I was replaced before I fully comprehended that I was being taken for granted and headed for the discard pile. I was too busy giving every part of myself like a fool.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely E P..💯💯

@tootienottoofruitie1726

2 жыл бұрын

EP....my best to you 🌹... these are very expensive lessons that are hopefully learned well. I have been there 🍀

@kimgordon3695

2 жыл бұрын

Giving yourself is Love; they were the Fool! 💝

@kimgordon3695

2 жыл бұрын

5:00

They actually think they are so omnipotent they own your reality , your freedom and your choices ! When you leave them it is so completely illogical to them , because they think you totally rely on them and don't have any other options , but YOU DO ! 😂🙏💗💗

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

My options are infinite. There's are nonexistent. I love this video. They totally underestimate. No matter who they are. They think they win but they truly don't. They had there chance. It's gone. No more and they know it. Maybe it took a little while to sink in but that know it.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Bingo 😉😉

My attorney said my narc's occasional niceness was throwing me a bone.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

It’s Breadcrumbing .. this is an attitude in which the person gives small signs of wanting something with you, but in reality, has no intention of formalizing. It involves occasional flirtations to keep the other party interested…😉😉💯🙌

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Agreed and in the legal arena they aren't looking to give you anything there trying to make themselves look good so when you try to expose them they are like what not me. There niceness always comes with a cost or a motive.

@elliesimpson1313

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thank you for the term breadcrumbing. I'm learning more from your channel! 💕

Don't look back. Mine said, "you have two children (our children) no one will want you. You'll never go anywhere". Freedom is beautiful!😘

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Freedom is beautiful. It's a shame they had it all now have nothing but some meaningless dates with random people. I don't get the draw to any of it.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing Roslyn..💯🙏🙌💪

@joann5465

2 жыл бұрын

@@christine11347 I don't get it either, they rolled the dice, lost, and still can't learn. Random dates with strangers sounds like more work than anything else. I haven't done it, and it makes me tired to just think about it. 😴

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@joann5465 I literally have no desire whatsoever. Neither person knows what your dealing with. Anyone can lie about anything. Online dating is a playground for narcissists and predators. I was remembering the guys I dated before the narscistist way back then. I definitely attracted these types of personalities throughout my life. I mean I even think in my job the number of people that would be so immoral not even caring I was married. So not me. I can hold my head very proud I honored my wedding vows fully and he knew I always would. I would never want to hurt someone intentionally it will never be who I am.

@biancapomponio4099

2 жыл бұрын

Yes my ex husband said that to me too. “Who’s gonna want you now?”

Whenever I feel weak and start thinking I was happy I just come on here to get a reality check. I really wasn't as happy as my members tells me I was.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Continue to become educated and empowered Cynthia.. you are amazing and loved 💯🙏🙌😊💯

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

I think its really sad how our vulnerabilities make us fall prey originally to these relationships. You can go your whole life and literally think you have it all together to just realize you really don't have a clue. This whole experience is really something else. Its amazing how much I have grown from where I was even this morning. There is so much to learn. Do you find with each new thing you learn more and more flashbacks come back. I guess the brain in a way protects you

@tootienottoofruitie1726

2 жыл бұрын

Cynthia... when you feel weak have some warm water with some pink salt and three TBS of non fortified yeast for b vitamins... Sit down and read a good book while listening to some relaxating music....snap out of it ‼️🕊️🕊️🕊️

@truffaut650truffaut6

Жыл бұрын

Yes. This is crazy. I also fall back sometimes sentimentally. Then I watch a video and I pull myself together again. Why is that? Is this the addiction? I wonder.

This video is just pure joy honestly. To be taken for granted for so long and to know they can't do it any longer is so empowering. You truly are such a breath of fresh air as opposed to them literally sucking the oxygen out of any space they enter. What I love about this is I am a completely different person. I have taken all of my broken Beautiful attributes and nursed them back to health so that I can continue to grow and be the best version of myself each and every day. Andrew thank you. I can say with 💯 certainly that your kindness, patience and continued desire to help this community would never be taken for granted. You really are a kind soul and I thank you so much for all of your amazing insight and support along the way. You are not the same person either. Your transformation is remarkable. Continue to bring light to this community every day and always know what you do makes a difference. You crushed it. Major kudos 2 U. God bless and always stay true to you.✨🙌🙏⚔️✝️💙⚓

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Christine..💯🙌🙏🙏😊

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Goodnight thanks for all the great insight today. It definitely helped alot. v...x...🌌✨

@kimgordon3695

2 жыл бұрын

The Narc wants the same person they met. Adult humans grow! They'll verbally insult You for changing. 😢

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@kimgordon3695 Well thank God then😊 I have changed so much he would never want me again. I have grown so much sometimes I even surprise myself. The new me would never even give him or toxicity like him the time of day. The day I took out the garbage was the day my detox began and I'm so much happier and healthier for it 💪

Absolutely, Andrew! I can no longer contribute to or validate or enable the narcissist's behavior. I love that perspective! Thank you. 😊

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful growth tickety 💯🙏💪

Yes once you cut all ties with them..you will notice how happier you are how much peace you have coming home from a hard days work without a argument or the silent treatment its just so much peace now yes its a lesson learned indeed !!!! 🙏🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful progress 💯🙌🙏😉😉

And don’t forget you are amazing and beautiful too Andrew! I can’t believe the strength I am starting to find with the awareness and encouragement you give.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Bianca 💯🙌🙏😉

It doesn't start out like that , in the very beginning they lovebomb you so much you tend to ignore the superior tone and the gentle start of all the persuasion and manipulation ! You are so utterly captivated and enamerred by their intoxicating charms , the intense eye contact , the throwing back of the head as they gnash at your every joke , and the fantasy future faking ! However , over time , as you try to please and impress them they slowly start to loose true interest and respect , they begin to become competitive and derogatory , and drive a sharp wedge into you self confidence and esteem ! You think you are going crazy , doing everything to try to please and as you increasing try for affirmation and approval from them you end up losing all yourself and become a desperate confused and lost empty shadow ! Then one day something finally snaps , and you realised YOU are right , you are being controlled and devalued , and your truth and reality have been controlled by someone who NEVER wanted the best for you , or even wants you to be free or happy ! That's when you finally take the BIG STEP of leaving ,..and it might as well be on the moon ,. it's such a giant leap of faith , a long slow walk to freedom , back to a better , stronger and much more empowered new version of YOU 💪💪 Another amazingly insightful video , Andrew 😜😎🙏

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

This resonates with me completely.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing The Big H..🙏😉🙌🙏💪

@daniellemorse6929

Жыл бұрын

Yes, the intense eye contact in the love-bombing stage when they can't get enough of us. That adoration of eye contact turns into stares of hate and disgust when all we're doing is being their slaves! Thank you, Andrew. Love your videos so much.

When my ex bf and I started dating he said, "I want to be comfortable but not content". I asked him what he meant by that. He said, "I don't want to take you for granted." That sure didn't last.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Wow thank you for sharing 💯🙏🙌

@BlueJeansandJellyBeans

2 жыл бұрын

That's an example of them telling you what they ARE going to do.

I was a giving 🌳!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

😉💯

Bingo!!! Over a decade in fog. No contact 3 months. True fact. You can't see it when you're in, and then the light bulb goes off !!! Thank GOD to all my friends that did not leave me when I didn't listen!!! I have myself and friends back!! Would not wish that Hell on anyone!!! 😁

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Jim..💡💡💡

I agree they definitely do not appreciate the people in their lives They’re so disrespectful, too. He would have to put that mask back up asap, for me to stick around 🤨

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Don't ever stay the mask will always come back down even if it was super glued

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing Cathy..💯🙌🙏💪

@cathy_clarinet

2 жыл бұрын

@@christine11347 😂 I’m well aware

Omg, my sister was a total narcissist!!! My ex mother Iin Law was a narcissist. Everything fits!!!!

I am educated about the narcisist now, I am grateful to you Andrew! This is my time now!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful empowerment 🙏🙌💯

I got a bad black eye and stranded in Florida. I'm Canadian. My 9 yr old daughter and I had a great time when narcy head went to jail!! The state gave us $1500 for victims of crime for plane tickets and food. We had fun. Goof called me when I got home!!!??? I didn't answer

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

My hope is you are improving and healing 💯🙏🙌

I hate having boundaries, however in order to have my sanity and in order for me to be with my daughter once again I have to have control

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Self awareness is imperative 😉💯🙌💪

Omg yesssss…. And when my ex doesn’t get what he wants, omg its a fight!!!!! Starts disrespecting me etc…..

I definitely put him first. I thought that was a good thing. Equal is my new way.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful progress Melissa 🙌😉💯

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

It's a great comment equal is the new way such a foreign but beautiful concept

Thank you for your video Andrew. It's a horrible feeling to be taken for granted especially with toxic degeneratives who we once loved. Once we delve further into our healing journey Andrew we really begin to become aware of others also taken us for granted. I can actually cop on to it very quickly now. We empaths are givers but there comes a time where we say to ourselves " No not anymore" we deserve a little respect and whoever takes me for granted these days I just don't entertain them anymore. God bless Andrew. Lisa

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Lisa..💯🙏🙌😊

@hth54

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly Lisa , feeling the exact same way

@lisasweeney8789

2 жыл бұрын

@@hth54 It takes us a while but we do eventually get there my friend 💚

@hth54

2 жыл бұрын

@@lisasweeney8789 yes you are so right. It's painful to see who is part of the smearing. It's hard to stomach.❤️

@lisasweeney8789

2 жыл бұрын

@@hth54 It can be heartbreaking in the beginning, but once we educate ourselves something happens. We begin to have so many " Aha" moments as we are healing. I think our mind eventually gives up and we just don't want anymore pain. The way I feel now is he could smear me now all over the world and I really wouldn't give a damn. He is nothing to me anymore, a toxic cheating abusive degenerative is a No No for me 💚

I ignored him one day and he got mad! He treats me as his servant!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

My hope is you are maintaining your boundaries 🙌🙌🙌💯💯

Once you finally go no contact you free yourself it feels so much better than hanging on to hoping and wondering if they will ever change or be what you always needed. They wont.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏

Education is everything. Like AA or NA having a support group is imperative. Having people who have been through it and understand the process of healing is invaluable. Their's a spiritual element behind narcissistic abuse as there with alcohol or drugs.Without support and understanding I would be in a very dark place today. Sights like this one have brought me to the light. I will never stop learning and most likely never stop healing. Loving ones self is the greatest love of all and I don't mean that in a self possessed way, I mean it in a universal way.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment Craig 💯🙏🙌💯

Yes Andrew Thank thank you 🙏 (0 years later I now get why my sister another Marc said Elizabeth you need to take a moment & remove those colored glasses that you have been wearing for way too long .

We all were the giving tree... Unfortunately a narcissist will not appreciate our kindness & generosity & love. Still at the end of the day we are the roots, who can dig deep, get grounded again & bloom again. Courage & good luck to us all. We need to nurture our own roots & can still share our shade, fruit & colours with deserving people. Ty

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful insight thank you Carol 💯🙌😊

Unfortunately and they have done this to me, my immediate family and the kids for far too long! I have had it!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand Lisa.. I do..🙏🙌💯

Great Video!! Taken for granted also causes damage ! No more 🪵 wood in that 🔥 fire

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful Zara..💯🙏🙌😊

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

I guess that's another plus if having a gas fire place. No wood is needed to keep it going 😄

Yeah I know the feeling ,I got completely taking for granted ! The narcassist took me as I was weak ,by he throught I was just going to stay & continue to take it , getting taken for granted . The narcassist didn't see it coming ,by me changing my email/ Gmail & my phone number & block him every thing,I bet that really hurt his precious ago !!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful growth and progress Sue..💯🙏🙌💪

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

I remember the day he realized I blocked him..he's like what why even though I did it 2 weeks earlier.i guess his supply was running low. So glad for the block button

@tootienottoofruitie1726

2 жыл бұрын

Sue... now try every day to get to the point where you don't care about his ego or him or anything to do with him 🍀🍀🍀

Absolutely, taken for granted from Day 1, faithful slave!!! Day 16 of my first clean Year for 20 years. The path is not linear, you are right Still retrieving parts of my self shattered in the discard. Rely on your daily wisdom and the support of all friends on this channel. My greatest achievement so far is 6 months completely NO CONTACT. That is the thing he will not be able to get his head round 🤣🤣 Thank you Thank you Thank you

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome asprospitti 🙌😊💯🙏

We loose whatever we don't appreciate. Even if someone stays physically, something is lost if there is no appreciation. May not be visible.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful insight Claudia 😊🙌🙏💯💯

Are we happy we’re out 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💖💖💖💖

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

😉💯

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

YES we are so happy we are out!

He literally told me, i have changed lol. Im like yeah. Cuz i know my worth now, i know what kind if a person you are now.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful 💪💪🙏🙌

Leaving was the best thing I did.

They always shatter after discarding a true warrior

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

This is a beautiful thought

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💪💪💯💯😉😉

@hth54

2 жыл бұрын

@@christine11347 they also age very fast and look like a dead among the living after discarding a true warrior. I've witnessed it.

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@hth54 So very true and sad. I myself look and feel more alive then ever so it's a tradeoff I am willing to take. I have to say I am so beyond blessed to have such a bright, selfless, beautiful guiding light in my life and to truly recognize how that makes me feel is incredible. I think sometimes you have to step away and look at the big picture to really process things and introspect, pray and really appreciate the gifts we have been given. In life nothing should ever be taken for granted. I have had such an amazing full morning from basically the second I woke up today. It's like who gets to say that genuinely. It's amazing. I can't believe how transforming every day of my life is. Happiness is truly a gift that until you experience it you never know how empty and unfilling your life truly is without it. 🌄✨ 🕊️

@hth54

2 жыл бұрын

@@christine11347 I know what you mean. And thanks you for sharing. With a narc I was always on the lookout m, stressed out and the narc destroyed my mornings. Without them it’s pure happiness, peace and freedom and healing. Amazing.

100% bang on. This describes what happens for me when a light bulb goes off or something clicks and I'm like - ya ok, I'm putting in 100% and I'm getting 10% in return, no more reciprocity etc. There is a point where it is all one person making the withdrawls and not putting in any more deposits. Its not that I go around taking score, its just we all have that moment where we say ok ya, I have done my detective work and yes, I'm being totally taken for granted or taken for a ride, that is when I say ok I want off of this roller coaster. Great video as always!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark.. I appreciate your insight and kindness 💯🙏🙌

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

It's a great visual. Definitely can identify

Your channel is a real gem to people who have put up with the pure hell annoyance ….that is the narcissus.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Tammy..🙏💯🙌

Sometimes the narcissist is your daughter/son!! Don't forget it !!

Sooooo many lightbulbs…thanks for your videos Andrew! You rock!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 💯🙌💡💡

Selfish beyond reason !!! That's the best way I can put it !!! Exactly what they are ! Not worth the time of day ! I say that with knowledge now Andrew and I feel good about it ! Thanks for this topic today ! They are needed and most definitely appreciated 💯🙌💪😊

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Candida always 😉🙌🙏💯

@candidaherron6130

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 👌😊

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

agreed great topic Andrew. Really empowering and sends a real message of hope and growth.

The Giving Tree. Shel Silverstein. Awesome message in that.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you.. this book is beautiful 💪🙏🙌😊

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

The commentary on it really deep in narscism and codependency apparently schools have now banned it. The world is so sensitive these days.

@virginia_diverdown1

2 жыл бұрын

@@christine11347 There are many ignorant and selfish people. It's about serving others, honesty, love, gratitude, self love, gaining a lost sense of self and empathy. I love that there are people that understand the survival of narcissistic abuse. It's a sense of safe...

Truth! They Are in Their Own World Act Like They Did Nothing Hurt You

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly Jane..💯🙌🙏😉

Takes 2 hands to clap, don’t clap with the narcissist

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

There is nothing to clap about with them. Heading to church. It takes to hands together to pray also. Another thing I am so grateful I will never be doing with them again either. Sending you 🙏 and❤️ to start your day.🌄

Honesty is a breath of fresh air thank you for sharing

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome cylinder always..💯🙏🙌

Andrew ty 4 all you do.🥰 can you talk about feelings of how we’ve wasted our lives (in my case nearly 60 years) with narcissist before we understood it and now free only to relive isolated trauma in worldwide pandemic among narcissist politicians?

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome.. I appreciate your kindness.. 😊🙌🙏💯

I watch your channel everyday- and always look forward to it! Keep up the good work brother - God bless

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Narc Free..💯🙏🙌😉

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

You do really good work Andrew. You really know what your doing. Have a good night all. Stay strong keep learning each day. It's been a great day on so many levels. Leaves me with alot to process tonight.🌌🌃😴

I totally agree with you Andrew!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏💯🙌😊

What's unforgivable is how he treated my mother God rest her soul, and how he treats my father. They were always good to him and he was always nasty and disrespectful to them. A simple comment from me about it caused weeks of hell.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

🙏🙌💯

How very true. To know our value. Great job. Thank you.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯🙏🙌😉

I am surrounded by narcissists...

Read when I was a kid...them again as an adult. ☮️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful 🤩

I've always been an empath.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏💯🙌

Thank U 🙏 looking forward 2 someone NOT taking me for granted;.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely 😉🙌🙏💯

Thank you again Andrew - you seem to know my narcissist ex so well! How funny they all share all the same characteristics

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Polly 🙌😉🙏💯

Thank you Andrew ❤️ for the the positive content. I'll continue to educate myself through your videos life is so much better without the narc. Now that I'm educated I will destroy that narc image so bad that they don't know if they're coming or going. The narc told me to do something and I said no, I'm standing my ground with my shield held high.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Chris..💪🙌🙏💯

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Love this I can still see his face when I handed him his last box and said goodbye and I wish you a happy life. He stood there like wait what. Haven't talked or seen him since threw weeks ago. It's been wonderful.

Still pushing me. Trying to get out but he won’t end the nightmare. I have learned through you….

You are awesome

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

So are you 🙏💯🙌

Great video Andrew - as usual. It’s so impressive how much insight you have into what we are all experiencing. Do you plan on sharing your full story with us one day? I’m sure a lot of us would love to hear it even if it is a lengthy video.

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

You should write a book.....

@sinceresong9907

2 жыл бұрын

Maybe it is his boundary not to share his personal story.

@shawnchrystafur

2 жыл бұрын

@@sinceresong9907 maybe. But didn’t hurt to ask.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Shawn.. I appreciate your kindness and honesty.. I am working towards speaking publicly to live audiences.. for now the videos are my way of sharing my experiences and insight..💯🙌🙏💯

@shawnchrystafur

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone very much appreciated

How do toxic people constantly find people to use? And I can't find healthy people to hang out with.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

There are healthy people certainly 😉🙌💯😊🙏

@bumblebee803

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone For sure. Just not around me.

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

I can't believe how they target you and prey on you. I can't believe my x was even smart enough. I hate to think back then I was sending off a vibe like these extremely desperate and needy women he is attracting now. Im so different I'm so proud. Not until today did I recognize that I have stopped attracting them for the most part. People treat me completely different now it really is something I definitely take notice of. It has to be a totally different vibe.

@bumblebee803

2 жыл бұрын

@@christine11347 Great points. I was super needy and avoidant. I had no hope of a good life before starting to heal. I see people treat me better too but not enough to make friendships. I'm struggling.

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@bumblebee803 hang in there it gets better. Keep focusing on building up yourself. I think people sometimes measure their life on how many friends the have but if you think about it if you have a few really strong connections in your life it is so much better then having lots of superficial friends who just want to take from you. I realized during my healing path people I thought were friends really weren't. They saw my goodness and new what they could take from it. I silently walked away from so many of these people the last few weeks and it feels amazing. I have so much more free time to do what I want when I want to. Like if I just want to take a 15 minutes nap I will because I can. No more guilt or trying to appease everyone. Sometimes I feel like the old mindset creeps in but I recognize it right away and automatically flip the statement out loud so I can remind myself NO is a sentence in and of itself. It needs no further explanation or feelings of guilt. God brings people in and out of your life for a minute, a day or forever. Each of them teaches us a life lesson to guide us on our paths. It's all part of his plan. If they are meant to stay in any capacity they will and if they are not that is really ok to. The one thing ong many I have learned is er can't control the future or change the past. So live in the present and enjoy all the little things each day has to offer. I have already found so many in just this hour I have been up that have just made me 😊. It's truly what life is all about. I think we always just want to rush things. We want it all right now. Slow and steady wins the race though. Baby steps and appreciating each one of them truly intensifies the deepening happiness we can experience every moment of each day if we just allow ourselves to.

So many truths. Thank you Andrew. You are looking after us royally 🙏🌻

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯🙏🙌😉😊

He would call me out of the blue and abuse me wtf lol, seriously disturbed him and his evil mother she always backed him up she couldn't handle being the 'other woman' both sick freaks they had a disturbing relationship she would flirt with him, and treated me as a threat.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely Christine 🙌💯😉

😊Thankyou Andrew.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome always Michele 😊💯

Hi Andrew....I'm a New Subscriber✅...I discard the Narcissist and Now he's Hoovering my family . ...I'm Not Being Bothered with him or the flying monkeys. ...I would Never take that Monster back...I'm so glad I came across your Channel...Thank you for this message 🦋....

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome to the community Dazzle.. thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🙌😊💪

These videos are so helpful. Thank you. This is exactly my struggle currently. He thinks he can treat me any way and I’ll always be there. Has “ tantrums” if I don’t. He’ll withhold attention, conversation with me if I’m not doing / being what he wants. This education really helps me deal daily living with this narcissistic man. Working on my exit but until then., I drink this info!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Continue on the path and become educated 🙌😉🙏💯

Aww I remember The Giving Tree, good book! Yeah they definitely took us for granted, oh well their loss! ✌🏾 Thank you for this message Andrew! 🙏🏾❤️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Amber 🙌😊🙏💯

@hth54

2 жыл бұрын

They took us for granted and always have the new supply already lined up disguised as „friends“

Hi Andrew. KZread kept recommending me your channel as I was going through a break up with an old friend. The timing was crazy, so I clicked and have been watching for a while now. Most of the topics you covered, really made me realise how bad things were. It's been tough but your videos got me ready for it and are getting me through it. I just wanted to thank you for that.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Dannn..💯🙌🙏💪🙌

Amen. I've finally stopped txtn him. I feel better about myself now that I've let go. It feels so much better. Their is still days I cry. But I cry not for him to come back. I cry cause of what I went through and let happen. It gets better. Thankyou so much for your vids. You are helping so many. God bless you. Yes he took me for granted. And they will continue if you let them. They have no heart. And I also found out the friends they have are pretty much just like them.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Sending prayers and positive energy to you 🙏💯🙌

Yuppppp my ex tried to hover me again. He took me for granted for a longgggg time!!!!! Taking his ex wife for granted tooo….

What if they tell you that it’s their “boundary” ? Kind of makes it hard to compromise that.. so hell bent on his boundary being respected but mine completely overlooked / ignored.

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

That's just it when your with them that's the problem there are no boundaries. Looking back it's obvious..At the end I really feel blessed the abuse didn't take me out. Whatever recovery and healing that has taken place in my mind physically, mentally and spiritually over the past 5 months is wow on every level..I'm super proud. I definitely recognized the concept of boundaries recently and how dangerous it actually is when you don't have them. our boundaries are ours not theirs. I watched a video that said they think our freedom is theirs and thats no case. No one should ever feel they have the power to possess another person. It's really disgusting if you think about it. One way roads with no outlets lead to dead ends. When two way roads intersect and come together the directions you can travel alone or together are endless

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Boundaries are necessary for all.. not for the narcissist exclusively 😉🙌💪💯

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone this is so true I was just thinking of this as I was making dinner. Everyone took advantage of my goodness on every single level intentionally or unintentionally no was not in my vocabulary. Hence the people pleaser. They all knew I was a perfectionist so they knew they would get the absolute best out of me regardless of the toll it took on me. I don't even know how I functioned with how much I was literally crying in my shoulders for so long. Another really good teachable response. 💛

💡 💡 💡 💡 💡 moment!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful 💡💡

Oh my God you mentioned The Giving Tree and that just struck me because I was just talking the other day how it took me years to realize it’s really quite an illustration of what a codependent relationship is with a narcissist and I am the tree , the narc was the boy. For years it was my favorite childrens book (and the Lorax), but now I question the message I was giving my children.

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

This book was amazing I definitely want to go back and reread it. It's amazing the dark themes children's genres in literature and movies portray. Disney movies like Tangled... narsascistic abused between parent child...little mermaid... codependency finding oneself, Encanto.... intergenerational trauma healing..it's deep

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful to hear.. there are no coincidences on this planet..😉😊🙌💯💯

@sistergoldensunshine4069

2 жыл бұрын

@@christine11347 my son just watched Encanto last night. He didn’t mentioned that but was focused on the music. Guess I’ll watch it now (btw he’s nineteen so I was kind of surprised he was watching it)

I've listened to lots of narc videos. Yours are very good. I'm grateful you came up on KZread suggested videos.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

That's how I found you also. I agree your videos are so true to life and always give both sides of the coin which is so important

Awesome video and topic Andrew 🔝👍🙏That is the main problem when you are in relationship with a narcissist: he/she takes you for granted, all the time.They thinks you will always be there around them and never leave because you belong to them , maybe you married them ( my ex narc told me often : I married you, I made you mine until the end of time ! 😅). That’s a big mistake from them to think like that. They would also like us to be in their arms and become amnesia after they mistreated and disrespected us ! No way I didn’t want to be in his game anymore and I’m sure that all the amazing subscribers of this channel don’t want too anymore. Let’s all keep moving forward😉💪🙏 Namaste

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Laetitia 🙏🙌💯🙏

So glad you are doing this, you are a survivor. I have seen psycholigist as of late doing this educating in the last few years, probably reluctantly, feeling maybe, they are the only ones qualifying to .Now, it is open to many. Thank you and congratulations.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💪💯🙏🙌😉☀️

Thank you for the lesson....we broke up with we talk we agree and stopped ..I had enough taken for granted, we I really missed him, so. Called him just to be friends, but he wanted more said no, this was going for about three months he had a stroke one year earlier so I checked on him once a week and one day no answer I called left messages I. Worried than I saw him walking at the park..he was fine I did not call anymore.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Sending healing energy and strength 🙏💯🙌

The Giving Tree! Thank you, Andrew.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Susan 💯🙏🙌🌴

Thank you for your continued good works.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome always Sincere Song..💯🙏🙌😊

@sinceresong9907

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Very helpful you are❤

Andrew!!!👁👁😁lets go!🤗🙌😁👁👁💃🏃😂namaste🙏❤

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes Marissa 😉🙌🙏😊💯

I have been living with a narcissist for 20 years but i thought something was wrong with her and the fact is i really cant help her. Right now i feel so down that i have decisions to make. I have been abused and psychological manipulated for this long. I can move out, commet suicide, or indure it. Not putting up to it makes it worse. It gives them fuel to ridicule.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Sending prayers and positive energy to you 🙌💯🙏💪🙌

@silviadolma1739

2 жыл бұрын

be strong, is hard time but do not destroy you. that is what they want, do not help her dirty job. you are stronger, your life is a gift just 4u

Thank you, lovely Andrew, I think It's very possible I will be with your channel forever because of the healing, Thank you so much, angel Andrew... 🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸🍁🍁🍁🍁🍁🍁💐💐💐💐💐💐

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Me 2.💛💙⚔️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this beautiful message Mark Twain 💯🙏🙌☀️

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone it is a beautiful message the flowers make me feel so warm and tropical. It is soooo cold here totally freezing. I am bundled up like an Eskimo. But as my amazing priest from Africa reminded me this morning we should enjoy it because we can't change it so we should embrace it. I feel like I have heard that somewhere else before wise words as always. 😊 Focus on what you can control which will help you find the positive in the things you cant control. I feel so full at this moment which literally is such a blessing and can literally warm me right up. The little things truly make the biggest difference in my day.✨

Andrew and people..see.. Rebounding from Narcissistic abuse 🤓🕊️🕊️🕊️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful Tootie..💪🙏💯🙌☀️

@tootienottoofruitie1726

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone beautiful Andrew. Take good care my friend 🌹🕊️🌹🌹

He has disabilities from a drug overdose as a young man. Everyone laughed at him and looked down on him as a loser. 10 years later, we meet and I heard all that he had gone through, and I stood by him when no one else thought he was important. I taught him how to do things in an easier way to be able to live in an easier way. I talked to him about reconnecting with his friends and family that he had previously blocked from his life. He did all of that, then told me he had friends and family now and didn't need me, then he left me.

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

That's terrible. I actually take pause and on so many levels that is similar to my situation but for different reasons. The general theme selfish individuals who just care for themselves. What they don't realize is those same friends, family, money ect will be all gone as quickly as they come they go and they are left with nothing once again although this time they don't have us or anyone of substance. Good riddens. As I was beautifully reminded this morning in mass God wants two people to be one through marriage and commitment but that commitment has to be mutual and both parties have to be happy and fulfilled. That's not possible with a narcissist so to me that was God's message that it was ok I walked away because my marriage really was not a marriage as it was intended to be in the eyes of God or anyone. People should feel happy. Yes there are challenges, ups and downs in every relationship but that's honestly what helps people grow and deepen their connection. When your with a narscistist what can you try to deepen there is nothing there to begin with. you are alone in every sense of the word. He compared a marriage to another person as our commitment to our relationship with God. One of trust, dedication, empathy, wanting to help the other person grow. In no where in those qualities are the words Abused, Neglected, Disrespected, Destroyed, Humiliated, Broken, Empty, Manipulative used. Be kind to yourself. They see our goodness and take it and we let them but through education ALOT of education and the support and love of others who truly want to help you heal the sky is the limit on where your love for yourself can take you and the others you care about. I look at it like this these had their chance to many times. Now it's my time I give myself all my goodness and love and healing I deserve. I deserved it all along I just really needed to see that and now everyone else does to. 🙏🙌🕊️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely Debbie 🙌🙏💯

Hi Andrew, thank you so much for another great Video! It's really hard to understand that the person you thought loved you just came to teach us how to deal with toxic people, better not at all...what we all have invested love and humanity and they left only scorched earth. The arrogance alone of them to take our time, love and existence for granted is the very last and disgusting. Thank you for your encouraging words and your engagement that you are every day here for us. It's every day special to hear from you! Feel hugged and be blessed 🙌🙏namaste 🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Nataly..💯🙏🙌

This is good ...moving in from Sister who is horrible narcissist still abit angry

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💪💪💯💯

Thanks again Andrew. Your words nurture my soul.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome always Monica 🙏🙏💯💯

I was sold a bill of goods, for instance she wanted to go camping and decided it would be a nice little vacay for me and my son to come and stay at her place and let her dog out( she lived in a high rise, 8th floor) and of course I did it but I worked there 5 days a week. I got zero, nada, zip for it. I think I may have got a thank you. Not sure…,

Great information, for sure. Wish you were teaching years ago? Actually, it's really great to take your information and look back and understand. It's healing for the soul. 💖💖Thank you...... I'm subscribed..... Keep up the great work. (The Giving Tree)

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you S G..🙌💯🙏

I was told he wanted me comfortable, and will never take you for granted...well I tolerated his toking, as not aware right away when we met, but shortly before a trip to Jamaica. Then when I did tell him I tolerated it when we were on a break from each other, committed to cutting down....once I was back, shortly after he was back to his old ways...took me for granted of my nice ways. My narcissist was sure I would be back because I couldn't be happier anywhere else...some of his last words I heard ....I am a great guy

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

Some of my x last words were I just wanted an intellectual conversation with someone nothing else it's not cheating. The irony from someone that withheld affection, was always on his phone, constantly gave the silent treatment, gave breadcrumbs, would go in rage fits if you didn't say exactly what he wanted. The funny thing is he's not going to be attracting anyone capable of an intellectual conversation. Makes me really take pause of how incompatible we were from the start. As I type this 💡. That statement was probably just another projection since I'm the one who always was just looking for a conversation intellectual or not but I just realized for 2 months before the end I stopped talking to him and set up boundaries. I essentially cut off the supply so he probably was not looking for conversation but really just someone to stroke his ego. I just had so many flashbacks of the last month with him as I am typing this. I'm really proud thinking back not even realizing it I was applying these tools and I smothered the relationship by withholding the supply and putting it unknowingly back into myself. My natural instincts kicked in. I started walking 2 hours a day, eating better, drinking water, I found a whole new set of music and for the first time I really started listening to the lyrics. Wow I never thought of any of this before. You just never know where a comment will take you on your healing path. It's very empowering actually.

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

There perceptions of themselves are priceless.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙌💯🙏😉

God bless you!

@christine11347

2 жыл бұрын

May God always bless you 2. Keep you safe and happy. You deserve nothing less.❤️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯🙏🙌☀️

Why do they take us for granted? Can they change?

They take them for granted and take advantage of people. That is their default state. Actually doing something for someone all by themselves, let alone incognito, is foreign to them. That's why they have their flying monkeys there to serve, right? And they take credit and let everyone know it.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

😉😉💯💯

Als je als baby terecht komt bij een mam als narcist en ik ben nooit onderdanig geweest maar altijd in strijdt tot nu toe weet niet beter 👑❤️👑

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

🙏🙌☀️

Thank you for this video! It speaks to my soul! I was there and I am trying to recover! Having your validation of my realizations is very important for my healing journey. I just discovered you and I look forward to watching your videos because they deal with the very real situations and confusion in narcissist relationships and recovery 👍 keep them coming 😀

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Susan 🙌🙏💯

thank you

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏

Love 💕

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 🙌

So correct!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes..🙌🙏🙏💯

Amen

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏

Pura Vida!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🇨🇷💯🙏🙌😊

I realise in hindsight that I naïvely took my ex for granted, not in the sense of not making effort / treating her poorly, but just in the sense of assuming we’d always be together, and not because I’m a narcissist myself, but because I misinterpreted her behaviour as her being confident that *we* would always have a relationship, when she was actually just certain that *she* would always have a relationship, with whosoever it suited her at the time. Sure enough, even though she was the one who dropped me like the proverbial hot potato & all but excluded me from her life, when I blocked her in response she was - it’s clear from mutual associates - was quite indignant about it & couldn’t see the hypocrisy on her part.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Dalex..💯🙏😉

Hey Brother. Is it just me or is your voice becoming deeper from time to time? 🤔. I feel like I've got more testosterone since that toxic relationsship ended. God bless

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Your energy is returning.. as is mine..💪💪💯💯