The shock & disbelief were also the biggest emotions I felt after the lightbulb moment. "How could he do that?! How could I have been so clueless??" Surreal is an accurate description, as you said.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes agree Wishpool 💯🙌🙏🙌

@GLeon-ov9yu

2 жыл бұрын

Their evil treatment is mind numbing.

@christinawnuck3284

Жыл бұрын

You're absolutely right shocking off shutting off is what I felt but I did not feel like I had the right to say those things. Actually I think we do

Never knew what narcissism was back in the 80's and 90's when I was facing all of this. At the time, I attributed it to manic depression in the other person. Eight years ago, I learned what narcissism was and it was a relief to realize that it wasn't all me. These people were really out to do me harm. Recently, I've come to know that there were friends in my past that were also narcissist. I'm careful not to label everyone that I have conflict with a narcissist, but there sure seems to be a lot of them out there.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Jeffrey 💯🙌☀️🙏💪

@ulysses8785

2 жыл бұрын

They are all over the place like the walking dead.

@swanam_1

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I can't imagine going through narcissistic abuse before the Internet and all the online resources we have now.

I hope every victim gets to see this video. Andrew is spot on about this lightbulb moment or puzzle piece fill in - I was stuck in wonderment and still find puzzle pieces here and there. I at least now can see where they fit into the puzzle to complete the picture of what I was seeing and experiencing. It’s almost Impossible to advance on the healing path if too many puzzle pieces are still missing. Keep listening to these videos, accept what you are learning and ponder on what Andrew is sharing with us. As ugly as things are, it’s real, it was/is not about us the victims. The only closure we will get is from ourselves and being involved in this group. No one else gets us - so come on people - let’s help each other heal, pray 🙏 for each other and validate one another. The best way to be encouraged is to encourage others- thanks Andrew - God bless you, Jesus loves you and so do we ❤️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this insight Mary.. I appreciate your kindness and honesty 💯☀️🙏🙌

@WalkerHoundGal

2 жыл бұрын

I agree 1000%! The key to understand is to understand others, the key to receiving love is to love every one. The more we help others heal, the more we heal ourselves. Peace to all who have had narc abuse. My heart is with you, and I take comfort in knowing that yours is with me every step on my journey. ❤️

@angelicamaster1324

2 жыл бұрын

Mary you are spot on! Looking back now I find pieces of the 15 year puzzle too! Many confusing things make sense now but still break my heart that I was totally clueless and felt so wretched at times. I would love to have closure but know I never will. I still feel sick sometimes but less as the weeks pass. This forum is helping me more than any therapist ever did. Thank you for your excellent response.

@jude5815

2 жыл бұрын

Yes i agree in Jesus name .

OMG 😳 You are explaining what I went through for 30 plus years….I couldn’t have explained it better ….thank you I love listening to you as I’m now free and divorced and love living on my own without walking on eggshells 👍😃

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Majella.. 💪🙌🙏☀️😊😉

Bro.. your channel is the absolute BEST channel out there on Narcissism. Better than any therapist, “life coach“, doctor, lawyer out there. You can tell by the way that you speak that you have gone through it and have so much insight. It’s funny because after all the long months that I’ve gone listening to these videos, so many people just didn’t feel relatable, and I didn’t want to invalidate their feelings because I don’t know them personally but it just didn’t seem like they actually went through it. But you describe this thing to a T.. once your eyes are open to what you have gone through you will never be the same. Even once you’re healed and over that relationship, your outlook on life and people are totally different.. sometimes for the better, sometimes for worse.. but you definitely have a third eye. They are such a thin line between normal behavior and narcissism that it makes it hard for others to see who have an experienced it but once you do.. you’ll be changed for life!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Shawn.. I sincerely appreciate your kindness and honesty.. 💯🙌🙏☀️

@asprospitti

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Shawn, I agree with your reply, I could have written every word myself. I have spent a considerable amount of money and time over the past year since discard on an with experts ! Andrew, and others like us on this channel, we are the real experts, we are the ones whose hearts souls and lives were abused. Andrew cuts through all the BS and gets right to the core. I am so glad I found his channel and the community. I truly feel I am not alone any more. All the best Shawn

1st began with counseling together. That therapist said I needed to get out, we're dealing with anger issues and she couldn't figure out where from, but it was not us. The narc ended that therapy, we never went back. Ended it this last April 2021. Saw a video from Melanie Tonia Evans. I couldn't believe what I was hearing, but I absolutely tried my best to disprove she was a narcissist. New therapist, completely experienced herself from a narcissist ex of 20 years. But when I joined this group, to hear what everyone had to say...you were telling my story, as if you were there with me suffering! My ex is a narcissist, plain and simple and I'm still shocked at times. But it's been no contact since early May and it's over! She's attempted one time to communicate and she got nothing from me. Listen to our group, listen to Andrew, we'll make it thru... I promise. I'm free from that pain & agony and it's wonderful.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful message of inspiration and healing.. thank you for sharing this insight Stephen..💯☀️🙌🙏

They confuse the hell out of you and make you think you're crazy. Horrible people but you love them

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Until you don’t..😉💯

It took me 4 years after separation to really understand who I was married to. I’ve been aware since 1/18 and still educate myself through books, videos and podcasts so I can continue to heal. Can’t believe I got involved with a grandiose malignant narcissist last December but instead of 22 years, I got out in 10 months. Once I understood, I would not allow myself to be devalued and eventually discarded. I can’t believe I actually stood up for myself. I struggle with that but I know I did the right thing. Staying single and devoting my time to myself and my son. Namaste 💕

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful message Mary.. beautiful 💯🙌🙏☀️

It was the ultimate light bulb moment. Like you said, so many pieces fell right into place. It truly was like solving a giant mystery. Unreal!

The week I left and went NC I slept like a baby. I hadn't had sleep like that for years.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful to hear 💯🙌☀️🙏💪

Hello Andrew, have a great weekend. Your work is much appreciated in this community. I look forward to each video. You empower allvof us. Thank you so much.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your kindness and honesty thank you A Small Bitchy Banana 💯🙌☀️😊

@treelover1050

2 жыл бұрын

WHAT IS A BITCHY BANANA?

Negative person doing negative becomes positive for super Empath!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 🙌

Yeah there was definitely a light 💡 bulb moment when I realized I had been raised by & surrounded by narcissists my entire life. Many of us didn’t know what one was until the info started coming out. I found out in 2017 & have been researching these demons since then. This is a battle between good & evil the Narcs are here to teach us that & to trust our intuition & use discernment & vetting when considering a romantic relationship or friendship.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this La Vegan 💯🙌☀️🙏

@treelover1050

2 жыл бұрын

YES THAT'S WHAT I'M LEARNING TO DO NOW- VETTING PEOPLE BEFORE FRIENDSHIP.

@southernsierra9404

2 жыл бұрын

@@treelover1050 yes satan doesn’t come with horns & a pitchfork he comes as everything you’ve ever wanted… too good to be true!

@kimberlyfontana5852

2 жыл бұрын

@La vegan you hit it right on the head. It is demonic!👹

@jeannieotb8491

Жыл бұрын

I had so many red flags during the course of 32 years knowing narc. I even got away for 4 years but when he came back around did not have knowledge to know what he was doing and gave it another 22 years of my life, working slaving for narc with no kindness. Just endless brain frying and narcissistic fog. Left July 2021 but only figured out covert narc in Dec 2022 and blocked no contact but waiting for house to sell. Every day is different. Recovery is certainly not linear, still days of tears as I realise what i allowed him to do to me. Impatient to move on but still processing. The cognitive dissonance between what i thought he was and what he is, is the hardest for me and letting the relationship go gets easier listening to your beautiful words of enlightenment, . and no, people don't understand what you have been through except here. love and light Andrew . you have saved so many souls 😢❤

I've known my ex for nine years total (I'm only 27, so that's one third of my life.) I actually just had the lightbulb moment a few months ago. I always knew he was a compulsive liar and had mental health issues... But a narcissist? No way! I'm glad I'm no longer in denial. The floodgates have opened and I can truly begin my healing process.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful progress Ashley..💯🙏🙌

You are a gift Andrew. Thank you for your insight and support!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

So are you Prince..💯🙌🙏💪

Also, the light bulb moment doesn’t take away the pain, but helps the confusion. Baby steps.

@PutTheGlassesOn...

2 жыл бұрын

Well said.. I knew the day she left that I had been bamboozled, and that she was a narc shortly after. It helped me stay on course with healing, but I still went through months of immense pain while the anger phase was already accelerating. I still get angry almost daily depending on the amount of triggers/ memories that arise. But I know what is real, and ultimately swat that garbage away like a nasty swarm of flies. It's exhausting

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Completely true 💯🙌☀️💯

I remember that moment exactly and what I can say is, that I felt very relieved. The game changer for me was now knowing the fact, that the Narcissist (in my case my mother) does not want "nothing but the best" for me. This piece of Information, knowing that actually the opposite is true, changed everything for me.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Awa.. I appreciate your honesty 💯🙌🙏☀️

Spot on. When you said: “I gave to a fault, gave and gave … “ I had a vision: what you gave was just consumed- like food on a plate … and when the plate was empty, they moved on to a new restaurant…. That is a devastating feeling… you provided love and they provided consumption

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Excellent insight..💯💯💯

@shannonvanderhoof4810

2 жыл бұрын

Excellent analogy. 💥

Even I have medical education I didn't recognised him for a years. Ok, I noticed that he treated me with neglect but I've understood that I became addict like some heroin addict. And I couldnt discard him because I loved him. So, people, don't blame yourself, you've done nothing wrong. Take your time to heal and try to do what makes you happy.

So many doors! And all of them have a booby trap! You have to really want to move forward. I am glad I have very good balance! Not to make light, still contemplating stepping in front of a Semi.

My light bulb moment was when I realised I was just a body to him and not a person he cared about. I’m so thankful I didn’t go all the way physically with him as then he would have gotten what he wanted. He was very angry when I got away and I became the #### that led him on, when he was in fact grooming me and I became someone, who I wasn’t.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your kindness and honesty thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏☀️

What shocks me too is that how prevalent it is not only in the US but worldwide. I realize now that i'm a good , decent, kind and fair person but there is a lot of people that aren't.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

So true.. it took me until last year literally to comprehend this..💯💯

I love how the Universe takes care of us through every means possible. I felt alone and confused until I found your channel at exactly the right time. Thankyou for speaking the truth 💙

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome thank you for being here 💯🙌☀️😊🙏

How can a woman treat you like that Andrew your soul an energy is so beautiful❤️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you.. I appreciate this..💯🙌❤️😊

To this wonderful community: I have been listening to Andrew for 6 months. All of his education and your comments have helped me grow stronger as I learned about Narcissists. Now today I am celebrating! After one year next month my house is selling. I am getting the money back he tried so hard to steal. I need to continue my mental healness but want to thank ALL of you for helping me along the way❤️🌸💪🏼🙏🏼

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful empowering message of encouragement and progress 💯🙌😊❤️🙏

Yes, when you realize it, everything clicks.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

💯💯🙌

I really hope this syndrome comes to more light. I am so grateful for this knowledge now at 68. I just wish I could have found it when I left the narc at 50 yrs. My Mother bought the whole song and dance and forced me to go back to him. She didn’t know but she should have. Unfortunately she is the narcissist that made it seem like home with him.

Oh Andrew This whole ordeal is so overwhelming. I’m about a little over a week being “discarded”. When you commented about the flood of emotions that come, well my friend I can barely catch my breath. I feel…. well actually I don’t know what I am feeling! I am so glad I stumbled onto your channel (which I subscribed) I need to get the lingo down Thank you so much for sharing your experiences to help guide us newbies. :-/

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Kimberly.. my suggestion is embrace your emotions., they will come and go.. you found a safe place here in the community.. You Are Not Alone 💯🙌🙏☀️

Thank you Andrew. Thank God for the light bulb moment. You are right about all the feelings we have once we have this moment. That's when we need to take care of ourselves and do the self love. I felt really stupid for allowing myself to be treated that way along with a bunch of other emotions. But nobody should beat themselves up for loving someone. So we need to take special good care of ourselves while processing these emotions. You are so right it takes a long time to heal.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your kindness and honesty.. it does take a long time..💯😉💯

I never even knew anything about narcissism at all... I was with my husband for 27 years and it's just within the last 6 months since we have separated and are divorcing that I've actually become aware of him being a Narcissist. I was searching the internet for help and information to try to figure him out ALL the time and to try and KEEP making the relationship work! But when I happened to come across your channel, I now realize I was constantly trying to do better, be more loving, try harder...but none of it worked and none was ever going to work with him. I even avoided us getting too close with "normal loving" couples because I KNEW...something was wrong and off with us but I didn't know how fix it! Your videos are amazing and have opened my eyes. Thank you!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Maggie 💯🙏🙌

@2maggs

2 жыл бұрын

One day at a time...it's been tough but just every day doing the next best thing. Thanks for all you do!

It was a tornado of trauma. It literally shook me to my core as I had been with him 6 years, married 6 months and out of the blue, caught him cheating on me. After 3 weeks of pain, confusion, ghosting, he told me he thinks he's a covert narcissist. Never heard of it. Has shattered my world but is so true that we can come out of this hell and build a new self, with better boundaries. I really appreciate your time and knowledge that you share 🙏 ❤️

You are so correct. Its 14 Mths. now, that I left and I'm still putting those pieces together. I watch these Videos for Validation, I believe. Thank You for what You do❣

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Nancy 💯🙌☀️🙏

There are many awakenings that occur after narcissistic abuse. You realize your partner is a narcissist. Then, you may realize that a parent or other family members are narcissists. Then you realize that it’s an inter generational problem. Then, you recognize that other people you’ve encountered (work supervisors, colleagues, neighbours, roommates, landlords, etc) were narcissists. Once you “see” narcissism, you can’t “not see” narcissism. You have to become deeply familiar with the narcissistic Arsenal of manipulation and abuse tactics; so that you can take the nearest off-ramp when you encounter narcissists in the future. The behaviour of narcissists is abominable. The trauma they cause is terrible. The spotlight needs to be shone upon the phenomenon of narcissistic abuse and the terrible mental health problems that occur, as a result - especially for the innocent children.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your honesty and insight.. thank you for sharing this Lorraine 💯😊☀️🙏

@growingandlearning164

2 жыл бұрын

So true Lorraine.

@JH-td4mn

Жыл бұрын

💯. People need to be made aware of and educated on Narcissistic Abuse. It would be a massive help to so many victims/potential victims.

The omg moment is very important indeed. The relief of education to know what you were embroiled with is tangible...you finally understand and have answers. However as you say reality bites! Education also brings with it the end of hope! It forces you to stop the denial and reach radical acceptance. Only at this point can we turn inward and do the work on ourselves to heal and change. It is indeed a long journey. Lets all be very very grateful we somehow had the strength to find the answers and chart our course for a brighter future. I fear there are so many wandering in the dark totally unaware of what is happening to them. DC

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you DC.. interesting as just this morning I was thinking the same thing.. many people don’t know what they are experiencing..😯😯😳

Absolutely true. I had a very short marriage and yes my a-ha moment was mind boggling. But realizing now he can ruin me financially I just don’t know if I can handle it .

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Sending prayers and positive energy to you 💯🙌☀️🙏

@dizzyd3670

2 жыл бұрын

You can handle happy harpist. Be strong and keep educating yourself and everything will work out for the best,. We are always here to give you support also. ❤🙌🌹

@kimberlyfontana5852

2 жыл бұрын

@Happy Harpist I hear you! I am in the “lack of financial bliss… “ Stressed oh yes I am but God has a plan for all of us. We are all inspirations to each other. We are the Genuine ones!! You came through the trenches and survived ;) and now have the confidence that you CAN handle it ! God does not make any mistakes. ❤️

Immediately after the break up with my narc I started trawling through videos and Googling to try and understand what had happened to me. The first conclusion I reached was that she suffered from something called Avoidant Attachment Disorder but then realised that it went a lot deeper than that. I kept a notebook of my thoughts and looking at it now there is an entry about 4 weeks after I started researching, and in big black capital letters I had written the word NARCISSIST with 3 exclamation marks after it. That was my light bulb moment and where my understanding of events began.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful insight thank you for sharing this 💯🙌☀️🙏

Spot on! In my case, this took me more than 10 years to figure out... it's like taking the red pill in the movie the Matrix: once you see the blueprint you are able to spot it everywhere. Unfortunayely, this condition is not well known. A lot of sad cases in the news 'feel' narcisistic, but are labeled as sad or unfortunate. Thank you Andrew for helping to shed the light on this topic and to close the awareness gap!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Thomas..🙏💯🙌

My MIL was narc, son is too. I’m leaving him. She was malignant; she was psycho and believed our baby was hers. Did everything to take him away from us. Told me breastfeeding was sex abuse of an infant. WTF?! It was endless. And exhausting. Folks, you deserve so much more. Accept the loss, get yourself support, and then go have a beautiful life! Namaste ❤️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this insight..🙌💯🙏☀️

When we figure out that we are in a narcissistic relationship, the game changes!!it changes a lot!!the life's challenges to make us stronger, better,resilient,honest and finally peaceful beings! We handle the situation in a wise way!!we become the best version of ourselves!!thank God that gave me that challenge which makes me really strong and resilient person!!the path is too long,the levels of transformation are challenging. And life always teaches to become conscious and human enough!!so narcissism is a big challenge for each one of us!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful insight Sofia 🙌💯💪😊

Now that I know what narcossism, I know what I have to do when I encounter one. Set boundaries and take care of myself, first and foremost.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful progress 💯☀️🙌🙏

When you realise it’s devastating, especially if you have children to them..It’s a long lonely road ,as you realise you can not stay in warped evil relationship..Words can’t describe the pain you go through.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely..💯🙏🙌

For me it was when I started to look at myself and how I happened to get involved with it

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand.. thank you for sharing Tootie..💯🙌☀️💯

I'm only 30 seconds in and the title alone makes me understand!! 11 plus years and I can finally see the light!!! What a road of recovery I have ahead, but 3 months of strictly co parenting (Very little of it) and I am working on healing myself from the inside out. What a complete nightmare when you finally wake up and understand what's been happening. I lost so much of myself and felt I wasn't good enough for a very long time. Wondered why he didn't want to be with me in so many instances but would still sleep with me...was so happy when he finally wanted to commit and then a light bulb went off in my head and it all started to make sense. I AM MORE THAN ENOUGH. ALWAYS HAVE BEEN AND ALWAYS WILL BE!!!!!! I WILL NEVER FORGET THAT.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful message 🙏🙌💯☀️😊

Everything in this video I think I have experienced! I had suspected that he was a narc, but pushed it out of my head because I was grieving. My bestie even told me he was a narc and I still didn't believe it. My ah ha moment was when I realized I only had one good day with him and the rest were drama filled. I made the excuses and even thought it was my fault. I was ashamed and wondered how did this happen to me. He was driving me crazy, not allowing me to mourn my only family members. I decided to Google the word Narcissist and found a way off that rollercoaster! It was the hardest and yet the best thing I ever did for my own sanity. I got educated and I realized he can't change. As much as I loved him, I now know he never loved me it was all a game and he is incapable of real love. Still healing, a work in progress. I found my happy place again and I won't ever lose it! Your videos have really helped Andrew. Namaste!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯

Okay this is really good for me because on January 17th 2022 I had my lightbulb moment my friend turned me on to a narcissistic abuse video and then I started journaling his conversations and it was quite obvious to me love-bombing devalue and then detachment in conversation... I was absolutely blown out of the water 🌊 I had never heard of narcissism.

Thank you, my brother, for all you said, and your heartfelt dedication to your misiion and to your listeners. This is so true, that pivotal moment when you see the light and wake up. And like another person's KZread, "once you know, you've got to go!" I feel like it was real Grace, in divine timing. I truly feel like I was compassionately rescued from real not-goodness. Metaphorically, it was like I saw a pinhole of light poke through a dark cloth, and then the light poured in, and filled the entire screen, and the cloth was no more. Thank you for sharing this topic. I am happy to know I wasn't the only one to have experienced an 'aga' moment.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Monica 💪🙌☀️

I’m now at a place where I can laugh about parts of the relationship. Throughout the relationship I would say to him ‘you’re like Jekyll and Hyde’ and ‘you’re so black and white’. I would think I just can’t put my finger on something but then I’d associate his bad behaviour to his childhood. When his behaviour escalated, I actually researched online and up popped Narcissist. The more I read on narcissism the more things slotted into place. I left him almost two years ago after ten years, I was homeless and virtually penniless. I’d lost my friends and family, I now know I was isolated. I also know that when I left, he was getting ready to discard me. Still educating myself and so so grateful for your videos. Have a great day Andrew.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Shelia..💯🙌☀️🙏

After figuring out about being with a narcissist, a new path is open to me... A new purpose... Teaching my students in a public high school about toxic entities and their many kinds of abuses... The new generation should know about toxicity in this world and how to deal with it... Something we didn't know about as you mention... Now I'm educating about it... And because of that my life and its purpose had changed radically after my toxic experience with a narcissist... Thx for your videos 💖

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Mystic Me.. beautiful message here.. thank you for contributing to the youth 🙌💯😊☀️💪🙏

@mysticme777

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you 💖

Yes,mine was break down to breakthrough,constant grief,no contact,healing now.x uk

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your kindness.. thank you for sharing Jennifer 🇬🇧 🇨🇷☀️💯

No light bulbs. He just couldn't tell the truth. When I questioned him, he told me I was mental. So, I hooked up with Google. Gaslighting. When I picked up these videos, it was so strange that anyone fit into this weird mold. But he did. They all do. I have trouble accepting it. But it was real. It was horrible. Now it's over. I'm smarter, thanks to you. But it still hurts.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand Susan.. sending prayers and positive energy to you 💯🙌🙏💪

I like that analogy cracked the code... Because that's how it felt.

Yes the puzzle shocking. “I am going to a gun show and it’s 40 minutes away and I need to turn my phone off” ….liar! “ I wasn’t talking to any woman” butt dialed me while gone 11 hours and had a SECOND phone! Wake up beautiful survivors. Cheaters and master manipulators.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯😉💯😉

I recall. I was led to believe, or being told that I was a narc, along with other disorders. I began to research these said disorders. That's when the penny dropped. I called the narc out- couldn't help it.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

10 ай бұрын

🙌😌

the greatest lie ever told is the one we tell our souls

Yes you should record conversations with them so you can listen back to how crazy it gets! The light 💡 bulb moment I had is that they exhaust you and they just refuse the most basic requests. Drama all the time. Never a safe person to talk to or confide in. Get out while you’re still healthy 😢

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing Andrea..💯🙌🙏☀️

I cannot possibly tell you how much it means to me to hear someone say something that I thought for a while I just needed some validation I don't why I don't know why. Maybe that's just the result of this crap. Just to find anybody somebody that might kind of sort of get what I'm going through it's just almost ridiculously so hard and almost ridiculously so wonderful to finally find

I found out, after my discard. Months after. I was always a bit puzzled at our breakup... Until one night, her coworker(the guy she had an affair with) sent me a message. Detailed a long term affair, right under my nose. Put so many pieces together. Definite lightbulb moment. Her reaction was also a moment of light. I saw that she had zero empathy or remorse for what she did. She thinks its all funny... 6 years together, and a beautiful child... But discarding me, and our family, is funny? Yeah. I went no contact with her almost 2 weeks ago. Had no concept of her being a narc... Now I know. Best decision ever. After months of me begging for reconciliation, btw... No more. Take the power back!!! Thanks for the videos.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome .. thank you for sharing this Eric..💯🙏🙏

I struggled for two years to figure out what was wrong with my relationship. Then, as you say, BOOM! I got it. For three nights in a row I saw like a movie, event after event, his selfish intention from the beginning, his narc maneuvers. Wow until then I thought I was with a normal person. Shocking. And that was only the beginning of my insight. Narcissism is deep and spiritually dark.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

My hope is you are healing and improving.. thank you for sharing this 🙌💯🙏💪

Hi Andrew again! Great video and spot on! Before I reached my lightbulb moment I wrote out the pros and cons of staying in what I was realising was a toxic relationship. I found over 50 cons and only 3 pros which were love, security and fear of being alone. It was only when I found courage to be on my own and began to tackle my feelings of worthlessness and low self esteem that I discovered I had been in a narcissistic relationship. Videos like yours Andrew, and other KZreadrs, have been massively helpful and enlightening so thank you!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Sally 🙏🙏🙌

Head on Andrew ! I always seem to stay in trouble for something that didn't even happen . Apologies for things I didn't do to the point of exhaustion . But constantly trying to please . Actually getting nothing but punishment . And the narc seemed proud ! Really . You just said it . Bread crumbs of hope . Nothing coming back of Worth !! Thank you Andrew , listening to the community . No Contact is my Christmas present to me 😄

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful to hear Candida 💪💯🙌☀️🙏😊

@candidaherron6130

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAloneThanks so much ! ✌️💯☺️

So true. For years I kept wondering what were the things that were so wrong about me. I even thought that he should be grateful for being with me! So I got really annoyed and thought he was either super stupid or super evil. One of the two. Evil I learnt means ‘without’. So he was not equipped emotionally and spiritually to be with me. Yet I believed that there was something terrible about me and it really knocked me for seven and I totally lost my confidence in just about everything because I didn’t know what it was exactly I should be working on… and the last words he said was that I was too ‘empathic’ ! To which I reacted and felt ashamed of my empathy as if it was a flaw! So now I temper it and use ‘it’ sparingly as I choose to express or not express it depending on the situation. And like you I check out if it’s worth my while to spend any kind of energy. That doesn’t mean I have become heartless but I’m protecting myself like you say against other ‘predatory’ narcissists which I am surrounded by. Especially that I’m a single woman and those guys try it on! Thank you for your insights. I find them comforting and they also validate everything that I went through. Similar but different. I relate to everything you say. So take care of you like I take care of me.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Welcome always 🙏🙌😊

The narc ex love bombed me like no other just for “sport”. Soon after he had me convinced of all his love talk and promises the devaluation and discard started. It’s a text book process. He is a sicko. Because of him I had to learn what a sociopath narcissist is all about. Being with him was a path leading straight to hell. The constant invalidation & devaluation was mind numbing. After you fall in love, their Control, manipulation and destruction is all that comes next.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙌💯☀️😉

Its mind blowing to understand that every thing I faced was narcissistic abuse. I did tell myself everyday things would get better but it only grew worse. Being jealous of me and him creating jealousy in me everyday by hitting on women or telling me women hit on him to make me feel insecure every chance he could.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely.. thank you for sharing this insight 💯🙌☀️🙏

Yes just bouncing along the path together

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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I had far too many lightbulb moments and still hoped against hope. I wondered where I stood with this man and finally realised I didn't stand anywhere. He enjoyed pulling that rug from under my feet so many times till I just had to leave to save myself. I'm two years out of a 30 year marriage, still 'processing' years of incidents, but at least I'm standing now! You can be proud of yourself Andrew, it takes courage to face facts (once you realise them), get out and start a new life, and then start helping us to move on too. Believe it or not though, my Granda used the expression (in the 1970's) 'to hang the fiddle up once they're in the door', long before the word narcissist became so widespread.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your kindness and honesty.. thank you for sharing this insight 💯☀️🙌🙏💪

Thank you for your video Andrew. It's amazing that we know deep down from the beginning that something is just not quite right especially when we live with them. God looking back there were so many red flags I chose to ignore because I hadn't got a clue what Narcissistic Abuse was. I guess I was constantly looking for the lovebombing stage to come back again, I believed in him so very much. I was so naive Andrew. I'm not that person anymore I have definitely become so aware of everything. I'm looking forward to a nice peaceful little Christmas. I bought new decorations not too many but just enough to give myself and my home a lift. God bless you Andrew. Lisa

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Lisa.. this message is inspirational and beautiful.. fantastic progress..🙌💯🙏☀️

@dizzyd3670

2 жыл бұрын

Do not feel alone about being naive. I also knew there was something very wrong with the relationship. It is almost like they have you under a spell. Like Andrew said, one day we have a epiphany, and everything starts to make sense., But it takes our brain time to process it. Enjoy your peaceful Christmas! ❤🙌🎄

@lisasweeney8789

2 жыл бұрын

@@dizzyd3670 Thank you so much my friend that is really lovely to read. A very peaceful Christmas to you too xx

@angelicamaster1324

2 жыл бұрын

Merry Christmas beauty!💃. May 2022 be your best year

Hey Andrew! Thanks for giving these messages on the daily and letting us know that we are not the only ones having the lightbulb moments :)

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Shannon 💯🙌☀️🙏

Thank you so much for this video. This video is so on point. I first learned about narcissism three years ago after my dad (He was a Narc as well as my mom is a Narc. I made it in my life through positive outside influences) passed away. I pray The Most High in Christ about me being happy because I wanted to be happier in my life. He show me why I wasn’t happy. I fast and prayed for six weeks. After the fast, God showed me about narcissism and guide me to a few channels that talked about this subject. I was absolutely devastated. I was crushed. My heart sank. This may sound dramatic, but I really didn’t know what it with myself. I kept researching about narcissism (as I am until this day), and I couldn’t believe it. I was like “what in the world did I do to in this life to deserve this level evil”. I sat with thing because I couldn’t wrap my head around it. Also, I was in a narcissistic relationship at the time. I was freaking out because I had learned he was a Narc as well. Shortly at learning about narcissism, he came around me. I didn’t know how to act. I could let him know that I knew. I quickly had to get my wits about me. I tried to stay with the guy another two years about what I had learned. It became too much. I had to leave. We still communicate because we have children together, but that’s it. I am working to better my life now. No more HELL storms for me. I am done. Moving forward.💯🔥🙏🏾💕

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome.. I appreciate your honesty and kindness.. thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏💪

I had the exact same experience. I was living in it n thru it! Then one day I had a thought! Look up the word Psycopath. And I did! An that lead me to the words, Sociopath, and Narcissism. I don't remember if it was the same day, or over a period of time, but I do remember that light bulb moment! And how it changed my life forever.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing Vivian..💯🙌☀️😊🙏

@vivianalberts1812

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Amen Andrew. & Thank you for being there.

The lightbulb moment was very real for me. Someone posted about narcissism on Facebook and was skimming the content and then it hit me - a mind blowing moment. My marriage of 15 years was unraveling (he was actually having an affair that I was not aware of yet) and I was just trying to survive. Shortly after I found a place to rent so I could leave to clear my head. Read a lot of books on the subject, got counseling and even moved back in for a few months because I thought i could handle it now that I knew more of what I was dealing with. Knowledge helps the left-brain, but has been a long journey accepting I was so naive. I am a nurse. It seems nurses are targets for narcissists.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing Emilie.. 💯🙌☀️🙏

@growingandlearning164

2 жыл бұрын

Oh yes.Im a RN empath!

I was with a Narcissist for 5years without her making effort to see me while we were in the same city for 5years... I asked her for us to meet she so turned me off and gaslighted me.. Making me feel I asked something terrible; It's a terrible thing having to do anything with such individual. You won't understand it fully until you experience it yourself. Great love Narcdaily really appreciate your videos.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏 ☀️🙌

Oh my God Andrew.. the light bulb moment.. I will never forget the day that I realized I was with a narcissist ...after our relationship ended abruptly with him in a rage fit where he almost tried to kill me, but I made it out alive ...and by the way I have not seen him since that day.. I started researching as much as I could on personality disorders amongst myself and him.. and I stumbled across fill in the blanks with Dr Phil.. and that brought me to narcissism ..so I researched more and then like u said , all the puzzle pieces started connecting in place... and there i was looking at myself in a state of shock.. like who does this and how did i get here.... but it was the beginning of my healing path... to really dig deep...and loom at me... And now I look at life like I've been reborn almost..I'm grateful for my journey..I will never forget, but I will never look back, I will continue on this journey..and everyday I stay grateful..

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

Continue on the path moving forward everyday 🙏🙌💯

At this moment of WOKE I was able to let go went no contact and walked away never went back. He tried to get me to talk to him after 2 mos of N/C but I refused to listen to anything he had to say told him NO! Not ever! He just could not believe I would actually leave him. It was epic having the control over him finally. I told him he nailed his coffin shut when he tried one last time to hurt me by telling me he had been cheating on me this last year with a much younger codependent. I told him yeah that's going to work. I told him never, ever contact me again and I had beat him at his own game by leaving him the greatest wound to a narc.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Pamela 💯🙏☀️🙌

Getting notification of a new video on a Saturday afternoon is like running into a friend on the weekend. 🙂. Looking forward to your video about having documented moments during relationship.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Teshla.. I appreciate this.. 💯🙌☀️🙏😊

Surreal is definitely the word I would use to describe pretty much every day of my healing journey since the trauma bond burst and I had my light bulb moment. I guess maybe at that moment I realized that there really was more to life then just how I had been feeling. Little did I have any concept whatsoever on where my healing path would take me every second of every day. The things that would speak directly to my heart without words ever even being spoken aloud to this day makes me take pause. Believing in the miracles that surround you when you realize the level of the places where self love, healing, self compassion and stoicism can take you on this healing journey is undescribable. It's like you have come out of the fog and have such moments of clarity and it's like your now under a beautiful healing spell at times that brings you such a sense of inner peace and inner healing. The selfless and amazing people in this community so many of which even today just provided me with such in depth beautiful insight often times seems magical it's always just right there when you need it most. As I even type that it sounds so strange but I don't really know how else to describe what you feel after the trauma bond bursts. I know exactly the second mine burst. I know where it was and exactly what I was doing. I remember the pure joy and clarity as I sat there in amazement as all the pieces of the puzzle from my past started to fall together. I am sorry you had to experience so much of your healing path alone. I am very blessed and I thank God everyday that I was not alone when my burst and I guess in a sense that actually makes alot of sense to me right now as I continue forward on my healing path. I believe that God puts people on your path everyday. You may not know why or how. I guess that really is just Faith in its purest. Believing fully in things we can't explain. Maybe there doesn't always have to be answer or explanation of everything that happens to us. Maybe we have to embrace the fact that there is a reason for all of this and maybe we will figure it out one day or maybe we won't. I agree with you Andrew 💯 that this healing is lifelong. In saying that though I choose to embrace that deepening desire to continue to heal and fully understand and feel and soar and believe and know that I am doing this for myself so that I can continue every day to become the best version of myself. I want to continue to feel and be healthy on the inside and out for all those who surround me with their love and goodness because they deserve nothing less. The after affects of narscistic abuse are 💯 REAL. I lived a fantasy life in my head for so long during the abuse just to survive I realize that now. I just realized even right now 💡 moment that what I have been experiencing since the trauma bond burst is very real and although often times unexplainable it's beautiful and something that I choose to embrace wholeheartedly. It is not a fantasy that I am living in to protect myself any longer. I don't need to do that I am safe and firmly anchored on my healing path and where ever it takes me. Since the trauma bond burst I have had 2 very unexplainable experiences. Both of them happened around the same time of day at the same exact spot and when I experienced them they were life altering moments of pure clarity, peace and light. One was was a few weeks ago when my world was literally forever changed and the other was today. I think for me I have learned I just need to trust in myself and know that everyday is a blessing. I can't change the past I can't control the future but what I can do everyday is look for the beauty and pure unconditional love that surrounds me everywhere I look. I see things now that I never noticed but have probably been right in front of me for God knows how long. I will never let this abuse define me I am so much more then that. I am a survivor and I truly embrace that and all it symbolizes in every sense of the word. Always know none of us are ever alone especially you based on your selfless commitment to create such light as a result of the darkness you lived through. I pray God blesses you with peace and continued healing as you continue to walk along side each one of us as we continue to walk along our "parallel healing paths" together. 💯🙏✝️🕊️⭐🌴🪨💡💪❤️‍🩹💯 (** thank you Joann for that beautiful reminder and insight you gave me yesterday on parallel healing paths).

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful and inspirational message of growth and healing.. thank you Christine 🙏☀️🙌💯

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone The moment you figure it out and can answer your own questions it's life changing and you will always remember the exact moment when these light bulb moments happen. Always trust, love, and listen to yourself along your path and be confident that these virtues will always guide you in the right direction and take you to exactly where you are meant to be at that exact moment. When you have self love and realize that "I am everything I am because you loved me" and you realize that YOU is yourself the sky's really the limit on where your healing path can and will take you. Thank you. You continue to provide us with all the tools we need on our healing path and it truly is what we do with them that defines where and how far our healing path will take us 💯💪🌄✨🕊️🙏💯

Absolutely true because I thought all people were inherently good. But in the throes of trying to divorce someone after a short term relationship I’m realizing he’s going to ruin me financially. I just don’t know if I can do this.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely.. I was there myself.. continue to move forward.. you CAN do this 💯💯💪💪🙌☀️🙏

Very encouraging and inspiring. You are right, the healing path is very long. If you've been in a long time relationship, the hill to climb can look unsurmountable. But your content encourages all to take one step at a time. The winning is in knowing the truth.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Well said Daniel.. thank you for sharing 💯🙌💪🙏💪

I remember describing events or situations to other people and they would casually say,"That sounds just like a Narcissist." and I took it as a joke at the time because I really didn't grasp what that meant- at all. It was the repeated rages that started to cue me that something was really "off" with this individual. And it wasn't just an "anger" it was like an anger that didn't want relief or resolve or understanding or insight.... no, it was something that wanted to burn everything to the ground kind of anger. And "good" things or basic regular things could set off hatefulness or rage. Compassion or trying to resolve a miscommunication was NEVER the first route of action or the second or third route. Everyone gets angry sometimes. But this had a very different feel to it. I started to take mental note of the put downs, the silent treatment, not just at me... but others. I watched how he had other people walking on egg shells and I was asked if this person was "okay" to be around today. That and "He is never the one to apologize" type. That was part of his "character"... I learned more as the years passed and as I witnessed things and talked to people who experienced various other negatives. Somehow I landed in this world of glossary terms and the dots started to connect. The discard was hard enough, but to learn that this was all narcissistic in nature... was another round of grieving. It all made sense though, there was an explanation for everything I experienced and felt... and really, I had zero control of the outcome. This person was destined to be horrible to me and others.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your insight and sharing this 💯🙌☀️🙏😊

I found out 2 weeks ago. I went grey rock . Not talking I'm working on my exit . I can't even look at her she makes me sick

very difficult to find therapist who understands this in Thailand. it happened to my mum and cant believe it’s happening to me. listening to you is more healthy than sharing with someone who never gets it

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Nok..🇹🇭 🇨🇷💯😊

Finally, I was able to put all those pieces of the puzzle together. I've also connected all the dots. They know their game is over, but what the heck happened? Yes, now it's their time to walk around with a box of puzzle pieces. See that "Why?" look on their face? That's the deer in the headlights look before they ran into a big Mack truck. Gee, look who earned their CDL. CONGRATULATIONS!!! I thought that was you behind the wheel.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Education is empowerment 💯🙌💯☀️💯💪

My light bulb moment came on years into a long relationship. My narcissist is a psychopath. I had him in and out of my life at various times and when the light bulb happened I had been trying to be with him but with lots of gut guilt because deep down I knew where things were headed. It was one simple accusation that he made of me and that was it. Yes it was horrible, I was embarrassed that I thought things might work out, it has taken tons of work to heal and I’m still in therapy. I still have nightmares, triggers that send me spinning but I’m better than I’ve ever been with the help of a fantastic psychiatrist. I appreciate all your videos because we are pretty much of the same tribe. We can get better with time and support from each other🙏Namaste’ 🥰

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Namaste 🙏.. we are in the same tribe 💯💯❤️☀️😊🙏🙌

When you realize you were the “black sheep”, in a black sheep dysfunctional family.. is to realize you have been a narcissist magnet, because you correlated being abused with being loved. It’s never too late to detangle the harm done to your peace. Learning to have boundaries is the first step on a whole new path. ✨❤️‍🩹✨

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing 🙏🙌💯

Another great empowering video , Andrew ! Being entangled for so long the narc has fed off your energy , time and reactions , and in doing so they feel in control and important ! Each time you still react they feel as if they have won , and that is why they trigger you ! The best form of defence is to do nothing or to leave , because the power was only ever theirs as long as you GAVE it to them ! As empaths we are great at putting someone on a pedestal or encouraging their delusional fantasies about themselves , we tend to always agree with them or tell them what they want to hear , because we think that is kind and supportive , but we end up being a passive mirror slave , and they actually don't respect or value it , they just EXPECT IT ! So when we realise it is a selfish one way deal and leave , we take all the cards with us , because the fact is WE always held the cards all along ,. ..until now , we just never knew it !!! ,😎😎🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful insight and spot on 💯💯💪💪🙌☀️🙏

@thebigh9635

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone The support , strength and guidance I get from being part of this warm community is so very encouraging , and enlightening 😌😌

Oh my, the light bulb moment. 💡 I didn't realise the truth about the relationship I was in. It was only after he abruptly discarded me in September last year that I really learnt the truth. I did do some "Dear Diary" entries when some events took place. So glad I am single again. I'm writing about the post-separation and realisation in my first book.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯💪

My ex hoovered me a couple of days ago through another email account. I refuse to unblock him but I immediately became frustrated and irritated to know he won't leave me alone. He doesn't accept the word NO. I just want the emotional triggers to stop and thank you Andrew for being there and taking your time to help others. You are a bright shining light too!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Connie.. maintaining your boundaries and moving forward everyday is the path..☀️☀️💯💯

You realize when you finally get enough emotional space once you have escaped

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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As well as liberating it can also be quite scary when you see the light , when you wake up and realise this is someone who not only is annoyed by your happiness and true self , but is also someone who actually believes they have some sort of power over you and that you somehow exist at THEIR permission ! I still remember my ex narc actually confirming that I am a free spirit who can do what I want ,...but it's actually the EXACT opposite of what they believe ! That's why you should always be prepared just incase they decide to try for some kind of revenge ! These beings are not like you and me , they are not kind , they are not loyal and they have no boundaries , especially if they feel wronged or rejected , because they see themselves as all powerful ! Fact is you can NEVER underestimate just how vile , hateful and despicable these creatures truly are , FACT ! The last thing my narc said to me was that they are not a nasty person ,. well taking their constant historic toxic abuse over the years , I'm afraid I just HAD to differ !!! 🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this insight The Big H.. I appreciate your kindness and honesty 💯🙌🙏☀️

Thanks for your video Andrew ❤️ I am replaying the entire 3.5 year addiction ship w my ex narc and it’s a whole diff perspective to realize EVERYTHING after you figure out that you were with a toxic narc. It’s such a huge mindfck but needs to take place so we can process and heal ourselves. You’re right it’s a game changer and it’s empowering to be educated. It feels good to know I’m not alone- this is happening to millions of people 😩 and it’s about to happen to my ex narcs new supply and I don’t wish this on anyone. There are so many lightbulb moments of things you think about from the relationship that mean something different now that you know about narcissism. Not having closure is hard and your channel helps me.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Olive. I appreciate your kindness and honesty.. continue to become educated and empowered 💯🙌☀️🙏😊

It's just so WEIRD when it finally happens , because for SO LONG you were dependent on them for everything , including the truth and reality ! Over time they chipped away at your self esteem to the point where you had lost every drop and were now completely reliant on them to define everything in your life ! It's like the emporers' new clothes , they had fooled you into costume when all along they were manipulating you and secretly laughing at you because you were actually emotionally naked ! However the two basic mistakes they make is assume you don't have any self respect or pride , and that you don't have a breaking point , but WE DO ! Even the most tolerant empath will eventually snap when they realise they are never going to get the real respect they deserve and that there really is NO ADVANTAGE to continue putting up with all the toxic bullshit ! As I said tho my narc , ' Exactly HOW is this supposed to work FOR ME ??' 😎🙏🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Well said.. completely true.. we all reach a point when .. enough is enough 🙌🙌

Every day was another guessing game. Every day was walking on eggshells. Every day was another round of curveballs. I knew I was damaged but I only really knew 3 years later when I started dating again. I realized how my confidence was muted. I realized I was still nervous about making a decision. By the grace of God, I met a woman who let me know I am a decent man and I can be myself. We have now been married 2 years. I am amazed at how good it feels to be genuinely loved again and to be with someone who is willing to do for me every bit as much as I am for her. I pray for anyone suffering or in recovery. I was blessed to have an awesome therapist who helped me figure it out just by describing my relationship with the narc. I felt relief when she said, "It's not you". I felt fear when I asked, "Now what do I do about it?". She said, "I am here for you for as long as you need. Damage has been done and it will continue as long as she is with you. At least now you know and we can work at dealing with it".

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful message of inspiration and growth.. thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🙌💪😉

MY LIGHTBULB MOMENT WAS AFTER GOING NO CONTACT. HE WAS SUCH A LIAR, RUTHLESS, FUTURE FAKER, & CONVERSATIONS GOING IN A CIRCLE. I EDUCATED MYSELF AND WAS RELIEVED IT WAS ONLY 5 MONTHS DURATION.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand… 💯🙌☀️🙏

I really like how you explain everything I felt like something was wrong with me my family kept telling me it not me it him

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Julie 🙌💯🙏

You are so right, it is exactly like that, he put me into depression last year, alnost kill myself, when i finally decided to reach his ex ,she told me she couldn't wait to talk to me, she had gone thru 25 years of hell, even tried to kill herself twice because of him. She told me "saved yourself "

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand this completely Mia.. I do..sending you prayers and positive energy 💯☀️🙌🙏

This video is spot on! Thank you for your videos Andrew they have provided me so much insight on my healing path. 💪❤🔥

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Jerry..💯🙌☀️🙏

The moment I had to agree in my mind that yes, this was a narcissist that just cast me off in the most heartless way after building his tidal wave of hate toward me for weeks prior, I felt more alone than ever in my life because I realized the person I thought I knew never ever existed. The whole time, the whole previous 5 years, I had really been alone but didn’t even know it. Mind blowing scary

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Completely understand this..💯🙌🙏💯

Thank you for this!! Yes bad days definitely outweigh good by a long shot and you walk on eggshells or tiptoe

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

My experience also..💯💯😉😉

Gracias Andrew. The lightbulb moment is the beginning of a difficult but very necessary path of personal growth. You are generous and kind by sharing your insight and empowerment with all of us. It feels like listening to a friend. Hugs 🇨🇷🇦🇷🤗

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome always Mer.. we are friends.. and connected forever..🇦🇷 🇨🇷❤️💯

Oh my God, when I found out 19 years ago, I was shocked, and heart broken 💔 and yet I decided to stay with him in the same house, just for the sake of my daughter growing up with a father. And actually a bad idea, I was so depressed. But that was then, I'm so grateful 🙏 that I managed to walk away from my marriage and I'm doing really well, God bless you Andrew, 🙏 and have a great holiday. 🥰

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your honesty and insight.. thank you for sharing Alicia..💯🙌😊🙏☀️💪

YES!! The puzzle pieces all fit once you think back in retrospect.. thank you for sharing.. great channel on this topic... thanks so much

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏