I've come to realize the hardest part isn't when you're actually in the relationship with the narcissist, as painful as it was. The hardest was letting go of what no longer serves you, and coming to terms that no one is going to heal you, but YOU!! A great quote I reposted which couldn't be more true is "Rock bottom will teach you more than mountain tops ever will." 💯❣

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌🙏💜

@FernFokes-tu6vs

19 күн бұрын

It's so difficult staying and leaving but one knows these people are soul vampires.

@LkG42n

18 күн бұрын

Hope they survive the darkest days of their lives.

@BrolyPowerMaximum

18 күн бұрын

I respect that. For me, the hardest part was coming to the realization of who certain people in my life actually were. The hardest part was coming to the realization in the reality that there are sadistic people in this world don’t just wanna take things from you in order for them to survive, they truly do want to hurt you, or anyone they can get their hands on so that they can feel powerful in a moment. It doesn’t matter if it’s a spouse or child, sometimes even a complete stranger but usually they try and collect those first by gift giving with strings, and mirroring. They will do their best to try and trample on other peoples bodies and shrink them down, in order for themselves to feel big even for a minute. With that having been said. Being an imperfect person myself, effect that was often Weaponized to blame me for everything I did and didn’t do as well as everything. A narcissistic person also did and didn’t do, it excites me that despite this fact, other people are still doing their very best to be good and do good in this life and that I have the opportunity to do that and to bring that into this world. I have the opportunity to do that with my sons and with my wife and with my siblings they want to hear it at the end of the day you can’t control anybody else, but, I’m really excited about the opportunity to try and leave this world better than how I found it and to learn everything I can before I die. But yeah, it was like I couldn’t see the world the same anymore after being brought to this truth that these people exist. A short while, it was hard not to get jaded. If you’re not careful, you’ll literally be sleeping with the enemy that secretly is trying to destroy you behind your back and insidiously step-by-step to your face, pleasure of doing so. That’s just the reality of this world. That’s the reality of people. But so is other people who’ve been through the fire and flames and came out of the other side cauterized and reinforced with a metal alloy if you will. Both things are true, such as often the case in this life of nearly infinite simultaneous truths.

@sanjmalik6282

18 күн бұрын

Thank you ❤ for the quote, I can truly relate to it.

No contact was the best thing I did for myself and learning about narcissism has helped me stay strong and heal.

@Becca-367

18 күн бұрын

Me too. No contact, not wanting to even know anything about them is a very good place to be. Hope everyone is getting a bit closer each day to get to this point.

@Gotoworkkk

16 күн бұрын

But you’re still with him, right?

@TurbulantSynider

14 күн бұрын

How long u did.. and while in NC.. you thought and talked about it.. like fake talk.. closure..... Now u feel all clear if you see the person again ?

You meet the narcissist and its like a wonderful dream and then down the road you realize they were a total nightmare that never has a happy ending.

@KansasMiss-mf4bj

4 күн бұрын

@@edwardspriggs5076 Yes! It was all the Love Bombing that I fell for. I always told my ex he got an A in courtship, not knowing it would soon lead to an F- in devaluing and then the discard.

Yes the (New Supply) will go through what we did... if not worse.. the Narcissist does not change no matter who enters there life.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌🙏

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

It's the most difficult to treat with therapy. Most therapists say it's basically pointless as they end up just mirroring and telling them what they want to hear. They also don't have a core personality so fixing that is almost impossible.

@Fishsticks007

17 күн бұрын

100%. My ex lasted about 4-5 years with the replacement. About the same timeframe as me. I figured out it was a mess after about 6months ..yet stayed and was confused for too long. Never again

@denisedevoto5703

17 күн бұрын

Exactly, they get the older, even more miserable narc. My ex narc was older than me and he is 76. I am so grateful I am away from him every day.

@frankdavf4599

16 күн бұрын

I dont care , they must be also sick if they messed with a married person, should had know better.

the grass is never greener on the other side

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

💯💯😉

@lilakilonen5663

19 күн бұрын

It is greener but it's never greener enough.

@hannastrack4310

19 күн бұрын

@@lilakilonen5663 it is to the narc

@taiskitchen6152

18 күн бұрын

We know it’s not greener ; but if was the Narc will still defecate and urinate all over it

@lewiswright-lg2dk

18 күн бұрын

It’s greener for us though! ❤

What I struggled with for awhile was realizing the person wasn't real and all good experience you had with them wasn't real

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

This is what I'm struggling with.. and did I ever speak to who they really were?

@herrmann2185

18 күн бұрын

The person you first meet was fake the abuse and degrading remarks is who they really are nothing about them was real it was an act to draw you in

@herrmann2185

18 күн бұрын

@@camelotenglishtuition6394 no the person you first meet was an act it was false the evil they do is there true identity

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

@herrmann2185 💯 I think it has a spiritual dimension too. I think these people are evil.

@dianes7315

15 күн бұрын

Same!

Drag me not away with the WICKED, who speak peace with their neighbors, but malice and mischief are in their hearts. Ps 28:3

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

psalms 37: 10 spoiler alert

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

Amen

@williamtiffee3799

15 күн бұрын

Sam Vaknin did a talk once about how many analogies in the Tora were about narcs and psychos, etc. I need to find that one again, for future reference. (My mother's father, grandfather and great grandfather were Episcopal bishops. And both sides of the family were/ are full of narcissists. Wish this info was out in the open 35ish years ago when I was reading my covert narc mother's 4- 600 level 'psych' books, when she was getting her Masters degree, in mind manipulation! (And my father, his second wife, my mom's second relationship and also my younger brother, etc. also seem to ALL be a 3- 5/6 on the NPD spectrum?!) Now she just "play acts: forgetful, deaf and dumb," at 82! And I concur: Going little to no contact" is the ONLY logical, solution... because these people NEVER grow, nor CHANGE! (So who the heck needs the "escape- goating," abuse!?)

@camelotenglishtuition6394

15 күн бұрын

@@williamtiffee3799 I'd love to see those analogies

@carvalone3076

2 күн бұрын

Beautiful ❤❤🙏✝️

The new supply will find out in time they cannot bond. But it will take years to figure this out.

@vvvvel

18 күн бұрын

They'll find out alright..😄

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

if they survive that long

@Denzella2154

16 күн бұрын

Yearsssss is correct smh

@uwucat5660

16 күн бұрын

Everyone's process is different. Some might see it quicker. The narcissist slips and the narcissist gets worse over time

@edwardblackshear9261

13 күн бұрын

Didn’t take me years,it took about 9 months collectively cause I figured it out in about 3 months but because I knew the person for over 30 years I kept trying.been in no contact for 2 years now. It doesn’t hurt anymore but for some reason I’ve thought about her everyday since the breakup, that seems to be the hardest part,I’ve never experienced this part before.there’s no craving to go back or to want her it’s just that she’s been on mind. I guess this is what happens when you don’t get closure. It’s not as bad as it was so I figure it’s just going to take time for that part to disappear.

Every morning when I wake up I tell myself that I am the priority. I come first, second and third! Thanks so much Andrew for all that you do. You are truly a Blessing!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

Welcome..💯💯💯😊🙏

I really do feel so sorry for the new supply, my ex’s 4th wife. I wouldn’t wish the misery of living with my ex on anyone.

@JJ-iq8mi

18 күн бұрын

That many marriages has to be a red flag!

@risky1

18 күн бұрын

Your EX is going to get custody of the Judge .....

@TheForgotme

18 күн бұрын

Try being that person's kid.

@MattyNelson-rs3ik

18 күн бұрын

My Bestee,s x narc husband is on his 4th wife,he's still married, she was # 1. .HAD the audacity to ask her to go to the beautiful Costa Rica with him,,her birthplace, at a church service.with other family members present.asking her across other people .been divorced from him at least 36 years. She was mortified...

@dennyfie

4 күн бұрын

My ex narc.gf actually has a good side genuine also, I think she developed her NPD from childhood trauma.

He knew exactly what he was doing.. and once I figured it out, it was hard to come to terms with the fact that I had fallen for all of the lies and allowed myself to be treated so poorly. God help his new supply..

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

💯💯😌🙏

@lizstraub6621

18 күн бұрын

I get it but my ex's new supply (they were numerous) gets what she deserves. She screwed her married boss, married with 3 children. She didn't care, so neither do I. You reap what you sow.

@juliekswanson

18 күн бұрын

Same! I got tricked and trapped and treated like trash, too.

@sheilachavis5175

18 күн бұрын

​can you tell me why my ex narc keeps in touch with me like were best friends? He tells me abt his new supply and i share my experiences. He acts jealous when i share though. Is he truly my friend or is he manipulating me for something. Were not romantic at all!!

@smartsurvival2605

18 күн бұрын

@@sheilachavis5175 He's using you for supply. You are in his harem garage. Get out.

What they will find out...cheating has consequences.. Protect yourself...see u doctor. Test, test and retest.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌

You Sir, are a Blessing to so many generations of us!!! Thank You ❤️🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

💜🙏😌

The new supply will find out that they stepped into The Twilight Zone & have to experience feelings of a nightmare until they wake up or are discarded by the narc. Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌🙏💜

@jhavajoe3792

18 күн бұрын

👍Trying to be wiser every day, Better than living a life of continuously patching holes.

@BeTheLight624

18 күн бұрын

….the narc hamster wheel of hell..❤️‍🔥 …glad we’re outta there… Keep shining brightly marie ✨⭐️✨🎀

@gwenbiedler8181

18 күн бұрын

Yes! I heard from the now ex-Narc's mother (who still adores me) that his new wife 'hates' me. Yup. Her words. I suspect it's that way because when I left him, he found her, and now SHE has to suffer life with the man!

True true true. It is only a selfish manipulative game for the narcissist to boost their ego. They need that. And we, empaths see now through it.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

☀️💜🙏😌💯

@user-ro3rv4nw2n

19 күн бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone ♥

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

The deeper reason is very odd. To sum up, they are trying to get close to destroy the other person to feel like a person..because they never do...

@therooster6104

18 күн бұрын

Amen 🙏🏼🌹

Use this time wisely.. This is your window of opportunity... While the narc is busy with the new supply, Disappear... Good luck..🙏☮️✨🐬

@BeTheLight624

18 күн бұрын

100% 👍

“Fool’s gold”. Well said.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌💯

@vvvvel

18 күн бұрын

What an awesome saying 👍

My ex narcissist seemed to need me to need him. It was never really about a relationship, but rather his needing someone to stroke his ego, plus having someone he could bully at the same time.

@StStStS

17 күн бұрын

It has been said that narcissists seek for people to get attached to them. But they never attach to anyone. I found that a useful and sobering thought.

The problem with narcissists is that they do the most damage when you are still a child. You can’t defend yourself when you’re a child

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

18 күн бұрын

😌😌🙏

@lilfairycupcake

13 күн бұрын

and thats where 80% of all narcs are born from, bad childhoods. the other 20% from grandiose, your so special, golden child mentality.

I heard them called "Hell's Gatekeepers" the other day and there couldn't be a more appropriate title for them. And you're 100% correct...they KNOW what they're doing because its all they know how to do!

Well unfortunately the new supply is in for a big wake up call. But we know now that it is a badly wrapped gift. They will learn that eventually as we did. Great video Andrew thank you. Have a great evening and night. Big virtual hug 🫂😊🙌💜❤️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

Thank you..😌💜🙏💯

@AuroraBelle1986

18 күн бұрын

Yep! Well said. A badly wrapped gift!

@mariefrancebourget1749

18 күн бұрын

@@AuroraBelle1986 😉🙏

Spot on Andrew. Everything you say hits the mark. When you get trapped in a relationship with the narcissist, you get trapped in hell on earth. Thank you 🙏 for your daily help and assistance. God bless you ❤

They always provide hints of who they were, who they are and who they will be after they are done with you. It’s just we weren’t sensitive enough to listen and/or react.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

💯💯😉

@gwenbiedler8181

18 күн бұрын

Yes, and we gave them the benefit of the doubt, every single time.

@MattyNelson-rs3ik

18 күн бұрын

YES,YES,YES,LISTEN WHEN PEOPLE SPEAK...YOU'D BE SURPRISED WHAT YOU ACTUALLY HEAR...FROM FRIENDS,FRENEMIES FAMILY,MOM,DAD,LOVERS,HUSBANDS WIVES..CO WORKERS. LISTEN CLOSELY....RED FLAGS POPPING OFF PAY ATTENTION..

@Fishsticks007

14 күн бұрын

@@luisolvera5574 we can’t believe our eyes and ears…! But, now I know better. It truly woke me up. I previously had no idea, i was in a bit of a naïve bubble til age 55! and I always wanted to blame myself for odd relationship issues. Now I know and those people stay clear. Or I keep at arms length

@lilfairycupcake

13 күн бұрын

ive witnessed first hand, 2x of the mask completely falling off. talk about ugly. it takes something major, all is lost, and they know you are done with them, to see it completely fall off. having no knowledge of what a narc really was, i totally encouraged ex gf while she was having her narc break down with, 'there it is', thats the real you coming out. 'look how stupid you look', bla bla bla insults, just to stoke her fire of ignorance. she deserved everything i gave her, and then some. when finished, i told her she had 5min to pack her sh it up, and get out of my house for the final encore.

So, no surprise: we are most vulnerable during a transition time in our life. Boy! That knowledge is empowering! Love these vids and this great understanding.

@liseduedue2715

18 күн бұрын

❤

King Solomon was right, the end of some things is much better than the beginning.

THE SCORPION 🦂AND THE FROG 🐸 A scorpion, not knowing how to swim, asked a frog to carry it across the river. “Do I look like a fool?” said the frog. “You’d sting me if I let you on my back!” “Be logical,” said the scorpion. “If I stung you, I’d certainly drown myself.” “That’s true,” the frog acknowledged. “Climb aboard, then!” But no sooner than they were halfway across the river, the scorpion stung the frog, and they both began to thrash and drown. “Why on earth did you do that?” the frog said morosely. “Now we’re both going to die.” “I can’t help it,” said the scorpion. “It’s my nature.”

@neveragain733

17 күн бұрын

Beautiful

@cassiebennet4262

17 күн бұрын

Narcissists will destroy themselves while trying destroy others. They lack a self preservation.

I have found that if they find another Narcissist then they meet their match. It is not love at all, but they don't know any better. The best part is as long as they get old together the rest of us are clear, at least of those 2 anyway. 2 down 4 billion left to go.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌💜

@Ron-is5td

18 күн бұрын

It's good when narcs marry each other, and make 2 people miserable, instead of four...

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

​@@Ron-is5tdHollywood style

@lenihassveasphaug9634

18 күн бұрын

Great one.

Sad to say most of us WILL find out what narcissistic abuse is by experience.

Thank you for your wisdom.I love the sound of the leaves in the trees rustling in the wind that's natures applause for truth!

@lemostjoyousrenegade

19 күн бұрын

I love that...nature's applause for truth.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

Welcome..😊💜🌳

Omg I paid for so much crap. He would call me for uber rides. I was an idiot and fell for it all. Dinners, concerts, movies, cologne clothes his phone bill. I was so broke with that clown. I was a yes person not anymore. I'm so happy I made it out. Thank you for these videos. Tv

So right! Victim, needy, blaming past relationships to enter into new relationship. They love the attention seeking from new supply who has no clue.

Mine said that his "biggest insecurity was all of his debt"... He spent money on himself constantly, $200 shoes, even hired a housekeeper to clean his one bedroom apartment. However, anytime we went somewhere, he was "so broke". 🙄

@Griftospherequalitycontrol

19 күн бұрын

Interesting

@VeganLife-mn1jp

18 күн бұрын

🤮 Grifter and user alarm bells going off! He wants a mommy and an ATM 💵, not a woman to love and cherish.

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

the new Hyundai ad😂

@trishlynn3424

18 күн бұрын

How evil when they take u out they guilt you about the bill…and spend tons of $$$ on everything they want..

@lulu49686

17 күн бұрын

@@trishlynn3424 you have no idea. I feel so foolish but he was always so adamant about being broke, even cried! In retrospect, I can name so many times he turned around and spent money frivolously. He spent $100 on a seat cushion (he says he has a bad back 🙄) after telling a friend he needed to borrow $300. He didn't even say "borrow"- just that he needed it, demanded it. How broke are you really if you are buying seat cushions right after? AND he just bought a brand new car!

His "New" supply was 7 mos. Preg when our divorce was final. Where was he going? two NEW kids and 8 years later he finally married her (after putting OUR 3 kids through embarrassment/neglect) but now they are too miserable and broke to get divorced. Sympathy is under "S" in the dictionary. He's her problem, now, when she didn't get to be ME...the wife with the house, kids, good schools, etc., and she works full time. I'm certain she's cheating on him, and he's too strapped to survive another divorce. Oh well. All she has now is the narcissist that I escaped from. The sad thing is the children suffer at the end of the day.

@AA-nx2jz

18 күн бұрын

Hi, because you have observed new supply v closely I want to ask some questions which I m struggling to get answers. My ex husband got married thrice . I was the second one n I was never aware about his first marriage. After my divorce he married another women in just 1 month, he is still with that women n they have 1kid. Though he doesn't have any child from previous two marriages. Recently I have seen his new wife was yelling some women online who is my ex's colleague , so I believe she already knows his cheating s. Still I have questions how they are still together? How come she is portraying a happy marriage picture to everyone? Does a child can make this marriage work?

@lizstraub6621

16 күн бұрын

@@AA-nx2jz no he will damage all of them and keep walking. They are incapable of changing. I speak from experience. They only care about their own ‘public image’ and to Hell with everyone who they call partner or offspring. They are sick and think everyone who figures them out are the crazy ones. Avoid, stay centered, and protect yourself and your children. Period.

I’m free from the “ dead Narc” now,,, I call him this because he died almost 5 years ago of his own horrible self abuse/ smoking/ drinking/ evil plans/ evil deeds,,, but others have continuously popped up like in a video game,,, I’ve retreated to myself w/ my 10 little animals, almost no humans in my life. I know it changed me, forever, what he did,, I was a bright light, now, just a cowering old broken woman,, I have good days, but I just cannot trust anyone. I pray there would be a support group for people like me,,,,Andrew, you’ve been My therapy and my healing path,,, I swear, if I had not found your channel??? I was sinking. So I really thank you Andrew. ❤❤❤❤❤

@mjrhodes

17 күн бұрын

No, you are still a bright light! And you will once again shine, only brighter! You are here, following your heart, taking time out, loving your critter family (my furry family--and Andrew--saves me every day). You are not broken, just trying to understand how people we love can treat us so poorly. I'm on a similar path as you and I believe that once we process all of this new information we will love ourselves more and not tolerate BS because we now recognize the truth. We learn how to save our love for those who don't mean us harm. If you like to read, you might like "Self Compassion" by Kristin Neff. I'm also reading "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker to help me sort out childhood abuse. Ugh. Don't give up, I bet I'm older than you. 🤗🤗🤗

"..bees & creatures here in the Carolina woods.." 🙂🤭 This video is a great reminder of all the nonsense that we all do not want to experience again. Great video Andrew . Thank you for what you do 🙌. Love your background 🌿 God bless ☀️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

Thank you..😊💜🌳🐝☀️

They try devestate people's lives,,keep on the Healing path,,find yourself again , and go on to enjoy your life and Freedom,,much love and encouragement sent,,You Can Do it,!!!💃👏💖💪💝💝💝🙏🙏

Thank you! My ex-wife got with a real 'doormat' of a guy. When I look back, all her ex's where very subservient personalities. I wasn't like that, but I have empathy and loving. That's how they work - they push those buttons and use those 'weaknesses' of your character. It's ironic isn't it? My ex was engaged to this guy, eventually they broke up, good on him. He was a decent guy, just down on himself. God bless you all and I wish you well in your recovery x

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

Welcome..😌🙏💜

@Fishsticks007

17 күн бұрын

My friend (acquaintance) who’s a narcissist..has been involved with people who love to be told what to do and how to run their lives to be Bullied and controlled. Those people are out there. Sickening to watch.

@sorearm

17 күн бұрын

@@Fishsticks007 they really are evil

Happy to be the old supply 🙏🏻❤️🌺

All narcissists in my life were complaining starting with my mother. And they can not give compliments- again starting with my mother and since there was no father I was used to not receiving compliments so my ex got away with it. This is a good way to recognize them.

@jhavajoe3792

18 күн бұрын

I've noticed that- Aside from faked compliments at the love bomb stage, they have no vocabulary when it comes to compliments or supporting words.

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

See how they treat people like service workers ..

People,do your inner work(lot of psychotherapy)to raise your vibration not to attract Narcs….complaining doesn help…it maintains one in the same victim status… It s specialised psychotherapy that makes the difference🙂

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

Not for everyone but it is a good avenue for some...one of the problems is there aren't many really decent shrinks with narc treatments and they usually treat it as cptsd which yes it is but there's other work which needs to be done prior... like refocusing the locus of control, silencing inner voices (interjects) ...it's rough out there..whatever works for you God bless you

Yes, they do know what they’re doing! Thank you!

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

& even better : God knows

Dear Andrew I am now inadvertently witness to the grooming and lovebombing of my narc husbands new supply just as he discarded me. Thanks to you I know have the knowledge of what this is as I can see why he chose her and what he’s doing. Sick twisted and I add I add evil is absolutely right because he knows exactly what he’s doing ❤🙏

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

systematic abuse

@BeTheLight624

18 күн бұрын

…weaving the narc spider web 🕸️ glad you are out they are sick

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

So glad you're out .. God bless you

Praying for the new supply because some people don't make it out alive or with there sanity still intact. Glad I did but decision I ever made! Now I'm thriving and smiling dropped a few pounds due to gaining so much weight from being with him. Thank You GOD for giving me the strength to let go and never look back. ❤

i feel so sorry for my narcissists next victim there in for a hell of a ride but i hope my narcissist gets her just deserts and gets worked out early nobody deserves this kind of abuse like me and everyone else watching this channel has suffered funny thing is i wont even be jealous for my replacement just pity thank you andrew my new life being single is amazing am so happy

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌💜🙏

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

they're in for a rude awakening.

That's what makes me take that cleansing breath every time my now adult children tell me that 'mom' has a 'new new new boyfriend': someone really believes they found the love of their life. Another one bites the dust more likely....😢

Mr. N discarded me and went back to live with his ex-wife (who he claimed slept with everyone in the neighborhood) - go figure!

@VeganLife-mn1jp

18 күн бұрын

I think that’s out of their playbook! It doesn’t matter how much he trash talks his ex, he’ll eventually return to her and think she’s perfect and now you’re painted black!

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

​@@VeganLife-mn1jpkharma

@hongtruong4576

18 күн бұрын

She did you a favor 🫶🏃🏻‍♀‍➡

Years ago my then husband just vanished (the brutal discard) and divorced me to marry the new supply. I found out much later that he has had kids with at least five different women while he's been married to her. Yes sir! She fucxed around and found out 😂 Don't envy the new supply. They did you a favor. 🎉

That was me....looking at the package ...luckily for me, I am not a push over ..so their machinations didn't work... You words have put things in perspective for me.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌💜🙏

Fools gold struck a nerv ...... so glad I found you and this community ❤❤❤

3 weeks out, and the memories come flooding back. More red flags than a chinese day parade, and i ignored them all. Just figuring out why is a puzzle. God bless you Andrew

@rmzang

18 күн бұрын

Don't dwell on the "why". Narcissists don't have feelings like you do, they might pretend to only to manipulate you.

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

@@rmzang I think the why is more about myself..like why didn't I act on all this cruelty or red flags? Thank God I'm out..

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

@@rmzang Also I hope you're healing if you're still going through it..

@Goose-mn2me

16 күн бұрын

I chose to ignore the red flags because I wasn’t that invested in the “relationship”, until I was. I didn’t really like this person when we first met so red flags meant nothing to me. I couldn’t care less what he did or didn’t do because I wasn’t interested. I remember driving away that first day with an ick feeling and thinking “not in this lifetime”. He pursued heavily for many months (crossing boundaries) and through therapy I have learned how heavily I was manipulated. As soon as I started to have feelings, it was too late; I was too far in. The red flags still kept showing up, the only difference was that I was now making excuses for him. Almost 1 - 1/2 years post breakup and I’m still trying to make sense of it all. I have so many regrets…

@camelotenglishtuition6394

16 күн бұрын

@Goose-mn2me I'm not a professional but I think you need to forgive yourself

Another great video -- so relatable to those of us who have experienced the toxicity!! Andrew thank you for your never ending love and support! So grateful for these sessions!! Sending love and encouragement to all community folks! I really feel for the unsuspecting new supply!! ☺❤💜🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

Welcome..💜😌🙏💯

@maryolinger9465

18 күн бұрын

@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hello my friend!!😊

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

❤

narcs new supply is very similar to him in his nasty ways.. She did things to purposely try to hurt me. A troll like person who “aimed to get her man!” Jokes on her, she got a narc instead, who is anything but a man, he’s a man-child. I tried to shake him several times, as you know, narcs attach themselves to people like a carbuncle feeding off your energy. I thought if I gave him enough room he’d find someone else to occupy his pea brain so I could get away. Those two were meant for each other. I didn’t anticipate the hurt or magnitude of deception I felt afterwards from the narc abuse. While talking on the phone with him, he dropped the call to answer the call from the new supply. I never answered another call, text, or email from him again. So happy to be rid of him and be 12+ months past that nightmare. I do not feel sorry for either one of them, they are birds of a feather of darkness. I focus on the light. I enjoyed the beautiful background, breeze and poignant message, Andrew. Thank you. 🙏🏻💜🦋🌳✨☀️✨

@VeganLife-mn1jp

18 күн бұрын

Like Andrew said, she thinks she got the prize but she got fool’s gold!! He probably enjoyed hurting you when he took her call. Those scoundrels deserve each other! I wouldn’t be surprised if he hoovers you down the road, but you’ll be at the pinnacle of indifference ✨

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

proud of You! keep swimming...

@BeTheLight624

18 күн бұрын

VeganLife-mn1jp Thank you for your kind reply Yes, I’ve received 38 hoovers in a variety of ways I never thought possible and I did not acknowledge one. That starves the narc from good or bad supply. He was trying to convince me he had “phone problems.” Well I guess he does have “phone problems” but they are not the kind Verizon or Samsung can fix, he IS the problem. I’m working my way to the pinnacle as we all are. Thank you and best wishes on this new chapter of your life. Andrew suggests the best ways to navigate this stuff.

@hongtruong4576

18 күн бұрын

@@VeganLife-mn1jp The ex narc latest supply took him down. He lost his health and good look. We don’t have to do anything but stay away and work on ourselves let karma does what karma does. Peace is Priceless 🙏

Andrew, thank you for traveling this journey with me. I've been terrified, with constant nightmares. And you've always been there, a calm and steady in a turbulent time. He's gone now. He has a new supply. And I have continued to enjoy your company. Thank you for your friendship. Even at a distance. Thanks for helping me through it

My manipulator came to me pretending to buy items off of Craig's list and started to flirt with me.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌💯

I certainly don't miss his awkward silences.❣️

@StStStS

17 күн бұрын

I don miss all the ‘Yeah, you said that already.’ s 😂😂

Oh my gosh, I was the new supply for a while! Now I left and have figured out my boundaries and not a people pleaser. My narc drove me bonkers and I left angry and I had to re-learn who I was! But now I know myself even more. So there’s that.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

14 күн бұрын

😌😌💜💯

I have been here..five wasted years.i made the decision this year to get out of the narcissitic relationship that almost killed me.i was so drained physically,emotionally,financially,spiritually.I have embarked on my healing journey trusting God for total emotional restoration.sometimes i dont even understand how i feel.Only God can heal anyone going through this

The narcissist that I'm dealing with, her new supply/lover, pays for expensive hotels, gifts, and vacations. She even neglects her dogs for the new supply, bc she leaves that responsibility in the hands of her roommate, who has things to deal with on his own. She is also gaslighting another source of supply, who just came out of a divorce and calls him her best friend. It seems like her relationship with the current rich supply may last for a long time, but I pray I'm not around when it all falls apart, bc the last rich supply relationship she had, went on attack on the Internet and called her names. If history teaches us anything, the next go around may not be as kind.

The new supply was my 'friend' who betrayed me. He married to my ex 😆 He's also a narcissist. I'm happy for them 😂😂🤣🤣🤣He has aged soooo badly in 2 years💀😐😐🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌

@AA-nx2jz

18 күн бұрын

Same I have noticed in my Ex husband's recent pics. In just three yrs he is looking like an aged person, I think his new supply is also a narcissistic. 😅

Radical Acceptance is a pretty hard thing to accept 😔

@allans7281

18 күн бұрын

You have more power than you know!! going no contact is devastating to a narcissist you determine who is in your life

Yes he is sick. He doesn't know what real love is because he hates himself.

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

They don't have a core personality .. there's nothing there but a black void

@cyrillecorinne

18 күн бұрын

​@@camelotenglishtuition6394 Exactement, elles, ils jouent des rôles interchangeables... Sortir du triangle de Karpman bourreau victime sauveur... Ce système d'exploitation fiction impitoyable, jeux de perversions, c'est leurs monde à leurs images... Deux populations incompatible cohabitent sur terre...

@Gotoworkkk

16 күн бұрын

Or he doesn’t love you

@lizstraub6621

16 күн бұрын

@@Gotoworkkk the biggest mistake of his pathetic life

@camelotenglishtuition6394

16 күн бұрын

@@Gotoworkkk they can't love

Everything you stated is true. No contact yet one of the many new supply looks me up on social media. Now, isn't that pathetic. I still continue no contact to all of them. And what's interesting, is I don't think they know that they are not the only one in his life.

Thank you again, Andrew. Whether you are reading your message or not, the substance of what you say resonates 100% with those of us who have lived through/living through relationships with the "Wolf in Sheep's Clothing." (Biblical reference, Sermon on the Mount) Mine is wife, communal and covert female narcissist. Scapegoated our daughter and I googled "splitting" looking for Borderline treatment and found Narcissism instead. Hearing the repetition of your message is what many of us need at different stages in our healing. It is like a balm - you get it, you lived it, survived it and come out better for it on the other side, and you know what the fire feels like refining the dross and burning off impurities, sandpaper making us smoother. Doesn't feel well going through it. Over 40 years here, informally discarded 15 years ago when I got hurt and income took a major hit "ruining her life", demanding divorce, THEN fighting over 4 years for the divorce SHE wanted. But the end of this phase is almost near. Finally. Then it will be only the grandkids' gatherings and celebrations (we had 4 wonderful children, now adults, 2 no contact, 2 moved far away for minimal contact). She got almost everything, including the church, but it' s worth it to be free. Most of the flying monkeys at church and neighbors etc etc, are now onto her. Hardest enablers to let go are sister-in-law and brother-in-law. She is cycling through old supply like a junkie. I am Hoover-proofed. 100%. But she still tries. Yes, even the old tube sock. Thank you again, and some of us believe our healing is by God's grace and through prayer vs meditation, plus community here and some others here who we have learned from.

@kimgordon3695

18 күн бұрын

keep going ❤

He was on his iPhone the entire time he was at my friend's mother's funeral. The most disrespectful thing I have ever seen. Let's guess why? He couldn't get over the fact that my friend's dead mother was the center of attention. That is so sick!!! What a bad, bad man. All I can do is pray for him for me and for humanity.

Lay it out Anthony. I'm right there with you on this narc bullshit. I live it!

Love you too Andrew and anyone on here that is real 💜

@camelotenglishtuition6394

18 күн бұрын

God bless you

It's been over six years and it feels like six minutes since I last saw them. I guess I don't miss all their hell.

Thank you for sharing. You just made me realize that my relocation and new job in a foreign country played a huge part. I didn’t made that connection yet, but it’s so sick to understand they are preying on this type of vulnerable situations. Thanks.

@hongtruong4576

18 күн бұрын

Best of wishes to you 🙏🙏🙏💜💐

Let’s hope they find out. Some don’t and never escape. Those are the people my heart breaks for 😢

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😌😌💜🙏

Thank you for helping me with what i am going through.I never knew 17 years ago i would be destroyed piece by piece until there was nothing left of who i was.There is nothing she won't do to hurt me.She has also destroyed our daughter not caring about her feelings by sleeping with all these different men.She chose the men instead of our daughters happiness.My daughter has so many emotional problems because of living in an unhappy home.She has seen all the pain i am going through for years because i have become so depressed i can't function.I used to play with her with her babies or barbies or whatever she wanted to play.I slowly lost myself and became severely depressed wanting my pain to end.I became too depressed to spend the time i needed with my daughter.I have also over the years developed so many health problems that many of which can't be reversed.Anyone reading this listen!.You will pay with your life if you stay in this extremely hurtful relationship.You only get one chance to live on this earth,one chance!. Don't let it happen to you.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 күн бұрын

Welcome..😌💜🙏💯

Age 56, went no contact, that narcissist woman took my soul slowly over time. I never had a relationship that took so much work to go absolutely no where but in circles. Never appeased, my efforts always fell short no matter how hard I tried, things were wrong, things were not to her liking, people had hatred put on them for no reason, all by her shallow existence. The way she treats her teenagers was just one red flag I ignored. My healing journey has begun, This summer is about me and no one else! Not isolating, I need to be around happy people, not leaching parasites!

Yes, our disabled son's birthday is Friday. He will get nothing from his father. OUR three children just don't exist to him. His loss.

@lizstraub6621

18 күн бұрын

P.S. I set up my will so that HHE can NEVER touch one penny. I have a 'Blooddline Trust' meaning MY children and THEIR children can inherit, but not HIM, and NOT any of my children's spouses, just their children who will be MY blood. Because I don't trust that my ex would get his hands on my estate. BOOM. Sorry for typos, my keyboard....

@VeganLife-mn1jp

18 күн бұрын

That’s absolutely awful 😢 I’m glad your children have you, but what a demon to ignore his own children.

@lizstraub6621

18 күн бұрын

@@VeganLife-mn1jp TY and yes...my oldest son has been played by a Narc and my almost 27 year old daughter keeps finding jerks just like her father. Now they're both not even trying to find decent partners. I'm trying to help them navigate...

@janettesessarago4690

18 күн бұрын

🎈Happy Birthday to your son 🥳

@lizstraub6621

16 күн бұрын

@@janettesessarago4690 thank you, I made it a happy day for him ❤️

My Narcissist loved the gas pedal so much he wore through the carpet right to the metal and wore out the car horn.

Thank you for sharing this ❤ i am nearly a year away from a 23-year narcissistically abusive relationship. Its been so hard but i am doing it ❤❤❤

Andrew, thank you. I've learned so much from you. All that you've taught is shockingly true. When I first learned about this, I was almost numb for two days. My older sister, who I've always admired, has NPD. No matter how hard I tried, I never met her standard. She remains a saint with admirers. She did the love bombing thing, but I took courage and I didn't respond. I've severed the relationship, but now I have no family.

When I tell you I looove the way you explain everything. So accurate 😢I'm dying inside in silence.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

10 күн бұрын

😌😌💜💯

I was going to college and I had a girlfriend that took a fair amount of time for just cuddling. She was crying and cuddling and said something like "I feel like I'm never going to get married." At that time, I thought I had a okay person, one of those small town hard working college girls, not one of those that were wild and really going all out on the party school scene, etc. Hey, sure, let's get married. We were hanging out a lot, etc., Then..... days, weeks, maybe not quite months..... She HAD to have an engagement ring. HAD to. So working (poor) college student I am, I go out of my way to get a cheap one at Walmart. She didn't like that one and had me take her up to Walmart to pick out a different one.

A fish gets caught because they open their mouths .AKA Narcissist.sit and wait

Wonderful summary of the measures, and impact this sickness called narcissism has on the unaware. You make it easy to hang on to every word. Continue to share brother, we are listening.

In a world plagued by such individuals, thank you for helping to possibly understand and/ or move on with the development of civilization, and the evolution of the human race. 🙏

OMG I can't believe it. It is exactly how it all began 13 years. I think God that I'm out, I divorce agreement is getting is going to be signed and 4 months and Finished done. I wished I had this very channel and hear your words I would safe myself felt like a goldfish in a blender. I know now exactly what not to get into. My eyes and hears are wide open. Thank you so much for doing this. .

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

11 күн бұрын

Welcome..😌🙏💜

Always look forward for your videos. Wow

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

Thank you..🙏💜😌

As usual....right on point. Thank you. It has been almost 2 years no contact and I still struggle daily with how this happened.

@TheLisajoyce

11 күн бұрын

Me too

I have a restraining order on him for 2 yrs now..n there are still so many triggers ...didnt know what a narcissist was..unbelievable the stages..he will answer to God

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

11 күн бұрын

😌😌

I pity that guy already. He doesn't know what is waiting for him. I have been no contact with my ex wife for 3 years. I don't even know where she is. Ignorance is bliss.

Hi, I'm just learning about narcissists I used to think it was someone who was obsessed with looks ! Until I listened to the channels on U tube and I've read books . It seems I've been around them my whole life . I thank God every day that their hatred hasen t poisened my soul 🙏 I'm still alive and free and can still love ! 💖 Thank you for your wise words ! ✨🙏💗

Im just over two years free of him. He can no longer hurt anyone as he died in a horrific truck accident earlier this year. In his obituary another woman was mentioned, i looked her up and yep she thought he was a great person. I don't know if they were together long enough for her experience the real him. Anyway i had weight lifted from me, but now the real healing starts, to be strong and know what to look at for and be better informed, thank you for your content!

Absolutely you nailed my situation but I’m still breathing! Another great video.

Thank You Andrew for keeping it real, You nailed it and helped me so much

“Fool’s gold”.. good term.. I think it’s the name of a movie.. unfortunately I may sound harsh here but I won’t devote time in my brain for any human supply source anymore when it comes to the narc I’ve dealt with.. both past and future sources.. I’ve said this before on here somewhere but my focus is on myself and casualties and minimising casualties as best as I can.. besides I think my brain is overloaded as it is for now 😂and no, no one gets the time to boil an egg properly or clean the house properly because they’re too busy trying to get through the endless to-do list and dealing with hoarding (or discreetly working on other things 🤔).. the egg example always makes me laugh though 😂.. having issues with my comments since yesterday so hopefully this one stays.. glad to see you here Andrew.. we were all worried yesterday.. thank you 💜🪻

@Thedisgardedoptimist

17 күн бұрын

Hi Laila, How are you? Yep, fool's gold was a good movie, lots of diving, and gold! Right up my alley! 😂 And a little comedic so always a plus... Now, overloaded, should I hold off my reply to the long letter? Sorry it's late, I did send you a message there but since it's been flying monkey week (they all seem to come at once) and I'm just trying to stay busy, (running etc.) so as I said, that thread is getting long, is there any particular thread I should attach the reply to or should I just pick any or hold off all together because of the overload? Hope your weeks been ok... Cheers G 🙏☮️🐬

@lailaa6662

17 күн бұрын

@@Thedisgardedoptimist hi Greg. Happy to hear from you 🙂 I’m doing ok, up and down, but overall ok. Not the happiest with all the rain this week though. One or two days a week is nice, but all week puts a dent in my outside plans (and the washing)😂And how are you? You mentioned flying monkey week, and I hope everything is ok for you. Also regarding overload, my communication with you or anyone here is never an overload. I very much appreciate being able to communicate on here, if anything, it’s a positive part of my day and/or week. If you’re wanting to respond to the longer message, I am very much more than happy to receive and read and write back. Any thread is fine, preferably not a video one (too much traffic). I had issues with my comments disappearing a few days ago. The day that Andrew uploaded his video very late and most of us got worried. I had managed to write on the flower post to see what was going on with the late video, and to Jennifer on the video, but after that I couldn’t comment for some reason. I’m glad you have managed to find a way to stay busy, and running is a wonderful way to do so while staying healthy. I hope no flying monkeys are causing you any stress. I’ll have to check out the fool’s gold movie sometime. It sounds interesting. Just the name somehow clicked in my brain 😂 if I remember correctly, Matthew McConaughey is in it. It sounds like it’s your type of movie. I also had issues with notifications the other day and didn’t receive them even if someone wrote to me. I hope these issues get resolved. I hope your week has been ok too apart from any flying monkeys and hope it didn’t rain too much for you. Wishing you a very peaceful evening 🪻🌧️🌧️🙏🙏

@Thedisgardedoptimist

17 күн бұрын

@@lailaa6662 Hi Laila, Thanks for your reply.. Rain rain right? When it decides to rain it doesn't do it by halves! Lol could almost build an ark here I had so much and if you are east of me it would have been worse so yup scratch the washing and binge movie time! The monkeys have been out in force since I got back - don't know what's happening but yep had to go for a run to get my head straight - it got pretty busy there for a while and right now it's gut vs The fear mind and I'm trying.... Gut says don't in a real big way so I'm not.... Ok was just checking, when you said you were overloaded I didn't want to add any more things to think about while you were processing, just making sure before I send another novel to read... I had a read of your letter and have some thoughts so there will be some stuff to ponder... Yep it will be in the community section, in the next day or so providing these monkeys don't come visiting since I didn't answer the phone.... Hope you have a good night and you manage to get your washing done.... Cheers G...🐬✨

@Thedisgardedoptimist

15 күн бұрын

@@lailaa6662 Hi Laila, Happy Sunday! Just letting you know, message sent to long thread and it seemed to stick so just in case you're not getting alerts, hopefully you'll get one from here... Have a good day.. G ☮️🙏🐬

@lailaa6662

15 күн бұрын

@@Thedisgardedoptimist hi Greg. Happy Sunday to you too! Hope it’s not pouring rain for you. How are you today? I hope you’re doing ok. Im doing alright today, not letting any negative energy forces disrupt me. I appreciate you letting me know. I had a look just now and I haven’t received any longer messages from you. KZread is likely playing up again. Sometimes I don’t get notified and messages are there (this occurred earlier this week which was strange), but I checked both and nothing appears on my end. I hope the rest of your day will be a peaceful one, without any monkeys disrupting it 🙏💜☀️☀️

Agreed and a survivor here too who helps sensitive being like myself to recover, much love to you!

It doesn't matter if the new supply is better or worse, remember however green that grass the toxicity your ex feeds will kill everything and leave a barren land. Now they are gone you will bloom once again. I am 1 month in to ending 14 years of misery, but i can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you Andrew for your daily support, it is always good to hear you however dark the day.

When I left my ex-wife with my son she mentioned that she learned a lot from me. I am afraid, that through her experience with me, which was challenging for her from time to time I guess, she even got better in her tactics to draw in a new victim/supply... When my son and I decided to quit she already had monkey-branched a new supply. Poor guy believed all the stuff she told him about how she was abused by me and what a bad and unthankfull person our son is. Hopefully, and not out of hatred or jealousy, I pray for the new guy that he doesn't fall in that black hole all too deep.

Really true. Met the narc when I was a new, young widow. 15 years later, he tells me I was just for sex, drops me and marries his principle. I pity her now.

That was my mistake. Not weighing the actions against the words. ❤💯‼️📣

@Softtearsofwisdom...

18 күн бұрын

♥Love...It was all of our mistakes. We never knew the game we were playing, because we are loyal and we love from our hearts.; and life is not a game to us. Life is a beautiful journey and we are a piece of that incredible, glorious beauty. Please forgive yourself. You did not do anything, but love from a sweet, innocent heart. Blessings. Xo...

Dearest man you have helped me so much

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

18 күн бұрын

😌💯🙏

@hongtruong4576

18 күн бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Namaste Andrew 🙏💜💐

My ex narc was a narc let's face it. His family knew, etcetc. After the bs of how he is living the dream, uber social, kind to others etc, he decided to beat me up. I went to court and he had two previous court cases with two other women 😮. I later found out he had got married, on face book showing us his new life. Two years into that marriage he died at 48. He had a brain tumour 😂😂😅karma gets yah. I'm really free now. Thanks for the vlogs 👍

@StStStS

17 күн бұрын

You escaped, that is great. For info, in the UK there is a law called ‘Claire’s Law’ by which you or concerned family/ friends can ask the Police about a partner’s background. If they have a record of violence or domestic abuse, they will tell you. Thanks to Claire’s family who worked for this. She was killed by her ex-partner and was unaware he had a history. RIP.

@user-ht2tc5uj7w

17 күн бұрын

@@StStStS Thank you so very much, yes I will take note of your details. Sometimes we just tell a story on you tube and let it go. Thank you for reading mine. I think men and women should vet partners especially if there's red glaring flags and one still isn't quite sure because of the charm and love bombing and trauma bonding. 🙏🏼 ✌️Happy life to you.

@StStStS

16 күн бұрын

@@user-ht2tc5uj7w And to you 👍

Andrew you are diamond in a clean water. Thank you for your message. 😮

Fools gold Hahaa. Yes! You crack me up.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

19 күн бұрын

😉😊