Mr Matê gives here are fundamental to recovery. 'We' [addicts] all seek knowledge on our behaviours and mentalities so that we can adapt our thinking and behavioural tendencies in such a way that we can begin to overcome the obsessions and compulsions which form the nucleus of our addictions. Thank you for posting this, and if anyone is interested in this field, then personally I don't think you could go wrong if you accessed Gabör Matê's extensive research on all aspects of addiction.

Dr. Matés wisdom should be taught in every school in the world.

@tonizen876

5 жыл бұрын

How do you teach a child your parents don't want you.

@ALEN1ful

5 жыл бұрын

Governments wouldnt like that. They love addicted people.

@spiritwalker9903

4 жыл бұрын

@@ALEN1ful Imagine the entire structure that depends and thrives on dis ease collapsing.. nope because when there is blood on the streets there is money to be made.

@meiko431

4 жыл бұрын

Indeed

@gangstapb8

4 жыл бұрын

You can’t teach wisdom that’s something that’s earned

I am a physician. I am also a compulsive overeater in recovery and a workaholic. Dr. Gabor Mate’s approach has helped me on my inside and the outside. A moment of compassion for a patient can change their whole life. I feel it and I see it in my work. In fact, I chose my specialty of Emergency Medicine to give to the most vulnerable in their crucial times of need. Healing can be shared and can happen in a moment.

@KaarinaKimdaly

2 ай бұрын

Amen to your insight.

@CutmeMick

2 ай бұрын

Thank you thank you for seeing us as humans with pain and loneliness not just a worthless bum cause 99 percent of people in the medical field that I’ve come across over the last 30 years, I’ve had over 15 broken bones from athletics, were the worst and most judgmental, detrimental to my mental health humans that I’ve ever had to deal with. And what do you do when the Care doesn’t Care? You go back into the darkness..maybe you make it out, most likely not.. God Bless and thank you for researching these things, that is Angel like, knowing how to show compassion and empathy is the most powerful because so many in the medical field don’t and it shows 🙏🏻

My son was addicted and died by suicide at the young age of 27. If only he had the right support. Everything I tried pushed him further away. He wasn’t abused but my husband died when he was 14 and our family was never the same. I wish he had a compassionate doctor like you, he’d still be here. 💔

@ZippyG

10 ай бұрын

💔

@denise1932

3 ай бұрын

Doctors need to work from the patient needs rather than fit them into the confines of their books.

@lisavaden1118

14 күн бұрын

💫🙏🏼

@andrewmichieli1760

4 күн бұрын

@@denise1932yes but it’s very hard, are you perfect at your job? Even when it gets difficult? We expect doctors to be stoic and rational all the time, but they are human just the same.

“ I am not afraid of dying, Am afraid of living”. Most powerful and perhaps the saddest statement ever.

@Isadorka1

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, there was an attempted suicide at the age of 26. Come a long way since but it was not an easy journey. IT IS POSSIBLE.

@tranquil87

3 жыл бұрын

Marcus Aurelius said it first, that people fear living more than dying.

@paulfrancis783

2 жыл бұрын

@@Isadorka1 I wish you all the best.

@kr1221E

Жыл бұрын

I remember, over 20 years ago, in my early thirties, I was talking to a man I know, and I told him the same. Now, at 56, and addicted to hard drugs due to choices I made in my mid thirties, I a scared of living and dying. I force myself to be positive, I want someone who I believe, to say "It will all be ok", however, we sometimes need information when we seek help for other problems, like the ones I have, because of the choices I made, and, while they were just being honest, telling me how it is, they painted a grim picture.

This man is a Lighthouse. He doesn't just shine for himself but for others also

Thank you for acknowledging the root cause of the problems we face as Indigenous people fighting to retain our culture. It really means a lot hearing an expert such as Gabor Maté validate our reality. Tēnā rawa atu koe.

@alika207

6 ай бұрын

I am so disappointed in what my ancestors did to people like you. I stand with you.

Psychedelic is the answer to most severe anxiety and depression...The use of magic mushrooms completely helps one get over depression and makes you feel like yourself...I used antidepressants for some years but it only made me feel like a zombie but with immediate use of mushroom 🍄 in few months I feel like I'm living a whole new Life.

@andersonjemma

10 ай бұрын

I've been having this constant, unbearable anxiety because of university stress..not until I met Myco.spore.. he really helped me

@bianca8071

10 ай бұрын

I live in Michigan….suffering for awhile now but didnt realize how serious I may have it until recently - probably bc of @self medicating” with alcohol

@tessymitch

10 ай бұрын

I'm glad myco.spore is mentioned... I've been having situational depression for about 4 yrs plus now but I had to hit him up last week and he really gave me some of his product..they work like magic.

@williamspiper

10 ай бұрын

Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction.imagine carrving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone.Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues

@ChloeNguyen-gs5hz

10 ай бұрын

@@andersonjemma not surprised u mentioned his product are nice...and pure..

Its a comforting feeling to hear somebody speak so much truth in just 18 minutes about a topic that is so misunderstood.

I was addicted to drugs and alcohol for several years... Nowadays, I consider myself a survivor. :)

@barbarajeanne71

7 жыл бұрын

I am a survivor as well. Blessed i am..

@saraebdale9616

5 жыл бұрын

Awesome! I too am a survivor.

@alessiovalori

5 жыл бұрын

@How About Some Hardcore? have a look at "Nil by mouth" by Gary Oldman

@NishaSharma-mq5xy

4 жыл бұрын

I am happy for you 😊

@meiko431

4 жыл бұрын

Congrats 🤗

Gabor you have saved my life. Never have i been able to get over the shame and guilt of having an addiction. You have allowed me to feel human again.With this, being ADHD, I have always felt so much frustration, shame, and disappointment in myself for always frustrating the people around me. I thought I was just a bad person who didn't care enough to remember to shut the cabinet, lock the door, or to start a load of laundry my wife asked me to start. You took 1000 pound weights off my shoulder. I am not a bad person, I am just the who i am, for good or bad.

@SinisterMud

Жыл бұрын

As an addict myself... I wish you all the strength my brother!

@alan4sure

Жыл бұрын

Now shut the door. It's a simple thing. Plus you're letting the heat out, we're not heating the whole city. 😁 (said my dad)

@evapollens2642

Жыл бұрын

Same ADD problems here, with addiction. I care too much and get mad at myself for having groceries that have gone bad. I was looking for my keys and apparently left them in my front door. It's exhausting isn't it? I hope you found a way to get some help.

Even in sobriety, I haven’t been released from addiction. Without healing of the heart and soul, addiction will simply take a new form. The “healing” of the mind alone will never be sufficient. Thank you Dr. Mate.🙏🌹🦋

@Mmcermes

2 жыл бұрын

The big question is how to do what u wrote

@BRIANROSER

2 жыл бұрын

@@Mmcermes exactly

*I discovered Gabor Mate today, 29th July 2019. The people who made internet, many years back; Vinton Cerf and Robert Kahn in the 1970s maybe never thought that one day a random 25 years old guy from Bangladesh would be this grateful to them and all.* And, thank you TEDx Talks too! Thank you KZread algorithm. Thank you all, everybody...

@iemon7722

4 жыл бұрын

You're a good man Asif. I wish you well!

@whitneytrevino4404

4 жыл бұрын

💖💖

@salta5859

2 жыл бұрын

Asif, you are born and you certainly grew up in the same time as internet invades the lifes in Bangladesh. But, as far as i can see, you use it as a mean of learning and not a substitute of emptyness of relationship ( facebook, twitter). Internet is a gold mine, a library in your house, a fantastic tools to learn everything you want. And you catch that. Thanks

Watched hundreds of TED and never seen people applauding just in the middle of the speech and a final standing ovation... 100% deserved, Great speech!

He has changed my life and my view on addiction. One and a half years sober from alcohol.

@user-mg8vj5dc7d

3 ай бұрын

3 thinks I like how he care about his clients and my view on addiction can come in different forms. Not only drugs also like budda said find the light be kind

I viewed this presentation in awe. No one had ever verbalized my life experience in such a broad and gracious manner as Gabor Mate. I am not one to watch anything in repetition (except this video). He provides an explanation rather than an excuse. We do deserve an extra hug from each other 🙏🦋🌹

@tonyagriggs3329

Ай бұрын

Ive never heard a more accurate explinaton of causes of addiction ....this man really understands this disease...with such compassion and foresight....his education is SPOT ON IN EVERYSENCE, and a really powerful understand of this subject!!!!!!!!😢😢😢😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤❤

I wish more people would listen to Gabor Maté. I lost my father to addiction. He had a horrible childhood. I really don't want anyone else to suffer like that.

@flowgo5299

7 жыл бұрын

I am sorry about your dad. and yes I agree, Dr. Gabor he is the greatest mind in todays world. I feel. and yes my husband died from his addiction earlier this year. and I can honestly say he was the most beautiful man with a terrible disease. he was heroic to me. But the disease is deadly. and it devastates families.

@askyeshka726

7 жыл бұрын

KSangel180 I am sorry for your loss. hugs

@askyeshka726

7 жыл бұрын

KSangel180 Huggles. I am sorry for you loss. in a way it reminds me of Jung. people do not have ideas. Ideas have people. and the addiction seems like that. we don't have addictions they have us.

@frankolm2795

6 жыл бұрын

I was a junky living in the area he is referring to and yes my childhood was the same. He is amazing. He is local and my girlfriend knows his wife. He is now so busy it is impossible to see him. Good people like this and NA and handwork with faith saved my life. I am very sorry for your loss.... I listen to you as I imagine my own daughter saying the same thing. Thank you.

@MaximC

4 жыл бұрын

Just wanted to say to you, after reading this your comment: I love you, brother or sister from another mother. I'm sad for your father's unhappy childhood.

6 months sober going on 7!!! no alcohol! & i dont crave a drop. neverr been better 😊😌

Easily the greatest ted talk I've ever heard . So much meaning and inspiration yet as well with a lot of sadness .... But it's reality . We need to hear words with weight , meaning , impact , strength and wisdom . Good man . Thank you

@jeanhounsell4199

10 ай бұрын

Y

I just got a new addiction. Listening to this guy! He is so wise. Can’t wait to watch more videos with him.

"If you are kinder to your self, you will be kinder to other people" 💯

We need to reevaluate the entire legal system. No one should ever go to jail for addiction. Always inspiring to hear Mate.

@jamesrobertjr8002

6 жыл бұрын

PS... but if their addiction causes then to steal from friends and family, they should pay for their crime.

@malika-rosedean601

5 жыл бұрын

So true addiction is a health issue and should always be treated as such

@ScarfaceMich

4 жыл бұрын

@@jamesrobertjr8002 no.

@cryptekwizard8336

4 жыл бұрын

@James Robert Jr...you have not concept of addiction, and obviously have not listened to some of Dr. Mate’s first points in his lecture. If you punish an addict for showing symptoms of the disease, it’s no different than shaming a diabetic for low blood sugar. Look beyond the behavior...look beyond the ugliness, and see the person who is suffering. So much are they suffering, that they will do unspeakable things to get their medicine. I think holding people responsible is important, but punishment isn’t always the best teacher. Every addict feels so lonely, whether it shows externally or not. Society disconnects them from themselves as if they are contagious and crushes the self esteem more. We need to be kinder. Self preservation is important, but altruism is divine.

@jade-br1xx

4 жыл бұрын

PS YOU GOT THAT RIGHT!!

My husband died of an overdose. He was so beautiful. He was so incredibly smart and strong and so talented. He could do anything. He wanted to please everyone and help everyone. He lost his battle. It hurts me so so much. I tried to help him and nothing worked. He was so attentive, he wanted my attention so much. He would do everything to make me happy. When he didn't have his drugs or alcohol he was a different person. When we first got together I had no idea he had any addictions. Slowly he let me see who he really was. I know someone abused him when he was a child and he couldn't say it out loud. I know he was physically abused by his father. He was emotionally abused too. It's extremely sad. It's extremely hard to deal with.

@juancastrofranco9209

Жыл бұрын

I hope you have the motivation to share all the experiences about your husband on people that are needing help on this kind of situations, maybe the life is not random as we think and this is a wisdom message that you can share on people that suffered this.

@cynthrlly4ever

Жыл бұрын

@@juancastrofranco9209 I appreciate your comment. I really don't know what to say other than, I know something inside him hurt so much he had to drown it with pills and alcohol. It was horrible to watch.

@juancastrofranco9209

Жыл бұрын

​@@cynthrlly4ever, Try to find an answer is so courageous, your husband should be proud of you, and I can imagine he loves you so much, I send you a hug and I hope the pain heals.

I never ever heard such logical conversation about addiction

His soft approach is pure and ego free . Outstanding speech and message 👏 Thank you 😊

@DLX1444-Asc-Nav

Жыл бұрын

He conveys divine truth and wisdom. All perceived addictions and/or escape behaviours whether via substances or any other compulsive activity searched for from outside of us is simply avoidance of just being our true self in the moment. Power is within us all waiting to be awakened for our personal and collective benefit ✨️

@Astanski

Жыл бұрын

😊😊😊

This is an absolutely amazing talk! How simply he explains addiction, personal and collective, and all the ways it is ravaging the humanity. And then he offers a solution of finding "the lamp inside" and working in small communities. Just lovely! Thank you so much good Sir!

@MaryJoMatey

5 жыл бұрын

My oh my .. it IS amazing ...

@axcx598

5 жыл бұрын

Yes and Having, finding, building SUPPORT, thats KEY.

@marionunez8378

4 жыл бұрын

He is one of the few persons that explains and knows how the brain of an addict works and acts ! Amazing !

We need more Gabor Maté on Mother Earth! Compassionate unconditional love humility knowledge wisdom clarity down to earth = Dr Gabor. Thank you for your love and light. Doctors healers and all kinds of practitioners should watch this! ❤️🙏❤️

@Enmanuel_V6

Жыл бұрын

I really love the name you’ve chosen

From starting detox to now, (4 yrs clean), this video resonates, personally and globally. First, it helped ameliorate my self hatred, second, it started a love affair between myself and my fellow addicts . It started with compassion for myself and them because Dr. Mate words taught me to see differently. It’s amazing what a change to compassion can do for a person. One of the best ways to stay clean is to help someone else. In recovery you can find many examples of giving help and when you take the risk to do so you’re not only doing good for the world and the addict, you start to witness a glimpse of that light within yourself Dr. Mate describes. If you are an addict or someone you love is, watch this, watch any of his videos or read his books, it’s not a temporary fix!

Mate's "In the realm of hungry ghosts" is the best book i've ever read on addiction. he has such compassion and insight.

@CODYj423

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed. I tell people this regularly.

This guy understands me, I have been trying to tell everyone why I behave the way I do and they are so dismissive. AA says I lack a spiritual sense and I am diseased and that any behaviour to defend the antithesis of their contention is just another signal of my disease. My family says I lack character and discipline. I say I lack a morphological and chemical construct in my brain that makes me different from most people. People who do not turn to substances and end up addicted like me. I say I am no different than the type 1 diabetic, whose genetical make up, makes him turn to exogenous insulin in order to function. Why is the brain treated so vastly different then any other organ.

@livp1835

7 жыл бұрын

I hear you bud..I hear you. Story of my life.. What to do? What to do... I love how you compare 'us' to type 1 diabetics, brilliant analogy. I hold on- by a thread at times, hoping, 'praying' clinging on to the 'tomorrow' will be different...ffs..its been twenty years of 'wishing' now...literally doing anything and all to be 'normal'.. I DO believe there is something differently wired in our brains...as I know I fail- NOT for lack of trying...lack of back bone, effort...by God; the shit I have put myself thru to be 'better'..jeez..could fill a book. I love this doctor- I saw him in the Addemdum films I think; he is amazing. My latest attempt- and most interesting- is attacking my food..with the sayings of Hypocrites; let food be thy medicine.... I found this PhD in addictive nutrition, combined with my own doc a PhD in heroin Addcit; I'm attempting- with some success; longest last was 19 days, then 9 days, the last month- zero processed foods...0. (no dairy,- for it is loaded with opiate/dopamine, no nuts- why nuts? they contain tryptophan; apparently triggering for opiod addicts? no sugar. wheat-- anything made in a factory basically....Leaves me with, steel cut oats; soaked half a cup- 3 eggs and two fruits for breakfast... lunch and dinner- 200gm of meat (chicken, steak- anything, just not processed- like ham or sausage) 200 gm veg/salad (not peas, corn or potato)and 100 gm of UNprocessed starch- like brown rice, quinoa, millet, sweet potato kidney bean, chikpea) Also- and snack; one egg and one fruit. Water only..... I have to say- the first few days are tough; withdrawing off sugar/caffine etc...not nice...BUT- by day 5-7 I feel freaking amazing, like I am on best drug ever- crazy happy....and my craving for illicit substance virtually vanish....why am I not on it today-?? I am an addict, and self sabotage is my MO... I- crash and relapse; when I MISS a meal...or two...so that is KEY- I have found- I CANNOT miss a meal..and watch my sleep....that always screws me..etc; AND I MUST start a regimented movement plan...I start again tmw after this last lapse- again, cause I missed meals and stayed up late-yeah- my doc; is BIG on sleep- and NO screens after 10 pm...books only.... OH and I joined a boxing club last week. My doc reckons I need to take up boxing...;-) found a great club that takes small groups of 8 and trains together...Just sharing with you; what I am trying...as I hear you...and Its so fuicked. Good luck to you...I may post this on the main comments too. Being an addict - nothing worse...sorry, for the really ill people out there- but a life with addiction, is really no life at all.

@jesus3373

7 жыл бұрын

+Olivia P I feel you. 23 years addicted to opiodes. I tried to taper down from 2mgs of buprenorphine but when I jumped I was emotionally & physically drained. I'm going to try again but this time incorporating daily meditation & yoga this time. Good luck..✌❤

@livp1835

7 жыл бұрын

Ellycat would love to chat; Hmmm. I am yogaolivia@gmail.com- we seem to have almost identical stories.

@letthelovework966

5 жыл бұрын

@@livp1835 how goes it now? Id love to hear back, thank you, I'm Lorraine

@nauxsi

4 жыл бұрын

@@livp1835 I've seen research that says the brain can rewire itself.

Gábor Máté nails it - wish this message will spread around the globe through those who not only receives it but put it into action in their lives and spread the light forward...

For 12 years I've been abusing and misusing drugs and this gave ne closure

Gabor is one of the most brilliant speakers . Suffering is the price of wisdom .

@engr.hassanmajeed7278

2 жыл бұрын

Where from he is?

@mayar76686

2 жыл бұрын

@@engr.hassanmajeed7278 Hungary

@engr.hassanmajeed7278

2 жыл бұрын

@@mayar76686 OK but one of my friend told me he is from Canada

@mayar76686

2 жыл бұрын

@@engr.hassanmajeed7278 he isn't. Check it out on Wikipedia

@engr.hassanmajeed7278

2 жыл бұрын

@@mayar76686 OK i will , Where you from ?

This is a poweful talk. I was addicted to exercise for many years and my body paid a high price. People accepted this addiction more because it was socially OK to exercise excessively and I was an athlete, but I did not enjoy it, and it was the endorphins I craved just like the opioid addict. I did a lot of therapy and have lost this compulsion decades ago. Dr. Mate is so very wise and compassionate, I wish every high school health student could hear this Ted Talk.

@DonkeyLipsDA3rd

5 жыл бұрын

That is an interesting addiction. You can be addicted to anything.

@peterryan438

2 жыл бұрын

Addiction is whatever makes you feel good, but unfortunately some destroy life, be it financial or health or whatever good talk there's addiction everywhere you look the human brain always wants to feel good

@paulfrancis783

2 жыл бұрын

I wish you all the best.

Dr. Mate', to me, teaches like Jesus. He is so wise, soft-spoken, not condescending, so insightful and intelligent, inspiring and reminding us that the light is inside us. 10 years later, this is more relevant than ever. I lost my daughter to accidental overdose 3/5/21. I wish I had found Dr. Mate' and his knowledge earlier. I feel like I have a mission to spread his word. Thank you!

13:35 This is why I trust Mate. I'm crying and watching this. Thank you for talking about this issue in Indigenous communities. Really feeling the fear for my friend's life right now. Working on my own sh*t so I can be a support and resource without enabling addiction.

@rollandjoeseph

2 жыл бұрын

I know it's been 6 months but I hope your friend is doing ok, I also hope you're doing ok as well !

@jaydev536

Жыл бұрын

Indigenous communities are hit so hard by colonialism and capitalism and all of the structures causing current and intergenerational trauma. Canada does not want to admit it but we're still to this day committing genocide against indigenous peoples. Cultural, environmental, and literal due to the MMIW absolute Crisis that has been around for far too long and persists today. I stand beside you and your friend in solidarity if you will have me as a white woman. Land Back. And that barely even begins to rebuild all of the damage and atrocities.

This man is a holy genius

@johannbadenhorst4920

8 жыл бұрын

He is a jew, of course he's a genius.

This video had me in tears. I felt like he was speaking to me. Telling me why I am the way I am.

@jarrilaurila

3 жыл бұрын

Feel you bro. Peace and love!

I didn't expect this to be such cohesive, thought provoking and incredible. The depth of his comprehension about the mind and the biological chemicals is unmatchable!

Just went ready to give though love to my dear Child and send him to the streets,God gave Dr.Gabore this video to love my son unconditionally.Thank you for your tender and compassionate heart,Dr.Gabore.

I wish this was my doctor..

@ellencampbell3921

4 жыл бұрын

Rebbekkah Holt I was so lucky. I learned so very much from Dr. Mate. He was my family doctor and he fell my baby girl. She is 25 years old.

Gabor Maté is a truly wise man. Thank you, Gabor.

@jennyadrianavrolijk1860

8 жыл бұрын

Truly wise indeed

@KSangel180

7 жыл бұрын

Preach it!

@elizabethstevens8199

7 жыл бұрын

Gabor mate

@mammakitteh

5 жыл бұрын

Wow. What an amazing man. Such profound words simply stated.

The idea that drugs' chemical properties themselves aren't the root cause of addiction is something I've been pondering lately and it's sooo nice to finally hear a specialist go into the actual reasons that lead to addiction

I have been an opiate addict for nearly 14 years of my life. This is the best scription of drug addiction that I have ever heard. I have a child and I hate that I’m causing so much harm. To the point where I absolutely hate myself. I had so much trauma as a child, I suffered greatly with neglect and abuse. Not to mention opiate addiction is generational in my family as well. I often feel hopeless, I have gotten clean too many times to count and yet I keep going back. What is wrong with me?? Why can’t I stop???? I don’t know. I try counseling, Recovery meetings and so much more and I can’t seem to stop. I’m passing on this trauma to my daughter, I just know it. I am ashamed.

@hazzaplayz808

8 ай бұрын

I understand what u mean hey

@markstahura6194

5 ай бұрын

You are enough. Just be there with and for your daughter.

I still cant get over how amazingly humble Dr Gabor Maté is he is so knowledgeable and does tremendous work. Angel in the flesh 🙏🏽💞

As someone who has struggled with alcohol, drug, sex, tobacco, and food addictions, participated in 12-step recovery programs for several years, and finally had to leave them because the amount of doctrine and practices that are counterproductive in them often outweighs the good, I came to many of the conclusions in this video through my own independent spiritual development. THIS IS THE BEST EXPLANATION OF ADDICITION I HAVE SEEN TO DATE AFTER EXTENSIVE RESEARCH AND EXPERIENCE WITH THE TOPIC. ** MUST SEE!! ** Today I am a happy, healthy and fulfilled man who manages his life quite nicely using alcohol, tobacco, and marijuana (and every once in a while a harder drug) all in moderation and have done so successfully for over two years. Putting them all down is right around the corner, but only because I wish to ascend to the next rung on the spiritual ladder, and they no longer fit in my life. I had to find out if after the 5 years of sobriety and spiritual healing that I did, if I could indeed actually use responsibly like so many other people, and the answer was "Yes." That having been said, alcohol lowers your vibration, weed causes anxiety at times, tobacco and unhealthy food poisons you, and for these reasons I am leaving them behind, not because I am sick or defective. Now I will be a sober man because of personal choice and love for self rather than coercion and shame. Addiction does have a spiritual cure, but it involves a complete overhaul of so many paradigms that have been programmed into us about ourselves, life and God, and 12-step programs as well as organized religion keep you stuck in those paradigms thereby preventing a cure. This has been my experience upon which I have based my informed opinion, nothing more, nothing less, so one can take it or leave it. Peace.

@wenbudro7597

8 жыл бұрын

+Ted Kirk Well said. Well said, indeed.

@jesus3373

7 жыл бұрын

I found N/A to have too many hypocrites tbh.

@sherif9023

7 жыл бұрын

Peace.....I will take it!!!

@RobertJohnson-lc5bj

6 жыл бұрын

Ted Kirk who’s your sponsor ?

@chockpea

6 жыл бұрын

BRAVO - you just said everything I have been thinking myself and is a great addition to read along with this brilliant Ted Talk. Keep up the good work x

Gabor Maté is an experienced old soul with wisdom that doesn't float in a cloud, untouchable by those who are with him, but he is present in that wisdom, joined by compassion. What I love about his attitude, is that no pampering, no sentimental journey is part of his message and style. Tough love, how good a practice! No nonsense, and no pushing people deeper in their misery by pitying them. That's only creating a false sense of "being good to a person who is far worse off than you so that you will feel good about being good Fiddlesticks, poppycock. I'm a strong promoter of realistic talk, in a presence of allowing another to be present just like he or she is, without the wish to change it, and see what's needed at that moment. Professional doctors aren't educated in that aspect of human relationships. They learn to only fix things, only those doctors who reach the age of 60 or older find that quality within by experience and learning.

Gabor Mate has the most Amazing course classes that I’ve been taking for last couple months! It has changed my life and anyone looking to better their life needs to check it out! Only 12 bucks a month less than two coffees and my mind is cleared and depression has lifted thanks Dr.Mate ❤❤ love from Canada 🇨🇦

Beautiful and powerful speech. One I could relate to as am addict myself. (I'm 5 months sober). He describes the pain addicts are in absolutely perfectly and describes just how badly they're treated by society. Going to support groups, I can say people in recovery are some of the best people you will ever meet. When you show kindness and compassion to someone they can achieve so much ❤️

@realyreals2689

2 жыл бұрын

Had your natural dopamine receptors came back after 5 months in ?? Please respond when you see this.

This took me to CHURCH!!! What a wonderfully compassionate presentation. Gave me the goose bumps

What a great honour and privilege to be alive at the same time as Dr. Gabor Maté. Thank you for sharing your light and your work. Thank you so much

I watched this 5 years ago and it completely changed the direction of my thinking. I had so much pain and couldn’t understand why or how to deal with it until I found this. Gabor I will shake your hand In the next life. You literally saved me. It only took 40 years to learn why i took the paths I did. And now that I’m mostly healed, I will always try to help others and always recommend this video. God Bless you sir.

Gabor, I try for many years to pass on your information, even in my recent detox stay. I was fkd up that they hadn't heard you yet. Ive been in rehaps from Edmonton across Canada since I was 25 years old. I'm now 57 and God knows why I'm still here, but no matter what, I will pass on your information until the day I leave this world.

I am hungarian, I came across his name 2 months ago, and watched everything on youtube. Here in Hungary many dont know anything about him, as its in english. I love this speech. So powerful. And so true, how judge-mental people are about the ones who take drugs, but everybody has their own addictions. Love that he is so humble, and such an intelligent way of approaching things.

It is hard to kick an addiction but it is even harder to live sober and experience the pain of living, while tolerating it/sitting with it. Dostoyevsky and stoicism changed my life

Superb❤...You cannot address Addiction without addressing Trauma. Even if it's just yourself that recognises and processes it. Mate is a voice of compassion that can be internalised. Going on 6 years myself soon🙌

At first, when he said he was addicted to classical music I laughed. Then I realized he was serious and I know the feeling of getting addicted to things people don't think of as addictive. But it can feel urgent in the same way. That makes sense now.

@Urza26

10 жыл бұрын

I have a very strong suspicion that a lot of people are addicted to youtube as a painkiller because I am one of them.

@suesjoy

7 жыл бұрын

Urza26 me too....

@crimsonskies1445

5 жыл бұрын

You had the "Eureka" moment and as an addict I'm happy for you that you get it. Power and money are more important to most of the world than hunger, physical health, mental health, Dental care, children, law enforcement, education, prison system, doctors, pharmaceutical companies and the list is endless. How many times have you ever blamed your tires for the reason the car didn't start?

@namastetyson6267

4 жыл бұрын

Urza26 Wow!! This is so true.....

@HunterWeiss

4 жыл бұрын

So true

Wow... this is the best talk I’ve ever encountered. I am speechless. I’m sure you’ll never see this, but thank you, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

7 yrs & 9 months. Keep going one day at a time. You can do hard things!

I found this while searching for peace while having an addicted brother. Thank you.

@sumomaster5585

21 күн бұрын

Hang in there man. Your brother got a huge challenge, but he got you by his side, hope he appreciates that cuz he's lucky to have you! As an addict myself, I wish I had some1 who cared about me like that. Fighting myself has proven to be the hardest challenge ever

I cried a little.

@ncasibiaqui3735

6 жыл бұрын

Kilju Pullo me too

@explosivediarrhea4671

6 жыл бұрын

Kilju Pullo me to

@jamesrobertjr8002

6 жыл бұрын

It happens.

@TheNIKOLASRBIN

5 жыл бұрын

I cried a lot

@beautyofnature4280

3 жыл бұрын

Good

AWESOME! compassion-- not punishment and rejection. Love is the answer. Love is the most powerful thing of all.

@writteninthesky

4 жыл бұрын

only compassionate and unconditional love can cure addiction. nothing else seems to work...

@chrisnoecker5287

4 жыл бұрын

Unironically its also the rarest of all emotions.

@writteninthesky

3 жыл бұрын

@@chrisnoecker5287 rare and precious like diamonds, formed through heat, pressure and time.

@chrisnoecker5287

3 жыл бұрын

@@writteninthesky ya but its nothing like a diamond. Ask anyone whose gone through a brutal divorce and lost children. Not even an anti-matter explosion can turn a diamond to ash so quickly.

@TheEarthandyou

2 жыл бұрын

Define love.

Man o Man , what a sense of generosity , power of understanding with reasoning from Facts to figures to history to people to pain to pleasure and more..And Dr Gabor delivered it with such humility and calmness . That's Experience and Efforts right there ! Hands off🙌Hats Off🎩!

this man knows himself. this man is Powerful.

I am shocked how good his talk was..he understands addiction.I've been to many doctors in the past 40 years who never understood this..btw I've been in recovery since 11-30-18.. ❤&☮ 🖤🎼🐾💋

@rachaeldeering334

3 жыл бұрын

I’m really glad that you have also had the same idea.. I was trying to let people know about this. Because there’s some people who assume that I can easily give up... but it’s extremely difficult... I have no motivation and I am extremely depressed and lonely...

I want to tell any mother who has depression. It does not mean that your children will feel unwanted! Keep your children by your side and nurture them the best you can regardless of how you feel. Any and all nurturing gestures will let them know they are loved and wanted. Especially basic needs.

"Teach people by soft words, wisdom and without force"

64 dislikes to this AMAZING talk. C'mon ... seriously!? Clearly their internal lamps are malfunctioning. A brilliant, thought provoking and inspirational talk ✌

@iumaragomes6882

8 жыл бұрын

👏👏👏👏

@kwarxeltube8737

8 жыл бұрын

+Elizabeth S Now it is 76 dislikes and slowly grows, but the likes also grow. Thats why it is better to express it in percentage This 76 is just slightly more than 1%, it is about 1.25% of the number of the likes. It is a very low rate. Nearly 99% of the raters give a thumbs up.

@elizabeths7700

8 жыл бұрын

YAY! There is hope for this world :)

@gypsyrosegypsyrose2531

6 жыл бұрын

192 now............they have no soul and there are more than i realized........now thats scarey

@pentabuzz149

5 жыл бұрын

The internal lamp never malfunctions, it is the one that is not listening to it

This has got to be the best speech on addiction on the entire fricken internet. Wow. Awesome. So glad that this kind of insight is being spread around and seen by many many people! What a great dude.

The thing is though, I had a great childhood. I wasn't abused in any way whatsoever at all. I had great schools, a great home, loving parents and family, good toys & clothes and any activity I wanted. I did well at school and got into a good University. Then I moved away and married and then had a wonderful child. The only thing I've ever really had to deal with is a medical condition, but it isn't a really bad and is quite manageable. Except that my doctors started giving me morphine for it. More and more. I got hooked. 2 years later I finally got help. Was good for 5-6 years and then I turned to alcohol. I have no idea why. But I do know is not because of any childhood abuse or deep seeded pain.

''Human nature is actually very cooperative.'' The way I interpret it is that we are all here to solve eachothers problems with money as a tool of exchange.

@ohnoao9847

6 ай бұрын

God never intended on us to need money, he provided everything we need and it comes from the Earth, money is man's thing.

@erkansefa

6 ай бұрын

@@ohnoao9847 good point

This was an incredible TEDx Talk. As a newly licensed mental health therapist with a certification in addictions counseling, this video was an excellent teaching tool. More of this information should be taught in our classrooms, especially on the graduate level.

@Zenigma217

Жыл бұрын

Graduate level and much earlier.

@holly50575

Жыл бұрын

@@Zenigma217 yes. Teenagers who don’t know why they have such pain in their minds and need to understand where it is coming from.

I love how he describes how we can be addicted to anything! He’s describing how you can hide behind anything and that’s so true books as he said classical music anywhere to hide so you’re not in your own thoughts. Wow!

I discovered Dr. Mate about a yr ago. He is amazing. If only there were more physicians who were capable of being as knowledgeable and caring as he is. But that would mean that the goal of medical treatment would be to effect genuine healing, something the U.S. medical system certainly doesn't often facilitate.

My son was loved and was around people that loved him. He said not loved and home issues as children. Now I feel like I did something wrong as a dad but I didn't that I know of. My son was not mistreated but he an addicted to drugs. I have tried everything to help him. He's 29 now.

Life altering/changing speech in under 20 minutes. Absolutely amazing.

One of the best ted talks I've ever heard. His speech ignited my mind in so many different ways.

So happy i clicked on it, have a quite manga/romance manga addiction bc i need escapism when life gives me a little stress. I like how the doctor acknowledge and analyze his work addiction-why he have it, how he want the feeling of being needed-and how it harms his children.

key quote: "...we judge the drug addict because we actually see that they are just like us, and we don't like that."

Yeah, this guy says it better than anybody ever has. I truly resonated with every word. It is unfortunate that the people who most need to hear it won't ever listen, because they don't think they have an addiction. Whilst they drink their wine, have a piece of chocolate cake, buy something else off eBay and in the same breath criticize someone else's bad choices. Hopefully his words can spread through osmosis. Thank you Gabor.

I lost everything because of addiction to alcohol. he is spot on with everything he says xx 😢

@jamesrobertjr8002

6 жыл бұрын

Marie Miles ....not everything, you're still alive, while others have passed away. Keep your chin up.

To add to the trauma or the emotions of the baby feeling the mothers feelings and reacting makes you consider how many of our ancestors have suffered from being colonized and had their culture taken from them and were murdered. The trauma has passed down to many generations in our culture or ethnicity. We are fortunate to have the capacity to understand this now and have the knowledge to discuss this. To have the ideas he is speaking of. Teach by example not by force. We must look within to understand why everyone treats each other the way we do.

Thank you for sharing your story of classical music. On social media, I have been a part of "consumer enabler groups"-- mostly women in mine, who collect certain things (scarves, skirts, rubber stamps, you name it.) I recognized addiction in these groups. There was a sense of acceptance and encouragement in these groups. I stepped away-- sometimes the buyers even joke about their "addictions". I had always thought that I was above addiction, but I saw that if I didn't have it that I was awfully close. Thank you for enlightening us on how drugs [things] themselves are not addictive but the endorphins are. One doesn't have to have been abused to find find some desire for those endorphins.

In this quarantine I have literally binge watched ted talks, tedx and this man got the best ovation ever