Never will I ignore the red flags again. There were so many red flags from day one, but I chose to ignore them and trusted in him instead. I will trust my instincts, now and forever. Thank you Andrew

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Sonia..💯🙏🙌

@steveboyer7940

2 жыл бұрын

You are so right ! I saw the red flags too and kept thinking she would snap out of it and I just knew something wasn't right, but I kept ignoring all the flags . Never again will I dismiss those valuable red flags ! Time to move on !

@VeledaG

2 жыл бұрын

@@aquamarin4294 The behaviour of a narcissist is weird. One doesn´t have to put a label like "NPD" on a person to be able to recognize that something is wrong with a person. I had a gut feeling that something was wrong from day one when I met my "Ex". I just couldn´t put a finger on it. So I watched him and his sometimes unusual behaviour closely as I would do with any person I just met. I didn´t know at the time that he was a narcissist but when you find out that someone is lying, cheating, has zero empathy, is afraid of emotional closeness, avoids kissing like the plague and hugs you like you´re a hot iron, uses different female first names when he talks to you, uses silence after tiny disagreements........you just know that something is very wrong! So after a couple of months I decided to leave. It is absolutely not necessary to know that a person is a narcissist to protect oneself. Any sane, emotionally healthy and intelligent person will leave a potential partner which behaves like the one I described. And who cares what the clinical name for this person´s behaviour is? You don´t need a label to uncover bad behaviour! So not knowing about narcissism/NPD is not really an excuse to stay in a relationship with a person who treats you like a doormat. It is rather the unability or unwillingness to acknowledge that evil people like narcissists exist!

@twowingsatlanta4007

2 жыл бұрын

@ Sonia O'Neill TOTALLY AGREE !! ✔♠💯💯 Neeevvveerrr!!!

@wendyhannan2454

2 жыл бұрын

We were smart to see it in the first place, I saw it, but I didn’t trust my instinct. I run with it now, some people don’t like it, that’s just too bad. 😉

SOMETIMES your HEART NEEDS more TIME to ACCEPT what your MIND already KNOWS.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Completely true 🙌💯

When we are hungry (vulnerable), even a bitter thing tastes sweet.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯🙏🙌

@SZYB3

Жыл бұрын

Sums it up in a nutshell 💯❤️‍🩹

Ignoring our instincts which are spot on causes anxiety, depression, fear, illness and more. So do the list and pull it out and read it whenever you doubt your instincts. Then don't go back beautiful ones.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly 💯💯

@jackidezell3401

2 жыл бұрын

I had ALLLLL those instincts and got quite ill. Thanks for this!

@hth54

2 жыл бұрын

@@jackidezell3401 same

@rosekinocircus5105

2 жыл бұрын

Well said 💚

@kathleenpopata9718

2 жыл бұрын

You are beautiful Heather so right in your comment Yes those horrid mental causes not for my strength going deep to END wot I put Into them many years the Key is unblocked use tolerance 😀 endurance for ME TERMS OF Self awareness protection Happiest 😀 in being MYSELF

When you catch a narcissist in lie or sea of lies, they get angry, upset, sometimes violent and saying that you are falsely accusing them and dirtying their name, when they are upset you uncovered the truth. I was right!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

💯💯💯💯

@shivmc4466

Жыл бұрын

Yup me to exactly the same and then I came across this channel and everything made sense.

@juanblignaut4606

Жыл бұрын

So true, as if those words are spoken wherever in the 🌎. Every time I caught her lying, I was made out to be the bad apple, quickly putting the spotlight on me that I'm at fault. So true.

"Something just wasn't right" from day one, till the last day when I was discarded. Now I have made a promise to myself. Trust me, first, second, and third. Stay strong everyone and continue to believe in what your body, mind, and spirit is telling you. Blessings to you Andrew and everyone on this path of healing!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

💯💯💯

The gut in medical biology has been proven to act as a second brain. Rather like our neurological cognitive abilities it is known the gut can receive and process information similarly to our brains. I have become very attuned with my gut since narc abuse, and I let my gut read a situation or conversation before I say a word. My gut reacts so quickly as to the validity or fakery of most situations these days, I actually feel it respond!! It's quite fascinating once you tune in, as it seems right every time!! I was never really aware of it before, maybe I'd get a vague feeling in my gut area and just dismiss it. I now realise it's your second brain telling you something!! It's a real asset!! 👍👍👍💜🇬🇧

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Amanda 💯🙌🙏🇬🇧🇨🇷🙌

@trudeesanbonmatsu5327

2 жыл бұрын

Spot on!

@jannlewandowski5540

2 жыл бұрын

I had a strong GUT FEELING THAT HE WAS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE! I should have RAN back then! Always listen to your GUT feeling!

@theresefournier3269

2 жыл бұрын

@@jannlewandowski5540 Some even see it as the main brain. I think it's only second, to the h-eart! ♥️🔥💐💯

@janetroberts5140

2 жыл бұрын

Both former spouse upset me so much my gut was in turmoil most days, acid reflux and I would not go to sleep before either one of them went to sleep.

My instincts were pervasive even during the love bomb stage. Something just wasnt right somehow. My instincts we warning me to the point where i found myself in tears most of the time when i couldnt get ahold of him. My gut just knew i wasnt the only one. Instincts are always, always, right. Listen to them. They wont fail you.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Completely true 💯💯

@trudeesanbonmatsu5327

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, that’s great. I totally fell for the love Bombing. Ugh 🤔

@asmallbitchybanana

2 жыл бұрын

@@trudeesanbonmatsu5327 the good news is, you can still walk away.

@snarkyrachel8616

Жыл бұрын

Oh boy x This is the video ….. He’s threatening to call the Police (control) because I’m now educated in NPD and stood up for myself ….. another lie so I replied to him to do it. I also added tell the cops I have my own handcuffs (sarcasm) thanks x I have to laugh Andrew. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿💜🇨🇷

A HUGE red flag I ignored was when the abusive ex told me his previous wife “set him up” in Colorado for domestic abuse charges. That she made up evidence and it was her fault. I believed he was the victim. He fled an impending prison sentence in Colorado, broke her restraining order and took his stuff from the apartment, drove across the country to LA airport and flew back out to Australia and lay dormant for 6 years. Then I came along. Boom. How could I have ignored this!?

Do not tell the next person why you left the narcissist and don’t tell them what they were. That is to much information especially if you are taking your time to know them which is a excellent idea Igor obvious reasons. Stay strong, kind and always remember you are worth a lot! 👍😘

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful Cathy..💯🙌💪😉

@reginaldmines4569

2 жыл бұрын

Amen Amen 💯💯

@shivmc4466

Жыл бұрын

I agree protect your heart because the next person you meet could be one you have to really study people like me this is what I've learnt it has changed me but for the better and it's good to be aware of people not just in relationships but in friendships or work anyone use caution I have a really nice friend now but our friendship happened so naturally so organic we laugh at each other we have deep conversations 😊 everything that a friendship should be never tell anyone new what you went through..

The signs were subtle at first. The devaluing, shaming, silent treatment, constant criticism all became the top things I began looking on UTube educating myself. I knew there was definitely something wrong with someone that know matter what u do they r never satisfied yet do nothing or offer no solution or resolution to anything. I was able to leave 6 mos ago. FREEDOM! RED FLAGS!!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful Pamela 💯🙌💪🙏

I heard a quote about red flags: 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 "When we are looking at the world thru rose-colored glasses all the red warning flags just look like flags." We are the eternal optimist. Literally slaves in bondage hoping for a day they will wake up and stop being abusive. It's not coming. We have to accept that. Hope just prolongs our suffering. We have limited time in this world. We are going to die. We are wasting our precious lives with these empty hollow entities that will NVR love us or even treat us with common decency. 😥

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Excellent insight beepboop..💯🙌🙏

I needed to hear this! Three children and a stroke later I finally realized that he had narcissist written all over himself. We are still going through a custody battle but I'm starting to heal, both from the stroke and from him.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Sending you healing and positive energy Shanelle..🙏🙌🙏🙌💯💯

@monicagreen6217

2 жыл бұрын

Happy to know your healing🤗

@Mulata723

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thank you! God bless you🤗

@Mulata723

2 жыл бұрын

@@monicagreen6217 🤗

@heatherroberson1648

2 жыл бұрын

God bless you. I'm praying for your healing 🙏

Many moments wondering 🤔 💭 😳 wtf was that? Why would anyone do that? Who does that? Why would anyone treat me like that? No one has ever treated me like that! ETC...love you guys and 💚💛😍💌 to Andrew. Goodnight.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Newlife22 💯🙏🙌😉

That gut feeling is the voice of God telling you get out right away...listen to it. It's golden.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙌😉💯

I got lost in her love bombing. Ending it and went thru therapy. Therapist showed to me, the red flags were there the very first day. Just didn't see it, I was love bombed and she did her homework before she met me.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand Stephen 🙌💯💯

As intelligent as I am, I believed every lie he told me. I justified his lies in my mind so I wouldn't upset him. I even took responsibility for everything he did wrong! I'm so glad it's over!

You explain the issue so well, Andrew. Being around narcissists I always had the feeling that I could not trust them. Still, through their ongoing manipulative tricks they manage to get you to idealize them, until you learn more about narcissism.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Maria..🙏🙌😊😉💯

From the 1st date I felt something was not right in my gut yet I ignored it, I stayed for 25 yrs.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand Christine 💯🙌😉

@truffaut650truffaut6

Жыл бұрын

And we got used to it😪

Andrew, I can’t thank you enough for this channel, you and the community of subscribers have literally saved my mental sanity. I also made a list, so glad I did. Problem was that I never trusted myself. But 2022 is the year I have decided to go with my gut.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Gary.. you are amazing and loved 🙌💯🙏💯

@londongirl1233

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Second that Gary! 👍👍

@CVICURN1

Жыл бұрын

Most definitely! Listening to Andrew’s videos is really giving me strength and healing right now, when I need it the most!! Thank you Andrew!

I ignored many red flags. Can’t explain why I was so blind. Finally woke up. Thank God. Appreciate your videos.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome E P..🙏🙌💯

All the things Andrew says at the top is on us who get into these narcissistic relationships. We have to have some harsh heart to hearts with ourselves about not listening to ourselves thinking something’s not right, the red flags, the cognitive dissonance. The answers are all there if we stop, listen, and act like a parent who protects our inner child who didn’t learn how to protect themselves. Be that for your inner child. The quicker u stop and just listen and honor yourself first, the faster u will eliminate the loser who is trying to rope u in.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful insight Chiara..🙌🙏💪💯

@donnahalsted7718

Жыл бұрын

Wonderfully expressed, Chiara. Thank you. That inner child needs a hart-to-heart discussion and a good heartfelt hug!

@jodaniels8097

8 ай бұрын

Great advice, thank you 🙏

I woke up 2 mounts through the relationship with a narcissistic guy but then, I figured out I actually, grew up with a narcissistic father 🤦🏼‍♀️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Sending prayers and positive energy to you 💯🙌🙏

So true! Don’t underestimate your spidey senses!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Always 😉💪😊

One night we were having a "family dinner," meaning with our kids from other relationships because I thought we were trying to have a blended family. Anyhow, I had had a bad day for reasons the narc knew about. I asked him to be extra nice because I was already on the verge of tears (but I was still wanting to have this family moment and do my part to make it work). He straight up said no, because I hadn't asked him nice enough, so he wasn't going to be nice to me. 😳 ....that was one of the beginning of the end moments when I knew I had to get out.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate your kindness and sharing this insight Becca..💯🙏🙌💯

@Terri_Hugs

2 жыл бұрын

Don't you get tired of the BS! "I was talking and you interrupted me." "You should have ask nicer." "I don't like you tone of voice!" "I don't like that blouse can you change it?"!

@becca1384

2 жыл бұрын

@@Terri_Hugs absolutely! That's why I left!

I saw a lot of red flags at the beginning. I was played from the beginning about his sad messy life but how he got it all together. So I decided to take it slowly, although he told me he had fallen in love with me almost immediately. In the circumstances we met, he no doubt saw I was a loving person, cradling my cat who showed me great love always. I would tell him not to tell me he loved me because he did not know me enough. He told me one day I would believe him and learn to trust him - and once I said I loved and trusted him that is when it all started to become weird. Just little by little. But after the five years looking back I can see he actually had a game plan. I was just a convenient means to his end game. The real clincher was that towards the end I was quite ill. I was booked in for my very first ever surgery. I was scared but also couldn't have sex - so he created a fight and left two days before I had to go the hospital. I know now that it was no longer about him - so he was kinda bored. He couldn't have sex with me - and that for him was a large degree of his supply - he came back home the day before the operation. I had to do a prep pre-op and told him I would probably spend most of the night dealing with that - I gave him the choice to stay with me as support or not stay and he chose not to stay. The worst thing about this? I had forgotten about this - and it was my sister who reminded me (she had taken me to and from hospital) . I was of no use to him at all that night. KEEP A JOURNAL - because you forget a lot of things when you are busy being an empath. Thanks Andrew

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome always 💯🙌🙏💯

@cangrejitamiry

2 жыл бұрын

You are right, i also forgot all those weird things he did. I start remembering now that he's gone

@carlalendore8233

Жыл бұрын

I kept a journal just out of habit. I started noticing the pattern. You do forget things in the love bomb stage, but when I went back and read my entries….lightbulbs went off and that’s when I started my research. My Relationship was only three years but I consider it not three years wasted but three years of proper education on narcissism. Next time I’ll see them from a mile away and go the other direction

@JWORGvsJesus1975

8 ай бұрын

Yes...keep a journal..it will save you...and will have all the confirmations: he/she/is a cheater/a croock/a deceiver/ a you just name it😢😮

I wish I made a list! There were SEVERAL instances that I can remember that I have said to myself, " I don't like that ", " Why did she do that, say that, or react that way " ?.....

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Ай бұрын

💯💯😌💜

Thank you. We must trust our instincts. If something does not feel right, it is not right. We must discern what we are dealing with.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏 🙌💯

The BIGGEST MISTAKE I EVER MADE WAS IGNORING THE RED FLAGS 🚩 & THE CONCERNS OF BOTH MY BFF & MY DAUGHTER TELLING ME THEY SAW HIS GRANDIOSITY & BELIEVED HE’S A NARCISSIST

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

🙏💯🙌

I had notes from 3 years ago, phone, notebook, emails, cards….ended this summer 2021. I’m still in amazement at the experience. more precisely the horror.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely Tizara..🙌🙏😉

I ignored the biggest red flag of all: when she met me she immediately dumped the guy she was with, blocked him, discarded him and told me he was an abusive piece of shit and not to worry about it. Three years later she left me completely out of the blue. I never did anything wrong (at least not anything to deserve this) and was immediately with another guy telling everyone I was abusive. I’m the opposite of abusive.. disgusting..

My experiences and instincts had me "googling" their behavior. I knew something was "off" but I couldn't put my finger on it. When multiple people can share the same negative experiences, you have to understand these are not isolated individual experiences but repeated "patterns". Cluster B personality disorders are very real- and even people with an opportunity to discover some hard truths, still don't want to accept them. Denial is extremely powerful. I've also learned people have to leave the Narcissist in their own way, and in their own timing... these are intense relationships regardless if its friend, family, romantic, or business related. "Cognitive Dissonance" is one of my favorite terms to learn- because you obtain a lot of it and you hear a lot of it from others. I remember being so confused or shocked by the Narcissist's behavior- whether it was something I experienced or something someone else experienced. Without the education you remain in the fog... and for those who are discarded and still don't learn what they are dealing with, remain very vulnerable.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this AM MJ..💯💪🙌🙏

@ultimateoptimist5217

2 жыл бұрын

That's how I learned what narcissism is in 2011 when I googled the signs...11 years later I am still brushing up on my skills on this evil disorder.

Thanks, Andrew! 💯 It is exactly as you say. I remember thinking to myself, “Is this a reason when you are supposed to drop the relationship? Maybe it’s is an idiosyncrasy. All of us have quirks.” To my own detriment, since I didn’t have a working knowledge of red flags I let it pass. I spent way too much time crying and not knowing and understanding what was behind it. There was an incredible amount of lying, hiding, and sneaking. He was so accomplished at it all. I have this to say: there are no free refills on trust, love, and respect. 🙏🏼🎶❤🎶🙏🏼

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this insight Karen..🙌🙏💯💯

@karenzilverberg4699

2 жыл бұрын

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thanks, Andrew! 🙏🏼🎶🙏🏼

@myphd-myprisonhistorydiplo691

2 жыл бұрын

Karen!!! I love how you said no free refills!!! Yesssss!!!

I was a regular journaler before I met my narc husband. When things with him began to be odd early on I started journaling into my battery operated digital journal, later I started recording him secretly. Praise God for giving me the strength to do that. I was petrified he would find it. I now have needed evidence. At the time it just gave me peace in my soul to journal. It made me feel less crazy and doubtful that my instincts were correct. I highly recommend journaling. It helps to bring clarity back. And PRAY. God is ALWAYS here for you.

I marvel at these words by Andrew. I finally know what happened to me. Some days I listen and just sit for awhile in astonishment that this much is known about personality disorders and what happens in relationships. On some level, I knew. My instincts told me. Another part of me believed I was greatly inferior to others, especially the Narc and his family. I often asked myself, Why was I even born, if I can't function adequately as a human being." Now, I know. I am a good person with gifts and have a purpose. I can no longer be defined by what a Narc has manipulated me to believe.

I had no words to describe the hideousness of what happened to me during a 5- year marriage, age 25 to 30, til about 3 years ago. I am 60 this month. Now I know this is what it was --extreme malignant narcissistic abuse … though I think there was much more even than that going on. I left at 75 lbs soaking wet with sores from bones protruding and being badgered over and over whether I wanted to be cremated or buried. I was in a complete fog due to him drugging me and poisoning me for at least the last 2 years, if not longer. It took me 10 years to put muscle back onto bone. I will never live with anyone ever again due to what all went on in my own house. Horrifying, monstrous.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 🙏🙌💯

I didn’t have a name for it until after the fact.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely G G..💯🙏🙌

Yes, it is uncanny how much they are alike. Bizarre behaviors over time. Just as you say. I did write them down as a reference point. And thank God I did because it helped me during my healing journey to look back on all that.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful insight Pamela 💪💪😉😉💯🙏😊🙏

@OutlawShelz

2 жыл бұрын

gonna try the list writing, nice idea

@karishort1891

2 жыл бұрын

It does help A LOT....I feel and remember the feelings and they suck...

You are right 30 years in the fog you have to listen to your real gut feeling we will have to be strong

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely correct.. thank you Rob..🙏🙌💪

well THIS unfortunately is a HUGE problem in a country that is HOSTILE to my very existence🙄. there are RED FLAGS just walking out of my door😤!!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Sending prayers and positive energy now..🙌🙏💯

The unhealthy moments add up, we feel weird & in our backpocket we make notes - one day you cannot ignore those red flags anymore & when you wake up & realize that they know exactly what they have been doing all along you have to be able to cope with that new found reality. We need to keep breathing, acknowledge our newfound education & honor our instincts, & definitely move on without them. Ty

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

They certainly do add up..💯💯😉

I looked for red flags I knew, but my Spidey Sense was tingling from the start! I didn’t know the more subtle clues, but now I know more! Thank you for teaching!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏 ☀️💯

It's just that you would never think a person that says they love you is plotting , scheming and doing things to destroy you..

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

💯💯😉

🙂 agree, there was something 'off' about her, i couldnt put my finger on it at the time

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely 😉🙌🙏💯

When they gaslighted me… I told them”No”, that’s exactly what you said.. They called me “crazy”…Not like I cared..I told them I’m done with the relationship, maybe that’s what they wanted? Who cares? I just wanted them gone.

I remember that the very first time we met there where red flags 🙄!!! NO CONTACT FOR LIFE ANDREW THANKYOU MY FRIEND 🤗❤️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Shannon 💯🙌🙏💪

Not trusting my gut instincts got me into so many bad situations. Once I realized I only had to trust it, everything changed. So many people will conform to group think. I seemed to always be the rebel who was always unwilling to do things that don't make any sense. Knowing who you are in Christ really helps. I am enjoying your videos and the amazing people who comment. God bless

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🙌☀️

I wrote my list AFTER realizing who i've been living with for the past 2 decades. Unfortunately, youtube and the internet didn't really exist 2+ decades ago at least not how available it is now. but like all of us, I wanted to make the relationship work and kept giving in, rationalizing, and making excuses. But I always had that spider sense that something was amiss, but believed that maybe just one more time, just a little bit more love, just a tad more patience, maybe it would work. and her intermittent reinforcement kept me hoping. damn. did it work? NO! wash, rinse, repeat. Not until 2018 did I research unsubstantiated anger did I finally realize, who I've been living with and all those really strange episodes of anger and UNLOVING behaviors - now made sense. thanks, andrew.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome always pan fried 🙏🙌💯

When we dare to stand up to them, they cannot stand that. Good, go for it! We have the courage, strength & right to do so. They are thiefs, cowards, disloyal liars. Who would have suspected that? Seriously they have nothing we need & we deserve so much better. We got to trust ourselves fully again. Courage! Ty

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful Carol..💯🙌🙏

At the end my body WAS DYING!! Screaming like hell

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

3 ай бұрын

😌😌💯

Ouch! I remember back when my narcissist wife was all full of herself, she said to me, if you had it to do all over again would you marry me again? Immediately I said NO! She said you said that very quickly! I responded, how about, fuck no! Those are the words to say to a narcissist!

Intuition is your strongest ally. Never turn away from it.💪

Andrew -- I'm fairly certain you're from another part of the multiverse that emerged here to save lives and provide hope and instruction to those have been abused so cruelly. Your teaching skill is other worldly as well. I bow to you in honor. Namaste.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

7 ай бұрын

Namaste..🙏😌🙌

You are so right. I overlooked so many things my gut was telling me were wrong. I kept telling myself it will get better, things will improve. I made excuses for her - I gaslighted myself. Until it got to the point that I wanted to die. I truly did. I knew I had to escape. My health was deteriorating - I'm on heart medication because of the intense anxiety I experienced. Hopefully, after some time away I will be able to ween myself off this medication (with the aid of my doctor). It was only in the last year that my heart started to go into severe pvc's. I actually had a physical reaction every time she returned to the house. I literally shuddered or jumped. I was like a frightened puppy. I would cower in her presence. It was that bad. Then I learned about NPD. These videos are so helpful. And I know I am going to be okay. It's only been since Good Friday (2 weeks) that I left for good to start my new life. I took 12 years of abuse. Some have already noticed a difference in me. Although I still haven't realized it, the fact that others have means I'm on the right path.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🙌

I have lived through many narcassistic relationship, and now the red flags make my whole body shake and my spirit gets sad, angry and confused.I am confident within myself alone, but find it hard to even want to connect with others for fear it will be at my own expense. I want friends, but don't have confidence in my choices, yet, it's also my experience that the narcissist seeks me, so I have made myself unapproachable. I guess I still have a lot of healing to do.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Continue to become educated and empowered 💯🙏🙌💯

We want to believe in the best, godliness and beauty of others. That's why we give them a benefit of a doubt again and again. We are all part of a greater whole...but it's up to us ourselves to take care of our own part of the whole.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

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Yes, right from the Get Go I knew deep down this was not good news, but I guess my co dependent nature and my ego got the better of me. Lies and cruelty we're exposed to me, sometime against all the odds and still I stayed . So now 1 year after my near annihilation of discard. I am facing the harsh reality of the folie a deux I was in. Day 13 of my first "clean" Year for 20 years. Thank you Andrew for the lifeline of your daily wisdom. You, and all on this channel help, educate and support me more than you can imagine. Namaste

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you asprospitti 🙏😉🙌💯

Whooo!!! Mine had more red flags than a Chinese army!!! 5 long disgusting years and on her way out she told me how much I was losing and how special she is. Yuck!!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Sean..💯🙏🙌

@texan4life763

2 жыл бұрын

Hahaha that's a good one lol. My x narc girlfriend told me " you'll never see another great woman like me" 😂😂😂

@G2thesecondpower

2 жыл бұрын

More red flags than a Chinese Army, 🤣! I've never heard that one before so I don't know if it's original but sorry, I'm stealing it! :)

@marissafortunato7557

2 жыл бұрын

😂🤘🙌

@texan4life763

2 жыл бұрын

@@G2thesecondpower me too! 😂

I'm actually now learning to Trust my instincts and feelings. I catch myself not listening to them and stop, take breath and listen ‼️

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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When I stood up, it was a house of cards 💥

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly 🙏💯💯

True 🙏 What is important is to learn to listen to your own intuition 🙏 One's own intuition will always warn you 👍 What we all need is to learn to listen and go with what our intuition tells us 🙏 Love and light for all 🙏🙏 ❤️🙏🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful comment thank you Grande..🙏🙌💯😊

Intuition, instincts, my heart, how I feel inside. My x narc girlfriend always tells me you got no proof! Lol I don't need proof! That's probably why she says that. 🤔

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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Author and security consultant Gavin De Becker wrote a book called, The Gift of Fear many years ago that focuses on listening to your instincts. I find spending time in nature heightens mine (instincts). Good practice.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Tattooed Granny 💯🙌🙏😊

@sll110

2 жыл бұрын

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@lmac0003

2 жыл бұрын

It’s a great book.

@amandajohnson-williams7718

2 жыл бұрын

I read this book The Gift of Fear too!! Excellent book!! Bought it after I was randomly assaulted by my ex narc!!! 👍👍👍💪💪💪 I can laugh about it now as it's some time ago, but very unpleasant at the time. But I listen to my gut every day nowadays 😊😊😊

@MJ-qb5ph

2 жыл бұрын

Animals help too - especially cats and dogs

Trust yourself, believe in yourself, trust your instincts, follow your intuition, you know what is best for you, only you know - nobody else. Your instincts are golden. Thank you Andrew. God bless you❤

I would type notes (like a diary) and email them to myself, then put them in a folder under his name. It came in handy to make sense of things - what was really happening on a certain day during my relationship (after I was discarded and found out about the betrayals / new supply). My instincts were correct (they normally are). I had knowledge about narcs and stood my ground, but my ex was a covert narcissist - he was *really* good at creating excuses and "future faking" to make me believe xyz. And I did. 😡

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you Wishpool 🙏🙌💯😉

"Knowing right from wrong is the cornerstone of your existence"- absolutely!!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

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Very Inspiring. Wow, so many red flags. You are right about trusting ourselves. And trusting our instincts

@danielbelcher2700

2 жыл бұрын

And not brushing them off or ignoring them

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Yes 💯🙌🙏💪

I do appreciate this channel. I trusted my Narc. I had been married once before and never dreamed of another failed marriage. Lots of red flags. My car not in garage only his. Stopped talking to his 14 year old daughter for 2 years. I reached out to an attorney a year into the marriage. Instinct!!! He manipulated and abused me verbally, emotionally and financially!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand this completely 😉😉💯💯

Red flag.....red flag....red flag.. Over time I realized I was giving her the benefit of the doubt again and again. I always wanted to believe her. The lies and premeditated planning was used to position me into agreeing with her and created so much self doubt. She would leave me in a impossible position time and time again, and then tell me I always failed at whatever I did. Me failing was her plan and when that hit home it was impossible for me to accept. Like so many other things l tolerated it broke me down to a point where I dint know what was real anymore. I didn't learn about the narcissist until it was too late, but when I did all of the things I was going through became so clear. Thanks Andrew....

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome always 🙏🙌☀️

My instincts were on the money when I was growing up, to distance myself from my mother helped me, but I didn't know my mother was a narcissist. Then I married my ex-husband when I was 20, gave him 27 years, and now 27 years later everything makes sense now, because they are narcissists! Also my sister and my 2nd daughter too. Through listening to your easy to hear, description, makes sooooo much sense. I am surrounded by people who are too toxic for me, and I keep dropping people from my life. And that is OK. I only realised last year all this toxic stuff is called narcissism! I am now 72!

There was no World Wide Web when I was married to a very abusive narcissist but I did get out in 2 1/2 years. It was my 2 nd abusive marriage after a childhood of narc abusive mother. I did a lot of work and didn’t plan on another relationship but I’m married 28 yrs now. Yet I’m just putting everything together now that I’m learning about narcissistic abuse. My children were so hurt by their fathers and weapon used against me. The fall out continues even from the physical abuse. Thank you for putting this education out there. I am an empath that didn’t listen to them when I should have. Learning to forgive myself.

Absolutely Correct in layers and layers of Truth. No further comment could add to this in any way. Except to say THIS. When I have ignored my instincts, my Spirit was trying to tell my physical mind that I was driving around lowered crossing gates, flashing lights, directly into the path of an oncoming train. Instincts are like Railroad Crossing Signals. And So It Is.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing 💯🙌🙏

You are so right about everything, I wish i would have known that the word NO would have ended the SHENANIGANS sooner, it could have ended before it did.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand Yvonne 🙌😉💯🙏

My favorite is ," your crazy" Look at yourself,or they actually don't believe you or what you tell them.I am truly an Empath,I really am.Well I am going to keep growing my yellow zone

"OMG I was right" - that's the journey of each & everyone of us. Thanks for the video.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏💯🙌

The moment they know you have sussed them out , and are serious about taking your life back is the same moment you become public enemy number one ! 😂😂😝

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Completely true 💯💯

You are spot on! Took 8 years to get through a divorce process that he kept blocking hoping I’d give up and give in. A full physical, then mental breakdown, bankruptcy and move out of state to get away from his grasp later, I believe I’m finally in the mend. I say it again you are spot on! Thank you!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Dana..🙏🙌💪💯

Yep this is so true for me during a three-year relationship with a narcissist which I didn't know at the time my intuition my gut told me to leave him four times three times I returned to my detriment the last time I found out exactly what he was and what a relief it was to know what I have been dealing with because my intuition told me this is not a good thing and I was so seeped in it by the grace of God I got out.

She came running back to me after being away six yrs. with a masrer degree in social work. Love bombed from day one. She was covert and I fell. And it continues in the same way all of the stories continue when it comes to getting hit by a narc. What I have learned through educating myself on this subjest has brought clarity and healing, it's bringing me out of the darkness.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Beautiful progress and growth 💪🙏🙌

Amen! Thanks much! I had a long list, would delete it then rewrite it a week later. At the end I read it to him. Sooo many times I said this isn’t right, people don’t act like this, say what you mean & do what you say, etc. I thought he was ‘just’ passive aggressive. I thought he’d change because there were so many promises. A Narcissist's Prayer 1. That didn't happen. 2_And if it did, it wasn't that bad. 3 And if it was, that's not a big deal. 4. And if it is, that's not my fault. 5.And if it was, I didn't mean it. And if I did. 6. You deserved it. - anonymous

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome 🙏😉🙌😊

@truffaut650truffaut6

Жыл бұрын

Adding: "You are the problem" "Its your fault!" "I never said so" "You always make problems" "I am very beautiful" 🙄🙄🙄🤡

I thought I had healed and keep having moments of eye opening realizations. I grew up with multiple narcissists in my life. My ex was not the only one. Growing up I was told I was “lucky” to have what I had, and my sadness or disappointment was wrong. Truth is I needed to get right with myself and realize mistreatment is never right or acceptable. My sadness and disappointment was talking to me and trying to get me to feel that I was being mistreated. Sure some of it is definitely easier to dismiss and accept especially if you are in shock with the mistreatment. But it’s never acceptable. Come to the realization that you must LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. Respect yourself and refuse to be disrespected or mistreated. When you do you can make healthier and better decisions and choices for yourself and what you will accept in your life. Love yourself First, then everything else will fall into its proper place.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

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Yes, I did take notes, I wrote in my journal, I saw the pattern and discovered I was in love with a Narcissist. I was so in love I did not care. After the 3 year pattern, I prayed for God to get me our of that relationship. Your channel has helped me understand better what happened. It is hard to describe to others what this experience was like. Thanks Andrew for creating this channel. I will TRUST my instincts from now on.

@carlalendore8233

Жыл бұрын

I kept a journal just out of habit. I started noticing the pattern. You do forget things in the love bomb stage, but when I went back and read my entries….lightbulbs went off and that’s when I started my research. My Relationship was only three years but I consider it not three years wasted but three years of proper education on narcissism. Next time I’ll see them from a mile away and go the other direction

I was literally asking God “Why does he do that? This is weird.” He talked about revenge on an ex for cheating on him. I thought, why didn’t he just dump her.

Still watching, keep watching people. Listen and learn. Class is in session.✔️✔️. This is a real Education. Understand Understand.🕯️🕯️🕯️ Especially the sentence, You are lucky to be with me point. When your in the fog, keep learning how to jump that hurdle. God bless you All and God help us All 🙏💯

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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I Never trusted that Devil at all. I saw what he was about. BUT I had a lot of fun. So I walked away when it got “not good”

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this 😉

Thanks Andrew, had a bit of a relapse morning where my head decided to question "am I sure she's really a narcissist and I just can't handle how the relationship ended" - I have one of those lists aswell. It's called "The Bad List" and whenever I question myself I read it to acknowledge what I went through. Bumped into a few flying monkeys and it's genuinely disgusting the amount of information they had on me despite blocking every one of them. Genuinely feel disgusted they go to such lengths to find stuff out about me. My new address, I mean that's terrifying

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Continue on the path Shaun.. you are doing great 💪🙏🙌

@SZYB3

Жыл бұрын

Think of them as evil doing the devils work and you will shift gear …don’t mix with satan and his goats …it’s how I see my ex narc as the devil

There were so many red flags when I was dating him but I chose to ignore and push forward and ended up being with a narcissist for 7 yrs. There were many times where my instincts would make me ask myself - is this ok? And although the answer was- no, I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. What a lesson to be learned!!!! Never again!! I'm working now on changing myself for the better. Great video, Andrew!!

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome always Kristine 🙏🙌💯

He Reacted to things strangely.

I ignored Red flags cause i didnt even know that narsissists may exist . In the course of time i was realising that something went wrong and he was not the person i may trust and he must be toxic and exhausting. Greetings from Poland ⭐

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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I was only with her for months and yet the damage surpasses all other break ups I’ve had. I just could not fathom her behaviour, and not many people can understand what I might say about the experience. Or why I seemed to be stuck on it. She went from being “in love” with me to calling the police on me and making a story up about me being a scary sociopath. I knew all along and I ignored myself and I’ll never ever do that again.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Jared.. my hope is you are healing and improving 🙏💯🙌💪

I use to read and google why he said or acted a certian way trying to get clarity. It took the last 3 years of the 39 year marriage to finally realize it had to change. I stayed because I thought it was the right thing to do. It will suck your soul dry. As I aged I no longer had the energy to stay. I'm living thankful now for all the lessons I have learned. Older and wiser.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Kathi..🙏💪😉🙌

During my relationship I didnt know anything about narcisissts until couple years ago and was with him for almost 10 years I just knew there was something not right but could never put my finger on it . Like causing drama out of no where and then going away for days and weeks at times then returning like nothing happened . What I noticed the most which shocked me was how quickly they would dump friends and family that they knew for years just out the blue which never made sense cwitj no explanation . I know now why cause started to watch videos like this then left my narcisisst last year . Your right always trust your instincts as there inbuilt to warn you of danger .

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

I understand completely 💯💯😉😉

Man, you’re always “spot on” with exactly what I went through. Thanks for doing what you do.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Welcome Gary 💯🙌

It's oh so frustrating that other people just can"t see you you can , but then they haven't been put through the mill by the narcissist !

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you The Big H..🙌🙏💯

Absolutely as I get older even more so and you can smell it instantly and even munipulater also you can hear it the moment they open their mouth! You will be surprised there are more narcissistic people around than you think and I don’t want to loose my integrity and compassion it’s inborn in me! You have so many followers cause you are so easy to understand and I like you strike me as down to earth guy

Bread crumbs of hope! That so true.You couldn't of said it better.I hate question ing myself,I have had to stop responding like inside my body I actually shake inside.The worst is they work you into a corner of NEED and it's always money or the threat of money .

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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I saw all the red flags Andrew but I just couldn't bring myself to the understanding that someone could be so fake ,so evil,even until now I still really don't understand,how do they live with themselves,ughhh!¡!!!!!,no words to describe how I makes me feel

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Sending prayers and positive energy to you Monica 💯🙏🙌

@treelover1050

2 жыл бұрын

ME TOO MONICA. HOW CAN SOMEONE BE SO EVIL, LYING, AND RUTHLESS. I STILL THINK ABOUT IT BECAUSE I WOULD NEVER DO THAT TO ANOTHER PERSON.

💡 lightbulb went OFF, that’s why I learned through you🙏

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

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This video really made me think the first time I watched it and it resonates with me the same way after watching it again. Trusting your instincts after the hell we literally went through is very hard. From day 1 we knew something wasn't exactly right in that relationship but mostly likely chose to ignore it, which is very hard to admit and we all suffered greatly for it. We know that now though and we need to forgive ourselves. There always was that pit in my stomach sometimes it was small sometimes it was huge. The common theme for me was feeling sorry for him. That need to help him. He was my cross to bear in life. Post npd relationship we have question many things. Coming out and all of this stuff literally slams you in the face. Looking back on these five months: 1st 2 months slept so much, second two months slept 3 hours a night and it wasn't consistent but it was enough to keep me functioning. The spiritual awakening, growth of my faith and true appreciation for nature and all its beauty is amazing. Since the narscistist has been gone so is that sinking pit in my stomach. I watched an amazing video from Lisa Romano who really gets codependency and is truly amazing. She said we have to retrain our brains to remind ourselves we are safe. It's sounds so simple but it's so important. It really was a game changer. Just like your A-Z video Andrew helps to retrain your brain on your worth and value. It has helped me stay calm in so many situations. The point of all of this is it's important to trust your gut and if it steers you in wrong then it does. We can't control every outcome and if someone's goal is to destroy us and we trusted them then what can you do. It's on that person then it's not on us. It's a great video Andrew. It says so much and really highlights the line between healthy and unhealthy. You definitely get it🙏💯

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this Christine.. 😉💯🙏💪🙌🙏

I about went crazy with the gaslighting. It makes you think your crazy.

@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone

Жыл бұрын

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