In my opinion, forgiving a narcissistic person is granting them permission to continue destroying you. No thanks!

@gangGreenthumb

9 күн бұрын

I have forgiven the narcissist who brought me to the brink of unaliving myself.... not to relieve HER sense of guilt... a narcissist does not feel guilt, cannot feel guilt. I forgave her to release myself from the trauma bond. I needed to do this for my own health. I wasted 2 years of my life wishing karma upon her.. those two years I could have spent enjoying time with my dogs. I could have done more things for myself. She wasn't effected at all by my rumination, though if she knew of it, she'd have gloated and giggled herself to her narcissistic slumber. I forgave her to set myself free. It had nothing to do with her, it wasn't granting her permission. She doesn't need my permission to destroy other people's lives.. she's gonna do that regardless of what I think. That's not in my control. But it took a long time for me to come to these crossroads. If you choose to never forgive, that is also OK. We each walk our own paths. There is no definitive right or wrong answer in how we respond to abuse.

@gma729

9 күн бұрын

I 💯 Agree. She literally destroyed my home my relationships w my be..

@user-hw4yw8qc9n

9 күн бұрын

I left a narcissist 2 yrs ago after being married to him for over 50 yrs…..I always knew there was something wrong with him but couldn’t put my finger on it……it was awful……I don’t want to be in this position at my age but I’m at peace now. I do look back and feel sorry for him. I used to say to him…..I’m glad I don’t live in your head. Onwards and upwards aged 76. Good luck everyone 💕 xx

@user-ph7ub8lo9g

8 күн бұрын

Definitely my friend you are on point.❤️💟💪⭐🙏🏾

@user-ph7ub8lo9g

8 күн бұрын

​@@gangGreenthumbI love your comment,❤️💟💪⭐🙏🏾

What's done in the dark will ALWAYS be brought into the Light 💝

@iwonkwanan6443

10 күн бұрын

Amen Luk12:1-7

@lanadst6745

8 күн бұрын

Still waiting ….

@sglenn704

5 күн бұрын

Hallelujah 🙏🏻

@Flinshot1

4 күн бұрын

A very Biblical perspective. 🎉

@carmengutierrez4466

3 күн бұрын

Narcissist Psychopaths have Criminal Behavior!

There is no narcissist that does not cheat guys, she's 100% right

@nicholettej1742

9 күн бұрын

Faithful as their options

@wendynash2587

9 күн бұрын

Mine would have stretched the truth about cheating - because he didn't physically cheat. BUT he was looking for something better, flirting with women, trying to find someone shiny and new. That is cheating - like the commandment 'thou shalt not covet' your neighbour's wife. Emotional cheating.

@Soralella71

9 күн бұрын

Nope, my narcissistic father never cheated. He treated us (his family) like shit and enjoyed seeing us suffering, but he never cheated. He was too stupid to find another woman. My mother was even more stupid than him for having ended up with a "man" like that.

@gloriadonahue7241

8 күн бұрын

There are narcissists who do not cheat. Watch Dr Ramani's video on the self-righteous narcissist. She discusses this exact topic and explains it. I know for a fact that my narcissist husband has never cheated. He's done horrible mean cruel things to me but I know for a fact he's never cheated

@chrissemenko628

8 күн бұрын

​@gloriadonahue7241 Can't stand "Dr." R

The maddening thing is they cannot even see what they are, but they are ALWAYS the victim once they’re held accountable.

@MJ-qb5ph

6 күн бұрын

They will do anything not to accountable

@kevinowens6010

4 күн бұрын

The Narc knows exactly what they are doing. They focus on the kill. They are exactly an inner species predator no matter how that narc is dressed up to appear different. Premeditated thought process. Does a wild mountain lion know what it is doing when it hunts

@MissRed92837

3 күн бұрын

I grew up in a narcissistic family cult. The narcissists in my family know exactly that they are lying, threatening, manipulating, stealing and abusing others mentally, physically and financially. But I don’t know if they realize the damage they cause. Or they just simply don’t care that they cause a lot of damage, pain and loss.

@sylviaamodeo7090

2 күн бұрын

Precisely!

I wouldn't want to spend one day in the shoes of a narcissist. What a sad and miserable life it must be. Thank you, Paula ❤

@sylviaamodeo7090

2 күн бұрын

Absolutely Thank God for our Blessings,[ sometimes in disguise]

Their lives are truly pitiable.

@rosinastrippoli7768

4 күн бұрын

Not always,everything in his life goes well…he is extremely heathy at 78,no blood pressure or cholesterol or anything..people love him,etc,etc

No one knows these type of people exist and they are so unworldly that there is no medication or treatment for a narcissist. They are able to deceive everyone even children of God. But this is a teaching lesson for us. Because adversity brings about humiliation. Believe me after God breaks you away from the narcissist you will pray and thank God for everything that he has blessed you with. The knowledge is the key. Thank you Paula

@Diamondjane54

10 күн бұрын

I'm finding the numbers of narrsissiists at large are many in numbers in governments, war industry, theater; Hollywood, music industry, medical profession, education system, prison system, mental institutions and churches. My God tells me "Don't panic". I will always protect you, love you. I will never leave you. I trust God is not a "man" that He should lie. I am trusting and obeying & anything other is taking a dangerous path down. I don't have to suffer that is my choice and one I do not use all of the time. It's OK God is like air I need only 1 breath at a time.

@life-rethought

10 күн бұрын

Your last statement.. God is like air. Oh my what a keeper

@sabrinapetersen5358

10 күн бұрын

Remember this a narcissist does not know what real love really is! Their own selfish agenda is to hurt you and use you! A narcissist or other narcissists think of you only as a Object or a thing to use for their own needs and wants blaming you for their own selfish behavior and actions towards you which is wrong and hurtful!

@patriciawilliams5172

9 күн бұрын

It is ashamed we didn't know they existed because we were taught for generations by the church not to see evil but good in people even when their deeds are evil. We never understood why these evil deeds existed. The pastors never wanted you to see evil because they was practicing evil. We would never suspect the man of God to be a narcissist.

I (being an empath) fell right into the trap of marrying a narcissistic woman. It was 26 years of chaos, drama, and insanity. We were financially well off at the beginning, but her crazy schemes led to financial ruin. She had multiple extramarital affairs during our marriage, followed by multiple live-in boyfriends after our divorce (7 years ago). My life is so much happier and peaceful now that I have gotten away from the situation. Paula, every word you spoke is exactly what I have experienced as a decent man married to a narcissist. Thank you. - Mike (from South Dakota in the United States).

@sylviaamodeo7090

2 күн бұрын

Thank you for your story Mike! Also for letting people be aware this is not a gender specified attack. I can relate , because my story is similar but with the male persuasion.

How does it end for the narcissist? My x husband blew up our marriage, his mistress ran away when he got bone cancer,none ,not even his own children would take care of him,nor his " friends ". Sad. He would have died alone if I hadn't helped him in the end. He did it ALL to himself. I don't think anyone should die alone. It's all between God & him now.

@rstegall3992

8 күн бұрын

That is why these mistresses are called purses. And the wife or ex-wife are called nurses. Why? These mistresses are only in it until the well runs dry. When the narc is very ill and close to death, now they want to try and get humble and wonder what went wrong with the marriage. Make that make sense. 🤔

I'll tell you how blinded and desperate I was when I met this person......when he told me he had set his mom's yard on fire with firecrackers, burnt his grandpa's shed down, two dui's, was molested by his brother, and HE was sent to live with his grandparents????? THAT RIGHT THERE.......hello, RED FLAGS????????🤦‍♀️ But what did I do??? Felt SORRY FOR HIM AND HE KNEW IT!! Three weeks on he "thinks he loves me?" Dear Jesus where was my head??? I'll tell you.....up my A$$!! Ha!! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

@user56gghtf

10 күн бұрын

Please give yourself grace. You didn't know what you didn't know. Hindsight is 20/20. Yes you see it all now because what happened then and self reflection. You are stronger, wiser, have more discernment now having been through that. There's a lot of people that are either still in it and don't know or are in denial. Unlike them you now see the light

@Travelintherapist

10 күн бұрын

Sounds more psychopathic to me… fire setters are always a major red flag in the world of mental health 😳

@life-rethought

10 күн бұрын

Mine would cuss me out in ways I have never been spoken to in my 70yrs. And in the next breath say "I love you"... Laughable. Pathetic repulsive.

@safethamzagic7226

10 күн бұрын

We live and we learn. I just didn’t know that such characters existed.

@saturdayschild8535

10 күн бұрын

It wasn’t up your “a$$,” it was in your heart. I think we all heard fantastical stories of their victimhood and it registered sympathy instead of alarm. My children’s father (ex husband) sounds like a Conduct Disorder (pre-NPD diagnosis for teens) based on the stories of violence he told me about in middle and high school. I would never have dated him if I had met him back then, but he made me feel seen and heard. Now I know I have to start those things within myself. What a ride.

My heart goes to those who have been injured by a vampire. I pray 🙏 for recovery. A frightening thought of how it ends for the soulless. 😵‍💫⚡

Guys, when you reach the pinnacle of indifference you wouldn't care where your narc is, what he does and how he'll end up. With each day he'll become smaller and smaller. It took me more than 2 years and a lot of education thanks to channels like this one. Thank you Paula. Good luck to all, and let's transform all the negative energy into positive.

@rhondahammond9431

7 күн бұрын

It took me 3 years to educate myself and finally escape his prison he created.

@sglenn704

5 күн бұрын

Amen! Congratulations!

@jjones4314

3 күн бұрын

Agree 100%! I've been out of the "situationship" with the narc for almost 5 yrs. It's been a long road, but I'm at the point now that I no longer care where he is, who he's with (this week), or what he's doing! 13 yrs of my life wasted on him but many lessons learned too!

Normal people and especially those with a healthy spiritual life are very resilient. When they go through difficult times they learn and grow as people. Everything that Narcs learn is superficial and shallow. As they get older the immaturity and delusional mindset becomes more and more obvious. It's the creepy older man or woman at a bar trying to seduce someone much younger. They are in complete denial that the things they value the most are fleeting. Looks, money and influence will fade. The love that you have shown to family, friends and pets is a legacy that holds true value. I feel sorry for them, I can leave the abusive relationship and God will help me heal, they are trapped in a Hell of their own making. 🙏

@transitionsnc

10 күн бұрын

Excellent comment. I completely agree.

@AprilSummers-um6tf

10 күн бұрын

@@transitionsnc Thank you

@barbaradecker4358

9 күн бұрын

Perfectly said!!!

@tmking7483

9 күн бұрын

Nice comment

@AprilSummers-um6tf

9 күн бұрын

@@barbaradecker4358 Thanks

CAN YOU IMAGINE??? My narc had all of my three children around him for Father's Day. He's sick with cancer -so the children have been with him to help out - so I had no children with me for Mother's Day but I understood that it's a difficult time for them. What did he do - the ungrateful sod??? He left them for the day to meet up with a woman. They put aside all plans to be with him for the day and he went out for the shiny object. Narcissists are never satisfied even when they have it all right in front of them.

@barbaradecker4358

9 күн бұрын

I completely understand!! My ex husband left me & took my only child- daughter- who we were always very close at age 10!! I was/ am very strong Christian but knew nithing about narc personality- just always a living kind honest girl & nurse!! He lied to attorneys, judges etc... about me & I only got limited visits!! I got no holidays!!- Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc...

@wendynash2587

9 күн бұрын

@@barbaradecker4358 My narc won't be on earth much longer - I will get the kids, unless he tries to control me from the grave!! My kids are pretty much wise to him, only putting up with him at this point.

@catherinewindsor1654

5 күн бұрын

I would expect no less. The less time they spend with him all the better. My son has become a narcissist. Extremely abusive.

@wendynash2587

2 күн бұрын

@@catherinewindsor1654 So is one of my sons - he did something wrong, a minor thing really (ripped the door handle off my car during a temper tantrum) but could not take responsibility for it. Ranted at everyone, including me. Looked like a complete idiot. Still can't apologize or deal with it. I don't respond but it's hard to watch.

My husband is a narcissist. From the beginning of our marriage he literally referred to me as his retirement plan to my friends and relatives. So humiliating and embarrassing. He said he was just kidding. Actually not. We are going through a divorce after 28 years of marriage. I left him. He absolutely did everything you described. All of it. And he’s fighting for my retirement plan. He is very sick and alone and totally dependent on his brother who is not in great health either. I still have compassion for him as I would anyone in his pathetic and pitiful situation, but I am strong in my faith that God is removing him from my life. You are spot on about the magical thinking and sense of entitlement. He has pretty much ruined me financially but I am at peace. I have a fulfilling career and supportive family, thanks be to God. I also have my daughters who are amazing . I am breaking the generational curse of my family. God bless you Paula for your videos. So reassuring and helpful in my recovery from narcissistic abuse. ❤❤❤

@NarcCon

4 күн бұрын

🌹🐕

@stanfen1966

Күн бұрын

Sounds like you did break the curse.. now it's all on him and what he needs to do ..

To me not wanting harm to come to them is enough. That is enough forgiveness.

@lorrainem8234

8 күн бұрын

💯🙌

@chrissemenko628

8 күн бұрын

I hope some harm comes to mine. Give him a wake-up call, you know?

Karma is very real, it comes in ways most unexpected.

@annmaddock4569

9 күн бұрын

Yep, he lost his job, had to sell his home, married a wealthy old supply his friends hate, so they cut ties with him because of her...and he has health problems. Karma gets them for sure! Sometimes it takes awhile but its gets them.

@detjaggillar8081

9 күн бұрын

​@@annmaddock4569My ex covert narc (I left him after 10 years of toxic relationship) for about 10 years ago - he died alone in is home last year in miltiple illness of his alcohol addition, only 55 years old. So. Karma never miss an adress ...

@hibbertsh

9 күн бұрын

@@annmaddock4569 yes and yes 🙌

A narcissist, as you are laying on the ground, bleeding will step on you. And, go their way.

@Jen.K

Күн бұрын

...and feel completely justified in doing so.

My ex inherited £800k. He has sod all left. Cars, failed businesses, flashy hotels. It was endless. He never made anything work because he just expected it to work…just because. He a loser in life and can’t self reflect that this keeps happening. When he fails it is everyone else’s fault

Oh yes.....God says Vengeance is Mine, I will repay. God is not a man that He should lie and His word cannot return to Him void❤❤

@bobtaylor170

10 күн бұрын

Thank you, Heather, I need to be reminded of this constantly.

@heathermixson1265

10 күн бұрын

@@bobtaylor170 me too😌

@ArdyceElayne

10 күн бұрын

I also liked a fellow. Later years. Same thing so so mean At first no. I got caught up how wonderful he was. When he was love bombing. I became addicted to his nice ways. His karma will come around also. It’s how I started to learn about narcissist. After I moved away. I sucked in every once in awhile. Hard to get out of it. That’s the awful part. They can’t Love.

@Cowboy19735

10 күн бұрын

AMEN 🙏, I am patiently waiting...

@sandrathomas2893

10 күн бұрын

AMEN 🙏🙌

They lack the ability to love, which is what makes life joyful and satisfying.

When they discard you, Discard them too and no way back in for them. Focus on yourself and your children and the narc doesn't exist and even their children grow to hating them and seeing right through them and cutting them off from their lives. Infact the narc is their own worse enemies. They're miserable and sad for the rest of their lives

"The need for absolute control interferes with forward-planning of a narcissist." When Narcissists get old, they cannot stand losing control of their lives. But even in the Bible it says "Very truly I tell you, when you were younger you dressed yourself and went where you wanted; but when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go. (John 21:18)" The elderly narcissist FIGHTS this so hard. It's impossible to take care of them. My narcissistic mother cannot accept that she is developing dementia, and refuses to de-hoard and sell her four-bedroom house. She wants ME to take care of it. I do not have the funds to take care of MY FAMILY and her stupid house at the same time. And yet, she will not give anyone a POA to help her with her house. She cannot even pay her bills online. Yet she won't let anyone see her bills. She's seriously devolving into psychosis. It's amazing. And because she's lost the mask and ability to hide her deceptions, I've learned how she was financially manipulating me all my life. Every time my dad got sued, she would use me to hide money (ineffectually) and screw up my finances with bizarre investments that always failed. I finally divorced myself from her financially last year (2023) at 51 years old. It took me THAT long to figure her out. They keep fooling people and fooling people, until they get too old to hold the mask anymore. And by that time, I've got my own family to protect from her shenanigans, I'm not falling for it anymore. I can't even afford to fall for her manipulation anymore. She is on her own. And it's a sad end, because it was of her own making. A lifetime of bad choices have pushed away her only child. She doesn't even remember ANY of her grandchildren's birthdays anymore. Just the days her social security check arrives. It's creepy. Pathological narcissists are soulless. I know it's from her abuse and neglect in her infancy -- by her maternal grandmother who I think ended up committing suicide. The demon entered her then. And it stayed in her, despite ALL the chances people gave her to turn around. She CHOSE the demon of selfishness. And that demon's false promises of wealth and power. We all die in the end. And it's as the Bible says.... it's easier for a camel to go through an eye of a needle than for this "rich" woman to go to heaven. She will not change. And as she gets older, she only digs her heels in harder. She chose objects over people. Money is her God. And so money is all she will have left. Look at Jeffrey Epstein. Even money couldn't protect him in the end. The Devil will come for his due. Pray hard that these people stay away from you.

@dnotesdnotes8245

8 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing

Career narcs are the most dangerous they leave a trail of broken people and family's They lie right untill they depart this mortal coil lets hope karma gets them first

@Dale-ei4sm

9 күн бұрын

A long trail of broken home and family poverty too

@btlfilmmedia9514

8 күн бұрын

⁠so true

@lynnanderson1923

8 күн бұрын

Amen to that

They blow up all friendships and relationships, it’s actually sad, pathetic, I’m at the stage where I actually feel pity for them. Ty Paula everything you say is truth.

FACT! “There is nothing behind the mask!” What is there… is the dead soul of that vessel a complete waste of human skin bound by chains trapped in a cage just a ghost of a shadow in a shell. The moment a person see’s those black eyes split face and smirk…that is not an illusion. That is the Devil with Caligula’s grin peering back at you. Good luck, on your next choice or word and action. It is a spiritual battle of the soul; armor up! Thank you 🙏 Paula

@kweemykooffee8058

10 күн бұрын

Spot on! TY&TC

@marylynch2510

10 күн бұрын

Your spot on about the black eyes,frightened the life out of me,this I seen on the day he knew the game was up,I seen pure evil

@JH-td4mn

10 күн бұрын

That unfortunately, is a very accurate description of what is under the mask. I still can't wrap my head around it. It's chilling beyond words.

@cajuncrackerranch7990

10 күн бұрын

@@JH-td4mn if that experience does not wake you up…then you are dead too! That mask hides a many things but in the right conditions with the right light…it exposes everything. God has many names, but the Devil has many more. Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️

@cajuncrackerranch7990

10 күн бұрын

@@marylynch2510 yes! They slither in under disguise manipulating, deceptive, playing with your emotions. They do not want you, they want what you have and what you are, and what you’re capable of…learn to walk and balance upon the edge of the shadows in the grey. Protect and shield your light. The Cluster B Clowns are drawn to the light like a parasitic moth. Stay alert! Stay alive! Stay strong! Peace ✌️

They, as a group, are so predictable….yet, so many are hoodwinked by them. 🤷🏼‍♀️. It’s baffling.

@chellotrevino7323

10 күн бұрын

Yeah they do the same thing it’s easy to spot them

@wendylou8963

10 күн бұрын

I am a well educated woman who was under the control for 13 years. They are very good at what they do but will be alone in the end and unhappy.

@MaryAnderson-xs5wd

10 күн бұрын

I never heard tell of Narcs till I met my first one. I guess I never ran in their circle of friends. I guess I will never understand how they wake up each morning knowing they will play some game to hurt another human .

@chellotrevino7323

10 күн бұрын

@@wendylou8963 13 years 🤣 don’t be naive NEXT TIME learn how to read and study people that’s why narcissist hate Empaths we STUDY ANYONE LIKE WERE GETTING A PHD OUT OF THEM u should learn would’ve saved u a decade 😆🤷‍♂️

@wendylou8963

10 күн бұрын

@chellotrevino7323 quite unsupportive of you. This community is kinder so maybe move along to find one more suited to you

My Narc brother just passed away.. and nobody was there for him.. His daughter's can't stand him. He caused me so much pain when I was a child.. There was no funeral because nobody would come.. sad situation.

@alguedemer

10 күн бұрын

Yes, my ex narc's daughter only uses him for expensive presents and early airport pickups😂😂

@barbaradecker4358

9 күн бұрын

They reap what they've sowed!!!

@rhondahammond9431

7 күн бұрын

So sad.

@catherinewindsor1654

7 күн бұрын

I don't feel sad. In the end, I will be indifferent if not for a passing thought of relief that they can never hurt anyone again, especially my son. The most exciting thing is justice they will now receive by God.

@rosinastrippoli7768

4 күн бұрын

Rarely,from my experience ☹️

You are exactly right. At 73, he's burned all his bridges, nobody wants him, his reputation has caught up with him. His alcoholism, dementia, and physical problems are catching up with him. I don't have any sympathy. He's getting paid back for his years of abusing people and animals. Nobody needs to seek revenge. It's happening right before our eyes. This narcissist has been so cruel that I honestly question if he's human. I see someone who is demon possessed. I've never been involved with him. He just trapped me so he could abuse me. I've taken all of him I'm willing to take and he knows I'm done. He should leave the planet before it's time but on one hand I think he's too arrogant and on the other hand I think he's too weak. I can't wait to get away. Thank you Paula!❤❤❤

@Dale-ei4sm

9 күн бұрын

They are not human he actually acts like a animal

@martyrose

9 күн бұрын

@@Dale-ei4sm Yes pretty much. One thing animals don't do and that's talk baby talk. Drives me insane. Someone so cruel has no business acting like they're 4. Otherwise, I completely agree. He's devoid of anything civilized. Should not be allowed to participate in society.

@martyrose

8 күн бұрын

@@Dale-ei4sm I replied to you and apparently YT didn't like it. Yes. I agree completely. I've never met someone so cruel and completely devoid of feelings. He will hurt my little dogs and laugh about it because it makes me furious. He doesn't have any access to them anymore. He just isn't human.

@heatherhall3452

8 күн бұрын

This is just entree, listen to the latest video on Touching the Afterlife for what’s waiting for him.. 😱 for eternity

@heatherhall3452

8 күн бұрын

@@martyrosehappens to me all the time it’s infuriating 😤

I grew up in an abusive home. As a result, I became highly attuned to people around me. I can usually get a feel for people very quickly. When I have encountered Narcs it's like a blank feeling, as if I'm interacting with a cardboard cutout. I used to mistake that for strength. With others, I could tell almost instantly if they were lying to me, however I could never tell if a Narc was lying to me so i was inclined to believe them. Now when I get the cardboard cutout impression, I take it very seriously and distance myself immediately.

@user56gghtf

10 күн бұрын

Same!!!

@einstein63

10 күн бұрын

Love the 'cardboard cutout' analogy.

@AprilSummers-um6tf

9 күн бұрын

@einstein63 Thanks, it's hard to describe because I would never say someone has no soul. I don't really think that's the case. I think that perhaps the darkness they surround themselves with is almost like a cloaking shield. When someone tries to ping them, the darkness swallows it up. Although I really don't know. I hope they have a soul and can be saved.

@ladyvirgo9514

9 күн бұрын

That was exactly what my divorce attorney said, she said, "I can usually get a good read on people " and she couldn't with my soon X husband. Ya, thats the Very thing you just described

@AprilSummers-um6tf

9 күн бұрын

@ladyvirgo9514 I honestly very rarely come across people like that. It sounds like it was the same for your divorce attorney. I'm sorry that you were treated very poorly by your ex-husband. Unless someone has been targeted, manipulated, and abused by a Narc, they have no idea how painful it can be.

God doesn't even control us, hence free will of choice. However, there are consequences......good, bad, and indifferent.

Madness ... exactly. It seems like a syphilis infection of the brain where all empathy disappears.

❤ justice for Mica Miller❤ Let's remember, not everyone who deletes themselves are narcissistic. They could be coersivly controlled by a narcissist and see no other way out.

Thank you for this video! I remember telling him that his disfigured face is perfect reflection of who he is on the inside. Its true. Nobody wants to stay with a monster. He will never find another woman like me.

@Dale-ei4sm

9 күн бұрын

He sleeps with his mouth open wide he done told so many lies and he looks just like the scream mask he will look ugly in his casket I'm so serious

@AnaM.F

7 күн бұрын

Oh yah they became a 3 old child in a decrepit, ugly, gross body. They faces show the Hugly , disgusting inner

Life is exciting, peaceful and expansive without the demon. If the narc decides to self check-out which he threatened to do so when we're together, it's none of my concern and I'm not heartless. The amount of harm they'll inflict on others would be much worse. The only regret I have is teaching the narc communication, social and even life skills when we're together. I wanted this poor hurt soul to be able to fend for himself but not knowing he'll use all of these skills to deceive future victims. Him checking out would be the best thing for society. May light flow into all of your truthful and honest lives.

@ladyvirgo9514

9 күн бұрын

I relate

Einstein's definition of mental illniss is continuing going back to something believing it will magically transform into something else.change.

Ty Paula. 2 years out and strong. Diacarded 4 times. I own that because I kept letting him back in. At the end I knew he was going to leave again. But this time I told him my home was not a bed and breakfast. Get out! The damage that man caused is horrible. I keep my chin up and give myself extreme grace and self love.

@john1198

8 күн бұрын

I am 6 months out, and will never go back . They have Demonic spirits. They use humans. And have no conscious. They scan your personality and like the terminator will assess your weakness .

The misery they project onto their partners is utterly horrendous, hey thanks for another good informative video 😊

I've never heard the term "somatic narcissist", but wow does that make sense. The pycho in my life was so desperate that he was using a photo as a profile pic that was over a decade old. (A motorcycle accident on top of normal aging, and he's going downhill fast.) He has no car, no license, no money, and everything he owns (which isn't much) has been donated, inherited, stolen, or exploited from someone. I saw a recent photo of him...emaciated, bad teeth--I was stunned. He was a decent-looking guy, but not anymore. In the two and a half years since I left him in the corner he painted himself into, he's never attempted to hoover me, but two days ago, I got a short text asking if I wanted to be friends. I just chuckled to myself...our split was so incredibly acrimonious that if he's trying to get me back in his life, he has to be beyond desperate. Good.

It's so illogical. They spend their whole life trying to control the false narrative about themselves through manipulation when the answer is there all along. We have the option as to the choices we choose to make, but no matter how choose ultimately God is in control.

@MissRed92837

3 күн бұрын

And they get very nasty when they loose control over you. Because they don’t know what you will tell others about them. They will start controlling everyone around you, to save their reputation and their world built up on lies. They will tell everyone that you are a liar and crazy. So should you tell someone something about the narcissist, that they won’t believe you. This happened to me. I lost all family, friends and my reputation.

This one really hit me💡 I do wanna say… They are SO good at making everything look Well…. Hunky Dori😬😂

Thank you Paula. They are so destructive, that they ultimately destroy themselves. Knowing how they operate, helps avoid being trapped into their toxic web. Yes, being black and white in their thinking is a big clue. Always needing to be right and knowing everything. I believe that they are not human, they don't have a heart. We need to be aware, and go by your intuition what feels right. Love and blessings from Australia. Big hug to Remy. xxx🥰😇🥰

@NarcCon

9 күн бұрын

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Coverts tend to get physically ill over time. My covert/Malignant mother had multiple surgeries for illnesses. She was sick my whole life. At the end, she had no money, had no control over her body functions, was losing her hearing & sight. She was stuck on the second story of our house because she couldn't get up & down the stairs. She went about two months of not being able to eat solid food, then she went about three weeks of not being to eat anything. In her last two weeks she barely drink water. She died a horrible & painful death...alone! No one cared that my mother died. Glad you made this video. People need to know Narcissists don't always get away with their bad behaviors...it just takes time.

My ex-beloved-narc is just driven by hatred and bitterness, perversion and greed, everything is about competition, rivalry and revenge. He needs to destroy others and he seems to enjoy it. It's like he has to channel all his darkness and destructive energy to a scape goat, because otherwise, it eats him up. For me his presence and even just attention feels like a disturbing electro magnetic field that makes you feel bad instantly

You are extraordinary. I have been listening to your podcasts over the last 7 months of the shittiest time in my life after the end of a 24 year marriage to a narc. I listen through the night to your wisdom to help calm me and make sense of the crazy my ex wife has created in our lives and I am deeply grateful for what you do. Each episode has so much accuracy, insight and depth of understanding that it’s like you can see inside my world. I am not overstating it when I say you are a life saver. Your honesty and authenticity are a shining beacon and you have let the light get in. Thank you.

@NarcCon

8 күн бұрын

The light back in is everything sending you strength Rachel thanks for your message 🌹

My ex narc did not leave a loving relationship. On the contrary. For 20 yrs I went grey rock, realizing that he wasnt going to change. The last decade of the relationship I denied him sex and safety, threatening to leave him out of sheer despair. When he finally left with new supply, I felt guilty for pushing him away, but now I see how it couldn't have ended any differently. While Im grieving the lost years, a quarter of a century in a shared fantasy at best, a fake relationship at worst, Im healing faster than id have, had I provided him a loving relationship till the end. It has cost me, nonetheless.

There are no exceptions this demon cheats

Paula, In my opinion, both people need to be in love before the partnership will work. When a NARC feels they are the perfect person, that partnership is in trouble from the start.. It can never work out. When a person is always looking for someone better, I do not think they know the true meaning of love. If your spouse hears the word cancer, and you start looking for someone better, you are not worth much as a human. They gave you a gift when they said goodbye.

@dennisryan6370

10 күн бұрын

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@bridgetdooley9616

10 күн бұрын

I don’t think so this is different

@user56gghtf

10 күн бұрын

I feel that in order to love someone you have to love yourself. They don't love themselves. They hate themselves and everyone else.

@kathrynhogan3387

10 күн бұрын

Narcs are not able to fall in love so that would never be possible.

@kathrynhogan3387

10 күн бұрын

Paula you’re adorable. “This is a bit rude” In this application- PEEING in the wind is perfectly fine here🩵

Ex Narcissist has a heavy addiction which he makes out he no longer has...in denial. I have finished with him now. Impossible to help him. So I now help myself.

im so unbothered. we had a family birthday dinner saturday and my covert narc mom was there. i sat at the other end of the table, left early, didnt speak and had a great time!

I believe that this type of spiritual vampires and predators were prepared for these times in which we live now - times called the final times, where evil takes on various extreme forms. Those who believe in the victory of good must also know that the fight between good and evil has always been a fight to the death, which is why these fights are so painful and require tactics. TRUTH AND GOODNESS is the Lord Jesus who stands up for us when our hands are already weak...🙏. Thank you Paula for helping us to understand what narcissistic behavior is all about 💕

I don't see the man(child😉) anymore, blocked him and don't call him an ex- boyfriend. It was an learning experience, nothing more know. I became so much stronger🙏❤

I had a lawyer to help me claim my money… I pulled out last minute. I know a narc living in their own head is worse than any law. I left it to KARMA.

Pls teach the young to know about these evil people. Don't waste your life. I did...50 yrs ... 6 yrs free finally!

Alex Murdaugh has become a PRIME example of ALL of what you speak here, Paula.......

@susan638

7 күн бұрын

Do you know if Murdaugh also cheated on his wife with other women? I heard he was just an extremely addicted drug addict who used financial schemes to get extra money for his out of control, self destructive drug addiction to pain killers.

@telthatruth7533

4 күн бұрын

I had a horrible boss named Elizabeth Murdaugh. She bullied and took advantage of people. Everyone had to be bullied into submission and became her flying monkeys. People had to buy her gifts or risk her wrath. She wasn't a boss, she was a tyrant. It was a very oppressive work environment. Peace, among other things was destroyed at that place. When I look at that name (Murdaugh), it sounds a lot like murder. Wonder if those two are related?

The good news is for us. Most of us listening to these vids, know what to look for now, and have enough self care now to smile and walk away when one pops up. Like last year for me at church, noticed this person lied about some pointless stuff, when I said no to the littlest thing he was visibly angered and asked are you sure? Yep with a smile. Then it was sending me a pic of himself of just getting my number the day before. (Love bombing). Then noticed the black eyed stare one day. Then an attempt at intimidating me, these people are strange and completely unhinged. Smile and walk away with ANY new narc you meet. NO explanation, excuse needed.

We need to stop thinking about forgiving ...this word is used too much. Accepting what happened is enough.

@wendylou8963

10 күн бұрын

Forgiving yourself is what the forgiveness part is, never forgiving the narc for the abuse.

@kweemykooffee8058

10 күн бұрын

@@wendylou8963 How can one forgive another for being sick, and acting out of that sickness? All one can do is pray they seek and receive heallth, but they don't, because they refuse to believe they are sick, az illness is abhorant to them, IRL. That's why so many abuse sick and elderly, or try to paint/smear "us" as sick. Pure projection and denial, unfortunately. But yeah, you have to forgive yourself, so you don't think you're just the sad sack sap they try to make you be. Don't get fooled/hoodwinked again! Live, learn, and be grateful for this deep knowledge o' ass't. species in the human zoo. ;);) TC

@life-rethought

10 күн бұрын

Thankyou. Also the new age think.. That i chose this lesson. This lesson almost took me out after 60 plus years of generations of abuse and betrayal by family. I have learned to say "Hell no!" And did. Deception is evil. I did not choose to experience deception. When I found I had married a cold hearted con.. I ran around 10 months. I'm free again.

@martyrose

10 күн бұрын

Someone told me that I need to apologize to the narcissist and things will improve when I do. Apologize for what I wondered but realize the person handing out the advice has never really encountered a narcissist.

@mvbigmagic4048

9 күн бұрын

@@martyrose Yes, no one understands how cruel a narcissist is unless they've encountered one. A narcissist will use any means necessary to get their supply, and then when a victim refuses to be used anymore, they will somehow make it look like the victim is at fault. It's crazy-making. I hope you have good friends around you to support you during this time in which the narcissist and their flying monkeys (who may not even understand the darkness that you were dealing with!) are trying to hoover you back into the abuse. STAY FREE! Stay away. Stay with good people who understand what happened to you and can help protect you.

These people walk with a mirror hmm...All they see is themselves...Thanks lady❤

I studied my narcs life and Paula is right,nothing will ever end well with the narc,it shaming sometimes when i think about it even though my narc did all dirt on me with her family but i see no good end for them and my narc

Thank you Paula. I loved all the info this video was filled with. I left my narc husband almost 2 years ago because I caught him cheating. Now, I realize he probably always cheated. He stole lots of money over the years from me and his dad. He said there wasn’t anything wrong with taking our money. He lies! He is addicted to porn! He drinks and smokes weed now! He is angry all the time! How long can they go before they collapse or become sick? When I do see him, he looks worse every time. The path of destruction he created was huge! He had to leave the state to be excepted by people that have no idea who he really is. He continues to live a lie. He spends money on so much crap, he is constantly trying to buy happiness. He truly believes that whatever he buys next will give him so much happiness. It’s one high after the next. I am so grateful I saved myself!

@Miss5852-lotta

9 күн бұрын

"he is angry all the time" 😂👍 .. Sounds familiar to me. The addictions and porn etc as well..

@sharonshepherd3728

9 күн бұрын

@@Miss5852-lotta is all this the same for you? They are so evil! It scares me now to know just how evil yet he had me in such a state that I thought he was normal.

@Miss5852-lotta

9 күн бұрын

@@sharonshepherd3728 oh yes, my perception was so disturbed as well.. Like hypnotized. Most beautiful, wonderful person on the planet with a hidden heart of pure gold 🫣🥴

The behavior is hell and the persona is heaven. They live in the flesh and mimic the spirit.

If you see this whole thing as a spiritual journey, narcissists seem to be stuck in some very primitive realm where they can’t become unstuck or evolve. My departing instinctive thought with The Narc was: you are not going to get it right this time around. You will die in this condition and may or may not get another shot. Only a force much bigger than us knows that.

@ladyvirgo9514

9 күн бұрын

Yes!!!

@c4m774

9 күн бұрын

Correct

@Kaohukreations

8 күн бұрын

My thoughts too

@jennilynmae

6 күн бұрын

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I can only imagine that they end up a fractured OAP child with really shitty supply because anyone who lasts that long is going to be very bitter. What an awful existence. Paula, you’re ace my dear ❤️🌷

Another excellent video Paula you are so accurate , We send our best wishes You are a great comfort to us Thank you

I think the hard part of losing someone you love in this type of situation is that it takes a while ( 4+ years for me so far ) to see how it all plays out. They may be “ happy” with the new supply for a long time. Mine left me for a very controlling female narcissist…. She decides everything. I bought him out of our home…. He lives under her roof…. And has to behave and toe her line so she doesn’t kick him out. He is getting his karma. Many of our mutual friends who see them together tell me they can’t stand his new gf…. She is aloof and disinterested in anything that isn’t someone or something she wants to do or be around. He’s her prisoner…. She is his warden. God is seeing to it that he gets his just desserts.

The narcissist have a hunger for acceptance and greed! They need to praise to be seen and heard! And of course from a new audience!!

Wow your on point my ex who was the worst ive met is now living on the street a full blown junkie . And he has lost everything in cluding hes looks

Thanks Paula, nearly a year out of my entanglement with the narcissist , the more times passes, the more what a fractured broken person i see them to have been.

They are never happy so they are always looking for the next thing to make them happy, but it never happens for long, the happiness they may feel is fleeting.

Everything you have said resonates with me 💯

Be well, Paula and Remy.

Listening to this makes me feel like IVE been the narcissist even though I NEVER did anything intentionally be be that. I did what I thought was right and good. But when GOD opened my eyes, I constantly judge myself and not others anymore. Wish I had seen myself sooner than at this age, but God works out AL things for the good of those that love him. The awakeni g is in our own selves so God can correct us. Amen

I think karma comes around. Last few yrs my ex husband wasn’t even respected by the hospital. He was so mean. I didn’t even talk to him anymore for years. Just as a decent human being. It was done

Paula you are correct in stating, " He messed with the wrong woman". Now he has a criminal charge. Addictions ruin people one way or another. I'm on my own now.. away from all the toxic people holding me back. Dad died 2 months ago, so one permenantly removed. Now I'll spend the rest of my days writing, sharing the truth, traveling, and meeting my fellow empaths to lift each other up! I met 2 empaths here at the beach today! There's still hope for us good people! Thank you Paula for bringing light to this subject! 🙏

@NarcCon

2 күн бұрын

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👉A required part of Healing from Abuse is Self-Compassion.👈 Its about to take care and love yourself after the abuse.❤ And forgive and be compassion to your EX NARC from a distance. 💙

Thank you so much Paula for all your pointers we need to hear. What a happy positive blessing you share with broken wounded people who are struggling to understand what has actually happened in their life. Your understanding and words give us - especially me - hope for living in the present and future. Allowing me to shed my skin of my past horrendous life after being married to a narc over 20 years. Hearing you describe his personality to a T is been so rewarding. It like you have given my a pair of HD glasses and I can now see clearly all the areas of hurt, wrong, abusive, brokenness and set me on the road for healing. As a human I too have brought about hurt and heartache but the difference is down the line I want to talk and straighten rough areas out and not leave them to fester. My narc ex husband only spoke when he wanted and had to be about him. Really nothing got sorted out but I went with the flow due to 2 young children. It is an appalling road to walk as I felt I was blind with no white stick and had to find my path through life with no help. Since I have been listening to your podcasts now 4-5 months I know without a doubt he was unfaithful not that it has surprised me at all. His 2 other brothers did the same and feel they are cut from the same cloth. So he was 49 when we separated and he could never hold down a job for more than 9 months. He would walk out if they looked the wrong way at him otherwise every other time he was sacked! How absolutely shameful to have this history and he truly thought nothing of it. He was very into risk taking not thinking about anything or anyone not even his wife or children! He has never ever owned up to any wrong ever! With your help I no longer feel guilty anymore and I love myself and my life even more now that I never have to see him. In my opinion he is definitely deranged mentally before I knew about narcissistic behaviour. His life is so miserable and can’t stop thinking about his woes ( my kids tell me) you are right that they are very unhappy inside. I really believe because all of this life style he has physically aged at least 15-18 years older than his birth age. We all can choose our pathway in life and make sure we mix with like minded folk to stay on an even keel. I pray that everyone listening to your words get the best value and understanding out of them as I do. You are my blessing in life and thank you for all your time and energy into going above and beyond for us. It was so lovely to see Remy snoozing on the sofa and hope you could enjoy fresh air and good walk to clear your mind of these demons in our lives. Take care until next time 🙏🐕😊

@NarcCon

8 күн бұрын

What a truly beautiful message and thank you for the encouragement to everyone here 🌹🙏🐕

Where do they find this boundless energy? It's like they're riding on the back of the devil. My narc mum is 82, physically disabled but has the energy that I've abuse in other Narcissists. They seem to live longer than people who feel. It's true, the best die young. My mother has made me so angry with her abuse towards my father for years on end. We are sorting out a resthome for her, so Dad can get some peace and quiet. His heart has gone out of rhythm due to my mothers screaming abuse. Im totally done with her....and my sister. And I've been the target for Narcissists three times in my life, so my patience for them is nil. My brother recently told me that I'm a good communicator yesterday. He said my sister doesn't talk much and is poor at communicating. I dont have any contact with my sister as she is a hollow mask and a self referencing joy sucker. At least my youngest sibling is starting to realize that their are basic problems within our family. Mum is always on my arse about something and is an abusive drama queen. My sister is a sneaky, underhanded delusional control freak. They are both different but both as difficult as each other. I just want a quiet life of honest connections with good people.

The narcissist's comeupance... I was angry for a long, long time. But when something (slightly) bad happened to her, I just had empathy for her. I'm out of the trauma bond, there is zero chance of reconciliation... I rejected several hoovers and flying monkeys. But I don't wish harm upon her. The way I see it... the desperation for attention that she >>needs

@NarcCon

9 күн бұрын

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@wendynash2587

9 күн бұрын

A great way of putting it. a waste of a life

You are amazingly gifted. Ty for your support 💜🙂

@NarcCon

9 күн бұрын

Thank you for yours also…🌹

My narc ex steals at the hospital he works at. He's convinced he won't be caught, because he's done it for so long. What an idiot!

@nicholettej1742

9 күн бұрын

He may be an addict and an idiot but not npd…

He made sure he has enough money to pay everyone off to get what he wants.

It’s seriously God takes them out I have seen it happen before the Universe watching ♌️🙏💝✊🏾🎤💯😎♌️♌️stay strong 💪 and blessed ❤

Maybe the narcissist will be alone in the end! All the suppies his victims of his narcissistic abuse That he had previously they probably don't want anything more to do with him anymore! He was getting away with things that he was doing behind the victim 's back maybe after the victims left him because of his attitude and his behavior and actions against them ! Some narcissists Can claim to be christian and pretend to be one ! If you are a narcissist victim, you will need to think about many things that were done to you Should you decide to Solve your own problems and take back your life again! God be with you in your healing journey from narcissistic abuse!

What you sow you will reap iis straight out the bible😊

@LaurieB-hk6tl

9 күн бұрын

Measure for Measure. Also biblical

Hello Paula. Thank you getting the knowledge out because that is so important because once I got the knowledge I was free and God is blessing you will the ability to break it down so everyone can understand your messages.

A wise, really brilliant analysis of the narc long view. I have a 43 year experience with one watching her devolved life by now. Thank you!

Deep and makes sense bc I couldn’t put a finger on it but it makes so much sense

This really helps me to understand my ex daughter in law. You have been so helpful. God bless you and your work. Thank you.

@TheRaspberry82

10 күн бұрын

You are so fortunate she is your EX daughter in law 😊. Still waiting for my son to get out. Small children involved….😢😢😢

@shirleywelton2215

10 күн бұрын

@@TheRaspberry82 so so sad. I’m so sorry. My son has realised that he’s been rescued from his emotionally abusive marriage.

My ex which was my daughter's father of which I was with him for 20 years hung himself. My son found him and cut him down. He was a coward a cheater, bully and an abuser. He was an alcoholic and drug addict and was schizophrenic. We broke up before he hung himself. They dont end well and they pay for everything they have done before they die. I had no compassion for him even when he died and I don't care.

@totorro5859

5 күн бұрын

I would feel exactly the same if my ex a father of my child passed away

Blantly,outright in our faces? Don't miss the verbal and psycho abuse,at all.Just took a look at my x-narc ! Been 6.5 months since I gave him his walking papers!Best thing I ever did!🙏💜👍❤️👍

My ex is fighting so hard in court, wasting all his money. The law is 50/50 division of relationship property. He is going to end up having much less money than me for his stupidity

This for the win am experiencing this now

I finally realize why I lasted so long with my narcissistic husband. I always let him be what he wanted to be. I never made him feel obligated to anything. I always gave him his freedom. I never controlled him in any form. He always did what he wanted, and he seemed content, except that he was very abusive to my oldest son more than my other two children very very abusive to my oldest son I don’t know if he was jealous cause he looked like his father if he had good luxe if he had blue eyes, my husband was Not fair he he wasn’t dark but my kids were very fair to my kids have blue eyes. And he always favored my daughter. My daughter always thought she was she’s a little girl, but she really wasn’t cause it ended up that he discarded her after she was married. He didn’t want anything to do with her, so I don’t understand it, and my daughter turned out to be a narcissist just like a father and my two sons turned out to be narcissist because they were around his mother and him, and never around my family cause he didn’t want me to be around my family who were very empathetic, and non-controlling where his mother was very controlling he went over her house and she was so cold his eyes. She couldn’t touch anything she would not allow nobody to touch anything that belong to her even though most of her stuff was to me it wasn’t worth anything, but to her it was they were hard as they were hot she was very materialistic. Didn’t even make me a cuppa coffee in all through the years she was very stingy and lazy. Mostly she didn’t cook. She opened up cans. The only thing she did and she kept her way down she walked. She refused to learn how to drive and she used to walk to the supermarket with her shopping cart she look like a big lady all the time to look at her you would think she was homeless. That was her façade and she wanted everyone, well at least her children and her how old is brother two look up to her and thought she was the greatest and she reminded me of a mother superior when she demanded that you do whatever she told you to do. Any time the grandchildren went to the house? They were only allowed to sit down and play like board games things like that she would not let you touch anything you had to take your shoes off she was a control freak and she did not care what anybody thought it was her way or the highway and she thought she was perfect. And my kids were around her all the time and between her and my husband they showed no respect for me once they got older. When they were little they were different they rather be around me than their father and once I started going to work things started to change. Anyway, I didn’t see it coming at all. I told him that’s just how it was. I was raised Catholic and I was raised for better, or for worse in sickness and in health and you took what you got dealt with and that’s exactly what I did because nobody was divorced in my family and nobody was like any of them in my family, but my husband didn’t like anybody in my family. He thought we were spoiled because we were close empathetic very hard family orientated, nobody forgot anybody’s birthday. Nobody miss treated anybody if anything they they were a little spoiled. And he didn’t like that and when it came to his family nobody celebrated anything no birthdays. No it was like another day. It’s just another day. No big deal. And it’s like they were sacrificing. They weren’t sacrifice and they were cheap and they could care less about anything except what they wanted. It was their way or no way. And my daughter more than my sons is like that it’s her way or no way. I don’t see anything ended up bad for any narcissists that I’ve been around if anything they just keep continuing to get followers and get what they want. That’s my take on it. My mother-in-law lived till she was 96 and she always got her way, and she died getting away. And nothing bad ended up for her for anything she got everything she wanted all through her life.

Thank you for sharing all your experience. ❤

@NarcCon

9 күн бұрын

You are so welcome!

Oh my goodness you have entirely described the evil man I locked out of my home.

Thank you for sharing. I've followed you along this journey for years and have learned so much.

@NarcCon

9 күн бұрын

Thanks for being a part of the journey 🌹🙋‍♀️

None of the Narcissists I have known, ex, family members…. none like to work. None could keep a job.

My older brother is a narc. My whole adult life saw him once a year. The last 2 years he has retired and now lives near me. He has blown up what little relationship I have had recently. He is toxic. I wish he hadn't moved close to me.😢

Often they end up like my creepy father, no friends, miserable, delusional and in shame.

Gorgeous flowers 🪻🌷 gorgeous lady 💖

@NarcCon

7 күн бұрын

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