Yikes. I was shivering at the end of this interview. Definitely want to stay away from these "people"! I like this interviewer. She let the Doctor speak without interrupting and asked thoughtful questions.

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Mike! Really grateful for your feedback :) Please do subscribe to my channel for more videos with interesting figures in health & mindset.

@normadeluna3349

5 жыл бұрын

Powerful information.

@1986nitya

5 жыл бұрын

Yup. Same here. This video scared the crap out of me. But I'm thankful for the information nevertheless. They're everywhere- friends, family, coworkers, boss- you name it. Gosh!

@karolaacker5881

5 жыл бұрын

Das müsste

@gennyzentella4692

5 жыл бұрын

Problem they're hard to spot, because they can be engaging, smooth, funny, they're too good to be true, at the beginning, until you get to know them better, you start seeing the cracks, then they deny, lie, deceive, turn on you, everything the Dr said, they are mater manipulators, will make you crazy.

I'm a survivor of narcissistic abuse, & Dr Ramani is the main reason I survived. I was going crazy for real & even thought about ending my life until a miracle happened & I found one of her videos, then another & another & everything started to make sense & I saw clearly what I was going through & what exactly happened. from a middle eastern country where therapy costs a fortune & I couldn't afford it; thank you very much doctor Ramani, you really saved my life. If heaven is real, it should be filled with people like you :)

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

Moetaz Soliman I’m so sorry to hear you went though such a hard time Moetaz. Thank you for watching and I’m really pleased that Dr Ramani was so helpful to you. Take care.

@mizosoliman

5 жыл бұрын

@@HealthHackers Thank you very much for your kindness.

@PeterAlanA1234567890

5 жыл бұрын

Moetaz Soliman I feel the same.

@TheConorconor

5 жыл бұрын

Moetaz Soliman so glad you are still with us from a fellow sojourner from Canada.

@aungar2403

5 жыл бұрын

It wasn't until I was alone that I had the time to spent time on KZread. It was a very confusing and hurt filled time for me. I felt like I was hit by a truck. I came upon Lisa when I don't even know what I was looking for. Suddenly, it all became clear. I think she saved my life.

“If you see or sense even ONE RED flag, you’re better off spending the rest your life alone”

@az7726

4 жыл бұрын

Yep

@sujata_155

4 жыл бұрын

So true

@gn2665

4 жыл бұрын

AA K go as far as possible as soon as you can. It is the sad truth of many children raised by narcs or sociopath and unfortunately it is only when their out that they can completely realize that their parents aren’t normal.

@gn2665

4 жыл бұрын

AA K I hope that you can live free now. May God help you as I know how impactful it can be but it is not impossible to recover... God bless

@CarolHuang

3 жыл бұрын

True. And they are happy to gaslight all the innocent people all around you: it’s you, who is the narcissist.

Narcissists cannt be confronted, they rage and blame you for everything and Dr. Ramani is right they are sorry for being caught not for what they did because the are lack of empathy and zero remorse.

@loupizza22

5 жыл бұрын

Sorry for getting caught. Good one. The lack of empathy in a nutshell

@childofchrist7625

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@aungar2403

4 жыл бұрын

You become the enemy when you realize how evil they are.

@nutech1810

4 жыл бұрын

You are correct! Rage and blame becomes part of the cycle. My mother was a narcissist, my ex fiance, my former boss, and now I just met a new guy who was a narcissist. I just dumped him when I made the discovery. I am flypaper to them.

@joann9264

4 жыл бұрын

Im all the 5 magnets and a RN which is also fits in these profiles. I have been involved x 9 years with a Narcissist and now i want out!!!! I was confused by his behavior and forgave many times. Oh my

She as much as alludes to the Maya Angelou saying, "When a person shows you who they are for the FIRST time, believe them!"

Relationship with a Narcissist is one-sided and they call the shots, they don't care to talk about anything. They keep secrets of wrongdoing. Tell lies.

@SJMe777

5 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true.

@Incognitofrito1

5 жыл бұрын

And that's just the tip of the iceberg.....😒

@ncbeachbumintx

5 жыл бұрын

Learned this the hard way. After feeling that I was a failure at marriage... finally after 25 yrs I've been enlightened and I am on my way OUT! Thanks for this and other life changing videos to educate those of us who may not even know what the issue is! Praise God for your help!

@maik-bq8zr

5 жыл бұрын

Literally secretive about things that don't even matter.

@srfirehorseart

5 жыл бұрын

Very interesting, especially as I've watched the Dr talking about the same topic on other channels. I found her comments about children and partners insightful, though a bit worrying regarding how they can undermine other people's lives. Well done to the presenter for asking the important questions about how to deal with these types of personalities in various situations, including at work.

My brother has narcissistic personality disorder, and trust me when I say they can do some severe lifelong damage... The only way you can keep them from also damaging you is to walk away.

@pamelacozart9530

5 жыл бұрын

Kelly Jacqueline Thank You!!!! I really needed to read that. My brother and my neice are narcs.

@mioangel1227

5 жыл бұрын

This is sad because we want to help, but in the process with damage ourself!

@abbreviateTome

5 жыл бұрын

@@1963kungfupanda wow im only getting/waking up to this

@naeberli9120

5 жыл бұрын

@@1963kungfupanda I feel you 💯

@sw9260

5 жыл бұрын

Destroyed my life almost, now trying to get my health back! We have to build as well a satanic mindset to destroy those demons all the way!

The question “Why don’t/didn’t you just leave?” Has to be the most ignorant and inconsiderate question you can ask someone in any type of abusive relationship.

@ixsar1949

4 жыл бұрын

Agree -- but also I think the interviewer is posing the question to let others who haven't been exposed to this form of abuse to at least be able to gain some understanding, even empathise, with the victim. As in, a lot of interviewer questions aren't coming from their ignorance, but they're in order to provoke a response that allows some doubters and/or ignorant viewers to comprehend situations they have no understanding of ❤️ ///p

@aramis666

4 жыл бұрын

It may be partially ignorant but not inconsiderate, people have different experiences and have a little more self awareness of removing themselves from a toxic relationship before they fall deep in the rabbit hole. Others are not that lucky, doesn't mean they are mentally weak, there different variations of this kind of abuse.

@yopawpaw7408

4 жыл бұрын

We just assume. I used to go to group therapy and their was this lady in her 60s I think in a relationship with a Narc. Yet....she was the one in therapy. I asked her what made her stay instead of the otherway around and she said she didnt know. We have the tendancy to only say the bad shit about each other with no mention of the good qualities because Im sure her husband was an asshole but he was obviously doing enougg shit right if the thought of deserving better or rather being alone never crossed her mind. Some people handle their trauma different. Some will no longer stand for abuse and some think they deserve it. Some will make love to strangers and have kids with them and try to force something for various reasons. Its ignorant yes, but we are not that person. We dont know whats pulling them in or pushing them away. We dont know their traumas, either of them. So yea if you dont tell everything I cant consider your feelings or self worth or everything either of you have gone through. Theres so much more than someone being an asshole and the other just taking it. It would be ignorant of me to simplify it to such.

@helenlauer9545

4 жыл бұрын

why?

@citticat2

4 жыл бұрын

I answer back -- because it took me this long to "Put the puzzle pieces together" hold him accountable, and God was watching.

I just dumped a Covert Narcissist with my pride and self respect intact because I watched many KZread on this subject. Thank you for the rich information. He fitted all the major traits.

red flag: when they call their ex and/or family members crazy, bipolar, unstable...and when they want you to move in, get engaged, risk having a child very quickly

@fionam3735

5 жыл бұрын

Angela C I wish I knew this I now have two children to narcissists! I know now. It’s devastating

@HelenOlivas

5 жыл бұрын

Yeah my narc ex boyfriend wanted kids asap, I dodged that bullet. I’m no contact now and I had to leave money on the table and I lost my credit, just cut my losses, no regrets. He tried to keep me tied but nothing pays for my freedom. Now, you can’t do that and just run away when there’s children involved, it’s tragic

@annurana3314

4 жыл бұрын

Gasp! I think I had a near death experience with one.

@silentalliance3269

4 жыл бұрын

Angela C yeah and they try to get you to move as far away as possible from them because “your family “ is a bad influence lol 😂 then when things are down to the “wire” the “I think I might be pregnant”! Statement comes out......that’s when I knew she was getting desperate to hold on to our marriage because it looked good for her to be married at ANY COST rather than be suddenly alone and having to explain why everything went so very very wrong......fortunately for her I was dumb and blind when we were married but once I wised up I got smart quick.🙂

@violet9853

4 жыл бұрын

And I was just that clueless. My guilt toward myself for falling for him was excruciating.

“Consider yourself as being in the relationship alone and only expect shallow conversations” This hit home big time for me!!! Constant losing battle...”don’t go to them with an important decision” because in reality they don’t care BUT when you don’t your still wrong!

@aungar2403

5 жыл бұрын

So true. I was alone for every major milestone in my life. I grew up in a house where my father never acknowledged me. I took this as being normal. I married the same type of empty soul. It took me a lifetime to get out.

@LizaG

5 жыл бұрын

A Ungar 😔can understand that, it’s so damaging. Glad you’re now free 💖

@flgal7788

5 жыл бұрын

Hit home for me too. I don't care what they think. Protecting myself from their cruel, cold, arrogant behavior is what matters. I'd rather be as if single and am so much more peaceful and content. Adjusting expectations is the key to sanity.

@utubecomment7761

4 жыл бұрын

Bible calls them as wicked, and Bible says beauty decieves of these people only becoz these are seeds of Satan(They will have pleasure in troubling God's seeds). 1. Narcissists will think and feel they are beautiful/ handsome because they are born and not made, so from childhood they will be like this, since they are beautiful and copying they will impress their parents and elders compared to siblings who are good souls, so only they are not easily spotted. 2. They will have Straight eyebrows(Eg. Of straight eyebrows Hitler, Prince Charles, Dawod Ibrahim, Godse, Kamal Hasan, Bin Laden, etc., Check with their photos), they will have NO photogenic face. 3. They will not help without hidden agenda so they will not like to give to poor and needy, they will always complain and fight with other Narcissists that may enter into your life, not because they care for you,but because they hate each other. 4. Narcissistic people will have many relationships simultaneously because they want to spoil as many good souls possible. 5. They will not talk much, most of the time they are silent. 6. They will not have empathy and sympathy. 7. They hate animals because animals scan and know them better. Actually, in this world like souls are hating each other just by seeing the face. So, never believe a person by his or her outward appearance, check for matching with ur eyebrow's shape before making any relationship. If you have arched eyebrows be very careful.(Eg. Of arched eyebrows Abraham Lincoln, Vivekananda, Princess Diana, Gandhi,Ambedkar, etc.,). Its the opposite souls that marry may be because there is no marriage in heaven as Lord Jesus said.

@annbelmonti3737

4 жыл бұрын

They want to invalidate. Every single time! 👹👺☠️ It never varies. They are your bullies biggest supporter. They want everyone to punish you. And then to gaslight your every instinct. RUN!!!

Being a narsasist myself I totally agree with almost all of what has been said with a small caviat. I could not keep going on in life feeling I was on an emotional rolar coaster ride. It was exhausting for me and others around me. I was sick of me hurting others especially partners, the love bombing putting on a pedestal and then off the chart jealousy and control. When honest friends asked WTF are you on I had no answers almost like something had taken control of me and I was willing to surender to it. I was sick of my imature actions and I knew it was going to get me or others in trouble. The rage, anger ,upset blaming and labeling everyone else and refusing to look at myself. So I did , and wow. Confronting my buried trauma about my adoption. Being an only child. The inability of my parents to show me love even though they were great to me and gave me almost everything I wanted I couldn't shake the feeling of abandonment and the need I felt for adulation, being wanted being loved, being indespensable and being able to fit in. I took on many personality's like a camelion. Then one day I got it. Be yourself and take all that you have learned and try to help others who are suffering with simular symptoms. I try to be carefull who I engauge with as I feel three are lost causes out there but there are people who's trauma can be faced but only if they are tired of being on the carousel,realize life's not working and are committed to changing their life. If you feel you are like me, emotionally out of control and desperate for answers be honest with yourself. Observe your behaviour or even better if you know someone who has simular behaviour, observe them.like a case study. Triggers , thoughts, over the top condemnation and judgement. And start to observe how they affect and repel others. It's a real eye opener. Forgive yourself and know now you have to move on. Except the shame and shitty things you've done. It's a human behaviour but now you've evolved you have to take responsibility. The damaged child is no ln control but you still have to nurture it. Take a pillow. Imagine it's you as the desperate child you were. Hug that child and tell it you are there and you will protect it. Sounds silly but you will be supprised. I also found meditation essential to regain control and stillness of the mind. Sorry for the ramble but if you truly want to change you can. Love to all.

@georgiafuga7195

Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this!

@selinaogorman8380

6 ай бұрын

Glad to have a honest narcissist we need more like you we need more to be self aware sadly many are not honest they continue to hurt and manipulative towards others especially the ones like me that generally love and care I care a lot because of my real genuine empathy towards others so keep up the great work this can help others narcissists that don’t see anything wrong that there doing got to give them hope for change.

@user-ce8ox6vt1w

3 ай бұрын

is not an easy journey 🥂

@Frederiekje221

3 күн бұрын

Could you maybe have borderline, not narcissism?

If you identify a narcissist in your life just run. 🏃🏻‍♀️

@patjones4250

4 жыл бұрын

🏃‍♀️run like your hair is on fire!

@bobtom3625

4 жыл бұрын

🏃 I wish it was that easy. It's difficult to run from someone you are deeply in love with. Even if you know for a fact that you need to run.. I hope I find the strength someday.

@pspcraft

4 жыл бұрын

@@bobtom3625 Agree... but ultimately the narc will all of a sudden devalue and discard you without notice. That is what happened to me and they don't give a fu*k because they NEVER loved you

@martytrout6252

4 жыл бұрын

@@bobtom3625 You aren't in love, you are co-dependent. Get help.

@bdaina

4 жыл бұрын

I would LOVE to leave my cruel narcissistic husband but I am on disability therefore don't have enough money to survive without him. I agree if you can leave then DO IT!

Not only is she brilliant, she has amazing hair.

@foxiefair123

5 жыл бұрын

Josiah Kato Lol

@nicashintaroma8078

3 жыл бұрын

yea josiah kato cause thats where her knowledge come from lol

@edelquinn9857

2 жыл бұрын

So true

@d.w.stratton4078

2 жыл бұрын

It's nice when someone is both intelligent and pleasant to look at, yes.

@E.K.2003

2 жыл бұрын

@@d.w.stratton4078 Yes, attractive women can also be intelligent. AMAZING!!!

Dr. Ramani and her expertise has been a blessing in my life.

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

Cliff P. That’s great to hear Cliff!

@laurastangenberg4628

5 жыл бұрын

Yes! I'm obsessed.

@Nina_Olivia

3 жыл бұрын

Dr Ramani is my hero

@cliffp.8396

2 жыл бұрын

@Sophia Donaldson She is indeed

@sistagalsistagal8136

Жыл бұрын

Good for you 🙏.

“Being in a relationship with a narcissist is like looking in the mirror and doesn’t reflect back!” Wow! Thank you Dr.Ramani, you are amazing

@skionen1781

3 ай бұрын

An eye 👁️ opener for sure

@tmking7483

2 ай бұрын

'Narky theys' reflect wonderfully _ they don't reflect you cause they get organism when your in pain _ it's that simple. That's how they get organism _ I'm not kidding. Like how u like to go dairy queen _ they like to stick their fingers in your eyes.

Spot on! This woman saved my life, and helped restore my sanity! "Being with a narcissis is like being in a cult, they brainwash u!!" So true... I always went against my gut for this man, making one excuse after another!!! God lives in ur gut listen well !!!

@lala5061

Жыл бұрын

🙌🏽

I liked the way the doctor says things clearly but make her way around to prepare to say there's no hope to a partner of a narcissist.

@agustasister5624

5 жыл бұрын

IF U HAVE EVER RUN ACROSS ONE...AND THESE.DAYS YOU WILL..but they DEVASTATE NORMSL PEOPLE ON PURPOSE....AND IT REALLY TAKES A TOLL ON THEM....

Oh, she's so right about the superficiality stuff. They're very shallow-it's booorrringg.

@sweetd097

5 жыл бұрын

Wendy Seas they are soooooooooooooooo boring lawd.......they have almost nothing to say especially nothing intelligent

@flgal7788

5 жыл бұрын

I like what she said, "its like looking in a mirror and not seeing your reflection." Exactly. It's natural to want connection with your spouse but I felt so invisible and unloved because there is nothing there. Seeking connection with narcs is absolutely exhausting and useless.

@angelaengle12

4 жыл бұрын

Omg, I know right? =.= I always wondered why I would get so bored talking with my cousin. It would ALWAYS be about silly things; all the hair she gets on her cloths from her dog, her going to the salon, etc. Nothing deep or philosophical there.

@violet9853

4 жыл бұрын

But not boring at first, exceptionally interesting, because you are hearing their spiel for the first time not the 50,000 time when you finally escape.

@mariewilliams194

4 жыл бұрын

They love to really devalue people and patronize people . To make them feel less than. And act superior to boost their self esteem.

After my 20 year experience of a covert narcissist - the worst type because they're so hidden - this interview is exactly dead on. Well done.

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear that, Odette. Thank you for watching and commenting.

@odette8905

5 жыл бұрын

@@HealthHackers Don't worry. Now have my Narc glasses on, so am playing from a different viewpoint. No longer an unknowing victim.

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

🙌

@MzShonuff123

4 жыл бұрын

8 years for me. Wishing you healing!

Narcs are always in relationship with one person, themselves.

So true. He found some books on narcissism at my house and was enthralled by them. He started reading one and said at first how much he recognized himself in those pages. Then he said...actually I recognize you in these books. These books are nonsense. He had no remorse at all about anything. No idea of how people can hurt . Liars . He knows I sussed him out...he admitted to being a sociopath...but that he's changing. Because I changed him he says. Then....same behaviours as usual.

@RMGWOO

5 жыл бұрын

Being a sociopath is more glamorous than being a narcissist because it has a connotation of danger to it. The more overt narcissists will happily admit to being sociopathic, if it's framed the right way, or they say it themselves, because it makes them feel like they have a bit of that Ted Bundy, Richard Ramirez, Charles Manson dark charisma. But they'll probably then point out that's not all there is to them, and downplay it after getting some kind of weird validation from it. Narcissists like the idea of being seen as deep and mysterious. Yet their idea of depth is nebulous and superficial. It's like one of those optical illusion pictures that implies depth, but is infact 2D. But they all seem to see themselves that way, as having this enigmatic trait of depth, without understanding what it is. I think they hold onto this as a tool to pick themselves up when they're going through envy. Say, someone has won the attention of someone they're interested in, or has achieved something that pokes their inferiority, they refer to this 'depth' as a trait they have that the person they envy doesn't have, to remain superior. Narcissists always see narcissism in others. When narcissists find articles about it, especially the articles that aren't too analytical, they'll use the material as ammo in arguments. This is especially true of the more covert narcissists who always feel attacked.

@lindabermudez-hafer5440

5 жыл бұрын

This One Nailed it; 👏 Bravo, Well said.

@wakeup721

5 жыл бұрын

When I had my final blow with my Xnarcopath I told him what he was, not sure if he knew what one was or knew if he was one. He didn’t take it well and immediately called me names and his true self came to the surface. His an covert, but at that time became overt. I saw a demon in his face and was confident I had made the correct decision to leave him. I was in love with him at the time, hard thing to do, but I know I would have been dead if I stayed. I just watched the movie, “The Wife,” that would have been me. These narcs, of any type, are horrible people.

@RMGWOO

5 жыл бұрын

@@wakeup721 Good for you for getting out of a bad situation. That's a mark of character you can rely on to help you in bad situations in the future. Question: What were his personality traits that you admired?

@flgal7788

5 жыл бұрын

Yeh they shift back and forth on their position. I used to point it out and try to reason but its not use, just stressed me out because its like talking to a drunk. This is no rational, sane person. They are mentally ill. I just don't engage anymore. It's all superficial as Dr. R said.

"your kids are screwed anyway" I love her brutal honesty

When my ex-nightmare/husband almost killed me…I was told by a psychologist that if I stayed with him, I would teach/show (by example) my son how to abuse his wife or significant other-because tolerating abuse is approving of and empowering abuse. That scared the hell out of me-and drove me to escape-for my son and me! My biological mother possesses the traits of the dark tetrad (I believe, through my own research and nightmare childhood). My biological zombie-like father is still with her after 45 years. I am the oldest of seven children-and every single one of my siblings is a chip off of our parent’s despicably toxic block! Parents, you have to do everything you can to get far away from a narcissistic partner! YOU ARE NOT HELPING YOUR CHILDREN BY TOLERATING (APPROVING OF) AND EMPOWERING ABUSE!!!

@janiecepoush1904

10 ай бұрын

🙏🏻EXACTLY! 💛🕊🍃 GOD BLESS for Doing the Right Thing for your SON! 🕊🍃🙏🏻

Dr. Ramani: "Being in a relationship with a Narcissist is like looking into a mirror that doesn't reflect you back." A picture paints a thousand words. This picture, Dr. Ramani paints, from one angle, says it all. And this is any kind of relationship with a Narcissist.

@jimmyj4044

3 жыл бұрын

That's not how the metaphor works. You've got it backwards. She spoke words therefor no picture . She paints a picture with her words.

@PrincessDie187

2 жыл бұрын

This is the truest thing I've ever heard

@davidbowen6284

2 жыл бұрын

Its very much the opposite. Think about manipulation as being able to relate. Their are all manor of ways to relate by mirroring speech, body language, pitch/tone of voice, likes, dislikes, empathy toward values, empathy toward excuses, cognitive biases. Its actually all about mirroring. Narcs have no ego, they create one. The are in Sam Vaknins words...a hall of mirrors.

there is only one way to deal with a true narcissists.. leave.. go as far away as you possibly can, as quickly as you can.

@lala5061

Жыл бұрын

Yep...people gotta choose their pain...I chose the pain of being alone for however long I'm going to be because i REFUSE to volunteer for that shit EVER AGAIN!!!! 🙌🏽

I dont think anyone could describe narcissism any better. I praise God every day that He opened my eyes to this truth after 10 years and 5 attempts at leaving my relationship with a narcissist. All of this is spot on! I started to become numb to the abuse and at times felt like I was unauthentic. But it was necessary for my own sanity and survival. That is NOT what God intended for a marriage!!

Pay attention! pay attention! RED FLAGS are red flags!

Best advice ever!!!! Never heard someone so straight forward!!! Its basically narcisstic psychological abuse that causes post traumatic stress and depression which makes you totally sick every day!!!!

Makes you wonder about half the suicides in this world, how many of them were because of people like this.

@yaneponil1470

4 жыл бұрын

Good point!

@CarmyDivine

4 жыл бұрын

damnnn

@daphneduryea9136

4 жыл бұрын

Yes, my husband committed suicide to avenge his NPD father.

@silentgrove7670

4 жыл бұрын

I had suicidal thoughts during my recovery. I only knew them for a few months as well.

@chompchomp7853

3 жыл бұрын

most of them will be the victims of these monsters

So amazing to find this. My sister is like this and I have lived with damage in my life for years because I didn't realize what was going on. She always accused me of what she was doing and made me doubt myself. I had no one to turn to. I am old now and have not had contact with her for about 6 years. Finally my life is normal and I am beginning to understand what happened. It still is very sad because I always wanted a sister. I just didn't have one in actuality. But when I got away from her I was told I had gotten rid of emotional cancer. I agree.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Betty I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. Have you watched my second episode with Dr R? It’s ep 41. You may also find it interesting. I’m happy you’ve found normality now. Best wishes. Thanks for watching.

@valerieriggins3184

Жыл бұрын

I Can RELATE.... IT'S Sad WHEN IT'S Your ONLY Related Left And You Have To BE Strong And Love Your SELF 🥰💯💅

"Narcissism is a condition of insecurity that is brought on by parents who do not nurture their child's inner world".

@sireeshindle7010

4 жыл бұрын

I do not agree with this. Parents are not to blame all of the time. I know of a single mother with a daughter and son,. She is also a dear friend who i have known for 45 years. Her 2 adult children do not have the same father. The daughters dad died when she was 1. The daughter is married (23 yrs), has 3 boys and an amazing woman. She is in the medical field, works very hard, a good wife and mother. The son is a dead-beat dad, 2 girls that he does not see or support, different moms. He lies, feels entitled, takes advantage of his poor mother, is so emotionally abusive toward my sweet friend. He will not leave her house, steals from her, has no respect for her what-so-ever. He is a narcissist, no doubt in anyone's mind. Their mom is a sweetheart. I have never heard her say one un-kind thing about anyone as long as I have known her. People like her are hard to come by. To say that the way her son behaves is her fault is simply impossible. The only thing this poor woman is guilty of is caring about him. I know she is at her wits end because of him, i can see it. I feel terrible for her. Trust me, she did not create this monster! So, I have to say that the nature/nurture theory regarding narcissistic people and how they became this way does not always fall into the nurture category. I get so upset when I hear others blaming parents! Just my opinion.

@VersatyleMusicGroup

4 жыл бұрын

Siree Shindle it isn’t so much to blame the parents but that is where the actual trait develops. A narcissist by the clinical disorder is a individual who has an emotional stagnation when they are very young. Therefore they grow up and although they mature in adults thinking process and intellect and experiences they have the emotional intelligence of a child. This is why their communication is much in a reflection of a child. Them throwing tantrums when they don’t get their way. Resulting to mind games to get their way. Feeling entitled. The constant need to be accepted or validation and have their ego stroked or fed. All of these things in many ways children do. It looks different with an adult but the motivation, where it comes from is that place. So this isn’t to blame the parents because the parents could have done the best they could do and failed in some areas (like maybe working a lot and not being able to always be there time wise) then a void of some form of abandonment takes places when they are young and then boom you have a trait where they seek attention and validation because of an insecurity. That’s how it happens.

@sireeshindle7010

4 жыл бұрын

Do not agree

@mimiandmonet

4 жыл бұрын

That is absolutely not true. I have a narcissistic daughter. She got more love and nurturing than the other two children put together. She DEMANDED it and accepted no less....literally since she could walk. When I gave her and the other two a snack, she wanted one for each hand. My other two children would skip off happily with their snack...she stood there with her snack in her hand and held out the other one wanting one for both hands. I thought it was cute for awhile...that she knew what she wanted even as a toddler. She was such a mama's girl and made no bones to anyone about it. At 1 year of age, she literally sulked with me and would not let me touch her for a week after I brought her sister home from the hospital. The only time she would come near me for a week was to try and yank her sister off my breast. No one else could handle her but me, her Mother. I really attributed it to her IQ being so high and that if I loved her enough and was patient enough, she would be okay when her intellectual, emotional, mental and physical maturity finally all synced. She also has a genius IQ and is a master manipulator, or so she thinks. EVERYTHING is about her...one way or another. Even when she makes it about someone else, you can bet she has a reason. She hurts and or destroys everyone in her path....especially those who love her...or rather those who try to. So don't try and tell me it is nurturing... it may be in some cases but not in all.

@ahalpert

4 жыл бұрын

@@sireeshindle7010 I think parents can forget to nurture aspects of their children inadvertently. If she was a single mom, she may have been too busy to attend to the emotions of her children, and children are not always upfront about what's going on at school, for example. Sometimes one person just cannot do everything, esp if their kids are close in age. I find it esp interesting that her children are so opposite each other, that can also be a sign of inequality of attention OR different coping mechanisms for a lack of attention. I often see a very perfectionistic child paired with a dysfunctional sibling who acts out. Both have figured out that those are ways to receive attention.

X will not go for counselling, they are afraid to be found out about their character flaws and judged for them.

@goodintentions1302

4 жыл бұрын

Mine was happy to go to couples therapy. He said he wanted me to see how good I had it and then I would change. Of course he discovered each therapist was stupid and didn't see things his way. I left knowing I'd be on financially thin ice but I know how to live with less and I'm very glad I left. I earn $214- a year to much to receive food stamps. No public assistance. My heat is on low in the cold months and I dress for it. I put up with higher temperatures than most U.S. citizens find comfortablein the warm weather. Life is better without him.

Energetic pairing, if you had a normal childhood, it's much harder for you to be caught up by a narcissist

@laaronow

4 жыл бұрын

Yeah. It's not a fair world.

@marlanaferro1481

4 жыл бұрын

So true.

@anneofgreengables1619

4 жыл бұрын

Very true

@pettylabelle7944

3 жыл бұрын

I agree with the idea of energetic pairing, but in a weird way having a normal childhood can put you at risk too - a lot of people don’t realize they’re involved with narcs because they’ve never seen behavior like that and so they can’t even fathom that someone could be that evil.

@pocahontas4583

2 жыл бұрын

@@pettylabelle7944 I agree. I say this all the time… I’d never encountered a person like him. So in the beginning I was constantly questioning whether there was something wrong with ME, was I being overly sensitive, is what he’s saying and doing normal, etc. I lived a VERY sheltered childhood which just made adult life more difficult because I didn’t even have that many relationships to compare what I was currently going through.

It will turn your nervous systems inside out. Family, friends, colleagues. I wish I’d know about this years ago including childhood.

@almariesimpson7422

4 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@daisygallardo4645

4 жыл бұрын

Me too! I feel my brother’s abuse over 20 years since childhood has caused my severe autoimmune arthritis, fibromyalgia, and anxiety. I finally stopped contact and just by chance, he encountered me at a relatives home. He lied about why he discarded me and we couldn’t resolve anything as usual. He twisted everything to blame and shame me. He started shaming me about how our children are suffering since I’ve blocked him on my phone. We agreed he’d make me arrangements to see my kids with my husband. Since I share contacts on my phone with my husband, I decided to unblock him so he can communicate with my husband. So I’m not sure why called me today. It really made me furious. Just seeing his name appear on my phone made my stomach turn. He started texting asking about Christmas at his house because his children want that. I agreed, but I should have told him to communicate with my husband like we agreed. I feel pressure by my enabling mom to speak to him, but no thanks. He said himself he doesn’t want to take steps to heal our relationship, yet he wants me to pretend nothing is wrong. Ridiculous

@almariesimpson7422

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

Love that the interviewer asked great questions and allowed the Dr to fully anwser without interruption. Great video!

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Wandering Free Thanks so much Wandering Free! We have another episode with Dr R due for release later this month. We think you will like it! Hit subscribe to get notified. 👍

Thank you Dr. Ramani - I have been with one of these guys since I was 15 years old. Thank you for validating my feelings are not crazy. Those who have never lived with one of these evil people cannot understand. But you get it.

@nancystonecypher9819

4 жыл бұрын

I get the feeling the Dr. gets it on a personal experience level. I can sense she’s lived it...

@karenloveland1428

2 жыл бұрын

Anyone who has never lived it cannot comprehend what it is life to live with a narcissist.

@rickwrites2612

2 жыл бұрын

Leave him.

Dr Ramani Durvasula is smart and very helpful for anyone who has crossed paths with a Narcissist. I had a Narcissistic Orthopedic Doctor. I left his practice after a year. When I listened to Dr. Durvasula's videos I realized that he is a Covert Narcissist. He does not take care of his patients, he neglects them. Her videos helped reassure my decision to leave. Thank you!

@agustasister5624

5 жыл бұрын

As she has said a million times...the number of NARCISISTs. has exploded in thr west...STOP AND THINK WHAT HAS CHANGED...ONLY ONE THING..

@amyc1022

5 жыл бұрын

@@agustasister5624 Please be more direct with your thoughts. What one thing has changed?

@dejakeith2291

5 жыл бұрын

What other symptoms did your doctor had that led you to believe that he was a covert narcissist?

@victorialadybug1

5 жыл бұрын

That's scary, when your psychologist is one of these people.

@amyc1022

5 жыл бұрын

@@victorialadybug1 He was my orthopedic doctor.

I’ve had multiple narc friends and bosses in my life. I’ve been used for all I could offer and then shamed, blamed and thrown under the bus. I definitely have post-narc abuse PTSD. I used to doubt myself and question what was wrong with me. These videos have helped so much to make sense of all the confusion. Still recovering and hyper vigilant to avoid these people. My recovery and journey back to self is the most important thing.

@a.k.7424

3 жыл бұрын

L Row, I hope you will find some warm, honest, forthright friends-- a friend I made when I was 24 helped me to "unlearn" so many toxic things I had believed were normal. And once you meet someone like that, you notice how quiet your mind is when you are around them, you learn what safety and healthy love feels like. I hope you will stay hopeful and keep an eye out for these kind people. It can take some looking, but they do exist!

@lrow5416

3 жыл бұрын

A. K. - thank you. I am hopeful.

I had to walk away from everything to get away from my narcissistic ex. Nothing is worth staying in such a vampiric relationship! One thing you don’t do with any of these types is share your deepest fears or secrets. They WILL use it against you.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear this S Ventor. I'm hoping you're in a far better place now!

@sventer198

4 жыл бұрын

healthHackers absolutely! It took lots of therapy but I’m happy and in a healthy, empathetic, loyal and loving relationship. Get out and get help. There’s a reason why you attract these people.

@sventer198

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for asking 😊

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

😃🙏

I love this doctor, I’ve watched her so much on the medcircle as well.

@roshalllambert

5 жыл бұрын

Same with me even I first saw her on medcircle

@elyas1630

4 жыл бұрын

@Sophia Martinez, waw you are so cute and beautiful, I would be attracted to you even if you would have been narcissist 😉

Favorite line: "There is a difference between knowing what your doing is wrong, and having empathy for the people who are impacted by your actions." Nail on the head!!!

"Consider yourself to be in the relationship alone" interesting....before I even knew he was a narcissist/sociopath the night he discarded me I opened up how I was feeling about something and cried, his complete lack of empathy prompted me to say "i feel more alone in this relationship than when i was single" well that triggered him to abandon me with no warning right before my birthday leaving me with nowhere to live. 2 months before it was all your amazing and well get through this together, then it was I'm texting my ex and it's all your fault cause you say I make you feel unattractive and you dont trust me. So glad I made him run away after 4 months and not years with children. The abuse was enough to make me suicidal, I dont think I would have lived if I endured much more.

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

Oh dear Jessica, that sounds upsetting. I’m glad to hear you are free of it now.

@blessedingodslove7283

4 жыл бұрын

Jessica you are beautiful! Keep going and live that AMAZING life of yours to the absolute FULLEST!

@lala5061

Жыл бұрын

Yes u do feel alone in it, u feel single might as well be single then....now I'm single again after 16 years and it doesn't feel as bad as I felt in that toxic relationship 🙌🏽

They're such excellent manipulators, they are able to quickly discern what your greatest strengths/weaknesses as a person are, and reflect those qualities back onto you. So, often when you first meet a narcissist, there is a perceived spark, right from GO. And many times you might believe that you have just met your soulmate, that's how convincing and manipulative they are. I've lived it. After 8 years of crazymaking, where I blamed myself and thought I was losing my mind, I finally woke up ... when I began to love myself and came to expect that people treat me the way that I want to be treated. After I did some work on myself I went through yet another Hoovering episode with my ex, and her first manipulation, her first attempt to manipulate, deceive and use psychological abuse on me immediately triggered suspicion on my part. Once you learn to love yourself, their deceptions will no longer be effective because you simply won't deal with it. So, as I said, her very first attempt to twist things around on me and make me out to be the abusive one threw up a huge red flag. I realized that she likes doing what she had been doing for 8 years, on and off, at that point, and I found it unacceptable. I realized what a horrible person she is and that she'll never change ... and THEN I found out all about narcissism and connected the dots. She checked every single box on the unofficial Narcissism Checklist. After that realization, I haven't looked back even once ... because I haven't lost anything by losing her. Narcissists don't have the ability to love you, so severing ties with one isn't even slightly painful; it's actually addition by subtraction.

I love the "your kids are screwed either way to be honest" Ain't that the truth.

@liesbethdevries4986

5 жыл бұрын

Yep. As a single mom to get them sane through puberty, a hard challenge. The narcissist dad is grooming both kids, playing the innocent. Being me, being genuine, I have to set boundaries like never before. The narcissistic patterns are surfacing more and more, my re-active state gets pushed on. Horrible. I go into mindfulness. As a mom, you can't even enjoy the normal patterns of puberty. There is always the question "Is this normal puberty?" When I feel my re-active state come to light, I know it's not. Not a nice way of being a mindful parent.

@crystaljean522

5 жыл бұрын

@@liesbethdevries4986 I've worried the same about my boys but fortunately I was the stay at home, primary parent through the formative years and his parenting was just a mimicking of mine. I have a open honest relationship with them and they know they have one parent they can rely on and trust fully. Everything started blowing up about him around two years ago and my boys haven't spoken to him in a year because of how he has treated me and the lies and broken promises to them as well. At first I felt awful he wasn't in their lives but now I see it as a blessing because he is unable to manipulate and influence them in any way. Before they stopped speaking to him, he was manipulating my 12 year old whenever he would visit him to feel sorry for him! He caused all of this strife and made all these selfish decisions but wanted to play the victim, so pathetic. My psychologist tells me as long as they have one dependable empathetic parent as a mainstay they will be fine. I wish you much strength and resilience to get through this and all the best for you and your children! 💚

@rosefaulkner7565

5 жыл бұрын

Im so scared. I have 3 kids with this guy

@justme-dm7sb

5 жыл бұрын

rose faulkner Stay strong and keep your ultimate goal in your mind. You will get where you need to be.

The professor really knows her stuff. First time to hear a clear distinction with examples of the subtle differences between sociopaths and psychopaths.

This video was very reinforcing I've been in a Narcissistic relationship for fifty years raised my children now see the brokenness in all of us. Thank you

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Leola McCallister thanks for telling me Leola. So sorry to hear what you’ve been through. I hope you come back to watch Dr R’s second video on HealthHackers.

@kepistevoloboo6916

3 жыл бұрын

Oooh dear,,, very bad!! Glad you at last got out and hope your kids are ok

My mother married my dad because she had just wanted to get married to someone, and he came along at the right time and place. As their daughter, my childhood was pure hell.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear this Hannah. I hope the video was useful in some way.

I'm currently on a dr. Ramini MARATHON right now! I have been in a relationship for 4 years with a narcissist and I was doubting myself all the time and I was going crazy but a few days ago I found her and everything just clicked in place and revealed the big picture. I'm forever grateful for her to bless us with this information!

@maevebutler4641

Жыл бұрын

Amen to that !

This woman is saving my life. I love her frank approach; that’s what you have to be with ppl like me who’ve been surrounded by narcissists their whole life and almost thought behaving like that was okay for years: frank open and honest.

Yes, they keep secrets and that is such an important point!

Not many people in this world calm me down like listening to dr. Ramani. I could listen to her talk about anything.

@HealthHackers

3 жыл бұрын

So true!

Thanks all. Dr Ramani is a wealth of knowledge in this area. Great interview.

It’s 100% what I experienced with a narcissistic husband. Verbatim. His motto was the Miranda act: everything I said to him was brought against me in a court of law - even petty stuff was twisted into a boomerang . Yes, leaving a narcissistic partner will be painful, humiliating, costly, damaging and expect that the partner will magically convince all your previous friends that you were evil. Nothing good ever comes out of these relationships. No silver lining. This partner will even manage to turn your own once loving parents and siblings and friends into your enemies although they knew all about the dysfunctional relationship. That’s equivalent to trying to remain still while in the middle of a tsunami.

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

Oh wow UniverCT. You’ve had a tough time. So sorry to hear that.

@flgal7788

5 жыл бұрын

Married to his diabolical twin.

Advice for victims or survivors: pls don't waste your time trying to hold them accountable. I did and my chronic illness relapsed as a result of it. Neither could I hold him accountable. It's okay if you didn't stand up for yourself (I wanted to do it for my dignity and self respect) but some times it's better to save yourself than try to have the last word. Good luck, fellow empaths ❤

I love this doctor. She doesn't pull punches. She's describing life in this brave new world of narcssisum as the new norm. I no longer want to work because of this, companies seem to love these qualities. In the military they screen for NPD, with people in command. I'm practically a monk now, I can't take this new norm. 12:29, I came to that realization dealing with a narcissist mother, and golden child sister, and the relationships I've had with narc women, and it saddened my heart. It's like being raised by puraunna, and living with them, but your not one, so you can be eaten at any moment. When I first started to get this information, I realized that I learned the behavior and had to reflect back almost 40 years to try and determine how it effected my life. I got myself in therapy, and went no contact with my own family. Now I'm alone in this world,. because I now screen perspective friendships and relationships for this personality and it's frightening. Those are the conversation I had to have with family and girlfriends. Damn, doom & gloom is what my narc mother called me after she sensed I was on to her.

@Butterflyyyy9

2 ай бұрын

You're getting attacked by them Narcissist because you're the chosen one from the most high and they know it. Protect your energy my friend

My gay narcissist ex-husband sat in couple therapy, our 3d session: "I know a good marriage takes a lot of work. I just don't want to be bothered." And to this day, 30 years after the divorce, he insists his homosexuality had nothing to do with our divorce . . . because he was willing to put up with me. I'd love to see Dr. Ramani discuss parental alienation.; our daughters are a sad, hot mess.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Laura Lowder I’m so sorry to hear this Laura. I hope the video was of some comfort. I have a new episode with Dr R coming out on Sept 20. Hope you can come back and watch.

Between my father and my wife, I don't think I've had five sane years in my life and I'm closing in on 60.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

oh goodness. Sorry to hear that.

@almariesimpson7422

4 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear that.

@carolweaver3269

4 жыл бұрын

That has to be terrible for you to go through, Not fair for you to continue on with this. I pray you find the way to go forth and to handle what you have to deal with, as of now. Guess when we were younger we were not told about this problem so did not understand it, but now we do know, and it helps to understand and learn more about how to protect ourselves. Videos like this are wonderful for this. Then we can move forward with counseling ( if we can) and just knowing in this way what the right action may be, for us. Each of us is different in how we can handle it all. Or when we have had enough. Only each of us can figure this out when the time is right. My mom knew I would come to her with everything about my life, as wanted that relationship, but she undermind me and repeated things,(even things not said) and then she' pretended to be me' or 'take over my personality.' Learning to be better with people than she used to be, and how to wear jewelry and just 'copied'. I was with her every day before she passed away, and no one else, but she' ignored me' then and I was shocked as sometimes we did have our close times and at all tiems,( when we needed to be close) she sort of acted angry at me. Before passing though when she needed surgery and she has MERSA Staph, and that is not a good combination at all,, but she told me " I am very sorry how I have treated you and things I said about you and to you, but''' I was angry at myself''', as I could not do all the things I used to do when younger" So her anger at herself caused her to be this way to me and hurt me in many ways. After thinking about it, I think she wanted me to tell her it was "okay to have hurt me and she was forgiven?" But instead out of some anger, I said " But I know mom, yet when you did that it did upset me " So I did not give the correct answer. I always end up trying to figure out all the time now, if I am saying the right things to people or not and if I hurt them or if they will be upset. That is a terrible thing for me to 'stop doing'. But "beating yourself up all the time, needs to end" That I know. We all need to end that. Enough is enough, Bless you waaaaste.

@ras9875

2 жыл бұрын

Today is the first day of the rest of your life.

I am currently in a marriage with a narcissist and I doubt myself for a decade but I am starting to see the light....everything you said was spot on.... this person is always constantly looking for validation

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Oh my goodness Charlito, sorry to hear that. I hope Dr R’s wise words were helpful in some way.

@DJ_CHARLITO_THE_GREAT

4 жыл бұрын

@@HealthHackers Her words are very helpful and head given me great insight... I'm soooooo grateful... this was a complete breakdown on what I've been dealing with for years and no one would believe unless you witnessed it with your own eyes

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

@@DJ_CHARLITO_THE_GREAT Well, I believe you. And I'm sure many others commenting here do too. Did you see my latest video with Dr R? It's a follow-up from the one you just watched. Here it is: kzread.info/dash/bejne/na18vLOjeteZZcY.html

Thankyou. 60 yrs, never any improvement no matter how much one tries to please. You are so right. thankyou

No, But I am living next to one who has tried to make my life hell - but heck now I am fighting back, taking my power back, and seeing the truth. Thanks for posting.

Being around a narcissist is like death by a 1,000 drops of poison spread out over time. The manipulation, control, gas lighting, blaming, triangulation, drama created by the narcissist, rage, non stop talking, lies, deceit, empty promises, arguments, and demeaning remarks leaves you exhausted and stressed out and we all know that stress can kill you. Leave if you can to save your life.

Dr Ramani, you’re the very best at DESCRIBING the world of pathologies we all are exposed to and especially for the ADVICE you freely give us! Blessings of the highest to you! Thanks so very much!

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for watching and commenting, Sheila!

@maevebutler4641

Жыл бұрын

Totally agree , blessed beyond words for her brilliant work !

Married a narcissist. My kingdom for a time machine!

@cherryrose5514

4 жыл бұрын

🤣

I am in a "waiting for them to die" situation, after 35 years, i think the light at the end of my tunnel is subject to a cave in... ugh

My elderly father was forced into marriage by a narcissistic psychopath/sociopath. She isolated him to exploit him financially and he almost died from what she did to him. She had manipulated health and social services into believing he had advanced dementia - she was drugging him- and portrayed herself as a loving wife. She convinced everyone his adult children were 'jealous'and has never accepted her, but we were able to rescue him when she had him put away.

If you see a person who is abusive At work, you know that that individual treats people at work with far more respect than those that he eats and sleeps with.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

walter kersting eek. I’d not thought of that before.

@walterkersting1362

4 жыл бұрын

healthHackers I got that from Dr. Phillip C. McGraw and it certainly stands to reason.

@walterkersting1362

4 жыл бұрын

And when you think about it, church is sort of work and so is school. Probably applies to any activity outside of the house and away from the family.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

@@walterkersting1362 yikes!

The problem is that there's to many people these days who are narcissists and sociopaths, especially in the workplace. It's not just with romantic or family relationships. Every place I've ever worked has had at least 1-3 bullies/sociopaths/narcissists in employment. These types of ppl make it very difficult for me to work around and have to deal with on a daily basis, and eventually I end up quitting that job as an end result. True empaths are far and few between. It's sad narcissism has taken over so many ppls personalities.

I think I'm a little proud to leave both a narcissist and a psychopath.

She is 200% correct. I felt as if she did talking about my life. It’s such a painful phase in life. It’s as if I didn’t exist except when he needs something for his own benefits

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Sushma - thank you for watching. Dr R is great, isn't she. I'm so sorry you went through a painful time.

Saddam Hussain once said that he'd rather be feared than loved by the people, because fear is more reliable than love. I don't know if he really was a psychopath, but I would guess he came pretty close...

Thank you for this timely video. Dr. Ramani is brilliant and as soon as I discovered her months ago, I listen to all her videos. She has helped me more in these few months in healing through understanding the narcissistic relationship I had been involved with then the psychologist I had over the years. Thank you.

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear you've been through a rough time. Thanks for watching :)

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

That's so great to hear! Thank you

@fijihoney1567

5 жыл бұрын

I too discovered Dr. Ramini recently and I have to say that she is right on point regarding how to treat narcissistic personality traits.

@cherryneil5869

4 жыл бұрын

I try to watch one utube clip a day so I don't get tempted to start to feel sorry for my ex. He is so convincing and has so many people feeling sorry for him. He has lied about me, told people I have 'another man' and said I was difficult to live with. He denied the violence etc - even though his kids witnessed it. Truth sets us free!

Dr Ramani is so phenomenal, I could hear her talking for hours

🙏Dr Ramani is So On Point with this Disease because not only does she constantly confirm mine (and others) opinion that my ex wife was a Narcissist (to the point of taking me to therapy to try to prove that I was the problem) and the phsycatrists and Therapists told me to be “careful” around this type of personality😊 but, also ,on how this Is disease is what parents are instilling in their children in order to “get a head in life no matter what “ “step on anyone it doesn’t matter “ “whatever you do we will get you out of trouble” (even if you did it) and “we will do anything for you” type of attitude and “narrative” that is breading more and more and more narcissist as the days go by.🙏

@Lyrielonwind

Жыл бұрын

I agree but just one thing; if you call disease to a personality disorder it sounds like it could be cure and it's not a disease and there's no cure for that. I tell you because if you talk with anyone about it and name it disease is quite unavoidable the other person might feel pity about the narcissist.

Finally found a proper interview with dr ramani

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

yay! what a lovely comment. Thanks!

I've never felt more validated for being a recluse. People suck.

@mariewilliams194

4 жыл бұрын

I know how you feel I'm happy alone . People these days are self absorbed and like acting superior. It's not just narcissistic people who are difficult. Everyone is difficult.

"being in a relationship with a narcissist, is a bit like being in a cult. . . like brainwashed" (15:10)

@HealthHackers

3 жыл бұрын

😔

She is amazing!! Everything is spot on!

@RubinaMerchant

4 жыл бұрын

Exactly what I was going to write! It all makes so much sense now....not such a mess when you understand. Wow.

@midguardz

4 жыл бұрын

Especially the bit about the fact that people who think they are narcissists... arent because Ns cant introspect. Ergo, more than likely the people introspecting on the possibility are just shallow superficial people who hare just weak and have gone along with the flow of mediocrity.

@annielyndespres6300

4 жыл бұрын

Spot on to a tee.

@jp5419

4 жыл бұрын

Spot on indeed!

@paris-comedordecasadas

4 жыл бұрын

@@RubinaMerchant I need Help !!

Meeting a narc was one of the best things that's ever happened to me. I was leaving my fiancee when I was "forced" to falling in love with a narc. It all happened so quickly! One month later and after having gone through hell (I won't expand on this but you can all imagine), I realised how much more power I gained by walking away from him. Thanks to that my eyes are wide open now, my standards way up and my boundaries in the right places. I am so grateful I met him but also had the courage to walk away even though I loved him with all my soul and the only idea of not being with him was torture. He instigated feelings I didn't have to start with so in the end, those feeling are illusions. I don't live in illusions, I'm very practical and that connecion was simply not doable as I was feeling confused and sick to my soul. I feel like I dodged a bullet! I'm so proud of myself and now viewing these videos gives me the confirmation I needed to make sure I don't go back to him if he hoovers me.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

This is great to hear Ana. 👏👏

Thank you Dr. Ramani for pointing everything out clearly. I left my job because my boss is a narcissist. He was very manipulative.

Dr. Ramani is awesome, always insightful.

It’s funny but hearing their two accents makes this listen even more enjoyable.

This is information I wish I'd had as a teenager. Thankfully I searched out books and therapy because I knew my parents were toxic and had quashed my self-esteem and I was fed up with being unable to set boundaries or be comfortable being assertive. Narcissistic parents do a lot of damage and it took me years of work to stop being a 'people-pleaser' - who are attractive targets for other narcissists to hone in on -and heal from narcissistic abuse. This was before the internet was commonplace and narcissism wasn't well-known or much discussed. The best thing I did besides self-work to heal from narcissistic parenting was to minimise contact with the remaining parent, my covert narc mother. I am glad that there's now wise, knowledgeable psychologists like Dr. Ramani on KZread and hope that those who have dealt with narcissists will be able to utilise the great insights and advice she gives.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and commenting. There are others here who can really relate to what you’ve been through. I hope you have a good network around you and continue to go from strength to strength.

@maevebutler4641

Жыл бұрын

She truly is so informative & ger videos have saved my sanity and my life I have tremendous gratitude for Dr Ramini & her brilliant work re - all things Narcissistic

"The scars of your love remind me of us They keep me thinking that we almost had it all"...

Wow I needed doctor Ramani when I was a young girl getting married, but she might have been in grade school I'm so glad I met you both on KZread because you have cleared up a lot for me. I like how sure you are aware of yourself especially when you said "the narcissist cuts across all three personalities". Shivers 😱 I get the impression that dr. Ramani has been there and has no desire to let anyone else go there. She cares about all of us

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Sugar Free Thanks for watching Sugar Free. Dr R does indeed care. I’ve just recorded a follow-up episode with her about her upcoming book. It’s called ‘“Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility’. I’ll be releasing it on Sept 20. I hope you find it helpful.

Dr. Ramani ... you are well spoken and know your stuff!

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

The Interfaith Shepherd Thanks for commenting. Do see what you think of ep 41 too!

This was one of the best things I've heard in forever. Really hits home. Thanks Dr. Durvasula, wish I would have heard of your earlier.

please watch (Narcissists Study You Like A PhD) on youtube they are after all empath and spiritual minded people.

@flgal7788

5 жыл бұрын

Predators.

Dr Ramani is the best and really knows her stuff. Very informative, easy to understand and has a great KZread channel. Great interview.

Dr Ramani is absolutely amazing! I have been struggling do to a relationship with a narcississt and its nearly impossible to find a therapist in my area that specializes in narcissistic abuse and this woman has helped me so much! I get chills because I relate to everything she is saying

Since listening to Dr Ramani I have a better understanding of my family members, thank you Doctor. My family is loaded up with narcissists, superficial, histrionic, cruel, this will keep me busy for the rest of my life

@HealthHackers

7 ай бұрын

🥲

this dR is the best and so spot on.

@elyas1630

4 жыл бұрын

Ines Ferre hi

He checks all the boxes. Didnt seek help, didnt need it and likes who he is and didn't need to change. He's a covert narc and helped his relative leave this earth earlier than he should have. I suspect he stole money from this person so he had a motive to expedite his demise.

....When they can not admit that there is something not ok with their behavior. That was a huge eye opener for me.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

I bet! Thanks for watching Michele.

Dr. Ramani could talk about dirt and I would still be glued to the screen. She is a phenomenal woman, so knowledgeable about so much! Thank you for sharing this amazing interview. I learned so much.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

I’m so happy it was useful for you! Thanks so much for watching

My narcissistic ex would cause an argument before I would go and do anything with my children even though he NEVER wanted to spend any time with us. Horribly abusive.

@HealthHackers

5 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear you’ve suffered Verum. Thanks for watching Dr Ramani’s video.

@verumbellator6899

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you and thank you for your work in helping individuals that find themselves in such a terrible situation.

@fionam3735

5 жыл бұрын

Verum bellator yes my ex husband would do the same thing and also make me late for everything unless it was extremely important to him. He would create an atmosphere before we even got out the door and if he did come he looked bored and was never off his phone leaving me to deal with the children x

@jimmyj4044

3 жыл бұрын

LOL

Good interviewing style here. I like how the interviewer asks meaningful questions and then listens to the response. She doesn't dominate or compete with Dr. R, who, as usual, gives thorough but focused answers.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Andrew C. Comments like this make me very happy! Thank you Andrew 👍😁

@ShunyamNiketana

4 жыл бұрын

@@HealthHackers : You're welcome. I guess some credit goes to the editing, too. Dr. R has plenty to say.

@HealthHackers

4 жыл бұрын

Andrew C. Thanks. I do the editing too. 👍

omg ! how i love this woman! Incredibly smart and beautiful inside and outside. wish there would be more like her . Brava Dr.Ramani Durvasula.

My Xnarcopath was superficial, it was like groundhogs day with conversations. I didn’t realize I was the one carrying the conversation into different and interesting topics, if I hadn’t we would have sat and stared at each other. He would use Seinfeld scenes to communicate-it was so weird and confusing, I had never watched that show and only after I did watch some did I realize the correlation. Now I’m finding it difficult switching from not monopolizing the conversation. I’m so uncomfortable with people wondering am I talking too much, am I not talking enough. I don’t want to be alone, but being around people causes me to tense up. I’m sitting there and then realizing my body is rigid and stiff. Yes I’m hyper vigilant. It’s a struggle.

@jimmyj4044

3 жыл бұрын

*Groundhog Day

Gosh. This is amazing and on point. She is describing a narcissist I know to the T. This is such a a wake up call. Thank you for putting this interview together

@HealthHackers

3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching Jeannette!